Mom, You Damaged Me! | KARAMO

[@jamilas3491]

The mom said she was raised in a boarding school. Definitely explains a lot in this dynamic.

[@thabsmkhize2481]

Yes, especially when the daughter finally calmed down and expressed herself and she said “but she was fed” I said to myself ain’t no way, this mom is nowhere. And that’s what boarding school is mostly, just gives you basic needs.

[@brookd8118]

What is boarding school?

[@thabsmkhize2481]

@@brookd8118 where kids go to school and live there instead of coming home everyday. So they only go home during school holidays and some weekends.

[@Maddiescorner0]

⁠@@brookd8118I looked it up on google and this popped up “A boarding school is a school where pupils live within premises while being given formal instruction.”

[@prettypiscesprincess]

⁠​⁠​⁠​⁠​⁠​⁠@@brookd8118 a school where students study & live on the school premises during the school year.

[@SocialWorkDiva]

The mother is extremely manipulative. Speaking softly to make her daughter look angry and aggressive, while she takes no accountability for the pain she caused. When said they all say that, she slipped and shared that all her kids feel this way about her.

[@tumi2247]

Passive aggressive!!

[@aries4901]

​@@tumi2247 No she not! The daughter disrespectful! Can't NOBODY stay calm through all that!

[@PositivitySpeaks101]

So if she would have responding in disrespect! You would have said she was a bad mom..

[@originaleverythingelseisca5977]

Exactly

[@ajurotruphy6338]

Silly way to support a disrespectful woman. She has a choice to do better.

[@Passion85031]

The mother is lying to protect herself so she doesn’t look bad. Because my mom does the same exact thing. The older black generation need to learn how to hear their children. As a society that is one of our biggest problems not raising our children the right way 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@nicoleraheem1195]

My mom does the same thing too.

[@lsmckethan]

And this generation needs to learn to listen as well! All this “I HAVE VOICE” nonsense

[@Passion85031]

@aneenajbertin7794 oh I am sorry to hear that I know how you feel. My mom told me no man would ever marry and take care of me. But that has been proven wrong. I have 3 daughters with a three time felon and I was taught mommas baby poppas maybe. I never thought I would have children I have 3 daughters. At one point and time I gave up on love too after being in a on and off relationship for 15 years. I’m so glad I didn’t marry him. I have been happy since moving on. I didn’t grow up with great examples of relationships and with that I ended up being in an abusive relationship. But never again I know how to love myself and I thank god for my husband

[@omnib.135]

@aneenajbertin7794please don’t give up on yourself or dreams. It is challenging being raised by a mother who has an unfulfilled dreams or regrets. Please don’t become a bitter woman like your mother and become the better woman! As long as you’re alive you can accomplish your dreams. Do not give your bitter broken spirited mother the satisfaction of seeing you suffer. Let her suffer by seeing you shining like the sun❤

[@MareekCole]

Omg I’m so glad you said I been saying that so long

[@zohrabaybay]

The daughter has a lot of unhealed anger and trauma that’s showing up as resentment & disrespect. I genuinely hope she gets the support she needs and some good therapy because life is so much lighter when you let go of the heaviness of anger & resentment. Praying for her peace frfr🙏🏾❤️

[@Luver4lyfe]

I fully agree. The daughter must also move out ASAP and never return. You can’t heal among the same people who damaged you

[@TheSpiciestGinger]

That's a very long way to say spoilt and belligerent. Her mother can communicate without yelling so she's had the example. She gets attention by screaming therefore she screams. It's not as deep as you make out but bless you. Your empathy levels a little too open

[@4rinstr_]

@@TheSpiciestGinger your empathy levels are too low

[@zohrabaybay]

@@TheSpiciestGinger I don’t think there’s any such thing as too much empathy. We live in a world where duality can exist; she can be both disrespectful and acting disrespectfully because she hasn’t healed from whatever ways she has felt hurt by her mother in the past. It may not be “deep” to you, but it obviously is to her🤷🏾‍♀️ Everyone’s entitled to their opinion though; that’s an interesting perspective Michelle.

[@brxxzyy._]

amen

[@staceystace_]

I HATE when people ask you a question or say speak then proceed to talk over you and tell you to shut up. At that point, you’re not listening and it’s not a 2-way conversation.

[@taraknight413]

Lord you don’t know how many messages I’ve read over that is defending her rude outburst. Yes she’s hurt,angry,defensive, and aggressive but how can it be solved if you’re listening with the samething you’re talking with. Proper communication should be taught in school going forward.

[@thephoenixrising4614]

Women: STOP telling your kids that you brought them into this world and without you they wouldn't be here. They didn't ask to be here! Your kids don't owe you anything!

[@CarmaletaWilliams]

you talking total bs ...honor your mother n father that your days may be long on this earth...come on now

[@sanaimalery]

@@CarmaletaWilliamsAMEN! Bc GOD brought us here for a reason you didn’t ask to be here but you were PUT here for a purpose.

[@lailacarter6911]

@@CarmaletaWilliamsplssss do not provoke your children to anger gdfooo

[@SimplyDionne_]

@@CarmaletaWilliamsthe REST of that scripture says PARENTS, do not provoke your children to anger by the way you treat them. Rather, bring them up with the discipline and instruction that comes from the Lord.” DONT use half of the Bible to your own benefit. This mother is LYING! I believe the daughter. Why would she lie about being homeless as a child?

[@atalamoore4431]

@@SimplyDionne_perioood

[@sezzahg6290]

Respect has to be earned; children don’t ask to be born and aren’t beholden to their parents just because their parents did the bare minimum of feeding and clothing them. You don’t get a medal for being a parent that lets you get away with saying cruel, nasty things like “she clearly didn’t miss a meal” etc. Being a parent doesn’t mean you can do whatever you want to your child and the child has to take it because you chose to give birth to them.

[@Logantaliaferro]

Riiii amen like it’s not my fault you had me like what

[@Dimplessmile]

I wish you see the rude person who commented under my post. Like we don’t know to Honor our parent, but parent don’t read the part we’re God told them to respect your children as well. I agree 💯💯

[@lacresiawilson9216]

No one asked to be born.

[@miss.cinnamon12]

You can tell the mom is trying to make it seem like her daughter is evil. She raised that girl wrong, and nourished that anger.

