How To Get Over Your BABY DADDY

[@alexisphelps9672]

When You Have A Child By Somebody Its Hard To Move On

[@MissExclusive4]

I agree. It took me time, but once i did for good, I never looked back and my life started changing for the better.

[@YangTupas]

My situation rn 😔

[@Queidia_]

Zayn Malik me too , 8 years down the drain, and i regret taking him back, i was so good without him

[@balesengmodipane6261]

@@YangTupas how a u holding up... I'm a mess.. Its been 4 months but everyday it's like it just happened yesterday

[@user-ve4zw6jp9i]

@@balesengmodipane6261 how r u doing its.been 4 months for me

[@nykerriaboyd7400]

I needed this I just had to let my baby daddy go now its been 5 years of hurt and pain and I just can't do it anymore

[@MissExclusive4]

I know you can do it. Just take it a day at a time and do what's best for you

[@nykerriaboyd7400]

Can u make a video on how to let your new boyfriend love you after a break up with your baby father

[@lewis20002000]

@@nykerriaboyd7400 You're new boyfriend CANNOT make you get over your ex, you have to do that yourself. You have to WANT to get over your ex. It's been 5yrs so either you're still in the baby daddy mattrix or free. I can tell you as a guy, if I can get a no commitment situationship with my baby mama even if she have a new boyfriend, I am loving it, I have to admit, it's very disrespectful to yourself and your new boyfriend, but that's none of my business😂.

[@ErikaMariex]

Loved the video. Personally you know my situation. But i blocked mine and we don’t even communicate just thru our parents best thing i could have done. I’m now happy with my current relationship and more then happy!!!

[@MissExclusive4]

Erika Marie Thank you for watching ❤ I'm SO happy for you. You deserve to be happy. And i know you're doing a great job with your daughter❤😍

[@hayleymcwilliams2283]

girl i blocked him months ago & im still not over him 😭 but this video lmk i’m not alone

[@MissExclusive4]

You're deff. Not alone. And it may take time realistically. But ask yourself why you're still not there? Think of ways to free your mind and things to keep you busy/ happy

[@nrivera3604]

Meditate. Focus your energy elsewhere mostly yourself. Return that love you sent him back to yourself

[@youreincredible1648]

Been in a relationship/situationship for 3 years with my childs dad, i find it so hard and my selfesteem is low, am going to do it.

[@Ktreneice]

I’m 28 weeks pregnant with my first child I’m having a baby girl. I met my baby daddy about 3 years ago but we’ve only been together for about a year and it was fun and all good before I got pregnant. He’s older than me, I’m 24 and he’s 32 but he was incarcerated for 8 years before I met him. I feel like he’s tryna play catch up and he still needs to grow up, he’ll make promises or says that he wants to be there and do this but he always lets me down and I’ve gotten to a point where I’m fed up and I’m slowly just saying fuck it. I wanted the whole family thing but I’m learning that he just isn’t the man for me. If he’s letting me down WHILE I’m pregnant then what makes me think he’ll be consistent after she’s born. It hurts because I think I expected more but it hurts because my biological father was addicted to drugs he use to steal from my mom and all and he basically gave up on me, as a girl I feel like girls need their father. Kids need their father in general but I don’t want her to deal with what I did. I wanted this to work but I’m not gonna beg or force a grown man to step up, I’m trying to let him go now. It’s not easy but I wanna be happy I just wanna meet my baby girl and start over. I feel like if he was the man for me or if he really wanted to step up then he would’ve already done all that he could! He would’ve shown me already..🤷🏾‍♀️💔 I’m done making things convenient for HIM.

[@MissExclusive4]

That sounds oh so familiar. I'm sorry you're dealing with this stress during your pregnancy. I hope that things improve and regardless of how your emotions weigh in, that you are able to do what's best for you and your daughter. Much love❤

[@amybrooks6409]

I’m currently pregnant too with my first baby girl I’m 30 weeks and my baby is due soon. My ‘baby daddy’ has done nothing to support me during pregnancy- we have been separated the whole time. He’s sleeping around and doing his thing he literally doesn’t care about me blocked me in every way possible but I feel like maybe because I am pregnant I feel I’m finding it really hard to just accept it’s all bullshit and move on...I feel just so hurt that he doesn’t care and I’m alone. Litterally destroyed my self esteem and confidence over the years... now I feel like I’m picking my self up from completely nothing. 5 years together and when I expected him to be around he don’t care. I want nothing more than to live a happy life, move on build my confidence and be a mother! I want to so so bad. But it’s my mentality that needs to change and the way I think. So hard. Good luck with your pregnancy ❤️💜 thanks for the video I can’t wait to be on the other side like you.

