Equating Polygyny & Cheating? (Response)

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[@MohammedHijab]

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[@mohammedabdulsami781]

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[@yusufdaoud5491]

@@mohammedabdulsami781 ❤️ I am from Palestine

[@justarandomsoul4191]

@@mohammedabdulsami781 I am Indian Muslim And I pray for my brothers in Pakistan 🇵🇰

[@amatullahnet5022]

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[@HadithWeekly]

محمد انا اخوك محمد اعيش في امريكا وهذه قناتي اريد رايك فيها اخي الحبيب من فضلك انا عندي 17 سنه

[@MohammedHijab]

24.11 made a recitational error, not سخطوا but كرهوا. Both mean to hate or dislike

[@TheRockeyAllen]

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[@yusufdaoud5491]

@@TheRockeyAllen or heart it because he pinned the Pakistan donation link

[@TheRockeyAllen]

@@yusufdaoud5491 oh alright didn't know only one comment could be pinned

[@its_me_mahmud]

23:56 👆👆👆 brother Mohammed Hijab mentioned the error

[@minusfive2297]

17:00 as well you missed: وأظهره الله عليه

[@lybaonaiz91]

thank you so much for raising funds for pakistani flood victims, Pakistanis are also trying to raise as much funds as we can and all of your support is extremely needed

[@peanutbutterman411]

Do you know that your government was supporting the Taliban? I just want to see if the Pakistani public knows this or not

[@lybaonaiz91]

@@peanutbutterman411 I would love to discuss politics with you but millions of pakistani people have died and all you can think about is politics? Do you think your govt has no treaties with numerous terrorist organisations, come out of your propaganda mindset and stop including politics in discussions about humanity

[@nanashi7779]

@@lybaonaiz91 Give no attention to these trolls brother/sister

[@sub7se7en]

We are one ummah. A Muslim is next of kin to another Muslim. Al-Nu’man ibn Bashir reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “The parable of the believers in their affection, mercy, and compassion for each other is that of a body. When any limb aches, the whole body reacts with sleeplessness and fever.” We have each others' back, no matter what.

[@bilalalmurtaza2733]

@@sub7se7en الله يخليك ❤️

[@andydufresne4444]

Muslim men are allowed to marry " chaste" Christian or Jewish women not just any Christian or Jewish woman. People tend to ignore this fact.

[@oulangkous718]

very true. I know a brother who used to attend jumuah and then one day I found out his Christian with a Christian name and I thought he bacame murtad but when I asked him about it he said his mom is Christian and his father is Muslim but that he was always Christian and attended church on sundays. our young brothers don't think long term consequences unfortunately.

[@eafesaf6934]

@@oulangkous718 that's such a bizzare thing to do.

[@uz327]

Why do people forget the same is true about Muslim women? It's literally in the same verse. "And permissible for you in marriage are chaste believing women as well as chaste women of those given the Scripture before you" [5:5]

[@abdoudz3388]

how is that relevant to the topic being discussed here

[@andydufresne4444]

@@uz327 because Muslim women are chaste by default and marriage to them is permissible by default, non Muslim women are an exception and chastity is a condition to marry them, while in the Muslim women case it is not a condition in the sense than the man does not ask about it , because chastity is presupposed . If he found out that she was not chaste then there would be different courses to choose from according to the case.

[@AliDawah]

Mashallah very balanced & humble approach. We don’t want to cause our sisters pain, but just want them to understand a practising man’s point of view.

[@TheRockeyAllen]

@King Sultan bro probably part of the production team 😝

[@mohammedjafer9265]

@King Sultan pretty sure he was there

[@tomasashenafi882]

@@TheRockeyAllen more like a part of the herd

[@Official_Duende]

Respectfully Ali you need to think about other peoples ‘point of view’ when we were surprised to see you dine out with Pop Star Oli.

[@junayedmustofaghalib4683]

Not a man's point of view. A properly practicing Muslim's point of view. Let us not exacerbate the men-women divide.

[@marwananwar9075]

Clarifying the thinking and removing the confusion. Jazakallahu khayra ustathna الغالي. Alhamdilulah for those who are able to make aqeeda clearer in this time of conflicting voices and mis/information.

[@turgutkhan6897]

One of the best acts of ibadah that Muslim performs and many overlook is Thinking positively of Allah is meant Allah will respond when offering supplication (du‘aa’); thinking positively that He will accept one’s repentance when repenting; thinking positively that He will forgive when seeking His forgiveness; thinking positively that He will accept good deeds when doing them according to the prescribed conditions, believing strongly that His promise is true and His grace is abundant. "One day your actions will visit you, so don't be surprised when you see them." Your soul is a completed novel, yet you spend your time reading other people & wonder why you still haven’t found yourself. Happiness was asked: where do you live? It replied: in the hearts of those content with Allaah’s decree

[@moe3235]

Amen

[@komujimaru]

I have been commanded to fight against people till they testify that there is no god but Allah, and that Muhammad is the messenger of Allah" (Muslim 1 :33) Permitted stealing from unbelievers. (Bukhari 44:668, Ibn Ishaq 764) Permitted lying. (Sahih Muslim 6303, Bukhari 49:857) Owned and traded slaves. (Sahih Muslim 3901) Beheaded 800 Jewish men and boys. (Abu Dawud 4390) Murdered those who insulted him (Bukhari 56:369, 4:241) "If then anyone transgresses the prohibition against you, Transgress ye likewise against him" (Quran 2:194) Jihad in the way of Allah elevates one's position in Paradise by a hundred fold. (Muslim 4645) Married 13 wives and kept sex slaves. (Bukhari 5:268, Quran 33:50) Slept with a 9-year-old child. (Sahih Muslim 3309, Bukhari 58:236) Permitted stealing from unbelievers.(Bukhari 44:668, Ibn Ishaq 764) Murdered those who insulted him.(Bukhari 56:369, 4:241) "If then anyone transgresses the prohibition against you, Transgress ye likewise against him"(Quran 2:194) Ordered the murder of women.(Ibn Ishaq 819, 995) "O you who believe! Fight those of the unbelievers who are near to you and let them find in you hardness."(Quran 9:123) Ordered 65 military campaigns and raids in his last 10 years. (Ibn Ishaq ) Killed captives taken in battle.(Ibn Ishaq 451) Encouraged his men to rape enslaved women.(Abu Dawood 2150, Quran 4:24) "And fight them until there is no more persecution and religion is only for Allah"(Quran 8:39) Blessed the brutal murder of a half-blind man(al-Tabari 1440) Ordered a slave to build the very pulpit from which he preached Islam.(Bukhari 47:743) What are the Greatest Commandments? "Belief in Allah and Jihad in His cause" (Muslim 1:149) Demanded the protection of armed bodyguards, even in a house of worship(Quran 4:102) Muhammed Advocated crucifying others.(Quran 5:33, Muslim 16:4131)

[@moe3235]

I don’t need to discredit that which I don’t believe in. If what I’m arguing against, I truly believe is bad for you and for your soul, instead of trying to stop you, I’d rather let you make the mistake and learn from it and welcome you back with open arms whenever you do finally awaken to the truth. I don’t have to discredit you, people learning by experience is doing it all for me.. I don’t need to say a single word

[@waleedrao4558]

JazakAllah khair brother Mohammad for speaking about the floods in Pakistan.