[@jatayalezine2996]

As a new mother of a sweet baby girl, I always hope and pray my daughter and I never come to this. I can’t imagine making her sweet little face ever feel the way the daughter does 🥺

[@marikahinton9421]

girl by

[@jatayalezine2996]

@@marikahinton9421 it’s bye* weirdo. You didn’t have to respond

[@ohyoudior]

Aweee, wishing blessings and happiness to you and your bundle of joy 🥹🥹🥹💗

[@soniatenorio4438]

Congrats on your new baby. As mothers we don’t intentionally make our daughters hate us. I can relate to this due to my own daughters having issues with me. You can just try your best to do what you think is right. Just know your adult children might not agree.

[@thehoneyeffect]

They need therapy, there are several generations of emotional neglect which is abuse and has stunted mum and daughters emotional growth as children.

[@shai6134]

The daughter may have a valid reason to feel whatever way she feels, but she is loud and over talking her mom... SHE is coming across very disrespectful

[@yayaprettyy]

it’s learned behavior she’s angry

[@taci5758]

Who do you think taught her? Cause her mother shows no amount of emotional maturity so where would the daughter learn . It sound like a lot of pain in the daughter, I’m sure this isn’t the first time they had this conversation . The daughter said she is tired of her mother not taking accountability before the mother came out. Then look how mama acts.

[@GangstaBoo7]

She keeps over talking her mom but says "Tell them how it happened then"... 😒

[@shai6134]

@GangstaBoo7 right lol !!!

[@madelynmerle1766]

I disagree. She’s expressing her anger and has all the right too even if it isn’t deemed as appropriate to society .. there’s a reason behind all of it and I blame the mom

[@ohyoudior]

Her anger and frustration lets me know everything. When the person who inflected trauma on you as a child wants to act like they’re the victim when you become an adult. Of course thats going to have you upset. Especially when the parent is a Trigger to her ‼️ I hope the daughter is able to find an excellent therapist that will take their time to work with her. I know it’s hard to control the rage and anger and you just want to lash out but it’ll eat you up slowly😢. Wishing her nothing but healing and happiness ❤️

[@turnitupwithnelly-2337]

I see myself in this girl so much. And i understood so much when she got angrier and angrier at how 'innocent' and 'calm' her mother was representing herself. My mother has a lot of narcisstic traits as well so she is really great at charming people and making them think shes perfect/victim. Its led to years of my family enabling her abusive traits and me being told to forgive because shes my mother. (Luckily i found Jesus and He has done so much healing in me) When i was younger i would also find myself being unable to control my anger and yell disrespectfully to my mom. It was the only way she would hear me or even listen to what I had been saying. As someome with narcisstic qualities,she saw me as an extension of herself and if i operated separately or had my own thoughts or ideas she was quick to shut those down and tear me down. Seeing how harshly the girl spoke to her mom hurt me because i remember being in the same position and not quite feeling heard despite my loud voice. I know at first the girl kn the video seems shes in the wrong (and heres disrespect is wrong but we need to look for the stem- Which karamo is doing perfectly here). The way the girl is acting now is how her mother probably spoke to her as a child. Shes subconciously reflecting the mother you guys dont see. I am older now and have learnt to be gentle and a little more patient. I have learnt to talk with kindness and thats not to say things work out perfectly just becauze i learnt how to articulate better.But i could definitely relate to the girl. I hope she finds healing too and that their relationship finds peace.

[@CNae03]

Oh my goodness you're comment almost brought me to tears 🥺 My mother is a narcissist. I have been no contact for 12 years. This is exactly what I went through. I understand exactly to a T how you feel and what you have gone through. They can come off very charming . I remember going to my psychiatrist's office(I was misdiagnosed and put on tons of medication I should have never been put on because of my mother) and my mom would kiss me on the cheek in front of other people and go mommy loves you And as soon as that door closes And the doctor will leave out for a moment. She would lower her voice and cuss me out and tell me how dare I tell the doctor what goes on in her household ( aka The abuse she constantly inflicted) And tell me she will have something from you when I got home. Or she would have the smirk that would make me cringe inside. She was so manipulative. She even put raw rice on a wooden floor and made me stand on my knees that's punishment once . I have so many more stories that I could tell. It's heartbreaking what this young lady is going through. I know exactly how she feels. Narcissists are unhealed and infect anybody there around who has any type of empathy . They only care about themselves and how they feel and how they are perceived. They don't truly care about anybody else.

[@asianna_]

Talking to my mom like this in public would’ve had me laid out on the stage 🥴

[@jaychosen1151]

No one cares you all say the same generic statement and be hypocritical

[@xithepen]

glorifying abuse is nuts.

[@Mani-period]

And that’s your mom’s issue probably.

[@fluwershy]

she would kill me live on the show lol

[@asianna_]

@@Mani-period lol I wouldn’t say it’s her issue because I’ve never been abused 🤷🏾‍♀️ maybe it’s your moms lol

[@maryburke7850]

Thank you Karamo for telling her that! She moved back in because she needs her she doesn’t want a bond!

[@ohyoudior]

Some of y’all are delusional in the comments. She is yelling/speaking loud because she was never allowed to speak back as a child. I noticed children who were raised as “speak when spoken too” when they became adults they are able to speak freely. The mother has NO choice but to listen now‼️. She can yell, scream, shout as much as she wants too ❤️

[@michellefreeman9886]

When you hold a lot of anger and resentment and can't explain the pain, it comes out loud and aggressive because you want all the pain to just go away.

[@sadabarrett5571]

That still doesn't justify disrespecting your mother!!! I know women whose mothers did not raise them and were out in the streets doing drugs, but they still would never disrespect their mother's! The Bible says honor that mother and thy father and thy life upon the Earth shall be longer!!! People need to realize and understand that parents aren't perfect. They mess up, and they make mistakes. But you're still supposed to honor and respect them!! Again, I know some women who can give you testimonies on what they went through with their Mother's that would bring you to tears, and still, they never disrespected their mother's!!

