Men, We Miss You, Please Come Back! Signed: Your Women

[@arnieg8800]

What you describe here fits me perfectly. I am afraid of connection, afraid to be more virile and masculine, generally lost. Need to get my shit together asap.

[@arnieg8800]

@@milesmatheson1142 I have been alone for too long. At first I was really satisfied and then gradually felt worse and worse. People, by nature, cling for community and friendship.

[@sonnicjr]

Andrew Tate is your answer.

[@stephenkelly2648]

Your old world is dying and it scares you to death. Yeah it would be tragic if this glorious human experience were to disappear. The countries where traditional values are honored and respected people will flock to. The countries where this hedonic exhibitionism exists will die quickly. Nations are born stoic and die epicurean. Our society is so sick I don’t want to play the game anymore, I like my peaceful existence researching my intellectual interests and maintaining my physical health. I have been a loner since I was in high school, I used to feel so lonely. Now I look at other people who are stuck in the web of these insane relationships with people cheating on each other, being violent, and I am so happy that I somehow missed the train wreck.

[@j7220]

I could not have said it better myself

[@mokie2999]

I’ve started to affectionately refer to my dog as “shoshamin” even though I have no idea what this means! 😂

[@bully_hunter_4206]

Withdrawn from society? Nah. I just do shit for me now

[@michaelk19thcfan10]

Men have become more predatory because women reward that behavior. A man trying to be a gentleman is a fool in today's world.

[@j7220]

I’m afraid that is true

[@okshadowbannedjet7981]

I commented here my reasons for living bachelor lifestyle, saying my bad experience with women, constant nagging, constant requiring to do something for her, but my comment got deleted. One cannot critisize women on youtube, it seems... You may ask "who hurt me", because the truth is - even though I understand that theoretically there may be some unicorn who would improve my life, when I think about living with a women, I see disrespect, nagging, stress, depression, and divorce.

[@NairaBRDE]

Honestly what most of the men call "nagging" is the denial to understand a womans request for him to stop acting like a 5 year old kid.

[@okshadowbannedjet7981]

Just like a woman, throws all blame at men, that it's the men who acts bad, immature, and doesn't work enough... I am so glad that I don't have to put up with your kind you wouldn't believe it, Naira! :-)

[@NairaBRDE]

@@okshadowbannedjet7981 If you take you time to come here and watch his video to claim for a completely opposite affirmation on the comments is because ur need to whine like a baby only to a woman was not enough. And guess why you commment got deleted? Wake up even the moderation is "nagging" you?

[@okshadowbannedjet7981]

@@NairaBRDE the moderation is censoring me for no apparent reason, are you the moderator? Anyhow, since I can't reply, have a nice day

[@okshadowbannedjet7981]

@@mlewelk "we should be open minded to what the opposite sex. is saying..." Well, I said it, but women still don't believe it and attack me for it (not to mention that I get censored for what I said, because it is forbidden to critisize women)

[@AzureCrimsn]

Also dating has decreased significantly like you said since 2008. But dating is an improper measurement now. People don't date. They have sex. And women are the ones having most of the sex. Seeking specific characteristics in a partner but never finding them due to this inversion of gender roles. Not only that, but sex isn't used for the purpose of procreation now. It's strictly only for fun to the new generations. Largely due to a devalue in the concept of purity, massive cultural indoctrination, and the advent of contraception and abortion. All these things have attributed massively to the decrease in birth rates globally. And they will continue to decrease permanently until the world is destroyed in fire.

[@samvaknin]

Watch my vid on hookups.

[@deergodllc6244]

I think a lot of men these days just want respect, intimacy and admiration from women…. The problem is they don’t want to be respectful, intimate or admirable.

[@lolitasirola7163]

Yes they do! But earn that respect

[@deergodllc6244]

@@Solmaz_S I never mentioned anything about “unconditional” I don’t believe in that term everything in this life has conditions, so you made that up on your head as an excuse to be the disrespectful credent that you are. All I can say is I’m glad women are choosing to birth less of you everyday.

[@angelicapickles_]

You understand

[@tommy123333]

Doesn't matter how much a woman earns, if they are not attractive men will ignore them.

