Melissa McCarthy Faces a Critic

She told Ellen a story about talking to someone who offered some harsh criticism of the actress, and his surprising response.

[@melan288]

Big props to have for not blaming or calling out the man. Instead she handled it the best way as possible. 👏👏

[@katyga]

Only unprofessional critics would write something like that, they should review the story and performances, not the way the actors/characters look.

[@Denis-89]

katyga Well, if it's part of the issue then yes. Like if the character is meant to be older and someone did a bad make-up job that should be pointed out

[@carly9339]

katyga Well it's more that actually her character is supposed to look bad, the reviewer obviously can't understand that. That was the point she was meant to look like that. Someone to say that is discusting i can't believe you did that is stupid, hellooo thats the whole bloody point!!!!

[@321330078]

This is why I love this woman and I will ever stop. She has taken all kinds of crap from people about her weight and her looks but she is still strong ♥

[@sharon21924]

Oh my god, every day I see your comments on the real and now here, its like running into an old friend! Heeeeeeey! Lol 😂

[@amitufi5]

sidekickin721 me too lol 😄

[@321330078]

sidekickin721 heeeyyyy! ♥

[@firesong7825]

Lashaun Gordon She's also a millionaire so...

[@yesshetalks]

Lashaun Gordon I literally see you everywhere, lol

[@BonnieWright1791]

I love this. This is the appropriate way to handle criticism.

[@loganmckenzie3575]

I know right I was expecting her to say fuck off to him or something because that's what I would of said

[@BonnieWright1791]

Same! I would have just gotten snappy. So much respect for this lady.

[@loveunit21]

Yah, not a lot of people can handle critics like that, me included. Really applaud Melissa Mccarthy for handling it that well

[@jessthewright]

TheRealJHow Yes!! She turned it into a learning opportunity.

[@chickofmusic001]

TheRealJHow very true that's how people really could learn their lesson.

[@vitoriamartini6535]

Just one of the reasons why I love Melissa. She handled the criticism perfectly and she was so calm and understanding to that journalist. I don't think most people would react like that to such a nonsense critic.

[@INFJparadox]

Melissa is a truly beautiful person, hysterically funny, sharp, intelligent, classy and compassionate. How could you not love her? She is just amazing.

[@adamflower8018]

“Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a harder battle.” ― Plato

[@jamesdooling4139]

I wish the people who need to hear this message were the same people watching the clip. MM gets so much shit for being a regular American; she's not regular at all, she's the type of personality to which we should all aspire: grounded, appreciative, able to face the day with humor and beneficence.

[@katanakeith1]

I have never thought of Melissa McCarthy as a regular! She's a 5XLarge, at least!

[@fabhlc]

She's beautiful

[@Treelord_vr]

Yes she is. Inside and out.

[@MrNikkimaxine]

fabhlc she Is

[@salamanderjones7064]

why does it take men relating to women through their own mothers, sisters, daughters for them to give a shit about sexism and misogyny? can't we just say judging women based on appearances is bad and they get it? why does it have to be would you ever dream of judging your daughter this way... I don't understand why men's empathy extends to women only when it affects their own lives and the women they love.

[@urbanaminoa]

+Lea Gebbie My male best friend once adamantly informed me that his mother and sister were nothing like *women*, they were a whole separate thing, because otherwise, how could he date? As a girl with mostly male friends, it was one of the most Mars-Venus moments I've ever had. We're all the same kind of women!!! Sigh.

[@salamanderjones7064]

urbanaminoa basically the line of thinking there is I can objectify and sexualize other women because my mom and sister and the good kind of women who deserve respect. its bullshit.

[@Luciferus200581]

Men get lots of crap from women too. It goes both ways.

[@katrand6174]

+lea g and here's the irony...they go along with rape joking, getting some, hate words for women but are shocked when a woman he cares about is raped. We tear down women to the point they get assaulted and then disbelieved. There are ways we do terrible things to men and let's all really look at that because it makes us all unsafe and also because we all deserve to be treated decently. Lucifer's comment to you is knee jerk, no thinking banality. Hopefully he will find healing.