[@ohyoudior]

@@sadabarrett5571 Their Mother’s aren’t on live television gaslighting them to their face. If you’re going to say “Honor your mother and father” LETS INCLUDE Ephesians 6:4 do not provoke your children to anger by the way you treat them. Rather, bring them up with the discipline and instruction that comes from the Lord. Do not use a bible verse to justify that Mother’s behavior 😵‍💫

[@sadabarrett5571]

@ohyoudior Sweetie, I didn't use a bible verse to justify the mother's behavior. And it's funny for you to tell me not to use a bible verse to justify the mother's behavior, but you've just used a bible verse to justify the child's behavior! Whether her mother was gaslighting her or not. She was still disrespectful to the woman who gave her life!!! And no, the women i'm talking about did not go on t v with their mothers and have their mother's gas light them. They went through way worse with theirs!!! It is very clear from listening to both of them. There was a lack of discipline and respect that should have been taught to her at an early age!!! And if she ever has a child of her own, believe me, she will get it back. But to each his own sweetie we were bred from different clothes!!!! None of the women I was raised around would ever!!

[@ohyoudior]

@@sadabarrett5571 I didn’t use a bible verse to justify the daughter’s behavior. I used the bible verse to contradict what you said. You can’t say one verse without including the other.

[@baddabing-badaboom]

I know people are going to come after the daughter, but we can't ignore that the mom set this relationship to be begin with. It is very obvious that the mom raised her as a sister rather than a daughter and now she is just reaping it.

[@kaekrazy9506]

exactly

[@joycehodge8151]

The daughter isn’t lying about all those issues. Mom don’t want to admit it.

[@theemonette]

the way the mother keeps herself calm and collected will make you think the daughter is doing too much. i thought that until the "she obviously never went hungry" comment. she does snarky things and says things to provoke her daughter just to point the finger and gaslight.

[@Luver4lyfe]

💯 she very good at PRETENDING. She has 90% of this comment section completely fooled

[@younggbabytv2820]

Facts 💯

[@iluvfriendsforlife]

Agreed!!

[@GoneColoring]

My biggest complaint about Karamo is how he lets certain guests explode and behave out of control without addressing it and which doesn’t allow other guest to speak.

[@shontae445]

Facts

[@Jess-lx4tv]

It is disrespectful, but he might get a better chance and understanding of analyzing the situation by watching their natural flow of conversation without interruption….not sure though lol

[@BlueJeepJay]

@@Jess-lx4tvI AGREE

[@tatyana317]

@@GoneColoring well I believe he does it because it helps him see the pattern. If he disrupts it when it first starts then the dynamic doesn’t fully play out.

[@veronicajohnson7971]

​@@tatyana317 ty. That's exactly why he does it... he has to study the dynamic in order to identify issues that need rectifying

[@cynthiamey6693]

“As you can clearly see she never went hungry” 😭💀💀

[@lesley5380]

She's a good cook!

[@amandabarrett2472]

And clearly we see that atleast right now lol

[@opulence_prime]

@@lesley5380the daughter did say that. 😅

[@onyxgothicc]

that was fucked up to say about your daughter on live TV though...like be fr you both never lacked food or words to say...

[@ljackson24]

@@onyxgothiccEXACTLY! That right there let me know that what the daughter said was true. Bringing up her child’s father. Smh she says all kinds of wicked things to her daughter & now that she’s an adult, the daughter is over it. Mama just knows how to put on an act. That’s all this was.

[@Dimplessmile]

I understand where her frustration comes from. Parents sometimes don’t won’t to take accountability for the trauma they cause on us as children. She is communicating the way she was taught. All her mother has to do is take accountability for the things she caused. There is no handbook to parenting, but you treat your child the way you want to be treated as a child. 💯💯💯

[@tiana2906]

Exactly 💯

[@moniquejones6482]

I apologize for all of my mistakes. I mess up and I know I'm not perfect. I remember I told my son that I apologize for anything I did to negatively effect his life and I would say it often. My daughter the same. No one is perfect, we must admit to out mistakes to he better and forgive..

[@TexasDymond01]

Facts

[@beautyishername4392]

👏🏽PREACH🤎🙌🏽

[@nicolerobinson835]

if she stfu and let her speak...maybe she can

[@emilyb2036]

“I nearly died bringing you into this world” “If it wasn’t for me there would be no you” “I’m still your mother” This tells me everything about the way she’s raised her daughter, no wonder she’s angry.

[@baddabing-badaboom]

Right? It seems obvious that the daughter isn't wrong, she just doesn't know how to communicate well.

[@chrisy-e]

Real talk

[@beautyishername4392]

Sad mane🤎🙌🏽

[@willdee-st6ub]

​@@baddabing-badaboomso in your view a child pointing they finger in a.parent face is ok bull crap you is foolish bull crap

[@JaneInThisThang]

I was trying to figure out where the anger came from until I heard her say her grandmother would babysit her a lot.

[@ItsLeyaMarie]

The daughter is angry, doesn’t excuse being disrespectful but I understand where it comes from. She needs therapy. The mom looks to me like she has dealt with it in her own way and has desensitized herself to the broken relationship and that’s why she can sit there so nonchalant and play calm. I hope they both can heal and mend their relationship.

[@isadorainaja]

They both need therapy. Especially the mom exactly because of the desensitization from which she acts

[@milanC4659]

​@@isadorainajaFacts!!!

[@originaleverythingelseisca5977]

I agree, the daughter should just leave because their relationship is so contentious.

[@zahirahjahmad2530]

Yes she do!!!

[@zahirahjahmad2530]

The daughter is playing VICTIM and not allowing the mother to speak. I’m not liking the daughter attitude

[@juice_wink]

The daughter is aware enough in her adulthood to see how her mother's treatment towards her has had an effect on her being a functioning well-rounded adult. Kudos to her for at least trying. I tried many times to no avail and in my 30s with no healthy relationships and lack of care and support, I didn't even know I was capable of getting help thinking I was too broken. Now,with tons of issues I have to work through on my own, I can see this young lady's hurt and rage as a beautiful that deserves love and recognition. If not she'd be just as numb to emotion as her mother. She deserves to release that and I hope she can continue to have safe space to do so....away from her manipulative mother.

[@baddabing-badaboom]

She is eating up that red hair, my god???

[@ud558]

She looks old

[@NaaahTako]

No she not 🫥

[@freeforall2069]

She look good af

[@Lenasevilla-yb4ei]

@@ud558y’all so jealous and bitter in these comments

[@caroljordt8045]

Both ladies very attractive!