[@frustratedplayer]

Vice versa, you can’t expect a man to like what women won’t lol

[@AdairCty]

I’ve seen the opposite. Many so-called “unattractive” women in my orbit have men…boyfriends, husbands. And generally these guys are loyal, faithful, upstanding fellows. On the flip side, I know of many attractive women…nice gals with morals, intelligence and kind personalities…who are alone (and not because they want to be). One was recently told by an ex partner (a not so “attractive” fellow) that he was “jealous” of her. Bizarre.

[@kathyglass2922]

Truth.

[@elstifo]

As usual, it is the men's fault. I used to be commited, loving and trusting. I thought long term relationships were the answer. But then I got "redpilled". I am done. I will not be humilliated ever again. Women want quality without being "qualified".

[@carly582]

Why blame a certain gender when it starts with two parents of opposite genders

[@vyshnyaivanovna6460]

That's what I've found dating as a woman - men want quality, and often come unqualified. Women want quality, and yet come unqualified. Me and my BFs both see, that the other is barely performing to minimal standarts, and fail to notice it about ourselves. I've seen tons of info online about detecting all sorts of red flags in men, and for men - of all this red pill stuff. Yet I have no idea what I'm doing in the relationship. Just being nice! Oh, how much disdain women online have for "nice" guys. I'm being nice, why doesn't relationship work?? We are all fallen to some kind of plague, relationship malaise, where the standarts are verbalised, yet the methods of reaching them are completely lost on us. This is crisis time

[@thatinfinite7413]

How can I negotiate with these women who want to be new age/ promiscuous, and want men to be old fashioned. Double standards

[@starkid9736]

hm, no answer from Sam Vaknin..

[@RR-us1lt]

They want to dismiss any serious insight on or investigation into pornography and it's effects. Just one of the cancers of this age.

[@tommy123333]

I do agree with you on "woke" men. They are not men.

[@Redflowers9]

Beta cowboys

[@moranasprowler]

"in this environment of childish men, women recoil" - this is absolutely true.

[@brahman-atma8839]

100% agree! I've been recoiling for several years now. But what the heck to do?! All I know to do is try to educate people...

[@ImDemanding]

ABSOLUTELY TRUE!

[@moranasprowler]

@@ExploreEccentric genuine women are immune to being turned, ruined, etc. To be swayed into manipulation is a function of having unresolved trauma, transgenerational or other. The basis of everything is a healthy relationship, if she drifted, she just couldn't feel like you have her back 100%. What women want is freedom, understanding, stability and security. (by freedom I mean freedom of expression, ability to build her own character etc, women in Saudi and similar countries, while the stability and security they might say they have, they are virtually brood mares, slaves of their husbands.) its upon you to find within yourself, where did the bond break and she no longer felt she can rely on you, or if it was unhealthy from the beginning for some reason. We are where we are, both men and woman, all we can do is strive to better ourselves and be stoic in the face of stress and traumas. Will you let your ex's behaviour set the bar for how you judge other women, if so you're set to fail Im afraid

[@moranasprowler]

@@ExploreEccentricchanging yourself on your own accord is different than "being turned, ruined", i just need to point out the distinction....

[@moranasprowler]

@@ExploreEccentric observant deductive mind - yes. Humans are zoon politikon, and can't exist in vacuum. Each makes their own decisions though, and where they come from is a function of ones individuality, experience and social and emotional intelligence and onther factors more or less. There are many independent and meny dependent people and we all pay taxes. On the recoiling of man, I have nothing against mgtow. On the contrary, it's better to be clear about it so we're all on the same page of those man not looking. To each their own. Vita brevis

[@elkaani2222]

As a foreigner in the U.S I blame no one. 1st world countries are far too in love with the ideal rather than the understanding of the self- out of touch with reality.., The understanding of the biological being, the societal being, and the self/ ideal being. One would have to merge all three in order to shape up their values. In these 1st world countries it is encouraged by the institutions to dismiss tradition. However, wmn that I have dated who claim to be fmnst want men to be traditional, responsible and, as they should, accountable. Nevertheless, one can hold wmn accountable and responsible but somehow in a 1st world country it becomes a problem for doing so.., as it was said mimicking irresponsible men.., but why if we all are individual beings. How confined are we?However, in a 1st world country: “.., Now that I have it all what is their to become?” a materialistic narcissist? What are values, morality, and compassion? Yes, times have changed- humans not so much.

