Monkeys and Narcissists Use the Same Strategy-Here’s How to Stop It.

[@woopiemiddleman8232]

I love this comparison! They want convenience, free maid, fee therapy, free childcare for their kids, free money from spouse, free assistant etc… they return the favor by hating and destroying you. Think of them as monkey? Let’s not to insult the monkeys.

[@tigressatwork1708]

Yes please don’t insult the monkeys 😢

[@michaelgarrow3239]

All they want is a free house and a walking talking ATM machine… Some Guy: probably

[@LR-yu3mx]

@@woopiemiddleman8232 well said.

[@fryfully]

I’ve been calling the narc in my life feral but I love monkeys so much more!!

[@JYPSYEYE]

ACED IT. 💯🛎️ Spot on . Can’t believe my eyes, happens like a player piano, like a script…..

[@HamletsMill1969]

This is a real smart analogy for narcissism. Give them No Voice. No Time. No Eye Contact. Focus on yourself. 😮

[@meabeck]

And blocking them. 🎉

[@bobbarker1798]

So true!

[@paintressmaya1450]

DON'T FEED THE MONKEYS! 🐒 ❤❤❤❤ Best message for beating narcissists!! Thank you!

[@melisentiapheiffer3034]

That would make a great phrase on a hoodie!

[@theresaleskinen6433]

“I’m definitely not trying to insult monkeys” 😂 i love it!!

[@fromfeartoflow]

I had to laugh so much 😂

[@susanclifford1094]

😂

[@IzabelaWaniek-i1x]

I totally agree. Don’t feed the narcisist. Give them nothing, no emotion, no reaction, become indifferent as if you don’t even notice they are there.

[@JessicaAnotii]

Watching this captivating video stirs up painful memories of the recent end of my 4 year relationship. My beloved partner chose to depart, leaving me with an unyielding ache. Despite my relentless efforts to reconcile, I find myself grappling with frustration and an inability to envision a future without him. Despite attempts to purge him from my mind, I remain haunted by his absence, feeling compelled to express my longing here.

[@Shanieceflordi]

It's hard to let go of someone you love; I went through a similar experience when my 12-year relationship ended. I tried everything to get him back, and eventually I had to turn to a spiritual counselor for assistance.

[@JessicaAnotii]

Interesting! How did you locate a spiritual counsellor, and how can I get in touch with him most effectively?

[@Shanieceflordi]

His name is Father Obah Eze, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

[@Shanieceflordi]

he is father obah eze, he has great powers, he can help you.

[@JessicaAnotii]

Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked him up now online. impressive Wow I just looked Father Obah Eze on the net he’s very legit thanks once again ❤

[@camarwalker5876]

No FEEDING - I love it!

[@cms1083]

That clip is hillarious!!! “Narcissists!!!!!” 😂 very good comparison !!!! Who woulda thought ?!

[@annberlin5811]

They will still want your supply Years later. These people are scary

[@meabeck]

Absolutely frightening and dangerous. You are so right.

[@world-uk2vj]

And extremely dangerous.

[@Thunder-lightning852]

Sometimes you’re caring, loving, hope trust, compassion, giving forgiving can be your worst enemy

[@juliettecrossley4864]

It was mine....today l am escaping

[@michaelgarrow3239]

Kindness is weakness…. 😉

[@meabeck]

​@@juliettecrossley4864Be you. Be safe. 🙏🌼🎶🙋💙💃👤🐈🍁🍰🍽️💛💦

[@maya_unplugged]

No, your generousity isn’t your enemy. You lack of reeding red flags is. That can be fixed through learning and practise. Problem solved over time.

[@alidalavezzari4103]

​@@maya_unpluggedit is true, to be good is not the problem, to don't have boundaries is the problem

[@janicebaker2813]

Thanks for the reminder, because us good-hearted people have to be reminded of the evil that lerks behind the two-faced snakes. ..

[@meabeck]

Precisely.