[@danielvidal46]

This episode is so relatable! I know the daughter comes off as crass and harsh but I can see my past self in her. I remember all the yelling, whooping, unnecessary episodes from childhood. But now that we’re all grown and it’s time to unpack everyone wants to act like the mom is. Be calm and collected completely forgetting that your child doesn’t understand where all the anger was coming from. As a child you don’t understand generational trauma. All you can see is your parent being angry, and resentful. Accountability can solve so much.

[@thehoneyeffect]

Daughter needs therapy for childhood abuse (neglect). Mum needs therapy for her childhood too.

[@Cesarsaladas]

That "okay" at 10:19 i think turned me upside down and made me understand much of how things have gone. I was siding with the mother for the first portion because the daughter talked over her mother wayyy too much when i wanted to hear what she was gonna say. Serious breakdown of communication and a lot of anger. I think the mother sort of knows she made mistakes and is avoiding accountability by uplifting only the positive things she's done. i.e. "I always left my door open" or "She never went hungry", never fighting to go back to things she has been accused of before *partially because of the daughter probably making her mother short circuit with the overtalking*. Its almost easy to side with the mother given the disrespect, however its clear respect was never earned judging by the lack of emotion and specifically care for the daughter when she is telling her tales of woe. If it was my daughter I'd have feelings and particularly own personal frustration over my failings for my daughter, I'd curse myself to make the choice of having a child to only fail them as a parent, because at the end of the day the child did not choose their existence, we did.

[@ljackson24]

Well said. You see what happened. And it’s like, so you’re saying this young lady made up her entire childhood and how you treated her???? Naaaaa

[@Luver4lyfe]

The people in the comments that are siding with the mother don’t know what “covert” people do and how they put on an act. However with these “covert” people their mask eventually slips and they say something slick that shows you they are not who they truly present themselves to be. People need to read between the lines.. sometimes the person hollering “FIRE FIRE FIRE” isn’t a crazy person and is really being hysterical because they they see some sh*t happening that others don’t.

[@ljackson24]

@@Luver4lyfe CORRECT!!! People have to learn how to listen through the pain. Now, was the daughter doing a bit much? Yea, but she was still clear about how her mom hurt her. It doesn’t just come out like sunshine when someone cuts you that deep repeatedly. ESPECIALLY not with a parent. The mom is definitely putting on an act after throwing rocks. Now all she can say is, “Look how she’s acting.” That’s a dead giveaway right there. They love to get you all upset then flip the switch when others are around to make you seem crazy. Then, what they say you did, they never have proof. She tried to make her daughter seem like a thief and never really said anything else about it or proved it. She just threw it out there to defame her character. Classic covert narcissist. CLASSIC smh

[@ljackson24]

@@Luver4lyfe One time my mom said I was on m3th in front of her little boyfriend all bc I smoked weed. I laughed so hard and went tf off. I told her to put her money where her mouth is and bet me $500 so we could go get a drug test right now. I even said, “See, you don’t even know what you’re talking about bc my skin to clear to be doing some m3th. You just say anything!” Whooooo, I was so mad. Of course we didn’t go get the test 😂🤦🏾‍♀️

[@giftedwithin7]

True!!

[@kris3980]

Sometimes we need to love from a distance, why would you move back in with your mom if you knew your relationship is that bad? I understand that she's hurt but respect is respect, there's no need to do all that shouting to get your point across. They both need healing.

[@Yabadabaduba]

Mom never showed her love in her life, no stability, didn't even raise her. Selfish mother, neglectful mother. Poor girl.

[@tifb94]

Can’t wait to go next week! I’ll be in the audience 😊

[@Chalece43]

Awesome..enjoy!!

[@dayum_mi]

The audience toxic but have fun

[@tifb94]

@@dayum_mi😅 why you say that lol

[@baddabing-badaboom]

Oooo let us know how it goes!!!

[@dayum_mi]

@@tifb94they clap at some inappropriate times in previous episodes.

[@tessawood8244]

The way she’s acting towards her mother is making her mother look like she’s right when truly the daughter is probably right & lashing out because she’s over it . The mother doesn’t really wanna take accountability for what she actually did .

[@janepatton8100]

This isn't a movie. There aren't any good guys vs. villains. Both of them are right, and both of them are wrong. With that being said, the disrespect towards her mother is indefensible. And what's even worse is a 1000 comments where 95% are excusing the disrespect. And these are the future leaders of our country. Smh... this country is (scr- ewed). We are literally witnessing the collapse of a society.

[@CNae03]

Thank you exactly

[@PorscheAbraham]

For her to want a better relationship with her mother she sure is disrespectful 🫤

[@gainingclaritywithjasz6759]

Right

[@lashayjohnson2857]

Right!!

[@opulence_prime]

I mean. I understand she might feel like she has to be that way to get respect but it’s actually counterproductive. My kids couldn’t curse or yell at me like that without getting disowned.

[@kaekrazy9506]

girl byeeee, yaw hate to see these older black folks being held accountable for how they treat their kids

[@kaekrazy9506]

@@opulence_primeplease.. respect is EARNED. cant be a piss poor mother and expect the upmost respect. yall be so delusional

[@amberwilliams8149]

Then she called her "Girl"!!!! I could not

[@roxi9897]

The daughter is disrespectful! She's not listening and just hollers. I can't even watch anymore. She is not trying to get to the issues and just wants to lash out. No accountability for her actions.

[@777eunoia]

because ate was never aloud to speak her mind as a child.

[@bryn1063]

​@777eunoia ikr. She finally is allowed to speak her mind now and call out lies in her mother's statement. They want her to shut up again to listen to her narcissist of a mother. I know from that eating comment alone the daughter was right.

[@ReeseyMarie]

Coming a child that has dealt with this. I can understand both sides of this. The daughter is hurt. Extremely hurt. Its the lack the of the accountability. I now am in my 30s i deal with a parent that has no responsibility or accountability for the hurt or trauma. It was a point where i screamed & yelled Because it was very hurtful for me to speak in a normal tone & it was always my fault. It does get better! I am living proof. She may just have to be done with her mother!