[@era3596]

+Luciferus200581 Not even close

[@luellalunabjd]

I love her, what a great person.

[@Athra1984]

What's a graceful, wonderful woman!! She's beautiful inside & out

[@Bikewithlove]

This is the way to address gender - not by blaming men, but by citing the individual, holding them accountable (respectful), differentiating between the person and their error, encouraging them to grow and supporting them publicly instead of humiliating them. Her husband is undoubtedly a very happy man.

[@TheEthiopian1987]

She is what the original Feminist group was all about. Like you said they would address the individual rather than a specific gender. Unlike the Feminists of today, who say every man rapes a woman even with their eyes. Hopefully more feminist supporters end up like her.

[@kimberley45am]

+TheEthiopian1987 Do you really not see the complete irony in your comment. You dont think men should be generalised, but then generalise modern feminists as all the same! Come on you must realise how hypocritical that is??

[@Bikewithlove]

+TheEthiopian1987 - Thank you for your sentiment, but I never mentioned feminism. I've never been interested enough in feminism to know much about it. I'm only interested in enjoying a cup of coffee without having to meditate for an hour afterward to overcome the deliberate abuse I receive by females I've never met who fancy themselves a victim.

[@Bikewithlove]

+kimberley45am - I wish you and I could trade places for a day so that I could enjoy time with your supportive network of friends and family on Facebook and you can go through the checkout line at Whole Foods and get treated like you're the enemy. Let's trade places on our birthdays so that your co-workers will bring me cake and balloons and sing to me, and on my birthday you get all the dirty looks. I'd love to go out and party with any and all of the guys you rejected, and you can deal with the discomfort of bumping into someone I politely asked on a date who rejected me because I disgust her with my presence. I would like to know what it feels like to have people open doors for me, call me beautiful, and let me out first when there's a fire or the boat is sinking. I'd like to go to ladies' night and drink for free. So go easy on TheEthiopian, he's probably paying child support.

[@501archer]

aaaah, i was on the verge of tears after hearing her recount that incident. and you could tell ellen was also quite moved about it too.

[@adamdilley1554]

it was obviously fake

[@MAGirlable]

How was it obviously fake? Do you have much experience being a woman in America, Adam?

[@adamdilley1554]

My apologies.. I thought you weren't asking a serious question. I thought you were trying to troll me

[@adamdilley1554]

You are absolutely right.. No I have no idea what its like to be a woman specificly in america.. But I know what its like to be a man in America..

[@adamdilley1554]

XTL but by your statements question.. I'll pull this on you.. Do you know what its like to be a man in a America? And let's pretend like you are a man because your screen name isn't implied to be either.

[@brittanyismebb]

If all men could just treat women like they are their own (or someone's ) beloved daughter...the entire feminism and sexism issue could be resolved.

[@ahutch4882]

Don't blame us women are mean to women. i read a womens magazine once and wow you guys are really hard on each other.

[@augustrushes5702]

If people could treat people like people, the world would be a better place

[@Be1smaht]

Brittany Murillo no that's wrong.... but it's a nice thought

[@ihsankib]

Who in the world would dislike this!?

[@Iyana]

Some people just have way too much hate balled up inside of them.

[@CaptianJohnGlanton]

Ihsan Kibar I would. I dislike her. It's why I watched the video.

[@amapparatistkwabena]

+Ihsan Kibar People who are hurting but don't know what to do with it. They need our patience and a big hug...and sometimes, good music and enough room to just dance! Lesson learned from Ellen and Melissa.

[@lostsoul866]

All videos must have dislikes. It's impossible for a video to not get any dislikes.

[@suesheification]

Mysogynists

[@notenoughtreble]

Woah! She lost a lot of weight! She always looks so beautiful and I love her to pieces!

[@msemtgrl]

Collin Carver She has lost over 50 pounds so far. but I think she has always been beautiful. If you have a beautiful heart you are gorgeous.

[@osskeet]

Shut up, she didn't always look beautiful hahaha

[@osskeet]

SteLenaFoster​ actually I used to work for a company where I could hire only good looking women. the ugly ones we will just say "we'll keep in touch." Sorry but that's the reality. Don't act like this world is perfect with all rainbows and puppies. Mostly good looking people get the attention.

