'MUASI OYO ABALA TE AZA NA VALUER TE' | MONEY ISSUES IN RELATIONSHIPS | SEASON 4 - EPISODE 1

Solola Bien Real Talk Season 4 Episode 1 Solola Bien Returns
In this episode, the Panellists engage in a conversation regarding MONEY ISSUES IN RELATIONSHIPS
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[@congoleseyouthnetworkc.y.n1803]

More than 10 million dead, 500,000 women raped and still silence. Between April and July 1994, the Democratic Republic of Congo (DRC), formerly Zaire, was invaded by an influx of Rwandan refugees and since then it has been constantly attacked and looted by troops from Rwanda and Uganda. What is happening in Congo where the deaths are now counted over 10 million and the rapes in the hundreds of thousands. Since 1994 theres been a witnessing of the masked invasion of the Congo (DRC) by militias and troops of Paul Kagame, the Rwandan head of state initially supported by the Clinton administration and then by France in Nicholas Sarkozy. Based on testimonies and documents from the CIA, the archives of the White House, the Elysée and the European Union. The United States trained this man (Kagame) without faith or law, to serve their interests in the DRC, the Central African Republic, Congo-Brazzaville, and other Central African states where the war between the West, China and Russia is fierce for the control of strategic mineral resources. Insatiable predators carve the DRC and plunder its wealth. Research shows programmed extermination of local populations when several heads of state in the region and a European ambassador have already been assassinated. Above all, the killing of the DRC is organized by using terror and lies in order to seize essential minerals for the world industry of armaments, mobile telephony and transition energy (EV battery)

[@hana7650]

Hello why u don’t put traduction ? That’s annoying 😢

[@efyadjanie9155]

pls English subtitles

[@esther2027]

Not everyone is called to be married . There’s no commandment in the Bible saying you must be married. Jesus already died for us on the cross and that alone makes us valuable human beings. So no men or women don’t need each other to be valuable… however, I believe the right partner brings a plus to your life meaning some doors, opportunities, blessings will only open through your partner

[@mervine5373]

I wish somebody on the panel had said this

[@julienbongo1300]

Amen !

[@Gold12097]

One thing I realize single women who cnt find a husband always have this kind of sentence 😭🤦🏾‍♀️ God said it not good for a man to be alone I will make him a helpmeet what is it telling you.. dat marriage is something valuable… also he said go and multiple who can you multiply if you are not married … stop speaking with your own mind but according what said in the Bible that blasphemy the word of God sis ….

[@esther2027]

@@Gold12097 who says I’m not married ? There’s no where in my comment did I say marriage is not valuable. I never even mentioned marriage . Is a newborn not valuable ? Is a 15 year old not valuable ? is a 35 year old unmarried adult not valuable ? Yes they are but they are not married so how does the “if you don’t have a man you have no value make sense”? I simply said you don’t need to have a man or woman to be valuable and I was speaking from both genders not just women. Unmarried or married we are all valuable people!

[@Gold12097]

@@esther2027 sis we can’t not add things dat God told us to do if we didn’t need each other God he will have leave Adam in garden alone with no woman … so bc he find it it was good dat a man shouldn’t be alone he created a woman for Adam … mean what we need each other more than anything only black women don’t understand dat … bc marriage helps to build community for u to destroy a nation u have to destroy first marriage dat what white man did during slavery ….

[@alexandramalobia9460]

Nissy Tee is a great mediator for solola bien

[@beckythenatural332]

That bobette is the kind of bitter aunty that everyone hates cause they don’t value themselves and spend most of their time to make others feel the same way. It’s so sad to see that this kind mentality still existing, like it’s 2023 keep up. Be free.