[@elizabethl6187]

You took it a lot further than I did. I recognized that narcissists who expect to get the upper hand will throw dominance tantrums like a primate temper display. This makes a lot of sense, though. Some treat us like chess pieces instead of vending machines, but it’s the same idea. When you hear someone shrug and say, “Someone is paid to pick up my litter,” or “it’s alright to steal from big stores,” or “I have such a good reputation, I can get away with anything,” or “I don’t know why some people feel the need to compromise to keep the peace, but it makes life easier for me!”* you know that you are talking to someone who doesn’t have to live in peace and integrity with their own soul, and doesn’t understand why you do. * These are all real quotes from people in my life.

[@meabeck]

Your words are precisely explicit. Very helpful. Thank you.😊

[@4seasons546]

Those are some good quotes that show the mindset of many people, while others are so unaware that other people close to them or in the public eye may have the attitude represented in your quotes.

[@ThePatricenice]

at the end narcissists send the flying monkeys ...😂

[@world-uk2vj]

It's beyond amazing just how many they can mobilise also,

[@Flowersandtrees]

Love this analogy! Previously I called one of my narc relatives a caveman. But monkey is better!

[@JoyTracie-vm1qs]

😂😂😂😂😂😂 The voice over “narcissist” got me EVERY TIME!!!! 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@lookupyourredemptiondrawsn7285]

Same!!!

[@justhermit5306]

This is the best comparison/analogy i've ever heard about narcissists! Unfortunately we can all instantly recognise a real monkey but narcissists have the talent to disguise themselves as a "real human". By the time the "animal monkey" shows itself most of the time too much damage is done... 😢

[@carolyn4423]

. . .so true, but once you recognize them for who they truly are, walk away & go no contact! Delete their number from your phone, delete their email, delete their birthday notification from your calendar!

[@ChelleMEis]

Sucks because we are always the ones left with the responsibility to stand strong, to get healthier, to leave. Because they won't do those things.

[@annberlin5811]

You cant yell or fawn you must ignore

[@jodiburnett6211]

Planet Of The Apes in the house! Wow. Thank you for this amazing analogy. Stop Feeding The Primates 🙏🏽🔥

[@world-uk2vj]

😂

[@LR-yu3mx]

Excellent comparison. There is coming an epidemic of narcs. I am so thankful that narcissism has become defined and explained. My whole life has been infested with narcs. narc mother, narc husband,1 narc son,

[@world-uk2vj]

Epidemic is well and truly already here,

[@bobbarker1798]

Agree 100%. Narcissism is epidemic.

[@americawaters4257]

They were already here. Now we see them. Like in "They Live".

[@loubo3285]

Best ever video I have heard on narcissists I will diffuse it for sure all over the place Thanks!

[@michaelgarrow3239]

This is what happens when masculine energy is repressed. This video is an excellent simile. I want a “Don’t Feed the Monkeys” T-shirt! 😎

[@fromfeartoflow]

I had to laugh so much about “I’m not trying to insult monkeys by comparing them to narcissistic people” 😂😂 thanks for making me laugh

[@AlabasterJar7]

The light bulb came on from listening to your analogy! This was so helpful. Now I know what I am dealing with!

[@MAM-zw5xv]

Woohoohoohoo! Well said! Although I am proud of myself for leaving the narc, I am still sicken to my stomache. You hit the nail on the head. As for the killing part, I believe I may be in danger. He is so jealous, and has a short fuse, he may even go after my male acquaintance friend who I let help me bring stuff to my mom's place, back and fourth because he is the only person with a car who offered to drive me; but my ex doesn't see it that way. If I am dead, make sure the police are looking for him; his initials are N L, he is the only person I know with those initials.

[@world-uk2vj]

You sound like a hostage

[@4seasons546]

May I suggest you make a situation report to your local police. They do not need to do anything but the report will be official and they may direct you towards some women’s support groups. Otherwise strangers here on the Internet don’t know who you are and your messages likely not to be found.

[@MikeKollin]

This same exact thing is happening in San Francisco and other major and medium size cities!! It's ruining their business's and the cities. Narcissists!

[@Jessica_Lynn3007]

No engagement of any emotional sustenance. Good or bad it doesn't matter. If you are still dancing to that tune they know they have you.

[@bobbarker1798]

So true.

[@bobbarker1798]

So true!

