Marriage Be Hard Podcast | Beleaf & Yvette Henry

[@natoyam4113]

I identify with Yvette. I too need time to think through a point. And don't over explain to me because I'm not dumb. I will absolutely sit down and write a letter and it will be all of the feelings that I can't effectively communicate verbally.

[@aWholeJas]

This is so me!

[@WovenPsalm]

Also I. A slow, long, cautious thinker on important topics.

[@Love_intentionally_]

I miss The Love Hour. Melissa single handedly helped me with the way I react to things and that definitely helped my marriage. If Melissa said went to school and I’m a therapist now I’d give her all of my pennines. Lol I miss it but not enough to want it if it hurts y’all marriage. I just watch the other things y’all do and find gems there cause Marriage Be Hard. These episodes have been amazing.

[@KamikazeSP06]

I absolutely love this. ME and my wife watched for a while but LIFE STARTED LIFE-ING (as it tends to). But we said we were gonna go back and rewatch

[@latashalewis873]

Same

[@tierramonique]

I love the vulnerability and transparency from Yvette and Beleaf. This book promo series is the closest you're going to get to the rebirth of The Love Hour. It's The Love Hour 2.0: Marriage Be Hard, The Interviews .

[@kellimccallum7595]

Absolutely! It's fantastic.

[@rilyb4033]

Yes this series is amazing 😍

[@awardtour93]

Glen and Yvette went straight into #HowMarriedAreYou mode 🤣🤣🤣🤣. There is some real stuff in this convo though. And you can tell that therapy has helped them a lot in how they communicate with each other, even though they continue to openly work on it.

[@princesspheto2001]

Glen and Yvette are such intentional communicators. I love that ❤️

[@nakeshabwala5222]

Sooooo excited about this!!!! Love Yvette & Glenn!

[@herspecsTV]

I am Yvette in regard to writing and expressing myself clearly. I so get that. Each spouse has to understand that communication, clear communication might be different for each.

[@fdoctor79]

A lot of folks listen to respond as oppose to listening to understand. Thus an effective communicator is a great listener.

[@firesign4297]

My Grandfather🙏🏿❤️ Always Stated ... "LISTENING!....IS ...The BEST....Part Of... Communication" 🙏🏿👍🏿👍🏿🙏🏿😊

[@TheCSPretty]

Real talk, real relationship 💯 ❤❤👏🏾👏🏾

[@feliciafoxworth1]

Marriage Be Hard needs to be a regular thing and let's put some regular folks on it too. Like my husband and I. 😆

[@doubletroublephillycheeses1395]

Would love to see a couple that not only has been married 20 plus years but has also went through the second change and got through the hardness of menopause and the change that men go through as well. If you have please inform I would love to see it

[@monicahill6708]

Ah ha!!!!!!!!!! This is the one!!!! This is AMAZING!!! THIS IS THE BEST MODEL OF COMMUNICATION!!! THANKS FOR transparency and honesty!!

[@thereeltbell3289]

This was a very warm and intimate conversation and I loved every moment.

[@lc476]

I loved The Love Hour it truly changed my life.

[@TruBeautiMe]

That man did not say struggle Melissa 🤣

[@canbethelight]

Awww… I love this couple too!!! Their children are sooo adorable! 😆😆💕🙌🏾

[@samsungbackup3619]

Yvette just seems completely overpowered in the relationship

[@avaholloway32]

Are you saying she IS overpowered by him or is she the one that's overpowering him?

[@samsungbackup3619]

@@avaholloway32 she is overpowered by him.

[@RashekaO]

I’m not ready! My 2 fav fams.❤🙌🏾 It don’t get no better.

[@onespaceatatime7771]

How do you determine as a spouse when it’s a YOU problem vs it’s a spouse contributed problem?

[@vandalynmcclary5481]

Liss you be preaching momma

[@Yapah.S.Da.K.O.S]

👍🏾⬆️all the way down the column!!

