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[@tomachibald]

Cool video. My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her

[@linamoon-mi7wd]

its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back

[@tomachibald]

Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?

[@linamoon-mi7wd]

Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex

[@tomachibald]

Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive

[@FinjblTte]

What a crybaby 😂😂😂

[@fungouslobster5123]

well said, too many women my age just think they are gods gift to the earth and have impossibly high standards when they bring nothing to the table

[@vannamarie8430]

The entitlement in your comment 😂 Why would you need a woman to bring something to the table? Is there something you can not provide as a man so you need a woman to bring it to the table? My partner wound be insulted if I tried to bring something to the table. That’s an insult to his manhood.

[@krejz1078]

@@vannamarie8430 I like that even you know that you are worthless.

[@maryamadedeji24]

@@vannamarie8430 What I think men mean by what do you bring to the table is what values do you bring ,are you feminine?,supportive? and etc.Tho I would say I don't understand why people ask this question when meeting someone/talking to someone while dating. I personally think if you can't see what he/she bring's to the table or how they add to your life after talking for sometime then their is your answer because only time will tell you....words are just words.

[@rushrush1209]

@@vannamarie8430 Both men and women have to bring something to the table. You must bring something to the table, otherwise your partner wouldn't want to be with you. If a man is unemployed, has a drug/alcohol problem, is 50 pounds overweight, and is just nasty; then there's very little (if anything) he brings to the table. He will struggle a lot with women. Also if women struggle with getting men to be interested in them, then they should figure out how they can improve so they have better success (or give up entirely).

[@thisisreallyverysilly]

If you bring nothing to the table then what do I need you for?

[@Strive1324L]

I think women need to look at their motives. Once they know who they are then they can go after a real relationship.

[@pace1195]

Correct, but after they know who they really are, will these women look for a real relationship within the bracket of where they really are?

[@OneFreeMan17]

@@pace1195Nope. They’ll of course want some unrealistic “ideal” man while offering nothing to a relationship themselves.

[@Strive1324L]

@@pace1195 That depends on the person. If she's selfish, then she shouldn't want a relationship. But if she's selfless, then she's a good candidate for relationship material.

[@pace1195]

@@Strive1324L It's not a question of whether she wants a relationship. It's a question of *who* she wants that relationship with. Does she really know herself well enough to find a worthwhile man within her personal SMV area?

[@raul3494]

​@OneFreeMan17 they already do that now

[@ajtaylor8750]

It's definitely attractive when a woman is spiritually inclined, and not in the zodiac sign kind of way. When her essence is calm, warm, and inviting it says she's mature and emotionally stable.

[@pedrodacunha5290]

💯

[@Revenant2010]

It’s also attractive if she ISN’T into Zodiac bullshit

[@OneFreeMan17]

Zodiac = nonsense

[@travelingadler]

Ive found people who had some spirituality in their lives as being happier people. Psychologist are saying the same too. The interesting part about men looking for healthy women is Ive tried my best to date overweight women. They made the decision not to move forward because they found us incompatible because noway will they ever want to live my healthy lifestyle. They want an enabler for their unhealthy life.

[@OneFreeMan17]

@@travelingadler And they don’t deserve one.

[@brett6239]

As a guy I think the hobbies and languages thing is looking for someone that can entertain themselves. It gets pretty exhausting doing a constant juggling act for a person with no life. It doesn't have to be learning a language or yoga. I just want a gal that is interested in things besides work and Netflix. Some life passions.

[@Dreykopff]

Very underrated. Finding someone with shared interests would be as awesome as it gets, but it is often not realistic. The next best thing is other interests! Then you know that you're not gonna be their personality's skin until they get bored.

[@chriswhinery925]

Yes. Men value women who have a personality. These things are signs that she has one. A person, male or female, who's only interests are basic shit, might as well be an NPC. They're boring.

[@Spinny300]

I went on a date last weekend with a gal I met riding my motorcycle around and she asked what I like to do in my spare time, I responded that as a man at the age of 25 I like riding motorcycles, working on cars, cooking for fun and every other weekend I volunteer at our children's hospital to color and build Legos with the kids who can't go outside. She said the first part was pretty cool and then proceeded to say volunteering was boring and a waste of my time and how kid's are a huge no. After the date I politely told her sorry and that it wasn't going to work out. Can't fault her for not liking kids but just being rude about it was off putting.

[@maryamadedeji24]

The moral of the story is don't be rude also show gratitude and kindness.@Spinny300- I also wish you the best of luck in dating and endeavors.

[@TakeiMizu]

I agree, there is a big difference between not liking kids and not liking someone who likes to make kids happy.

[@juliea.]

Wow, you dodged a bullet there!

[@Spinny300]

@@TakeiMizu and that's all I want to do. Make some kiddos happy going through a rough time.

[@vanessagomes]

It should’ve been the opposite and she should’ve appreciated that. That’s awesome you do that! Shame on her

[@FeelHip23]

I would just say, better yourself in every aspect of your life and people will automatically be attracted to you. Prepare the garden so that the butterflies wanna live there 🤷🏽‍♂️

[@CourtneyRyan]

Amen! 🦋

[@LisaFenton-h7f]

Beautifully stated!

[@DDD11239]

So many of you pretend to be Lord Byron.

[@محمدالدوسري-ج5ي]

​@@CourtneyRyanWow, this is a very nice idea ❤❤❤

[@justingary5322]

