Mormon News Update | January 22, 2025 🛋️

[@monicacall7532]

I’m a recovering perfectionist who grew up with a hyper perfectionistic mom. (My dad was gone much of the time with work and church.) it wasn’t until my music mentor stopped me, a grown adult, from trashing myself because I made a couple of small mistakes while playing through a musical passage at my lesson told me that it hurt him to hear me be so mean to myself. Shock of ages!!! He told me that such negative self talk was extremely damaging to me in a variety of ways that he explained in detail. Nobody had ever told me that perfectionism was toxic to body, mind and soul. He cared enough to help me at every lesson and at other times during the week to help me recognize what triggered my perfectionism. Church and being around my mom were my big triggers. Learning to recognize perfectionistic thinking and consciously change my thoughts was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done. My mentor was by my side the entire time to cheer me and give me support whenever I could hear the siren song of perfectionism. I have had to do the same thing with my music students who don’t recognize how unhealthy the church’s focus on perfectionism is and to help them overcome it. Do I find myself slipping into perfectionism occasionally? Yes. Fortunately if I stop myself mid thought and do a quick inventory of my thoughts I’m able to nip it in the bud 99.99% of the time.

[@GenerallyUnquotable]

I still struggle. I did karate for a year with my kids but had so much anxiety every single time I went that I would mess up, that I eventually quit. Recently my daughter asked me to take a pole class with her and I declined because I am so afraid of messing up in front of people. It's the same reason I don't work out at the gym.

[@Jsppydays]

Excellent podcast. You speak the truth!

[@aaronsprague4828]

Yeah, nothing says “peacemaker” like threatening to sue small towns … eye roll 🙄

[@othersheep5491]

Excellent reporting. I went through the temple pre 1990 at age 19, and my first thought was to throw off that garb and run like hell. Turns out my gut and intuition were right all along. It freaked me out.

[@daviddelong7598]

same here. I was totally underwhelmed by the temple, disappointed, confused and was certain it was “my fault” i didn’t “get it”. so what did I do? easy! go more! become a temple worker, go “all in” looking for the things everyone else seem to “get”. I finally realized that nobody really got it. It’s all just The Emporers New Clothes, everyone agreeing to what nobody actually believed. It’s a complete con job.

[@drclarkelkins]

I hated going to the temple the whole time I was Mormon. After my youngest sibling got married, as I was walking out of the temple from his sealing, I said to myself, That's the last time I set foot in a temple. I was still active. It took another 4 years to realize I didn't want anything to do with anything about the church.

[@Bunchoeves]

Love your views and appreciate when you point out things the Church does with our tithing money.

[@GenerallyUnquotable]

Thank you for tuning in. I struggle with the ways the church uses tithing, it really doesn't feel like what Jesus would want.

[@Bunchoeves]

@GenerallyUnquotable I'm starting to agree with you.

[@raymondwinn6479]

Thx for your consistent output on this channel; I look forward to each one. On a completely unrelated note, I LOVE the sweater you wore for today's bit.

[@reneenolan3163]

I am so with you in your frustration with how the church uses the wealth at their disposal!!! Stop church please, just stop all this nonsense! Thanks again for your efforts to keep us informed and thinking!!!

[@ericbyers235]

May I remind all that the church leadership has made it very clear that it is not a charity. It is a corporation that has a religion as its product. Its behavior is typical for any large corporation.

[@Slammu640]

When I was a temple worker, I always wondered about the cost of the chandelier in the celestial room. I did some digging and found a very similar one being sold by Tiffany for around 80k. It felt weird to learn that

[@RIO4LIFE]

Thx for your hard work 🎉

[@GenerallyUnquotable]

Thank you so much for your support!

[@RIO4LIFE]

@ - you are very consistent- I look forward to these episodes

[@bettycrockett5]

They're going to sue aren't they? I'm ashamed of them!

[@jake8882]

So gross at the temple costs of all the super fancy. I think the leadership was absent during all the new testament scripture

[@I_Am_Monad]

I am one of those people who is creeped out by clowns and used car salesmen--and chandeliers. Glad not to be a Mormon or live at a time that the Mormon Prophet declares that there is a fourth tier to the afterlife: the Chandelierial Kingdom.

[@lisabiteme6941]

Hope you are staying warm. Crazy weather down here.

[@99blackbirds]

There are many ACTIVE mormons who do not like the LDS temple ceremony. They keep it quit.. Its all Hush hush.. I always hear from the spouse a cousin or 3rd party person.

[@hairpuppet]

Peacemaker is NOT = peacekeeping. At times hard conversations are needed to MAKE peace. It's not bad to be disagreeable and share your views.

[@GenerallyUnquotable]

These are the things I did not learn when I was mormon. I was taught that peacemaker meant acquiescing to someone else's wants. I wasn't taught boundaries or how to take care of myself. Thank you for the distinction, it's important.

[@susanmaughan968]

Hhmmn Temple delay... Do uou think its to do with Donald Trump?

[@GenerallyUnquotable]

Do they think if they wait he will somehow back them up? I don't even know. I have witnessed enough to be skeptical though that church has good intentions when it does something like this.

[@crazymema23]

chandeliers purpose is to lift your eyes to heaven

[@steveambrose2349]

You bet…I lift my eyes to heaven every time I see a woman’s mannequin nipples sticking through the thin shirt in a store front at the church’s City Creek Mall.

[@jonjahr3403]

The story about the teachers' tithing paying for extravagant items in the temple reminds me of this church propaganda video pushing kids to pay tithing. As a kid myself, I have fond memories of getting ice cream or snow cones from the ice cream truck on a summer day. Bike riding with my friends to the convenience store around the corner for drinks. Or renting movies or video games. You know, just being a kid. I couldn't have afforded any of that as a kid if I'd been required to pay tithing on my allowance or chore money. And those are fond memories for me. kzbin.info/www/bejne/ZpuXf6aujNyKhrMfeature=shared

[@GenerallyUnquotable]

I had a "piggy bank" that had three sections, one for tithing, one for savings, and one for me. The rule in my house was that I got to keep 50% of my income. Ten percent went to the church, 40% to savings and the rest to me. I babysat for $1/hour. It took a long time to save up enough to do anything.

[@jonjahr3403]

@GenerallyUnquotable A dollar an hour?

[@GenerallyUnquotable]

@@jonjahr3403 Yes. If I babysat for a rich family they would pay me $1/ hour per kid so sometimes I got $2 or $3 per hour but for most of the poor shmucks in our ward I got $1/hour. One summer I got a twice a week afternoon babysitting gig that was for two kids for $5/hour. I thought I'd hit the jackpot.

[@jonjahr3403]

@@GenerallyUnquotable Wow, my mother was a single mom, very poor, and she'd usually pay 10$ an hour. And if she took too long to get home. She'd give them some, then, and then pay the rest off as soon as possible. She's always kept her word.