[@angelaharrison569]

I really loved this one! It reminded me of the love hour🥹💗

[@kg7439]

As a mom that NEVER expected to be a single Mom to a young beautiful brown young man, (He's 16 yrs old now) God has revealed certain things to me....1st thing: God has an agenda for this child, and his father on Earth can not give the boy what The Living God has for him, which keeps him out of the child's life. When you understand that GOD trusted you with His children but they belong to Him at the end of day.... #💯

[@dsgbgirl8326]

I wish those would have been in person

[@thessysasa]

Me too

[@chaunceywilliams4584]

Yeah me too. I feel the energy would have been better

[@its_CherVon]

The volume is so low, is it just me

[@lovelytia1]

Loved this conversation! ❤

[@carolynlong8701]

Praying for both couples ❤🙏🏾😊

[@firesign4297]

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[@selinadeloach6680]

I’m so enjoying this content 😀

[@samanthadixon8433]

Loved This ❤️

[@tamaramichelle4326]

I don’t think Kev wants to do the TB&TB either … but I wish Melissa would just do the Love Hour by herself and bring Kev in on a occasion! There are enough specialist Liss could have to avoid doing it completely by herself which I think she doesn’t want to do.

[@avaholloway32]

I think she said she got tired of #TLH bc she's already talked about ALL the things & interviewed ALL the guest & needed to do something more fulfilling

[@nunayodangbizness8403]

Kev has said he doesn't mind TBTB he is over married at first sight

[@aleasia34]

Agree, & I'm sure she's thought of these suggestions. Probably just not what she wants to do and we have to accept it.

[@tamaramichelle4326]

@@aleasia34 we’re just adding our thoughts since they brought it up .., that’s it nothing to accept or deny 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@lady4real75]

I love this series 😁

[@djames765]

Super dope episode ❤

[@needa5000]

Lord you are talking ALOT cousin Kev. 😂

[@annesther726]

He was trying to keep himself awake lolol

[@needa5000]

@@annesther726 oh I know. Everytime he wasn't talking them eyes were looking real heavy. It's their voices. Yvette and Beleaf have such soothing voices they need an ASMR segment on their podcast.

[@annesther726]

@@needa5000 😂😂 true

[@THIAH23]

Love Yvette and beleaf❤️❤️❤️

[@IdaAJ]

lol @16:03 Melissa right, he said it weird...but we got it :)

[@ryanarline3678]

The collab we needed

[@broderickcamel1701]

man i cant stand being cut off in making my point.

[@justryan1676]

gotta catch this...Im a big fan of "Beleaf in Fatherhood". they are awesome... why isnt Yvette wearing a head wrap though😄

[@firesign4297]

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[@carmelitaallen8502]

I have gone through and read comments on this video and would offer to those who had comments about Glenn and Yvette to go and watch their podcasts. These guys actually have great energy and tackle some very difficult topics in real time. I'd also offer you guys to consider that Kev's energy is also different with this couple than the previous couples because in this instance Kev and Melissa are where this couple has to go. They are the mentor couple. In this space they are teaching versus learning from more experienced couples.

[@briannaspeezy4258]

Good assessment…This is the fourth episode I’ve watched and I do notice it doesn’t have the same vibe. Your comment makes a lot of sense. Thank you..

[@carmelitaallen8502]

@@briannaspeezy4258,you're welcome! I follow both couples and I love Glenn and Yvette. They really show what marriage is in real life, and they work through tough seasons in their life right in front of us. It's not always going to be roses. But they love and respect each other, and their kids are hilarious! Lol.

[@gt7923a]

Y’all should commission Glenn to make a “marriage be hard “rap for the book! I love when he periodically makes themed verses for his videos!

[@ShesPhenom]

Yesss!

[@Mel_o1234]

OMG! This is going to be so good, it’s great to see this collaboration

[@brittanyfigaro]

This was great conversations. I love both of y’all’s platforms and Patreons. When kev said introduce yourself, all I heard was “My name Beleaf this is Yvette we’ve been married 12 years…” Wedding Party/Stage Krew

[@AdayaAmore]

Beleaf and Yvette DEFINITELY argued big time before this and it shows that…Marriage Be Hard🤷🏾‍♀️

[@dataodokpa5431]

They definitely seemed like they were arguing at some point

[@ItsBrittany.]