[@tunakpreston8240]

My father married a second wife when I was like 7 (didn't last long) I have to say the house was in shambles and my mother (his first wife) was very distraught and was in tears for the first few days. (parents were only like 29 or 30 at the time) There are a few reasons why my mother was in such a state. First, my father was not giving her, her rights, second he was not providing enough for his first family, and lastly (just to name a few) he brought her (his second wife) into our already cramped, tiny house and converted the one extra room we had on the farthest part of the house (which was used as the "men section" when we had visitors) into her room. I would imagine that a woman would be very proud of her home and not be happy to have another woman intrude. To make that worse, there was a couple we knew who divorced, and the mother abandoned her daughters and left islam (happened a few times with people we knew) and the father went off to another country to marry a new wife to be a "new mommy" for his girls, he left his daughters with us meanwhile. This lasted for about a month until my father and his second wife found a separate apartment for them and it was only fit for the other two girls to go live over there. Tiny, cramped house that went from an already large 7 head family, to 10 in a matter of days, lol. A man with a big family and no money should not be marrying a second wife and should definitely have planned a bit better before marrying his first. Everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses, but a weakness everyone can experience at some point is definitely one of falling in love, so I do not blame my parents for marrying. My point; in todays time, in this westernized culture that we live in, very few men can actually manage to practice polygamy and even fewer can treat his wives equitably. As far as I know, my father divorced her about 6 or 7 years into that marriage (or she died, because my dad would never really tell us much and was very vague) My parents also divorced after about 25 years of marriage. My mother worked full time and part time to make ends meet, because my father thought it fit to go to Thailand. Wa Allah hu'alam. May all forgive us our sins and protect us from the whispers of the shaitaan. Ameen. Edit: removed the part about Thailand.

[@cookies-pd4pv]

I am sorry for what your father did to you, your siblings and your mother. This actually happens a lot in Arab/Desi culture, and almost always they blame it on Islam and call it “Sunnah” or that it’s perfectly halal. Mohamed PBUH said to be good to the wives and daughters, so that doesn’t mean going to break their heart by marrying a 1-3 women for your own views and desires. Basically abusing the privilege. Marriage is a commitment, and HUGE responsibility. if you know you aren’t ready for this commitment, do not waste anyones time. MashAllah Allahummabarik to your mother for staying strong through it all and being there for you guys. I wish you all well and justice be served. Women these days are seeing the wrong through what men call right. And Allah knows best.

[@bygrace3113]

This is why God of the bible says a man and a woman leave their parents and become one!!!!! Yes, just one, to love and honour each other above all others.

[@tunakpreston8240]

@@bygrace3113 I mean the Bible also says that its the woman's fault that Adam ate from the tree. With all due respect, Muslims have the Quran and do not value the words of the Bible as we believe that the true words of Jesus (pbuh) have been misunderstood and corrupted.

[@bygrace3113]

@@tunakpreston8240 please show me how they were corrupted? I'm sure you will find no evidence. This is something Muslim scholars like to say but there is no evidence of it having been corrupted at all throughout the ages.

[@bygrace3113]

@@tunakpreston8240 Muslims are told to value the Torah and the gospels. Mohamed even used the Torah to judge once, he put the Torah on the judgement seat and said there was light in there.

[@MoMo-fm8rn]

Really appreciate this topic being addressed brother Mohammed Hijab. Thank you may Allah swt grant you Jannah 🤲🏽 Ameen xo

[@spff-gg7tq]

SCENARIO: you hide your second wife from your first wife. Then you have children from both. Is there not a danger in these children growing up, not knowing about each and possibly becoming attracted to one another. How is it possible to hide the second wife in this scenario? It is important the children grow up together as to not create this risk, no? In that case if the children know about each other the first wife is bound to know about the second. This whole argument makes no sense. Sorry.

[@fahadabdul6585]

I dont think he said this is what a person should do.. whats best is the man is straight up and just do it!

[@Ahmed-DB]

What the hell. What kind of grasping at straws argument is this

[@spff-gg7tq]

@@Ahmed-DB it’s not grasping at straws, it’s more common than you think! And it’s a risk nonetheless. Siblings have to know one another, the argument that you don’t have to tell your wife is a silly and desperate attempt to justify cheating/deception

[@Badui-wg6ms]

@@spff-gg7tq its not. You do know that no man makes both thsoe wives live near each other. Usually even in a different country. So no. The children dont know eachother and wont be attracted to each other since they wont meet. So no. Ur argument fails

[@spff-gg7tq]

@@Badui-wg6ms you do know it’s compulsory upon every Muslim to keep ties with family, and know one another. So yes my argument still remains. And it’s not sustainable long term for a man to live in between two countries.

[@Theshowoffcollector]

Sufyan Ibn ‘Ayyinah said: “Having numerous wives is not (indicative of love)of the world because ‘Ali Ibn Abi Talib was the most ascetic of the companions of the Prophet and yet he had four wives and seventeen concubines.”

[@fragileomniscience7647]

Then at least someone did not know the definition of ascetic, or he did not have so many wives and concubines. Muzzle logic, lmfao.

[@sounakbanerjee1892]

@@fragileomniscience7647 can you define us what an ascetic means and according to which Philosophical tradition?

[@komi9261]

concubines??

[@fragileomniscience7647]

@@komi9261 Yes, war captive women with freshly slaughtered relatives. A product of its time.

[@masteroogwaysunknowndiscip6211]

@@fragileomniscience7647 at least better that killing litteraly all of the captives like America. They would probably kill the whole population of countries if they could just for oil. Your phrasing tells a lot about your personality.

[@arrow760]

Brilliantly dissected, whilst recognizing where the sister may be coming from. May Allah reward you.

[@TatiSahne]

Allah might punish him for twisting quran. Allah forbade secret marriage in the quran, and Allah gave the woman the right to divorce when she fears indifference in the quran(which she can only do if she knows about the second wife).

[@arrow760]

@@TatiSahne Sis where in the video do you feel he twisted something and also Where in the Quran does it say that explicitly regarding secret marriages and being allowed to divorce for indifference?

[@TatiSahne]

@@arrow760 Surah 4:25 and 5:5 secret marriages are made haram.

[@TatiSahne]

@@arrow760 Surah 4:128-130 woman are the one who are given the right to fair settlement or divorce when they fear indifference.

[@TatiSahne]

@@arrow760 Actually he twists in the entire Video. He twists peoples words. He twists the religion. Hes always doing that. He is evil.

[@ayesha3303]

The opening itself was based off a misunderstanding. The sister meant that if a woman cheats then she's shamed (as she should in my opinion) and that if a man cheats then he gets married to the mistress "as a cover up" which taints the polygyny.

[@lunanahid8506]

I hope he sees this.

[@realitybeckons4120]

Irrespective of whether husband or wife cheats outside marriage, they should be punished as per Islam.

[@DARTH-R3VAN]

@@realitybeckons4120 only if you can prove that they did which requires 4 truthful men.

[@askarniyas786]

@@DARTH-R3VAN but they will surely in hereafter

[@wahabsid759]

If man cheats then he is also wrong. This is simple to understand. I think Mohammed hijab does not claim this notion that if a man cheats he is not equally wrongly compared to women. Both have done sin. But if man marry 2nd time he is doing a sunnah!

[@anonymous-fn2ky]

my ex cheated n married again while i was with him, he had an affair n then did nikkah with her, i was a God conscious woman he abused me physically emotionally n mentally, not only did it break my heart my house but my soul, i went through a spiritual awakening , from becoming hopeless to being happy now i am grateful to my LORD alone for helping me in this test, i see the world differently now, im single mum of 3 i definitely cant trust men again bcz of this deep rooted trust issues now, i do frown on men marrying twice in this day n age because i know taking care of one with her full rights is hard enough without bringing another one,may Allah swt ease any womans pain who was unjustly dealt with ignorance n selfish desires, ameen thuma ameen🙏

[@rifatislam5836]

women themselves are selfish and cannot come to terms that Allah has made it Legal for a man to marry 4 times, If a man can give 4 wives their full rights then no woman has the right to speak against it, your statement of "taking care of one with her full rights is hard enough" is a judgmental statement you cannot judge all men and say that all men are incapable of marrying 4 times, sometimes women themselves demand more from their man and envy other wives and cannot come to terms that her man is getting shared with another woman.

