I'm the one in red shorts don't want you to take all the blame haha! It was a misunderstanding on both sides for clarification, and wouldn't want it to seem as if Jeff was abusing me. Definitely an intense match but I was very happy to be there in the moment and look forward to being able to spar you once more! 🙏 🙏 🙏
@Yeahitsme1013 жыл бұрын
The last guy ? ..
@Tj456773 жыл бұрын
@@Yeahitsme101 yes right before the backyard scene
@gutse0073 жыл бұрын
Youre such a man of honour!
@Tj456773 жыл бұрын
@@gutse007 😭👏🏼 just feel bad that Jeff went out of his way to apologize for a moment that i really enjoyed!
@brucele27763 жыл бұрын
I want to spar with you
@v92372 жыл бұрын
My dad was a successful Muay Thai fighter in Europe. And he ALWAYS wore something pink when he trained or when he fought. Never understood it. But I always wanted to fight like him and reflect him since a child and watching him train. Sooo naturally I’d wear pink hand wraps, gloves, ankle wrap etc, with no real reason expect paying homage to my dad who was the most humble fighter I knew. Until one day I visited my grandma in Europe, and my dads brother was there and I showed him a pic of me fighting and he said “wow humble like your dad. Wearing pink to show you left the ego at the door”.
@MMAShredded2 жыл бұрын
thats awesome!!
@ahverypro Жыл бұрын
awesome story
@scottage_teaches_jujutsu Жыл бұрын
Just a guess, because he knew he was a role model and wanted to make what he had to teach/offer more memorable? Everybody remembers the guy who wears pink and kicks butt, :)
@tempest_2222 Жыл бұрын
is it because pink is a feminine color? im trying to get a grasp of this
@dookieshoes66 Жыл бұрын
@·shnki ·yu that's my guess. I wear pink wraps because the other colors are boring.
@TheMathPipe3 жыл бұрын
Sparring really has its own mini culture to it.
@MMAShredded3 жыл бұрын
100%!
@coocheeze5033 жыл бұрын
@@MMAShredded 90 - 95% 😂
@OGC5582 жыл бұрын
Most hobbies that many enjoy have a mini culture to it
@dammianreyes71392 жыл бұрын
Yes😂😂
@yunggblack252 жыл бұрын
I agree!
@fighttips3 жыл бұрын
Hey Jeff, this is a very important topic that you're covering here -- one that I feel very passionate about. You bring up a lot of great points like how sparring can often be ego-driven, and how important communication is between you and your teammates. However, I have to correct and stress something you mentioned, saying that "there's nothing wrong with hard sparring." You have to remember how wide-ranged of an audience you have, from pro level fighters to first-timers. All of them have the right to know about the risk of head trauma and CTE, and that hard sparring has a high risk of injury. After taking a big hit, it's natural to want to hit back even harder. But for you and your partners health and longevity, it's better to swallow your pride after taking a big hit and say to your partner, "I'm trying to get better, I'm not trying to get hurt." Also, these clips all seem to be fast-paced, and on the harder side (even the "good etiquette"), especially to the untrained eye. Some slower or drilling clips would have been nice for beginners to see what 5% or 10% looks like, and to explain the difference of speed vs power, or that you can go harder to the body, but light to the head, or to keep the hand open inside the glove vs a tight fist, etc. We all know you're no stranger to competition, and will take on any challenge, Jeff. You're a gladiator, for sure. But I believe sparring should RARELY exceed 50% power when striking to the head (you can throw at 100% speed, but impact/power should always stay low). Head kicks should not be thrown unless the fighter has PROFICIENT control and is able to pull them. Same with all spinning techniques. I truly mean no disrespect by this comment -- I just feel that with our level of reach and authority in the combat sports world, I must take full responsibility for what is being taught and who I'm talking to. Just wanted to share my view to the others who watch this video. Thank you and take care 🙏
@allmostovr22233 жыл бұрын
ever since i started sparring light i've improved way more than when i was going hard so i agree
@joshweleacho15183 жыл бұрын
Hey Shane ! How are you hope u doin fine since the I've gone into a sparing let alone an MMA gym before but I usually train on a heavy bag I have at home is there anything I can do improve my skills with only the heavy bag as my only equipment?
@MMAShredded3 жыл бұрын
I can agree to that Shane! Thanks for the comment and sharing your knowledge!! Keep doing your thing bro!
