Mean Girls

[@sarahbradley1521]

I agree. Women seem to find it easy to blame the female in cases like these. I'm 71 years old and have seen this most of my life. I don't understand it.

[@cathichristian4142]

I'm 70 and I don't understand it either.

[@RebeccaTreeseed]

Stockholm Syndrome

[@starr234]

I’ve been sexually harassed on the job before and I know many, many women who have experienced the same thing. It isn’t hard to believe that this happened to her and I don’t understand women who think she isn’t telling the truth. It always amazes me how, in 2024, women are still treated as if they are dishonest when reporting on sexual harassment and abuse.

[@limbiclove9487]

Just like all the white women who voted for Trump. How could they?

[@anthill1510]

It`s simply two different things that have nothing to do with each other. She was married on a plantation and that`s repulsive to me, but not illegal. She was also harrassed at work, which is repulsive and illegal and should come with consequences for the people who harrassed her and others. Two different things that both can happen independently. Her getting married on a plantation doesn`t make it ok for her to be harrassed at work. People want a perfect victim and it`s so damaging.

[@Pond_Maven]

Is that wedding venue presently a plantation? Are there slaves living there? No. In my hometown, a restaurant/hotel chain runs a lovely restaurant and hotel in a renovated poor farm. Are there prisoners working off their debts living there? No. You presently have to pay a lot of money to stay overnight there.

[@ElfinMadness]

The movie “Gone With the Wind” was filmed on a plantation in New Orleans. Big deal.

[@tinaperez7393]

Yeah - it's unrealistic to expect and require everyone has to be perfect before they can deserve to be treated justly and taken seriously on any specific injustice.

[@a35362]

Ryan Reynolds said something about getting married on a plantation, and he said that at the time they were just looking for a beautiful place to get married and didn't really think about the implications of it being a former slave-owning property. I have heard that far from being a "mean girl," Blake Lively has gotten very good at pushing back on inappropriate interview questions, in an industry that will eat you alive if you let it happen. I mean, I dunno, maybe she is a "mean girl" behind the scenes. Both can be true. Her being harassed by two awful people can also be true, but is an unrelated matter. Just see how easily a PR smear campaign can distract you from the real issues here.

[@Calmontheoutside]

This “mean girl” shit is like asking what was she wearing. Stop it. Nobody deserves to be sexually harassed.

[@MythsScamsLies]

Where she got married and her being sexually harassed are NOT CONNECTED IN ANY WAY. Attempting to deflect her sexual harassment claim, to diminish it, is ridiculous, based on where she got married. It's still possible for her to be sexually harassed regardless of where she got married. The level of hate and spite in the country is appalling. It's toxic and has basically destroyed the country's civility.

[@sdl1ishappy]

Agreed. And the power these social media platforms have to influence people's minds should terrify every civilized person. It has nothing to do with the specifics of any case. It has to do with evil entities and their power to stoke hate and fear in order to control people.

[@LoveLee-jz1tj]

As a woman, I stand with Blake's human rights.

[@WayneNiles01]

As a human, I stand with Blake's human rights. My gender is irrelevant

[@markoo4728]

Jealousy is wicked indeed.

[@Susan-kz8dd]

One other thing is that it also doesn't invalidate her current complaint.

[@BlueColorado25]

2 things can be true. She can be a mean girl and she can also be on the receiving end of bad behavior of an awful man.

[@jenofire8724]

This is what I said. I don’t have to like her, but I do support her as a woman going through this.

[@Coni-1967]

I agree with you on this! Who cares about her personal life prior to the job. Acting is a job! The things listed that were allegedly done to her or about her are not defendable. They are disrespectful…full stop! Again, if you are someone who thinks suggestive phrases, pictures, behavior being done to someone who has said NO, is appropriate behavior in a work environment, I don’t want to work where you are! No amount of fame or fortune a person has deserves this kind of treatment. We have so many people coming out from behind closed doors speaking about their experiences and people think they should just get over it. Well what if that was your child, spouse, mom or even you? If you said stop it and they came at you publicly to smear you in your community? The big picture here is she said NO in WRITING and they allegedly continued to disrespect her personally and publicly. Disrespectful behavior is way too tolerated these days.

[@marilynhoward380]

“The what about ism” will eventually drive me around the bend.

[@annparkin4910]

I believe her!

[@amyskewis6167]

Boone Hall is a pretty place for sure, but you can’t miss the slave quarters as the are along side the drive to the house. Like, right there. Bad judgement on a wedding venue in no way excuses someone else’s shitty behavior to her.

[@FabulousCucumber-ip9hu]

I’m so done with anyone from the “She Could Be Lying” brigade every time a woman filed a law suit of that nature. SA is so horribly common. Most of my female friends have been subject to it but never reported it… precisely because they were afraid no one would believe them and they’d be seen as troublemakers.

