Me & My Ex Need Help Co-Parenting! 🤝🙏| KARAMO

This couple’s relationship ran its course but now they need help finding the best way to communicate with each other for their children. She says his language can be dismissive and condescending. He says she invalidates his feeling. Can Karamo help these exes be the best parents they can be to their children?
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[@apriljoy425]

Ppl shouldn’t have to accept a harsh tone period. It’s a boundary he has set .She refuses to alter it.

[@Ukissmyashh]

That’s how I feel nobody wanna be talked to like that. And all black woken do not talk like that

[@Cutie5976]

This! Growing up my mom would always say things to me in a loud and aggressive tone as if she is upset with me and it made me so mad and made us get into arguments and I was labeled only by her a rude child when that’s not the thing. It’s not fair for you to yell at people everytime we talk then not to aspect a agrument or disagreement to start. Everyone has to be like oh you know how she is and all this it’s not far to others it’s actually very toxic.her being a black woman should not be a excuse at all deal with what is making you have that loud and kind of aggressive tone before you have children and or get in a relationship because it’s not fair to others

[@Missthatgirl634]

People need to watch their tone because often the message gets lost behind the attitude. The tone can truly change the outcome. So people need to realize you can’t talk to people any way they want and not expect a reaction.

[@twizzy12]

She wants to control the situation. She doesn’t want to grow and change. I’m not saying Marcus is innocent but I think he has to assert hisself. She doesn’t want to hear calm down but you can tell she’s on.

[@cajunnbeauty]

Exactly

[@MrBeautiful2908]

I hate labels especially when it comes to black women. For the record, strong women come in all shapes, sizes, forms, and colors internationally.

[@MoniezTable]

I agree! As a black woman, that label has actually hindered many black women from getting help when needed. It’s ok to no be ok… it’s called being human.

[@phyllisyoung9927]

I agree Jamil

[@longbranch11207]

It’s not labels she is rude and aggressive. She have no concerns for his feelings . She thinks it cute. Respect

[@Cocoakissedme]

@@longbranch11207 super facts. Shit not cute at all. Y she so manly

[@jaydee4646]

@@MoniezTable How is she being labeled if she is actually loud and aggressive?

[@fazekatrinaroberts3911]

I know Marcus in real life, this is him in real life. Very good guy, very blunt though!!!

[@poohchi6205]

My sister is like this. She is being difficult and all about her. You can’t talk to ppl any kind of way. Expect them to move and do what you want them to do. And she can’t justify it by saying she was like this b4. All she kept saying is why r u triggering me? Why you can’t control yourself is my next question

[@longbranch11207]

Thank you most people here aren’t calling her out on her bs. Her attitude is nasty and aggressive. He is the calm one and she is the loud ratchet New York hood chick.

[@alexcooper1216]

Exactly. He’s saying “calm down” cuz she hype.

[@dedrickhannah8891]

Thank you for this comment!!!! 🙌🏾 Karamo let her all the way off the hook.

[@Cutie5976]

This! Growing up my mom would always say things to me in a loud and aggressive tone as if she is upset with me and it made me so mad and made us get into arguments and I was labeled only by her a rude child when that’s not the thing. It’s not fair for you to yell at people everytime we talk then not to aspect a agrument or disagreement to start. Everyone has to be like oh you know how she is and all this it’s not far to others it’s actually very toxic.her being a black woman should not be a excuse at all deal with what is making you have that loud and kind of aggressive tone before you have children and or get in a relationship because it’s not fair to others

[@teetee6456]

She completely disregards what he was saying by cutting him off to prove her point, like what he's saying doesn't matter. It's about respect and all this labeling and my tone forget all that, you can't go around talking to people crazy.