[@starkid9736]

out of touch with reality...no more needs to be said

[@j7220]

I’m in middle age and while I didn’t approach much, did do approaching ( in a non-threatening manner). Always rejected, not even given a chance. Oh well. I simply stopped. Give em what they want

[@JupGem]

This is depressing…..Where have the men gone? Intimacy aversion: giving up intimacy for narcissistic entitlement, pornography, abuse, predatory, parasitic & exploitative…..Spoiled, petulant boy children. We see this is evidenced on social media: women are fed up with men, and men simply opt out. It is worrisome now & for the future……

[@sudosu5972]

im gonna grab my popcorn.

[@patrickbuglass973]

Just the way the Jewish, Chinese, African-American and catholic social engineers in the surveillance state want it to be...

[@brahman-atma8839]

OMG you are so on point!!! I was saying yes, yes, yes the whole way through the video! And recoiling is exactly what I've been doing! It also may explain why I'm attracted to older men. Thank you for taking the time to educate! I am going to be sending this video to a lot of people and also insisting the people in my family watch it! ❤

[@euthanasia9930]

@Scribbles McGee Something something narcissism.

[@tommy123333]

So it's both men's fault and not their fault as they were victims of divorce ?

[@specialk2514]

"A collective yuck"... Brilliant summarization. Thank you.

[@vital.elements]

I'm old enough to remember a time before this and worry about what our children are about to inherit. Grievous.

[@miasmelodylab]

This is so accurate I could cry! I do miss men and "old school" dating where one would risk it to try and meet a person. So sad that we ignore this mental, physicaland emotional lethargy. Many good people stay alone and confused!

[@patrickgibson9895]

We live in a confused era.

[@starkid9736]

no one cares

[@harveymalice]

What isn’t being spoken about in this video is that times have changed. The power women now have has revealed a great deal about their nature, and it isn’t all for the better. Men have been displaced from the role they have had in society for generations by women who openly disdain them. Not only that, more men today were raised by single mothers than ever before, so they had no reference for what it meant to be a man, other than the TV’s portrayal of the stupid, lazy man who was always outwitted by his children or his wife. Young men are also taking note of the fact that women get a much better deal if a longterm relationship or marriage goes south. Regardless of the circumstances, women almost always get the kids and the house, and half of your income. Young women today are more educated, but less interested in anything other than their own opinions. 80% of divorces are initiated by women, and women like to marry men who make more money than they do. So what do you think is going to happen as women climb the social ladder and start earning more degrees, and thus more money, than men in general? It’s not that men are more narcissistic, it’s that they see a stacked deck and they’re leaving the table before they’re dealt a losing hand.

[@msshawniepooh1]

Leave the table and stop the crying

[@brightmark777]

Let me get this straight; you say that I'm misogynistic simply because I choose not to court undesirable women? How the hell do your mental gymnastics allow you to double monkey backflip into that conclusion?

[@samy7013]

I don’t think he means “misogyny” as a value judgement, that is, I don’t think that he is necessarily condemning MGTOW. In many ways, his videos even back up with evidence the legitimate motivations and grievances and criticisms leveled against women by MGTOWs. Many men really do have a distaste for many contemporary manifestations of womanhood, and I don’t think that the professor is necessarily condemning these men or saying that they are irrational or unjustified in their reactions to perceived reality. He is merely describing their distaste, but not necessarily accusing them of being evil or anything like that. He’s merely clinically diagnosing, without casting judgement. Furthermore, the professor is very blunt in his description of how women’s behaviors have devolved and undermined healthy pair bonding.

