Most Common Wedding Guest List Issues + How to Solve Them

[@jadedixon3641]

This is precisely why we ultimately decided to elope. I don't want any family at the wedding. Partly because there are a lot of people that I just don't like enough to have there, and others who I like but not their significant others that I can't not invite as well. Some of the friends I wanted there are friends with one of my parents or other relatives and it would be awkward for my family not to be there. I would rather not have a wedding than have to deal with the family drama so off to the courthouse we go!

[@HelenFaye16]

Hi, great video and I have a couple of concerns that I am not even sure how to address. My best friend, whom I love dearly, has invited her mom and 2 sisters to our vow renewal outdoor ceremony at our home. ( the invite was just for her and her husband).She is also bringing her dog. Ive another guest ( my husbands aunt and uncle) who are coming from out of town, who is also bringing their dog, which happens to hate other dogs. Help! I can not do anything about the out of town guest and their dog as they are coming a long way but how do I prevent my friend (who is spending the night in her RV at our place) from inviting more people and bringing her dog? We have indoor cats so dogs can not be in our home.

[@cavinelizabeth]

I think you have to be honest with her that it is an intimate vow renewal and you are limited on space and let her know as much as you love dogs, they are not a good match for your cats and you don't want them stressed out. People should not be inviting other guests to your event and it sounds like unless you politely (but clearly) tell her the invite is only for her and her husband she might try to invite more. It's uncomfortable but needs to be done. You'll be glad you did :)

[@HelenFaye16]

@@cavinelizabeth Thank you so much for your advice! I talked to my friend, politely and clearly, so there was no confusion or feeling of confrontation and she wasn't even the tiniest bit offended and even has said as much. She will not likely be spending the night unless she can get a good dog sitter, but they are still coming to our ceremony even if it is just for a few hours. I will not be taking back the invites of the 3 other people she invited but she knows we can not have any more due to the limitation of space and cost. You are so right, honesty is always the best policy to let people know where things stand. Thank you again!

[@kristyndecosta5224]

I didn’t even think about assigning someone for watching out for someone! I have a family member who can be attracted to drama (who doesn’t?!) so I might assign my sister that job!!! Poor girl... lol

[@cavinelizabeth]

Good idea! Or even the wedding planner could help with that if you have one :)

[@theyearningsoullifestylech777]

😂😂😂

[@alyssarh]

My boyfriend's best friend did this at his wedding! He asked his groomsmen to keep an eye on the troublesome family member to keep stress low. It was so helpful and I will absolutely do this at my wedding with my mother

[@brandileigh01]

I know this video is a couple years old. But I'm hoping someone sees this and can offer advice on how to deal with this person. My fiance and I are set to be married October 2, 2021. His brother is his best man. But his wife refuses to let him attend without her, knowing full well she isn't wanted there. His wife has caused many issues of contention between his family and her, and myself and her. She has even gone as far as to try to break my fiance and I up. But she won't let him (my fiance's brother attend without her for fear of missing out or him cheating again) how do I handle this. The last thing I want is to see her on my wedding day or deal with any of her antics. I already have 3 people there who will be on her like white on rice. But it doesn't change that she is a manipulative narssacist and I know she is wanting to cause problems. (She is still trying to cause problems currently)

[@cavinelizabeth]

Is it worth the brother attending if it means having to deal with her? Maybe he should bow out or be the one to decide which relationship means more to him? As an adult, he needs to handle this situation as his relationship and its problems are his responsibility and they should not be placed on you and the wedding.

[@masterwaves01]

You probably don’t want/need my advice but I’m going to give it anyways lol. Hopefully I don’t offend anyone, but girl it’s YOUR wedding. If you & your fiancé don’t want someone there, then they have no choice but to respect that. Yea they might be upset, but it’s supposed to be a happy, drama free, magical day for you and your partner! Nobody else.

[@Iamchristaelaine]

how did it turn out?

[@sharper1039]

Hello! We're having an issue with not exceeding the venue's seating capacity. We've already sent STDs and now the bride & groom have new job positions and would like to add several co-workers to the invite list. If the number is 300, is it dangerous to invite 30-40 over? I realize not everyone will attend but what if more than the venue will allow do? Any advice would be appreciated!

[@cavinelizabeth]

I would make use of a B list. Wait until you already start receiving regrets to send out a B list set of invites.

[@sharper1039]

@@cavinelizabeth Is it okay to push back the RSVP to six weeks before the wedding as opposed to the recommended four weeks to accommodate a B list?

[@justintylus4205]

What about a wedding with out of state guests? We have a whole list of out of state how do you handle that with the venue?

[@cavinelizabeth]

What specifically is your concern about them being out of state?

[@justintylus4205]

@@cavinelizabeth just on what you tell vendors I totally on guest numbers. Say for example we will probably invite 100 and 75 will come, those types of situations

[@cavinelizabeth]

Your venue/vendors will ask you for an estimate and then sometime in the final 14-30 days they will ask for your final count once your RSVPs are in and bill based off of that.