Multicultural DATING & RELATIONSHIPS with Don't Trust The Rabbit

Talking to Trixi about the mix-ups, challenges, and funny stories we experienced dating someone from a different country.
Since filming this video, Trixi has made several other videos on what it's like dating her Venezuelan boyfriend, Erick, so here are a few of them:
Things I Hate About My VENEZUELAN Boyfriend • Things I Hate About My...
Are Germans Afraid of AIR? • Are Germans Afraid of ...
CULTURE SHOCK! | 1 German vs. 3 Venezuelans • CULTURE SHOCK! | 1 Ger...
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[@HQTrang]

I'm Vietnamese, my ex bf was German. We traveled together a lot when we were dating. Before dating him, I never thought someone would plan out a three weeks long trip two months in advance. He did. He would plan activities for each day of the trip in a five-page google doc that he shared with me. Not gonna lie, I freaked out the first time I saw it. But in retrospect I guess it was a good thing. With me being spontaneous and a little too carefree, it was good to have someone more organized to keep things in check.

[@stargirl7646]

I'm from the US and we do that too. :D Or at least my family does! Though we try to leave some room for spontaneous stuff...

[@rainyday4970]

Yes, I once backpacked with a German and he was VERY organized and even told me a couple of times to "pay attention"! VERY shocking! Then at the end when I tried to give him a friendly hug goodbye he actually put his arms out and pushed me away! THAT was terrible! :O

[@stargirl7646]

Yikes! Hopefully that was just one cranky person - I don't think all Germans are like that. But that's not nice!

[@okashipiex3943]

haha I can tell you that German people are not used to being hugged! German/Austrian ppl like to keep some distance between each other. (I am an Austrian girl)

[@TonyRedgrave1501]

I thought asians are also that organized.

[@antikreativ96]

I don't understand why many people are complaining about closed shops on a sunday or shops that are closed during the night. You have to keep in mind that people are working there and since every boss tries to save money, these shops are often understaffed, so the employees are pushed for time and they have to work overtime. Of course they are getting paid for that, but sometimes they don't have a choice because no one else is available. This might be one of the reasons some foreigners think the cashiers in Germany work too fast.

[@janaaj1an889]

When I was a kid Boston had "blue lalws" and a lot of stores were closed on Sundays. Now they never close (even for major holidays).

[@williamlucas4656]

Never understood why they just did not have Monday or Tuesday closings since the store is open for customer convenience not staff convenience. Oh, forgot, its Germany! 😙

[@kidaria1333]

Because people are laziy and spoiled if it comes to shopping now a days. You are so right.

[@jeromemckenna7102]

During the 1950s and 1960s, most shops were closed on Sunday where I grew up in the US. It wasn't until about 1980 that shopping on Sunday became the norm in New Jersey (each state has different laws). So, the German experience used to be a lot closer to that in the US.

[@BlaideBlack]

I'm from germany and my boyfriend is from Canada, for the first months I was always really upset when I asked him if he wanted to do something and he would just say "Sure". For Germans that sounds like there is no interest at all, until I figured out it's completely normal in english to say!

[@SnorriSnibble]

In my opinion, 'sure' sounds a lot more interested than just 'yes'. Like of course he wants to do something and why do you even ask, it's naturally.

[@BlaideBlack]

For me, and some other german friends who had the exact same issue as me it just sounds like there is no excitement behind it. It's more like an "Of course!" or "Yea that sounds nice". I think we just need to hear that he wants too and not just trust him with it. By now I'm fine with it, but at first it was really off putting for me.

[@stevefox187]

same thing with nice. If you say 'nett' in german means mostly something negativ like crap or shit.

[@stevefox187]

your right and yeah the negative touch from 'nett' maybe have part of its origin probably in the phrase 'ganz nett' good point i never thought about that.

[@williamlucas4656]

In english there may be several meanings to short comments like nice and sure based upon the tone of voice used and context. Saying nice for an unfavorable outcome in english is sarcasm.p but otherwise could mean good.

[@jessali_]

Who else here is single af?

[@dominikawegrzyn]

What about making a video on the things you have in common with German Man? You know, what connected you besides the cultural differences? That would be interesting :)

[@peanutjam]

No dating experience at all :D

[@Polschinski]

i feel you bro me to (age 20)

[@Polschinski]

*too

[@SilentMover95]

Erdnüsse über Frauen, Alter

[@Polschinski]

Nikola Tesla Man muss Prioritäten setzen

[@peanutjam]

Nikola Tesla Erdnussmarmelade über fast alles :D

[@stephanieconner319]

The hardest part of talking to a German man as an American is that it's impossible to tell a joke. I once told a joke to a German man, and he took me very seriously, until he finally asked, "are you being saracasm?" Lol

[@edwardweeden2834]

In addition to business trips, my wife and I travel to the U.S. At least two times per year. ,after several decades of being married to this British person, I still find it amazing that she is convinced that Americans do not know how to make a "proper" cup of tea! She still must pack and take her own tea when we go to the States, and simply asks for a pot of hot water and milk on the side, making her own tea at the table. In our hotel room she also packs and brings a "kettle" sometimes, depending on whether we travel,to out of the way places where there may not,be a "kettle""in the room. Amazing! But probably equal to my own conviction that England and Europe in general has no idea how to make "proper" ice tea!!!