@HutchMeister243 жыл бұрын
Big ups on this one. So many situations of escalation and injury could be avoided entirely with a simple "Hey, lets take it down a few notches" after the first hard strike or two. You're not being an asshole or a wimp for asking to go lighter, you're taking care of yourself AND YOUR PARTNER. The whole "hit as hard as you get hit" is good advice for figuring out what somebody else means by "light sparring" or "moderate sparring" etc. but its not meant as a tool to teach somebody a lesson. You have to use your common sense if you want it to stay at a reasonable level. If you want somebody to ease back, quite possibly the worst thing you can do is to hit them just as hard as they just hit you. If you're into the idea of a spontaneous hard sparring session with someone you've just met, go for it, I guess. But like Shane said, not everyone is into deciding mid-round to risk serious head injury.
@theartoffighting16433 жыл бұрын
Come to 🇮🇳 india.......
@robertnguyen94933 жыл бұрын
Rules of sparring that I abide by are quite simple. 1) Check the ego at the door. 2) Only hit as hard as you want to get hit. 3) If you want to go harder/lighter make that clear with training partner. 4) If they start to go harder than you want, politely request that they turn it down. Disclaimer: this is me personally, 5) Don’t ask more than twice, if you’ve asked twice already now you accommodate them.
@MMAShredded3 жыл бұрын
100%!
@robertnguyen94933 жыл бұрын
@@MMAShredded I feel it’s worth mentioning that #5 also applies to gym bullies.
@galanoftaa64393 жыл бұрын
This is one of the hardest part about sparing. When you don’t know your partner any perceived increase in intensity can be interpreted as a challenge.
@MMAShredded3 жыл бұрын
yeah!
@PartyController3 жыл бұрын
@Beat Mymeat legit...thank you. I never thought about it this way but it makes sense.
@mylesfranco35453 жыл бұрын
I find it interesting seeing the psychological control, or lack of when someone does not find immediate success. If you can not win by matching technique for technique, the next step is to ramp intensity until an advantage is perceived. However the victory in sparring is not from winning but from learning.
@Frenchy78ify2 жыл бұрын
@Beat Mymeat until that challenge come bak like 3-4 times, taking off after one hard perceived shot is too soon, but if the guy continue several times while you're still going pretty easy then challenge accepted lmao
@ives35723 жыл бұрын
Light technical sparring is always best, speaking based on my personal experience.
@MMAShredded3 жыл бұрын
me too!
@salamangkali-allmartialart48363 жыл бұрын
Same.
@angelsjoker81903 жыл бұрын
@ThotSlayer69 You develop toughness that way, but you'll lack in skill if you go hard all the time. As Jeff mentioned, at high intensity, you'll stick to the stuff you already can automatically. You won't try new tricks, because you need a lot of repetitions and errors to get the new movements ingrained and finetune them, but you won't do them if every single error gets punished hard. When you're comfortable with a new technique, then you can do hard sparring once in a while to pressure test it. Unfortunately, and that's something that is rarely talked about, the capacity to take damage/having a chin is a huge factor in how far you can get in fighting. That makes "tough" fighters often neglect perfecting their technique and thus leaving potential unused. And later it's much harder to correct flawed technique than spending the time on it early on. That's why you see, even on high pro-level, many fighters with flawed technique.
@amnfox3 жыл бұрын
@@MMAShredded but a few weeks prior to the fights fighters will start getting I tense. I'm training as a hobby, but all the fighters start slinging overhand rights.
@seetsamolapo56003 жыл бұрын
@@angelsjoker8190 brilliant. How would you split the sparring between hard and soft in days, if say, you're sparring daily? And what's your views of facesaver headgear - can I use that only for hard sparring?
@yungjohnathan11883 жыл бұрын
I usually tell new guys I’m sparring that I’m going to keep it technical. I also tell them to let me know if I get carried away and that I’ll let them know if they get carried away. Solid communication can help mitigate starting off lite, to turning into hard sparring thing.
@MMAShredded3 жыл бұрын
definitely agree to that!
@RamboRichardson3 жыл бұрын
That too is what I always do, but being 125 pounds it's often taken as I'm soft...until they see my technique and how hard I can hit pads or the bag. I'm also very good at pretending were fighting, so if someone ignores my request to go light and tries to test me...I will slip the cross to the outside with a fast and hard drop step at a 45° and throw an overhand lightly to the chest at the same time. The loud stomp lets them know all that power could have gone to their chin as they were stepping in. Even as a Flyweight you command respect with that. I also have a solid chin and a mean look when someone upper cuts me hard...they never do it a 2nd time.