Hahaha facts

[@ItsBrittany.]

He didnt need to start off saying she was late either

[@flo-dd5sw]

@@ItsBrittany. we keep saying people are fake and don't show the real, but when they do, you go into full narc mode trying to control how something is said or what...

[@thebossdawghomie]

I haven't finished listening yet but I appreciate this conversation. So often I hear couples talking in interviews sounding like and Olympic volleyball team, one person sets it up, then the next spikes, and they score every round. This sounds like a conversation between 4 different people, in 2 couples, having misunderstandings, making mistakes, but giving each other enough grace to forgive them (maybe reluctantly lol), appreciating the good in each other, and moving forward together.

[@Nonbeliever592]

I agree this was the realest one to me

[@vc9732]

love this series. Beleaf and Yvette are inspirational because of their transparency!🥰 And they have the cutest brown children ever!!!!! What's Your Name!!!!! 😂😂😂😂

[@latashalewis873]

Absolutely

[@gloriawilliams2566]

It’s important to compliment or let your partner know what they’re doing right vs always criticizing or asking them to make an adjustment. Bottom line, growth hurts so try to make it as smooth as possible on your mate. Always show GRACE! 🙏🏾

[@ladye7757]

This was good…a little cringy in some parts but HEY…that’s marriage it be hard and cringy at times 😂❤

[@SHERIDANSDAVIS]

Definitely lol

[@Majisty]

Not just me ok

[@heatherrushing5506]

Nah they are pretty cringy. I can’t quite put my finger on it. But I’m tuned in

[@jameciamurray9733]

Yeah ionnn know bout them. Is it a such thing as too hard? Yvette not being comfortable with her words I get being cautious but that has to be stressfullll

[@charmainenicole]

I think that Yvette might not always be fully comfortable on camera and it might come across as cringey.

[@SHERIDANSDAVIS]

When you “let things go” until you blow up, that’s called passive aggression. Chiiiiiile, I have learned to stop doing that🥴

[@maryluvsmusic9298]

I’m doing my best to stop this behavior 😮. This can be toxic!

[@tairayshelle0814]

Kev is struggling to keep his eyes open 😂😂

[@samsungbackup3619]

Cause the other couple brings no energy

[@avaholloway32]

@@samsungbackup3619 This is the only interview that I hadn't clicked to get notified bc I normally watch at work & didn't want to be asleep.

[@vandalynmcclary5481]

Always Lol love you Kev ❤️ Condolences on the untimely loss of your brother

[@KamikazeSP06]

@@avaholloway32 HAHAHAH!!!

[@EvolvingMama_]

Literally just finished their latest podcast! Ahhh I can’t wait for this 😍👏🏾🙌🏾❤️‍🔥

[@bejaylagrone4084]

My wife and I are going through a very interesting season in our lives. This series has been a blessing for us especially this episode.

[@mdoctor41]

😬 Maybe it's just me, but sometimes this couple sucks the oxygen out of the room... more so Beleaf...

[@beegulbeegul4239]

With all of they’re children too…I see why a 3 week sabbatical is needed

[@nicoles4257]

Kev's sermon about communicating with kindness really blessed me. 🙌

[@hishandmaiden718]

This was an honest, vulnerable and stimulating conversation that was thoroughly insightful and provided so many gems of wisdom. I'm grateful to both couples for sharing their heart in such a transparent way. I left this discourse learning more about myself and am challenged to be a more effective, fluid and accommodating communicator. This was awesome!

[@larettawilliams5295]

Nah Liss was on it. We understood but she wasnt wrong. Kev said, "I have a bad habit of communicating cleary"

[@aWholeJas]

Not gonna lie, I love both couples... this felt like Beleaf and Yvette need to talk out these thoughts with a therapist more. Gives me enneagram 9(Yvette) to an 8(Beleaf) And those relationships can be hard. One walking on egg shells (indirect, careful conversation) the other stomping through them (direct, defensive, focused on how they want things specific). Beleaf buffering Yvettes thoughts or her consistently apologizing for possibly saying something wrong can lead someone to spazz out.