[@Luver4lyfe]

Yes it’s time to move on! No contact is best. The mother will absolutely be covertly disrespectful and hurtful again, & won’t take accountability for it. I believe people like this have mental health issues that’s undiagnosed , and it’s why they will throw stones then behave like the victim. It’s best to go “no contact” with such parents , otherwise your resentment will show up as rage and now everyone will call you disrespectful- and that’s because they’re only getting one side of the story. It’s a cycle that must be stopped. I am glad you’re doing much better and moving forward in life. I’ve had to do the same ❤blessings to you on your journey

[@Diivasatti]

The same! I was there. The yelling and couldn’t speak in a normal tone cz they not listening. Last year I decided I’ll no longer explain myself, to folks who are determined not to understand me

[@vannapassion]

I usually don’t comment and share my story/testimony about growing up with how my mom was back then. I understand her pain, my mom did give me the clothes the shoes phones etc .. but never gave me the love I needed her to give me growing up.. knowing I didn’t have my dad and her bringing guys in the house and picking them over me and my sisters … even got to the point where one of the guys did touch me! And she knew it was the truth and she still stood with him til they had their fall out. My mom got with a guy who is now my stepdad. They were smoking and everything and I felt like she was even more absent then she was already and I told her “ ma I don’t even feel like I have my mom at all “ and of course I said other things with that but weeks later she ended up telling me she wanted to go to church and change her life around and wanted me to go with her. I genuinely only went for her and not to seek God. My mother started changing and honestly she apologized, took accountability for the things that she had did to me and my sisters. She has changed she has preached about the things that she has done to us and how she wanted to be a woman first besides being a mom. She has changed so much through this path with God and I have seen her grow into the mother I always wanted her to be. I ended up of course going to church for God and I haven’t left since. Moral of the story is .. that God can work wonders in peoples lives and he can truly bless those that even in moments they may say “ God where were you “ … he sees and he knows peoples pain. I would’ve never thought out of my years of living that I’ll be on this path nor would I have thought I would ever see the mother that I have now.. I hope and pray that this woman gets the true healing that she needs and may God touch her life and her mom’s life .. cause her mother also needs some type of break through and needs some healing of her own as well. God bless you all 🙏🏽💗

[@rakn752]

That daughter is ignorant as hell! She may be dealing with childhood trauma but all that yelling is like chile no! If you dislike your momma that much and feel like she mistreat you go get some help and then maybe revisit a relationship with her but right now you definitely don’t need to be living under the same roof!

[@kaylani9263]

girl how is she ignorant, shes holding her mother accountable for all the trauma she put her through, respect is earned and clearly bc of the way her mom treated her she is not going to have any respect for her. she can still love her mom but her frustration is warranted like be fr

[@kaekrazy9506]

oh wow, you can traumatize your child but GOD FORBID they raise their voice at you, do you see how stupid you sound?

[@ZionDoesMakeup]

That mindset is why kids don't want nothing to do with their mothers cause y'all wanna act like she ain't got an reason to be yelling like you just gone skip her momma trying to make her feel like she owes her something for her deciding to have her??

[@jessycavalentine4866]

You can't hurt and tell me how to react to that hurt

[@willdee-st6ub]

​@@kaylani9263gotta gotta disagree with your poor comments you up there validating that disrespectful daughter actions pointing her finger in the mom face on stage unbelievable

[@IvyKushPA]

My mom does the same shit. Nobody will ever understand the shit we go through cause she’s an award winning actress fr

[@rastaboi8864]

Mine too a fraud a liar

[@KhadijahSays83]

Mine is the same way, only she went so far has to go after a good friend of mine. He banned her from his recording studio for life because of what she did. She act like she did nothing wrong, when there are several organizations in New York and New Jersey that know what she did in her past.

[@fwkota]

theres clearly a lot of pain that the daughter is going through. she made multiple comments that insinuate that she's on the verge of giving up

[@prettygemini3432]

She just hates her mum. That's all there is to it.

[@2intriguing1]

She needs to be on her own. Especially through healing. The daughter seemed more interested in embarrassing and clowning her mother who too had a hard life. Its crazy to see how easy it was for her to jump up in her face like that.

[@sarahnzame695]

Nobody gives af hush

[@2intriguing1]

@sarahnzame695 l0sers stay losing🤦🏾‍♀️ Looks like you give af and need a life.

[@Icannotlose]

@@sarahnzame695you must be the daughter 😂 how you bully your own mom! 🤡

[@KJay-ql3hq]

Let’s talk about how they look more like sisters than mother & daughter 🙌🏾

[@msbrandedbaddies269]

that’s the problem… the tend to think they are equal when they look like you and you look younger!!

[@TayLibra23.]

Damn the mother look younger than the daughter and the daughter threw me off when she said she’s 23 😱 she looks 36

[@IdcPermanentHiatus]

Ik u lyin'

[@TheBestYoutuber0173]

Be so Fr

[@iesham.2233]

I noticed a comment that said Karamo allowed her to disrespect her, but I truly believe, as he does in every situation, he was observing the dynamic between them. Yes, it was awful to watch, but it helps him see why certain language, verbal and body, is being used. If he was to stop it right then and there, then certain things wouldn’t be revealed.

[@javonnemotley5980]

I dont talk to my mom at all because she wont take accountability for any trauma she has put me through when i was coming up ,she always try and flip everything like she did no wrong .

[@nytheceleb]

9:34 😂😂😂 “She A Supervisor & Don’t Do Supervisor Duties” , I’m Crying 😂😭😭

[@Vidgamechx]

Lawd...the daughter gave me a headache. She would NOT let Mom talk and I really wanted to understand her side too. Her pointing in her face over and over was uncalled for and clearly childish. I'm glad Karamo let them both be heard. Good luck to them❤

[@blueymars7395]

you have to understand they were together when she was younger, the dynamic is clearly more like sisters than mother and daughter!

[@Logantaliaferro]

@@blueymars7395riii like Idek why people say oh you don’t wish you were an adult 😢

[@yolandam843]

She brought her there to shame her..period

[@Mariakadis]

That's all you got? U need to rewatch then or experience what she's been thru

[@yolandam843]

@@Mariakadis I did and I have..that's how I know

[@candygirl9923]

Karamo you should have stopped her from disrespecting her mother

[@lornasheila]

I agree with you

[@ziathegoat2447]

I think he was trying to find if she said something that actually got to the root of her anger.