[@WantedAdventure]

+Edward Weeden hahahaha 😂 😂 😂 great story, thanks for sharing it. really amazing. One time I made a cup of tea for a British woman and she was shocked at how good it was. And I was then shocked at how in the world she could be shocked at my ability to make tea. I was thinking to myself "well, you just heat up some water, put tea bag in, you asked for milk, so I put in some milk too....doesn't seem that complicated." Apparently I had no idea...look back on it now, I guess she had given me the biggest compliment in the world and I didn't realize it!

[@edwardweeden2834]

For D.N. You are very right when you say it was the biggest compliment in the world!, Tea is a very serious matter to the Brits, no wonder they decided to,send over the redcoats when we dumped a bunch of it into Boston harbor! Keep up the excellent work!

[@Sycokay]

German here, with a russian girlfriend. The most notable difference to german girls is, when going to a restaurant, cinema, whereever, she is exspecting for me to pay for us both, because otherwise she feels disrespected as a woman, like beeing treated like a man. German girls, on the contrary, often feel disrespected when you try to pay for them: It makes them feel like you want to "buy" them. Weird :-D

[@sushimaya5691]

Sycokay Mexican here, we expect men to pay for everything, my money is my money, whatever, I earn is only for me, plus we spend men's money, from boyfriend, husband, brothers, male friends and parents. I think, we should keep it that way... buy me a car, buy me clothes, buy me a house, buy me whatever, I wish from the store, take me for vacation, and I will have your children, clean the house and have a delicious meals for you😋

[@evangraham2327]

I'm American and my boyfriend's parents are from Spain but he was raised in Paris. We speak English with each other although its his 3rd language. What I've grown to love about Spanish culture is taking time. Time at lunch or time to sit an a terrace having a drink people watching and having conversation. Not being rushed by the bar or cafe. in the USA the cafe needs to move you along to make more money. I do love that he has taught me to slow down. Americans do not have time. Time is money.

[@AndreaHeckler]

I'm American; my boyfriend is French. One of the first noticeable differences for us was the meal times and lengths! In France, lunch and especially dinner are much later, and meals tend to last sooo long. I get impatient sitting at the table that long 😅 Great video!

[@WantedAdventure]

+Andrea Heckler haha oh wow!! How long are we talking here? Dinner length of say...3 hours? Hopefully the food is REALLY good, and so is the conversation... And thanks! :) glad you enjoyed the video.

[@AndreaHeckler]

Wanted Adventure 3 hours sounds about right! Thankfully French food is usually pretty great ^_^

[@springrainapril]

hahaha, I'm Swiss and my boyfriend American and he gets kinda impatient if I don't finish in about 15min.. Calls me rude to eat THAT slow ^^

[@newnobee]

hi Donna, I´m following you and Trixie for a long time now and I have to admit: it is soooo great to see you both as a kind of a team! I enjoy these Videos so much! Please keep them coming! Thumbs up to the sky! Marvelous!

[@jeromemckenna7102]

Many people in the US do remove their shoes inside the house. I've done this since 1997, when I got married.

[@eleven5642]

I'm german and I always open all the windows. I really really don't like it if it's hot inside 😂

[@nkimberly33]

I am from the U.S. and I have been married to an Indian national for 9 years. We lived in the U.S. for 9 years and we've been in India now for one year. I've got too much to say about the topic to write here! heh.

[@dashingrahulable]

You can try writing an answer on Quora. :-)

[@aileenfarshivlogs]

Cool video! I loved to see another about being an American dating a German :o)

[@itslarissae]

I am german as well! Love both of your channels! :) More videos together please!

[@IsaacGozzo]

Hahaha!! Had a lot of fun with this video. I'm Venezuelan and found quite funny how Trixi describes her BF.

[@WantedAdventure]

haha that's great :D glad to hear you enjoyed it!

[@merrybreitler]

I'm American, and my boyfriend is from Switzerland. One of my hobbies is learning languages and since being together my German and French have tremendously improved. When visiting Europe with him, it's opened my eyes about how their culture is better about recycling and not being wasteful like we tend to be in the U.S. It's inspired me to change my water usage habits and start a compost. He embraces a lot of American culture, but I remind him not to become too Americanized :)

[@WantedAdventure]

Cool to hear that your experiences in Europe have made you more environmentally friendly! :) Yeah, I think it's really great when people can "swap" cultures...each person learns some of the better things from the other culture, and in the end (hopefully...ideally), both people are better because of the exchange.

[@JudithLou]

I am a good bit older than most of the folks here. I am American and my husband is from the Philippines. We met while serving in the US Navy in Japan. We have been married for 35+ years and still find differences to work out. While dating, most of out dates were surrounded by other friends, very few were just the two of us. When we became engaged he sent special gifts to my parents and frequent flowers to my mother. Child raising was very different. The American way is teaching children to be independent and the Filipino way is to keep children dependent. Lots of other things but I would need more room!

[@jennynicole7714]

My ex husband (Mexican, I'm American) and I had several arguments about lending money. In the USA, it is not the norm to just loan friends or even family money. One might borrow a few dollars if they need cash, but aren't carrying any (since cash is slowly becoming extinct). In Mexico, it is very common to loan money and I'm not just talking $10 to friends and family. We fought about this so much. In many cultures it is acceptable or even expected that the kids will take care of the parents once the kids start their career, but in the US, most budgets will only take care of your own household, not enough to also care for your parents.

