MIL Tampered With My Birth Control Results And Got Me Pregnant...... - Reddit Family

MIL Tampered With My Birth Control Results And Got Me Pregnant...... - Reddit Family
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My MIL Tampered With My Birth Control Resulting in Me Getting Pregnant 3mo Postpartum. Not Really Sure What to Do From Here.
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In this eye-opening story, we delve into the unsettling experience of a young couple manipulated by a well-meaning but intrusive mother-in-law (MIL). This is a tale of deception, betrayal, and the struggle for autonomy over one's own body and life decisions.
Our story begins with a heartfelt plea for anonymity and support from a young mother who recently welcomed her daughter into the world. Despite the joy of her baby's arrival, she faces a shocking revelation that has left her reeling. Her in-laws were obsessed with the idea of her having a son, driven by a belief that the family name must be carried on by a male heir. This obsession led to a series of disturbing actions by her MIL.
After the birth of their daughter, the couple faced relentless pressure from the MIL to try for a boy. The situation escalated when the MIL began visiting daily, ostensibly to help but with a hidden agenda. She tampered with their birth control, leading to an unexpected and unplanned pregnancy.
The discovery of the pregnancy came with mixed emotions. The couple had been using condoms meticulously, making the pregnancy a puzzling surprise. Confiding in her sister-in-law (SIL), the young mother learned the horrifying truth: her MIL had been poking holes in their condoms since they returned from the hospital. The SIL, who had known about this but dismissed it as a rant, broke down and revealed everything.
This revelation clarified the strange incidents and behavior of the MIL, who had used her unsupervised time to manipulate their contraception. The young mother felt a whirlwind of emotions, from anger and betrayal to a desperate need to protect her family from further harm.
Determined to gather proof, she set up a hidden camera and planned to confront the MIL with undeniable evidence. The couple decided to go no-contact with the MIL to safeguard their current and future children. They even considered changing their family name to sever ties with the manipulative MIL.
This story is not just about the betrayal by a trusted family member but also a testament to the resilience and strength required to reclaim one's life and choices. The young mother seeks advice and support from others who have faced similar situations, hoping to find a path forward amidst the chaos.
Join us as we explore this harrowing yet inspiring journey of a family fighting for their autonomy and peace. This narrative serves as a powerful reminder of the importance of boundaries and the lengths some will go to control others, even those they claim to love.
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[@kattriella1331]

Fun fact: Tampering with someone's birth control is, in fact, illegal. MIL is lucky she isn't facing assault charges.

[@craftingmama4514]

If my MIL did that to me, she would face charges.

[@christinef7739]

Where do you live? It doesn't appear to be illegal in the US. I can't find anything that says the MIL can be charged with a crime.

[@Permenantlyexhaustedghost115]

MIL doesn’t deserve grandkids. She’s crazy and violated Ops trust.

[@jasonscales2522]

Is it not dangerous to get pregnant weeks after giving birth? If she has a boy the granddaughter will be neglected by grandparents

[@Lily_of_the_Forest]

Yes to both

[@juliawacker]

It depends on how much the last pregnancy and birth affected you. It would be best to give your body enough time to heal but it happens that parents assume that you can't get pregnant while you breastfeed and get suprised. Its best to talk to your Obgyn about potential risks of your pregnancy.

[@JaxDee128]

It is dangerous to get pregnant too soon after giving birth, it can take a year for a woman's organs and joints to return to place after pregnancy. The daughter will be an afterthought to the grandparents and that little girl will always know that she will never be good enough for them.

[@spacecat1974]

It is dangerous. The body hasn’t recovered yet.

[@marie34K]

Babies born 10 or 11 months apart are very common . My ObGYN doctors never told me to wait a given length of time before having another baby . I guess they believe women know their own bodies and decide what's ok for themselves .

[@RainingPouringSnoring]

Isn’t tampering with birth control a form a sexual assault? I feel like there is aome legal recourse here.... horrifying.

[@lumityviktuuristanartist4100]

It’s illegal in some places , this is disgusting

[@phrogcasey]

Not sexual assault, but its definitely illegal

[@Remi123-s2f]

In some states, yes

[@rStoryDash]

Your MIL’s behavior is completely out of line. Tampering with birth control is a massive violation of trust. I’m so sorry you’re going through this, but it sounds like you and your husband are taking the right steps to protect your family. Stay strong!