@yungjohnathan11883 жыл бұрын
@@RamboRichardson Sometimes a mean look is all it takes. facial expressions are also a great way to let someone know that they’re going too far. I’ll sometimes just say “ damn bro you tryna take my head off?” If I notice my partner is swinging like a damn mad man haha. Usually beginners don’t mean it, other guys just wana be tough. If they wana take it there then it is what it is. Just be ready 😈
@imacryptid52542 жыл бұрын
@@yungjohnathan1188 when I first started mma I was in 8th grade and an adult man told me that if I hit him hard during sparring that he was gonna knock me out I learned nothing sparring with him that first impression was kind of bullshit I think the dude was mad because an 8th grader was twice his size
@TheDosage-Music2 жыл бұрын
At our dojo, all sparring matches begin with a TEMPERATURE CHECK: We square off low, shoulder to shoulder, head by head, and throw soft uppercuts to the body to see how hard we want to hit / be hit. This goes on for 2-3 minutes as a warm up round. No matter the experience of either opponent, this practice is mandatory. I'm unsure if everyone is taught anything similar, but it trains great restraint and respect for sparring partners.
@MMAShredded2 жыл бұрын
cheers!
@crawler90655 ай бұрын
very interesting.
@momoasraf33484 ай бұрын
aye this is next level, i gotta try this at boxing
@TheDosage-Music4 ай бұрын
@@momoasraf3348 our boxers do it too. I believe my sensei, Robert Edwards Jr. of Seattle, Washington, got it from the Wilbur Brother's Boxing gym when he was younger.
@CullyGotHands3 жыл бұрын
In my experience, light sparring is great when you’re just training/learning. Although, when you have a fight coming up, i think it’s 100% necessary to spar hard. Otherwise, you’ll be overwhelmed by the intensity of a real fight.
@MMAShredded3 жыл бұрын
I 100% agree!
@utarian710 ай бұрын
No Thais spar like that and they're the greatest strikers in the world. @@MMAShredded
@rico145 ай бұрын
@@utarian7it’s cause they fight way more frequently, so they’re used to the intensity of a fight. Whereas guys in the west fight maybe 3 times a year, so they need to feel that intensity.
@utarian75 ай бұрын
@@rico14 Then you may as well fight. Why take damage for free?
@zachf88553 жыл бұрын
A lot of people need to watch this video
@MMAShredded3 жыл бұрын
thank you!! hope it can be shared!
@187Cazcrash3 жыл бұрын
I boxed for 10 years, trained with pros and olympic athletes. This video is a rarity : I agree with seemingly everything you said about sparring etiquette. One key difference is sometimes the guy you don't know and that hits hard is indeed an asshole. I was going 50-60% with a guy I didn't know, who was getting ready for a fight. I had arrived at the gym (I'm a regular there, he's a guest) 15 minutes prior to the sparring session, my coach knew I was game to spar short notice because I'm that guy who would rather spar than do anything else. He's going 75-80% l, I'm a HW, he was a cruiserweight, I understand the difference in intensity. I'm circling left to right getting closer to him to allow him to work the inside, he uses that moment to go with a left hook from my blindside, KOs me cold. He said it was because I was winning the round that he needed to amp it up. The coach was furious about this explanation : the guy went 100% on a blindsided hook because he was losing the sparring session. That was also the only time I ever got KOd in sparring, because the change of pace caught me by surprise. I also sparred an ex-USSR HW champion, classic fencer style, his sparring was always 100% but I knew about that as he told me beforehand. He was banned from the gym later on after he destroyed a young hockey player learning how to fight, in front of his father and little brother too. I'm rambling now, good video!!
@MMAShredded3 жыл бұрын
ahh wow, that sucks. thanks for sharing your experience man! thanks for watching!
@rickymort135 Жыл бұрын
More rambling!!
@zedka5261 Жыл бұрын
Hey men i need some advice here, I’m not a professional or a « veteran » in kickboxing (been practicing for over 2month now) and in my last session of sparring with a guy that went hard on me (like 100% power ) he KO me with a high kick that i didn’t see coming at all(we don’t have head protection when we sparr cuz the coach expect us to go only 50% of power I actually sparred a lot before the incident but idk i feel like if i go back im gonna have some sort of ”special treatment” at the gym that i don’t want to have and therefore i think im gonna stop kickboxing I got KO really bad like went out for 5s i think So i need some advice on how to continue like should i go back to training as if nothing happened or just stop and im just simple not fit for that
@187Cazcrash Жыл бұрын
@@zedka5261 I went back to the gym the very next day, yes the guys and the coaches took a few minutes to give me the "special treament" as you called it, a bit of ribbing, saying I looked pretty with my black eyeliner ect.. I didn't spar for a month as a precaution and eased back into it after that. I went back as if it's part of the game. A game I still enjoyed and that's the key part : do you think you still enjoy kickboxing? Even after getting KOd? Answering that question will likely tell you where you go from there. But honestly from what you wrote, doesn't seem like you enjoy it anymore. There is no shame in quitting if you don't feel safe and if you don't enjoy the sport anymore. Being cut out for fighting has nothing to do with it, no one is good at first, they should have never put you in a situation where you can get Kod after only 2 months of training, that isn't your fault.
