The Secret to Stopping Fear and Anxiety (That Actually Works) | Mel Robbins

[@handcrafted30]

I used to have a chronic fear of flying. Then I saw a slogan for a parachute school that said "Knowledge dispels fear". I applied this to flying, sat down and tried to learn everything I could about flying and aviation. Flying is now my greatest passion in life and I am training to be a pilot. Knowledge DOES dispel fear.

[@efisgpr]

handcrafted30 Very great insight! THANKS.

[@soullight8632]

That's actually pretty damn crazy. Hope your pilot training is going well

[@teacherdavid--eatplaylearn5013]

Thank you for this great quote!😍 Blessing from Taiwan! 😇

[@leoedmunson9713]

Did you have a fear of flying...or a fear of falling. Maybe by learning to fly you put your mind at ease about falling.

[@user-fh2cp6iu4g]

this is really inspirational. thank you for sharing :)

[@basicinfo2022]

Solution 11:13 1. 5 second rule - countdown from 5 seconds 2. Anchor thought - create a contextual thought to keep you focused 3. Reframe thought from fear to excitement My extra tip: fear dishonors yourself and your self esteem. Keep confronting fear head on. Practice will help you relearn a healthier habit. Live a life free of self limits.

[@lucasnyeinchan399]

i agree with that , mind needs to be trained if you want to think positive in every situation such as doing medidation

[@MindVersusMisery]

Princess: Your extra tip is very wise and beautifully formulated. If we let our fear determine or define our lives we really are its slave. But if we challenge and face our fears eye to eye, then we are free.

[@basicinfo2022]

@@MindVersusMisery yes, accurate. We need to change the story we tell ourselves to a positive one. Optimism is a key too.

[@annab5961]

I don’t know if this will always work because ...some of the more everyday things that you’re fearful of aren’t very exciting! or something to look forward to. Like if you have a few people coming to the house to do a job for you. Your anchor thought is I’m excited to get the job done but I don’t really I’m not excited about trades people coming to my house so what about that. I find it difficult with people I don’t know around my own own space and get very anxious about heaps of just normal things unfortunately

[@ehhorve857]

@@annab5961 i think for that, simply trade fear and excitement with anxiousness and anticipation. think about it, anxiousness is just a low key form of fear where, instead of absolute dread, you're just, quietly roasting yourself with a pessimistic awaiting of what's to come. so what's the opposite? anticipation, quietly building yourself UP with a optimistic outlook of what's to come! try it, bet you'll be surprised!

[@johnvas4173]

The whole point of what Mel is saying, is this., Your brain can only have one linear thought at once. A fear comes from the creative, right side of your brain. It thinks it can predict an outcome and dwells on that outcome. Obsessive thinking. By counting down from 5, you are instantaneously accessing the logical left side of your brain. Breaking the obsessive thought. Think of a hysterical person getting a glass of water thrown in their face and being told to, Snap out of it! In a less shocking way, counting down from 5 has the same affect. If you are not getting it with the countdown, try this experiment. The next time you find yourself feeling anxious or fearful, do the math. Randomly pick 4 or 5 multiplication or division problems and calmly do them in your head. No one has to know. 6x8=48, 9x7=63, 24/3=8 etc. Accessing your left brain detaches you from obsessive thoughts. The second part is Instantly think of the future positively. Ex. Fear of flying. After doing your math, in detail think of everything you are going to do when the plane lands. I'm going to get my bags, get the car, drive to my destination, greet friends and family, or check in hotel, grab a pina colada, sit on a beach chair and watch the sunset... Now tell me. After reading all that I just wrote. How often did you think of the fear? If it's still there. Add some of your senses. See the smile of friends or family, taste the icy cold pineapple and rum sliding down your throat, the sand between your toes...get as descriptive as possible. Rinse and repeat.

[@lilianburgoa9458]

John Vas This is great advice, thank you! I get these panic attacks when my daughter (19) goes out partying, it's time for her to call and say she's on her way back (around 3am) but she doesn't call. It could only be 5 minutes, but during those 5 minutes I start shaking and sweating, my heart races, my stomach starts acting up and sends me to the bathroom immediately and I can't stop thinking something happened to her. How can I apply all these recommendations when I live in a dangerous city - Bogota (Colombia) and my mind is "certain" something must have happened? Help please! I'm driving my daughter crazy!

[@wastim7195]

Thanks for Logical explanation

[@isstannblue]

Great explanation...thank you...

[@randygivens8421]

Thank you for the awesome advice. I suffer with anxiety before taking off and after landing too. I will try your suggestions.

[@muteguy341]

thank you. you saved me 12 minutes of my time.

[@dannybise9220]

I was fearing to go to a new job and having to start over and relearn everything from what I was used to , until I saw this video. I’ve turned that fear into excitement ! I’m ready to start a new beginning. I’m ready to face something unfamiliar. Why be afraid brain? Be excited about this ! 😮🎉

[@DarkandRadiant]

Yessss🎉🎉🎉

[@Nawongyonten-yp4fz]

😊❤

[@stickofbutter9733]

Same here. New job anxiety after a 23 year career where I had no fear lol.

[@kishored3426]

me to

[@brownskinbeauty]

Starting over here. I had to relocate to my sons home. Now finding a new place to live. And paying more money. Be excited about this. 54321 let’s go

[@iemandmusica]

Fear=Excitement. That is mind blowing. Never thought of it before.

[@MavidG]

Do people really believe this?

[@Barcelona.rhapsody]

Dee Gee why wouldn't they!? this is fool proof!

[@MavidG]

+brad zatar Are you joking?

[@Barcelona.rhapsody]

ofc not, why don't you believe it!?

[@MavidG]

+brad zatar bc it's a gimmick and it's not true. The chemicals released in your brain are different with fear or excitement. That's why they feel totally different. Anticipation of sex feels different than someone car jacking you. That's why you're not thinking "fight or flight" when you're a about to have sex. It's just sad that this many ppl are lost enough to believe this. It may help some ppl. But it's no solution. It's a psychological band aid basically.

[@bluecatblu76]

I watched this video a year ago and following Mel’s advice I lost my fear of travelling alone, i traveled and now live in a different part of the country and I’m so happy. Now I’m about to start my own business and I am experiencing that same fear as one year ago. Completely forgot about this video and it just popped up at the perfect time. Thank you so much for helping me in my journey to a new life. ❤️❤️❤️

[@brianholt8575]

Travelling alone is cool you learn to be really confident and live with your decisions character building exciting

[@queennoneya601]

Blucat. Youre not giving yourself credit for your ability to face your fears. Unless you were born into money., you seem to have been able to afford yourself a comfortable livin enough to travel. To get where you are w/o being a trust fund baby means fear at some time, was not an option.

[@godanddevil.5331]

DOLLAR SHOULD RISE

[@kalifornia4745]

This is what I’m about to do! I would love to know how you used this to travel alone :)

[@kufudokungfu]

i prefer to travel alone

[@World-of-Newars-by-Chandra]

I have lived a life full of fears. Tears are flowing in my eyes now.

[@abdulazeezakanji5950]

I have been seen as clueless, empty-brian and stupid by people who seemed to respect me for what they knew about me, thanks to fear. I hope this would help me.

[@mohammedd270]

Same😭😪

[@tonygombas491]

Hope your tears are wiped away friend

[@dannboyle]

Tears for fears..