FACTS. Women need to understand Men first before trying to get Men to do what they want with their money and lives and vice versa for Men. Men can't read minds ladies and neither can anyone else. I understand that physical conditioning and fitness is crucial for healthy living and relationships but so is having reliable family, friends knowledge and awareness of reality. Congratulations on her 700k subscribers 👏🎉. I really respect Courtney Ryan for at least trying to help Men and Women out in promoting healthy relationships, positive mindsets and growth in individuals 🙏 ❤️. I'm a 24 year old single Christian virgin guy working as a teacher and counselor seeing unhealthy relationships in people occasionally despite being single myself because no sex before marriage. I've been watching Courtney's videos since 2021 so this lady's channel is really helpful especially on KZbin and social media. This has nothing to do with the video but please listen if you want to otherwise leave it alone and ignore it. Hello my name is Justin and I'm a Christian and Apologist but I'm also a college graduate. I'm not a closed minded Theist as I have nothing against Atheists or unbelievers as I speak to them often to understand their reasons for unbelief but we as Christians are convinced of God's Existence due to many real factors). I'm not trying to convert anyone or convince anyone to become Christians as that's The Holy Spirit's job to help people believe but only explain why I believe in Jesus Christ. There's actually evidence of God's Existence in Christianity. First of all there's proof that Jesus of Nazareth existed in history since the writings of Tacitus, Josephus Flavius, Pliny the younger and other historical documents prove that He was living two thousand years ago that even scholars both religious and Atheists agree with historically speaking but not that He's The Divine Son of God because obviously they don't. I'm going to give you historical and archeological evidence for God's Existence as The Scriptures have prophecies that predate the events recorded in them by several millennia including Matthew, Hosea and Zechariah which prophesy accurately of the people of Israel becoming a nation again after over 1900 years of being scattered around the nations since the destruction of the Temple in Jerusalem in 70 A.D. spoken of by Christ in Matthew 23:29-24:3 and returning to their homeland after The Holocaust with Jerusalem as their capital in 1948 exactly as Jesus The Christ said. The prophets including Daniel spoke of the time where several world empires would arise and fall including the Babylonian kingdom, Medes and Persians, Roman Empire, and Saladin and the Muslims which went in consecutive order for the past few millennia. The people of Israel becoming a nation after The Holocaust in 1948 (ironically the melting point of gold as God compares Israel to gold that's tested in fire in Zechariah 13:8 and Jeremiah 16:15) exactly how Jesus The Christ said would happen since God us everything to come in The Scriptures and not just because people were working towards as Atheists claim which are impossible for any regular man to predict. Just before anyone says Christianity is a white man's religion made to oppress blacks during slavery you obviously aren't aware that the first Christians were Jews in The Middle East and that Christianity just like any religion can be used by evil and corrupt people to oppress others but you forget that the first Abolitionists/Civil Rights activists were Christians who sought to abolish slavery, racism, segregation, injustice and prejudice throughout American history. Jesus The Christ loves you enough not to give you what we all deserve which is God's Wrath by His Own Blood. Charles Darwin didn't originally come up with The Theory of Evolution over 200 years ago as it is mentioned in the writings of Ancient Greeks who believed in Demons that gave knowledge to philosophers. Evolution makes no sense when nothing has evolved after thousands of years of human history and supposedly the first creature came from primordial sludge several millions of years ago funny how they won't believe that God an Eternal Almighty Spirit Being created us from the Earth) which came from a supermassive expansion of matter at high temperature that inexplicably created everything in the known universe that supposedly came from nothing billions of years ago. How did the organs evolve before there were bones, skin, substance and how did any creatures see before eyes evolved? I've studied evolution and abiogenesis in the past and read Darwin's " Origin of The Species" and I'm not convinced of macro Evolutionary biology whereas I accept micro Evolution like speciation and adaptation but not macro Evolution because there's no evidence of it nor clear observable examples of it where living creatures evolve into other kinds of species plus the fact that fossils don't show evidence of evolution and genetic entropy rules out evolution. The question begs how did two genders evolve from a common ancestor with a perfectly hospitable and sustainable environment with breathable oxygen and resources to survive on inexplicably? Atheists have the burden of proof to explain how everything came to be and why our existence is possible without the Existence of God from an godless perspective just as Christians have to provide evidence of God's Existence and the validity of His Word. Evolution requires life to already exist in order to take any effect in living organisms so it doesn't account for the existence of Life and reality. Also evolution is impossible because it goes against The Law of entropy and the second Law of thermodynamics because evolution makes things better whereas nothing continues to get better but decays and turns to absolute destruction in the end. Mark Ridley an Evolutionist said "No evolutionist whether gradualist or punctuationist uses the fossil record as evidence in favor of The Theory of Darwinian Evolution as opposed to special Creation". God's Existence is made perfectly known and observable in the universe as demonstrated in His Handiwork in the intelligently designed manner that Creation was made, human consciences and consciousness historical and archaeological evidence of God's Word being valid history, fulfillment of Bible Prophecies God in His Holiness and Righteousness could give us what we deserve in Hell for our since but He's merciful to give us free will to choose to accept or reject His gift of salvation by grace through faith in His Son Jesus. I don't mean this is any condescending manner but if you'd like to discuss The Scriptures with me or have me listen to your view on anything my instagram account is Savage Christian Kombatant.

[@genericname4168]

3:48 and this, right here, is why I think so many women are single. They want this high value partner who has all these things and meets their standards but aren’t willing to back it up and become high value themselves. I blame it on the “you are the prize” mentality social media tells women. The relationship and intimate connection to another human is the prize, not a person or their body. If men wanted someone’s body, they’d pay for sex or go on Tinder

[@thenorseprincedarksavior7536]

I'm a single 31 year old man who actually only wants a woman who is kind , supportive and reasonable. I already have a decent income but I actually would rather just hang out with friends and family. Relationships don't usually work out these days for so many reasons.😢

[@michaelsix9684]

fem. programming plus college ruins lots of great young women, dating in my 30s was horrible, quit at 46, too frustrating

[@467076]

You forgot healthy. I ain’t dating no fat unhealthy girl.

[@Scarrgh]

I generally want.... 1) Average looking woman 2) Isn't mean and want to do things with me 3) Isn't picky/fussy 4) Good hygiene 5) Loyal 6) Takes my side and stands up for me That's all, basically the bare minimum

[@SharpBalisong]

That’s too much man. You gotta dial it back a little.

[@thedrogba246]

I want 1) hot girl 2) compliant girl

[@Dman425]

That is all men care about actually. Nothing else!

[@akferren1]

And now they have to be vaccine free

[@jen2318]

You want a woman who respects both you and herself, because these traits will allow her to meet the desires on your list. She will respect you if she shares your values, if your behavior reflects those values, and if you take accountability for your behavior and actions. She will respect herself if she holds herself to the same standard she holds you. I wish you the best of luck. It’s worthwhile finding these women. They do exist.

[@edprado30305]

The only thing I want from a woman is compassion and kindness, which seems rare these days...