[@MissExclusive4]

Thank you. I'm hoping for the best for you and your baby💗

[@deannryan8981]

I cut off all communication with my child’s father just for now as I’m trying so hard to move on but I think I’m doing the best thing for myself

[@MissExclusive4]

I understand. I’m wishing you the best🥰

[@Ktreneice]

I also feel by me being younger than him I was his excitement but now that I’m growing up and seeing things different his excuse is that I’m bitchy now and I don’t trust him. I have very good reason, I know there are men out there who would be willing to step in with me having a child or not. One day he’s gonna look back and see that he should’ve stepped up he’s just letting life pass & one day he won’t even be able to reach me smh. I don’t think I’m stupid for wanting it to work because this is my first child and you wanna give that person the chance but some shit is just old, a person will do and show what they want to and I feel like I just need to accept that it’s not meant right now and just move TF on. Yeah it’s different because a baby is involved but I also have to think of my happiness and what my baby deserves. I don’t even go out my way to keep him updated or call as much, I don’t watch his snap chat everyday I’ve actually logged out of snap chat for a min just to clear my mind I said I will post all of my beautiful maternity and baby shower pics on there but for now I just act like he’s not around and it’s slowly helping me live and do this shit without him.

[@thebougiewinechick1869]

You're not immature for seeking child support. Even if you were doing it mostly by yourself before you broke up he still has to contribute financially to his child. Maybe I misinterpreted what you said but hopefully don't feel bad about seeking child support

[@MissExclusive4]

I agree with you. My dad was on child support while married to my mom. It is important for Father's to be financially accountable in their children's lives regardless. I know that sometimes there's pressure from others to not use it but you have to do what's best for the children.

[@nunyabizness3692]

Thanks for the video... Tired of going back and forth with my baby daddy ... I blame myself for letting it go this far.

[@MissExclusive4]

Forgive yourself. You tried out of love and desire for your family and that's okay. You deserve to be happy.

[@user00-s8u]

Waiting for my BD to leave so I can begin to move on with my life. Thanks for the video.

[@MissExclusive4]

Brittany yes ma'am. Keep me posted. Thank you for watching❤😍

[@ThePrettiPalace]

How are you guys now?

[@Ciera123004]

Yea, need a pt 2...your advices are so relatable and maybe you have other advice that I may not know yet. My story w/my son dad needs a popcorn and water; situations is still a work in progress. Cant wait for pt2

[@MissExclusive4]

Cece Bennett I'll definetly have that one up next. Thank you for watching.

[@Lananani]

What if you live with you bd and they have already moved on and are in another relationship? It hurts so much and he’s hurt me so bad idk why I still feel tho way about him

[@MissExclusive4]

I'd work on moving out and moving on. If he is in your place, then I would ask for him to leave. If you are in his place then I would leave and strictly coparent. If you need to live with him for financial reasons, then I would focus on parenting and finding a new job so that you can move on. If you can move in with a relative then I would consider that too for emotional reasons. And if he is in a new relationship, I would not have any intercourse (because I know sometimes they try that).

[@GodLOVES_you1437]

Anen sister you aint lying..this has truly been a rough time for me...i dislike this process but i can't wait until this part is behind me and doing better mentally, physically and emotionally.

[@Swampypizza]

My bd finally left because he said I was seeing someone else. 8 years of his bs and he left me on a lie. He not only left me but two lil girls and they have been crying. Idk what to do. It hurts now but I know things will turn out for the better. Day 1.

[@MissExclusive4]

I'm sorry to hear that. Sometimes when they want to end things, they'll make something up in there head to justify not wanting to be with you anymore. It's hard but every woman has a breaking point. You can decide if you're ready that enough is enough. He shouldn't come in and out of you and your girls' lives. It's summer almost and this is when some want to act up because they want to mingle. You deserve to be happy. I'm hoping you are able to decide what's best and be happy.