[@dedrickhannah8891]

Thank you for this comment!!! I thought I was the only one that noticed that dude couldn’t finish a point. 🤦🏾‍♂️

[@loonietunes22]

She also cut off Karamo as well

[@AGirlCalledNicole]

At this point, Remy Ma owns this hairdo: *THE REMY BOB* 😂😂😂

[@zoefromthablock_2968]

She treats him like her child but trynna play like she’s being disrespected haha. Going strictly off vibes & not labels it was definitely giving narcissist smh

[@cajunnbeauty]

Exactly

[@Cutie5976]

This! Growing up my mom would always say things to me in a loud and aggressive tone as if she is upset with me and it made me so mad and made us get into arguments and I was labeled only by her a rude child when that’s not the thing. It’s not fair for you to yell at people everytime we talk then not to aspect a agrument or disagreement to start. Everyone has to be like oh you know how she is and all this it’s not far to others it’s actually very toxic.her being a black woman should not be a excuse at all deal with what is making you have that loud and kind of aggressive tone before you have children and or get in a relationship because it’s not fair to others

[@ObeyJae]

She spazzes out when he ask her to calm down? Wow like who does that? She just needs to grow up.. if I was irritated and out my body, I’d rather somebody tells me to calm down. Than “you could be perfect “. Bc you actually can “Calm down”.. But you can never be perfect. Like get off my dudes back.

[@Cutie5976]

This! Growing up my mom would always say things to me in a loud and aggressive tone as if she is upset with me and it made me so mad and made us get into arguments and I was labeled only by her a rude child when that’s not the thing. It’s not fair for you to yell at people everytime we talk then not to aspect a agrument or disagreement to start. Everyone has to be like oh you know how she is and all this it’s not far to others it’s actually very toxic.her being a black woman should not be a excuse at all deal with what is making you have that loud and kind of aggressive tone before you have children and or get in a relationship because it’s not fair to others

[@purplegurlzx1]

Definitely gives Remy Ma.

[@noemiaribeiro1123]

Yha lol

[@nawfsideprincess_2225]

I was thinking the same

[@danyellthompson9219]

I swear I was thinking the exact same thing! Lol

[@niyarodgers3780]

Yes I was thinking the same thing

[@arianadixon1222]

You took it straight out my mouth

[@SableDevon]

Karamo is really a blessing to people who so knows how to relate and speak life into a situation. And when it’s time to move on he moves on.❤❤

[@desimo9127]

She has to take accountability...

[@penelopeb1370]

Pausing at 0:35 realizing that her trigger words are just that...hers. If she's in therapy, she has more work to do. If she's not in therapy then she needs to start.

[@Califah45]

I love how this wasn't a one sided affair. They both understood what they do to trigger each other, and R both willing tonwork on it instead of seeing well I will if U will type situation or where one thinks they did no wrong and torally blames it on the other. That is what it is all about, helping each other so that U both can be good for the children so that the children can get what they need from both of U. I applaud U both for understanding that and wanting to take that first step in great communication.

[@bhouckie]

They might even get back together if they can work out the triggers

[@tessawood8244]

💯💯 well said

[@Myshelleallen]

This girl is fly! And I love her voice! This is a good episode!

[@dishiej9061]

That’s cuz she look and talk like remy ma

[@truthtorpedo4068]

​Remy's accent is annoying.

[@KiaFlow]

As a married woman, I had to calm my passion down because my husband does not like being yelled at. And it costed me nothing to do that. Most men don't like to be talked to in an aggressive manner. It is what it is. Give people the respect you expect. JMO

[@julius6julius6]

Perfectly said

[@cajunnbeauty]

Exactly! Me too

[@BuddahHass2360]

Watching this episode makes me think it's either her way or no way..