[@windowview8240]

A wife not aware of her hasband's another wife will not know if she is being treated equally or not. To exercise her right to demand fair treatment she must have knowledge about the other wife's condition. She cannot make any informed decision if she is being depreived of the information needed to make such decision. That is a violation of right.

[@JSdeen87]

I’m sure you feel that this makes sense

[@windowview8240]

@@JSdeen87 Hindering someone from the information necessary to claim a right is a violation of right itself. It doesn't matter if any right is being violated or not,barring information to make that assessment is a violation of right. If you have a basic understanding how mutual agreements and contracts work you understand this too. That's why every social media app has terms of services.

[@windowview8240]

@@JSdeen87 Hindering someone from the information necessary to claim a right is a violation of right itself. It doesn't matter if any right is being violated or not,barring information to make that assessment is a violation of right. If you have a basic understanding how mutual agreements and contracts work you understand this too. That's why every social media app has terms of services.

[@999legend8]

It's not a violation of right. A man can marry another wife without his other wife knowing.

[@xAmiin]

@@windowview8240 The statements you came up with are invalid, a man does not require any form of consent/permission whatsoever from anybody to re marry if he wishes to, because that’s his right to even begin with. He can engage in it in his own discretion if he wishes to. The right for a woman to know is not compulsory but a man could communicate this after his second, third or fourth engagement, its all up to him since he is the manager of his relationships. Hope that helps.

[@gogadgetgo3125]

Thankyou brother Hijab for the wisdom imparted in this as well as numerous other sessions.

[@hudycat]

Appreciate your logical, rational response to this topic which is highly, highly needed. Would be great if you and Honest Tea talk agree to have a discussion about this.

[@johncharles4146]

Many of my relatives married their cousins I known its halal but I don't prefer it. I DONT COME AND SAY marrying your cousin is haram or hate on them.

[@petboy5839]

Why don't you prefer it?

[@johncharles4146]

@@petboy5839 just imagine you're married and your grandma calls you and you both say "YES".

[@johncharles4146]

@@petboy5839 and incase you want to divorce her you risk loosing your relationship with your releatives. Your uncle or aunt most likely won't see you the same as before cause you divorced their daughter

[@m.hassan8145]

@@johncharles4146 I can understand no worries find someone who is good for u and ur imaan

[@petboy5839]

@@johncharles4146 Even if your grandma call you and you both yes it's not a big deal lol. Anyway, I know a lot of Muslims are influence either from their non Muslim background or influence by non Muslims. They're judging right or wrong by the standards of non Muslims. But, if you look at the royal family they're completely different from what regular non Muslim society is preaching. They're marrying their cousins all the time.

[@MrMARKA1976]

May Allah safeguard the Muslims everywhere Ameen

[@siddiquemalik]

Women like this really confuse me. If you don't believe in Islam, just jog on.. but if you believe it's true, just shut up and accept Allah knows better than you and stop posioning the minds of the ummah just because you don't like something.

[@floki5182]

They want to behave like Christians and not follow their scripture in it's entirety i guess.

[@tabiakhan9870]

It doesn't really help when men cheat and flirt with women other than their wife and use the excuse that they are allowed multiple wives.

[@yusifhuseini]

They are paid agents of the Western liberal secular propaganda

[@rayidzein]

@@uok6216 Question to you: who decides what is morally okay or not, i.e where does your morality come from?

[@cloudstrife112]

@@rayidzein she won't be able to answer that. It's already clear cut in our shariah.

[@BintaaKinteh]

I think you might be misunderstanding what she meant. I think she was saying, if a woman cheated on her husband, she will be blamed and written off (which is to be expected), but on the other hand, if a man cheated, he can just cover it up by marrying the woman she cheated with on the wife, and nobody will say a word (which is hypocritical). I might be completely wrong, but this is what I understood from the short clip you posted of her.

[@veganinthecity3749]

Also I want to add the ‘secret marriages’ that can feel like being cheated on.

[@hassis6206]

I didn’t see it that way but I see where u coming from

[@yvng4697]

@@veganinthecity3749 btw its not wajib to tell ur wife that ur marrying another one

[@Eastonwest71]

No, she clearly is equating halal marriage to a second wife to a woman actually cheating. She said nothing about a married man having relations with a woman without marriage. Let’s stop making excuses for this sister. She was obviously hurt and was probably involved in a polygynous marriage.

[@moroccanhebrewishmaelite2266]

A man cheats he cannot cover it up by marrying he's adultery woman that doesn't make sense at all he is cheating on his wife if she doesn't forgive him he is getting sentence on earth and the afterlife

[@baran1455]

Clear as crystal as usual mashaallah ,jazakallah'ul khayr ustadh Muhammad

[@ENZO-nb6xz]

From All your presentations on matters of deen, this one was for me was the best. Very insightful well said and very clear. You dissect the issue vey well. May Allah reward you.

[@jonafondow9224]

i agree...

[@IsmailKamdar]

Excellent factual presentation, well done!

[@bashirissack21]

Pray for Pakistan May Allah bless and ease their pain Ameen🤲❤

[@muhammadansarahmed6039]

Jazakallahu kharain for speaking on floods in pakistan brother our city in upper sindh is surrounded by flood water and the danger of flooding the city's inner part still looms. However surrounding villages have completely been over run by flooding water. May Allah have mercy on muslims of pakistan and where ever they are who are going through hardships or persecution. Ameen

[@AllTruth05]

This is the MOst Important channel for me.❤️

[@theurbanottoman2096]

Wouldn’t the children from both marriages have to know of each other? Otherwise, keeping a second marriage a secret obviously causes the risk of incest. The argument for the permissibility's of a secret marriage makes no sense.

[@user-ov7gl4cd3t]

Secret marriage just sounds so silly and damaging and insulting to the women. Just be honest

[@AthleticEducation]

My dad married a second wife when I was about 1 years old. My mother left him and before they got married (arranged) she said she will agree to the marriage if he agrees to never take another wife. He agreed but broke the agreement so she left. When I was 18 he married a third wife, now he has two. The one he married while with my mom and the other. The original second wife of course did not take it well and they hated each other. Both have their own houses so they stayed away from one another. However, now they are friends, not sure how that happened, especially knowing my first step mom I’m shocked it happened.

[@genjamboy6545]

May Allah reward you brother

[@MacOSTrash]

imo talking directly with the sisters would be a better way of addressing them rather than in their absence and uploading publicly. I think these videos just fan flames or raise tensions whereas a better opportunity for naseeha or correction has been skipped.

[@civildiscourse7626]

Discussion is discussion

[@999legend8]

Some people let their emotions stop them from accepting the truth that Mohammed Hijab has just said, May Allah give Hijab every good.

[@brickdigs1506]

When responding to something in the public domain, its is necessary to address it in the public domain. He is no airing anything that was said behind closed doors, but giving a balanced and counter to their PUBLIC stance. People with no islamic knowledge should refrain from publicly speaking especially when it comes from emotion and has not islamic backing. If you wish to talk publicly about something and cause fitnah then be prepared to be publicly refuted.

[@Qytrh]

The issue is, the issue is public, so its being refuted in public, because its CAUSING HARM in the public sphere to the muslims and has HUGE ramifications

[@shahkaleem6601]

When a statement is made in public it can and should be refuted in public.