[@tallspicy]

She can be a mean girl and have been sexually harrassed at the same time.

[@felbombling3199]

If you ask a Canadian man, who grew up in Vancouver, BC, "Hey, do you want to get married at Boone Hill Plantation?" his answer would probably be, "Sure, the pictures look nice!" Unless you hook Ryan up to a polygraph machine and ask specifically, "Were you taught about slavery in the deep South of the United States in high school?", I really don't think you can place much blame on the guy. :P

[@gaylaaustin7468]

The women in the cheap seats have insufficient information to comment Unless you are in the arena sit down and shut up

[@mmh290]

It is shocking to me that women are attacking Blake Lively. Perhaps they should read the complaint themselves. I’m not a fan of hers, but this is a situation in which the defendants/accused need to be held accountable. Perhaps the defenders of the perps are like those women who write to strangers in prison.

[@marilynmanchester]

Or her critics might be the kind of women who support rapist & pedophile, traitor, convicted felon Dumpty?

[@StirlingNash]

They’re pick me’s. 😕

[@49reasons]

​@@marilynmanchester- Probably.

[@susansnyder9271]

I believe her.

[@lokinakor1]

Blake and Ryan are not responsible for slavery no matter where they got married. But crazy people defend rapists. It’s a crazy world

[@cmcmahon66]

The NYT article has the complaint in full, go read it before you run your mouth. She has receipts. And as Hawk says, this is the opening shot, they don’t show all their cards up front. A first filing with 80 pages that includes screenshots of actual text messages is a message saying, there is a lot more where that came from.

[@lisakay8798]

Well the smear campaign seemed to be pretty effective. It's sad and infuriating that some women still get off by putting other women down. If you haven't taken the time to read the complaint and the receipts, maybe you shouldn't be commenting blind.

[@lafarrell3192]

I agree wholeheartedly with your final statement - it is F-ed up. I don't understand it.

[@lindaleelaw5277]

Every state has a Dept. Of Civil Rights.

[@Susan-kz8dd]

Okay so they apologize for getting married at the plantation that should be enough for everybody. This couple also does a lot of good charitable work that makes a difference for people.

[@adelaidesocki3595]

What does a plantain have to do with this?

[@suehowie152]

Exactly.

[@theresamitchell9577]

I have been to that plantation. The tree line road and the building both are very beautiful. The slave quarters that sit adjacent to the road are incredibly disturbing. I wouldn’t have chosen this as a place to get married.

[@Uzurcommonsense]

I remember being shocked and disgusted by their choice of venue.I felt is was insensitive to the history of what people suffered there.But that does not make her claims of what happened on set less true.Because you make a crappy decision or even if you are a terrible person., it does not give someone the right to harass you and create false stories about you.The court will decide based on facts.And it sounds as if she has enough proof to bring this to court.

[@Newton-Reuther]

It's not an absurd claim. Totally believable. Time will tell if there's anything legally actionable but believing someone felt uncomfortable hurts no one.

[@starandflurry]

I think "defamation" or something like it will be at play here. Planting stories with 1/2 built truths with the intention of targeting/ruining someone's heretofore stellar reputation has been clearly noted, according to, and documented in, the complaint. Affecting not only one's reputation but most certainly future earnings is where this all gets very dicey. A lot more than "feelings of discomfort" going on here.

[@Newton-Reuther]

​@starandflurry Trump does that all the time and has yet to pay anything. While I get that it's a double standard because he is the GOP's special birthday boy, I would be surprised if she had to pay for anything like that.

[@starandflurry]

@@Newton-Reuther What would she be paying? Also, Justin is no Trump and not nearly as well-funded. The publication of this complaint alone may be all she needs to tank him. He already got dropped by his agency. Too bad for him.

[@marylhere]

There have been a few plantations that were bought by descendants of slaves that worked that land.

[@marilynmanchester]

Yes, I have seen stories about those purchases which seem to give the family some kind of closure. Kinda makes sense.

[@user-ub8zg5kfake]

Well, maybe you can get in your old Camino and go ask them abt it😂

[@kristimonroe7246]

Why does it matter where they were married? The owners don't still own slaves. Its a historical area. Wtf is wrong with all of you?

[@49reasons]

I get your point and, having toured a few restored plantation homes, I can say that they're visually beautiful. Since so many have become tourist attractions (think, My Old Kentucky Home), I imagine that they're also venues for all kinds of events. However, the optics of a celebrity wedding being held at one are unfortunate, to say the least.