[@sushimaya5691]

Jenny Nicole . Yes, that is what Mexicans do, actually never pay back, if they don't have the money, it should not be a big issue, but not all people are like that. Regarding, taking care the parents that should be a responsibility for any child here in USA, Japan, China, any place in the world, it should not be an issue or discussion to take care your vulnerable old parents.

[@Noctua88]

I'm German, my fiancé is Nigerian. When he first approached me, he was also very straight forward, asked a lot of questions and made it very clear that he was interested in dating me. As Trixi said, German guys aren't usually like that. And of course the language. We mostly speak German (or denglish), so he can improve his German, and there have been a lot of times when we argued about something only to find out that one of us didnt understand the other one right. He and his family are also a lot more religious than my family. On new year's eve, instead of going outside and watching the fireworks, 20 people were standing in the living room praying which I found very strange.

[@moonchild8478]

I love your videos! i'm from germany and i found you 2 years ago. I suscribed you and watched Evers Video! you're the greatest KZbinr, i think❤ MACH WEITER SO!

[@moonchild8478]

every*

[@WINTERwaves]

This reminds me of the song "Aurélie" by Wir Sind Helden in which the singer explains the peculiarities of flirting in Germany to her French friend: "...die Deutschen flirten sehr subtil..." ("Germans flirt very subtly") :)

[@sapna2k]

idk if i ever commented on tht ..but i loveee ur introo nd tht melody nd idk ...loveee it! 😍😍

[@HotMaxExpress]

One day, I was chatting with someone and chatting in English was new for me (I am German) and at the start of that conversation she wrote "asl" and I was like "wtf" bc I didnt know that short form so I googled and found out that "asl" means "Age Sex Location" but (Now comes the great *But* xD) what I didnt know was that "sex" means "gender" or something like that so I thougt she asked me if I wanted sex so I answered her "14, No and Germany". That was 2 years ago and I was 13 (I lied to her, sorry xD). I'm was shocked until we (my class) talked about human rights in the English lessons; specificly *Equal of the sexes.* That was 2 months ago. And i still feel stupid 😐 xD (Sorry for the grammar mistakes if there are some. I'm not a native English speaker but I try to improve my skills :3)

[@HotMaxExpress]

*I was shocked

[@derekvigil9788]

Your English is very good :)

[@philieunicorn8742]

I understand... I went to San Diego/CA in 2014 (I was 13). It was a student exchange and I was kinda afraid, so I said barely nothing the first days, so when my host mother asked e.g. "How was your first day at school?" I was just like "okay" because I didn't wanna say anything wrong and it was also kinda hard to understand my teachers because they (of course) talked kinda fast. But it turned out, that my English was good enough after I got used to the fast-talking people;)

[@luma1021]

+Philie unicorn nice to read :)

[@williamlucas4656]

+Philie unicorn It happens to everyone in such a situation. Bet you had a headache at the end of the day too.

[@chumgypsy]

love the video!

[@DanielGalassi]

Great video, ladies!

[@WantedAdventure]

Thanks Daniel! :)

[@renatacmleite]

I'm brazilian and my boyfriend is german. The first difference that I notice is "cold dinner" with sausage, bread, cheese... I think it's very good when it's summer, but on winter I prefer rise, beans and some meat...

[@renatacmleite]

And I really understand what Trixi about the language. We use more English to comunicate too. We started to use more german and he started to learn portuguese too... our plan is only speak in german and portuguese... Well, maybe in two years 😂😂😂

[@blaukohl6052]

the cold dinner is the best thing

[@williamlucas4656]

+Blaukohl Not for Americans

[@juliusbrockm9864]

@blaukohl not even for me and i am german 🙈

[@RockinSim]

Claro, comida quentinha é bem melhor né :D?

[@Ashbk]

American married to a Russian here. He's very old fashioned, won't let me carry the groceries or anything he deems "too heavy" for me. For a strong-willed and independent woman, that's difficult for me, but I understand where he's coming from. It's also a thing to take your shoes off at the door with Russians. I set up a shoe rack in the entry way for him. He's got the old fashioned romance going on as well and it seems pretty common among Russian men. Also very protective of me but not in a creepy way. He's not used to having to drive everywhere and we live in the middle of nowhere so it's absolutely necessary to drive even for groceries. He's still getting used to random people waving to us or saying hi when we walk at the park. Small talk isn't something he is interested in and people like to do that here. Right now he does a lot of our cooking. From scratch...when I say from scratch I mean within the first month of his stay with me in the states, he bought a meat grinder. He won't buy pre-ground meat. He also won't use any of those meal in a box things, he says it's "cheating". I have to say, I don't think I've eaten so healthy and cheaply in my entire life. It's ok though, he's quite the cook. Our relationship is a hodge podge of cultures and I think it's awesome.

[@eleo_b]

He wanted to know if he could move in with you? I would think he's looking for a visa...

[@MyrthexLatoya]

Hey Dana! I absolutely love your videos :) I don't know if you still take questions for your 'Ask an American' series, but I was wondering if you ever saw a tornado or hurricane when you still lived in the US. If yes, what was it like? Whenever I see a video or documentary about tornados or hurricanes I see there are a lot of wooden houses or houses directly on the beach. Do you know why that is? I find it very strange that you would built a wooden house if there are tornados every year or built your house on the beach when hurricanes will distroy it in a couple of hours.