[@hidayah840]

A question regarding this video: This video has automatically generated translations (alhamdullillah) with the option to automatically translate. While the translation is often understandable it often simply cannot follow your academic and more complex terminology (allahumma barik) thus making the translation not useable at certain places in the video. I'd like to make a german translation for this video for my german sisters because I think it could really benefit them, in sha Allah. I'd also check up many words you're using in my german grammar dictionary to be sure.

[@aneeq2781]

My dear brother, may Allah reward you, you show excellance when explaining things using islamic evidence and expression. Even if some words you say are not from our vocabulary sometimes, one still gets the point. As salaamu aleykum from Germany.

[@1445hijri]

Jazak’Allāh kheir 🤲🏽💫

[@ayshapatel8858]

Mohammed Hijab is either clutching at straws or creating a straw man or both to try and portray sisters as the villains in polygyny and brothers as mere martyrs stuck in the toxic drama created by said “villains”. Yes, some women will not be able to accept being a co-wife even if the man follows Sharia however, it's a situation the man has to deal with with the correct adab and ahlaaq. Polygyny practised in our way of life is a MAN issue and they have to deal with it respectfully which includes being dignified, decent, transparent and honest. It’s a choice they make, not obligatory. Knowing that there may be fallout and planning on how to deal with it without oppressing their women must be considered before entering into a second, third or fourth marriage. The wife must be told of his intentions and be able to make decisions about her life. It’s common decency and not rocket science. In this instance, the reasons to point the finger at sisters are simply thin to none. Women for once cannot be scapegoated on flimsy exceptions mentioned by Mohammed regardless of what the sister in the clip is saying, not saying, implying or not implying. This guy should actually deal with the adab of polygyny directly with men rather than by putting words into the sister’s mouth and refuting sisters’ feelings about it, all the while ignoring or deflecting the role men play in the situations being discussed. FYI: a woman’s mental health and well-being is a perfectly good reason to seek divorce. Shame on you Mohammed for making it seem as if a woman has no choice or preference in her seeking divorce because she personally does not want to be in a polygynous marriage or that it’s haram for her to do so. Seeking and attaining a divorce would afford her the halal right to move on and remarry a like-minded Muslim man. Lastly, what you fail to address are the broader implications of undisclosed polygynous marriages on the family and societal unit. Or perhaps you’re just ignorant there of. But using extreme arguments such as a woman weaponising the child against the husband or her hating polygyny or women to question her iman is simply ludicrous. If a man is deifying his wife’s reaction and his feelings then that’s tantamount to perhaps erring on the side of shirk. Simply put your video and refutation are biased and reminiscent of cultural and philosophical misogyny that is not Islamic or attributed to our Prophet Muhammad PBUH.

[@KS-vm5yj]

Didn't Brother Hijab say that he is assuming the sister said something and is replying to it? In essence Brother Hijab is himself telling that he is strawmaning. Also men are not Portrayed as martyrs, no one will praise a brother for marrying multiple women. What Brother Hijab is addressing about is how men are Portrayed as "villains" for wanting a polygomous marriage. Also polygamy is not just a "man's situation" to deal with it, remember the situation arises because there are 2 or more women involved, although I get what you mean.

[@KS-vm5yj]

Also what is the adab of polygamy? A Muslim man must inform his 1st wife that he is taking a second wife but he does not need permission of the 1st wife. He should honor his wives equally and provide them food, shelter and clothing. Also please understand it is a wife's right to demand protection, clothing, food and shelter from her husband but it is not a wife's right to demand exclusivity of her husband. Also what "flimsy exceptions" are you talking about, these women speak as if polygamy is haram all the while disguising that it is halal if practiced in a proper way. Last video brother's Ali and Hijab challenged these women to tell men how to practice polygamy in a proper way. Also FYI : "A woman's mental health and well being is perfectly good reason to seek divorce". Seek divorce and do what? Raise children in a single mother household and put their lives in jeapordy because you don't feel good or marry another man who should take care of you and your children because you didn't feel good. Do you even understand what you speak about? It's like divorcing because the husband is poor and you don't feel good. My question is simple - If a husband provides for you, feeds you, shelters you and clothes you (all rights ordained by Allah) , why do you want to divorce him? Because he didnt ask your permission for 2nd permission? (even Allah didn't give women this right) This is what feminism has done. It has made women self centered and Narcissistic. Women's well being is the most important thing!!! Go gurl !!! Yass Queen!!! Women nowadays have fallen into this wrong notion of one man one woman. Islam doesn't say this. Women don't have right to exclusivity of her husband. Our prophet(saw) and Sahabas didn't ask permission from their wives not do they have to. Having said all this I would like to stress that it is the Husband's duty to inform his 1st wife that he is taking another wife. She has right to honesty from the husband. If the husband can't even tell the 1st wife about the marriage how can anyone expect him to be fair to her. Also I am not immune to the feelings of the women. I understand it must be very embarrassing to the 1st wife and the husband must be very careful in helping her deal with it. and both should work together in looking after the wellbeing of their marriage and children. But my point still remains - if the 1st wife feels embarrassed (and she has every reason to be) both the husband and wife should work together to help her overcome it, but under no circumstances should she ask for divorce if the husband takes care of all her rights just because her mental wellbeing is affected (which is a fancy way of saying she is bummed out) That's all I wanted to say sister. Sorry if I had been harsh at places but please know that my intention was right. I rarely comment in KZbin videos but your comment was so thoughtful and clever but was wrong in just in one perspective and I wanted to correct it. ASSALAAMU ALAIKKUM from India.

[@ninass8119]

Thank you 👏👏👏👏👏

[@JSdeen87]

@@KS-vm5yj the problem is that they believe the divorce will help them in the mental health capacity. What’s worse is that if they have small children and the women decides to remarry those children must go with the husband. Is she ready for that?

[@999legend8]

@@KS-vm5yj A Muslim man does not need to inform his first wife that he is taking a second wife.

[@se7806]

This is the Muslim version of Andrew Tate, fun fact he is also a fan of Andrew Tate .

[@zainababbas4826]

Someone needs to address the higher chances of getting an STD or STI for the man and his wives. It can also develop into an HIV and cause fertility issues on the long run. I personally refuse to sleep with my husband just knowing that he might get me an STD or STI, or even cause fertility issues for me. Some of those diseases stay with you permanently like Hepatitis B, herpes, HIV, and HPV. AND women are more prone to give Cervical cancer if their husband is sleeping with other multiple wives. SEX EDUCATION NEEDS TO BE ADDRESED !!

[@samia6888]

I understand your concern but your husband having multiple wives is not the same as sleeping around. The risk would be if he was cheating on your with multiple women who are also being sexually active with other people. The only way you can get those STIs is if one of the wives have it and pass it on but if they are his wives then they should be okay with getting checked, as it is part of a responsible relationship which marriage is.

[@szsa1926]

Jazakallah chair for that explanation

[@BP-xe7xs]

Very very very good explained

[@MohammadQasim]

Jazak Allahu khair for dealing with this fitna

[@stevegaming112]

I love you for the sake of Allah MH. Thanks to Allah for guiding me towards your work and yt channel. May Allah bless you and your family, zzk

[@wealthwisdom1656]

well said akhi, Allahumma barik

[@bigboywasim]

Great work guys.

[@sab889]

these sisters never stated that polygyny is wrong or immoral. if you listened well, they talked about polygyny that is done wrong/ performed injust which ofcourse they find problematic. as simple as that.

[@ibadurrehman1210]

how do you define that? what exactly makes it wrong or unjust?