[@missi_kalo]

Really 😅😅😅😅 that a good one. I will use this for my review

[@beckythenatural332]

@@missi_kalono hate tho, just saying. It would be nice with aunties that have progressive mindset. Keep doing you tho but just know that you are worthy just for being alive❤️

[@missi_kalo]

@@beckythenatural332 no worries

[@saritalabombe]

Vraiment I totally agree with you!! It's sad in 2023

[@valanddidzchannel4837]

Tresor Image this season has evolved and now using more wisdom. Bravo

[@this_is_vavak1705]

Marriage is a partnership! Leadership isn’t about how much one is earning, it’s about who the buck stops with! Husbands and wives should carry each other and work towards a common goal/ vision, while still being lead by the head of the house, a.k.a the husband 😍🙏🏾

[@congoleseyouthnetworkc.y.n1803]

More than 10 million dead, 500,000 women raped and still silence. Between April and July 1994, the Democratic Republic of Congo (DRC), formerly Zaire, was invaded by an influx of Rwandan refugees and since then it has been constantly attacked and looted by troops from Rwanda and Uganda. What is happening in Congo where the deaths are now counted over 10 million and the rapes in the hundreds of thousands. Since 1994 theres been a witnessing of the masked invasion of the Congo (DRC) by militias and troops of Paul Kagame, the Rwandan head of state initially supported by the Clinton administration and then by France in Nicholas Sarkozy. Based on testimonies and documents from the CIA, the archives of the White House, the Elysée and the European Union. The United States trained this man (Kagame) without faith or law, to serve their interests in the DRC, the Central African Republic, Congo-Brazzaville, and other Central African states where the war between the West, China and Russia is fierce for the control of strategic mineral resources. Insatiable predators carve the DRC and plunder its wealth. Research shows programmed extermination of local populations when several heads of state in the region and a European ambassador have already been assassinated. Above all, the killing of the DRC is organized by using terror and lies in order to seize essential minerals for the world industry of armaments, mobile telephony and transition energy (EV battery)

[@ayohsagoe4844]

❤

[@Call_me_ikuma]

So you want to lead me whilst expecting me to also still help you provide? Yes we should carry each other but that doesn't include finances. I will carry you with support moral, respect etc. That way u can lead like the man u r

[@this_is_vavak1705]

@@Call_me_ikuma Totally Agree with you! Nowhere did I mention that a wife carrying their husband needs to be financial. She carries him by making a home for their family, by providing advice, by being the shoulder he can cry on or be vulnerable on, by encouraging him when the going gets tough, etc.

[@krystellkas6043]

The Bobette girl needs to be silenced, what she's saying is very dangerous. I 100% agree with everyone else, and I'm happy to see the Tresor Image has evolved from his old thoughts. This is a win ! Carolina said what I was thinking, she's very intelligent and this is what we need on the show. Love Gladys and Dymond as always.

[@sxxxxrr]

A woman’s value comes from God not from men.

[@Gold12097]

🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️ how from God … a men valuable is when he follows God a woman valuable is when she’s married … if you are single just say dat😭

[@Maelya-77]

Je me suis reconnue dans le fait que je me suis sentie obligée de descendre mes exigences pour trouver quelqu’un mais ça n’a pas fonctionné car il avait un complexe d’infériorité ma carrière de cadre a été ruinée il m’a laissé au chômage avec un enfant au final la relation n’a même pas tenue il s’est marié avec l’opposé de moi tandis qu’il me rabaissait constamment pour me faire perdre confiance en moi c’était plutôt qu’il me communiquait ses propres insécurités il avait besoin de me diminuer pour se sentir au dessus au lieu de m’encourager pour que l’on forme une équipe il me voyait plutôt comme une adversaire. J’en tire une leçon je partage : Ne jamais descendre ses exigences patiente plusieurs années s’il le faut pour avoir ce que tu mérites

[@dejavu1107]

CONCLUSION: As a Man do your BEST. If your best is 30K/year that’s fine and if your best is 100K/year that’s also fine. And if you’re a Christian remember that the Bible says WIFE submit to your husband and HUSBAND love your wife. FINANCE helps but doesn’t define your relationship. Don’t let yourself deceive by the material spirit of this world. Thank you Solola Bien, émission kitoko j’ai beaucoup apprécié. Que Dieu vous bénisse 🙏🏽

[@margaritachristou6636]

Deja titre wana ezongisi communauté congolaise 100 en arrière 💀🤣🤣

[@kaliopi879]

Personnellement c'est la mentalité africaine qu'il faut changer Dans plusieurs familles congolaises les hommes attendent que leurs sœurs ou mères aillent travailler pour leur donner de l'argent, les nourrir, les habiller, comment est-ce que cette personne pourra s'occuper d'une autre personne? C'est parce que ses parents ne lui ont pas appris à comment chercher, ni à comment travailler pour subvenir à leurs propres besoins. Alors comment pourront-ils s'occuper d'une femme ou d'un enfant? Et puis quand toi une mère tu mets dans la tête de ton enfant: "MA FILLE SI TU NE TE MARIES PAS TU N'AS AUCUNE VALEUR" Toi même la maman tu ne valorise pas ta fille, comment est-ce qu'elle aura confiance elle pour se valoriser et comment est-ce que son mari va la valoriser ? En grandissant on nous dit toujours si tu veux qu'on te respecte il faut d'abord se respecter soi même, it's the same, love yourself, value yourself and respect yourself so that others do so.

