Mitski - Because Dreaming Costs Money, My Dear (Official Video)

[@mitskileaks]

Mitski's new album 'The Land Is Inhospitable and So Are We', featuring the song "My Love Mine All Mine" is out now. Watch the music video: kzbin.info/www/bejne/rKmXnH-do6uYrtE Listen to the album: mitski.lnk.to/TLIIASAW

[@deerlord5662]

Yes

[@renisu6521]

THANK YOU, MITSKI

[@zo.yeahhh]

I am so fkin envious of people whose parents support their life choices because it's so scary and lonely when no one encourages you. At least I have this song.

[@kiabeth5326]

I agree

[@foundingdaddy4123]

Agree

[@OO-ls6fi]

agree

[@solus8685]

I support you I believe in you You're doing incredible Keep doing what you love Don't listen to those who say otherwise It's your life and no one but you should have a say in what you do with it or not 💕

[@liif7152]

@@solus8685 That's some amazing words of encouragement right there! Thanks you for typing those kind words for people who need them :)

[@colorboxbooks2432]

This struck me so hard. I gave up on playing the violin because lessons were expensive and I can't afford a new one. Yet my father's still willing to get me proper one rather than settling for cheap ones. To learn art sadly is not cheap and to master art takes your whole life. I love how Mitski's songs always manage to use the right words to express the struggles of love and life.

[@teaterpurnama3639]

thus this isnt the end of your creativity. you can use youtube as well to learn things😉 and hey, you still have friends too so ya, when you cant play your violin so you can hang out or do smh with your friends. cheer up whoever you are😊

[@mickmickymick6927]

Violin is difficult, but many things you can get preety good preety quick using online resources and the instruments themselves aren't too bad on ebay or somewhere. You need time though which might be hard or impossible if one has to work a lot, it also requires determination and perseverance which not everyone has. So yeah, it is possible, not necessarily easy though and not always practical

[@smokes3974]

wait, you dont have free music education in your country?

[@blahkabelison2234]

Pigmented do you? where do you live??

[@smokes3974]

Blahkabelison in poland we have an entire music eduaction system that follows your normal school's grades. You have primary music school, high school and conservatories and all are free. We learn not only our main instruments there but we also have practical subjects like: orchestra, choir, additional piano (every instruments besides main piano have these) and theory: harmony, music theory, music forms, eartraining, counterpoint and music history. At the end of all this which takes about 16 years for each instrument you get a diploma and some deegrees and you can be a professional musician

[@Gabriel-ud5hu]

Dreaming costs a lot of money. I'm in my 20's now and now i don't dream so big like i used when i was 16 and naive. Now everything is about working hard and try to get money. It's so bittersweet.

[@bestof1506]

how is it bittersweet?? It's just.... bitter...

[@Gabriel-ud5hu]

@@bestof1506 I was trying to stay positive... lol

[@brianna_s-yl3ic]

@@bestof1506 well that’s the bitter part yes, but in the process you can still make many sweet memories per se

[@hoot6916]

not surprised that you have a shinji pfp

[@a.g.d3162]

You still holding up? :(

[@tonidu6809]

This is basically the mother's response to Class of 2013, and I love it

[@emmett8247]

ayo thats such a cool interpretation ima put them next to each other on my playlists now

[@almondwaet7966]

WHY DID YOU HAVE TO DO THAT TO ME ITS ALMOST 4AM AND IM SWIMMING IN TEARS

[@Atabey1877]

RIGHT

[@theuirseursyes]

wait ur so right

[@Lalaloopsie16]

I love that you said this

[@cambrown5633]

"Don’t dare regret anything Remember what you’re here for"

[@SamChaneyProductions]

She uses tension in such a harsh and at the same time gentle and subtle way! It just tears me apart.

[@shifterkart1]

Oh, stop being such a hipster and just enjoy. :P

[@Misha0angel]

this is so true! omg you put it to words. It kills me. I love it.

[@lettersviastars]

@@shifterkart1 lol theyre just describing how they enjoy it!

[@friendlyghosthost1830]

It’s like she comforting the listener while holding back tears

[@hyperspace7122]

same with bag of bones. also the line "and you tear me apart" from that song. it fits perfectly.