[@yousefshehata6330]

We've all listened to it, tell me what wrong thing have they mentioned? Where have they said, " if he does that he did it wrong" u know what else they didn't say? How the prophet "did it" they just say we have the example of the prophet, that's it they don't mention what's good about it and they don't mention what's done wrong, it's all about, betrayel, how dare he, spiritual abuse blah blah blah, such cancer

[@sab889]

@@ibadurrehman1210 when a husband does not treat the women equally, when he realises that he can not provide equally, when he commits zina first and then marries the women as a second wife, and so on ...

[@floki5182]

@@sab889 that's against Islam and nobody's defending that. If a man can't treat all his wives justly then its a grave sin, we all know that.

[@amatullahnet5022]

Honestly the women did not provide a description what the right way is and the right way is how the prophet and the sahaba did it and they didn't ask their first wife or second or third if they are allowed to marry another one and this idea would have never crossed the mind of the women back then. This is a new things that men ask for permission or consent.

[@tiredgamer242]

She literally just meant that no one, woman or man, should not cheat. Either way it is wrong, but when a man does it, no one looks at it for what it is. You are over conflating what she said and telling muslim men to not be honest.

[@DARTH-R3VAN]

✨Marrying another wife is not cheating✨

[@tiredgamer242]

@@DARTH-R3VAN but in the video of the woman she said that a man cheats (she meant out of wedlock) and THEN COVERS it up with marriage. She never said polygamy was cheating.

[@DARTH-R3VAN]

@@tiredgamer242 it's definitely evil but you cannot practice the hudood without the man either admitting it himself, or you bring 4 male truthful witnesses who were with you to watch him commit adultery.

[@tiredgamer242]

@@DARTH-R3VAN Yeah, and the same goes for a women. Regardless of if you can prove it or not Allah treats us equally and if someone is cheating, male or female, they will answer to Him.

[@JamesBond-wv9xz]

That’s not what she was saying AT ALL. She was clearly trying to say that men can get away with zina while women cannot. It’s based entirely on her feelings, and she’s using it to argue against polygyny and banning it without directly SAYING she is against it.

[@ensar9120]

Beautiful refutation!

[@bilalalmurtaza2733]

The spiritual bankruptcy comment took me out 😂😂😂😂 Bro where do you come up with the creative vocabulary collabs 😂 الله يحفظك اخي ❤️ Love from Pakistan

[@palestine4917]

A call from Palestine Peace, mercy and blessings of God I am a mother from Gaza and I have orphaned children. We have no one after God. My husband died years ago and there is no one for us after God. I have a lot to do in life, but time is running out for me and my kids. Please stand by my son. The doctor told me that the child wants to have the operation on his eyes as soon as possible, but I have nothing to assign to the operation. The doctor said that the operation costs, but I do not have anything for the operation, please. I hope you won't forget me brothers in this , the number is in Althe above , next to the flag of Palestine, written in Arabic People for people are like a solid building ,,

[@moe3235]

Around 18:10 “the children being used as a weapon against the man” FACTS 💯

[@atruthseeker79]

It works the other way around too...just not as often. I have seen it. Children shouldn't be used as weapons period.

[@moe3235]

Exceptions make the rule, not disprove it. If 99.999% is one way-you don’t point to the remaining 0.001% to say that they both have equal weight/impact, do ya?? I agree, kids shouldn’t be used like that period, but let’s not be disingenuous. If men even *could* do that, fem*inists would immediately lobby to put a federal law in place to make it illegal for men to do so. Besides how could men “use” something they don’t have ANY access to and can only see once for 2 every two weeks for 2 hours while “under officer supervision” 🤦‍♂

[@atruthseeker79]

@@moe3235 I never said exceptions disprove the rule but exceptions matter when you have personal experience with the exception like I have. I don't think the exception on this is only 1% of the time either.

[@atruthseeker79]

@@moe3235 btw...the case I am thinking of the mother is a Muslim (convert) and the father isn't. There could be some Islamophobia involved with the court favoring the father and him alienating the children.

[@hafsa671]

Polygamy is not your right, rather it is merely permissible in Islam. If it was your right as a man why does it come with conditions? Let’s be just, most men cannot observe polygamy right. Most women would also not want it. So where do we go from here?

[@Ahmed-DB]

So, if something has conditions it's not a right?

[@hafsa671]

@@Ahmed-DB if it was your right wouldn’t all of us have easy access to it? Rather it’s only the minority that have access. Stop with the semantics

[@Ahmed-DB]

@@hafsa671 No they wouldnt? What sort of fallacious argument is this? Do you believe humans have right to food, shelter, education? If you do, then by your logic I can ask you "if that were the case why are many people homeless, starve and illiterare?

[@hafsa671]

@@Ahmed-DB you make no sense lol. Food is a necessity whilst another wife is merely an addition. One is a human right the other isn’t smh. Now get off the internet and stop arguing your case of wanting another woman to a stranger, rather go make money and educate urself on your Deen so you may JUST be of the few that are allowed. Salam

[@CaliphForCaliphate]

@@hafsa671 there is also condition for eating foods.

[@dailydua6168]

Amazing research and just amazing arguments. So clear and eloquent. This video was amazing. May Allah bless u!

[@user-vr4sc8dh5t]

Obviously she did not mean stepping out in that way. How is it not clear to you. I watch a lot of your videos and you are right on polygyny but insinuating that she might meant something else is very very strange.

[@kingtaky]

He said he was going to employ husn lthan and not go by the official understood definition of stepping out, so even though I disagreed with the entire video this is one point I do agree with.

[@jessicaagostini9532]

I agree with what you said throughout the video but I think you understood the sister wrong. I believe she meant that women are looked down upon and shamed if they commit adultery but men who commit adultery may get a nikah afterwards to legitimize the relationship ... and is not looked down upon for the sin he has commit prior to the nikah

[@ammaryasir1299]

@Danny Al bro do you even realise what you are saying? Let’s for argument sake say she is right, are you saying that zina is ok for men?

[@woelph]

Then this will not be an islam problem, because the punishment of adultery is the same for men AND women. Well why bring this point if it's irrelevant to islam? Coming back to Hijab's meet analogy, it's like us discussing eating meet in islam and I'll say "well the problem is people look at vegetarians badly", simply you'll say "that's has nothing to do with islam" and my argument will be irrelevant. In fact, assuming what you said is what the sister meant, it solidify brother hijab's point of view that the sister is considering her emotions as the base of truth. Because society do this and that when polygamy, and this and that heart my feelings, and islam allows polygamy then polygamy is bad and islam is wrong.

[@hamizulhafiz475]

Women who commit adultery are weight more than men because she could get pregnant after.

[@aayub4013]

Please stop justifying the toxicity these women are spreading

[@ylliimeri]

Adultery has the exact same punishment for men and women. That should tell you enough about the gravity of each sin in the eyes of Allah. Now, if a man marries the woman he cheated with, it doesn’t legitimize what they did before. But also the woman can do a similar thing: divorce the man she is married to and marry the one she cheated with. So the whole point is moot. Marriage after adultery does not legitimize the adultery committed before in no way, shape or form. The men who think that are extremely wrong.

[@eldo8568]

BarakAllahu feek Brother 👍

[@umarrabani8795]

Yes my brothers keep it up 💯 ❤ from uk England 🇬🇧. Birmingham umar ❤ 💯💪💪💪🤲

[@tabiakhan9870]

Tbh I don't think the sister was equating polygyny with cheating. She seemed to be saying that if a woman cheats she is immediately shunned by everyone. However, when a man cheats, he can hush it up by marrying the woman and nobody bats an eyelash.

[@YahyaAwake]

Why would a man cheat if he can just marry another wife… it’s almost like that is ONE of the benefits of polygyny is to stop men from cheating.