[@mfonobongjames2637]

This is so amazinggggg I really love eeet

[@tonygombas491]

Fear is so real to me it has literally destroyed me

[@Faithh.222]

Same …

[@billp4380]

Tony, I have dealt with social fear most of my life. I have found that using my body, AKA, exercise and hard physical work help to calm me down. Also , right now I am working with a hypnotherapist on creating positive outcome images in my mind. Good luck,,, I feel that we are here to learn lessons and to grow and become better people,, AKA, learning to love oneself and others as well. Bill

[@yassinhamze501]

Trying to save myself

[@normadesmond6017]

@@billp4380 b.s. I'v been having this for 30 year now. Together with depression. It's the point in the same part of the brain that is not right. You can love all you want to, it will not help you one bit when you have this. And I've been living with it for 30 years. I've had every therapy and treatment known to man. And it didn t help me one bit. Just trying to life with it.

[@Sharakomusic]

It gets better. My severe panic attacks went away completely.

[@kathykaura7219]

As a human living with anxiety/depression and several other issues, I've learned that I thrive and in a higher state of happiness when I have "something to look forward to." Even when I'm not thinking about that "something," I'm still in a generally better mood and can accomplish more. So this makes perfect sense to me.

[@Eebydeeby2112]

True its with me too

[@kathyhass5117]

Love listening to mel.she helps me so much.

[@i_exist1872]

I like how you said "as a human" like we're going to think you're an alien

[@kathykaura7219]

@@i_exist1872 I guess I said that because I know that animals (of the furry kind) also experience anxiety.

[@godslittleprincess5454]

@@kathykaura7219 This is very true for me as well.

[@michaelz9892]

Happy this wasn't a scam to get me to buy something. Thank you.

[@timwolf5742]

It may not be a scam but it does SUGGEST you buy her book "The 5 Second Rule: Transform Your Life, Work, and Confidence With Everyday Courage".

[@OmerAsh]

​@@timwolf5742 Where in the video does she promote her book?

[@mellymouse72]

Me too lol

[@ShintogaDeathAngel]

@@OmerAsh there’s a link in the description ;)

[@randomgeometry8240]

I'm excited to have a panic attack!

[@linkay326]

Lol!! This is great! 😍🤣

[@samyang6306]

😄😄😄😄😁😁😁

[@marenzita71]

So great..I’m with you..

[@westernpigeon]

😂😂😂🙌

[@jjaytroche123]

🤣🤣🤣

[@Kids.world.havefunlearning]

🌸 Summary: 1. 5 Second Rule ( to disturb your mind and change the focus from fear to the anchor thought) 2. Anchor Thought ( an image that makes you excited about what will happen after you do the thing that you're gonna do) 3. Reframe fear into excitement ( and this happens directly after applying step number 2)

[@jonashassel5404]

THE GOSPEL OF THE WORD OF ALMIGHTY GOD "the last age in which God saves man from the destruction of this old world" "WHAT is the INFLUENCE of DARKNESS?". ... (The so-called "influence of darkness" is the influence of Satan's deception, corruption, bondage, and control over people; Satan's influence is an influence that threatens death. How can you escape from the influence of darkness after can you have faith in God? When you pray sincerely to God, you turn your heart completely to Him, and at this point the Spirit of God touches your heart. If people cannot put into practice the words of God, if they are always trying to deceive Him, acting indifferent to Him, and not believing in His existence--all these people are living under the influence of darkness. Those who are not liberated, who are always controlled by some things, and are unable to give their hearts to God those who are under the bondage of Satan who live with imminent death. Those who are careless and not serious in their practice of truth, and do not seek to meet the will of God, instead only seeking to satisfy their own flesh, are also people living under the influence of darkness, shrouded by death. All those who cannot sincerely love God, who do not seek to attain the truth, and who do not focus on changing their dispositions are people who live under the influence of darkness.) The Almighty said The SO-CALLED "influence of darkness" is the INFLUENCE of DECEPTION, CORRUPTION, BANDAGE, and CONTROL of SATAN on PEOPLE; SATAN'S INFLUENCE is an INFLUENCE that heralds DEATH. ☀️😪 ALL WHO LIVE UNDER SATAN'S COVERAGE WILL CERTAINLY DIE. ☀️ HOW CAN YOU ESCAPE from the INFLUENCE of DARKNESS AFTER YOU HAVE FAITH in GOD? When you PRAY SINCERELY to GOD, you TURN YOUR HEART COMPLETELY to Him, and at this point GOD'S SPIRIT TOUCHES your HEART.🙏 You become READY to GIVE YOURSELF COMPLETELY to Him, and at this MOMENT, you have ESCAPED from the INFLUENCE of DARKNESS. If EVERYTHING a MAN does is that which PLEASES GOD and is in ACCORDANCE with His REQUESTS, he is a MAN WHO LIVES by His WORDS of GOD and UNDER His CARE and PROTECTION. ☀️🙏 If people can't put God's words into practice, if they always try to deceive Him, act without enthusiasm for Him, and don't believe in His existence---all these people are living under the influence of of darkness ☀️ People who have not received God's salvation live under Satan's control; that is, they all live under the influence of darkness. Those who do not believe in God live under Satan's domain: Even those who believe in the existence of God may not be living in His light, because those who believe in Him may not really live according to His words nor be able to submit to God. ☀️ Man is limited in believing in God, and because he knows nothing about God, he still lives according to old rules, in empty words, in a life that is dark and uncertain, without being completely purified by God nor did He fully possess it. In fact, although it goes without saying that those who believe in God may still be under its influence, because they do not have the work of the Holy Spirit. ☀️ Those who have NOT RECEIVED GOD'S GRACE or MERCY and those who CANNOT SEE the WORK of the HOLY SPIRIT ALL LIVE UNDER the INFLUENCE of DARKNESS, and MOST, so are PEOPLE who ONLY ENJOY GOD'S GRACE but do NOT KNOW Him . IF a PERSON BELIEVES in GOD but SPENDS MOST of his ENTIRE LIFE LIVING UNDER the INFLUENCE of DARKNESS, this PERSON'S EXISTENCE has LOST SIGNIFICANCE---and why even mention people who don't believe that God exists ? ALL those who CANNOT ACCEPT GOD'S WORK, or ACCEPT GOD'S WORK but CANNOT RESPOND to HIS REQUESTS, are PEOPLE WHO LIVE UNDER the INFLUENCE of DARKNESS. Only THOSE WHO DESIRE to OBTAIN the TRUTH and can RESPOND to GOD'S REQUESTS will RECEIVE BLESSINGS from Him, and only they will ESCAPE from the influence of DARKNESS. Those who are NOT FREE, who are always CONTROLLED by some THING, and who CANNOT GIVE THEIR HEART to GOD are PEOPLE UNDER SLAVERY to SATAN who LIVE with imminent DEATH. ☀️😪 Those who are NOT FAITHFUL in their OWN DUTIES, NOT FAITHFUL to GOD'S INSTRUCTIONS, and DO NOT PERFORM their DUTIES in the CHURCH are PEOPLE WHO LIVE in the INFLUENCE of DARKNESS. Those who deliberately INTERFERE with CHURCH-LIFE, who deliberately START STRICT BETWEEN their BROTHERS, or FORM SMALL GROUPS PEOPLE WHO LIVE IN THE DEEPER INFLUENCE OF DARKNESS, in SLAVERY to SATAN. 😪 Those who do not have a NORMAL RELATIONSHIP with GOD, who always have DEADLY DESIRE, who always WANT TO DELAY, and NEVER ASK TO CHANGE THEIR DISPOSITIONS are PEOPLE LIVING UNDER the INFLUENCE of DARKNESS. Those who are CARELESS and NOT SERIOUS in their EXERCISE of the TRUTH, and do NOT SEEK to RESPOND to the WILL of GOD, INSTEAD ONLY SEEK to PLEASURE their OWN FLESH, are also PEOPLE LIVING UNDER the INFLUENCE of DARKNESS, OVERWHELMED by DEATH. 😪☀️ Those who commit perversion and deception when working for God, who are hasty in dealing with God, who deceive God, and who always plan for themselves are people who live under the influence of darkness. ALL THOSE WHO CANNOT LOVE GOD SINCERELY, WHO DO NOT SEEK to ACHIEVE the TRUTH, and do NOT FOCUS on CHANGING their DISPOSITIONS are PEOPLE who LIVE UNDER the INFLUENCE of DARKNESS. ☀️🙏 From "Flee From the Influence of Darkness, and God Will Gain You" Fulfillment of "When I looked up, someone handed me a book wrapped in a scroll. I opened it and I read on both sides the prayers, lamentations, and curses." (Ezekiel 2:9-10). ... "His garment was stained with blood. He was called the "Word of God" (Rev. 19:13). The kingdom He brought down and set up in the highest in the sky so that it can occupy His creation in the universe and engrave on it the entirety of His Holy name "THE CHURCH OF ALMIGHTY GOD" 💐 fulfillment of (Mat. 16:18) "And I say as for you, you are Peter, on top of this rock I will build my Church, that even the power of death will not prevail over it.". ... and "The Letter to the Church in Philadelphia" (Rev. 3:7-13). ... And fulfillment of "The New Jerusalem" 💫 "The Spirit enveloped me, and the angel led me to the top of a very high mountain. He showed Me Jerusalem, the Holy City, coming down from heaven from God." (Rev.:7-13). ... " For the time has come in the house of God for the beginning of judgment in the house of God." (1 Peter 4:17). ... It is fulfilled that God Himself is our Pastor in (Rev. 7:17) 💐 "For the Lamb in the midst of the throne will be their PASTOR. He will lead them to springs of life-giving water; and God will wipe away the tears from their eyes" 📩 Calling and leading the sheep of God to His glorious Throne "THE CHURCH OF ALMIGHTY GOD"💐 to submit again to His authority so that He will continue to teach, guide and protect even in plague, famine and wild animals will not be moved by it and completely win this final battle with the big red dragon! "They say with a loud voice, "Salvation comes from the Lamb, and from our God who sits on the Throne!" (Rev.7:10). ... and it will be fulfilled that will be established above the sky/KZbin in (Isaiah 2: 2 / 9:6) "On the Last Day, the mountain on which Jehovah's temple stands will stand out above all the mountains. All nations will flock there. " . . . "For a baby boy is born to us. The rule will be given to him; and he shall be called Wonderful Counselor, Almighty God, Eternal Father, Prince of Peace." 💌📨