[@WantedAdventure]

Thanks for your nice comment :) I've done one video on hurricanes and tornadoes in the US in general: kzbin.info/www/bejne/nHrdiKSDgtGDarc And I plan to do some videos in the future on life in Florida (including, yes, I have experienced hurricanes), so cool to hear you'd be interested in that! As for tornadoes, no I have never seen one.

[@MyrthexLatoya]

Thanks for your relpy! Haven't seen that video yet, so going to watch it straight away haha. I think hurricanes and tornados are really cool (obviously not when you experience it or when people die) and I love watching docus on them. Totally looking forward to your other videos!

[@Waldimart]

I "dated" a girl from France when I was in elementary school. Since my French wasn't that good in 3rd grade, we barely talked to each other which was pretty sad because I really liked her.

[@2703Bellaa]

I'm currently in a relationship with a japanese guy, while I'm from Germany. One big issue (that is actually being talked about in soo many KZbin channels ;)) is how we talk about our feelings and show love (espesically in public). Sometimes it's quite hard for me to accept, that it's just not common for him to say "I love you" in every possible occasion, to kiss in public etc. On the other hand, he's one of the most respectful, kind and always helping people that I know and comparing each others cultures and languages is super interesting for me. So in my experience sometimes it's super tough, while it's also so worth it! :)

[@WantedAdventure]

+Isa bella thanks for sharing your experiences! interesting to hear about the differences. I've noticed that, generally speaking, in Germany people seem to be a little bit more comfortable with public displays of affection (kissing/making out in public) than in the U.S. In the U.S. there's the well known phrase "get a room!" for when people are kissing a little to much in public.

[@2703Bellaa]

I didn't know that this was different in the US, that's interesting to hear! And for me it really helps to realise that there is really no "wrong " or "right " way to show your love to someone,especially if sometimes it seems so much easier to judge from your own point of view and from the culture you grew up in. But that's probably also a positive thing of being in a multicultural relationship, to learn that. .. at least it's for me! So thanks for the interesting video about this topic :)

[@AhmetMurati]

About shoes leaving them outside of in a designated area is also in my culture. Frech air, of course in summer time I leave my window open and it has a metallic mesh outside so no flies or bugs do enter :) On winter time, the window is open time to time. When I was in Hamburg, I have tried to eat different food but what I have liked it I have bought it.

[@erifrogs]

Ha! We're careful! hheeey 😆. thanks for the video ^^

[@jokerandcharlie]

another nice video Dana + Trixie. But these are just your experiences... what about Stefan and Eric ? I´d like to hear their version ;-)

[@WantedAdventure]

Erick made a video about the things that drive him a little crazy about Trixi lol here's a link: kzbin.info/www/bejne/e4GmYnaDn7eppZo

[@edwardweeden2834]

I had the same thought as jokerandcharlie!,give the husbands a chance, ladies!

[@Fernando31611]

Ecuadorian here. First time I dated a Brazilian girl, I was astonished of how straight foward they are. (Mind that I am a shy introverted nerd...)

[@sewingcheck5278]

Living in Germany with my american husband. Shopping groceries stresses him too, but he figured it out pretty quick. Luckily he's taking his shoes of and I could convince him, that loooong sunday breakfasts are awesome. Usually I'm the first one that opens the windows here at home.

[@maybemature]

I actually had an experience with opening windows exactly the other way around. I'm German and my Canadian wife was really confused when I ripped open all windows of my appartment in winter. I explained it's to let fresh air in so no mildew grows on the walls. In Canada, she explained, their heating system is a built in fan in the floor which makes opening windows unnecessary (especially in winter... Brrrrrrr). I prefer the Canadian way :)

[@ezraistriggered9686]

i don't have any dating experiences but i have lots of friends who live in other countries. i have relatives in the US and every time i visit them i'm really surprised that shops are open on sundays lol

[@Kazooka]

I'm American and my husband is German. We used to live in Berlin, but are now in the UK (where we BOTH get to be foreigners! Wee!). One of the trickiest culture clashes for us is air conditioning/fans. It's not as big an issue now that we're in temperate England, but when we were suffering through stifling summers in Berlin, I was dying for some AC or at least an oscillating fan to help me sleep at night (Southern California girl here). Meanwhile my husband cannot stand the noise or cold air of either of those options! He was sweet enough to buy me a stand-up AC with a long hose to go out the window, but it predictiably proved to be rather ineffective - other than in driving him away from our bed to the living room with its jet-like engine noise. Ah well. Glad we're in the UK now. Thanks for the fun video! :-)

[@edwardweeden2834]

Kazoos a! I certainly understand about being a foreigner here in England. I am from the States and married a British citizen over there. After retiring from my corporate job, we moved to the U.K. Sixteen years ago. My business life here is much more relaxed, and the schools are much better/safer for our kids (now grown). But according to my Brit wife, I still can't speak English properly. I just shrug and reply that I am a foreigner and speak American! LOL

[@Kazooka]

Hi Edward! Oh yes, I too feel acutely aware of my linguistic deficits in comparison to Brits (well, most Brits anyway). My wonderfully English-fluent German husband has the sort of accent that is often mistaken for British when amongst Americans (though Brits can always tell he's foreign), but lately he's been taking on my Americanisms like "garbage" "truck" and "pants" -- much to his chagrin! What fun it is to ruin the spouse! :-)