[@amandalorian8317]

What’s stupid is that the bloodline ACTUALLY follows the MOTHER. Through mitochondrial DNA which you ONLY get through your MOTHER and is the SAME DNA traced back through the female line of an entire family tree and ends only when a mother fails to have a daughter to pass the dna to. There is no such blood line tracing for fathers. And all males carry their mother’s mitochondrial DNA, and should they choose to have children, their children will inherit the mitochondrial DNA of the woman they choose to procreate with. So. Actually. All men pass down is their name and their genes and bloodline by nature is traced through females.

[@Ragnarra]

Technically if MIL had passed biology or did her research she might have known this. But considering how stupid and highly illegal her tampering with birth control is I doubt she bothered.

[@vaevictis2789]

There is a father bloodline in Y chromosome actually

[@samanthac.349]

If there was no way to trace a father’s bloodline, then paternity tests shouldn’t exist. That would mean that Ancestry, 23&Me, MyHeritage, and other companies that provide DNA and family tree testing shouldn’t be able to show any genetic males on the family trees. Maury “You’re The Father/You’re Not The Father” Povich’s show would’ve had to find different content for most of their episodes. As for mitochondrial DNA: it is still useful and the primary way to genetically test over many generations, but there has been developments to test the male line over multiple generations in the past 30 years.

[@Shelb13v]

There's a way to trace only males too. It's different

[@spirit3487]

oh neat

[@sammygreen066]

The changing the surname is such a good idea and so funny, i love it

[@fivelittlemonkees]

My son is changing his last name because my ex said in front of him that he married me cause he wanted *a brood mare* and his name to continue. My son punched him and after he left he offered to take my last name. Our lawyer filed the papers last week

[@torkakarshiro5170]

I would change the family name to HER name. The family name of ALL your family members: Husband and first baby and the new baby.

[@LoliStories1]

Wow, I can't believe the audacity of your MIL! Tampering with birth control is such a huge violation of trust. I'm glad you found out the truth, and I hope you can find a way to protect yourself and your family moving forward. Stay strong!

[@inkygloves5197]

Not just a violation of trust. It's rape. Straight up non-consensual impregnation.

[@captaingramcrackergrams5990]

I like how Reddit completely missed the part where she said the country they live in. It's not illegal to do what the mill did and then goes on a long ass five paragraph rant about how they're not fit parents if they don't call the cops 🤦 apparently even Reddit has to be reminded that this is the internet, not America

[@mursukkiii]

Tampering with birth control should be crime everywhere no matter if its your partner or somebody else. It takes your body autonomy (witch is a right that belongs to everybody) away. My partners ex tried to "fix" their relationship by tampering with birth control (baby trap) and gladly it didnt work and she got caught and this is the reason I dislike her so mutch. I dont have deafult hatrid for exes of my partner or past partners but she tried to basically SA somebody dear to me so she deserves the hate. Anyway lets hope its another girl. And lets hope NC stays, Mil doesnt deserve any contact with Ops children. And I truely hope Op doesnt start to resent her youngest child and theraphy helps her direct her anger to the person who actually is at fault, that being Mil.

[@angelaspecialfox_ro289]

Damn, those grandparents failed basic biology. boy or girl, the child has the same amount of DNA from both parents.

[@zakosist]

Sounded to me like passing on the surname was the main objective, not the genes alone. Either way horrible action that I hope she gets punished for. And it wouldnt even matter if she would have no grandchildren at all, its horrible to try to force children on someone else who would be the real parents. And its cruel to the child too as they are likely to grow up unwanted and at the very least sense something is wrong

[@angelaspecialfox_ro289]

@@zakosist yeah. Also, ( i am preatty sure it depends on country ) by legal norms either party can take the surname of the other. Wifes aren’t actually obligated to take on the surname of their husbands, it’s more of a tradition that appeard around the time of a population boom ( it was that way cause once married, the woman was the man’s property ). So overall it’s a big fuss over nothing. I am confident that if OP did birth a boy, the grandparents would ignore the girl completly. Given how soon OP got pregnant again, a misscarriage is very likely to happend; the woumb needs time to heal.

[@Hollyucinogen]

In some countries, women are basically considered property - after they get married, then their husbands "own" them instead of their fathers. So a lot of people in those countries see them as inanimate objects, the same way that they would see a car or a table. Some women there are even sold off by their fathers into marriages.

[@yarningchick]

I remember the first story! The update was that her plan to catch MIL on camera poking holes was successful, DIL made sure people knew what MIL did, and I'm pretty sure she and hubby moved away to keep MIL away from their family.

[@tracy3418]

Awesome great news

[@suan1]

He doesnt want Evie because he loves her. He just wants her because his brother has her. Just competing with his brother

[@RiseTales-q2l]

It's unbelievable how manipulative some people can be. I can't imagine dealing with such a betrayal.