[@ronbarton7799]

Thanks for the synopsis

[@abbyyung3098]

what about fear of vomiting?

[@pennyandfishy7241]

​@@abbyyung3098 hypnosis is a good tool for vomiting phobia

[@apnwu369]

what if you have aphantasia?

[@andricmonika1]

Had anxiety for years, got to the point where it is so exausting to do everyday things. This is so good, one video that actually helps. Thank u Mel tons...genious stuff.

[@HerbsCureHerpes]

Dr. Aloha has the permanent Herbal Remedy for any form/type of Autism, Herpes simplex virus. STI and terminal diseases within just days of usage. kzbin.info/door/_YFEEZEr1BxGkNg1d4vqww 🌸🇺🇸

[@elizabethwilk9615]

Keep on practicing you might need a low grade med before it all gets better or there’s up and downs to panic and anxiety

[@ericdumont610]

@Christina Megan what nonsense.🤣🤣🤣

[@trailerparkboys3390]

Try read the bible! Maby it helps u mentaly making u stronger

[@vilmabakke6739]

I can’t sit in a quiet car, cinema, classroom, just any quiet place because I get so anxious of my stomach making noises…sounds weird ik, but it has ruined so much for me and I’m so exhausted of it. Starting school soon and I just don’t want to feel the anxiety of my stomach making noises 24/7…

[@barbaraz1618]

Thank you for the 5 second rule....it have literally changed my life. I have been using it for the past 6 months , testing it on things I have never been able to conquer and trying to make the rule fail. It has never.....never failed. I am in control on my life, I do things that I never even would have tried a year ago. I don’t procrastinate any more, I don’t say no to things I have never tried, I just forge ahead as if I have done them a million times. The sad part to this is I am 68 years old and it took me all this time to find out about the 5 second rule. Think what I could have achieved if I had known it at 25?? But nothing will stop me now...I’ll just need to make up for lost time. Again Thank You. You have made a difference in my life for the best. I now control my life not let other people or situations control it. You’re the Best!!

[@portia7854]

Thank you for this review! I'm glad to hear that it's working for you. I'm going to start implementing this in my life.

[@nardosshiferaw9958]

Remember, It’s never too late to do the right things. I’m glad you have made a difference in your life.

[@jerryanddiannedennison5644]

So glad for you! When God comes to take His children home, we will have eternity to do and enjoy ALL things we can't even imagine now. This is my anchor thought! We will even get to explore this Earth that we were born in! Thank You, my Father God!

[@golfgood456]

Hi baby how are you doing now i hope you are really doing good you are awesome looking at you baby makes happy when I look at your picture it is beyond my imagination that a creature like you really exist like a rose you make the garden so beautiful You are a diamond to any man that have eyes to see goodness of a womanhood Baby am Ben easy going person very understandable Am a civil engineer and a contractor I work at so many places like Asia Europe and Africa I love art craft and I write music I like ideal people when I see your picture am impress I want a good woman that understand what real love is all about who will understand me and perfectly be for me So we can build our world strong enough to care for each other I want you to be mine and I hope to hear from you soonest thanks

[@ilikemusic3433]

OMG! I am literally crying because I just used your technique and it actually worked. Me and my mom we’re thinking that I was having panic attacks or developing anxiety but we didn’t know from what. I’ve been sick from school for nine days and I’ve been nervous about going back and I don’t know why and I found your video and I tried your technique and it’s a miracle. Thank you!

[@simrah1633]

1. 5 second rule - countdown from 5 seconds 2. Anchor thought - create a contextual thought to keep you focused 3. Reframe thought from fear to excitement

[@siania001]

hahahah

[@TheWoundedHealer1111]

Thank you. You explained it better than this video that I am about to thumbs down.

[@KuyaJessTV]

At first I have fear on leaving comments on KZbin videos but after I watched this I am now excited to leave comments! Thank you

[@uncrustable9923]

I wish my fears were this little, no offense in glad for you tho

[@khantasticzarak6289]

What kind of fear that is😂😂

[@RHJIHR34JI]

same fear i too had

[@ericblair54]

I'm 73 and I used to be fearless. Now, I fear everything, every situation.

[@ogeo.8966]

What caused the change in both of you?

[@Hunterslife315]

I wouldn't say you fear everything or certain type of thing. I think being in your 70s plus you paid your dues growing up. You did what your body was able to but now you're older and know your limits. That's why ppl retire is to live their best moments. Your not in your teens or even 40s anymore. I know the feeling. I know my limits my body or the law will let me get away with lol.

[@suziegriffith]

Are you listening to Fox News?

[@ericblair54]

@@ogeo.8966 Prescribed drugs, sorry, medications. Benzodiazepines.

[@ericblair54]

@@suziegriffith ?????????

[@intheblueocean]

A few months ago I had the epiphany that every time I was so scared to do something, for example driving is one, I have actually always survived! I now try to be thankful and acknowledge the moments each day that scare me and I survive, and I feel stronger after each challenge.

[@gregoryfriston7091]

Yeah, fear keeps you alert and enables you to survive. One of the things you don't get frightened by is likely to be what will kill you, out of the blue. Healthy fear keeps you alive.