[@Nicolemoss_]

Well done to Nissy, she done such a great job meditating, kept everyone calm and gave everyone a chance to speak 👍🏾

[@jordank1998]

Being married is NOT what makes a person more valuable. That's the most absurd thing I've ever heard!

[@Gold12097]

If wasn’t valuable God will not said this in Hebrew 13:4 …. stop saying things u Dnt have the understanding or knowledge or wisdom

[@missi_kalo]

​@Gold12097 thank you. Something God has created they think has less value then men made values. Its sad

[@beatriceengo1664]

Reading comprehension is very important. Marriage is valuable yes, it’s an institution that God created. HOWEVER, not being married does not make an individual worthless as Bobette stated. The value of a human that God created in his own image, is not dependent on their marital status. Some people can make the choice to not marry and still live a fruitful life, Eg. apostle Paul who wrote many books in the Bible that you are quoting, he chose to not marry and concentrate on the work of God. That does not mean that he was not a valuable human being. There’s a nuance.

[@missi_kalo]

​@beatriceengo1664 sorry I didn't say it make u worthless, if you choose not to marry u need to live a celibacy lifestyle if not your giving your values out for free, meaning you are not showing your body value when u fornicate so if u live that lifestyle u can lose value in God eyes. They are two values in life, society values and God values, so u choose which one is important to u. If u can lose value in society for example once rich and now poor living in the street, it means how u live your life u can also lose value in God eyes. Like I said marriage is a option but to live without marriage means protecting your values if not u are fornicating. U choose if u believe what the bible tell us about marriage and where sex should be perform. Like the Bible says someone who has sex outside marriage they become one, like if u sleep with prostitute, u beome like one . 1 Corinthians 6:16 . tell me if the bible say that about sex outside marriage is it considering that a prostitute has value in God eyes. I was talking people who want to have sex but not married and okay with it. Like I said in my example two besties are happy to move in together and get sperms to have babies, they don't consider marriage anymore at the same time not living a celibacy lifestyle.

[@Gold12097]

@@beatriceengo1664 woman can’t live without a man our existence in this world was made to be in help meet for a man … Paul stay celibate bc so he can do the work of God … I’m guaranteed you no one would wanna stay single for the rest of her life bc it not in our nature sis … yeah u may think it fun for 5 years 10 , 15 years u feel lonely and miserable bc women need a man protection … just go back to marriage is valuable things for a woman specially … and a woman doesn’t have value according to the Bible if she’s not married ….

[@mimikimia4149]

Sœur Bobette boza na raison, ba rebelles balingi ko yoka vérité te 🙄 Y'all should better study the word of God properly!

[@anne-emilieyama2212]

I do understand that not everyone fits within the bracket, Karolina’ proposition is not unrealistic. My little brother who is 25 years old is a cyber security engineer who after tax is making taking home around £4000 a month . As black men a Congolese brother , I am forever proud of brilliant steps he takes within his career . As Tresor said nothing is impossible to those who believe , work towards it and I like to add include God into their every move . There’s people without a HE degree on very great salary in the UK this include our black men as well as Congolese brother’s so it’s not a La La land exception Just because you don’t see a way doesn’t mean it’s not doable .

[@kwameopoku3576]

That’s really gd if ur bro congrats to him cos i kno in this London it aint easy

[@anne-emilieyama2212]

@@kwameopoku3576 His not based in London and I am sure if he was based in London his salary could be slightly higher than Manchester. As we are talking a lot the salary bracket the cost of living isn’t really something we need to mix up , I understand that London is expensive, but like I said Karolina’ expectations isn’t impossible there’s black guys making that figure they do exist in the UK

[@queen_Sifa]

J’ai vraiment aimée votre talk show et les gens qui y ont fait partie! Malgré la différence d’état d’esprits et de visions, ça se voit que tous font bien les choses et restent fidèles à eux mêmes. J’espère que vous irez tous loins avec son sans partenaire 🙌🏾 and be y’all happy 🥰

[@RDCFemmes]

Si ca me rend sans values, j'accepte d'etre sans values et heureuse. 🎉🎉🎉

[@DakaraiDada]

I'm so happy that the show is back. I loved the panel. It's no new topics but it's nice to see yall back. On the other hand, I don't like this set up. I preferred when yall were sitted on the other sofas.