[@stevec3526]

Physically fit and financially responsible.

[@WhoaDiie]

I’ve watched your channel for a while now. I think the thing I appreciate most about you is how level headed and objective you are.

[@jorger2020]

Courtney's right about the importance of knowing the female perspective. I have watched other channels on the same topics as hers hosted by men and it is not the same at all.

[@TheConorMLife]

Your sentence Courtney of ‘be who you want to attract’ is so spot on. The energy you give off is the energy you attract :)

[@_Safety_Third_]

Disagree. I am the kind of person I want to attract. Guess who is attracted to me. Gay men. Gay men are attracted to me. Lol 😅

[@willietarkington1628]

@@_Safety_Third_damn hahahah time to do more inner work lol jk jk

[@PappaBear_1234]

Courtney needs a funny face counter in the corner She’s made 14 funny faces in this video

[@CourtneyRyan]

😂🥰

[@hrobky]

Timestamps!!! :DD (or didn't happen)

[@stephanfelix3942]

Agreed, she makes her videos very informative and silly at the same time. Love them 😊

[@SimonB.]

She has one facial expression

[@Anth369]

I find myself making funny faces at the same time. It’s fun

[@omotayosatuyi252]

I completely agree, I think in this society we only think about what we want and how the other person can benefit me. We also never really ask questions and try to get to know the other person and only think of ourselves, which could lead to you missing out on a great person because you are in your own bubble. It's very sad

[@Snarge22]

Fit, feminine, and friendly ladies. That's a very low bar considering what you expect from men. And yes, for God's sake have something going on besides shopping! The revolving door of clothes and other items cycled out due to the need for making room for more stuff recently purchased is disturbing to many men!

[@lawrence31415]

A woman who knows another language is definitely attractive to me. My preference is due to me being fluent in English and Spanish!

[@CourtneyRyan]

Makes sense! ❤️

[@lawrence31415]

​@@CourtneyRyan I will also add that a fun way of building a connection with someone who speaks another language is to try to learn a little bit of that language! Maybe you can do a video on intercultural dating in the future?

[@KipperStudios]

I'll start by saying I've been studying Japanese for 983 days straight (Duolingo keeps count, and I've never skipped a day) so I know what it takes to learn a second language; it's a lot of effort, a lot of dedication, there's fun times and there's incredibly hard times, but it's a HUGE sign of intelligence and commitment. Someone who knows two or more languages has shown that they can handle a challenge over the long term, and it also encourages more open minded thought; language is after all merely the expression of the mind. It's not a requirement for me, but just as women find it sexy when a guy speaks a foreign language, us guys can find it charming too!

[@Ezero8]

Same, since I'm bilingual as well and prefer she knows the same 2nd language.

[@lawrence31415]

@@KipperStudios wow, that's an impressive Duolingo streak! For me, it's not necessarily a deal breaker if I date a woman who is monolingual, especially since learning any language is challenging. But a woman who is fluent in multiple languages will definitely catch my eye for the same reasons you pointed out in your comment!

[@rizennsunn]

Great post. Everything the matchmaker/tik tok lady said was pretty good. As for the language thing I see it as the men wanting someone who is more than just the typical American girl. Different/higher ethics, morals, respect, needs and wants. For the hobby, it shows that the girl is not so dependent on the man to keep her entertained and occupied. Things such as hiking, art, music, etc. I like it, not a bad woman🥰

[@MidwestBoxin]

Fuck dating apps. Meet women in person. This is the best way.

[@travelingadler]

I hate dating apps as well. To be fair though Im running into a lot of good women who will tell you if guys just approached them in public they wouldnt have that problem. Sad reality is women are also giving us a lot of goto hell looks just for trying and looking in their direction. They hate how society has crumbled like this.

[@Str4yshot]

Not disagreeing but that's a little easier said then done.

[@Drexoish]

@@travelingadler Yup, it's the hand full of women who love to abuse any man who approaches them and men who can't read signals of disinterest that ruin it for everyone...

[@divineprovidence803]

Truth. Interaction with women in person is better than any dating apps.

[@Scarrgh]

Issue with dating apps women are picky and won't even try to message so self entitled

[@kevins5498]

#5: A woman whose body isn't a billboard, covered in tattoo graffiti. #6: A woman who doesn't have horrendous vocal fry, or make every statement sound like a question. #7: A woman who doesn't have a body count higher than the Civil War. #8: A woman whose beauty doesn't come from a makeup kit or surgeon's office.

[@bob995]

#9 A woman who can spend a few days without a device in her hand, ok...maybe at least an hour

[@johnrossford7927]

Fun fact: More women than men have tattoos. I even see that overseas in the Carribbean.

[@SunnymunnyHunnybunny]

Tattoos are what I call stupidity marks.

[@markmadruga5468]

A woman who is present, comfortable and balanced enough with herself to be in the moment, without a phone in her hand.

[@odawgbrazy14]

excessive cussing is such a turn off

[@tallking7777]

Feminine, fit, good sense of humor, and personality. that type of woman is what a lot of men are looking for.

[@justingary5322]