[@sosobeautiful7]

I love how they both co-parent I remember going to marital training as a youth one thing we're taught is find out the person's backyard she may be used to a background that expresses themselves loudly and he's probably from a family where they talk it out I'm just like him

[@Prev8ster]

Watching this I knew my girl was NY 🤣🤣 he confirmed it for me in the middle. We can be come off aggressive without realizing it for sure but that's bc growing up here, we have to. I think they both have the respect for one another to work on these issues & I love that for them

[@AGMonz]

I love them! It’s a shame that it didn’t work. I feel like they still really love one another. I can relate to this episode very much. I’m find myself being just like him, with wanting to fix the problem “right now”. For me its hard to take a step back and let the other person calm down without reconciling at that moment but it’s absolutely the right thing to do when your partner needs that space to calm down.

[@BeautifullyT]

Calm down shouldn’t be a trigger.. just take a breather and then we regroup on the situation.

[@HeartsGurl]

I hate seeing black families break up 😢 they need to work it out and get back together

[@andreajones886]

an emotionally intelligent woman is quite the breath of FRESH AIR!💯

[@simone6803]

1st off, I LOOOOOOVE Karamo. 2nd These two were dope people and I’d LOVE to see have seen them hold their family unit together. Sad that it broke. 3rd I have sooooo many questions here! I feel like we MUST be missing a whole heap of their story, and that’s ok, their laundry is… BUT I pray to God a beautiful family such as this, didn’t break apart because he said to “calm down” and she said, “You think you’re perfect” a beautiful black family didn’t break because this shoddy communication and triggering language, which I get, didn’t get resolved. because this little window in gives off that narrative, which I’m PRAYING it was more. Why praying? I can’t help but go back, to a hellish time, where our babies, we’re torn from their mothers arms, families separate, to break and control us… with the ripple effect still ricocheting to this day… and as a people, at a time, where we could make our unit stand and flourish, we’re choosing to walk away because the person we once fell in love with, triggers us, and we can’t figure that out, for the sake of the children. We have to have another strong single black woman and a dad out the house? We can’t address this narrative? TD Jakes talks about love, marriage and what it takes to really love each other, and WORK through a relationship to see it through, build it and make it. 4 years and they’re through? I’d have LOVED to see THEM work, just as a lay person looking in, because they looked beautiful!! I dont want us, to be professional coparenters, I’d love to see us winning in love and marriage and career, the whole shibang,why not? He, like most men, has strength and a delicate sensitivity as a human being that as women we need to know how to love and respect our men, without emasculating him. Being his peace and safespace and vice versa, women, as I am, black, strong, smart and sensitive. We all deserve to become better with each other… but just because it gets hard, it isn’t a licence to quit. Otherwise we’ll never truly take off. So, again, I pray there’s more to this, because otherwise we’re the generation of quitters, want it all ready made and perfect, with no capacity to put in the work it takes to BUILD the most important institution of them all… a family

[@Probity100]

Wel said

[@KapQueen]

Patience kindness self-control! Respect is about how much you can give not receive

[@peacelily7751]

They first have to learn how to be civil to each other. Why allow yourself to be triggered? There is something called a conversation. This woman seems to go from a to z in a flash. She needs to get counseling. He needs to know by now how she is and know when to walk away.

[@KapQueen]

Inner healing is needed.. .life too precious and short to harbor all that hot headedness.....and if all your friends are like that I pray you find different ones. This temperament is toxic and one day you'll be alone

[@RashidaJaxxon7]

“Eveybodys so creative.” Her voice reminds me of that lol.

[@reginaharrigan7454]

She needs to calm down she is too much

[@heavenboundsoul3066]

She reminds me of Remy Ma. I KNEW she was from NY before the video even started lol...the thumbnail pic screamed "Deadass" 😂😂😂

[@truthtorpedo4068]

😂

[@jaydee4646]

Yeah she probably needs to calm down.

[@Sdlewis89]

I mean … she is aggressive 😂😂😂😂😂 They do label black Women but we also have to call a spade a spade 😂

[@longbranch11207]

And toxic

[@user-yz1lb3cm7z]

You’re part of the problem

[@NubianP6]

Relationships of any type involve giving, taking, and at times, compromising. She was able to articulate how Marcus using certain trigger words made her feel, and she expressed that he wishes he wouldn’t provoke her with words, however, what I did not hear from her is in what way she plans to modify the way that SHE communicates with him, which may lead to him provoking her. This isn’t a one-way street. They both have some changing to do.