[@edwardweeden2834]

For Kazooka again (and Trixi if you are listening). Never sell yourself short - I am sure you don't anyway! This is particularly true in the language area. You are not ruining your spouse . . . I think the phrase you should be using is "enriching" your spouse, making him even more multi lingual (insert smiling emoji here...)! On a very weird note, when I am not identified as an American here in the U.K. I am almost always mis-identified as a Canadian. That is understandable because of Canadian English being pronounced much like American English (would love to read a book on that if there is one). The really strange thing is that maybe one in every 20 times I get misidentified as an Australian!!! Even crazier, my American relatives say I am developing a British accent...rubbish! ,

[@s.ngannou4519]

I'm human my girlfriends alien we have LOTS of issues

[@justindippel2423]

from which city or town (I don't know which is right )are you and how far is it to Atlanta /Geogia ?

[@Ladyfaeyrys]

My fiancé is Korean and we both communicate in either English or Chinese ( we met in China during a year as exchange students, we are both Sinology major) and for me when I'm in Korea, I really had to get used that PDA is a no-no. We can hold hands, but if I want to give him a little peck, I can feel he is uncomfortable. Whereas in Germany he also had problems with shops closing on Sunday's and food being expensive. Besides this, there are no major misunderstandings and we are both really happy to have found each other! ^_^

[@WantedAdventure]

Thanks so much for sharing your experiences :) Interesting to hear about PDA being a no-no in Korea. I would say, in general, people in German seem to be a little more comfortable with PDA than (in general) people in the US. In the US there's the common phrase "get a room!" for people who are being a little too affectionate. Wish you both all the best together :)

[@irondasgr]

Makes me smile so strongly this one. "Get a room" is almost in every modern american movie.

[@blackk_rose_]

I always close all the windows when I leave the house because of burglars or in case of a thunderstorm. Isn't it a bit reckless to leave them open? In the morning we always do "Stoßlüften" and will open all the windows to let the fresh air in. During the day it depends on how hot it is outside. I do hear "Es zieht!" a lot though.

[@vernond.p.3017]

American here, I lived in southern Germany for about ten years and had many interesting cultural things happen. One of the fumiest and quick to tell is this: In the german language the verb to get or receive is 'Bekommen'. This sounds a lot like the English 'become'. On more than one occasion outside of clubs girls have asked me if I could help them 'become' a taxi!

[@keiths2902]

I am from the United States and I lived in Finland for an exchange in high school. I loved going from walks at night in the winter because the cold felt soooo nice. I found that my Finnish family would be very worried about me catching cold because of the air. This also happened because I didn't keep my room very hot. I was welcome to use the space heater in there but I preffered the feeling of cold. It was quite strange to me. They thought I would catch a cold from cold air, but I didn't get sick. Colds come from bacteria, not the temperature of the air.

[@anika4692]

Actually, that is true and false at the same time. Cold DO come from bacteria, but the thing is, that when our body gets cold (temperature falls), it is more vulnerable to diseases. That is why it is common to think that you might catch a cold in cold weather.

[@surgamplusultra]

As a South Floridian, you can help Trixie with cultural differences between Hispanics and Germans!

[@carlstieren3689]

Dating & relationships: Canadians - oops, I mean English Canadians - are really reserved. Americans wear their hearts on their sleeves. I am an American who moved to Canada many years ago. After I met my wife in the USA in 2007, on our first date we told each other some very personal things about each other right away. That would not have happened between two English Canadians. But her mother was from France and my father was from Germany. Sometimes when we don't understand each other, don't agree or just get out of sync with each other I think it's her mother battling it out with my father.

[@Michelangelo212]

My girlfriend lives in Dubai and is here in Germany to study. She really wondered: Why, I like it to sleep at night with an open window, even in winter!" I explained her that I do that since childhood because as a child I have been told: "Your sleep will be better, because the fresh air is good for the regeneration of the cells of your body. And you will feel refreshed." And it is true that I feel better in the morning. But my girlfriend had a hard time to deal with it, because I winter the too gets cold and sometimes I shut the window during the night so she wouldn't have to get up freezy.

[@ocsejswobodachromium4533]

He Ihr beiden das könnt Ihr öfter machen, eine Sendung zusammen! Hat mir echt gut gefallen euch zusammen zu sehen "zu hören" !!! :-) Jesco

[@DontTrustTheRabbit]

Dankeschön, mir machen unsere Videos zusammen auch immer wahnsinnig Spaß! :)

[@LoveDoctorNL]

Shops used to be Closed on sunday in Holland. I'm so happy thats over now in the bigger cities.

[@germarputtich5603]

In Dresden (half a million people), there's exactly one supermarket at the city centre which is open on sundays. You can probably imagine what's going on there... My friends and I really only go there in case of emergency. But I have to admit, it's always a pleasure (and pretty frightening) to see lots and lots of people desperately raging through the narrow aisles gathering stuff like a bunch of monkeys :D

[@HalfEye79]

I've seen it regularly, that many customers at noon, when people gets something in lunch break, are retirees. And also when most people finish work. However, this is the time I go shopping. It's nearly on my way home.