[@isav1116]

[Verse 1] I can still smell the fire Even though it’s long died out The smoke still hangs in my hair And on some quiet evenings it burns my eyes [Chorus] So darling, play your violin I know it’s what you live for Darling, play your violin We will manage somehow [Verse 2] I once lived in the sea Bring me to your ear, you can hear The tide where I used to be Though now I’m but a shell Oh babe Don’t say sorry [Chorus] Darling, play your violin I know it’s what you live for Darling, play your violin We will manage somehow [Post-Chorus] Don’t dare regret anything Remember what you’re here for, you Just play your violin And we will manage somehow

[@meadow7229]

did anyone else grow up without any big dreams because they knew those dreams wouldn't come true or is that just me?

[@brianna_s-yl3ic]

me!! my biggest dream rn is to buy a grand piano? i’ve never really had any huge dreams

[@masterofneincontact4799]

Omg :((( I never thought of it this way, but damn

[@solus8685]

Yeah, I never thought about my future because I didn't even think I'd have one

[@ryu_u.]

lmao me

[@telaohara4562]

Girlboss we're listening to mitski this goes without saying

[@afaye2268]

i wish dreaming didn’t cost so much. money, time, energy, everything. it’s so painful to know that once i grow up, i won’t have time to dream and i won’t have money to even think about dreaming. i can feel myself getting old even though i’m only 15 and still have my whole life in front of me

[@okyes2753]

Life is about keeping the ability to dream, to create. You don't stop living at any age. The teen years are especially hard, remember, you're worth it in life and it won't always be this awful. Life is always different 3 months after the thing you don't want to happen happens.

[@ninalisazu1521]

same, and im 16

[@gen6375]

14 here, I understand you so much :c

[@amanjii701]

can we get a checkup

[@merledrw8203]

Im 18 and out of school, what am I supposed to do? I just want to dream…

[@nerdcentral9728]

The ending of this video where Mitski makes eye contact with the camera as she sings absolutely kills me. It’s like she’s addressing us directly and telling us to hang on. And the subtle little nod after the last “we will manage somehow” wrecks me every time.

[@almondwaet7966]

IKR

[@lilovuu222]

And that little smile after that.. :(

[@farah24355]

same, this i exactly why i love this song so much

[@shekinah3798]

“we will manage somehow” reminds me so much of my mom. we already don’t have very much money but 4 years ago when i said I wanted to play the violin, she was so excited and even bought me one for my birthday. and it wasn’t just a cheap one either, she went to one of the best instrument shops in my town and bought it. there have been countless times where she’s been behind in paying bills but she always made sure that my monthly violin bill was paid no matter what. then eventually she stopped paying for lessons because we just couldn’t pay for it anymore and i felt like it was my fault because if it wasn’t for me, she could’ve used the $30 a month for my violin on actually important things. i still tell her that i’ll stop playing if she really can’t afford it but she doesn’t want me to at all but it just makes me feel so bad knowing that i’m part of the reason that we still don’t have very much.

[@rainadas2088]

she loves you very much and is willing to give many things to see you thrive in the arts :) i cannot imagine how difficult it must be, but she is an amazing mother and cherish her for as long as you can

[@greentea_sogood]

i'm so sorry :(

[@meowmix2940]

your violin IS important. your mother is a wise woman to know that. keep making music, keep doing what you love, and keep making your mom proud. it sounds like she loves you very much and wants nothing more than for you to be happy. im so sorry things are rough for your family right now, and i hope one day that will change. for now, just keep trying to learn and practice as best as you can without a teacher. its worth it, i promise you. wishing the best of luck to you and your family ♥️

[@zedtzika677]

I hope you understand that for her it doesn't matter what she had but that you are happy. So don't feel bad but feel honoured. She loves you so much she only cares about you❤

[@aj-rk9zp]

this song feels like a self hug

[@mourningdewey]

i will never forget how my dad bought my art for $20 when i was in middle school. i always dreamt of being an artist and for one day, he let me be one. i've never felt that good about my art again and i've resigned myself to becoming a history teacher instead. despite letting my dreams go, i'll never forget my dad's kindness and how he's always believed in me.

[@humgoose5680]

hey, just wanna say, art will always be there for you to come back to, if you ever want to.

[@nomihabo9752]

Just reading the title got me in tears. I'm still not ready for this one

[@lauren4237]

This song will always wreck me. The night my dad died I cried to him about not being able to afford art school, he told me he basically said the exact same thing "We'll manage, don't feel guilty about anything- you are worth it".

[@오정균-n7d]

It must be extra hard if that one was one of the last things you told your dad. My condolences and I hope you’re happy in art school now.