[@user-ms5mo3rp9g]

I would go to court and put her on child support and restriction to come anywhere close to me or our family.

[@zakosist]

The act of tampering with someone elses birth control is just horrible. Its just messing with their body and messing with their trust, and bringing a likely unwanted child into this world, thats gonna be bad for both the parents and kids. I think the child will know something is wrong and not have a good upbringing. Birth and pregnancy is a lot of pain and suffering in itself and comes with health risk, that should not be taken lightly either. She should cut all contact with the person who did this and honestly would be good if they got some sort of revenge, maybe legal action. But it is important people know and remember, all birth controls can fail sometimes, even without tampering. If you have intercourse between man and woman then there is a risk of pregnancy

[@twiceshy9773]

Those cakes are basically ALL fondant, I just couldn't...lol the stories were good but those cakes are freaking MESMERISING😂😂

[@andapandacongufanda]

The second story is insane to me like why would you still want to marry someone who’s clearly only with you cuz he can’t be with his brothers partner like? Not only is your man delusional and out of touch but he’s blatantly saying he barely cares about you and you’re still into marry him ? Come on

[@twiceshy9773]

Exactly, right?! How low is her self esteem that she's willing to accept just the CRUMBS of his love??! Lol on the plus side, good for Evie, still being lusted after even after 4kids!!😂😂😉

[@themadwomanskitchen9732]

My father and his younger brother were born about a year apart. My grandmother was put on bed rest for much of the second pregnancy, but apparently my Uncle Phil was okay when he was born.

[@SuicidalSummerSnowWoman]

5:46 doesnt matter whether the boy has the mothers name or not... the bloodline continues anyway

[@riri_s]

but the mil did all this just for the continuation of the name. the bloodline will otherwise continue anyway whether a boy or a girl cause that's just biology

[@lucygarrett9785]

I wouldn’t be mad at the SIL She thought it was a joke, it’s so insane that there’s no way anyone could think someone would actually do that

[@harleyquinn5774]

I’d deliberately give my second child a first name I know my MIL hates and a surname whose origins she hates. That’ll kill her interest in my second kid in no time plus going NC.

[@TheVeggiekat]

Me and my brother are Irish twins. It was not good. For my parents I only existed as an annoyance that cost them money and my brother straight up told me I created all his problems in life by being born and taking attention away from his too soon.

[@bilqeesnagdee7466]

Thats not your fault and your parents and brother are deeply ignorant for thinking that

[@kathyraygoza3299]

Children should be considered a gift. I know from a close friend how a mind can be affected when a child hears disparaging remarks. My friend Susan knew her worth every time Dad or mom joked about her birth. He. If it's a boy you get a box of chocolates, if it's a girl you get a bag of peanuts. Naturally he was treated as the special one. She got even with Ronnie when they were nine and seven. That's a story for another time.

[@elithasim]

I had my girls 10 months apart but it’s a decision you make for yourself. You know your body. That woman is a pos and should be sued, then kept away from that family. Toxic people have no place in your life. Be happy and peaceful.

[@Gigglingatsir]

Charlie and Sarah are not your friends tbh. They knew that your husband had explicitly texted Sarah for a WEEK and only told you because you confronted them? Dump them, too and go home to you’re actually friends and family.

[@zoechapman8375]

When you mentioned irish twins do you also live in Ireland because there is a law about it it goes exactily word by word like this In ireland, the Criminal Law (Sexual Offences) Act 2017 stipulated that a person cannot concent to sex if they are "mistaken as to the nature or purpose of the sexual act". Therefore, when a condom is unknowingly removed during sex, any prior consent given is arguably nullied under Irish law.

[@stephanienoblet8503]

I love the Pooh Bear in the background

[@KH-tx6lg]

Assuming I could keep it together I would go LC with MIL and avoid face to face contact. When she asks about a pregnancy I would tell her it was too soon and I ended it (even though they plan on keeping it). Or even work the ending into a conversation with MIL. If MIL goes NC it will be a win win for OP.

[@terezacervenakova3512]

I would probably end it for real. Three months after the first one Is way too soon for my liking, plus the idea of having 1yo and newborn at the same time is terrifying. My kids are two years apart and sometimes i feel like even that was too soon...

[@Snixalin]

You can either get an abortion on MILs dime or if you want the baby sue her for tampering with your birth control and causing a dangerous situation right after giving birth. She is the worst and I wouldnt give her another minute of your time, no contact at ALL. Her loss! She needs to understand how bad that is.