Exactly 💯. Women need to understand Men first before trying to get Men to do what they want with their money and lives and vice versa for Men. Men can't read minds ladies and neither can anyone else. I understand that physical conditioning and fitness is crucial for healthy living and relationships but so is having reliable family, friends knowledge and awareness of reality. Congratulations on her 700k subscribers 👏🎉. I really respect Courtney Ryan for at least trying to help Men and Women out in promoting healthy relationships, positive mindsets and growth in individuals 🙏 ❤️. I'm a 24 year old single Christian virgin guy working as a teacher and counselor seeing unhealthy relationships in people occasionally despite being single myself because no sex before marriage. I've been watching Courtney's videos since 2021 so this lady's channel is really helpful especially on KZbin and social media. This has nothing to do with the video but please listen if you want to otherwise leave it alone and ignore it. Hello my name is Justin and I'm a Christian and Apologist but I'm also a college graduate. I'm not a closed minded Theist as I have nothing against Atheists or unbelievers as I speak to them often to understand their reasons for unbelief but we as Christians are convinced of God's Existence due to many real factors). I'm not trying to convert anyone or convince anyone to become Christians as that's The Holy Spirit's job to help people believe but only explain why I believe in Jesus Christ. There's actually evidence of God's Existence in Christianity. First of all there's proof that Jesus of Nazareth existed in history since the writings of Tacitus, Josephus Flavius, Pliny the younger and other historical documents prove that He was living two thousand years ago that even scholars both religious and Atheists agree with historically speaking but not that He's The Divine Son of God because obviously they don't. I'm going to give you historical and archeological evidence for God's Existence as The Scriptures have prophecies that predate the events recorded in them by several millennia including Matthew, Hosea and Zechariah which prophesy accurately of the people of Israel becoming a nation again after over 1900 years of being scattered around the nations since the destruction of the Temple in Jerusalem in 70 A.D. spoken of by Christ in Matthew 23:29-24:3 and returning to their homeland after The Holocaust with Jerusalem as their capital in 1948 exactly as Jesus The Christ said. The prophets including Daniel spoke of the time where several world empires would arise and fall including the Babylonian kingdom, Medes and Persians, Roman Empire, and Saladin and the Muslims which went in consecutive order for the past few millennia. The people of Israel becoming a nation after The Holocaust in 1948 (ironically the melting point of gold as God compares Israel to gold that's tested in fire in Zechariah 13:8 and Jeremiah 16:15) exactly how Jesus The Christ said would happen since God us everything to come in The Scriptures and not just because people were working towards as Atheists claim which are impossible for any regular man to predict. Just before anyone says Christianity is a white man's religion made to oppress blacks during slavery you obviously aren't aware that the first Christians were Jews in The Middle East and that Christianity just like any religion can be used by evil and corrupt people to oppress others but you forget that the first Abolitionists/Civil Rights activists were Christians who sought to abolish slavery, racism, segregation, injustice and prejudice throughout American history. Jesus The Christ loves you enough not to give you what we all deserve which is God's Wrath by His Own Blood. Charles Darwin didn't originally come up with The Theory of Evolution over 200 years ago as it is mentioned in the writings of Ancient Greeks who believed in Demons that gave knowledge to philosophers. Evolution makes no sense when nothing has evolved after thousands of years of human history and supposedly the first creature came from primordial sludge several millions of years ago funny how they won't believe that God an Eternal Almighty Spirit Being created us from the Earth) which came from a supermassive expansion of matter at high temperature that inexplicably created everything in the known universe that supposedly came from nothing billions of years ago. How did the organs evolve before there were bones, skin, substance and how did any creatures see before eyes evolved? I've studied evolution and abiogenesis in the past and read Darwin's " Origin of The Species" and I'm not convinced of macro Evolutionary biology whereas I accept micro Evolution like speciation and adaptation but not macro Evolution because there's no evidence of it nor clear observable examples of it where living creatures evolve into other kinds of species plus the fact that fossils don't show evidence of evolution and genetic entropy rules out evolution. The question begs how did two genders evolve from a common ancestor with a perfectly hospitable and sustainable environment with breathable oxygen and resources to survive on inexplicably? Atheists have the burden of proof to explain how everything came to be and why our existence is possible without the Existence of God from an godless perspective just as Christians have to provide evidence of God's Existence and the validity of His Word. Evolution requires life to already exist in order to take any effect in living organisms so it doesn't account for the existence of Life and reality. Also evolution is impossible because it goes against The Law of entropy and the second Law of thermodynamics because evolution makes things better whereas nothing continues to get better but decays and turns to absolute destruction in the end. Mark Ridley an Evolutionist said "No evolutionist whether gradualist or punctuationist uses the fossil record as evidence in favor of The Theory of Darwinian Evolution as opposed to special Creation". God's Existence is made perfectly known and observable in the universe as demonstrated in His Handiwork in the intelligently designed manner that Creation was made, human consciences and consciousness historical and archaeological evidence of God's Word being valid history, fulfillment of Bible Prophecies God in His Holiness and Righteousness could give us what we deserve in Hell for our since but He's merciful to give us free will to choose to accept or reject His gift of salvation by grace through faith in His Son Jesus. I don't mean this is any condescending manner but if you'd like to discuss The Scriptures with me or have me listen to your view on anything my instagram account is Savage Christian Kombatant

[@poeticeclipse]

I agree that sounds great! I would wonder if a woman said they want a masculine, fit man with a good personality and wonderful sense of humor if that bar would be too high for some men.

[@mr.wolfiepack5516]

Men have to pay and women get it for free for matchmaking. Dating apps are using men like atm/wallets for their apps and taking mens hard work money even thought is mutch more expensive for men.... no thanks.

[@Underoath1305]

Thar Tik Tok video was right on. Pretty much what i look for . Firness /yoga she takes care of herself, family priority is a given, unique hobby seems to go wit the theme she has her own life and some independence.

[@tommygunn6901]

The first few things she mentioned are dead on accurate! I'm seeing someone and we even had deep conversations about self care and making yourself top priority, among couple other things we went deep on.

[@CourtneyRyan]

Wonderful!

[@tommygunn6901]

​@@CourtneyRyanshe sure is! A gem is one way I describe her

[@Pikawarps]

6:00 i agree, but she lied for years and said she wanted kids. After almost a decade i found out she didn’t, and i wasted that much time with her

[@CourtneyRyan]

Oh gosh that’s awful. I’m so sorry

[@Swearengen1980]

Dude, almost a decade? If you're with a chick for a decade and hadn't had kids yet, that's on you. Should have known something was up by then.

[@Pikawarps]

@@Swearengen1980it was always the Soon(tm) meme, first it was ‘let’s graduate highschool first’ then ‘let’s graduate college first’ ‘let’s get settled in our careers first’ it was 3 years into that phase when i realized she had no plans to marry me. The old adage is true, the Nice Guy always finishes last. In my case i never did.

[@Tim_G_Bennett]

It's sad the amount of times I've texted a woman asking if she has any hobbies and the answer is "no". I take it they just spend their free time on a phone.

[@BagelVsDonut]

That really is the case. I was talking to two of my nieces who are in their early twenties, and they have a number of friends who spend 12+ hours every single day on their social media. That doesn't leave you any time for hobbies, let alone a normal life.