[@nobodyisborngayislam]

Internationally or unintentionally Allah knows best

[@mohamedmo8128]

@@YahyaAwake Second wives have rights. He would need to provide for her equally as his first wife, she can choose not to work and have her husband provide for her. She can he even demand seperate housing from the first wife. There's a very big difference from a second wife and a mistress.

[@999legend8]

@@YahyaAwake It's a shame how women want a man to understand their nature, but some women totally disregard the nature of men.

[@YahyaAwake]

@@mohamedmo8128 obviously second wife has rights… but she can request way less than the first wife if she wants. Also ur wrong. U can’t treat them equally it’s literally humanly impossible to do the same exact for your wives, but the correct word is u need to be JUST meaning u have to give them their rights and do ur best with providing for them. Pray to Allah the women make it easy as well

[@Insaniya.humanity]

She was clearly talking about men having lovers (while married) that later become wifes. Mr Mohammed, bad call.

[@haroonnawaz4702]

Thankyou again brother

[@MuhammadIkram-kb3pu]

Ma sha Allah v nice explanation ❤️💯

[@moroccanhebrewishmaelite2266]

man can take a second wife if he is providing for his first wife and is man enough to provide for his second wife like he is providing for his first wife not his wife has to provide for him and his second wife That is the consent of the first wife and she can divorce her husband even though he is providing for both of them she may not get along with the second wife and doesn't want to be a part of her husband and his second wife

[@nobodyisborngayislam]

Bro please read what you wrote and make it more simples jazak Allah Basically Muslim man can have up to 4 wives if he can be just. He doesn't need first wife permission it would be kind to inform her I'm marrying 2nd wife but thats up to him and Allah knows best If Muslim women wants to divorce because she doesn't want her husband to do polygamy then you have to encourage her to be patient as Qur'an encourages Muslims to be patient You need to watch first part of this reaction video called reaction to honest tea talks about polygamy. Divorce is most hated thing to Allah in permissible things Do you most single women families are broken most kids from single mother families are criminals etc. And Allah knows best

[@blumachine]

@@nobodyisborngayislam polygamy creates partially single-mother since the husband goes from a full-time husband and father to a part-time husband and father assuming he's following polygamy the right way and equally dividing time between all families. some women are okay with this set up but it's just not the same dynamics as a two-parent monogamist household

[@mohamedmo8128]

@@blumachine Some men work abroad, you wouldn't call their wives "single mothers".

[@blumachine]

@@mohamedmo8128 if she has full resposibility of the children while he's abroad then she is completely different to the woman who has her husband living with her 24/7. so while she's not completely a single mother since she may be recieving support that single mothers may not have access to, which is why i said they are "PARTIAL" single mothers

[@mufunyiibrahim3655]

@@blumachine in Islam we don't follow people's opinions like yours we follow the quran and sunna. What you are suggesting is a perfect world which doesn't exist. Islam is all about balance and polygamy is part of that

[@AliSherAwan47]

In this day & age men should practice polygam. This can solve many problems. Women population is more than men(this is just one reason)

[@Amy623]

The ones that do practice unfortunately they are not practicing it correctly

[@naimam8212]

😂

[@AliSherAwan47]

@@Amy623 That’s there fault if they aren’t practicing correctly. It’s not a rocket science.

[@Danish-by8wk]

@@Amy623 Explain how they are doing incorrectly?

[@suraiyaabubakar5262]

Ignorance

[@homtanks7259]

JazakAllahu khairan

[@abd-te4sp]

17:00 I completely agree here as I have some bad experience and still regret. It wasn't big thing but wife's mind work in different dimension

[@shahkaleem6601]

One of my close relatives has two wives and now both living in one house upper portion and lower portion. He did not inform second wife immediately but within 4 - 5 months he prepared her and when he realized she will be OK he informed her. There were some clash and jealousy between the two women but it worked out very well now and both are good friends and help each other. Infact both women mothers met each other and found out both are related and it increased their likeness to each other. I think the acceptance of polygamy has a lot to do with culture since in west it is considered "harmful" and people born in west grow up with such ideologies it becomes harder to accept it emotionally. My wife even said to me that I can marry another women but I dont find any issue with my wife so I dont want to have second marriage but I am pretty sure it will be OK for her if I do. It has lot to do with social engineering.

[@hafsa1698]

Is it allowed for lay Muslims to pick and choose which madhabs they’ll follow for different issues or do they have to stick to own? For example, Muslims who follow shafi’i madhab but when it comes to this particular polygamy issue they’ll choose to follow hanafi because it allows them to stipulate a monogamous marriage.

[@skywa7183]

U pick a madhab, of your parents I think, and stick to it for life. Except on some occasions of difficulty where you'd have to merge Ur madhab with some other. In cases of extreme difficulty only

[@wawaweewa9159]

if someone is gona pick and choose, they need to check their intention is sincere in seeking haq, and not done out of desire.

[@hassannasir4979]

Just follow the quran then see what it says about polygamy

[@cowdyayaad6378]

Nope he cant. He only can if he thinks a particular ruling of another madhab is more evidence based (of course he needs to have certain amount of knowledge of fiqh to make that judgement for himself). But what you descirbed isnt like that so nope he cant. It is called following the desires.

[@muhammadmafaz8530]

@@hassannasir4979 still can pick and choose verses which narrate persons intentions. Like ISIS does.

[@sudaysfreepalestineandfree6212]

Assalamualeykum Warahmetullah JazakAllah Hayr.

[@m.ahachani8573]

جزاك الله خيرا

[@ayo5023]

Superb

[@zainababbas4826]

Just because something is halal, doesn't mean that it's the right thing to do. Money alone is not a good enough reason to do whatever you want. FOR EXAMPLE, just because you are a millionaire, doesn't mean that it's morally OK to have 20+ children that you won't even have the time to raise and take care of. THATS why Allah created a conscious, empathy, and our use of discretion in these situations. WHICH is why we are the smartest beings on earth. Islam is not a one size fits all. OTHERWISE, there would be no Dunia and everything would be perfect. There's a Grey area in some cases. For example, if a husband have 4 wives, but all of them have very high sex drive. How can he possibly fulfill that? What part of equate does these men don't understand?? Marriage initself is a huge responsibility. Let alone trying to equate financially, emotionally, and sexually between the 4 wives. Some women have PCOS or a hormonal imbalance which triggers that high sex drive. RISKS of STDs and STIs and how it affects fertility for men and women. Is no one gonna talk about that? Some risks like HIV, HPV, Hepatitis B, herpes are permanent and you'll need medications for life. Let alone you can transmit the disease sexually to you wives and affect their fertility/reproductive health because of having more than one sexual partner. If a wife is going through a postpartum depression and can't have sex with her husband because it's painful. HOW is it morally right to marry someone else at that time ?? Postpartum depression is a real mental illness that have a VERY high rates of suicide. I'm not against Allah's words. But it should not be a common practice if the husband is fulfilled and happy with his wife. I'm a psychology student and can assure you that polygamous relationships doesn't last one bit. And the most successful long lasting marriages are monogamous. PLEASE EDUCATE yourself about basic biology and human anatomy, and psychology before claiming that it's OK for everyone without ADDRESSING all the risks and then make a conscious decision that you can face Allah with. Thank you for listening to my Ted talk :). I hope you all stay healthy and safe.

[@harounouaguena6957]

maybe some of your best work brother - mashallah

[@CoolLight2]

Apply all ayahs on both genders. Men who have failed at keeping the first wife and kids happy should not be seeking second wives

[@shoaibakhtar6088]

Brilliantly argued by Brother Hijab. He is becoming a giant in Dawah Masha Allah argues Islamic text with really sharpened philosophical tools. May Allah SWT give him good health and long life and allow him to keep contributing.