[@starkid9736]

hm, no answer from mr vaknin

[@SlowDancer]

It's incredibly hard for desperate men to let the women take things in charge, because not only they already been denigrated by women not understanding them, but even a good women will turn into a monster in the face of a motherless child. If desperate men need to face themselves and their inherited weakness, desperate women need to face the reality of the current situation and accept their own responsability and effect on men. It's a vicious cycle of both genders negatively impacting each others. And because he's been referenced in this video; I think J.Peterson's work, no matter what gender you are, seeks to offer a way out of this negative loop, and even to invert it.

[@marnerose2315]

One of your many great lectures so much truth and beauty in these words. My significant other has found a series of "glorified hookups" and "extended one night stands" that feed his ego. He didn't value or fight for our family, but will go to bat for his various supplies. He then discards them and wanders back home "missing his family." He gets us back and ready to bail out again over the slightest disagreement. It repeats over and over again. Thanks for shedding some light with the statistics on this issue.

[@54wsbrdtyd6ryeb56d]

brilliant, things are starting to make a lot of sense. The back and forth arguments in this comment section just exemplifies our problems

[@bajkerjohnvolta]

unfortanetly as a man i have to agree with you here. We have become like that. I put my self on path to became man and start to take responsibility, but its hard, there are many days when i just wat to give up. But not even games are strong enought to get my atention. So its time to get to work for real (wich i am already doing and until now suceeding). But i am type of man who is always looking for very intimate realtionsip and i simply cant do hoop ups (tried, but couldnt) and i'm also aware how bad that part of market is from both sides

[@tommy123333]

Why should a successful man risk half their assets by getting married ?

[@Genisvell1983]

Exactly. Leave these women alone. Let them live in a world without men.

[@seneca1932]

@@nishamack586 see, it’s shit like this: this toxic, shaming, horseshit like what you, for some reason, thought was a good idea to post, is why 6.5 out of every 1,000 men are even getting involved with women. Seriously, who, in their right mind, would want to be even remotely connected to someone like you? Which reminds me, I need to buy some stock in Purina.

[@LauraAura977]

The stats have come out pumpkin, the majority of men in the world don’t have major assets to be taken 😂. Married men earn more and have more money and wealth throughout their lifetime and most women work full time now and contribute financially to the household so I don’t know why y’all keep regurgitating that talking point. Logically, The statistics don’t show the majority of men losing major assets via divorce.

[@amateruss]

@@aaaalltheway9805 He could have just rented a pussy every month.

[@joshuabarnett938]

Respect your knowledge on the matter, but women and men don't obey the old age of societal norms anymore, the toxicity has been accepted from both sexes. I truly believe this is the self love age everybody is a narcissist theres so many psychological issues going on both genders want what they shouldn't have. which is a trap of self destruction we don't need one gender or the other to be our happiness, you should be happy alone because in the end that's the truth you will have to face there's so many risk of ruing your your life's work legacy on the line for a women who will naturally take you for granted the investment isn't worth the sex or heartbreak.

[@joeblowseph9534]

I only give my energy to a woman who deserves it. Attractive, authentic, and sweet. Men are clearly falling behind too but women also lack quality

[@ifndontcare69]

The juice is not worth the squeeze.

[@loveyourself1803]

Ok I see myself in this BUT how can we become men?

[@patrickgibson9895]

You cannot. This is a crazy world. You can easily end up marked as rapist, cuz some crazy b.... #metoo movement, feminists for more equal rights are every where. But yeah there is a chance, but if you choose badly = game over.

[@DannRecio]

Truth bombs left and right, unfortunate that young men have a lack of desire and drive

[@woodymd1]

33:48 and there we have the reason behind your video, fear of losing the welfare state and no safety net provided by other generations.

[@_MetaL]

I have been Summoned. Ready to be a decent compassionate Listening Man!

[@ApollosLight]

No, they don't miss men. Not yet.

[@cletuswyns]

I can’t remember if I cried when I read about that widowed bride, but something touched me deep inside the day the music died. God dude. What a bummer this is

[@Underestimated123]

Red pill and porn destroyed my marriage and family. Can any of you say the same?

[@Underestimated123]

@@funkeeCymon you sad little person. I got an email from the blue pill professor I was not impressed I think he probably lives in his mommy's basement.