[@whitebear224]

Big salute to those parents who still does their best to provide and buy gifts despite financial problems 🙂

[@sad_melli7270]

hello? Where do I find those? 👁👁

[@merci-bcp651]

@Loukya Sai They are not. Although, people don't know how the story usually ends with a financially struggling parent and their child(ren). Yes, they buy their children gifts despite being in financial hell. However, they soon end up resenting the child. They suddenly wake up one day, realising "I have wasted my time providing for this child who will turn out to not how I shaped them to be". Then they'll give up the child as soon as he or she turns 16. The mother will kick the child out and the dad will stand by and watch - without saying a word. Atleast... that is what happened to me. I relate to this song in my own way. I have wasted my mother's valuable years, and she has grown envious and ruined the beginning of mine. Do I even deserve to dream at this point?

[@merci-bcp651]

And although there are some out there who stay loving and nurturing as a mother should be, unfortunately the financial struggle will eat them alive and create momsters. I will never get my life back. My life consists of crying to this song, which I relate a little too much to.

[@uyhuuejeh539]

this is probably why this song hits different for me

[@merci-bcp651]

@Koviches thank you 🙏

[@cassandrasantiago7553]

This song is like apologizing to my younger self for giving up my dreams of art for math because my siblings deserve a chance to live their dreams.

[@seasalt3756]

I did the same

[@erresefele]

you deserve to live your dreams too

[@NikiAesthette]

@@erresefele that's right! you still deserve to live your dreams too after you see them live theirs. it's never too late to follow your dreams, to pursue whatever you want to pursue

[@lilac_hem]

this song always gives me goosebumps and makes me cry. my dad is an immigrant. he and my mom both worked so hard to get in-debt and get through school. they continued working so hard when i was little, both as medical practitioners - helping people. after my mom broke her leg and back, the responsibility to provide fell on my dad. he and my mum had already been working most of the time, but after that he had to work even more often. every day, including holidays and birthdays. i barely got to see him, and when i did .. it wasn't always pleasant, but that's another subject i guess. we moved a lot. then our house burned down, and another house flooded, and another was broken into and robbed. gradually, my parents spent all of their savings .. trying to care for us kids. my dad spent his entire 401k, and he and my mum filed bankruptcy more than once. he still works every day, and he and my mother still struggle. it hurts so badly. how can they still struggle so much, after spending their whole lives working and helping and providing? how are they still struggling with bills and to keep a car and ... it hurts. i want so badly to be able to take away all of their burdens. all i wanted to do, growing up, was go to a performing arts school. we couldn't afford it, not to mention the instruments and other forms of instruction i wanted. i had four siblings. i can't afford college, now, and they refuse to give me loans because "my parents make too much money," and my mum can't collect disability because "she is too educated," and it hurts so bad. my parents don't make enough to pay for my schooling in any capacity, they barely make enough to pay for their rent, utilities, insurance, food, and everything else. so i .. will also work. i'll suck it up and keep working as a file clerk. i don't wanna let my dreams die. i really don't. but, i dunno.

[@inesloichtl7152]

Do you have a gofundme of sth? Bc i would totally donate

[@francisforever6554]

dont let ur dreams die, please, you will figure out someday, Believe that money is countless and its everywhere if we keep dreaming and try hard for them. we could attain our dreams to come true, my dad passed away since I was a kid, my mom got health issues so she cant work again, I carry many responsibilities and im still young.. still im grateful enough that i go to school and have something to eat, we will reach our dreams, both of us and the one who is reading this. one last thing im not trying to gaslight you im just leaving hope that tells u are not the only one. ily.

[@haphephobia]

hey hows it going?

[@오정균-n7d]

If your parents make barely enough money to afford necessities, how do they make too much for a loan?!

[@snailuka]

this might sound weird but when I listen to this song I want to take the sun out of the sky, holding it close to me, never letting it leave, because it brings me happiness. I want a small part of the sunlight to become a part of me, so I can always be happy.

[@elle4630]

this is so pretty

[@aylin5903]

But u are an ice cube :(

[@stillthinkofu]

this is so beautiful

[@anomnomnomnivore1350]

You, right there, wrote something with a double meaning without it. We assume prettiness based on appearances (in your case, the sun). But in reality the sun is flaming ball of energy floating in the literal dead of space. We think it’s pretty tho because it gives us life. We’re merely in the right place of the solar system with water. The rest of the solar system… well, let’s just say that if they’d have a conscious they’d view the sun as a source of destruction, death and emptiness and sorrow. But does it matter what they think? The sun is pretty and sustains us. But if also kills and brings death, sometimes here on earth as well.