[@matthewbittenbender9191]

The use of monkeys in this case is a great analogy to the problem with narcissism we face today. Extreme narcissism in 2024 is really an unseen epidemic. Historically most humans did not see themselves as special, but in the last 70 years or so, beginning with pop psychology books, children are raised to believe that they were special and that they would change the world. Today social media conveys that message with lightning speed everywhere. And while older generations have always criticized younger generations for thoughts and ideas that are different, it's now exacerbated by more of a technological gap, than a social one, in both willing dependence on it and it's perceived usefulness. But the source of the problem can be the answer if they use social media to create awareness of the pervasiveness and dangers of narcissistic behavior. However, I'd caution that we need more professionals to develop the messaging because it's a complex behavior and would be rope for cancel culture abuse.

[@CarolRemen-nt8wp]

Wow, interesting. Thank you. I understand a lot more now about why he tried to kill me several times.

[@Paulohlsson7]

Hi Carol, how's your day going with you?

[@jeanettesimon7978]

Oh my gosh, this is brilliant and so funny. I died laughing.

[@seekeroftruth1484]

Seems half or most people I interact with are this way…no courtesy, generosity or empathy but they want all that from me. So over needing to have my guards up around people all the damn time so fkn annoying

[@InnerLightDimension]

We got a bad monkey problem here in Houston also…

[@prophet1782]

India too

[@connorduke4619]

Democratic politicians prowling the streets?

[@MS-xz6wz]

I am distancing myself and also using the Gray Rock Method with someone I can't completely cut out of my life. The narc freaked out and caused issues which only confirmed and validated what I've been saying about her to others. Her reaction just gave more justification for me to stay away.

[@jimarger8533]

Pretty good metaphor.

[@lookupyourredemptiondrawsn7285]

This vid puts it ALL in perfect perspective 💯💯💯

[@Ilese-xy8on]

This is pure gold 🎉

[@sovereignsister]

Hilarious. My ex's mother called him my "red haired freckled face monkey." She was way wiser than I thought. Lol.

[@Amber-b3g]

Never again !! I will never again feed a narcissist or a monkey!! Brilliant analogy Thankyou Kevin 🙏🌺💜👏👍

[@CHANDRAJEETJYOTI]

I Don't want to insult monkeys by comparering them to narcissist was the best 😂

[@susanclifford1094]

😂

[@anitaelghandor7295]

100% correct 😁

[@CoreeParis]

True. Empathy completes humanity.

[@ecysmith6652]

I twice alerted one of my sisters about other two, who keep taking advantage of her. No more; l was accused (indirectly) of being judgmental and cruel, so I leave her to carry her cross, for I, I am carrying mine after a lifetime of suffering with their abuse. My compromise nowadays is to take care of myself and not have them bleed on top of my bleeding. My life might not be easy but I will always be grateful for it; for everything…

[@CatherineWallace-cb2oh]

What an amazing insight. Thank you so much.

[@hcolli01]

Great video! I like how you broke this down into easy to understand terms using the examples of monkeys. This is a life changer for me on how to deal with narcissist's. Thanks so much!

[@LovenLacieTarot]

On point 🎯

[@timegoesby7068]

Very interesting analisys, Kevin ! Actually lot of similiarities.

[@TheEmpoweredTarget]

I'm being forced out of my home because my obsessed, narcissistic, misogynistic neighbor who thinks he owns me can't control me so he's gotten his flying monkeys to gang up on me, deface my property, slander my name, and force me out of my home of twenty years. I know the damage these monsters cause

[@davidestabrook5367]

I'm so sorry you were harmed by a narcissist neighbour. I'm having the same problem. My upstairs neighbours kicked my door, spit on my door, destroyed the raised beds in my garden, turned my garden into their ashtray, they've screamed from their balcony that they caught me recording their kids in the pool (all lies, as I don't go outside when their kids are out). They've repeatedly come on to my property, to mess with my plants, and put their stuff on my property, and they're doing a smear campaign. All of this was because I reported them, for making my hallway closet smell of petrol, from violating their tenancy agreement, by storing petrol in their storage cupboard, and for abusing their kids. I've documented everything, and am trying to get their kids rehomed, and them evicted. It's a truly stressful situation having these toxic and dangerous personalities living near you. So anyone similarly affected has my deepest sympathy.