[@chefdeena]

ohhhhhhhh snap!!! I love love LOVE this couple!!!!🥳🥳 I JUST started following them last week and already binged all their videos!!!! I love uncle baby's antics, Uriah, Theo and Anaya have their hands FULL 🤣🤣🤣 I LOVE ALL THOSE BABIES 🥰🥰🥰🥰

[@shadeenah8791]

When Kevin and Melissa talk to belief and Yvette I can tell that belief and Yvette are soaking in the wisdom like sponges. And Melissa is something like a sage. I love to hear her speak. I always learn so much.

[@heyaja9978]

Good people are not found, they are flourished 😮😮😮😮😮 Beleaf be spittinnnnnnnn💛💛💛💛

[@chandran.8486]

OMG!!!!! MY TWO FAVORITES! Oh I love this conversation. These sessions get even better, especially for me and my fiancé and I who are getting married in 13 days 🥰😍😍😍🥰😍😍😍😍

[@ladytaylor4299]

Congratulations and I wish y'all the best 💐

[@Nonbeliever592]

Congrats 🎉

[@firesign4297]

T.D.Jakes 🙏🏿 once stated....."If Your Just waiting For The Person's LIPS too stop moving.... So YOU Can Get YOUR Point Across... Then...YOUR...NOT! Listening!... So We MUST ALWAYS be aware of THAT happening while...Communicating👍🏿👍🏿

[@ejefferson7554]

Melissa states in every episode that she is clear what she is going to say and Kev looks scared.

[@t.m.1243]

This is probably my favoriteist (I know it’s not a Webster dictionary word) but it is by far my most relatable episode. Their transparency, vulnerability, lack of pretension, honesty, is very very comforting and inspiring. These are the episodes we need about the real issues of marriage and two becoming one. Thank you Yvette and Beleaf!

[@fnibbs4161]

I aint gone hold you. If I wasn’t married, listening to this couple would scare me. They’re so intense and don’t seem happy

[@sammijo125]

Seems like they are going through something. He appears too intense and she, too low key. Like they are working really hard to mesh their personalities and communication styles together.

[@Sweetslimy]

Hmmm 1 hour of a small glimpse of their lives and they "seem" unhappy...you know them so well in 1 hour....hmmm

[@Cat410]

Their content clearly shows they are the way they are and that's perfectly fine. Two different personalities learning about life and marriage while raising 4 whole kids. Glenn is more expressive and outward thinking. Yvette processes everything internally. They could've argued or something happened with the kids before the interview but that's life and like the title of the Fredericks' book, marriage be hard! I'm glad they are actually talking about the hard stuff and having the conversations rather than not talking about them and allowing things to build under the rug.

[@fnibbs4161]

@@Sweetslimy Hence the word “seem”

[@belindatumwine358]

Well you "seem" judgemental...

[@kayberry7618]

Honesty without kindness is harsh and mean. Kindness without honesty is just lies! Find a nice way to communicate the truth 🔥🔥🔥 I love this point and I feel like it broke through what had taken a dark turn in the conversation.

[@thewandascott]

Another great video! On another note, I want Melissa's entire wardrobe.

[@tierramonique]

Regarding the Love Hour.....Low key 🔑.. Melissa intelligently expresses" I Said what I Said, you need help go back and watch the episodes, the truth remains the truth, unapologetically like the Word of God."

[@coratalks2u708]

This collaboration was fire! I'll be listening to Marriage Be Hard on Audible 🙂

[@thewandascott]

Whew Chile I would be exhausted if I had to watch every word I had to say with my husband. I would expect him to be more flexible.

[@miyahantoinette3734]

The openness and honesty was so refreshing and made this episode for me. Your transparency is not our right, but God do we appreciate it when you bless us with the privilege of hearing it. Thank you for the insight when you choose to give it. And when you choose not to give it, we will get over it and find our own business to mind. 🥰

[@missj9879]

May we get a quarterly HMAY/ Love Hour mashup podcast? Please? The people love all y’all!

[@deb1920]

We just heard the man say he didn't like doing the Love Hour. Lol.

[@missj9879]

@@deb1920 I know. That’s why I said quarterly. Lol!