[@msemtgrl]

osskeet Pretty disgusting that companies like you work for are out there, I have met many women that are plain ugly on the inside and to me that is an ugly woman. some of us do not think like your crap company does. some of us know true beauty when we see it.

[@osskeet]

SteLenaFoster​ again you're acting like the world is just perfect. How many ugly people do you walk up to? I bet if you're in a public place and if an ugly person is staring at you would be freaked out but if its a good looking person you wouldn't mind. Look at places like Hooters and strip clubs and even modeling. Victoria's Secret magazines and playboy. Actresses. all attractive people. The world hates ugly people and you know it

[@aJxxw]

so much respect for this woman. I only started watching gilmore girls like, what, a month ago? That's how I recognize her, but either way, she's pretty freaking awesome, and beautiful inside AND out.

[@minigangsta128]

Amara W Uggh. I wish I hadnt seen Gilmore Girls, haha. Then I'd get to watch it for the first time :D

[@michaela-v1880]

I have always loved her bit just as a actor but a person

[@aJxxw]

galemoy Lmao i'm on the last season :( I wish i could rewatch friends and gilmore girls from newwww!!!

[@ialeixo84]

+Amara W Apparently netflix is airing 4 new episodes of Gilmore Girls, but Melissa hasn't been confirmed yet.

[@minigangsta128]

ialeixo84 Actually, she confirmed she WASN'T doing it...

[@coachjaetaft]

I love how she handle this! She did a great thing for women!

[@coachjaetaft]

Jae Taft Thats what I do on my channel. I make it a mission to telling girls that they are strong and beautiful individuals and they can do anything they set their hearts too.

[@amapparatistkwabena]

+Jae Taft She did a great thing for humans!

[@TheEthiopian1987]

Personally it does not matter if you are a male or female, so long as you treat every human being with the respect they deserve and equality. So good on you for giving people the confidence they need in themselves.

[@ConnorC97]

The way she responded to a man who spoke of her so critically and rudely is so remarkable. She is a wonderful woman.

[@ThePreetyuvi]

People call her big and god knows what, I commend her for how she handle that journalist. And I am so looking forward for her new movie

[@alexd1121]

Wonderful Melissa, we tear down women not just in America! Everywhere. Men too by the way only with different but just as shallow criteria.

[@MikhailKalashnikovMiG]

One of the finest comedic actresses today. Bridesmaids and Spy were amazing

[@1rkhachatryan]

See this is why I love Melissa. Not only is she an amazing artist but she's also just a great person in general. Plus Mike and Molly is my show

[@juancpgo]

Treat people in an elevated way and they will rise to the occasion.

[@BojanTomic]

Amazing speech! I feel like this is how people in general are treated, women and men. When it comes to women - "Oh, you can't do well unless you're skinny and make-up pretty", and when it comes to men - "Oh, you gotta have a six pack and muscles". blah blah People in general are awful these days.

[@jinglebells4576]

I love Melissa McCarthy, she's a really beautiful woman and I honestly LOVE the way she handled that critic. Sometimes we just forget that words ARE hurtful. Spread the love guys. Love these two powerful strong women. :)) xo

[@norahfaisal8060]

Leah T ya you are right she is amazing

[@Aramazdkhatcherian]

I want *THIS VIDEO* to have million views. I want it to raise women up. I gotta say that women go through A LOT - both physically and mentally. And if I, as a man, don't go through such experiences, doesn't mean that I shouldn't have empathy for certain people. On the opposite, it is part of my duty to help women NOT go through such things.

Aramazd Khabayan you don't know, it means the world to me to hear men say that, thank you so much!

[@leannepaxton5012]

What a pleasant surprise, to read such a kind, respectful message, from a man to women in general. Especially when I have been reading so many hateful, negative messages here on KZbin lately. I know you message was written a couple of years ago, but I still want to thank you today. 😊❤

[@m.a.d.m.5425]

Melissa McCarthy is a beautiful, inspiring, role model and actress and I am astonished by how intelligent she is! Good Job Mel

[@DougPanton]

Awesome interview.. Can I just say that this goes for men too, everyone should be made to feel great about themselves not just women. There are a lot of men who are self concious too and I believe it is all to do with the media.