[@oishd6077]

@@aylin5903 the romantic tragedy 😔

[@xrayxo]

the way mitski looks me in the eyes and says “we will manage somehow” and then just starts humming ( 3:00 ) gives me so much comfort and makes me feel somewhat safe idk but the rest of the song just makes me cry like a baby

[@comradehermit9320]

She breaks my heart every single time. Greatest songwriter of our generation.

[@dumbalexa8859]

this hits so hard, growing up wanting to pursue a dream was just not a choice, I always envied kids that had supporting parents or what i really mean is rich parents. i don't want to sound ungrateful, bc i love my parents and how hard they have worked for everything i have. but growing up without having anyone support ur dream or help you is so lonely and heartbreaking. now i must think realistically and work for money and that money is not for pursuing my dreams.

[@makaylahendrix2296]

after watching the given movie.... the violin part really hits hard

[@kimyadawsonlover]

where can i watch the given movie?

[@twiceworlddomination1144]

@@kimyadawsonlover Crunchyroll

[@Vlol7777]

U reminded me to go watch the movie.. Thank u

[@t.n.21]

@@kimyadawsonlover animeflix 😇

[@ell8188]

Don't get me started on the given movie 😭

[@bituinn]

it sounds so desperate and comforting at the same time. especially when she sang, “we will manage somehow”, reminds me of a mother’s reassurance. i’ve only heard of mitski from twitter, i wish i could have listened to her music before. i stumbled upon this song on spotify, and cried so much. this song resonates what i’m going through right now. university has been difficult. i hope everyone gets to achieve their dreams. it’s so hard tho, when you are worrying about money.

[@YvviieYT]

She's the most inspiring woman I listen to, i wish you nothing but success in your life mitski!!

[@leiluv]

Guess what

[@kehalniis]

@@leiluv what?

[@sickleflow]

not to make this about numbers but 6 years later she's now the top alt artist on Spotify at the moment with rapidly growing listeners (25.5m+) and well on her way to a grammy nomination 🤞

[@pictureparlour000mitski]

The most advanced American songwriter

[@Lara-vo6rp]

Hello it seems as if I'm finding you everywhere again haha 🌼

[@pictureparlour000mitski]

@@Lara-vo6rp we love mitski

[@jayantisewnath75]

I was not prepared to cry, i come from a family that has had some hard times and my parents have somehow always been supportive of me making art. I feel like i'm dismissing all their hard work since my art has been stagnant. This song hit so hard and im so grateful to my parents

[@romellebee6474]

2:34 im sobbing she's looking into my soul and i will give up everything for her

[@Wilfrdeleon]

To me this song comes from the perspective of a mother... A soothing song or poem directed to her child that knows about her family's economic situation. Reasauring, calming and caring. As someone who grew up faster than i shouldve this song makes me cry. Even throughout those problems they always found a way to fund my dreams

[@borzoi2006]

imagining this coming from the mothers perspective just makes me cry dude

[@ven7033]

that song hurts, "we will manage somehow" reminds me of about everything my mom had to do in her whole life just to give me a good life and i feel like i dont deserve this

[@ingridtan6339]

I love how her songs never go where you expect them to

[@aurora-10]

i remember when i first wanted to become a doctor, i was only 5 and my mother told me that she did not have the money to support me then, but promised she'd push through for me not only did she get a better job, but i worked twice as hard at school, and now i've been taking dual enrollment for almost five years and i'll be able to go to med school early :)) miracles do happen if you want things enough

[@josephineeather9852]

"We will manage somehow"

[@tearay1073]

I can still smell the fire Even though it's long died out The smoke still hangs in my hair And on some quiet evenings it burns my eyes So darling, play your violin I know it's what you live for Darling, play your violin We will manage somehow I once lived in the sea Bring me to your ear, you can hear The tide where I used to be Though now I'm but a shell Oh babe Don't say sorry Darling, play your violin I know it's what you live for Darling, play your violin We will manage somehow Don't dare regret anything Remember what you're here for, you Just play your violin And we will manage somehow

[@andresfernandosalazarforer442]

My heroe 💁🌟

[@chips6042]

This song hits me so hard. My band director and 2 other band members groomed me (separately), and even though it didn't last too long because my intuition helped me, it went on long enough for me to be haunted. I never noticed what was going on until I turned 16 and I looked back. I quit band after confessing to my parents. The director plays the same instruments as me, piano and trombone, and hearing them in this song kills me. And the other member also plays trombone. They ruined playing music for me, but crying it out with this song feels likes it's helping me release what I represed. Dreaming costs more than money, it cost me my innocence and my chance at a happy childhood.