[@sarahnyhan]

So excited for this series!

[@Meshiapatrice]

Lis never answered the question about the misconception. She just went to preaching

[@NomthiMoc]

OMG THIS COLLAB ! 😭😭😭❤

[@ajordan1847]

Such great advice for relationships. Though I'm not married🗣, "Yet." I need to listen to this over and over again. The communication style type, I adjust based on the audience. In real time, I want people to read my mind or connect the dots. Some areas of growth opportunities for me are to slow down, pause and clarify, which are my biggest takeaways.

[@Tolaqha]

15:50 Lis was right, I was also like there’s a word missing 😀

[@porqpai7082]

Listening is an active skill and sport. And I realize so very many people are NOT talented in this naturally the older I get.

[@onespaceatatime7771]

Good morning! Yvette, how did you get over or pivot from the expectations of what you though marriage would be and what you expected glen to fulfill for you as a souse? Same question for Melissa as well. Thanks for your time!

[@GodsMusician9784]

YO!! I don't know why they stopped the podcast either!! And I'm not even married!! I still need the nuggets!! But I understand it was alot...Lis, we appreciate you. Kev, we appreciate you too...but Lis tho. LOL, thank you both.

[@vocalygiftd]

I gasped!! 😱🥹I love Glenn, Yvette & their family! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾great content

[@KamikazeSP06]

Its funny that I scrolled back to see if Melissa was right about Kev being clear about "communicating thoughts clearly." Melissa was right.

[@foodchronicleswitht4286]

OMG Kev and Glen are both bald. I just noticed lol

[@tashafloyd]

Man, when Kev told the reason behind ending The Love Hour, it made me think Yvette and Beleaf are going through that same thing with HMAY!

[@leejoy104]

What was the real reason behind the Love Hour ending & what is HMAY? Thanks

[@tashafloyd]

@@leejoy104 HMAY is how married are you. The couple on this episode are the hosts of that show. Kev didn’t want to do the love hour anymore. He did it for Melissa to be a good husband and such but he wasn’t into it after they had been doing it for a while. He talks about it around 52 minutes

[@herspecsTV]

Chiiiiiile , what Melissa said starting around the 7th minute. 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@tashafloyd]

The thoughts around 55minutes about telling your spouse what you want in a nice way is everything!! ❤❤

[@Rashaadthegr8]

Both that part of communication is key because people read things the way they want to not the way the author intended. Furthermore, I also realize when it comes to hard conversations no matter how you say it people will get offended if they want to get offended.

[@JamieJEdwards]

I love whenever the Henry’s and the Fredricks have convos and share them with us 🥰

[@KatrinaTheArtist]

They have done it before?

[@fruit032]

Lol I'm like Kev 🤣🤣 my poor husband ahahahah. I struggle to communicate my thoughts correctly

[@joyhobbs5083]

The most precious discussion.

[@sshorter728]

Great episode with two of my favorite families. Thank you all for you vulnerability and transparency. This truly is an eye opener to the nuances of communication!!

[@TamiaPeach]

I can’t believe I missed this a year ago!!! I was thinking it would be so great, then saw this! ❤❤❤

[@shaddo1798]

Melissa was preaching round 8:35 and the church wasn’t giving what it was supposed to give 🤣🤣❤️.

[@JSTheBestt1]

This was so reassuring and inspiring! Thank you so much for sharing!

[@AJ-gd1ww]

WOW love this conversation so much. These are a study in healthy marriages and how you work it. This is the work and love of marriage. Thank you all for sharing.

[@firesign4297]

👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿🥰🙏🏿❤️🙏🏿🥰GREAT!! Conversation😊👍🏿👍🏿❤️

[@SOI-wl2lo]

Glen and Yvette’s mics!!! 😍😍😍😍❤️

[@HelloMsSongbird]

1. Kev is sleep. 2. This conversation about communication is very nuanced and complicated. You all are doing a fair job navigating it.

[@avaholloway32]

It's hard to be upbeat with a low energy couple bc just listening got me at work big sleepy

[@RichmamaTy]

Kev isn’t sleep…he’s trying to stay married.😂