[@eliemavungu9291]

Being a wife or husband is a state of mind , it doesn’t relate to anything material People !!!😅… rich people divorce , poor people too …

[@imanilukinda]

Can't wait to watch this with my mom in the afternoon coz I just can't watch it alone 😩❤

[@thierryduru8695]

I agree with supporting the gifts that your woman has, I saw that with my Dad and my beloved Mum (Who passed away last year). My Dad was blamed as he was letting my Mum do her business and travelled all around the world. We were raised like that and the reason why that happened is that my Dad was ahead compared to his generation's mindset. We need to follow our intuition and conduct our marriage the way that all the benefits stay in the family (Love, growth, improvement, joy, success etc.).

[@DawnkN]

It was too short damnnnn A man and a woman are partners , they are made to complete each other, no matter how much you gain at work, You are PARTNERS in everything first of all.❤ Peace

[@missi_kalo]

It's nice to know you enjoyed it 😅😅 I thought u girls was going to kill me

[@DawnkN]

@missi_kalo no not at all, everybody is free to have his/her own opinions , kimya eza , it was a nice show, entertaining always Hope that ba mikolo ba landi ango e permettre bango ba Kanissa pe ba changé mentality muke

[@DeboraOfGod]

Bonjour , il serait intéressant de mettre des sous titres pour les personnes qui ne comprennent pas forcément l’anglais! C’est dommage car J’ai des amis qui sont intéressée par l’émission mais l’anglais les poses problème surtout qu’il n’y a pas de sous titre. Sinon bon courage à vous 😊

[@naomieb9961]

Trésor and Dymund !!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@berthyna_]

I agreed with Tresor for once lmaoo. Great episode guys !! ❤ and I guess Karoline might just be my new favorite lol

[@mimilabelle9896]

LIBALA PONA EWUMELA NZAMBE LIBOSO☝️MOBALI LINGA MUASI NAYO❤ MUASI TOSA MOBALI❤LES RESPECT, LA PATIENCE, LES SECRET LA PAIX LA JOIE….LIBALA EZA BIEN GOÛT BISO BASI NDE TOBOTAKA BANGO NZAMBE APESA BISO MAYELE YAKO LEKA BANGO MIBALI ❤BOBETTE 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽❤

[@Call_me_ikuma]

Dyumd is giving me pick me. Vibes She definitely pays the bills in her house. That's okay but don't beat another women up for wanting different

[@mikan6032]

😂😂😂😂 thank you I wont Pay any bill! Provider or dead☺️

[@christinefilleamaman8514]

Pas forcement😏

[@kwameopoku3576]

Shes always been like that she even paid my car fine when i decale fir her

[@ndayantumba3954]

Gladys okosi there is always a leader

[@lekeeman576]

I believe healthy relationships should always begin at the spiritual and intellectual levels: the levels of purpose, motivation, interests, dreams and personality. Money is what we use to get by in life and if you begin with money you’re bound to fail one day should things change.

[@thelazychef5187]

Bobette’s reflection is confusing 😢

[@TotongaCongoTV]

Marriage is not for everyone

[@missi_kalo]

That true but God bless all us to be married but its how u carry your life and what values means to u to get married. Marriage is 💯 a choice but is blessing for all

[@this_is_vavak1705]

When Gladys spoke French 😭🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@congoleseyouthnetworkc.y.n1803]