[@michaelsix9684]

either that or drinking, partying, or shopping

[@bobmoore6248]

As an old guy 65. I agree with a lot of these things. Health likes their grandchildren has good adult children is close to the same social economic status. Fun hobbies. I like to learn new things. Thirst for adventure. My woman is out there.

[@TheWinterfox10]

11:14 "be what you want to attract" is such important advice, and I think it's interesting that so many women are so resistant to listening when men express concerns about the way they act. They often respond with something along the lines of "nobody asked you." Imagine going to work for a company and marketing department's approach to getting sales was to tell their customer base to shut up and pay for whatever product they decide to sell.

[@Eegle1]

“Shopping and eating” is sport for modern women lol

[@foconnor2794]

A beatiful smile , sense of humor, the most attractive in a woman ,,,, and last forever¡¡

[@_Subaru_2024]

If you want the best, be the best.

[@SpoonHurler]

The languages thing is not just about intelligence but can be a sign of good communication. Not saying everyone who is multilingual is a great communicater but learning a new language can make you slow down a listen more. You also have probably been exposed to other cultures which may help you be more understanding. It's a very clever marker to look for honestly for so little data... that match making service sounds legit.

[@stevec3526]

It also means she is from a foreign country. My wife is Japanese.

[@SpoonHurler]

@@stevec3526 not always, I know plenty of native Korean and Japanese speakers that grew up in the states but many times you are correct and at a minimum they've traveled.

[@balazskertesz5010]

What do they mean "this is too exhausting"? Most of the things mentioned are good for you, regardless of relationships! And the same applies for men: if you have your shit together, you will not only be more attractive, but better off in all aspects. There is literally no reason not to do it.

[@CourtneyRyan]

I agree lol

[@Noirevert]

What you want/need is going to be heavily influenced by life experience. The number one thing I’m looking for is acceptance. I know I’m not perfect, but I also know what I have to offer, and I’m willing to meet someone where she is if she’ll reciprocate. Of course, no one should settle for a relationship that isn’t going to make them happy, but we could all do a better job differentiating preferences from requirements.

[@LisaFenton-h7f]

"Differentiating preferences from requirements"---important skill for both women & men.

[@generalursus4682]

Family and kids? No thanks, you're on your own with that.

[@XfiverX]

I went out with a few girls on dating apps that didn't really have hobbies or interests. I don't know if this is true, but I've been told that women don't have hobbies in the same way that men do, but at the same time this seems like a pretty big red flag to me.

[@MermanManly]

Yes to kind mature, lower drama, fit yoginis, outdoorsy types, bilingual/polyglots (I speak English and Spanish), and interesting healthy hobbies. No to having or wanting children (just my preference)

[@GJones247]

You would be surprised how little effort people put into themselves. I don't think she needed a matchmaker to tell her like 75% of the thing men are interested in. The more you require, the more you need to be. Man or woman.

[@backyardrailroader]

Sounds like a good profile to have, not b only for women but for men to have also. Multiple languages. I see the benefit.

[@divineprovidence803]

Be what you want to attract. Good advice.

[@jlaffradi1]

Everyone can and should work on themselves, single or coupled. We can always be better.

[@aaronburdon221]

I can't 100% agree with "Be what you want to attract". While I will partially agree that there is a lot of overlap in what men and women want of each other e.g. healthy habits, not crazy, etc etc. Males seek their opposites in a lot of ways to fill in their skill gaps. A good example is that a feminine women does tend to show more empathy than the average male so that trait is extremely attractive because it can be passed on to any potential children. You want your skills and traits to mesh so that your children are well-rounded and if you are what you want to attract, you'll end up with 2 copies of the same thing.

[@3VJohnny]

This is so true. Example: Guys who are handy pair so well to a woman who likes to be creative. She helps with the vision around the house, and together you can make it a reality. You create a strong team that way

[@diskonnekt1313]

Sure, but stop spreading the myth that women are more empathetic. They're not. A man would more readily help a hurt/strange woman than a woman would readily help a hurt/strange man. And women are proud of this notion too! Hivemind mentality.

[@bryangofficiel]

Your voice is calm and the information well spoken , I can’t wait to hear from your French !

[@stuartdamon3610]

Respect, gentle, supportive, fun, fit, intelligent, giving, appreciative.

[@spencer_jackson542]

I like a woman who compliments me and asks me out. I don’t mind doing that, but it’s a real turn on when a woman makes the first move.

[@MrMelonMan96]

So many red flags with that girl tell us more about the crazy things you did while single for years 😂

[@abkeener81]

Hi, Courtney! Andrew Keener here. I mostly agree. Yes. I want my future wife to take care of herself (i.e. exercise and eat right). But yoga isn't necessary. The same with speaking multiple languages. Hobbies a a bonus. But I mainly want to know that I won't be the center of her life at that point. I also want her to dress for the occasion. And when the occasion warrants dressing up ... wear nylon pantyhose (a massive turn on for me). Also I want to cook, clean, and workout with my partner. But the lady in that tick tock was otherwise spot on. I'm glad she was open to receiving and using the advice she was given. As far as getting the perspective of the opposite sex ... I've found it quite helpful for the same reason you cited. I oftentimes ask my Momma or sister-in-law (more often my Momma) for style advice. Mainly in terms of clothing choices (color mainly). I think that I learned somewhere that ladies see more shades of colors that guys do.

[@charlesrobitaille9360]

Happy dathers day to all good fathers out there ! Good father's should be praised and supported in these times ! Well I'll get back to my dock and go for a Kayake in the beautiful Lachloche Moutains in peace

[@MJSStyle-wg2ei]

This is another great video, Courtney. It's also refreshing because you did not have a sponsor's product to promote this time. You just felt the need to help.

[@moviefan7308]

Fellow Ohioan here ! We love Courtney

[@CourtneyRyan]

Aww yay!

[@AnnatarCarvour]

Heeeyyy Columbus O-H here 😅

[@Satire_Filmz]

Only in Ohio

[@AdrianH-vl3ux]

I used to date very attractive shallow women. Most of the time it brought lots of drama into my life. Now my partner is mature & caring. She is much smarter than me & I’m pretty smart. I love to teach when I can & I love to learn. Best relationship I’ve ever been in. I’m blessed

[@MsLotusBlooms]

Yes, you are!