[@johannaalexander2009]

That's really powerful to read & thank you. I loved driving & 9 years ago, fear took over & and Satan stole my liberty by making me fearful of driving my car. I so want to overcome this. Maybe I'll get another car & create a new beginning combined with what has been advised in this post. Any positivity is welcome 🙏

[@APOLLINAIREBARTHOLOMIEU]

Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.

[@elizabethwilliams6651]

Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!

[@patriaciasmith3499]

Yes, dr.larks I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.

[@Jennifer-bw7ku]

I wish they were readily available in my place. Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone. He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.

[@elizabethwilliams6651]

Is he on instagram?

[@patriaciasmith3499]

Yes he is. dr.larks

[@Anastasia-np1mj]

Well I'm very afraid of flying. So I took your 5 4 3 2 1 tool and your anchor idea. I managed a 3 hour flight. Thank you so much for this inspiration and insight. There are no words to describe how grateful I am.

[@efisgpr]

Anastasia WOW!!!!!!

[@flyingsoul7147]

Incredible. Youll make through it

[@richygambs321]

It didnt work for me when I flew.

[@shizzle1903]

That’s great. Happy for you

[@godanddevil.5331]

DOLLAR SHOULD RISE

[@lat5312]

im gonna try this with driving, i get so nervous and my heart rate gets up to 160 bpm which is crazy! but i always had that vision of going to my favorite places in town and be fully present and so grateful for this little ride. wish me luck

[@zouzoufilghorba2150]

I used to feel the same few years ago but had made a lot of progress. You should watch some youtube videos: How to overcome the fear of driving. Good luck!

[@tonygombas491]

Hope everything worked out for you and all went well .

[@natnatalie1517]

How are you doing, I'm currently afraid of driving right now. Don't know what exactly triggered it but I'm not exactly happy about it. I feel like it's affecting my everyday life.

[@lat5312]

@@natnatalie1517 I’m still trying to get better, thank you for asking! But the best strategies i found so far is to drive at off-peak hours since it will give you the freedom to drive with very few cars around. I also just found out that i have caffeine sensitivity which makes my symptoms and my anxiety so much worse when driving so i must avoid it at all cost. And i keep taking very short trips at least once a week as an “exposure therapy” and it actually boosts my confidence every time. I’m not sure if my fear is due to a past event, but what I’m sure about is my main fear of driving with cars around, i get very self conscious when i see how they’re illegally over-speeding while i’m driving just at the speed limit or a bit less and I get scared of making them mad because I’m driving “slow”. I know I’m doing everything right and i shouldn’t be too stressed out like that, maybe i need to be conscious of my negative self talk or my inner thoughts in general. I hope we will overcome it this year! Let me know for any updates, i would love to share our progress every now and then.

[@SaB_a_Azeem]

@@zouzoufilghorba2150 I hope you're doing oka now - Im facing a similar situation - it's partly PTSD from a panic attack I got on a Highway once three years ago. Have not driven on an open road since.

[@shellydupre4693]

I realized that fear is at the root of all of my problems in my life. Fear is a huge issue. The Bible also says fear not more then anything else. 365 times. This is a great video!

[@deutschmitpurple2918]

True 👍👍👍

[@vijayvijay4123]

But Buddha says craving/desire is the root of all problems.

[@blueshoes5145]

@@vijayvijay4123 well anything done more than necessarily will be bad/destructive. If you don’t have any cravings or desire you’ll achieve nothing in life. And plus you loose interest in life, cause nothing is gonna excite you anymore. So Buddha just means don’t over so it.

[@vijayvijay4123]

@@blueshoes5145 Actually I find Buddha uncomfortable. I prefer Epicurus, his western counterparts who addresses fear rather than craving. Craving is all about addiction.

[@10Poida]

Godly fear is wholesome, not morbid. It motivates one to be firm for what is right, not to compromise by doing wrong. It is not like the fear associated with the ancient Greek deity Phobos, described as a sinister god that inspired terror. And it is not like the fear associated with the Hindu goddess Kali, who at times is depicted as bloodthirsty, using corpses, snakes, and skulls as ornaments. Godly fear attracts; it does not repel. It is intertwined with love and appreciation. Thus, godly fear draws us to God.​-Deuteronomy 10:12, 13; Psalm 2:11.

[@andys3035]

I have a fear of people judging me even though I get along with pretty much everybody. Sometimes when I talk to people, when they make facial expressions, my mind automatically goes into "this person is thinking I'm an idiot" thoughts.

[@SaifaliSingh-m1w]

How do you know that they are judging you this is mind reading thoughts The problem is that you think of yourself that you are an idiot The problem is this if you think good about yourself then no matter what other people are thinking

[@lcl1016]

I can’t thank you enough. I was terrified of doing a speech in front of my colleagues yesterday and nothing was helping me. I felt completely revved up and afraid. It was horrible. I then listened to your advice and kept saying to myself that what I was feeling was excitement, not fear and that’s when I even started smiling as beforehand I was withdrawing and wanted to run away. I did really well in my speech. I kept on chatting and smiling with my colleagues beforehand so by the time I needed to present, I was nowhere near as revved up as I thought I was going to be. Thank you so much. ❤

[@artix86]

Well done! :)

[@halleywhite7503]

I’m going to try this with driving 😆 , I’m fighting driving anxiety….. and I’m going to win this fight😘 thank you universe for being me here😘😘

[@caimenbussen]

Omg I had this fear last year. It was so bad. I’m so sorry you’re going through that

[@nigarafandiyeva1190]

I have this for years now. Wonder if it helps you. I hope it does 😊 good luck!

[@JSGRanks]

I swear to god this is the most important video I’d ever watch. I went from being afraid of talking to my crush to being excited to talk to my crush. You changed my life.

[@AmeliaDevitaDixon]

In my very first time flying, the plane went thru turbulence in the clouds. I started thinking it's fun, like a rollercoaster ride and enjoyed it instead of being fearful.

[@thementalmusician2756]

I know all too well what it's like to be emotionally paralyzed by fear. As suggested here I also found that reframing my fear into something positive helped me to completely transform my life. Now I'm able to face fearful situations without nearly as much trepidation. Fantastic video.

[@MrHaggyy]

Despite the control over your mind, with a strong body and good coordination you can raise the tolerance for the well-aware state. It's not that you won't be afraid of a rollercoaster anymore, if you were before. But with a stronger body it's much less of an effort to keep tension. Less effort means less stress for your brain and you wont feel as frightened. If your body gets used to a state of agitation the signal to your brain might be so weak that it get's ignored as long as you don't bother too much.

[@leximohamed9532]

I'm fighting fear too

[@leximohamed9532]

@@MrHaggyy thank you

[@ruso3511]

Thank you so much! I managed a 2 hour flight without medications first time in my life with an anchor thought of landing. I am so grateful!

[@jamesespora7842]

I don't know where I have been these past few years and that I just bumped into this video. I am not the type of person who will put effort into putting up a comment but I want to put out a huge shout-out to Mel (wherever you are now) that you ROCK! This really works and I hope people take a deep dive and really understand what you are sharing. This is life-changing! Thank you so much Mel and more blessings to you!

[@dvskweu4496]

Im 16 years old going on 17 , never, ever in my life, have i ever met someone as talented and smart as you, i had social anxiety before, but i have been better, and im making progress, now that i learnt from you, i can be even more better, and overcome my fears and negative thoughts, Thank you.

[@diannholland]

Never in the HISTORY of Calming down, has ANYONE calmed down by being TOLD to Calm down.