[@lilmisbliss0MJ]

I hear you brother. Although I don’t agree with the sisters attitudes towards polygyny, I think the sister referred to the double standards within the community where if a wife cheats she is outcasted whereas a man can cover it up through marriage after he has been caught.

[@_elifilen]

I don't know how polygamy works in non Muslim countries, but in Islamic law , you need a consent from the first wife to be able to get into polygamy relationship.

[@abdoudz3388]

@@_elifilen No you don't, if you do then prove it by sunnah or quran

[@finalfrontier001]

@@abdoudz3388 Of course tou do cuz you cannot marry 2nd wife if you can not sexually please both of them and have wealth and status to go around.

[@ameerhamza1581]

but the topic wasn't that men cheat, it was about polygyny without the aspect of cheating. Why assume the man did haram with the girl before he made the girl his 2nd wife?

[@abdoudz3388]

@@finalfrontier001 You do not need the first wife permission to marry another wife. A man must indeed be just with his wives and provide for them and treat them equally but he does not need the first wife permission to marry because that's just dumb and is nowhere in the shari'a

[@areenabsorkhrody5656]

Sir I have a question If the man marries a second wife and they r living in a country where two marriages are forbidden like UK or Germany, then the second wife won't be registered as wife of that person and I think it's a bit problematic. What do you think about this sir? Thanks for making things clear for us.

[@hasnain7493]

Mashallah you give such a logical analogy! I hope these feminist can understand that.

[@atruthseeker79]

That makes sense that it is a woman vs woman issue so long as the subsequent wife knows the man is already married. In the case she doesn't know then it's 100% a man vs woman situation and I think he is wronging all his wives. I don't see this as sustainable long term so it would most likely be stupid to attempt. However I have heard of it happening on occasion especially when the wives are located in different countries. If a man doesn't have to tell the first wife he is getting a 2nd wife does he have to tell the 2nd wife he is already married?

[@cowdyayaad6378]

The 2nd wife is bound to know he is married (you can't give the impression you are single) unless she just wants to hurriedly finish the marriage (like someone who doesn't know other person's face or where s/he lives but still married).

[@SAAD92ification]

2nd wife must know otherwise nikkah is not valid

[@Ei_Kei]

@@SAAD92ification any evidence or reference?

[@SAAD92ification]

@@Ei_Kei what evidence do you need lying is haraam in Islam 2nd wife should not be deceived that you are single otherwise nikah is invalid 2nd nikah is a contract with 2nd wife she should be aware.

[@Ei_Kei]

@@SAAD92ification you made a claim now provide your evidence, not your emotional statement.

[@aamildeen9669]

This is such a necessary topic to address! If you be transparent with you partner to such a degree which you're not religiouly obligated to then you're throwing yourself into destruction. That woman who you love and think is sweet, has the capacity in her to be an terrible oppressor. If you foolishly give her the ammunition then she WILL use it against you. Especially young ignorant women (they might wear hijab and pray 5 times a day) who incline to feminism than Islam.

[@supersleepymedic]

“But if you fear that you will not be just, then [marry only] one or those your right hand possesses.” The question is can these poor oppressed brothers actually deal justly between 2 wives? They can only take more than one wife on the condition they can be just - time, affection, resources and so much more. Most can’t but that hasn’t stopped men from ignoring the actual condition set out by Allah.

[@aamildeen9669]

@@supersleepymedic would those Muslim women who complain about polygamy spouting unsubstantiated claims like you have done be ok with their spouses taking another wife if he were to treat them as per the Quran and the Sunnah? Be honest, they would not be ok even if that were the case.

[@kharkaroto9486]

I've read so many comments where women claiming to be Muslim have made this exact comparison.

[@sameerthevip]

Great video. I can't believe how many sisters are in favour of the overdramatic and gaslighting attitude of the sister here.

[@TheLHacademy]

Im still confused as to why Hijab never mentions men only women, adam and slim sleep with transgenders, slim got caught sleeping with a transgender only fans model and his wife left him and both adam and slim have kept quiet there is literally dozens of video footage of her also just hanging out in the evenings at their hotel and watching tv with them before the incident took place. why doest hijab or ali dawah make videos about those guys Why do dawah people rush to go after dina tokio for taking of her scarf (im not a fan of her at all and i think she was embarrasing the nonsense she wrote on her blog after she took of her scarf) but they go quiet when the male muslims do far worse. I am actually a support hijab, ali and smile 2 jannah never seen any issues in what they say but the fact they go after women but not the guys in islam is getting strange.. also i do not like the honest tea talk girls I watch 2 or 3 of their videos a long time ago and knew it wasnt for me so im not a fan of theirs either. Maybe he never knew of this transgender outing perhaps? but if he looks it up he will see clear evidence of the messages and she was even on stories with slim and adam at night in the hotel hanging out.

[@BlackJack-lg3vx]

They doing haram on personal level , they don’t wanted to be exposed but she did it on public level exposing her ideas .

[@badcholesterol]

thats pretty gross

[@bigsam5588]

Bruh don't expose this shit I don't want to know others business of what they did. No point in talking about someone sins because we all sin. We don't know what really happened. May Allah SWT forgive them and us.

[@amandakiran5757]

@@BlackJack-lg3vx they made a video about her taking off her scarf and in the same video Hijab said he thinks she’s going through something .. if he knows there may be issues we don’t know of then why make the video in the first place about her taking off her scarf.. unfortunately as a scarf Is a visual thing it will be noticed it can’t be covered up like other sins etc.. and it was just very judgemental I’d rather a women try wearing hijab dozens of times than to never try at all.. if Dina tokio got exposed for sleeping with trans men whilst married they wouldn’t keep quiet the way they did for slim

[@amandakiran5757]

@@bigsam5588 there’s a video of slim commuting adultery.. You can’t say we don’t know video evidence says so

[@rayidzein]

A lot of women have commented over here justifying the comparison saying that she was comparing the treatment of a women who committed adultery to man who does the same try and legitimize it by doing a marriage after, and seems to think this is not a problematic statement. The severity of adultery in Islam is clear cut, so can one of you explain why it was necessary to bring the treatment of women cheating into the picture (because her statement indicates she has a problem with this), rather than just mention that the man is not being subject to Islamic principles for his behaviour prior to Nikkah. In making this statement in the way it was done, she seems to be taking issue in the inequality of polygamy, rather than be seeking for Allah's ruling to be implemented equally, and a lot of the women here seem to follow similar thinking unfortunately.

[@lionfish877]

brother u found one sister to apply the verse in surah al baqarah on, I never heard you talk about who the rest of the verse applies to, those who fought with each other and those who returned the refugees, while muslims are fighting each other on behalf of the kfr, and countries like saudi pak n turkey r expelling the uighurs who seek sanctuary

[@asem_6466]

What a vid. Amazing

[@boot_416]

The issue is females today talk based on there own personal experiences through life and try to turn the pain or experiences and opinions into the truth/fact. It's like the people that leave there religion and talk a whole bunch of negativity afterwards because there basing it all on what they went through growing up, don't blame the religion blame the individuals. So if a dude cheated ect don't blame the religion blame the dude.

[@bobby6569]

Ok? Isn't it better for some with experience to speak, than some idiot with privilege to preach? Polygyny is disgusting, and so is Islam. There was no reason a 50 year old should've married a 6 year old. If it was about her life, he could've adopted her! He had so many wives that could've raised her. Why didn't he just open up an orphanage? Wouldn't it make more sense to keep the young girls at work in the orphanage than marrying them to raise their own babies! Women are capable of working, but in Islamic culture, they've always tried to keep women under. So men can be known as the ''protectors and providers'' while getting the privilege of sleeping with multiple women. We are talking about a time period where men were dying from war, and women were at home. The same thing happened during the world war.. But those women stepped up. They started working. That's what started women's rights. During this Islamic time period, why weren't the women allowed to educate themselves and work for themselves? Muslim men are always saying that women don't have to provide financially, but that's because they were not allowed to support themselves financially! They were not allowed to work. Man made religion that keeps women with a lower status. Very disgusting!