[@MrTrademarked]

Thank you. I’ve been coping. Many days have i wondered if I’m enough. Even given my constant effort. You make me feel brave. I love you. Thank you. Again.

[@fleurscaptivess]

this is her most heart wretching song ever

[@Snaretrips]

The "don't say sorry" part has me crying

[@caitiecordes9384]

I’ve always been told that my dreams are unachievable, because my family has no money or connections to make them happen. I don’t know where to go from here

[@arianeuy4663]

im so tired. mitski's music seems to help

[@andreimalate8158]

The part where she just stares at the camera breaks me every single time. It makes me feel seen and understood in this world😭😭😭

[@specialed4659]

im still a kid but this song hits hard as someone who grew up poor, and still is. my mom has been addict for the longest time, my dad wasnt in my life and i had four other siblings. ive never had enough money to pursue anything ive ever wanted, and now im led down the same path as my mom already. i remember stealing from stores a lot to get my own stuff, like deodorant, school supplies, food; things i shouldnt have needed to steal. i feel like such a waste of a kid but thats how life goes, because dreaming costs money, my dear.

[@kaiatherton247]

OMFG THE HAIR WRAPPING AROUND HER NECK, I LOVE IT SM.

[@clairiebee]

But I think just like the burned house and the sea, seeing a child play their favorite song on violin would become another cherished memory and a reason to keep going through hard times as a parent. I felt ashamed of myself the first few times I heard this, but just now I realize why "play your violin" is repeated, seeing your child enjoying yourself IS the repayment to their parents. My parents have always supported my art and I think this song brings out the most selfless part of that dynamic. Have you ever seen a kid doing something they really like? How could you ever let the cruelty of the world rip away their favorite thing? I would work until my legs went numb to support just that excited look, and to think my parents must have felt this way about me makes me cry like a baby.

[@corah3544]

the guilt and sadness i feel listening to this song holy shit!!! she’s put it all into words and sounds!!!! mitski has done it again she rlly gets it!!!!!

[@tvyvess]

this song hits hard, i grew up with a single mother in a lot of debt yet she still paid for my gymnastics lessons, gymnastics was my life but i ended up hurting myself and never being able to do gymnastics again, all of that money for nothing, it hurts

[@floralrune]

i dont know why "don't dare regret anything, remember what you're here for, you just play your violin" makes me cry instantly but it does

[@chelacala7320]

This pains me because the thought of your parent supporting your choices in life while still comforting you in a way pains me so much. I love Mitski so much.

[@reiiwashere]

my family, especially grandparents were falling apart quickly, quicker than most families drift apart somehow. my mother was about to go into debt, my grandparents were blaming my grades (which were B's nd the occasional C) on everything i do, being like "you're not gonna be a detective (my old dream job) if you dont get good grades" or "_____ is why you're getting bad grades" and all i ever craved was support but nobody would ever give me it, sometimes they would even call me spoiled if i wanted to talk to them (KEEP IN MIND I WAS 8-12) but im so glad i had this song to practically sing me a lullaby, knowing there would be someone, or something in the world who supported me. edit: i didnt mention my father due to his passing when i was around 3 months old, never even met him.

[@emilyphillips1314]

2:09 always gets me😔 the way her voice shakes for that whole line

[@fify1988]

As some one who grew up afraid to ask for school supplies because of the cost, this song really tears at my heart. I want to have this kind of love for my children (when I have them). Working hard to see them find their dreams peacefully is a kinda of utopia I strive for

[@lile.lissie]

i hear my mothers voice when i listen to this song. "I can still smell the fire" - we went through a separation between my mother and my dad, it was her most difficult year of marriage. its died out and done but she still can't forget it. "on some quiet evenings it burns my eyes" she dreams about how she felt at the time. loneliness, it was. 2 years later, we move without my dad. near some family from my mom's side. i have a guitar now and my mom sometimes lets me play to her but in all, she doesnt like it. my mom struggled at work with a lack of sleep. "darling, play your violin. i know it's what you live for." She would tell me to stop worrying and play my guitar or get to my studies. my mental health also worsened too. "we will manage somehow." Were words my mother left out. she completed the full sentence in her head only. "I once lived in the sea" Before she had children, she was dating my father. she was happy and they had a good relationship. "bring me to your ear and hear the tide where i used to be" she'd show us pictures in photo albums when they were young. it was beautiful. "dont dare regret anything" I wanted to apologize for my birth because i thought i had ruined my mom's life. i cry everytime i hear the song but thank you for this masterpiece mitski.