[@shivakrishnarama]

You sound like a fatass!

[@DougPanton]

far from it mate

[@shivakrishnarama]

Doug Panton Being obese is unhealthy. Period. You can put lipstick on a pig, it's still a pig.

[@user-qc4es5vl2m]

Good point! I feel though women may be critiqued more often (by both genders) about appearances, men seem to be taught that they aren't man enough worthy if they don't always exude confidence and strength. That must be poisonous to boys.

[@godisdead4416]

+KateMcKinnonTV It is quite poisonous, especially for a low confidence, skinny guy like me who is made to feel lesser due to the over prevalence of buff dudes in media.

[@ToraydoBull]

She is so admirable the way she just takes this criticism and turn it into a life lesson for not only that horrible critic (that's why I never trust them) but for everyone out there who has ever had to face these sort of uncalled for criticism. Bravo!

[@orhugs]

She dealt with this so eloquently wow.

[@VelvetGal5]

I have lot of respect for Melissa McCarthy. I watched the movie, "Tammy" when it was out in movie theaters. It was a good movie. I like that Melissa didn't stay silent and be some doormat or wallflower. When someone says disrespectful, hurtful, horrible, or critical things that not only put down one woman, but a lot of women at the same time as well, then a strong woman will make it a point to call that person out and say something to make that person rethink his or her hurtful words, actions, and behavior. Melissa is my kind of gal. She is not a bystander. And she articulates, expresses, communicates, and speaks her mind. She is correct with what she said. By putting down her and the way she looks, that guy didn't happen to think about his own daughter, and how he was setting a bad example for his daughter. The hurt that some people write and say about other women can be applied to their daughters or women they care about - and then it makes the people who said the hurtful comments rethink their words, behavior, and actions, and hopefully change for the better. Staying silent leads to no constructive change or progress. Speaking up and standing up for yourself leads to your critics or people rethinking what they did and maybe perhaps some of them changing for the better or rethinking hurtful things and actions they have said and done. Good on Melissa for speaking up. She is a hardworking, funny, articulate, caring, compassionate Midwestern gal, and I appreciate her for being a strong, expressive woman, and I think she is pretty. She is not ugly.

[@kswt84]

I love her and her movies :)

[@Maladyn-gj8eu]

Not for nothing but she really looks so beautiful! 😍

[@benjaminhawkins3440]

I hope melissa gets her own talk show someday! 💜

[@JohnBuckley1989]

i know this is a bad video to ask this on, but did she lose weight?

[@englandsensation]

***** Yes, I think a lot actually. I'm happy for her, not because of vanity reasons but for her health.

[@Bono363]

***** I thought the same thing. She looks completely different.

[@Saabriinii]

***** seems like it, i thought the same!

[@mtenorio8917]

Yes. She had mentioned a while back she wanted to lose weight.

[@englandsensation]

***** Maybe, but they are the exception. Obesity is a disease and it brings serious problems. Heart deficiencies, diabetes, apnea... even cancer.

[@WeeeWriter]

I love Melissa, I think she's the best actress and a beautiful person inside and out. I hope that Melissa is like my hometown girl Shania Twain in that she breaks open the doors in what's considered the style or the norm in the media. I agree with Melissa in this interview--we as women need to build each other up and encourage each other, we're strong and beautiful. Amen to that.

[@daniellahendrixdh]

she is my absolute favorite actress besides Sandra Bullock I just absolutely love her she is amazing and always beautiful

[@BinaScully]

Will never understand why people are so mean to each other. If someone makes you think or feel something positive, express it. If they make you feel something negative, don't! Every act of kindness matters.

[@tkmaz]

I can never be that kind & eloquent on the spot...I think of it later as I'm laying in bed trying to go to sleep. "Doh! Why didn't I say that instead!??"

[@TheHelvin3]

Wow wow wow! Such class! Had that dude came up to me saying crap like that I would have gone all ballistic on him. LOVE Melissa - LOVE moments like this for women

[@naiac5067]

I'm not crying you're crying don't look at me

[@jessicasunny4063]

The best message 💓 a great reminder to have conversations instead of judgments, really see people and that we all have things to learn, and be kind- opens eyes, heard and changes the world.