[@suededogs9670]

RIGHT ON 👍

[@xenosayork2265]

This isn't saying to 'calm down'. You should still feel shaky, sweaty, tense etc. But If you can find a reason to be excited instead of anxious, your mind will accept it because your body is already in that physical state.

[@beyourselfnocomparison4709]

But this one works she's the goat of calm relaxing and meditation

[@palmtemple]

Once my dad and I were in Vietnam. These scooter taxi dudes were harassing us to tack a ride with them. I was a little pissed off and told him it wasn't going to happen. He started screaming " you calm down, you calm down "in a thick vietnamese accent. My dad and I started laughing, it was so ironic and filled with passionate comedy, that we ended up getting a ride with them. Nowadays it's a family joke between us that if either of us start getting testie we are reminded in vietnamese accent to " you calm down!".

[@brandonwimberly2031]

D Holland I’m sorry but that statement was soo funny 😂😂😂 but true

[@Squishmallowking124]

I have been married 10 years this June. 2022. I have 2 kids and have struggled with this for so long. My husband sent me your link and I have such a good feeling now! Thank you soooooo much for this advice! Thank u for giving ME a chance to get my life back! Much live from Missouri! ❤️

[@weizhouwayne9490]

Go to 4:25. Then it flows: 1. 5 second rule - countdown from 5 seconds 2. Anchor thought - create a contextual thought to keep you focused 3. Reframe thought from fear to excitement

[@JessadventuresOC]

I can't believe how much this worked for me!! I was able to speak in front of a group of people at my child's school, I have always struggled with public speaking so this was a big deal for me and I am so grateful to have come across this video.

[@jockmaraisasmr5700]

This is genius. I was nervous for something I must do for school tomorrow, but nah! I’m hella excited! I know I’m good at this and I’m passionate about this. I’m so ready to show off my amazing skills and to change the lives of others for the better with my knowledge!!! I got this!!

[@roseskyschmolesky]

yayyyy . Did it go well ?

[@jockmaraisasmr5700]

roseskyschmolesky yes! It went amazingly well. I got an “outstanding” on BOTH of my evaluations! I’m so happy!!!

[@anna4lease587]

Would it work for a real scary situation !not so sure ?

[@shakiralubbe3354]

Yay

[@Poetry4Peace]

Daamn YES THATS WAY TO DO IT, sometimes ive had these thoughts when i do something that is anxiety producing and afterwards i feel like the shit, now with this i will put it into PRACTICE WHEN I GET BAK OHT THERE BABYY

[@kearcecrafted6275]

I've been using this technique for years. As a former party animal, I tell myself, "This is just like being high, and some people pay good money for this feeling." I actually convinced a friend who was terrified of flying that she was excited not scared. Today she no longer needs medication to fly :)

[@AtIF4307]

You have no idea how much my life changed following you. I have overcome my fear of speaking in public expressing my self and conveying my opinions i am living a much much happy and relaxed life now thanks mel # from very far in a mountainous region of Pakistan 💓💓 live long 👍🍻

[@andrewlcontreras8638]

I really want to change my life and overcome public speaking as well. Want to live happy and relax as you have done! 💪

[@ayezaabbasi5599]

How did you do it ?

[@sunnydaze2359]

@@ayezaabbasi5599 you just go into whatever you’re going to be afraid of & tell yourself this is going to be exciting I’m really excited about this. Your brain will believe what you tell it . Try it it really works.. worked for me it can work for anyone.

[@godanddevil.5331]

DOLLAR SHOULD RISE

[@ganapathibhat888]

@@ayezaabbasi5599 Live according the nature. Nature has got the Power of eradicating fear. Nature gives us the opportunity to live fearless.

[@johnbragg7794]

I have been a therapist for many years and have found this technique to be the most effective for my own anxiety whether flying or giving a presentation to a group of community leaders.

[@naveedaaron1565]

Hi. I have been dealing fear issue for six years, I couldn't fly because of fear. I was praying and asking Lord to help me. Just now found your video overcoming fear. I m so excited, I am gonna travel soon. God bless you

[@raxacorical5868]

Naveed Aaron good luck! You can do this :)

[@lexilouwhoo]

Thank you for finally analyzing that “happy thoughts” isn’t good advice and is something that doesn’t work for everybody.

[@ScribaeEducantum]

“If you make your internal life a priority, then everything else you need on the outside will be given to you and it will be extremely clear what the next step is.”

[@tenajagibson2581]

💜

[@mmaries9052]

Love this ❤️🦋🌍

[@DarkandRadiant]

Agreed!!!!🎉🎉

[@claudiacupe6063]

I’ve started a new business and I feel so fearful to speak to people because If someone ask me a question and I’m not prepared to answer them I don’t know what I’m talking about. That’ is what’s frustrating. So now just look for forward to the outcome. Thank you so much Mel ❤

[@sounds121]

Due to my stage fear I decided not to participate in the seminar but after watching this video I finally want to give it a go. Thank you mam

[@fredsmith4585]

My lifelong battle with intense panic attacks and suffocating depression disappeared when I stopped caffeine and alcohol. My joy has returned and I feel like myself. I haven’t even started working out yet but I finally feel like I am physically able. I’m thinking that will put me over the moon ecstatic with life and myself. Before this it would have been impossible to think myself out of a panic attack….the physical fear is GONE.

[@simonemccormack9671]

Same! I found when I gave up caffeine and alcohol, my anxiety is a bit better.

[@SK-gs8vs]

I was with you all the way until you said "I tell myself that I'm excited." I have done this for years (I'm a neurotherapist so this isn't new for me). Here's the problem, you are speaking of simple fears. Someone whose fear is not complicated by other associations. So for the minority of people who fear public speaking for no other reason than they fear public speaking, this will work well. However, for someone whose fears are complicated by, say, a history of public shame or humiliation, or public ridicule in childhood for instance in a classroom, this fear is more complex. The more associations, the more complex. While your technique will still have some impact, it won't likely "fix" the situation, and for some may even backfire as in all the studies the demonstrate how positive affirmations can make symptoms worse because you're lying to your brain and your brain knows it. This is a great technique for some, but for most more is needed.

[@junewoods1815]

Totally agree with you about “lying” to your brain! Anxiety can be so much more complicated.

[@nathmartins3154]

SAME! The video lost me in the "I tell myself I'm excited". I've tried that hundreds of times and it usually just makes me feel worse because deep down I KNOW I'm not excited, I know I actually just want to run away

[@imawinner4451]

@@nathmartins3154 ofcoure but just talking to ur self that in excited will not work for u .bcz u said here whenever u r saying it it makes u more worst why bcz ur brain accepted that ur not exited but u are anxious so here is what u want to do is before saying to ur self do a breathing alteast for 10 minutes n create a feeling u are confident u are smart etc.. Keep practice untill u achieve it but u hv to practice everyday at least 10 mins in each hour n one more when u doing this nvr doubt ur self why its not working im still anxious no nvr think so u will get the result slowly positive affirmation will nvr makes ur anxiety worse i'm a great eg I was a person like I was always in anxiety unknown fear but after practicing breathing n positive affirmation gradually changed me still I hv anxiety fear but I can control myself now for me it's a huge achivment I hope it will work for u all the best

[@ggcat2266]

I agree. As a neurotherapist, what do you do or suggest?

[@deliamartinex2710]

I agree!!!! I am afraid of driving over freeway over passes. I live in Houston and I avoid them like the plague. I have forced myself to drive over high over passes and I have after started being afraid of driving over normal that I was able to drive freeway over pass. I know is irrational but I am to the point that I just can't. I am 57 and after I go thru an episode of encountering a high overpass like if I am on the freeway and I am not that familiar with the freeway..I force myself to drive ..have no choice I sm already there..I feel chest pains..even after hours..I still feel the pain..it takes a little bit for me to be calm..and what happens is I make a notation and I don't drive or go to that area again!!! I am afraid because I don't want to cause an accident so is better if I don't put myself in those situations. Now if someone else is driving I don't care I am fine.