[@elliekatx]

I’m scared to let my child’s father be in my daughters life because she seen how he use to treat me and even when we use to play fight she use to start crying and come hug me and make sure I was okay. I don’t want her to think that how he treated me is how a man should treat her and then she’ll end up in the same dead end, toxic, abusive relationship I was in with her dad.

[@MissExclusive4]

That's a fair concern. He can be a parent without being involved with you. That would still show that you don't tolerate being mistreated

[@Lore-wv5mt]

I've done that before went for a year without talking to him it was tuff I just couldnt ser my life without him..now years gone by we have 2 kids and our relationship is toxic I'm not at peace we been thir alot well I HAVE. He needs to grow the fuxk up. I dont know what to do anymore I just want to give up break up and go back to square one being heart broken again and trying my best to move on...he takes me for granited I'm so tried it I'm not perfect but I gave it my all if that's not enough and I dont know what is...Hes the only guy that ever loved and hurts to get hurted by him I wish him the best I do. What sucks is that we both have kids that love to see us both happy n together but I'm not sure I'm what he wants....I need to grow up and hey some balls and get my shot together...but the hearts wantswhat it wants. . But mommy isnt happy because daddy doenst put in the work to make it work.

[@MissExclusive4]

It seems like you know what you want. Just pray on it and do what's best for you. You are worth being happy. You deserve that! You don't have to stay together for the kids. You being happy and healthy will be best for the kids.

[@allegrafort7398]

❤️this I’m happy to witness it actually worked for someone. My kids father and I had a very toxic relationship( physical verbal you name it) I choose to leave him and yes my life has gotten so much better I’m a single mom of two toddlers and while he doesn’t contribute financially which is his excuse for that is bc I have a restraining order against him. Yet I get so lonely I constantly think about him then I feel bad because my kids are fatherless because I choose to stay away from him. I really don’t know what to do it just sucks our babies have to go through this. Hopefully he and can get it right before our kids get older

[@MissExclusive4]

Allegra Fort stay strong mama. It'll be better sooner than you know. Someone could come into your life and love you and the kids without causing you pain. ❤ i wish you the best.

[@biancabellamy8131]

Found out mine is in a relationship and realized I had feelings and expressed this. (BIG MISTAKE) He said he has feelings still and then for a week or so we were vulnerable and the possibility of exploring those feelings seemed there. (BIG MISTAKE #2) He switched on me and said he was being vulnerable because he was being honest and transparent (mind you he initially told me that him and this girl just did music together and that was it and I didn't find out who she was until she followed me on social media and reposted a picture of him with a caption that let me know it was something going on. ) Anyway things are worse then they were before. We had a decent coparenting relationship before this incident but now it's going to be super hard and we have to see each other everyday. He's a sweet guy but he definitely can be what I perceive as manipulative in order to not deal with conflict and it almost always makes things worse.

[@MissExclusive4]

Bianca Bellamy I think I understand what your saying. It seems like you need to block him on social media and take some time without discussing anything except your child(ren) so you can regroup and move forward. You deserve to be happy! And if he lied and was dealing with someone else he’s shown that he is not trying to only about the two of you as far as a romantic relationship.

[@biancabellamy8131]

@@MissExclusive4 To clarify we weren't an item while he talking to this girl but things did happen. He still wants to have a coparent relationship where we travel together and hang out but knowing what I know now I said that's impossible. I've blocked him on everything and I'm taking a social media hiatus because we share way too many mutuals for me to delete everyone. I think the hardest will be keeping conversation at a minimum but I know it's best to move on. Thank you for responding btw!

[@MissExclusive4]

Bianca Bellamy anytime! Thank you for sharing with me. Check out my channel for other advice of you need it❤️

[@leahlanier171]

Great advice!!!! You're so wise, I love it!!

[@MissExclusive4]

Thank you so much sis😊😊

[@abbagaylekitchen7815]

Thank you for this. Love this.

[@zacharydeck2174]

What if the husband is trying to right his wrong and is willing to do anything to keep his family together? Why can’t they build a better life together? Why do they have to move on if the other person is getting their life straight, especially if the wife is in love with the husband?