[@LatimusChadimus]

Women will do millions of things to stay single and won't do just a few small things to better themselves so that they have better opportunities for better choices

[@CourtneyRyan]

🫠😵‍💫

[@PalettePrincess97]

You just don’t know the game these “men” are playing lololol I’m dying 😂 men are visual creatures and too many women are seeking external validation that men just don’t care who they commit too. They will actually never commit. If you’re married too, you’re just easy to control, the best ones are single. P.S. ALL married women get cheated on 😉 that’s what dating apps are for is to be discreet 😊

[@pharkle35]

Touche`. Seeing a woman in gym working out, doing Yoga ( I used to be a Yoga Instructor) and having photography as hobby, enjoying some kind of self defense skill, reading books about some people who changed the course of history, understanding the inner workings of Power Structure of nation's leadership, military affairs, Law Enforcement affairs, some kind of analyst, multi-lingual (I speak three languages) all these things in woman are super sexy and attractive. As this woman said, "Average run of the mill bitch doesn't make the cut anymore". Stay average and you will stay single ladies. There is something to be said about traveling with your partner in business class or first class in airline or luxury cruise, resorts or just travel the world. I can tell from my experience, this world is a wonderful place, so awesome. ☺😀😀

[@LatimusChadimus]

@@pharkle35 yeah I have to laugh because a lot of these single women will claim that they are queens even though that doesn't make sense because the only way to be a queen is to be married to a king, these women just don't want to admit that they are commoners (I normally use common basic bishhes)

[@LatimusChadimus]

@@pharkle35 also, yoga isn't a training protocol, and what women do nowadays in this country is not what yoga was designed to teach although it does give them some endorphins so I guess it's still a positive

[@alfonsohenry9542]

I'm not interested in having kids or being with a single mother. Some people may say that I'm limiting myself because I'm not open to being with a single mother but that's just what I want.

[@maryamadedeji24]

Change your circle ,your not limiting yourself if you don't mind me asking, Are you a Man or women ?I just going based of the profile pIc

[@alfonsohenry9542]

@@maryamadedeji24 I’m a guy

[@maryamadedeji24]

@@alfonsohenry9542 oh I thought you were a woman, so you just want a life partner, that will be a challenge but it's attainable

[@alfonsohenry9542]

@@maryamadedeji24 No I still want to get married

[@maryamadedeji24]

@@alfonsohenry9542 I understand that you want to get married and not have kids with the woman you choose , but It will be harder to find a attractive woman that doesn't want kids,It's not impossible but its a smaller pool of women.

[@Rzr543]

Relationships today are very transactional and temporary. It’s rare to encounter genuine compatibility, chemistry and connection which are absolutely necessary to form and maintain a healthy, happy and fulfilling relationship.

[@genericname4168]

Generational narcissism is too real. So many people are looking for what they can be given and feel like they’re owed, few care about giving

[@The-Wizard-Of-Aus]

I love your perspective Courtney and it is easy to see how you found yourself a high value man. Keep rocking that top 0.2% woman that you are and kudos to you, love your work.

[@John_in_Oakland]

These are all good things to know and be! The language thing is a good one. It doesn’t need to be multiple languages but it shows a good measure of intellectual grit and resilience; same with hobbies - for gosh sake, you wouldn’t take up something to please another person, it would be something that expresses who you are or triggers a personal trait or interest. These both make a person a unique individual. Everybody likes that!! 🏆🎉✌️🍕

[@Morte_Deus]

Everyone would be single forever if we were honest in what we were looking for in a partner. So there is expectations vs reality and are we settling? Or do we look beyond the physical to see someone for who they really are? Be confident in who you are, strive to be the best you can for yourself without trying to impress anyone and live and experience life. If someone comes along to share that with you, you will know it.

[@Matt_is_a_Boring_Name]

Thanks for the video. Something to note: the initial list has a lot of particular expectations and requirements, and I think it's a pretty intense list that would require a woman/person to have a decent net worth and privilege to achieve in full. However, you talked about the "why" behind some of these things and I think can be difficult sometimes for anyone of us to *show* what's important to us, and it can be hard to *see* what's important to others without practical indicators. Taking care of your body can look sooooo different for everyone, so to expect a woman to do yoga or a man to do crossfit, isn't really helpful for anyone *unless* you recognized that you're not "just" looking for someone who takes care of their body but you're really looking for 1) someone who shows they take care of their body, 2) someone who has a decent bit of expendable time and income, and 3) someone who has the ability in all sorts of ways to perform those particular types of activities. There's more of course, but I think when we make lists of what we are looking for in a partner, we need to think about all of the whys behind our wants AND what sort of assumptions we're making about a person AND if we could reasonably do all of our wants ourselves AND if we're thinking too much about what attracts us *to* a person versus what makes a person a good, dependable, trustworthy, fun, and kind life-long partner. Thanks again for your video, I always appreciate what you talk about and your kind and thoughtful opinions!

[@Matt_is_a_Boring_Name]

I'm so sorry for the lengthy sentences.

[@thewildernesshiker-howtose4438]

We need each others perspective. Taking care of onself is essential.

[@djacobmadrigal]

Shopping is not a hobbie: it’s materialistic. Trying a new restaurant is not a hobbie. Learning a language, a musical instrument, playing board games, etc. wow. 🤦

[@dang75790]

How about learning to cook 😂

[@6packproductions710]

And this will never change

[@RS-xo7rd]

Isn't it amazing that the men had to pay and the women got in free. Patriarchal, then.

[@_Safety_Third_]

Amazing?? I'd be surprised if it was any other way.

[@fakadaapada]

naturally she did not address that in any way

[@garrissonwebb1207]

I did a questionnaire on what kind of partner would be the best fit for me, and the result was an artsy creative girl. Which as I think about it, that totally reflects me. I’m into crafting, I work in a kitchen cabinetry manufacturer, I’m always getting creative in the kitchen and love adult coloring books. They were options that pointed to a “boss babe” type of girl or maybe a “family oriented” girl, but yeah. To the woman who commented that this is exhausting and rather be single… yeah, I don’t why or where “know multiple languages” came from but I don’t expect you to know another language if I don’t either.