[@mahdiyehtavakolinia6349]

I am 43 years old and have never been able to drive because I have a fear of driving. however, I want to start driving with this technique and I will definitely come back here to write a comment for you and share my experience. Thank you Mel

[@fatih8675]

We support you

[@RulerOfEleven]

I just want to say I’m truly touched because I’ve never heard someone explain so descriptively and on point word for word it was perfect, I’m 21 and I never thought I’d hear a person explain anxiety the way she just did, this video gave me hope that I might actually be able to life a joyful life and not have anxiety consuming me 24/7 thank you so much for making the tine to make this video it means the world to me and I’m sure you’ve touched a lot of other people watching this. Thanks again and wish me luck!

[@LilithsOwn303]

Finally someone who says they have a solution for your problem and also GIVES IT to you!! Great, thank you so much for not letting us hang in there for some expensive solutions you might have on another clip on a cassette we can buy, or not telling us we have to inlist in some equally expensive training program. You simply give it for FREE and with it you re-instate my faith in people! Thank you ever so much! And yes of course I will try it out. - 5 4 3 2 1 - anchor thought and - change anxiety in exitement - Big thanks!

[@Gabrux22]

I'm on my job training right now and I'm really afraid of public speaking, I'm going to use this secret

[@enriquebencosme6726]

Hello... I'd like to know your experience after using this technique

[@kmramos021]

Had a panic attack days ago before I fly to meet my bf for the first time. It seems my body was misinterpreting my feelings of excitement to fear/anxiety. I was having some floaty and anxious feelings a day before my flight and when I tried this, I legit burst into tears and I feel the anxiety is gone. Thank you so much. I needed this sense of calm and feel rightful feeling of excitement for this trip

[@Meow-ks3dj]

WHOAAAAA!!!! I was watching this video!!! The second you said “you could turn your fear into excitement they cause the same thing”. I’m afraid of bridges bec of heights. I leaned on the window with excitement looking out into the ocean 🌊 I LITTERLY felt excited instead of fear! Thank you so much!!!! This helped me take advantage of my fear and I hope it will help my other fears🤗🏆💖your a genius

[@mindfulnessrelaxation4937]

To the person reading this, remember that everything begins with you. You are Light, You are Peace, You are Harmony.

[@voiceofreason2691]

Thank😊you!

[@yondelangculu8117]

Thank you 🙌👏🙏

[@godanddevil.5331]

DOLLAR SHOULD RISE

[@donnieheanan8810]

Fear=failure, fear =control, fear is not your God, peace is the answer, faith

[@donnieheanan8810]

@@GameRunnerd nice,

[@sunnylee8662]

Felt an instant change in my brain after watching this. Thank you so much for this

[@wizzkid051960]

I love it. I think I have subconsciously done it before, I just tried it and it works. God bless you and all that battle with fear and anxiety.

[@a.charlie2161]

Thank you Mel, even though this might sound strange I refrained my thoughts of fear into existement. My husband is having a liver biopsy soon which will finally determine what illness he suffers from - I have been searching for an answer for the last 5- 6 years. Instead of feeling fear I am excited about the access to doctors that are specialized in this field, I am also excited that there is no more guesswork on my part. Thank you for this process it is something that goes into my gratitude journal. ❤️

[@pbose698]

wow you are one of the great self help gurus other than tony ,ferris and a few more who really want to help everyone Thanks

[@MazDelaCerna]

yessss exactly what I needed to hear at this point of my life! i just quit mu job ans took the leap to chase my dreams!

[@mohammadbhojani2376]

Maz Dela Cerna takes a lot of courage to do that . Bravo and best of luck !

[@MazDelaCerna]

Mohammad bhojani thanks so much! Theres never a time where we are 100% ready! taking that risk and blogging/vlogging of my journey so lets see how this goes!

[@mohammadbhojani2376]

What was the tipping point for you ?

[@MazDelaCerna]

Ambitious Survival i blogged about it... its called .. I'll do it when Im ready: but Will i ever be ready? its on my website and or fb page The fitness freedom flow 😊

[@mohammadbhojani2376]

Maz Dela Cerna Thx for the inspiration 😊

[@jojanpinilla5572]

I'm afraid for many things in my life, but the key to overcome these fears is acting. If I never face my fears I'll never enjoy my life.

[@hamburger5888]

I saw her other video and saw people's comments that went 'Mel you're the best! Before my life was a mess and now that I've watched your video my life is the best!' I totally thought it was sarcasm, but now I see I was wrong

[@misslmm8656]

Thanks Mel! I was having severe fear of studying for the California Bar exam namely a multiple choice section that I completely bombed last time. This stems from being a kid and always getting anxiety during multiple choice exams. I signed up to retake it and every time I am on my way to the library, my stomach gets tight thinking of opening the book again and preparing for it. I have had a knotted stomach for a week. I am now going to try this method to relieve that stress so that I can properly prepare and conquer this fear once and for all.

[@suzimanipur2983]

On the other side of fear, there is greatness!!

[@merin797]

I am almost 58. I just push through fear and whatever inimidates me. I met a nice man today. Yep. I can be that easy. Good people are out there, closer than you think.❤

[@RajSri]

Thank you so much for this! I was scared to take my driving test for almost a year and seeing this talk, booked my road test , changed my fear to excitement and passed it!!

[@francinafortuinfortuin]

Well done !!!!!

[@peacebeuponyou7283]

How can i be excited about loosing a beloved one 😢 things such death and separation we can’t feel excited about them .

[@ILikeReadingTho]

I am tricking my brain by my brain. Oh poor brain! I am losing brain..

[@jawadazeem8185]

Erkhes Maddox lol. :-D

[@annastazia1877]

Erkhes Maddox lol 😁

[@zizizf]

Erkhes Maddox lol

[@annastazia1877]

Erkhes Maddox lol, u r so funny.

[@TheDubroots]

Hahahaha I'm going to say that to my self next time I have anxiety. That comment helped me control my thoughts.

[@MQWTY]

I’m excited when someone breaks into my home. I’ll try this next time I try to sleep by myself in the house.

[@shadeenanglin851]

Do you really need help??? I can recommend you to the same very strong powerful spiritualist who render help to people all over the world any kind of wish you desire, eg money,wealth, lottery, love, job, promotion,business success, protection,etc🙏🙏🙏..

[@shadeenanglin851]

Message him

[@shadeenanglin851]

Babaokauukpa

[@shadeenanglin851]

@gmail

[@gif24gt60]

She's so right. Fear can be immobilizing.

[@christychristy7962]

I’ve always said that my mind confuses excitement and anxiety.

[@lettycardenas4091]

Christy Christy same here almost as if it can’t tell the difference

[@manjularamasamy9922]

I find this video while having severe anxiety attack few times since morning but this technique really calm down myself. Thank you very much for guidance 🙏

[@ginaontolan7546]

Me too...my panic attack will happened during morning...

[@MukhlisKhalilullah]

well you just mentioned anxiety in your comment, Sorry for replying but i want to explain something very important about anxiety, As you may have faced or experienced so many times that a fear which seemed to happen to you but that never happened and never existed. It only waisted your time and just it kept your brain constantly thinking and picturing the worse seen which was gong to be existed. Like you had some problems with one of your close friend and you were thinking that my friend can reject or quit me. But that never happened. So never over think or pre-think let the things come the way they are. Thank you

[@lynnmiller5034]

May I ask what your anchor though is for panic attacks?