[@johnd5574]

The fascinating thing is that we are now starting to do this to boys and young men - and still doing it to young women. This kind of societal judgment hasn't stopped, as body issues and "perfect bodies" are still major issues for women, but young boys and men are also starting to have sharp increases in anorexia and bulimia -- as well as seeking surgeries for cosmetic reasons. At the same time, all the societal judgment and self-dislike is building to the point where America is again at the top of worldwide obesity charts (about 30% for Americans). Constant negativity and judgment, combined with insanely fast weight loss on "Biggest Loser" TV shows (which ultimately don't help people with maintaining weight loss at all), is the absolute worst type of "motivation" we can do for women or men. Negativity just puts people into downward spirals. Good for Melissa for standing up to unfair judgment!

[@anthonyatkinson9245]

Oh my goodness, Melissa McCarthy looks extremely beautiful! She's lost so much weight!!!! And also, that was a very articulate speech. Watching movies like The Heat, and Bridesmaids, how she yells hilariously at people in her movies, she so soft spoken, and very smart in real life. This proves how much of a brilliant performer she is.

[@melindac3368]

Great answer to the critic, thoughtful and right on.

[@BHAKTIBROPHY]

Melissa McCarthy is beautiful within and without. Her humor brings great joy into my life, and lives of countless others. What a gift! Thank you for posting this, Ellen Show.

[@LoriWolfcat]

Awe, this is why I love Melissa!! 😸😻 She's so warm, kind, smart, and hilarious!!

[@SuperKariAle]

This is why I love her so much!!!

[@mad4eastenders]

Wow. I've never genuinely wanted to say this before, but I have to.. You go girl!

[@oliverwebb762]

I love Melissa, and Tammy is one of my favorite roles she's done! I rarely rewatch a movie and I own Tammy! I love how she dealt with this guy and she's 100% correct!

[@SonOfEire3]

I love how she didn't throw the journalist under the bus and even went out of her way not to make him "the villain of the story" which if she had done so no one, including myself, would have blamed her. Says a lot about her character.

[@kewiired9271]

Good for her! No better way to handle this kind of stuff. And I do hope the guy understood and took it to heart, because if he really does and changes, I see two heroes coming from this story. Melissa for handling it amazingly, and the reporter who found a change of heart for the better.

[@BUMKID622]

honestly i have no clue why people have ever degraded Melissa about her looks. She is stunningly beautiful, look at that face! and although she is plus sized she has a nice figure, dresses great, and most importantly she is kind and humble. she has a point about why she looks the way she does in movies, she's a wonderful comedian and it just works for her to look frumpy and dowdy in movies. i'm glad that she stood up to the reporter and omg, she did it in the best way. I'm a huge fan, always will be.

[@SprinkleofWilly]

In this day of age, still people are being sexist. It's really sad and we should raise awareness

[@AngieKiss02]

Love you, Melissa McCarthy!!

[@rburns9248]

Her statements are why "I Love Melissa McCarthy"!!!!!!!!! LOVE GOES A LONG WAY! LET US NOT TEAR EACHOTHER DOWN!

[@sandybourbeau9670]

What a beautiful response. Melissa spoke so thoughtfully, authentically and lovingly. She inspires me.

[@cherylrogers6941]

You're right. Hooray for you telling the guy this!

[@nicholasmiller1425]

This is just another reason to love her. She seems like the most genuine and kind person.

[@donbri01]

What a classy, gracious way to deal with this critic. What an excellent role model for all of us.

[@Buenomars]

John C. Reilly: "Ouch, Melissa..."

[@janelia19]

She is so amazing, I love her.

[@85Aheadstix]

She's horrendous. you Americans will laugh at anything.

[@JessCollinsss]

she's so beautiful, physically and her personality

[@sarahqueen8544]

Beautifully said, I wish everyone would think like that.

[@londondays5924]

Not only in the states, but everywhere. I short and voluptuous and it's not easy...