More than 10 million dead, 500,000 women raped and still silence. Between April and July 1994, the Democratic Republic of Congo (DRC), formerly Zaire, was invaded by an influx of Rwandan refugees and since then it has been constantly attacked and looted by troops from Rwanda and Uganda. What is happening in Congo where the deaths are now counted over 10 million and the rapes in the hundreds of thousands. Since 1994 theres been a witnessing of the masked invasion of the Congo (DRC) by militias and troops of Paul Kagame, the Rwandan head of state initially supported by the Clinton administration and then by France in Nicholas Sarkozy. Based on testimonies and documents from the CIA, the archives of the White House, the Elysée and the European Union. The United States trained this man (Kagame) without faith or law, to serve their interests in the DRC, the Central African Republic, Congo-Brazzaville, and other Central African states where the war between the West, China and Russia is fierce for the control of strategic mineral resources. Insatiable predators carve the DRC and plunder its wealth. Research shows programmed extermination of local populations when several heads of state in the region and a European ambassador have already been assassinated. Above all, the killing of the DRC is organized by using terror and lies in order to seize essential minerals for the world industry of armaments, mobile telephony and transition energy (EV battery)

[@user-em4hd5td4l]

The thing is if u found a good man with a vision it’s a blessing but there’s a lot of man out there with no visions coming to suffocate a woman vision what I’m trying to say here like Gladys said u can have a vision in a middle of marriage and you know if we really go with that vision it’s will bring something consistent unfortunately there’s a lot of wicked man out there who can be very jealous about his own wife because he knows that is not a man.

[@delgirl22]

Quel raisonnement my goodness😗! Le mariage n'est pas une fin en soi,mama! I agree that a woman needs a man,but not only for marriage but for her pleasure! L'homme reste le chef de la famille; donc meme si je gagne plus que lui,je connais ma place. Unluckily,ya beaucoup de femmes,lorsqu'elles gagnent plus que leurs hommes,elles deviennent hautaines,prennent des grands airs: redescendez sur terre! L'argent change les gens!

[@elizabethtukala6538]

Welcome back every one I'm very happy to see ya Francko thanks to God 🎉🎉

[@maybe_bi8204]

Hahah dymond I love her so much everything she say is the truth. Ahhh this generation lazyyyyyyyyy.

[@maramedinno3988]

Season 4 it's giving ! Thank u solola bien TV, Can we all stop all things we're doing and observ yaTrésor's glow up in mindset for thé first time I agree with his sayings. Every one's opinion is interesting. Thank u all.😊

[@erikaluamba6016]

OUUUFFFF CAROLINAAA 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🔥🔥💯💯💯👏🏾 she won the show !!!

[@youseland1881]

Wow wow!! what an amazing topic! I wish I were a part of this conversation. There was too much confusion regarding Leadership, vision, gifts, and what the audience interpreted as value. I believe the first thing people need to understand is marriage is more than a partnership. In fact, it is a sacred institution that is governed by biblical principles. For the sake of mass education, it would have been beneficial if you had at least one subject matter expert or experienced married couples to address the concern.

[@paulinaklm]

The host Nissy Tee is did a great job. Please be next time a bit harder to the panelist, who don’t let other people finish. But chapeau she did a great job 👏🏽👏🏽

[@vitamine47]

ba anglais eza ebele il faut mua français na lingala comme avant

[@VanessaViolet55]

Bako sala traduction français t'inquiète yaya

[@user-jn9mz5fx6h]

Nous aimons énormément cette émission Seulement je pense que solola bien s’adresse beaucoup plus à la communauté congolaise d’où même le titre en lingala Et nous sommes un peu bloqué quand à chaque fois vous parler en anglais nous on comprend pas l’anglais et du coup ça devient inintéressant pour nous. J’espère que vous prendrez en compte

[@mimilabelle9896]

Bobette you are we’ll raise your mum tell you the truth of life to raise children’s it took 2 peoples Man and Women libala eza important na congolese ❤👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@naomim9954]

During history class the most important thing they teach is TIMELINE!!!. You can’t bring old value’s in this modern time ,its not going to work. You have to realise that in the past almost every woman got married. There was arranged mariage for those without a fiance. The elder will watch your behaviour to see with who you fit the best. So alot of this couples were compatible, one of the reason why there was less divorce.