[@MissExclusive4]

Zachary Deck if they are married then I think that it is a little different. I also think that it depends on what happened. Cheating can really damage the trust. Abuse can also damage a relationship. When married you say until death does you part, but it doesn’t mean that you must accept repeat cheating or abuse. I think if the husband really wants to change and will do so with his actions and the wife is willing to forgive then it may be able to work. However if she has began to emotionally disconnect or he has been cheating for a long time then it could be way too late.

[@julieparra889]

Thanks for your wise words❤️

[@MissExclusive4]

you're welcome.💗

[@MissExclusive4]

Hey Everyone! Thank you for the love and support on this video. Check out part three here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/mJynh52Ca6qAZpI Check out part two. It's time to get our happiness back! ❤❤❤❤ kzbin.info/www/bejne/qqaUfZqJq6xsetU

[@arilou1121]

Good video I really appreciated this❤ hope to hear more self talks from you. New subbie💁‍♀️

[@arizzzzy]

I changed my number on my child's father because he kept sleeping on trying to meet her. He never met her, it's been 2.5 years of no contact and we're in a way better situation than it could have been if he was still involved.

[@MissExclusive4]

I understand. He’ll end up regretting it later.

[@Santini.1]

I really needed to see this. Definitely subscribing

[@MissExclusive4]

Thank you So much. I'm glad this helped!

[@aehr3]

I hope I’m not too late to get advice .. but we split up.. and I had a hard time getting over it because I always wanted that happy family for my baby.. we’re doing good right now.. or so I thought.. we still mess around and I realized I start thinking about him again when that happens.. I blocked him on everything.. but I always think about how he probably talk to other girls.. likes there pictures.. and I get mad.. he’s sweet sometimes but other times I don’t hear from him for hours.. I feel like if I step away from this situation I’m going to lose him for good.. and I guess I’d rather have a small part of him than nothing.. he’s sweet sometimes to me still.. but I just feel like the more I see him.. the more i co parent the less I let myself move on.. I’m with out baby 9 times out of 10 and I’ve grown resentful for that too.. that he just let me with all that responsibility.. I’m only 19.. he seems to be doing whatever he wants while I’m always just home.. I know my baby will thank me later.. but I don’t know.. I really just wish he wasn’t the baby’s father so I could completely cut him off.. advice ..? 😔

[@MissExclusive4]

YaGirl Yenny hey! It’s never too late for advice from my channel. I encourage you to watch my “get over you baby daddy sis playlist” you’re 19 and you have a lot of life left to live. If he is sending mixed signals or entertaining other women then I say let it go! Every time I didn’t and I went back, things got worse. When I let it go for good it hurt, but I ended up getting a better job, my husband found me and I was able to take life to a better level. When you think sad thoughts remember that your worth it sis. You don’t have to settle. Sending you love and good vibes❤️

[@MissExclusive4]

YaGirl Yenny here is the playlist. I hope it helps. Subscribe for more content. I still make videos and I’m always taking requests and giving advice. kzbin.info/aero/PLPaoanNxlohSFnQO3WkZ0iPUgIqJvCohO

[@aehr3]

MissExclusive4 thank you so much 😭❤️ you’re right I shouldn’t be settling.. it will be hard.. but I have to let go.. I will go watch your other videos and I just subscribed❤️❤️

[@lenoracarrillo-davis699]

This is helping me so much

[@MissExclusive4]

I'm so glad that this helped you!

[@ashlikirk423]

I have everything that you suggested and more... and I am still having that problem

[@MissExclusive4]

Check out some of my other videos with tips about moving on and stuff. You have to be ready mentally too.