[@jncarvajal]

I actually interpreted this as Mitski singing this to a friend or a fellow artist, but reading the comments also makes me think this is what Mitski wanted to hear when she was younger.

[@leila4244]

this song is a very valid reason to cry in a positive way

[@yvyax]

mitski had no rights to release this gem of a song(literally sobbing)

[@alece]

she is so pretty

[@maiktxx4537]

FORREALLL

[@aflooki]

Ok i gotta say i cried w watching this. Its such a sad and loving song. I dont know how to describe it but just the softness in the song is also so harsh I just gotta go n hug my mom real quick ok

[@ihatedmyoldnamesoheresanew7204]

cant believe mitski invented the piano

[@marcus.taylorsversion8448]

and the violin😍

[@Marikinnie]

​@@marcus.taylorsversion8448your pfp

[@afaye2268]

i’ve never wanted anything more than to learn to play piano and guitar and sing. but it’s too expensive and i’m too old now. it hurts to know i can’t do what i’ve always really loved because it is just too far out of reach. self teaching can only get you so far when you don’t have a good perception of the world around you

[@w1reduser]

I feel you

[@sumayyahhussain14]

mitskis music resonates with me like no other. i wanna bawl my eyes out at every song

[@jamiemaybe]

I think this is my ending song of choice for 2020, Because Dreaming Costs Money, My Dear. This year has been hell and back, but through it all I've had one person that has been there through everything. And personally that's what this song is about to me. Its easy to feel helpless in the constant stream of bad news that has been this year, but as long as my Darling 'plays the violin' or is doing what makes them happy such as art or music, we will manage somehow. No matter what happens I never want my partner to feel sorry or regret anything when they are with me. And although the smoke of 2020 may hang in my hair I hope they can pick me up and hear the tide and we can into 2021 and continue to have our passions that we live for, as well as living for each other. Happy new years

[@Tam-um2qe]

TE AMO TE AMO TE AMO TE AMO TE AMOOOO TE AMO TANTO TE AMO, YA DIJE QUE TE AMO??? ERES MI RAZÓN DE VIVIR MITSKI, TE AMOOOOO AAAAAAHHH TE AMO TE AMO MÁS QUE A TODOS

[@there.9254]

this video deserves a bigger budget but the quality kinda matches the song/title

[@yvyax]

DONT DARE REGRET ANYTHING REMEMBER WHAT YOURE HERE FOR YOU JUST PLAY YOUR VIOLIN AND WE WILL MANAGE SOMEHOW

[@uleursule9534]

i thought that i'm strong enough to not cry during this song...

[@mariecastart]

HA! I didn't. My tears were done after Your Best American Girl :'(

[@wackywoohoopizzaman7218]

this is literally the best thing ive ever heard

[@jasaray]

the melody alone makes me feel so many emotions at once

[@find_chideva]

something i really like about this song is the lyric, “don’t *dare* regret anything.” it implies that regretting playing the violin is a crime or mistake; and although it could just be surface level interpreted as the mom didn’t want her kid to grow up unhappy for something not in their control, i also interpret it as kind of a threat. if the kid were to regret playing the violin, or got out of the interest somehow, the money used on the lessons and books and rosin and the instrument itself would be wasted. i didn’t grow up poor, but my mom did, and her only chance of giving me a better life was to go to engineering college and marry my asshole of a father. she raised me that way, and i don’t blame her. i remember being forced into playing the piano, being told my art was ugly when i was six. when i got to middle school, i decided to join the band and play percussion. my mom wanted me to join world language, which would take up my other elective, and i wouldn’t even be able to join art. i was forced to make a presentation about colleges and how this would help my future and stressing about colleges when i was in 5th grade because my mom “cared” about my future. my parents have always been like this; my mom was limited, manipulative, and controlling, and my dad was volatile and angry all the time. they cared about my brothers more than me. i was recently hospitalized for a suicide attempt; and when i came back the next morning i went to sleep and my mom was telling me she “cared” about my feelings, but when i woke up in the afternoon my mom told me “when you start earning, you have to give me your first 2,000 dollars” and guilt tripping me about the bills, like i was the one who asked to be taken away on an ambulance at 11 pm on a monday evening. i love my mom but when i listen to this song i get so sad because i wish she supported my dreams more. i wish i wouldn’t have to dread about getting american citizenship or a somehow a work visa when i really want to become an artist so young. at least i have this song. i love mitski. “I once lived in the sea Bring me to your ear, you can hear The tide where I used to be Though now I'm but a shell”- of her former dreams.