[@Yolitham]

Personnellement je penses que non, ce n'est pas parce que la femme gagnes plus que l’homme perds sa valeurs dans le foyer ( mariage ) . Pour moi , La valeur d'une personne ne dépend pas de son revenu. Dans un foyer, Il est vrai que L’homme est le chef et la femme est considéré comme « aide semblable ». Et je penses Le respect mutuel et l'égalité sont importants dans une relation, peu importe qui gagne plus d’argent, même si la femme gagnes plus l homme garde sa place de chef , and karolina is right a good leader est celui qui travaille avec ses coéquipiers, et non celui qui ne donnes que des ordres. « team work makes the dream work »

[@LordLeo01]

this is why I'am gonna tell all my brothers out there , go look for a job be the provider there is no 50-50 in a marriage and also man and woman are not the same

[@mimilabelle9896]

What Bobette say is true kobala na kobota eza important na community na BISO tresor bien dit 💪🏾👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽🇨🇩🇨🇩🇨🇩☝️☝️☝️🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥👍👍👍

[@jijimboyo9528]

Il ne manque plus que le jumeau de notre Trésor,Dédé.un duo terrible que j’aimme bcp,et son absence se sent.

[@missi_kalo]

A.K. Bobette here, your panellist Single ladies don't kill me oooo. Im still your sister 😊😅 Own value + God value Our aunties back in the days. Career + marriage = value is only marriage, no career value 2023 society - career + marriage = Value is career /lifestyle less marriage values Missikalo opinion- career + marriage = career/marriage- overall value become one. I never said you should not have your own values to bring to your marriage, I want you to have values to add to your partner. Its become a problem when society pushes one value more then the other. Nowadays girls are even asking where in the bible marriage is value lool marriage that save u from fornicating, open careers, bless u with a family and bring christ in your union. All of these are possible if you value marriage enough to pick Wisley. Marriage is no rush, no age, but it needs to be valued to be achieved correctly so you don't end up in a toxic marriage. My review for this episode is out on my channel

[@horschiday9449]

Well said Sis

[@missi_kalo]

​@horschiday9449 thank you. They are calling me toxic and bitter 😅😅😅

[@chez_etoile]

I think when sharing such opinions and views you have to be very personal and state that. You generalised all the women and stood on it. Ones value is not co-dependent to your attachement to a male figure. Your made it seem as though women are frickle. Why not rather say that it is advisable for women to be married so as to avoid them so many unnecessary problems that come with being single and then attach your views of men going out there to fend for their families.

[@chez_etoile]

This is you looking down a whole gender- because like Tresor said: marriage is God willing - why not seek God first and ask for direction concerning you getting to marriage since it is HIS WILL for us to get married and multiply.

[@missi_kalo]

Thanks for the advice, lool when i drop a bomb, i just want it to trigger 😅😅 but seriously I know marriage is decision for both gender to make, its not God decision but God can represent ppl in your lives to chose wisely. I just think our society has targeted women the most to be independent and forget about marriage to the point where marriage is no longer value. I think what God has created like marriage has more value than man made, but it takes both men and women to come together and create their marriage values. I just think the devil is attacking us woman the most to destroy marriage like he did to Eve to introduce sin to world, to completely destroy marriage, as we woman are stronger minded people, full of love, very ambition and woman follow christ teaching more then man, if you should look at churches, it full of woman not man. It tells you we are very powerful beings.Because we also want to do better and live righteous. The devil is threatened by women. What I said was what our grandmother said to get woman to marry more and keep woman marriage, yes it was toxic cause many woman stayed in toxic relationships that why they were less Divorce but it worked for good as well as many woman values marriage enough to considered it as an achievement and stayed in healthy relationship. Alots of girls are writing to me saying that marriage doesn't add value. it's just a status. For devil to completely destroy something of God creation he goes through us woman like he did to Eve, telling her the fruit was not evil and will not kill her to get her to eat it and she believed it. Why didn't he go to Adam but went to Eve instead. I think sometimes in life we miss the bigger picture. That why our society is full of toxic relationships ,divorce is soo high and singleness is its most high for both man and woman, when we have soo much knowledge on marriage and can identify red flags but still not enough to identify a healthy relationships. That why there is a saying, the person that holds a marriage is a woman not man.I understand u, girl. Good advice, and I have learned from u. ❤

[@mimilabelle9896]

As African marriages is very important in ours families and eza equilibres ya makasi ❤👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@ladysay9175]

Bobette preach!! 🎉 Sending you love, you not going to be everyone’s cup of tea but stick to your truth! So glad to see everyone doing good! Great show 😅.