[@amiish5869]

I was gonna start crying, love her so much!

[@MariaRodriguez-xg5ty]

The question is, did he right a retraction or a new point of view after their talk?

[@stefanniacamero7945]

I love you Melissa McCarthy!!!!!!!!! hands down the best!!!!

[@tanjimahmed6652]

What movie is she talking about?

[@crimejunkie4646]

I love Melissa McCarthy! She is a hilarious, beautiful, and strong woman. I watch EVERY movie she is in. She is my favorite actress by far and I feel like her and her husband did a great job especially with Tammy. It was funny and also touched my heart because her character was so relatable and real.

[@0817sweetstacy]

Very Nicely Said!! You are a Classy Woman Melissa!!! You are a true Inspiration. I love that you were able to open his eye's with word's, without insulting or arguing. You also kept his feeling's in mind. Not many people do that these day's. Bravo!!!

[@ShariTate]

And this is why I love both Melissa McCarthy and Ellen. They are both so funny but are also all about spreading love and lifting others up rather than tearing people down.

[@lollipopss30]

Can I get an hallelujah

[@katekeast190]

🙌🙌🙌

[@josephinemendoza9114]

One of the many reasons why I love Melissa McCarthy so much is she have a very good heart.

[@suzy-qtravels9202]

I just realized this point in my own life!!! I love Melissa!!!!!

[@norasteel5353]

Thanks Ellen..and YEA Melissa!!! Much love to you!

[@yadanalin]

I wish Melissa make an exact speech or tell this story in South Korea

[@sierrajones4681]

+Jasmine tau South Korea needs to stop torturing dogs in their disgusting Yulin Festival!

[@carmendawnallan8871]

Epic Melissa 😊 ❤ Great Way to,Handle That.

[@Brulian91]

I still see her as Sookie from Gilmore Girls! Haha :D

[@DJMichaelAngelo]

ugh, how do you turn off this annoying close-captioning?

[@85Aheadstix]

I'd rather read subtitles than listen to her speak.

[@joanne4594]

melissa mcarthy is so articulate. shes a joy to listen to on all levels.

[@8jsimone]

Melissa you made the world a better place just in that moment. I promise you that.

[@lauradolan103]

I've been feeling so shit today and watching that has just restored faith in humanity thank you Melissa what a beautiful woman

[@splishsplashsploshXD]

this is so lovely and well spoken, i am in awe. support women 2k15!!

[@katharinapavlin6068]

She seems extremely intelligent and kind

[@AshRileyy]

She is so humbled.

[@heyhopebarker]

This is such a truly inspiring and amazing woman. I have so much respect for her and the way she handles different things. If we all share kindness this world would be a lot more lovely. Absolutely amazing.

[@damer4345]

Wow, well put 100%! And I am so happy Melissa wasn't harsh towards the man, she was just confronting the big issue which is fantastic! Thank you Ellen, thank you Melissa! :)

[@PatilRoupelian]

I'm a struggling actress. Mostly cause nothing is going on where I live (movie wise) but the times I do get rejected I always think is because of my looks but then I think of Melissa and how she made it and is successful and beautiful on the inside and outside and that gives me hope.

[@DianxStorm]

She is truly a woman of grace and beauty and is so talented. I absolutely adore her!

[@axelle32]

She's fucking amazing

[@REWFIRST]

I love YOU Melissa. If Ellen only had half your talent, she would be worth watchin.!!

[@michaela-v1880]

I love the way she handled this

[@CJ2023Incognito]

This made me tear up. So happy she talked about this.

[@houseofcreativity1]

I love Melissa McCarthy!!!!! I love Ellen and I think that was awesome of her to stand up for women that way!!!! I Love them Both!!!!

[@tiffanychilds4647]

You go girl!! Still one of the funniest woman comedians out there and just as beautiful on the outside as she is on the inside. Men are just as guilty of tearing us women down as we are and it needs to stop. Put a little love out there and you will be amazed and what you get in return!

[@1lovelina]

I love this lady! Such a great actress with a kind heart and a great sense of humor.

[@finally97]

One of the many reasons why I love Melissa McCarthy. 👊💪