[@Vanes218]

I Agree Kevin. 😊

[@Davis1967]

Great analogy sir! Shannon Thomas in her book Healing from Hidden Abuse... "Flying Monkeys". Taken from The wizard of Oz, like the wicked witch who sent out her monkeys to do her dirty work, so does the narcissist. Didn't realize it at the time but that's exactly what the narcissist in my family did.

[@seameology]

Recall, in The Wizard of Oz, the flying monkeys were deathly scared of the witch. And then, the cowards that they were, were happy when she was dead. There were far more of them and they could have taken her out long ago.

[@vapu-gr7dt]

this is the best video about Narcissists i seen. most easiest explanation i have seen on the entire youtube seriously!

[@ivanaskender]

Great analogy! Greetings from Croatia.

[@sharibunderson5527]

I won’t do for his supply, he gets his supply from others! Since having kids and gaining weight he’s not interested in me! I’m to the end of my rope though and making plans to leave. 😡

[@Fervid-j1e]

Great talk.

[@cms1083]

I seriously cannot get over how good this particular video is and describing how toxic these individual are I don’t even like using the individual because I don’t think they’re deserving of that! 🤦🏼‍♀️ is this possibly where the term flying monkeys came from?🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@Paulohlsson7]

What's your name my friend?

[@davidsmith7587]

this happen to me with a squirrel, I was feeding on my patio. when I stopped feeding him he tore apart a chair I had. then another day came back and tore up my screen. He was being an asshole

[@panfergan]

You don’t respect what you don’t fear.

[@douglasclerk2764]

Sadly this is true - one of the major shortcomings of humanity.

[@victoriadisalvo5308]

WOW ! What an excellent comparison and in debt clarification.

[@MarinaM-o6p]

VERY WELL SAID .

[@J.K.Steingraeber]

Monkey madness, great comparison.

[@vapu-gr7dt]

my husband wasnt contacting me 14 days - and i had a fever that times - when i conflicted him with it - that i was hurt - about he didnt contacted me during i was have a fever for 14 days. 1. he see the confrontation as a threat against him. instead of : are you okay now? did your fever got better? or " sorry i was make you feel hurt " ( which implied emphaty what narcissists dont have ) - he answered me: " you had a fever and think you had it worser than me " - literally no joke. even i was hurt that he didnt contacted me 14 days - ( he was busy and simply didnt had a time,) he would not have enough emphatie to understand that even i " say it " that i was hurt. nor... he didnt had the empathie to " feel " what it might feel like to be not contacted by the husband for 15 days in a LDR. so narcissists lack of emphatie as long the concern is about another person. thats because imagine beeing a narcissits that would mean you only think about your own feelings. how would you be able to understand how it feels like to think about another person feelings? so the moment i said i was hurt he doesnt contact me 14 days it was none of a matter at all to him.

[@americawaters4257]

I'm sorry you went through that. I hope you are well. ❤

[@billmurray5521]

My cat has more empathy than a narcissist. Are you saying narcissist have monkey brains?

[@Sophiedorian0535]

Narcissists don’t lack empathy. They abuse it.

[@kat-75]

Right a monkey is an animal with a reason to be such

[@michellawarren1715]

Yep! I've been telling myself: don't apologise to her....do not become the walking apologise.

[@Paulohlsson7]

Hi Michella, how's your day going with you?

[@gregtincher1971]

As I listen to this, I come to the stark reality that it seems you are talking about every single person in my life! They all show signs of these traits. There's no genuineness. The way everyone "acts" toward me seems so superficial, I began to wonder if that old movie the Body Snatchers had actually became reality. Please no comments! Just relating. I'm glad I'm not the only one who notices.

[@lindamitchell9394]

WOW!!!! Thank-you!

[@zgalleriutterberg8453]

Thanks Just i needed to hear to day .Family problems come upp again and again,trough this that wants to believs in the lies. Broke over 20 years ago ,but it continues trough new people

[@BeautifulMe-g4c]

😮 the synchonisity is amazing . I just commented that I saw a guy that didn't was a monkey see monkey do! I have to turn up to volume for this ! I can't wait until I put highly needed distance between me and those freaks.