[@ozrtcongortnc7525]

tell me about

[@lyndhaallyketie3693]

In all it was one of your best shows so far; intellectually challenging and eye opening. Bravo to All 👏🏿👏🏿

[@simutotila2881]

Pp Tresor olobi kitoko makasi 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@gloriamuhasa5358]

Lelo penza ya Trésor 5 stars 🎉🎉🎉

[@lyndhaallyketie3693]

35:30 Naaaah ya Trésor your mentality in this episode was top notch 😍👏🏿👏🏿

[@kingyaya8879]

This show puts me off ever dating a Congolese woman...

[@kilendyabakajikalonji9684]

Please add subtitles for non-Lingala speakers

[@deee2222]

Frrrr like I was struggling 😂

[@kwameopoku3576]

Init all i hear is baka loka nazo in reverse

[@HelenaMuk]

Mbongo mutu eko kitisa to ko matisa core/valeur/conviction ya mutu te, ko miyeba mutu epesaka valeur pe ko zala na ko mikitisa quand il le faut.

[@dion3644]

Caroline vraie cherie, Mulatre mais ayebi koloba lingala sans complexe, Je penses dans la vie chacun devrait avoir un standard d'attente vis a vis d'un partenaire Homme ou Femme, Lui attendre dire elle voudra un homme qui fait 100k a year est logique a mon avis selon son standard et combien elle peut apporter dans un couple, si vraiment dans le fond et dans la vraie vie elle est celle qu'elle a semblait se presenter dans cette emission sans double facette...Wana kutu ata millionnaire directe eo simba nango!!!Ce de femmes comme ca qui poussent les hommes de loin a etre High Value Men!!! for a reason but the question is what would she bring to the table as woman...Tradiotional one or a balance between modern women westerworld made one or a balance between both?

[@jijimboyo9528]

Francos,tjrs égal à lui-même.très stable ,posé ds ses réponses comme d’habitude.Que Dieu vs donne Francos,une bonne femme car,des hommes comme vs tombent souvent sur des mauvaises -ba dongolo miso.

[@mimilabelle9896]

MUASI ATA OZA NA MBONGO SOKI OZA NA LIBALA TE OZA EKEKO MUASI NDE KOBOTA PE LIBALA ❤❤❤❤

[@jijimboyo9528]

Kitoko mingi na sujet oyo.carolina aza Grecque et mozande.Na komelaka ye na émission alekaka puisque je suis aussi mozande.Toza mingi te awa na poto et même na kin toyebani mingi comme peuple,sauf na kisangani ou haut congo.j’avais souligné que suis de la famille GATANGA.Demande à votre maman,elle connait sans doute ce nom .Si vs pouvez réponse aussi na commentaire,esengo trop.Bon courage.

[@memyself355]

The man is supposed to be the leader, the provider and the protector of his family! Family is a space of love and service! BUT today people are soooooo selfish that service is dying!

[@mimilabelle9896]

ICI EN EUROPE DANS LE MARIAGE LES FACTURES 50/50 PAR CE QUE ON VA AU BOULOT….ICI IL N Y A PAS DE DOMESTIC, LES MÉNAGE 50/50 L’EDUCATIONS DES ENFANTS, NOUS CHRETIENS IL FAUT QUE DIEU SOIENT LE CHEF🙏 SOKI OLINGI LIBALA EWUMELA TI BOKOMA BA KOKO NZAMBE NDE FINAL❤

[@mimilabelle9896]

LIBALA EZALAKA IMPORTANT ATA SOKI LIBALA EKUFA BALA LISUSU ZALA NA MUTU EZALAKA MALAMU PE BOTA BANA LOSAMBO NDE EZALA BASE NA NIONSO NA VIE❤

[@marieesperancenamage3463]

We need a part 2 for this! I was so surprised by ya Tresor Imagine in this episode

[@noonelikeyou13]

Y’a TRESOORRR O sololi kitokos makaaasssiii

[@monicaeduardo2059]

I rarely comment but just to bring some "knowledge" kodia eza kindoki. Spirituellement ce n'est ABSOLUMENT pas quelque chose de bien.