[@LinkinVerbz44]

Am I the only one who's pissed that ONLY men have to pay out the ass for this matchmaking service? It's blatant sexism and should be illegal. Once again, misandry is not only accepted but encouraged.

[@CourtneyRyan]

This is how a lot of dating apps work too. It’s messed up

[@urgamecshk]

Supply and demand....

[@kinnymonster]

If she's happily in a relationship why is she still on TikTok? She can say "It's to help women" all she wants but what she's really doin is lookin for attention, shopping around. That dude should run.

[@CourtneyRyan]

I don’t think that’s true! I post on KZbin and I’m married 😂 not looking for attention, just trying to help!

[@kinnymonster]

@@CourtneyRyan KZbin is a different culture than TikTok, IG, etc

[@charliedontsurf334]

I’ve always asked my mother and sisters to get a female perspective. Just be aware, they are often going to be biased toward you as their family member if asking about a specific situation and there were things the I filtered out on certain situations that when my now wife looked back on, I didn’t realize. Thanks for all you do Courtney. I’m glad you have a husband. You deserve a good one. God bless.

[@aleidius192]

Be fit, be interesting, and want kids seems like almost universally good dating advice.

[@CourtneyRyan]

Yeah not bad 😂

[@Swearengen1980]

Except 75%-80% of Americans are between overweight and morbidly obese.

[@DDD11239]

Not everyone desires to reproduce. It would drastically alter my life, and not for the better.

[@Swearengen1980]

@@DDD11239 And that's very much the minority of men and a large part of that is because they're scared of child support one day.

[@moufou4life]

@@DDD11239totally agree with you, I want to have a kids but it’s weird to say to women they need to want kids

[@AlexFinston]

When asking woman what do you like to do for fun I am always very disappointed if shopping is the first thing that come up.

[@xerr0n]

yeah that is not a hobby

[@LisaFenton-h7f]

"Watching sports" would be many women's equivalent for guys answer to "What do you like to do for fun?"

[@Dreykopff]

@@LisaFenton-h7f What's "play video games" then?

[@diskonnekt1313]

When I hear this, all I hear is "when we get together, I'm spending all your hard earned money on stupid crap we don't need."

[@almacli8360]

I’m 39 and I’m looking for a women who doesn’t take “play hard to get “ to the next level ⭐️ Im single by choice with no kids I’m loyal - respectful-caring -have integrity- compassionate etc… Nobody smiles nowadays everyone looks miserable I smile :) I’ve been thru ups and downs in life I fight the fight and made it - and all these girls I see are so wrapped up in there phones or what someone else is doing .. I mind my business because nowadays people I feel don’t know how to communicate thank god I have morals and know what I can offer someone 🙏🏼💯 Great channel Courtney 😊

[@-KorruptionOfLight-]

See, with hobbies, we have plenty. But that puts me in communion with other men

[@real-ishstraighttruthnocha1687]

I think that I'm taking time for myself to figure out if I can trust women. I've had some of the worst dates, and relationships. Even my female friends have told me to stop dating for a while from my stories. I'll take stock of how I feel after my Bday.

[@mbrady2329]

"To hold yourself to the standards that you hold a romantic partner to." - this!

[@12martin12rojas]

Im in mexico and the amount of great women you meet is crazy. So knowing English and being passionate about something is a huge plus when all want to meet a guy and have kids

[@davidduff9871]

You always have a unique angle.

[@ronm6585]

Good info, thank you.

[@victorremdt8520]

I run into a lot of women that prefers to be single and dismiss me. That is why I am leaning toward giving up on a relationship as a divorced man in his mid 60s.

[@ponokunishima1]

I think it’s good to get perspectives from both genders. With me being the only boy of three, I like to hear feedback from male coaches and guys who’ve dated before. Also, since my other two siblings are girls, my sisters are much older than I am and they’ve been in many relationships and married before, I also like to hear from female coaches of the “now” and girls who’ve recently dated. Yes, I do get feedback from my sisters, they haven’t really been out there “today” and times have changed and they’re in a very different time period. For example, most girls out there nowadays don’t mind kissing or having s** on the first date, or some girls like guys who groom and manscape and take care of their skin, etc. So, I like to listen to coaches of the other gender as well.

[@austinzizzi1142]

Yes, most modern women have never asked themselves what men want

[@stevec3526]

No, they are in an echo chamber of their own making.

[@tamarhope2767]

It HARD will both side are lazy.They have a personality that is difficult.❤

[@gastronomist]

Looking for a woman who does yoga and knows multiple languages sounds exhausting. I'd rather stay single.

[@chadstevens6605]

You just need to know how to find them.

[@rushrush1209]

The first part should be pretty easy, the second part will be more difficult.

[@charlottewicks]

What a strange comment. Don't go for that then? Or settle? Or find someone on your level? 😅

[@omotayosatuyi252]

@@chadstevens6605I think he is trying to make a joke

[@stevec3526]

My wife speaks Japanese and she was a foreign exchange student.

[@MH15501]

I''m not sure about the multiple language part, but having your own interesting life with some hobbies is definitely a must. A lot of women have only watching Netflix or shopping as ''hobbies'', and that is just really boring. You won't always be able to (and shouldn't anyways) do things together as a couple. I'ts good to have some things going in your life you do yourself or with a hobby club/friends. A little time spent away from your partner makes the moments you are together alot more fun and a better relationship.

[@genevieveharakidas7054]

Agree and very helpful!

[@mattxgill]

The “well traveled” thing lowkey scares me. By all means if I had the ability of course I’d also be “well traveled”, but can the average single dude afford to just travel the world on a whim? Let alone if she’s already done it, it might be an expectation on her part, which I can’t keep up with.

[@xerr0n]

"well traveled" was more like "well used" for me, that's the thing that lowkey scares us. and no this is not what men are looking for in a woman, thusly not what was meant in multilingual.

[@Ezero8]

I rather save up money and travel the world WITH my future partner than have her been to 20+ countries already.

[@mbrady2329]

How very Murican of you! 🤣

[@highlanderknight]

​​@@mbrady2329Well geez, if you are say, a European, you can hop in a car, drive, and visit multiple countries in half a day. Some people don't realize how large the USA is. I mean, isn't the state of Texas by itself larger than Germany or close to it?