[@MissExclusive4]

Watch this video sis. Part 3 kzbin.info/www/bejne/mJynh52Ca6qAZpI

[@Alkemmiztt]

My sons dad I left him because I was tired of all the toxicity around my child and because of another horrible thing I suspect, it took me a long time to ever trust him to take our son alone. Once he got a new girlfriend I finally allowed my son to spend a night. He only did this because he wanted to make his girlfriend happy and also be able to see our son. Anyways about the 5th visit in my son came home with markings on his face like someone was pressing their nails deep into his skin I dismissed it thinking maybe I was overthinking but about the 7th visit his girlfriend claimed he fell off the couch at some point it was very clear she slapped my son so hard that she left his glasses imprint on his face, his ear was black. His dad of course took her side so again here we go with one of the biggest reasons I want to keep him away from us as much as possible. He is very inconsistent and always trying to boss me into doing things the way he wants them he hates that I don’t do everything he says. I’m so tired of him I’ve been ignoring him for 2 weeks I want this guy out of our life

[@MissExclusive4]

If i were you, I'd report that to child services and not bring your son over there. His gf should not touch your son PERIOD. They can lock her ass up behind that. You need to protect your son. That's ridiculous. There's no excuse for that.

[@MissExclusive4]

If you can take pictures as well. Your son doesn't deserve that

[@TheBieberfan708]

I need help. My baby daddy and I broke up because of how he treated me throughout our relationship (lying, talking to other females). The thing is he wants to be in our child’s life I just simply don’t trust him. He saying stupid things that seems like he’s putting himself in danger or things like “my family gotta eat so I gotta do what I got to do” and it makes it seems like he’s doing things that’s not suitable for him being around our child. I don’t trust my child being alone with him let alone staying the night at his house (he lives with his mother but she has the same mentality as her son, Ik what you are thinking but at the time I was in love 🤦🏽‍♀️) but he wants to spend alone time with our son and I understand that a son needs his father but how can you be a father when you act like a child like your child? I don’t trust him or his family watching our child but I feel bad because I’m choosing to stay away from my baby daddy and keep my son from seeing who he truly is. I feel like I’m coming off as a bitter baby momma but honestly I just don’t trust him and his family. And my baby daddy is frustrated because I won’t let him see his son alone or let him watch our son or let our son spend the night with him but something always going on with his family and I don’t want my son caught up in their mess. I don’t know what to do.

[@MissExclusive4]

Honestly if you don't feel like it's a safe environment than you have to do what's best for him. However, supervised visits might be the way at the beginning and y'all will have to work on the trust over time for sleepovers. Also make sure that you're forgiving of what he's done to you and strictly worried about the coparenting relationship. I wouldn't want my child in an unsafe environment. Maybe see if you can discuss with his mom.. I'd rather him be with grandparents than running the streets or with a random female that could cause harm.

[@TheBieberfan708]

MissExclusive4 I honestly don’t care about what he did to me, I am forgave him and moved on but I know the type of person he is and he says he won’t put my child in danger but he’s always in danger or having falling outs with people so how can he protect our child when he is danger. And his family is no better than him. I don’t think I’ll ever feel comfortable with the sleepovers maybe watching him for a few hours but more than that idk. He just a terrible example

[@reginarossetti8810]

Thank you for this hun ❤❤❤

[@MissExclusive4]

regina rossetti you're welcome!

[@ashajeremiahqw8775]

I have to relocate it’s just best for me and my child I want no parts either with this man he’s inconsistent with me he will be inconsistent with the child I hate to think negative but it’s how I feel

[@reenae9346]

Sounds like you still had feelings for him. You said he’s inconsistent with you, but that shouldn’t matter if you’re no longer together. The only thing that should matter is the child

[@ashajeremiahqw8775]

@@reenae9346 it’s two sides to the story

[@user00-s8u]

I just love your videos!

[@saragrueninger3727]

Girl I love you true self love!

[@MissExclusive4]

Thank you so much❤

[@TheGlamPantryBeauty]

So how to move on and coparent. When you have to see this person daily

[@MissExclusive4]

why do you have to see each other daily? Do you live together, if yes then one of you should work on moving out.

[@TheGlamPantryBeauty]

@@MissExclusive4 no we have 50/50 joint custody . I work at night . He has our son at night . I have him during the day..every other weekend.

[@TheGlamPantryBeauty]

I've been battling this for years. I get strong for months and strictly coparent then I lonely and let him slide in real quick only to have to start right back over again . And he finds it funny and its tearing me apart

[@MissExclusive4]

@@TheGlamPantryBeauty I see how that could be hard. I have other videos on this but...consider blocking on social media. Keep your number open. Cut off all sex and flirting. Start keeping yourself busy and avoid being alone with him.