[@bobby6569]

And the whole ''men are the protectors'' is ridiculous. Women can be protectors and defenders as well. Are mothers not protectors of their babies? Do you think a father has more connection to his child than the woman who carried it? To men, it's simply about spreading their genes and continuing the lineage. The child's life does not matter. The child will be forced and brain washed into a religious cult, and then married off before they understand what is happening to them! But Islam teaches, that even if you aren't capable of raising a child, PROCREATION is good! It's the purpose of life! You made another muslim! God will now put you in heaven!

[@irene-bz2yq]

That's called being realistic about widespread trends. You guys live in la la land. It's unfair to turn a blind eye to the injustices caused by a misuse of rights in the religion. Context is important. I live in a Muslim country and cheating for men is acceptable even expected by the norm, because men a re considered to be "polygamous by nature". I'm sure the second something similar affects men your opinion will be different.

[@ninass8119]

It seriously scares me how many thinks keeping your second wife a secret from your first wife is okay, and then continuing to live a double life🥴, this is the practice of the devil

[@kareemkhan-hv1yp]

When did devil marry for the second time ?

[@999legend8]

It's not the practice of the devil. Please don't post ignorant statements. It's not a 'double life' because the man is just acting upon his rights in Islam. The man does not have to tell the first wife about the second wife anyway, so it doesn't have to be called a secret. The man is not sinful in this circumstance.

[@ninass8119]

@@999legend8 the wife needs to know stop saying fake stuff, you don’t need her approval but she needs to know and yes this is the practice of the devil, may Allah put men who thinks like this far away from innocent women Ameen, La hawla wa la quwwata illa Billah 😦🫢💀

[@ninass8119]

@@kareemkhan-hv1yp “practice of the devil meaning” it’s his ideas not Islam 🤦‍♀️

[@ninass8119]

@Ram Chod “practice of the devil meaning” it’s his ideas not Islam 🤦‍♀️

[@thegamechanger3317]

what husn aldhan whe she says after reporting the social reaction as authu billah, a women trying to seek khul'a wouldn't had this reaction she is saying it very clearly, cheating is equal to male polygyny and should be faced with her saying. cheating has one punishment death in Islam and it's the the most just punishment.

[@especialeyes3404]

May Allah swa protect our brothers who are eagerly on social media and correcting mistakes made by other Muslims and none Muslim

[@yousefshehata6330]

this should be posted on the muslim marriage subreddit

[@Mosalud]

Here is a slightly different answer to the usual question about, so why can't women have more than 1 husband if the man can have multiple wives? - Becuase if it was the case that both men and women were allowed to have more than 1 spouse, then there will be no point of a marriage at all!! - Because each women could be married to different men, who in turn could have different multiple wives, who in turn could have different multiple husbands. And there could be no end to this grouping sets. So therefore, no point in a marriage exisitng in society! (BTW Mashallah. Great point about women vs women issue!)

[@HowTwo007]

Plus there is the issue of paternity. And women dont have the biological capability to truly love and respect more than 1 man. Women also have a very limited reproductive window, and can only carry kids from 1 father at any particular time. A guy could have multiple kids with multiple different women at the same time. There is biology, physiology and psychology taken into account with islamic laws

[@shahee6579]

How would it ever work logicstically. Who decided to get her pregnant ? Do they rock paper scissor it ?

[@xAmiin]

@@HowTwo007 The paternity problem is one if the biggest issue in my opinion, also men are territorial beings, we are very protective of our possessions including our spouses.

[@blueflame3531]

It's simple. Women receive, choose and remember, men release tension. They go on about their day. Women don't.

[@detectivepatchouli8266]

@Atheism Rocks! so does your life , its not your posession

[@ummm1441]

Please explain more on MISYAR a bit , tanazulu 'an ba'dil uqud🤔

[@paired.together]

"And of everything We have created pairs. Heaven and earth. Night and day. Sun and moon. Shore and sea. Light and darkness. Her for him. And We created you in pairs.” - Holy Qur'an 78:8.

[@PerigoBerro]

I mean... If a woman has 4 husbands, and each one comes to her on the same day saying they each want a child. Imagine the pain of the man who goes last. Poor guy has to wait over 36 months (have to account for how long after one pregnancy is a woman able to conceive again). Seriously imagine that. And on top of that, if the wife is pregnant for one man, that man is not going to be happy knowing her other husbands are intimate with the wife while his baby is in her womb! 😭🤢 So even intimacy will be affected. it just doesn't work the other way. On the other hand, a man with 4 wives if he is healthy, can impregnate all his wives in a single day if they all wanted children at the same time. and since they are all his children, intimacy isn't affected.

[@bigsam5588]

Bruh that's disgusting for any women doing that bruh

[@PerigoBerro]

@@bigsam5588 Polyandry is big in many cultures. But whether they work or not is a whole other thing.

[@cowdyayaad6378]

@@uok6216 many people do. Its a common question or objection. So he just brought it up. It isn't necessary that the comments should directly respond to the video.

[@Ahmed-DB]

@@PerigoBerro Many cultures? Like which?

[@asseimsamatar2234]

" I am going to reward your honesty with destruction " Habibi Mohammed You crushed it. The only reason they want to know is so they can cause absolute destruction.

[@QashMaz]

Haqq

[@MH-bf4uu]

No. There should be basic manners and empathy involving discussions like these

[@JamesBond-wv9xz]

@@MH-bf4uu Saying to “have empathy” and “good manners” on this is a scapegoat to justify hating what Allah SWT Allows. They only say they hate on how it’s being said to continue hating WHAT is being said. Just stop already.

[@MH-bf4uu]

@@JamesBond-wv9xz how are they hating what Allah Swt allows? They didn't say polygamy is bad. Rather, it is the way some brothers go about it which is the issue

[@JamesBond-wv9xz]

@@MH-bf4uu They are insinuating it’s bad by implying that this is the only way polygyny is done.

[@aayub4013]

May Allah guide these women and those who watch them Ameen.

[@mohameda5947]

if people really believe pain is oppressive then they would've strove to end the pain of the less fortunate around the world and waged 'wars' against the source of those pains, be it corruption, lack of industry and so on.

[@PacificNWGrl]

I would really love to know what man is capable of more than one wife. Treating all equally and taking financial care of them. It causes so much pain to the woman.

[@ninass8119]

@L C helper* may I remind you that The permission of a man taking 4 wives was set to (protect women), not for them to become your helper, nor for them to satisfy your wild fantasy

[@999legend8]

@L C Sisters tend to get their emotions involved when it comes to polygamy, and it clouds their judgement.

[@ninass8119]

@L C 💀helper shouldn’t even be in the same sentence as wife, dude you need self improvement asap 👀🫢

[@ninass8119]

@L C it’s just how you said it i-🤦‍♀️👀 you should really work on yourself, start with the misogynistic mentality💀

[@ninass8119]

@L C La hawla wa la quwwata illa billah, I’m gonna pray for your future wife, really no woman deserves that… your attitude speaks volumes💀…Good bye

[@rohailaamir9343]

The discourse of this, pro and against, has been so polarised online it's draining and exhausting.

[@zcagfs]

نحبك في الله يا شيخ محمد

[@eldos8486]

Assalmu alaykum from Uzbekistan