[@adrianna9458]

i had so much imagination. i was so motivated to write poems & stories & even sing & dance when i couldn't. now im just trying to find back that artistic spark. i envy people who can do their art endlessly. i used to write such beautiful pieces & now i can't think of anything. i stripped my individuality away now im stuck with nothing. i fear being boring or bland so much but it's sad to say that i am. i want back that spark.

[@holly99999]

i hear you and i feel you.

[@thelivingmanpart2]

saw her live last night at the echo... moved me almost to tears!! such beauty in her voice and lyrics

[@borzoi2006]

I cried the first time i heard this song because I could relate so much, like my family singing it to me considering all of my dreams revolve around art

[@mcd3635]

How has she not mad major bucks yet she's AWESOME

[@scatlauncher]

Because she's not conventionally attractive and doesn't sexualize herself.

[@mcd3635]

+scatlauncher the disappointment in the current popular icon system :(

[@dakotahope599]

+scatlauncher to me she's one of the most beautiful women. She's herself

[@gabauchi8338]

stylistically shes also an acquired taste it's a delicious taste, but an acquired one

[@tayloeisthebongolord8992]

I know this is incredibly late but I'm kind of upset no one said "because dreaming costs money my dear" to reply

[@fanofthings6720]

i have hard feelings with this song, i wish i had a dream so big i could simply follow it, but i have never been that passionate about any one thing, and dont have any big dreams and really wish i had them

[@bunnana8522]

The title itself hits me really hard

[@Sara-et9sm]

As a young kid I never got to dream big. My family was too open on money to the point I would never buy anything for me because I thought we couldn’t afford anything. I always wanted to go into debate during elementary and middle school but I was always told no because “it costs too much money and you’ll fail.” I just wish my parents wouldn’t have made me feel that way as a kid. Now as I’m older I realized they never wanted to give me the things that brought me any interest, they would always give my sister anything she found fun and completely disregarded what I wanted. She got a car from them and I got a older computer when I turned old enough to move out. They used to tell me and my sister “We’re saving up for both of your colleges.” But they never saved up for my college and only my sisters college because t was too much money to spend on both of us. Sometimes I feel like I’m always burdening them so I never let them get me anything in fear that my sister will get upset about it. Rant over

[@alehawasimat7108]

We have lived the exact same life

[@einalteshemd]

i love mitski

[@hegdepuffin]

wow me too! what a coincidence

[@sofiamontanez6889]

I'm just so proud of her, gives me chills the last part while she sing "we will manage somehow" and stares at the camera considering how she made it and the today's success of love mine all mine

[@whateverjami]

i remember crying to this in 2016, god mitski, was the comfort of my childhood 😭 as a person of color and inspiring musician, i feel everything she speaks through her music. she’s art & i’m so so sorry for her at the same time, writing such music must be emotionally exhausting.

[@potato.pancake]

hi i just wanna say completely aside from her being an absolute wizard with melodies, vocals, and lyrics, I LOVE HER OUTFITS SO MUCH

[@potato.pancake]

she’s so gorgeous it’s unfair :((((

[@potato.pancake]

*lesbian noises *

[@ross1364]

This song reminds me of my mother, she is always there to make me feel better, always trying to help me reach my dreams and goals The “darling play your violin part” breaks my heart, it reminds me of how hard she tries to make me feel better, telling me to keep going even tho some people will not like what I want to do with my life, she is always there, telling me to keep going, even if it’s hard I love my mom 🧡 thank u for making this song mitski

[@isabelledoesstuff8040]

The first verse hits me so hard. Last February I had a house fire that destroyed my home and I can still smell it sometimes

[@regina1860]

Still my favorite Mitski song. I hope she tries exploring this sound again someday.

[@pierrotlehonque5084]

idk why this got me instead of the other, equally sad mitski songs, but this one got me

[@mattyvamp]

this song is a favorite of mine, and it's such a comfort. it honestly keeps me alive, too. thank you, mitski.

[@cloutelfin8323]

Kinda started crying because as someone in the arts who’s had big dreams since a very young age, but with parents who didn’t have the money nor the time to get me lessons, I started singing and playing my guitar quite late. I’ve played clarinet and bass clarinet since I was 9, only because of my school. I’m much older now, but it makes me feel envious of those around me who were able to start lessons from a young age because they didn’t have to wait years to become financially stable and had parents who did have the time and money and supported them in what they did. Dreams can be expensive.