[@lukebyron1193]

I thought i was going to have to pay for it.. This is the first time i was proved wrong. Thanks for sharing this. Youre really helping your fellow brothers and sisters here on Earth.

[@janeschore1586]

Like mels hair do!😊

[@TheJobieadobe]

The 5 second rule is amazing! Now I'm not afraid to eat food I've dropped on the floor!

[@kaylasheppard7746]

😂😂😂

[@anna4lease587]

😅😂😃😄😂👍

[@andymilne310]

I’ve always been told 10 second rule on food🧐

[@TheJobieadobe]

@@andymilne310 turns out it's only 5 after that it's covered in germs

[@ThePowerBunny]

My anxiety has increased exponentially over the past four years. I feel like i missed out on my prime young adult years and every time i think of doing things different, changing, doing something, not leaving people hanging because im too embarrassed too let them know i cant make it. And im still acting like a coward. Tonight i need to change. I need to step into that which I'm most afraid of

[@MrHonest59]

Embrace your panic with love and dont let it escape. It might sound silly but it really works over time. I had panic attacs and know how you feel. Embrace it with love and say i love you. Stay and dont go.

[@seeniseeni9084]

When I face fear take a long breath, but fear =excitement conventional perception, thanks to mel robbins

[@nicholasrosa3948]

Ya know, this is really perfect advice and explains a thing I discovered that had worked for me before I was going to take a test in school. I would feel a bit anxious and nervous about taking the test because I studied so long and hard that I wanted desperately to do well. Despite the fact that I was nervous about potential failure or doing less than what I wanted to achieve, I would tell myself "You got this". It seems like the same concept that Mel makes when telling yourself "I'm excited". It becomes so apparent to me now why of all things, that works like magic to me too.

[@FredyValdez021]

It's amazing how most of this stuff I did sub consciously but didn't know i was doing it. Now that I know, I'm proud of myself and it's not the first time. Thank you for breaking it down for us

[@duncanmathers76]

I've been trying to explain fear and excitement to my 8 year old, and how they are the same, and this is why people make scary things. Thank you for this video, Mel!

[@queennoneya601]

Duncan. I stand corrected. Therapist might can help some people. Sounds like you dont have enough confidence in your childs ability to figure stuff out for himself.

[@godanddevil.5331]

DOLLAR SHOULD RISE

[@javieravergara3737]

So you'r raising a future sexual masochist. Congrats /s. He's not Even a teenager, he still need to know an understand a lot of new emotions growing up. Mixing emotions is hell and comon being a teenager. Don't start mesing his brain early age please. He need to learn and diferentiate the emotions firts of all

[@tearful28]

dude it works, i felt anxiety for a few hours now because im having a presentation but the 5-sec saved me

[@xSkysplitter777]

I have been using the 5 seconds rule my while life, I just do a little different. Instead of counting down from 5(which I used to count down from 3 when I was little), I just say, "in the name of Jesus" and I don't let fear stop me. I trust God and I know if I put everything in God's hands, I will see God's hands in everything! Philippians 4:13

[@elizabethwilson520]

Amen!🙂💗

[@heavenbound7]

1 John 4:7-8 KJV Bible

[@oonis.aucoix]

this is actually the law of attraction. calm yourself down by thinking about what you WANT rather than obsessing over a potentially horrible outcome. There's a part of your mind that actually can't distinguish reality from fantasy, so it thinks everything is real. that's why negative thoughts/memories alone trigger the fear response and simply imagining a favorable outcome can work wonders insofar as calming down. it takes a lot, though, to shift away from getting onto a runaway hamster wheel of terror and imagining a positive scenarios instead: we've all been trained to focus on danger our whole lives, and natural selection obviously favored the cautious caveman, so here we are all today - the fear stricken and neurotic ancestors of him.

[@scarletpeoni9347]

jay m are you saying it's not a good idea then as it got the deceased killed? lol that's so true, the mind cannot distinguish, if you practice LOA or positive affirmations and then stop your in for one hell of an unpleasant ride.

[@76marji]

💙Oonis Aucoix: "fear-stricken & neurotic" so perfectly describes me! thank-you for saying that it takes a LOT to shift away from the terror, so that i don't think it's just me.☮️

[@EtherealTempest]

@@scarletpeoni9347 Wonderful. That basically describes me, atm. I practiced "The Secret" for the better part of 8 yrs. I basically stopped because I got tired of constantly working on my thoughts & feelings, & I wasn't seeing the results I wanted. Well, fast forward 2 yrs, & after being depressed all that time, memories from unpleasant experiences & fears arose I thought I got passed. Now knowing the LOA scares me, & I have anxiety. I was preparing to move towards my dreams, & I was perfectly fine going about my life, but trying to "be positive" feels like a battle. If anyone knows how to break this cycle, PLEASE comment.

[@sharukhansalmankhan9167]

As a man thinks so does he become not ones but on a daily basis.....and as you know we experience almost 70,000 thoughts daily its not easy to get a chance to be positive always but we can try to create a positive future with a positive thoughts and feeling in present moment.

[@Gealamusic]

Haha and nicely put

[@variant1855]

I was terrified to do a presentation (context: I’m quiet, sit in the corner, etc. etc.) anyway, I had to present in my history class with my friends and turned my lowkey debilitating fear into confidence and my teacher looked surprised lmao… That was my proudest moment in that class.

[@aisrael13]

Fear has held me back for 50 years. It always and will always win for the next 20.

[@adeelmasih7]

Now I’m waiting to welcome alot of fears that would approach me.

[@cozartlucas]

So I wake up in the middle of the night with a anxiety attack starting, and I tell myself I'm excited. That seems weird to me. I wish I could control my brain like a normal person.

[@ravenstillwaters5195]

Boy oh boy can I relate.

[@dalekdx]

I overcame this issue by doing two things. I bought a weighted blanket which immediately reduces my anxiety. I thought the idea of them as silly at first, until I found out it helps a lot of people. The second thing is more difficult and will take a while to master. Before when I went to bed with thoughts of something that made me anxious I would think about it over and over which only made it worse. I called it "circular thoughts" and it always prevented me from getting a good night sleep. So after learning to meditate half way decently, I started a new approach to deal with my issues falling asleep. First, I take in several deep breaths and slowly exhale. Then I count down from 20 and when I get to zero I try not to have any thoughts at all. I know this sounds impossible, but with practice it can be learned. Once I have muted the voice in my head random thoughts will come along and I acknowledge them and release them and quiet my mind again. Before it often took me hours to fall asleep and now it takes about 15 minutes. I hope this can be helpful to other people.

[@easyflow420galactus9]

For every fear comes strength maybe u not afraid maybe u just uncomfortable to accept change

[@easyflow420galactus9]

Change Ur mind set and the very thing u fear won't mind

[@paulapucko1447]

i'm currently going through a similar experience and i deal with them by counting, like Mel said, but i count to 100 or even 200 and then i think about how i'm going to be peaceful when the panic attack stops and how i'm going to overcome it again and how i'm going to be able to control it more and more everyday and it actually helps and i'm getting better day by day! i hope this helps :)

[@c.v9324]

this is really funny, today I felt a little "anxiety " I just changed my thoughts and said to myself I'm not scared I'm excited...totally changed my state and calmed myself and felt amazing that I realized this for myself. and now I'm seeing this video...pat myself on the back!