[@Anna-n6t4y]

You're just a mark to them. The narcissist However, the monkeys are literally starving. They overpopulated since the lockdowns. So terrible 😢

[@Truthteller1s]

Amazing video! 💯

[@mcdee56]

Fascinating spin, Kevin! Many thanks!

[@Loris88Angels]

I'll never look at a vending machine the same. ❤️

[@susanclifford1094]

😂

[@rdewilde100]

Great vid 😂 ❤ perfect analogy!

[@JenniferBright-h2j]

Fantastic video! Excellent analogy! Thank you for this! Subbed

[@barbaragonzales5944]

What a brilliant analogy. Suddenly the whole thing opens up and starts to make sense.

[@MegDD1277]

Great example 😄💚💚

[@fazares]

Fantastic video

[@lesho8349]

Great insights and perspective. ...So much so that the scene of the swarming monkeys gave me flashbacks. 😅 Must remember: Don’t feed the monkeys!!

[@sunshinedayz2172]

This is a great comparison!👍

[@kaleidoscopesthirdeyevizions]

This feels like what I'm going through right now

[@caringforall4454]

Great advice!- I’ll be sure to keep a slingshot in my back pocket from now on…

[@alfreddaniels3817]

Very interesting. It seems you are right. 👍👍

[@OfficialAlphaOmegaMusic]

I love these videos, very intriguing you can learn so much 💯

[@Rose-y2q]

excellent!!!

[@antoniojorgelopesandrade3771]

I totally respect and appreciate your points, in this direct way let me add something; there's many ways to be generous or bring value, the share of knowledge and wisdom should be in the very front.

[@arias839]

This is amazing

[@user-dk7cv7bd7d]

😂 Fantastic video. Your best ever! And the best description of my ex boyfriend.

[@matthewbittenbender9191]

At around 12:30, the notion of police being trained in handling narcissistic abuse is absurd since 1) in the US they only get 6 to 8 weeks of training and none of that is de-escalation tactics and 2) most of them are dangerous narcissists themselves seeking power and authority over others. It's a nice thought but psych evals should try to weed these people out, but don't even factor in.

[@callmeishmaelk767]

This is a really good analogy, or I should say the science of it.

[@4seasons546]

Truth bombs 💣 Vending machine! 😂 ex husband actually came behind me put his hand on my back & pretended to wind me up saying Im winding you up to reset you to be obedient like before. At this point his idea of me being entertaining was to accept to be hit Sado Maso style bruises & all to show my submission & his grandeur. Sick F*ck ! I did not accept & we divorced.

[@mjacobs1964]

wow truly awesome. Thank you!

[@Paulohlsson7]

Hi Dawn, how's your day going with you?

[@melisentiapheiffer3034]

Thanks so much for this video. You've answered my questions! I was being punished for my generosity. I'm starving the monkeys now, yes!

[@trishgreen2892]

Excellent. 😆

[@ElisabethHausler-Loffler]

Brilliant

[@worldbridger44]

Good video 👍🙂

[@jeannettecasadejust820]

That's very interesting ! 👍🙏👍

[@coop73727]

What a thing💥✨Kevin👑sooo right ! Tanks a lot

[@Wild-Flower12]

I Wan'na Be like You (The Monkey Song) from Jungle Book movie Mind blowing

[@ShannonLang-q9i]

You're absolutely on to something here. It makes perfect sense. I always wondered why narcs all have the same exact characteristics. It seemed demonic however this makes perfect sense. I think they are under developed humans. Now how are they getting so under developed???? Do you think it has to do with love or trauma or both?

[@davidestabrook5367]

It's not just childhood trauma that causes narcissistic personality disorder to develop. I read that spoiling a child by never saying no, that's the experience of other NPD's. But in another video it said that the new understanding is that NPD is caused by a genetic defect, it passes down family lines. So that's why it's so important to not get in a relationship with one, and to not keep the pregnancy if the father has NPD.

[@arroscinpollo]

❤ this!

[@K5309]

The computer the calculator and recording doesn't lie