[@baby1648]

I’m crying but not because I gave up on my dreams, it’s because Mitski would gave been the same age as I am with this video’s release. I saw her earlier this year for my birthday and it’s one of the few moments I was glad to be alive for. My dream is to be content in life and I struggle to move on to the next day, but I try to hold on to the small happiness that will find me in the future. I didn’t always listen to Mistki but her music was one of those small moments that kept me hoping for the future. It sounds sad when I explain it out loud but my favorite shows, favorite music, favorite moments are my biggest dreams. No matter where I end up in life, I will always have them with me.

[@louds0ft593]

i'd really love to study music but there's basically no public universities in germany that offer the degree i want, and i can't afford to go to a private one, or one in a big city abroad. i know that there's worse problems and it's not a requirement for a career in music but i feel like i can never be good enough without it - and i guess i never will, because dreaming really does cost money lmao

[@xim287]

I'm literally in the same situation :( I hate this

[@frankie4020]

im in awe. i am going to eat god.

[@megplum1287]

on this night we will have a feast!

[@gabeitch4484]

that deep, huh?

[@dandylions3540]

Your username is my name, and I am glad that there are two Frankies out there who have similar energy *shakes ur hand*

[@mintchew2757]

Do it no balls I bet you won't

[@cornmono3665]

Oh okay... wait, what?

[@silent_syren]

it’s like this song is just reading my life. it’s such a beautiful song, and it brings me such comfort and yet reminds me i have all of this trauma and memories, and reminds me i’m growing and learning from it. i don’t know how, but she always knows exactly what lyrics to use. absolutely gorgeous.

[@kylagranville5449]

UNDERRATED SONG ALERT🚨🚨

[@ari-fx4kv]

this is really relatable when it comes to the one i'm in love with. her life is so incredibly heartbreaking. she's too young to hear her mom saying she wants to "disown her". give her to her father. get rid of her. just keep her away from her as hard as she can. and she's too young for her whole body to be covered in scars. scars she made. with her own hands, she'd cut herself and drink her honey everytime something bitter would come out of her family's mouths. she feeds on it. she feeds on her own honey. how innocent of a little girl does it take for someone to do something like that to her? it shatters my heart. it breaks it. i wish i could take her somewhere away from all of that, somewhere so far from everything, she doesn't deserve this, she doesn't at all, and i can't keep saying this to her because she isn't mine, she'd think it's bizarre. i just want her to have a normal life. one of where she's happy. one of where she doesn't feel the need to look out for her reckless sister and all of her wrecking doings. god, all i want is for her to be happy, even if it means we might have to become someones of strangers again. and as hard as i try to write my heart away, i'll never get this cowardly feeling out, it's always there, now i beat myself up whenever my heart is not blue, whenever my heart is not blue for her, i feel selfish myself for thinking i even have somewhat of a hard life. carry me away. carry me away. all i want is for someone to carry me away. and with that, all i want is to carry her away, with me.

[@foreignersgod]

this is truly heartbreaking, i wish you both the best

[@mirandabulling2002]

This song popped in my head and wouldn’t stop repeating in my head the day my mom died. It makes me cry everytime.

[@helisarodrigues7185]

The only thing I can think of listening to this is my parents lifes before me. I envy people that were wanted from the beginning, and weren't a surprise. They had dreams, they lived in the sea, they were free to go to any direction, now they live in a shell, trapped together. I know I'm not supposed to say, but I am so sorry.

[@wnrd7270]

I'm always ugly crying to this song, so comforting yet so heartbreaking

[@jimmylongfert]

I live in awe of this woman. The poetic flow of words, the way her music catches you in the right places. I hope she will continue to make her music.

[@nikiniki4015]

mitski I love you, even now as I'm crying, your songs, your songs are one of the few things i appreciate in my life, I'm so glad i am privileged enough to be able to listen to music, even if life has been utterly tough and unfair to me, even if it's been far from normal, I'm really really glad I can listen to your music please keep making music, its a source of light for desperate people like me

[@idk-ti3og]

When i was little i always wanted to turn 18 and now im sitting here 19 years old not knowing what to do with my life, not really having any dreams or a big goal in life bc i never really thought id end up this far not bc i was depressed or something , i just never really realized who fast time passes by , and even though i am young i feel really old even though i have my whole life infront of me i choose to grief over my teenage years in which i feel like i wasted

[@sonatachabanga]

I'm sad. I'm afraid of going after my dreams because Im scared I'm not good enough. Adulting is hard lol

[@ameligotrizz]

i love mitski so much, im watching this on repeat, laying on the floor crying