[@misspat7555]

I was… dating, I guess… a guy for a year that I realized was crushing on his 14-years-younger EMPLOYEE (he was 39; she was 25). She clearly had no interest in him, but he wouldn’t let it go. I broke it off because he never even said he loved me and was so clearly (and kinda grossly) infatuated with her. Men are weird. Probably not going to get with one again (I was widowed at age 40.) 🤨

[@SlimeisProbablyAutistic]

that winnie cake was so cute

[@SagaReddit99]

What your MIL did is a serious violation of trust and personal boundaries. It's really outrageous

[@missytanner3501]

Is there an update?

[@osheridan]

Is that not kind of S-A

[@Caden-fe6lm]

It totally should be if it's not already. They didn't consent to getting pregnant again so soon.

[@akelly4207]

I don’t even think story 2 is about Evie. It’s about Will saying F U to Charlie.

[@veontehightower]

I have irish triplets a single in Feb a set of twins in November you don't think about it you just do it as if they were farther apart

[@Remi123-s2f]

Wow, that's very illegal.

[@sarahpaesfrare4776]

I love the name changing thing. I would do the same

[@KoalaTales]

Wow, what a wild ride! If you think MIL deserves a one-way ticket to Crazytown for poking holes in the condoms! Seriously, sabotaging birth control because she didn't get a grandson? Unbelievable! 😂 Let's all agree, MIL needs a reality check and OP deserves all the support. Who's with me? Like or comment below 🙌

[@KannnLejeune]

It is the best and just so you know they might fight alot

[@TaylorMossbarger]

I am a Irish twin and I am really close to my brother

[@co-jt6gd]

Sounds like that MIL was more of a MILK.

[@helenhooper5131]

God I hope she has another girl,

[@carelikecrazy]

I know you say it's not fake but I hope it is. Because this is seriously upsetting.

[@MelodyT78]

jimminy cricket. thats so insane. id be moving me and my kids as far away from her as possible. no questions, i wouldnt even be dealing with that person. so what if it another daughter or the golden grandson.....how would that go for your daughter?? nope. wouldnt even risk screwing up my kids having to be around her

[@Shelb13v]

Congratulations on baby! Every baby is a gift from God. As for the mil, if you don't trust her she's out.

[@kimsmith1746]

Just because Irish people are white, that doesn't mean you are being racist and derogatory by using the term "Irish" before things, which are not wholly socially acceptable, ie having two babies less than a year apart, putting alcohol in coffee, leaving your group at the pub without saying Goodbye or settling your tab. These things happen in all cultures. So, stop saying it is "Irish" to do them.

[@annalynn9561]

I'd like the state for the record that me and my brother are Irish twins and where are each other's best friends and rocks and we were everything each other needed growing up, my brother is the older one and I'm the young one I was conceived a couple months after he was born but we've always been thicker than thieves basically growing up we never knew anything but each other so it was like being twins from the get-go we always got along better than we would have if we hadn't we didn't have issues with sharing and stuff even if we fought it was usually just because he was a boy and I was a girl

[@annalynn9561]

And it might just be a luck of the draw thing but him and I actually looked so similar that when we were little we used to switch places sometimes too LOL but because we were born so close together I did take a harder toll on my mother's body

[@A.M.A.N.E.]

8:47 COMPLETELY UNEXPECTED????

[@lindymoyo9118]

Isn't that a crime 😟

[@emilymeyer7788]

If it had been me, I would have probably had an abortion since a second kid wasn't planned and getting pregnant again so soon is dangerous, you should wait a year or two so your body can fully recover and not be pregnant for some time. Since she wants the kid, I'd not allow Mil ever access to either of the kids again, Mil can never come to the house again. If possible, change your whole family's name to your name to punish her further. Make her regret big time, and keep her away from your own little family. Otherwise she'll pull shit like this again

[@Super-reactions]

She mite do them again

[@christinef7739]

Why are you buying new condoms and a hidden camera, hoping to catch MIL? You're already pregnant so why would she be poking holes in condoms? Don't let her into your house. Once she knows you're pregnant, don't tell anyone the gender (assuming you find out.) She doesn't need to know if it's a boy or girl. Also, changing your last name is kind of ridiculous. You can always go back to your maiden name, but changing a name costs money. If the new baby is a boy, you can give him your maiden name; there's no law that says a baby has to have the father's last name. Don't cut off your nose to spite your face. (If you don't know what that means, look it up.) Go as low contact as possible.

[@rippley0278]

In story 2 did people forget that evi went on a date with Op’s ex to get Charlie jealous, no shit Op’s ex is gonna have feelings in my eyes evi started this all by asking him on a date. Please don’t spam me with messages this is my opinion so i don’t care what you all think

[@IndiraCargill-vw7gl]

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