[@coletacole4229]

People is not what you say is how you say it point blank.

[@Arron413]

She is the problem!

[@cherylwalker7923]

He needs her to act little softer, people get tired of that hard core demeanor. I see why they're not together.

[@sheilamcneill833]

She giving me I don’t really want to move on vibes, she still want him perhaps more than he want her

[@ariamarshall5161]

I agree. I don’t date men w/children bc of women/moms like her. She gives PROBLEM vibes.

[@Kneeyah]

She is the problem so probably she does want him more than he wants her

[@perryplayz21]

I just believe people should watch the tone no matter who you talking to it doesn’t have to be rude or loud or disrespectful just be calm even in arguments not every point is gonna get across by yelling

[@marcusblack8768]

Why Karamo acting like he the problem if you cool calm and collective how can you be the problem and we all know she probably pop off at the mouth and tell to him like he a kids stop playing captain save her because it come down to communication because if I talking to you like adult how am I the problem?

[@theone2n3]

Attitude is a lil thing that matters awhole lot. You can tell she is disrespectful when she speaks and thats not ok not saying hes innocent

[@Jmallj]

Her attitude checked box of the stereotype she described

[@Renee302976]

She does need to calm down, because she seems unnecessarily angry

[@kayotheepotato]

She’s asking him to acquiesce while she gets to say “you know what triggers me, this is who I am”, that’s not right.

[@nubeingqueen]

First off sis from up north she is aggressive, assertive she loved him because he is sweet and kind. It could work but she gotta sit in her female energy. He must be more agressive because she would tone down if he was more aggressive then her people from up north real tough especially females trust me I know

[@peacelily7751]

I’m gonna do my best isn’t good enough.😭🥵

[@mobolajioluwole4746]

Exactly I saw that she is more of the problem too me..

[@taunyaandjulia]

The comments are good for this episode!

[@hms3412]

If you want to be loved you have to be lovable.. she wants him not to trigger her but the reality is she has an anger issue that she needs to fix. And yes I said it. Black or not treat your man with kindness period.

[@Str8fowd]

She don’t have a valid point… She wants to be right!

[@originaleverythingelseisca5977]

Women think that aggression is so cute, BUT ITS NOT. HE BASICALLY THE WOMEN AND SHE IS THE MAN

[@ksgb]

The quality that I hate the most in relationship is loud people

[@longbranch11207]

So she can be loud and aggressive and she thinks that’s cool? Clearly she is the problem with attitude that she thinks is cute. She have no respect for this poor man. Love her style gorgeous lady. But that attitude is a turn off

[@onlychas]

I thought I was listening to Remy Ma! Lol

[@jaredlhulum]

Nah, she is too aggressive. I can already see it. men worth their salt ain't gonna deal with that.... and then she is justifying it by making it a blk woman thing. This has nothing to do with that. I don't know any sensible person who likes yelling. That ain't being passionate; that's being pissed off

[@Kaylee563]

Exactly lol they was killing me talking about labeling black women like come on. Girl your aggressive and it has nothing to do with you being black 😂

[@tylynnhamilton5014]

They were on divorce court this morning.

[@marcellarainahlarainah]

They both in the wrong I see why they probably is on there

[@Lilalaskins]

Oh wow!!😩🥴🤣

[@NC-wf4ki]

Her voice sounds like Remi Ma.

[@nicolewilliams9349]

I knew she was from BK the moment she spoke.

[@iamterriffic7041]

She sounds like the rapper Remy MA 👍🏾😊

[@mightyb8318]

She resembles Remy Ma! And I resonate with her!!!