[@Underestimated123]

@@funkeeCymon keep telling yourself you're not a sad little man. Self justification is magical, soon you will believe your own b*******. It must be horrible to have a soulful of fear and torment. Your bubble will pop one day and you will be left on your ass wondering what the hell happened. Have fun with that.

[@Underestimated123]

@@funkeeCymon sad,sad little man. Your opinion has no significance to me.

[@srbislavn]

We need more " obstacle is the way" approach in raising new generations

[@pursue513]

Just thought you might get a kick out of this: my old friend had an old coffee cup that read: "a mug for a mug" & haven't seen it since. Since we're discussing cups & mugs. Ok on to the "episode" I'm sure its gonna be very interesting!

[@dariazukowskapsychologkliniczn]

Totally agree, thank you Sam

[@mienmiennn]

Thank you so much for your videos. Could you talk more about the gender roles? What is being a woman or being a man like? How are they supposed to interact?

[@sanfransoho]

Talk to each other. No sex, only conversation. Develop a good relating function through practice. Discover you own personal myth, not a failed hero story. Where do you come from. Even the bad things you go trough are your myth, your stand,...

[@mienmiennn]

@@sanfransoho thank you so much I totally agree a relationship is something that two people build over time. It's not so much a matter of finding an amazing person. Thank you

[@philosopher24680]

Very accurate, although on an individual level I do think more men being underemployed/stuck in dead end jobs really is partly out of their hands due to an increasingly feudalistic economy, had more men behaved as actual citizens, if they were actually actively involved in their surroundings (even just intellectually for a start) and willing to see the big picture with some empathy rather than be small-minded, petty, fatalistic, selfish, hedonistic, avoidant and narcissistic they would (collectively) never have tolerated such a breakdown from happening in the first place.

[@mjdedge3440]

Women want love, men want respect

[@naukumaija7056]

Women want respect too. I will never date a man who expresses disrespect towards me. Not worth the effort.

[@kathyglass2922]

For some of us, women had to take over. We brought in the mone, raised the kids, made repairs around the house. Some men, not all thank God, just were not getting things done.

[@leonardascorpius5304]

Most of us independent, fair-minded women want their male partners to be "manly" in areas that require male-dominated roles to take care of the big stuff, while we women will happily take care of the details and multitasking. We also want men to "man up" (hate to use that term, but oh well) and stop the whining and lamenting how much their previous wives/girlfriends did them wrong WAY AFTER the breakup. Please just focus on the present relationship you're in, and perhaps studying the female mind/physical makeup more in-depth with an open mind/heart. I'm sure I'll be getting a lot of backlash with this comment, based on the current wave of confusing/transitional times globally regarding how the sexes are relating to each other. I have many male friends that have given me their horrible dating relationships to psychopathic/hystrionic women. I get it. It's on both sides. But let's stop bitching about how awful the opposite sex is, and start really listening, not judge instantly as to whether that person is good/evil.

[@RyanGBanister]

I can agree with what you are saying, but contextually women often say "stop bitching" as a deflection. I agree we should listen, but this means not deflecting just because a point is being made about a trend with females generally becoming psychopathic in heaps.

[@leonardascorpius5304]

@@RyanGBanister I understand what you're saying. Deflection is so prevalent in a lot of my conversations about touchy/controversial topics with many of my female friends, but they occur with anyone who's never really acquired the art of active listening and true empathy or patience.

[@leonardascorpius5304]

@@funkeeCymon But at the end of the day, I see a lot of men feeling lonely and desperate for that one woman to be their life partner. Especially after years of dating online and mindless sex/sexting, no matter what age they are. Being independent and liking your time alone are extremely important, but if you're chronically keeping busy with multiple women, drinking, smoking, hyoer focused on work and hobbies most of your waking moment, at some point, without some kind of wake up call spiritually and emotionally, you will begin to feel the emptiness without real intimacy and deep dive into a true monogamous relationship (not just in marriage). But sadly, most men (and women, too) haven't seen their own parents work things out or were raised by single parents for most of their lives, so they have no clue as to what intimacy and resolution-based communication with the opposite sex really requires.