[@anies2931]

My bf is american (born and raised) with a polish dad, I am german. He laughs sometimes about how often I use the word DID to form past tensens. I think his german is super cute. But we speak mainly in english. We are living in Germany and he cant understand the lack of crushed ice in drinks. Also, he misses air vents in houses / apartments.

[@linarenge3302]

Idk if my experience is as multicultural as urs but my family has russian migration background and i was raised very "russian" and my boyfriend is like this typical bavarian guy. Even if we both speak german and both are raised here, we have so many differencies in cultural things. Often we fight about it and sometimes its very funny, for example when him and i have dinner with my family and they all speak in russian and than randomly my bf is replying to some random russian sentence in german or sometimes with russian words he caught up during the conversations. On the other hands some family members of me use russian for their advantage and talk bad about my bf infront of him :/ this makes me sad, but i'm trying to tell these famil members that this is not okay. It is also sometimes really hard for him to fit in or to understand why i view certain things different because of my cultural background. But as far as now we are together since two years and were working on things, that are difficult sometimes to make them better in the future. ^^

[@fabian1939]

Title is misleading. Sounds like you were dating and having a relationship with Don't trust the rabbit. Now I'm disappointed :(

[@DianthusSpec]

Haha xD

[@DontTrustTheRabbit]

Hahaha! :D

[@NickRoman]

LOL No, it didn't sound like that!

[@edwardweeden2834]

Someone has an overactive imagination!!! Trixi has enou of a challenge handling Erick and his enthusiasm. Can you imagine Trixi trying to cope with Dana's level of enthusiasm?!?! LOL

[@hippojuice23]

I've got a lot of enthusiasm and a huge over-active imagination! lol!

[@Feelyourheartbeat16]

I'm German and my boyfriend is Portuguese so we tend to talk in English and there have sometimes been misunderstandings when translating sentences for each other but we always just laugh about it and get to know each other's languages better that way ^-^

[@WantedAdventure]

+Feelyourheartbeat16 sounds like a good way to deal with it :)

[@painfreesunrise]

I am totally German, and I open my windows all the time & never take my shoes off when I go visit other people.... so I wonder where these "myths" come from....

[@KathrinPi]

LOL I'm German and my spouse is American. We didn't have too many language issues, other than my inability to correctly pronounce certain words (like clothes), but the noise level definitely was an issue for us as well - and explaining certain foods and also finding something close to what one of us knows from home was also difficult (searching for baloney is still a problem, but we've found a close "dupe")

[@WantedAdventure]

+Kathrin Pi Yeah, food is a big thing that I miss from the U.S. as well. There are some things that you just can't get or make yourself when you move to a different country, no matter how hard you try.

[@ArmandoBellagio]

I think maybe you could also make a video together with Hayley Alexis. She is also American from Florida and also living in Munich.

[@alkavybz529]

omg u still not showing a video of the weather difference between the U.S and Germany how cold or freezy it gets during winter

[@jankuchar4579]

I am Czech dating a Mexican girl... But since my father works in Oil and gas industry I used to live in many other Europiens countries... So it is not a problem for me to compare... When I see something new about the culture I always compare it to something else what I have already seen and I mention the pros and cons... NEVER SAY ANY NEGATIVES ABOUT MEXICAN CULTURE TO A MEXICAN!!!! YOU WILL SLEEP ON SOFA AND NOT IN BED::: JUST ACCEPT THAT WHAT IS MEXICAN IS GOOD!!! AND THEY ARE THE BEST COUNTRY DESPITE THEY HAVE NEVER EVER VISITED DIFFERENT COUNTRY...

[@glaubhafieber]

I had some issue with "komisch. I'm swiss and my GF was german. I wanted to say seltsam.. She replied " das ist überhaupt nicht komisch!!!" At the end it was :)

[@saptron]

Hello, am Venezuelan living in Austria, also single, any advise or warning to dating german/austrian girls? Great channel keep the videos coming.

[@petitecontrebassiste]

is trixi getting married? because dana said "her fiancé (eric)".

[@littlebigstupid]

As an Aussie my boyfriend pretty much stresses about nothing....I as a German on the other hand stress about way too much. not gonna lie, there has been discussions and arguments because of this. :D

[@SilentMover95]

Take a chill pill.

[@rainyday4970]

That's the American way! lol

[@marvnxy8098]

Machen die keinr Videos mehr gemeinsam?

[@Mimarspre]

My husband is german and I come from Latin America and we have been married for almost 20 years now. Something that was pretty confusing for me at the beginning? that even family is expected to make an appointment before visiting here in Germany, while in Latin America your parents and siblings might just call in the last minute and drop by. We had also the experience of window-opening ... we still have arguments about it lol

[@williamlucas4656]

In the US parents usually call before coming by, but their children will come by when they feel like it, because its "home".

[@derharamster566]

My class went to a french exchange. The french student of a friend of mine offered her her french boyfriend so the french girl can flirt with the german boys... Insane what?

[@Moodnightblack]

I'm Dutch and my dad's girlfriend is from the UK and since english is my second language we always have mixed up conversations. As I have a Dutch accent and she has her accent it's sometimes really hard to understand each other. Also whenever I have an english test in school I always forget the dutch translation from the english word/sentences since I have to speak english at home :')

[@me4901]

How did you meet Mr German Man ?