[@ariamarshall5161]

That’s an excuse to act a fool…By saying “stop labeling black women”🙄. Y’all know what’s appropriate & what’s not. He literally is a GOOD 1…He means NO harm so she has 0 right to be disrespectful. She’s triggered & any black woman who claims they are triggered is the PROBLEM. Ppl overuse the word “trigger”.

[@nathanaelbartholomew]

There's something wrong with these people. I live in South Africa and the monther of my child behaves the same way! Always rude and always wants to be loud. I don't understand these people.

[@crazymusicgrlcheesecake]

By the end of the day the name calling does not help you, at all.

[@crazymusicgrlcheesecake]

@@nathanaelbartholomew Yet your having children with them?

[@nathanaelbartholomew]

@@crazymusicgrlcheesecake a big mistake

[@vsthebest215]

She a whole goofy. its cool to be a strong black woman but you also need to know how to be soft and vulnerable. He is not your child so you cant talk to a man like a child. Then you got Karamo high fiving her for the stereo typical black woman stuff, the neck rolling, finger snapping and one liners like she is Michelle Obama when she really is a character from a Tyler Perry movie. A woman like her if she want to seperate I have no problem with let her be somebody else's problem. Her trigger word is "calm down" maybe because you should and this is probably not just to the ex but anyone she encounters has to deal with her strong, masculine self. Men choose who you lay down with and if you want someone who calm and compassionate this is the blue print on who not to choose. Or you will endure years and years of torment, this I can guarantee.

[@longbranch11207]

You better preach. She thinks her ghetto New York ratchet behavior is cute, she is disrespectful and toxic

[@mobolajioluwole4746]

Exactly

[@Probity100]

Ha ha love your comment ! Analysed her very well. I didn’t know NY women are this way (not from the states)

[@nathanaelbartholomew]

🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@KapQueen]

She needs therapy because why is getting out of control, loud, aggressive and hostile not a problem. I used to be this woman, she is defensive for many reasons. I pray she can heal in order to understand gentleness calmness and being a resting place to others....

[@yme9953]

Aggressive? Come to Scotland, you’ll be considered a sweetheart😂

[@YusufMead]

I did that way.I hate when people label black women aggressive.But the next sentence is not in me to be nice.I was aggressive when you met me

[@MadeMan-xb2ou]

She was manipulating. And she use that defense mechanism to justify her spazzing out but she verbally abusive as hell just based on what they said lol

[@khrixtabel]

I feel like they're still in love. They could get back together

[@shai6134]

Serious question, everyone.. If telling someone they need to relax or calm down is a trigger, what should I say instead?

[@acd1168]

You can instead say “it makes me feel _________ when you speak to me like that.”

[@SheUhhThot]

I can tell she has a attitude problem. How about telling her to come down. She just said she’s passionate. Which tells me she probably be doing and saying the most at times

[@MollyWiseViola]

Don’t tell anyone what to do. You could ask calmly if you can take a few minutes to catch you breath and return to the conversation after some alone time

[@khalil6307]

Let them speak. They have been holding a lot in. It invalidates a person's feelings.

[@MollyWiseViola]

@@khalil6307 fully agree and maybe at a later time when they are not triggered you could explain how certain things they say when they’re angry make you feel. But it’s always a back and forth.

[@b.u.dmusic9424]

O.k. I found this little girl to be rude, abrasive and obnoxious. She TOTALLY invalidated his thoughts and feelings! Let me get this straight: there's a conflict and he wants to resolve it and she resists that????? TRULY a total narcissist. He did right by getting rid of her! WOW! What a crazy woman! He's a good looking guy who wanted the family to be stable and she's COMPLAINING...?????? Wow..... ignorant. See folks THIS is why so many black men (1) date outside the race (2) date trans (3) date gay. Wow... just wow.....