[@TheGlamPantryBeauty]

@@MissExclusive4 thank you so much for replying

[@Nikaplustwo]

What if you’re currently pregnant should I cut him off he’s an alcoholic

[@MissExclusive4]

If he’s posing a threat to you and the baby, yes. Take care of yourself and the baby.

[@meganwalker7062]

What would be your advice if you dont trust him? My sons dad has been so in and out that my son doesnt really know him and bc of our issues I just get so scared about him taking him without me.

[@MissExclusive4]

I'll make a video to answer that. It's really many factors that go into that

[@lizzybuu7394]

Is it right to stop talking to my bd. Even tho I have our daughter?? Please help me out

[@MissExclusive4]

Hey! It depends on why you want to stop talking. If he's causing you or your daughter harm then yes. You have to be safe for you and your child. I would say you can switch gears and decide to co parent. Maybe remove him from your social media and keep your phone as a way of communication unless he's harassing you. If you're parents are willing you can use them as a way to communicate as well about your daughter/babysitting dropping off etc.

[@candiicisses737]

My baby daddy was my high school sweet heart . We weren’t ready for a baby but I was to far a long for an abortion and I don’t believe in them we both were being grown and to be honest I’ve mentally said I don’t want to do this back and fourth but sometimes we still dabble with each other and I know that’s toxic. The idea of wanting our daughter to grow up with a family in a two parent home was a big dream for me and I wanted that for her 🤧 But I know I should just leave him alone idk how when my whole life I’ll always have to deal with him . He doesn’t want a relationship right now he isn’t ready but we can’t keep messing with each other and he has his side’s and I have mine even though I use protection idk I’m only 22 I’ll get it together soon right . I just feel bad if the guy I’m dating or talking to isn’t my daughters father bc she looks like him she loves him wants to be around him all the time acts like him. He hurt me during the pregnancy and after we both hurt each other I’m trying to fix this but it’s best just to let go 😭 right . He shows me time and time again why but then he shows me time and time again why not try 😩💕

[@MissExclusive4]

I would leave it alone. Check out this other video from me and you will see why. kzbin.info/www/bejne/iYaaomSfoK-GpJY I used to be in this similar situation except I did not have sides, and I still got hurt. I am happily married and my son's step father is awesome, but it took me from 15 to 23 to finally end it after being on and off and embarrassed and I want you to know that you are too pretty! Too smart to be crying and worried about him if he does not want to grow up and commit to you. I have many videos on this, and I am here to encourage you to more forward. You can also join my live right now if you want to.

[@producekb6886]

you advocating broken families in disguise of mental health 🤦🏾‍♂️

[@MissExclusive4]

Not at all. There’s nothing broken about leaving a toxic situation or coparenting to create a healthier environment for your kids.

[@producekb6886]

@@MissExclusive4 the healthier environment would be for yourself , if the decision was made based on the kids you would’ve chosen better in the first place

[@MissExclusive4]

@@producekb6886 everyone makes mistakes. I hope that you never find yourself in the other side of the situation and if you do I hope that you are the person that works to keep your family together. But no, I don’t encourage anyone to stay in a relationship with an unfaithful or abusive partner (baby daddy or not). Sometimes people don’t realize until after they have kids when they are in love.

[@allthingsceericka2379]

Advice what if your baby daddy lives close to you

[@MissExclusive4]

I think that the advice would still apply. You can separate. Not follow each other on social media. Distance yourself.

[@flycherries30]

wow i needed to hear this

[@MissExclusive4]

Thank you for watching!!

[@flycherries30]

Your welcome, you helped me truly🙏🏿

[@Nflowersb]

Preach sis❤️ video right on time

[@MissExclusive4]

Caneesa Bean thank you so much for watching. I'm glad you liked it.

[@ashleycummings5825]

What if he lives right up the road from you, don't look for his son and his gf living with him?

[@MissExclusive4]

No I would not look for him. He needs to be looking for you and if he isn't then it sounds like a lot of energy wasted. But maybe I misunderstood your question

[@ashleycummings5825]

@@MissExclusive4 thank for you reply and yeah it's much deeper than that