[@Luziemagick]

germans are afraid of air? Ladies..that is bs😊

[@HalfEye79]

That is overdrawn. Its more the draught (Durchzug). Because people say, this can cause a cold.

[@janaaj1an889]

My wife is convinced of this (she is from New England...Scots/English extraction).

[@MallaLovsU]

I worked in the US for a year, as an AuPair and when I had a Date, my Host Dad called him in and talked to him, before he was allowed to go out with me. It was so....I cant quite put the finger on it....for me it was embarassing, because my own dad would never have cared for it, but for my host dad and my date it was normal. And I never figured out, what Rich, my host dad, said to my date! That still bugs me sometimes! (And sorry if my grammer isnt the best, I mostly never learned how to write the words) Love, Maylin

[@Murph_gaming]

Sounds to me like your host dad is one of those over protective fathers.

[@badadelgbrian]

I dated an Au pair in NYC and their hosts never cared. But I heard that other au pairs had protective hosts, and I thought it was because they are responsible for your safety according to the program agreement

[@anika4692]

He did the right thing. Since he was the host, he was responsible for you. So it doesn't sound strange for me at all.

[@mariek.9944]

I'm french and I am in a relationship with a german for 2 years now :) there are many differences for example in germany you don't do ''la bise'' to greet someone but you give a little hug and that was weird for me at the beggining when I was in germany, and it was weird for him too in France xD

[@WantedAdventure]

+Kawaii Marie really interesting to hear your experience with this! Coming from the U.S. where I don't think anyone EVER tried to kiss my cheeks as a greeting, I have been caught off guard many times here in Germany when people greet me with a kiss on each cheek! Interesting to hear that you haven't experienced that. Perhaps it's a regional thing?! Or really different from person to person.

[@mariek.9944]

I don't know, it's maybe a regional thing but in France you always kiss the cheeks as a greeting :) in some regions you begin with left, in some with right xD

[@Vivi-dq1uv]

Seid ihr in Bielefeld? Oder in welcher Stadt seid ihr? 😄 Weil unter der Uhr in deinen Videos Bielefeld steht

[@KosmoKool]

Dana lives in Munich and Trixie in Hamburg i think.

[@Vivi-dq1uv]

+Kosmo Prolet Danke!

[@KosmoKool]

Viviana We Bitte ;)

[@Msjuljulful]

My thai spouse eats what I consider "dinner meal"(heavy and hot) 3 times daily (=breakfast,lunch and dinner) while me (polish) have light breakfast, small so called "second breakfast", dinner (soup and hot meal) at the lunch time (1-3 pm) and light supper(usually sandwiches).

[@SuperSquillo80]

My wife is Polish. We are living together for about 6 years now. Polish peolpe seem to be supersticious, when it comes to making or getting gifts: She absolutely refuses to get/give watches (our time together will expire) and/or shoes (one of us might run away) to/from me. It's kind of cute. I mean, my parents come from Italy. And I thought that Italians are supersticious....

[@matthewthompson4739]

I am from the U.S and where I live it is very inconsiderate to wear shoes in the house and the only reason the host or hostess will allow you to wear shoes is out of politeness.

[@lucysmitch7743]

Hi Dana! I just found your account and watched many of your videos and they're sooo great, funny and helpful. I'm living and munich as well and I was wondering if we could maybe "become friends" haha:)) I'm looking so much forward to your answer!!

[@NarminMD]

I'm persian and my boyfriend is Croatian,Food is one of our problems, I mean Persians are not used to eat salty food,while croatians (atleast my bf's family )eat only salty food and meat, which is so wierd for me

[@mariejx8357]

I've never thought this could happen

[@shankar63]

Triixie please see Micronology . They are on an around the world food tour. It would be wonderful if you could bring both of your KZbinr fans together.

[@angelfoodcake1979]

I'm German and my husband is Irish. We didn't have any language issues that I can think of. He occasionally laughs about my use of reflexive verbs, and I about his silly pronunciation of practically everything German. The biggest differences are when it comes to houses, renting and owning. For example, most Irish houses have air vents. I'll never get it. Most German houses have a cellar, something my husband will never understand. There's a lot around food, alcohol and money that is different too, so there's often need for discussion. But he have started to be more like, yeah whatever....it's different...and move on.

[@WantedAdventure]

+angelfoodcake1979 I am very intrigued by this air vent thing...is it a large vent that is always open? Thanks for sharing your experiences :)

[@angelfoodcake1979]

Small vents, about one in each room. In some houses you can close them, in some you cannot. Strangest thing ever.

[@bramscheDave]

My wife is German and I'm English. We talk 99.9% German, she doesn't speak much English.

[@robertb8673]

Es liegt wohl daran das man "amerikanisch" VIEL öfter hört als das klassische Oxford, obwohl England unsere Nachbarn sind. Mein US. Akzent ist so gut das ich von US Touristen gefragt werde woher in den Staaten ich komme bis ich sage das ich aus Deutschland bin. Dabei kopiere ich nur das was ich im TV höre. Echt Lustig.

[@NickRoman]

Ok, I admit, I just watched this one today because I like your voice. See, being an attractive woman does have it's benefits. haha Obviously.