[@Bracarensis]

You're online so you can easily contact with other cultures which is the bare minimum in a cultured person.

[@Pazuzu82]

Get the translator language app then you don't need to learn any languages! The only thing that im looking for in a woman is love and then if we bond great then we takes things one step at a time.

[@brianthesnail3815]

Not sure about yoga and multiple languages. That said, my sons speak multiple languages and it has never been in their criteria for a woman. They meet a lot of multilingual women who are from a certain kind of European wealthy family background that have no real nationality and multiple homes in multiple countries but expect a man to pay for their life. Fit and takes care of themselves OK but I suspect that this 'high end' matchmaker might be attracting a certain kind of high paying men.

[@brunomadeira8432]

As a man I find the yoga thing a bit weird (but OK, whatever sport or wellness activity is nice), the language thing puzzling (don't get me wrong, it's nice, but not necessarily a requirement) and the hobby thing also a bit weird (it does serve the purpose of sorting out the shopping/spending obsessed crowd). The most important thing is be nice and pleasent to be around. There are women that for some reason just induce tranquility and kindness into you and that is super attractive. The opposite (drama and confrontation) is of course very off putting.

[@cur244]

I find the hobby thing really important. I was with a woman who had zero hobbies that didn't involve a screen and of course hated any exercise. All people need some sort of hobby other than watching a screen or shopping.

[@brunomadeira8432]

@@cur244 That is a fair point. Any way to sort out empty people is important.

[@shnickityshnoo3574]

@@cur244 Definitely agree. Hobbies can show creativity, passion, drive, talent, and character. If all you do is eat, sleep, shop, gossip, and look at social media all day that is rather unattractive.

[@booyaaka]

Trust me the hobby thing is going to be of big importance. Once you get past the superficial attraction, you will soon find a woman with no hobbies to be dull as a doorknob.

[@cur244]

@@booyaaka Exactly! A woman obsessed with sitting is a massive turnoff for me. I'm talking the kind that can sit and watch Netflix for 8 hours a day and see no problem with it day after day. Everyone needs some sort of hobby that involves movement.

[@oponomo]

I want a family: me and my wife, that's it. No kids, but the couple HAS to be a family not just 2 strangers ready to bounce in a moment notice.

[@Sara-jd4gi]

I think it is also very important to check if someone recreates in a similar way to you - otherwise that person will seem "boring" to you. This is something you hear alot from women and its because they never select for someone who actually enjoys similar recreational activities. Now, I am not saying that you have to like all the same activities- because you can help share joy, but your recreational habits should be a Venn diagram I think. In my case, I would enjoy a partner who could dance. In our country/culture, everybody enjoys some form of dance at social occasions such as weddings or friday nights out together. I also think dancing with someone helps you to see (for the woman) , if you would be prepared to follow his lead. For me, I can test his leadership skill an passion on the dancefloor, as well as his manners. I can also overcome my own shyness and insecurities on the floor, so its the best way for me to engage in a non-business fashion. Dancing for me is also a way to reduce stress and improve connection, together. One obstacle: meeting hetero men who dance is like finding needles in a haystack, when I am not in my own country. At home in my country, its not difficult at all. I wonder if y'all could guess which country I am from?

[@billybigelow411]

Valuable video- a young single co-worker told me he is looking for a woman who can “Cook, Clean and Conceive”.

[@dang75790]

Good luck 😂😂

[@billybigelow411]

Thanks- I told him of your good wishes. He is dating girls in Maine now, though said he may need to break out his Passport to get a wife.

[@oliverpetroski4205]

Knowing several languages (I'm not English native) opens more possibilities to me. But I also get to meet more women with super crazy unrealistic standards as well. The latest few I met, crazy beyond belief, they dont do bs like that even in movies let alone in real life, but those think its ok to do it or to ask it. But I refuse to play stupid games, because play stupid games-win stupid prizes.

[@reubenz1480]

Yes at least most of those traits are desireable. From that list, perhaps the language one can be removed, but the rest are spot on. Healthy, family oriented and a person with inner goals and healthy hobbies is super attractive.

[@dontokoi30]

"Body positivity" was always a scientifically dishonest lie that was full-on losercope. Also have some interests besides reality TV and true crime. For men, have some interests besides video games.

[@Hayhoestudios]

Women want a guy who works in finance. Trust Fund. 6'5." Blue eyes.

[@CourtneyRyan]

I forgot the trust fund part 😂

[@Hayhoestudios]

@@CourtneyRyan 😆😆 My question is, if they work in finance, why do they need a trust fund? Like they're a trust fund baby that also has money and works in finance? Make it make sense

[@OneFreeMan17]

While they themselves offer nothing.

[@albundy7794]

"I'm a bank teller." "Ryan told me to always tell women you work in finance." -Michael Scott

[@Hayhoestudios]

@@albundy7794 😆

[@5150pop]

It always amazes me that these women expect the high quality man yet bring nothing but drama and baggage to a relationship……at best what they are wanting in a man are the guys they friend zoned

[@israels98]

Idk why but Courtney saying high-strung and very ‘woo-woo’ made me laugh 😂😂

[@katemiller7874]

The yoga cracked me up. She has to be flexible for the right things.

[@lanamuir9352]

I thought the exact same thing. What if she is a gymnast? Even better. Or contortionist?

[@MrTweej]

​@@lanamuir9352 ballerinas & figure skaters as well. Think about it.

[@svetlanadreher7190]

And she can also speak another language in process *insert scrubs clip about German 😂

[@PedramV]

As someone who speaks three languages (working on 4th), I'd love to be with someone who speaks more than one language. That's an excellent opportunity to learn another language or get better at one I already know. Plus, potential kids will be multi-lingual too. That makes women who speak multiple languages more attractive to me automatically.

[@dang75790]

Congratulations. We don't care

[@PedramV]

@@dang75790 who hurt you? No one asked for your opinion.

[@woodbridgesfinest1904]

Id like her to be kind, funny, vulnerable, accountable,a good listener, a good conversationalist, a believer in Jesus and into me.

[@pavelgolubenko7978]

You touched on kids, made me think about marriage and everything involved. How do women view a prenup? As a divorcé I’m strongly leaning towards a prenup if I ever marry again. Thanks