[@OfficialAuntieJenn]

Halito 👋🏽 it's been a bit but I worked for an attorney that dealt with harassment cases, seems like we would send complaints to government agencies and they would investigate and issue an ruling before he would decide to file a suit, but I cannot remember the specifics

[@ChrisJack1212]

I dislike Blake Lively a great deal; however, I would not want anyone to have to endure the types of disgusting behaviors she has listed in her complaint, ever. The thing is, we women can be vicious hypocrites. Like it or not, it is my opinion that this stems from some sort of deep down ugly form of jealousy. Think about it. Most of the mean girl crap is directed toward what many consider younger, pretty women. FYI, that's your own insecurity, making you Marsha, Marsha, Marsha. You can dislike a female and simultaneously not like the way they're being treated because no woman should have to go through that bs.

[@suehowie152]

Do you know her personally?

[@calamityjane4331]

well said

[@yopretz]

I stand with Blake . The fact that they got married on a plantation is invalid. The point of the complaint is to tell her story about sexual harassment on a set of a movie she was on

[@donnarequa1863]

Couldn’t agree more. ❤

[@KMYA4ME]

Ohhh the south‼️ No surprise there ‼️

[@jennifermacdonald8481]

Human Rights Full Stop 💙🌍☮️💫

[@robertgreybeard1432]

Thanks.

[@MafGeek]

Boone Hall, very well known.

[@anachild2710]

I think there was a lot of backlash on how she treated women reporters in the past. Plus how she behaved about his role when interviewed, it seemed she was talking about a rom-com. I know there are edits of interviews so they have shown her in a bad light. Anyway, why is her husband Ryan Reynolds not getting backlash for the place of the marriage ceremony. He is 50% complicit. Right?! I don’t think anyone would file a complaint frivolously. At least I hope they wouldn’t.

[@suehowie152]

Hawk can we just stick to the complaint.

[@user-ub8zg5kfake]

Read the NYpost and then Us magazine..yup "flipping the narrative" and "using their own words against them" (paraphrasing here)..hmm heard that somewhere else this wk🙃

[@StirlingNash]

They’re pick me’s.

[@luguy8347]

Boy, Blake is an Amber Heard.

[@jennifermacdonald8481]

💙🌍☮️💫

[@vergeofnervousbreakdown2605]

It's not left vs right or male vs female. It's up vs down. She's the one of power who from my understanding had used it to hurt women. This is 1% in fighting.

[@suehowie152]

Hurt women?

[@Jin420]

I'll wait till everything comes out. Too early...

[@vergeofnervousbreakdown2605]

She'll never eat lunch in this town again.

[@Pop-twist.]

Blake Lively will eat wherever she damn well pleases and you’ll have zero to say about it. FO

[@maurafarrell3671]

Why did the release the complaint on a Friday evening of the Christmas weekend??!!

[@lafarrell3192]

why not?

[@ChrisJack1212]

I don't think you have a valid question here. I understand tis the season, but are you saying that she should wait until after Christmas, or even the New Year to put her very serious complaint in so as to not upset other people's holiday?

[@cyndinelson8700]

It was a smutty book most likely about Colleen Hoovers own son since he got into domestic abuse trouble. Ryan was still married to Scarlett Johansen at the time they met on that green lantern movie. 🙄

[@bobfg3130]

She is one.

[@TheVid54]

Blake and Ryan were always a little queer, so getting into ugly situations is probably going to be routine for them. As for the accused nasty guys, Hollywood is worse than "Chinatown", so I'm gonna leave it alone and let justice take its course (and we all know how that can work out if you're a celebrity or a president or a billionaire).

[@purpleyellow9617]

Prior to all this drama, Blake Lively didn't have the best reputation. She was a middling actress that people view as "mean girl." As a general principle: If "bad" things happen to "bad" people the general public typically has less sympathy. I think this KZbinr doesnt know much about her so he missing alot of context.

[@trv4926]

FACT: She was a horrible person long before the movie! She is very bratty and entitled! She probably picked the plantation knowing of it's history! I like Ryan and I hope he is not secretly an a-hole too.

[@KellyBr1968]

Have you met Blake in person? Have you witnessed any of these behaviors yourself? Or is the smear campaign just working?

[@suehowie152]

And you know this how? I'm not interested in your personal opinions.

[@yvonneplant9434]

Can't stand Blake and her ridic husband. 😮

[@MegaFabiana66]

I like you, I think you are brilliant but not in flannel.. please! Thanks

[@Pop-twist.]

WTH! Get a Grip!

[@suehowie152]

Oh for goodness sake! Now you want to dress the man?

[@tommymorrison6478]

Isn't she a froth-at-the-mouth feminist? Just the kind to make accusations against men for saying "hello"?

[@suehowie152]

Oh really? So how many times has she made these types of accusations?

[@tommymorrison6478]

@@suehowie152 So far, none. Your point seems to be that because she's made none so far this means she can't start now. Try not to be silly. You can do it.

[@suehowie152]

@tommymorrison6478 Or the accusations she is for the first time making are legit. Don't bother talking down to me.Your comment speaks volumes about your thoughts about women.