[@rainyday4970]

Well Aussies and Americans both tend to be pretty open in conversation, so when my Aussie husband and I (a "Yank", as they say) started dating, there weren't so many communication problems, but there were a few cultural ones. Like, the biggest one was that he expected girls to be in a more traditional role, but I was this independent american female backpacking around the world alone, unafraid of adventure (like you!) Another cultural difference was that he expected girls to just WATCH the men play sports. I said in America we WOMEN play sports, and sometimes the men watch US! hahahaha (not to imply that women don't play sports in other countries)

[@caugi]

Can you make a video in which you speak only German? (I'm a German girl and want to hear your speaking German :D )

[@painfreesunrise]

dann guck ihre videos an - da sind einige dabei wo sie deutsch spricht...

[@kalimpoli5208]

I usually have The windows Open halfway "auf Kipp", so that the neighbours Cat can't go into my house. But I do not leave them open when I am not alt home, because of thieves. A few windows have "fliegengitter", which is some sort of a cloth to protect your room from Insekts

[@sariannach]

Window screens! Those are very normal in the US--when I first visited the UK I was shocked that windows were open in summer with no screens to keep the bugs out.

[@Chimpur]

I bought a Speck branded phone case... that got a few laughs from Ms German Frau lol!

[@Luv2tickt]

This goes back a few years, but I dated a woman whose family immigrated from Pakistan. It was great until her dad found out. I guess we knew it would be doomed from the beginning and she warned me about possible consequences. Well he did eventually find out and despite what could have happened, we simply ended the relationship.

[@knabbagluon]

So sad, and typical. Coming another country but not embracing the local customs.

[@irondasgr]

and you are from....?

[@shanachayadavison5857]

Can anyone give me anecdotes or advice or whatever for a British + German couple? I'm writing a show (as in play) with a British girl and German guy as the main couple, and I want to get it right. They live in London, btw, so he'd be the one with more culture shock.

[@stargirl7646]

That's weird, I found my host family in Germany opened their windows a LOT more than we do in the USA! (Of course, we have allergies... AND air conditioning, so...) And they have no screens, so I got a couple bees/wasps in my room a couple times! Eek!

[@ArmandoBellagio]

Well, that was interesting, but I'm sure there are more differences than this.

[@bananekirsche7977]

Kannst du bitte nochmal ein Video auf deutsch machen?😄

[@danidan1902]

I've got a question to u ! doesn't Trixie live in the UK? I'm just wondering because u live in Germany .... im confused tho .... can anyone help me ?

[@KosmoKool]

Nah, she lives in northern Germany.

[@danidan1902]

Kosmo Prolet who ? Trixie ?

[@louibeans]

Yes. Trixie lives in Hamburg I think. Northern Germany in any case.

[@danidan1902]

Svenja M. Trixie is confusing me ... Why does she speak in English then? In her own video ...

[@louibeans]

Jazz&Soul 4ever because she wants to reach an international audience rather than just a German one. There are a lot of KZbinrs who run their channel in English even though it's not their first language.

[@LaMiriabelle]

Oh yes l am always struggling with the word eventually, whether l see it on TV or read it in a comment.

[@louibeans]

It's just a matter of getting used to it.

[@WantedAdventure]

The one that still gets me from time to time even after 6 years of living here and hearing it on the radio pretty often is "aktuell." It usually takes my mind a few seconds to remember that "aktuell" means current not actually 😁

[@markhesse2928]

Don't you listen to B5 Aktuell on the radio? I love to listen to it online here in the US.

[@LaMiriabelle]

Exactly. There are things in life, you just can't get used to. I remember, that actually gave me a hard time as well, while learning English at school.

[@lilachris]

Oh I actually expected a video about what this "dating" thing is all about in America. Because we don't really "date" in Germany, but in America it's a big thing right?

[@williamlucas4656]

Dating is not as big as it used to be in the US. Often people interested in each other will just "hang out" together or with a group. People will go through a more formal phase if they are not part of the same social group.

[@lilachris]

+William Lucas that's interesting! thank you for your answer :)

[@lilachris]

Ben Schmidt well, there is no formal way. if you like someone, you will try and spend more time with them and then eventually tell them that you like them. or most of the times, I guess, you somehow end up together. many couples don't even know a date for their anniversary, because it often develops slowly into a relationship.

[@lilachris]

Ben Schmidt oh okay, though I personally know that my cousins in Florida do formally date (not each other ;)), and they're in their 20s. I'm 26 and I think that dating formally might also depend on your social status, but it's never necessary or expected I think. What happens happens!

[@ivettemckenzie1646]

My husband's family is Irish. So he and his family are more reserved. I'm Mexican/Korean but Mexican is more prominent. My family is super loud and outgoing. He's really not used to it. They will randomly come and knock at 10 pm at night with no warning. To me, it's super normal. To him, not so much. We speak English at home.

[@ivettemckenzie1646]

My husband really isn't crazy about all the windows open. I prefer them open. It's a more relaxed feel.

[@nizzlevangogh6822]

What else have you noticed about Irish culture that's very different??

[@jeromemckenna7102]

Not a dating issue here, but a communication issue. My hearing has never been excellent and in the Summer with fans going on I often misunderstand my wife, it sounds a bit like the communication between Trixi and Erick.

[@DianthusSpec]

When I go shopping, than I go with my best friends, because i hate it to go with my Mom cause she wants to do all as fast es she can, but I don't like that....so when I go shopping i'll come back home in 5-6 hours