[@ozrtcongortnc7525]

No body said it’s was good it’s was an example tresor gave , maybe you shouldn’t comment

[@luthelofarel8056]

Bien dit trésor image ! Kata gladis y’a la bay 😅😅

[@blanche_mundele3538]

Une très belle émission éducative j'étais triste de ne plus vous voir publié des nouveaux contenus merci pour cette nouvelle saison qu'il s'arrête plus continuer sans limite

[@marvelousembedi9456]

It’s so good to have the show back love it I’m learning a lot all the way from Australia😊

[@GirlRockofficial]

im 100% agree with karolina

[@anne-emilieyama2212]

Unfortunately it is only obvious to a well self aware individual who has taken the time to do self assessment and evaluation and work on things which will not sabotage the present and future . There’s people with unhealed childhood trauma which manifest itself in many shape and forms when they get into a relationship not even marriage . One has to do have an understanding of themself had work done no one will be 100 percent , but enough to be aware of themself , but most importantly of the heart they are carry . It isn’t obvious because many human look for a women to heal their father’s womb they stay punishing the errors of their father and comparing their father and ex lovers . Man look for mother figures who will baby them and try and repair the void their caregiver did not give them instead of a partner , a wife , a friend they look for a daycare center

[@user-ep1oo1xf6d]

Just because you score a lot's of goal doesn't mean you're the captain of the team.

[@motopamba9520]

Dymund na Gladys are always right for me! ba yaya Frankos na Tresor toujours meme boule . na sepeli na ba new panels so it was a good show!!!

[@yakuzajapan8189]

Diamond you 're simply great quand une femme parle = Diamond 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾❤️❤️❤️

[@christelle1993]

The only problem I have with all this is people who quote the bible without the full understanding. To the fact that they misquote it and when someone calls you on it you have nothing to support your message. Stop being religious, be spiritual. Just say what you have learned from your pastor and don't say what the bible says. Because you missing a big chunk of what it actually saying.

[@lyndhaallyketie3693]

My advise to panelists though is to LISTEN carefully to the questions. In case of doubt, try to do ‘active listening’ to check that you’ve grasped the question. Otherwise we end up with Nissy asking question A, the panelist talking about topic B and the audience we’re left with many unanswered questions 😕

[@nahond9159]

Mettez aussi la traduction en français ou Lingala svp.

[@manuilanga972]

These sort of topics have absolutely no foundation in this day and age.

[@mimilabelle9896]

1000% YA BOBETTE ❤WELL DONE YOU KICK UP 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@AngelaElikya]

Saying that a women doesn't have values without being married don't even make sense. If your man decided to marry you is for the very reason that i found value in you. What kind of man will mary and take on a wife that doesn't being value to him ?

[@evehonok7621]

Gladis 😂😂❤️❤️❤️

[@cathymiamba7584]

The guy in the floral shirt is very smart!!!👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌

[@thatgirrljess]

55:09 yesssss yaya ozo solola bien 👏👏

[@mimilabelle9896]

Well done this to u all I AM VERY HAPPY TO SEE FRANCOS I WAS PRAYING FOR YOUR FAMILY GOD IS FAITHFUL ❤

[@sebspecial9449]

Bobett is toxic wow 😢😅

[@missi_kalo]

Toxic is my middle name 😅😂😂😂

[@kupumbafanny559]

Gladys ba français 😂😂😂😂😂

[@roseezangumbe1569]

fille oyo ya rouge au debut elle paraissait sage mais kiadiiiii abebisi a la fin

[@elyabibo3832]

Pleaaaaaaas lorsque vous parlez en anglais bo tia sous titre enfin que nous aussi on puissent comprendre merci là-bas

[@ExanceeKitenge-vv4ii]

Désolé mais @Bobette est trop bête, en tout cas félicitations @Karolina tu es une femme très intelligente, j'ai aimer aussi la manière de pensé de Grladis

[@johntshimanga4147]

communication's most important in the relation

[@priscatla6269]

Plus de lingala pour la présentatrice mais merci pour la reprise de votre émission

[@boss-bn8lr]

A man making over 100k a year is literally 1% in the Uk so good luck to karolina finding that 1%

[@raissamianzambi144]

I love Gladys😂❤️ * je continuera 😫😂

[@christinefilleamaman8514]

I love gladiator 🌹

[@blondinemoyombo232]

Dymund and Tresor ❤

[@kingisaac2511]

Bobete😂😂😂😂😂😂 she has a point to an extent..

[@noahbankuna1157]

Eh eh eh bobet aza munoko makasi 😅😅😅😅😂😂😂😂😂