[@goodnews_adee]

Even without watching this video have been using every method she said to beat my fear and it have been working for me. For speech presentation , debate , talking to my boss addressing the most fear teacher in my school it has worked for me perfectly and am gonna continue to use this method 😌

[@purpleodyssey6850]

This cured my panic attacks

[@Laura-go7eq]

This is the first time I hear excitement and anxiety are the same thing. I definitely want to try this tecnique. I have a huge fear of other's judgement, I've never been able to overcome it. Especially fear of job interviews, I go in panic only to think about them. Can someone suggest me an anchor thought about job interview? Thank you

[@winnied87]

I'm dealing with similar triggers myself. When it comes to job seeking, I find it best when treating the interview as a casual conversation between likeminded professionals. You meet and discuss your common interests. Do a little research before interviews, but don't overrhink it. If personalities click, they will invite to join their team. However, to liberate from more stress, try a reverse job search method, i.e. approach employers and present your skills to them in a subtle way (not just saying: "Hey! I need a job!"). This method requires some research about companies of interest and structure. Once you list 20-30 companies, you grab the phone and talk. After 5-7 calls you will feel more confident and intrigued about the next companies. Once you catch their attention, they will invite you to an interview and you will feel more comfortable because you will know about them already and the conversation will mostly be a formality. Wish you success.

[@Lou-zj9gu]

Never doubt yourself you got it have faith

[@cutieoui7772]

That the interviewer doesnt really mind about you, they only mind themselves. And that the interviewer will find the bestest candidate for the job, so say something they can benefit in the company/what theyre searching for. Just act normal, just go with the flow, like a water on a river. Its gonna be okay. Look forward to the interview, It will be okay.

[@kerryfoster1]

Learn not to care what others think. No one has any right to judge you. Hold your head up and speak your mind. Look fear in the face, and bear down upon it. The world will be yours! Good luck!

[@sheilarose9278]

This is such a simple and effective formula. I especially love the visualizing your anchor thought and the breathing 5-4-3-2-1 countdown. I do notice a difference in my reaction to counting back and counting forward believe it or not. It's like my awareness shifts from inside my mind to all around me.

[@mrridikilis]

my revelation from this video was that you can control what you think. i've always known that i couldn't really control my feelings, and that i could, of course, control my behaviors/actions, but this idea about control my thoughts is key. i'm really excited about exploring this!

[@tomdudley6883]

I have been teaching the excitement/fear concept for years and using it myself and got a kick hearing you say it, I am now going to start incorporating the anchor thoughts, I see that as a powerful combo to implement with your 5-second rule, The book is great

[@edithbannerman4]

@Hello there, how are you doing this blessed day?

[@max8141]

I know that there's a lot of people that just watched this and said to themselves..." Yeah, but my fear is different", "My fear isnt as simple as public speaking" "I cant just adjust my anxiety and fear as easily as somebody going on stage". I know there are those people because I'm one of those people. For you people, just know that there's an anchor thought for EVERY problem. I've been panicky all day, all freaking day because of a particular issue. What did I do? Countdown from 5. Pick my anchor thought which was "I'm excited for a week from now when all this blows over and I will get back to normal, heck, maybe even 2 days from now". A lot of the times, anxiety sufferers such as myself have a fear over everything. So how do you address a fear that you can't put a finger on ? Or we have a fear over non-materialistic things. A fear of flying and a fear of public speaking I would consider to be materialistic. You can face that fear because you can DO that fear. You can fly tomorrow if you wanted. You can public speak tomorrow if you wanted. So how do you address fears that you cant just go outside and do? I have a fear of going crazy. I have a fear of saying the wrong thing to the wrong person. I have a fear of jail, I can't just get outside and go to jai- well.. I guess I could but.... You get where I'm going with this? So if you have a fear of things you cant just go do tomorrow, then countdown from 5 (maybe even do a little math problems after counting down, this helps access that part of the brain even more), think your anchor thought because there is an anchor thought for every problem, and get excited for that thought. I used the thought about a week from now and how this will all blow over, your mind in its current state might not think so but it always does blow over.

[@CSSymbiote]

max8141 Trying to think of an anchor for thought for when I go to watch the football (soccer). I always get anxious and swallow and feel,the need to gag. Any help?

[@pervezdaruwala1591]

Please try meditation ..yoga..deep breathing. Check out for any bio chemical issues in the body . I wish U all the bless. Ahu and Angel Blessings.

[@teacherdavid--eatplaylearn5013]

Thank you for this great sharing!😍 Blessing from Taiwan! 😇

[@stanbtsblackpinkmonastaxsu38]

What is an anchor thought???

[@floatysarah]

This was my thought Max8141, thanks for naming it. It would be good if Mel does a video for those sorts of fears, like saying wrong thing.

[@andthe2become1flesh93]

Funny because I thought being anxious was a good thing like anticipating a birthday party. I never understood until I first realized I was having panic attacks years ago... My wires get crossed now where I get scared when I feel excited. Glad a friend introduced me to this.

[@whatsapp.2717]

FEEDBACK APPRECIATED Be sure to contact the watsapp line above for more info and insight…

[@luvwings]

I have horrid sleep anxiety and insomnia. Last night when the anxiety started, I told myself its just excitement for the new life I’ll have when I can sleep and all the things I’ll be able to do. I slept through a professional fireworks show going on in the neighborhood. Wow!

[@tryonpete1973]

If you don't find a means of multiplying money, you will wake up one day to realise that the money you thought you had, has finished. Investment is key.

[@kombuchafigo7701]

I agree with you mate. Investment is the key to sustaining your financial longevity. And not just any investment but an investment with guaranteed return.

[@kombuchafigo7701]

"To earn more you are required to have a multiple diversified means of income", which is why Investment is an avenue of making more money once it's profitable.

[@kombuchafigo7701]

Most failures and loss on Investment usually happens when you invest without proper guide and the analysis of the profit and risk percentage of the Investment.

[@bandilempho1627]

@@kombuchafigo7701 So how do you get your proper guide and the analysis you mentioned? Because I have incurred huge losses while investing by myself

[@kombuchafigo7701]

@@bandilempho1627 it's safe to have an investment manager who has vast knowledge about Investment, to make you profits from your Investment on your behalf while you monitor the Investment growth.

[@TheIllerX]

First video in a long time I have found on youtube that actually says something new about fear and anxiety. This insight that fear and excitement are essentially the same thing and how to covert fear to exitement is both simple, useful and deep.

[@Heyy774]

I really have problem with going out alone, I Know that seems silly to most People (and a shame for me), I'm terrified of losing myself but trying hard to change. I arrived at a part of my life that realized: how much experiences did I lost just because fear? If you don't take chances, you don't change or Improve... Comfortable place is so good, but looking at long time, it kill you, your confidence and yourself. I'll try this method tomorrow. (Sorry my errors of Grammar, I don't speak English).

[@karlasanabria9103]

Your English is perfect! 😊

[@SannaNabi]

How are you now ?

[@mikeosborn3906]

The best thing I ever heard was mind picture replacement which does seem to work you see a picture of your fear and a picture of something you love then you reduce the fearful picture in size while enlarging the happy picture at same time

[@andrefierens3124]

@@STARLIGHT_KSA don't

[@STARLIGHT_KSA]

@@andrefierens3124 don’t what ?

[@atozedism]

Enlarge it where? This has to be done on a computer/phone?

[@mikeosborn3906]

@@atozedism in your mind !!!!

[@rammul7801]

I’m going through a change that’s scaring me. Watching this video only made me more agitated! I’m not sure there’s one technique that fits all. I’ll keep trying this out. My problem that what I’m fearing is something that will take me a full year to finish. It’s not a single or short event. Another thing is I don’t have the same physical feelings when I’m excited and when I’m afraid. Excited, I have butterflies, uplifted emotions, wanting to go forward, maybe some increased heartbeat. When I’m afraid, I’m hesitant, want to drop everything and leave, tight chest and short unsatisfying breath.