[@Prettyyluhhnii]

She wasn’t disrespecting her she’s hurt she’s angry bc her mama put her through hell

[@bryn1063]

No. If the mother didn't want to be called out for her being neglectful and manipulative don't be neglectful and manipulative. It's her fault her daughters so angry. Why should she shut up? She's been told to keep quiet about this all her life while the mother got to talk all she wanted. It's her time now

[@Bbadu9419]

BEAUTIFUL on the outside for sure. Both ladies. I pray they continue the work so they can come off just as beautiful from the inside. They remind me of a mom/daughter in my family, & I know ppl looking in will think the daughter is doing too much/lying/disrespectful but I have seen how a mother can be horrible during their childhood, change & then act like none of it happened. And it affects the middle kids most! Seen with my own eyes. The moms move on & want to detach from that version of themselves and because they know that in their heart they love their kids it takes some work for them to realize how they’ve hurt their kids. Praying for them! You only get one mommy. ❤

[@hdog4474]

So beautiful seeing these two heal!!! Hope they can continue to work together on their love for each other. 💞 Mother-daughter relationships are so special!

[@skillasbaby]

everyone saying the daughter rude n disrespectful but nobody hearing her out. no one knows what happens behind closed doors except them.yall normalize "respect your mother no matter what'' but nobody address built up trauma and anger. thats what wrong with the black community. yall expect everyone to react the same way when addressing trauma but it's obvious she's hurting and the only way she can express that is by yelling. it was how she raised and how she was taught. respect that and see from her POV.

[@milanC4659]

Exactly and Facts!!!!

[@Luver4lyfe]

The black community is a lost cause! People commenting about “disrespect” are the same ones that will sanction an abu$er/predator still being invited to family functions just because they don’t want to stir the pot. This behavior is all aligned, you can’t speak or show pain when you are a youth. You gotta hide everything and treat your parents like royalty even when they sh*t on you. It also boils down to them misconstruing the Bible and incorrectly telling people they will be cursed if they get angry with their parent… they never read the whole passage that states don’t provoke your children to anger. The black community is conditioned to think this way, and now the children are getting more angry/impatient. I don’t blame them

[@prettygemini3432]

Oh we're hearing her alright. We're also hearing that she claims her mum is the devil and yet went to her when she needed a place to stay, data her food and accepted her help to find a job. Beyond hearing we see her childish displays and aggressive behaviour. 23 years old acting like that. If you're so grown nice out😂

[@Daughter.of.TMH.YAH23]

My aunt was like this in front of people. Calm and acted like my cousins anger was for no reason. Then one day we heard the real her and how she talked to him. She was telling my 17yo cousin that he’s just a “bummy n***a” he ain’t gonna be nothing, won’t be nowhere but in jail or dead (he wasn’t even a street dude, he was trying to do music). She talked to him like he was a boyfriend she was tired of taking care of. I couldn’t believe it. He moved to Tennessee a few years ago and literally won’t talk to anyone in the family to keep her from knowing his life. We miss him but definitely understand his need to distance from it all. I hope he’s doing well.

[@ceecee23.]

That daughter is rude asf! Regardless of how you feel towards your mother there’s a certain way to get your point across. It’s actually frustrating cause all I hear is yelling, she not even tryna hear her mother out.

[@quandaledingle19]

she's allowed to be rude if her mom is acting the way she do and she's trying to control her daughter... her daughter is grown she don't need to be tryna control her every way of life

[@prettygemini3432]

​@@quandaledingle19trying to control her how

[@prettygemini3432]

​@@quandaledingle19are you serious? Did we watch the same video? The only complaint she had was her mum letting someone burn her hand at 2-3yrs old. Meanwhile mum took her to the hospital and was angry enough to try to take the guy to jail. Are you serious??

[@TheBestYoutuber0173]

@@prettygemini3432When people feel like they aren’t being heard or understood, they often raise their voice and be ‘disrespectful’ YALL are focusing on her behavior but not how she feels and what she’s been through. Don’t make the daughter be the villain.

[@sunnylamine]

Mom and Daighter, yall owe Karamo several hugs, several pull-ups and most importantly communication between you two.

[@carolharris5455]

Ohh wow she could NEVER live with me if I were her mom

[@donaboyle5404]

If she talks like this on the show, imagine how she is daily

[@jackiebennett6304]

look what her mom did.

[@princessi4552]

Her mom did not make her like that I don't care what anybody everybody is responsible for their own life you read the Bible you go to church you'll know what it says about disrespecting your parents regardless and if she did not if she felt the way she feel so much about her mom why you and your mother's house because yes she sounds like a drama queen and she's very disrespectful at the end of the if you was in church you wouldn't be like that God forgives us every day I would not go to that with my kids

[@jackiebennett6304]

@@princessi4552 the Bible also says not to provoke the child. Black people always trying to use the Bible as a manipulation tool. Same behavior as “ Master” during SLAVERY. I’m tired of that. Her mom did have a part to play in all of this

[@jackiebennett6304]

@@princessi4552 if you don’t want to go through that with your kids then be a better mother and stop using the Bible as an excuse for not to do your part.

[@prettygemini3432]

​@@jackiebennett6304what did her mum do? Allow her to stay in her house when she needed help? Cook for her and look out for her with her no good boyfriend? 😂y'all are really projecting in these comments. Go confront your own mums

[@melaniemiller7013]

I could never speak to my mom like how she chat to mom.

[@Lenasevilla-yb4ei]

Her mom is a deadbeat

[@thehoneyeffect]

You didn’t have the same mum

[@Luver4lyfe]

That’s you, you never walked in her shoes.

[@noname4998]

Your mom probably did way better than her too so..

[@FREEFORM_LOCS90]

The finger pointing NO MAMEEE so disrespectful

[@joyceburroughs6497]

Very disrespectful

[@bernicemillhouse9693]

I'm glad at the end the daughter was calm and talking and I'm glad the mother got to understanding and I wish the best for their relationship to get better cuz that was crazy and a daughter was really disrespectful and put her hand in her mom face ❤🙏🏼❤️

[@InTrex00]

Mom and daughter are Gorgeous!!!! Daughters beauty is surreal, spaced tooth are a BIG thing of beauty in Nigeria . Never let no one tell you different

[@jackiebennett6304]

I need to move there then because I have a big gap but I’m a beautiful girl like this girl

[@TF-gf3fs]

​@@jackiebennett6304Don't do it. They're extremely colorist there and they say African Americans resemble monkeys.