[@Just-Jaci]

This is depressing as shit.

[@ifndontcare69]

hay Proff. Do you realize that in today's world a man can get kicked out of his own family?

[@najmasaid5983]

Of course we do I’m sick off these boys

[@ghostjason401]

and we are sick of you lady

[@bobbyjohnson1086]

Cry more😭

[@najmasaid5983]

You will cry more than me 🤣 with your stupid ways of thinking sad a lot of man think like you and this is how you guys get fuck 😁

[@annabelle3307]

Mostly in jail

[@ImDemanding]

I think YT may have deleted my original comment. I said I do not like m3n. They’re not likable. They do not care to make themselves likable. I am almost at a point of not ever needing one again.

[@BANGBANG-zl1xg]

I bet you love burgers tho

[@ImDemanding]

@@BANGBANG-zl1xg I love money & I bet you don’t have any.

[@ImDemanding]

@TheMsPowers I do not like m3n … in real life you couldn’t tell … remember, I’ve adjusted to a patriarchal misogynistic society … I code switch very well! 😉

[@ImDemanding]

@TheMsPowers You’re labeling me. You’re literally changing my words to fit your narrative. You’re drawing macro conclusions based on your micro thinking. You’re triggered. You’re angry. IDK if you’re a guy or a gal. If you’re a gal, you’ve internalized it & if you’re a guy, typical behavior. FYI, the world is at my fingertips, I was a girl, now a Woman who have friends, colleagues, I have 3 generations of women in my family to attest to their mistreatment from men (not including my relatives of the almighty gen Z), I’ve chatted with several Muslim women, etc etc etc so don’t you dare twist your mouth to tell me idk wtf I’m talking about or assume you know where I’m from or who I am. You do not. Lastly, misandrists are not born, they’re made. Your attempted labeling of me makes me think of that lame joke: Which came first? The chicken or the egg? Ha! Anywho, I’m done with you. I’m no longer addressing you because you’re twisting my words. Ps. *whispering* I still do not like m3n & I code switch very well, sweetheart. 😉

[@brightmark777]

Yet you still need men...

[@aaugenmuller77]

One question : why do women need men ?why women need 100 pairs of shoes and 200 bags ?

[@MrSweetness1983]

At what time period did men start to recoil Sam?

[@MrSweetness1983]

Ignore the question, you answered it at 25:50.

[@Rayon811]

Female is future. Unironically.

[@miriamaguilar7977]

Yes, real manly men, please come back to us women who sincerely want you in our lives and promise to allow you to be the man you are supposed to be without judging. I just want a real true honest man in my life, not imposters always asking me for $$....such a turn-off!

[@bobbyjohnson1086]

@Terry Poffo simp

[@seneca1932]

Allow? That’s akin to asking permission.

[@miriamaguilar7977]

@@seneca1932 well it's a permission based invite as most I've encountered have been nothing but sorry imposters impersonating other men. It's very frustrating to connect with people online. Too many scammers and dishonest men out there...women too. It's not just men.

[@starkid9736]

men are not allowed in the west

[@jefferyhodges8835]

Lol someone needs to tell them that it doesn't matter how educated you are it just matters how beautiful you are

[@jefferyhodges8835]

@@Nina-hk7ub and we aren't living to please women either it's all about enjoyment living the peaceful life laughing at all the stupidity all three of my sisters are shot out in alone I tried warning them but they wouldn't listen now they're intelligent Lonely women bugging me all the time

[@vanillarodent]

this ones going right over the incels heads

[@karlaj.4056]

Dr. Vaknin, I find your videos very useful, I believe more people should be exposed to your ideas and I'd love to contribute by translating this video to Spanish if you agree and allow me to. Thank you

[@samvaknin]

You do not need my permission to make any non-commercial use of my videos.

[@bellawilde2169]

Yes we do miss men

[@kivie13]

Congratulations! You drove them away and they lived happily ever after. WooT!

[@Lola-nr8lq]

Minnie me 🦄🐨🐬🧿. "There's nothing Minnie about my love for Disney."