[@nikastv3562]

She sounds and kinda looks like Remy ma

[@Jassy4444]

Yep and a little like Jazmine Sullivan

[@CrunCheMLoL]

I would of ask how do you approach the situation like what do you say for him to say “come down” playin Devils advocate

[@longbranch11207]

He’s always taking the women sides. This woman is toxic rude as hell and she wasn’t called her on her nasty behavior

[@Probity100]

Calm down not come down

[@Ormxnce]

The amount of victim blaming and gaslighting im seeing in the comments.....

[@ladyb1281]

Wheeeeew this really hit home 🏡

[@jewelljones9680]

I've seen quite a few episodes of Karamo sick like he has a cold...just something I noticed.

[@queenbhinta60]

I wonder why these two broke up. They look cool together thou

[@sophiebutler5684]

She sounds like remey ma and favors her.

[@hamptonsfnst2014]

It's not what you say, it's how you say it. Catch more bees with honey than vinegar 😉

[@nishahenson9759]

Soooo she’s mad because she get told to calm down. I mean sis if u need to calm down CALM DOWN!! Period 🤷🏽‍♀️ I don’t see what the big issue here. They was actually a waste of an episode ijs

[@Toriab]

Papoose and remy ma 😂😂😂

[@lilkickupvevo24]

Y’all need cjsocool & royalty on this show they need help co parents too

[@pgibson1123]

4th... I understand both sides

[@shaynasmith3259]

She’s the problem. She can’t accept her wrongs.

[@agadonk]

Sis, that is not emotionally intelligent.

[@luahkiamu466]

The reality is that they are aggressive it’s true..

[@Yhevvdjdbjjjf]

This show is horrible for the black community. If someones response to you is always “calm down” maybe you should check your delivery? You don’t have to go off on him in order to ask him to do something. the host sides with whoever wrote in to be on the show, not with logic at all. Hey Karamo, how about you start holding your guests accountable? - A black woman.

[@poohchi6205]

Agreed he did not tell her about herself at all

[@longbranch11207]

Facts

[@mobolajioluwole4746]

Exactly

[@xxyz321]

You want your boys to see you getting all aggressive and emasculating their dad? No maam, he doesn’t want that and you shouldn’t either, they’re learning from y’all.

[@ayooolouren]

She look like Caresha from city girls lol

[@Kaylee563]

Yesss before the money lol

[@oldheads773]

She has no accountability like most women but she for the streets

[@bg7420]

Her trigger is wildly childish ,

[@shervonbobb399]

Sir don't take that advice your the man her need to take it down man need to stop let women get away with bad behaviour

[@thesolutiondude793]

Idk about Karamo giving relationship advice between a man & a woman, especially blk men & women.. he seems like he's always on the woman's side, like apart of the girl code that women already have for eachother no matter who's more right or wrong just blane the man & problem resolved!

[@engineengine9]

Its funny laid back guys always go for the spicy ladies then get mad when the spicy lady get spicy 🤷🏽‍♀️🤣😭 make it make sense .But no one should be talked at but talked too😏

[@nathanaelbartholomew]

They become spicy after the break up.

[@missjazzy1985]

Remy Ma & Papoose

[@tashasmith1349]

My bff ❤❤❤❤

[@ariannesmith5303]

They sure do say that but all woman are aggressive and all that not just black woman do y'all be seeing these Karens

[@Arron413]

Karomo is such a SIMP!

[@A86asy]

❤❤

[@Darkdragon699]

Sir…. Can you please stop with the “feel good kool-aid”

[@dhomyniquecooper1914]

Im lk him as well with my wife we talk about it right now while we hot cause if u want to sit on it and talk bout it hours later atp Idc cause me personally I done got over it I'm lk talk now or get over it is it right probably not but it's more to it n I tell my qife all the time we need karamo smh lol but seriously tho

[@Alexandra-ff7cs]

First?

[@sonhg7951]

What is that on top of his head??? 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@longbranch11207]

Locks

[@nataliecaldera3001]

3rd lol