[@InTrex00]

@@jackiebennett6304 you should, they’ll love you🥰🥰♥️

[@InTrex00]

@@jackiebennett6304 but it also need to be like that here! And anywhere else, its a Gorgeous feature PERIOD♥️

[@lovelyculture3545]

She's gonna look back at this and feel horrible for the way she's speaking to her mom.

[@Luver4lyfe]

If there’s changed behavior then yes she will regret it, but if things go right back to the way they were (which is likely to happen), the next explosion will be worse. Clearly she was taught that rage/anger by her mother

[@dionnethomas4704]

Facts

[@dionnethomas4704]

She’s still young and she doesn’t know any better

[@jackiebennett6304]

2 way street

[@bryn1063]

She was finally able to speak up after her while childhood to shut up. No sis, she's not going to regret it. Her mama doesn't deserve respect.

[@DBrown-vg1fi]

I don’t care what nobody say…it’s never okay to disrespect your mom like that when you still living in her house and she got you a job. Your mom was only to raise you up until 18. As a self sufficient adult I wish I would disrespect someone who comes to my aid and help me in my time of need. If I really felt my mom was so toxic she would be cut off by now. I would never stoop to this level of low in disrespect anyone in this manner. I still have my dignity and the block button still works if I felt like my parents were so toxic..‼️

[@Luver4lyfe]

You wrote this just to appear self-righteous, yet you sat thru a show that’s aimed at confronting and healing trauma in people’s personal lives. What you witnessed is trauma being exposed and hopefully the path to healing be forged. WE DONT CARE WHAT YOU WOULD DO. It’s about the show, and the fact that people come from all walks of life and have different experiences therefore they react and respond differently. You can be upset as you want to be about how this woman conducted herself , but the bottom line is you don’t walk in her shoes or know what things are like behind closed doors.

[@noname4998]

@@Luver4lyfethank you for having common sense.

[@trinitimarshall5359]

Umm no parent is suppose to raise their kid til they 18 you continue that journey until the day the Lord call you home yu ain’t suppose to leave your kids out in this world with no guidance I’m mother of one I wouldn’t dare do my daughter like that she’s gonna forever be good as long I’m still here breathing 💯

[@noname4998]

@@trinitimarshall5359 Because you’re actually a really good parent! Sickens me that people like this person really thinks just cause they’re legally responsible for themselves, means you shouldn’t help, care or love them anymore. American mentality when it comes to their children sickens me. Idk what other countries besides the US who think the only thing a parents job to do is provide them with basic necessities, instead of any emotional support. In every country ik You get cared and loved by your parents until they get old, then the children care for you when you’re older. People like the person who commented this don’t deserve the title of a parent. Just a birthing person/sperm donor.

[@DBrown-vg1fi]

Hmm ok y’all are presenting some interesting points ngl

[@Sam20201]

I’m involuntarily not believing the mother, I’m leaning towards the daughter because my mother is exactly like this. She never tells the truth, she always acts like the victim. She always demands respect from me because “I’m the daughter” but she never respects me. I’m always LYING in her eyes and she’s the only telling the truth. I’m always “provoking” her and fueling her behavior, she’s never wrong. She gives me 0 privacy, I moved out 2 years ago and then last year she ruined it for me, I had to move back home so she can control my life. That’s why I’m triggered by this. I still love my mother though. It’s just sad that I have to persevere for all this because she refuses to go to therapy. I can’t communicate with her because she’ll get defensive instead of accepting and apologizing. I have no problem apologizing if I did her wrong but she’s making so hard for me to want to apologize if she’s not going to feel guilty and try to understand or try reciprocate too. I understand that it’s all she knows because that’s how she grey up too but Girl, just go to therapy

[@arlaoen229]

I am happy they made those first step. I hope in my heart it works for them. I have one daughter I wasn't perfect but we talk and work things out without disrespecting each other.

[@IAMSPAZZYT]

i’ll never agree with people thinking that who they are to you or their age means they deserve respect. you earn respect no matter who you are. (in my opinion

[@kmbutler04]

Baby, that daughter would be homeless. My home will be a place peace and not chaos!

[@itsmilababez6972]

I'm Praying you don't have kids one day. 🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️ home? This lady couldn't keep a damn house. She was in her man's apartment.

[@sarahnzame695]

It was my house 😂

[@bryn1063]

Then don't make it chaotic. Yall act like the mom didn't literally create this situation

[@ackpuff]

@@bryn1063that’s what i’m sayingggg

[@judithmurray4762]

Omg the daughter is just too loud and disrespectful I feel so sad for the mum to have to put up with her everyday! I just couldn’t

[@VeronicaDavisakaMsV]

Bless them both I’m praying for them because a mother daughter relationship is so important

[@LissaPeroux]

The daughter is the issue very disrespectful and no respect for her mom

[@lelahh1087]

the mom is trying to talk to calm to make the daughter look like the problem..

[@yasmeenbeasley]

Nobody says their parent didn’t raise them because they dont get their way. She’s upset with her mom because she wasn’t there for her growing up. She will not let it go until the mom admits it .

[@realtalkwithbunmi]

I dont care what Karamo say, they don't need to live together

[@toya8955]

The daughter has had enough and she is tired. The mom is not taking accountability

[@Itsoktoloveyourself]

The daughter has been through so much, she's tired and want her voice heard.

[@redlove8599]

Her mom definitely putting in for the audience you can tell that’s not how she actually is outside of that show and she literally lying and walking over it

[@majorkei]

We as daughters have to understand that when our mothers had us.. it was a new journey for them as well. Motherhood doesn’t come with a handbook and mental health is just now becoming something that people are aware of. Childhood trauma will literally travel from generation to generation if someone doesn’t choose to break the cycle. At least that’s what I’m learning.

[@danielvidal46]

You made some very valid points. I do want to point out that daughters shouldn’t be expected to learn that motherhood was a new journey. Children don’t choose to exist. Children take what you give them. Even if you’re poor you can still have a solid, healthy relationship with your child. Learning about the damage you’ve done as a parent when your children are grown is sometimes too little too late

[@majorkei]

@@danielvidal46 “we as daughters” meaning the adult versions of ourselves. Just reminded ourselves of grace. And respect toward our mothers. But there are still boundaries that have to be respected. And so on and so forth. But. Agreed.

[@shanaziaantionette]

This is true but certain things is common sense

[@majorkei]

@@shanaziaantionette exactly !

[@michaelamitchell1603]

not an excuse boo.

[@jerrseyy1088]

That chocolate Karamo!!! Love that set on you 🤎

[@iSaidGoodDay]

Making excuses for this level of disrespect is a huge part of what’s wrong with this society.

[@realmnthrwknives]

The mom clearly made some type of parenting fails but the daughter is disrespectful! I love that Karamo advocates for the child but allowing her to yell and point her finger in her moms face is just crazy. We see it so often now on this show and its like why is there not a "hey listen i heard you out, now allow your mother to do the same." He's done it before so its not like he can't, he's acting more as a mediator which is great but far too much bias for the one who is the loudest.

[@shai6134]

👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿

[@MZAQUAFINA2385]

The mother is partially right. Karamo is trying to ask the mother questions and the daughter is over talking 2 people more grown than she is. I see her hurt, but if you despise your mom so much, why are you in her home? Talking like that and the fact you still depending on her is insane. The daughter likes drama. It's evident.

[@princessi4552]

100 % 💯 I thought I was the only one that so true

[@relaxwithreeasmr]

For sure, that was quite the performance.

[@nicolerobinson835]

she couldn't wait to get on television and try to embarrass her mom

[@Sira-jp2to]

I definitely believe that the mother was never verbally abusive!!🤷🏾‍♀️

[@yasmeenbeasley]

“You can see she never went hungry” she slid that in there real easy 😂. She dodged everything the daughter said by following up with something positive she did instead of acknowledging what she did wrong. The mother is very manipulative and you can see it all over her face.

[@bryn1063]

​@@yasmeenbeasleyikr. These people have never been around narcissists and if they did they'd be played like a damn fiddle.

[@quanitaforbes5059]

The daughter is very rude it’s horrible to watch. There’s way worse parents than what she has I’m embarrassed for the mother

[@ladybugbrack2834]

Exactly! The daughter needs to move & the Mother needs to love her daughter from a distance.

[@dejizi]

@@ladybugbrack2834you sound dumb

[@andilengubane5178]

Her mother is clearly stable a Supervisor with a place to stay that can accommodate her as well! And obviously if you stay with your mom as an adult child you will surely be at loggerheads cause you will heve to recognize some rules That is why there are issues as we are all expected to be finding our own way at some point… Moms do so much and when they are normally not “there” they are fighting and surviving hardships of this world But she herself will be a mom one day she will learn

[@kagamisho]

its always the damn "don't forget i brought you into this world..."

[@Merebaby72]

Look at her trying to play I’m your mother card smfh😂

[@javonnemotley5980]

Out of each episodes this is the calmest mom ive seen cause all the other moms would come out yelling but the daughter i have to say her not letting her mom talk just urked me because she wanna fuss and tell her whst she tired of but you still in her house if you dont want your mom running you go get your own place ,now far as the mom go any wrong that she has done to the daughter she should of just admitted any spoke her peace and let it go. The daughter to me was disrespectful you can say how you feel when you talk to your parents but dont be disrespectful say how you feel and express the pain you feel and what she caused you without yelling cause if she yelling and if the mom was yelling nothing gets solved but im glad they got through it .

[@amberwilliams8149]

I could never say the things she saying to her mother. My mom treated me rough, but I Still respected her. Her days are going to be short.

[@ladybugbrack2834]

Amen

[@Luver4lyfe]

You shouldn’t put that curse on her, it may come right back to you and shorten your days.

[@Loganisthe]

Just started watching this show on Facebook. I love this show n now following on KZbin. 8/10 shows, I always cry. Good, n emotionally healing. Making me look at my life, family, n all.

[@EdahsWolb4855]

Me as well, and be feeling like some episodes are free therapy for myself

[@dakota7555]

Gotta be honest, the daughter seems a bit ungrateful. She’s up there yelling like there was a substantial amount of turmoil and I still couldn’t understand exactly what the problem was she had with her mom. If she wants space, move out and get a job away from your mom. Simple 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@ariamason9324]

Me too, looks like mom was out working and not at home to play with her 24hr. She should just leave her mother's home and carry on.

[@shai6134]

I agree!

[@Luminous_Faith]

This channel is so healing!❤

[@ItsImaanMohamed.]

I just love this show

[@nikkid1204]

From experience, sometimes you have to separate yourself from family, even your kids. You have to know and trust that you’ve done the best you could have and what is meant will come. You can’t want something that you’re not willing to give yourself and that’s respect

[@black5170]

I understand her frustration with her mother, but putting her finger all in her mama face would’ve gotten her finger broken back in the day and just the way she talks to her mom. There is no respect or boundary as the child

[@debbiehiggins1532]

Karamo you are a saviour, love the work you are doing...keep it up😊

[@joyceburroughs6497]

Looking at this make me cry, I wish I still had my mommy, she was my best friend, you only get one , get it right before she’s no longer here ; 🙏

[@ladybugbrack2834]

💯

[@stephaniemichel8271]

I sure miss mines😢

[@jasminebolden668]

I miss mines also 😢

[@bryn1063]

She was your best friend. But her mama wasn't there for her. Not all mama's are good mama's. Yall are grown people and should know this by now. Rest in peace your mother and be grateful she wasn't as manipulative as this one. Because even you believed her bs.

[@chiloveradiouncut]

Listening the Mother nonchalantly describe a man burning her Daughter is CRAZY!!!!!

[@SheRoyaltySalon]

Parents aren't perfect, but the disrespect is out of control. Be frustrated and angry, but learn out to express yourself. Smh

[@jackiebennett6304]

Children aren’t either. Stop making excuses

[@jackiebennett6304]

Maybe she wasn’t taught how to express herself

[@antwinetteluke8372]

I can’t stand it when people yell and clap their hands it’s so displeasing and disrespectful. She would have to leave my show. Or calm the hell down. I’m like 😮why

[@myaj4533]

Karamo wouldn't let them sons of his be disrespectful like this....I'm yelling at the screen, "who the fuck you talking to??"

[@joyceburroughs6497]

I totally agree