@utarian710 ай бұрын
My grappling coach advised me against training with someone. Said "he goes really soft and then out of nowhere ups the intensity. That's the most likely way to get injured."
@thatbroman64093 жыл бұрын
I feel like more people need to see this ,we all have one or two people who go skitzo in the gym
@MMAShredded3 жыл бұрын
haha yeah.. :/
@mrspud25473 жыл бұрын
I have this tall lad I spar with and hes my only sparring partner sometimes we have good spars and sometimes he dominates me but when he dominates me its cos I'm flustered from his jabs and because its boxing I want to throw a multiple punch combo but you cant really do that with punches being slowed down cos you just get countered instead of being able to fluster him and pick my shots have and I just feel like I'm being pushed into a spar that is made for me to lose when I'm told to chill out after being popped five times from the outside😂 Have I been getting duped? Or am I just too emotional?
@mikegoodwin59513 жыл бұрын
@@mrspud2547 you shouldn’t be getting countered just because you’re throwing slower. There’s reactions to counters and counters to counters. This should be practise for those techniques
@H33t3Speaks3 жыл бұрын
Maybe you should watch your mouth?
@anthonysosa92993 жыл бұрын
@@mrspud2547 Figure out his ⏱ timing. Also move your feet and head more so they jab doesn’t hitz
@infidel900rr2 жыл бұрын
Great video. At my old gym sparring was always at 80-100%. We often had guests who would come in just to spar us. It felt like a war every time. Hard to grow in that environment.
@MMAShredded2 жыл бұрын
cheers!
@CoronaryArteryDisease.2 жыл бұрын
Wish people understood that gyms are for training and community before anything. Many people love to fight but not in a way that will increase their chance of brain issues. Glad you survived that gym.
@isaiahkenny35442 жыл бұрын
That's not sparring that's fighting!
@belikewater4202 жыл бұрын
My gym wouldn't let that slide. Someone fresh comes in hitting amateurs that hard, they put em with a pro who will match or exceed them to show them how it feels. Mostly, they get humble, start flowing, and all is well. Sometimes they cannot disengage the ego and get beat out of the gym.
@FiniteMan19332 жыл бұрын
Bro I have the same problem 😭
@michaelbruno11343 жыл бұрын
I really like how you included examples of YOU being at fault yourself. That shows humility and that is good.
@MMAShredded3 жыл бұрын
thank you!
@MrHabsfan893 жыл бұрын
Haven’t done Muay Thai in 3 years because someone was sparring so hard I was puking after shots to the head. Definitely great tips in here, and please use your words if you think your partner is going too hard!!
@MMAShredded3 жыл бұрын
I hope you have recovered and I hope you give training a chance again! cheers brother!
@bricktea36453 жыл бұрын
R u sure they weren't body shot? I am inexperienced I didn't know u can puke taking head shots,dizzy and a headache sounds realistic.
@MrHabsfan893 жыл бұрын
@@bricktea3645 yeah I mean it’s just like any contact sport. Get hit hard enough in the head and you can feel dizzy and nauseous, like a concussion
@theelysium15972 жыл бұрын
@@MrHabsfan89 Because they are concussions
@THIS---GUY2 жыл бұрын
@@bricktea3645 look up the different levels of concussion and their symptoms. Important to know what you're getting yourself into.
@daxisperry76443 жыл бұрын
I’ve noticed when people are relatively inexperienced, sometimes they can’t go fast without going hard. Like they can’t separate the two. Also, I had a sparring session where we were going fast (not hard) but right as I threw a Cross they stepped it and leaned their head back and I cracked them right in the nose. I felt so bad Dx
@MMAShredded3 жыл бұрын
yes I agree, sometimes its just not the students fault and its just that they are inexperienced!
@closeredge51983 жыл бұрын
One thing that was practiced at a few thai gyms was open hand in glove for daily sparring.... it kept the arms loose, but you could still move fast without cracking someone...you may not be comfortable safety wise with that but it helped many to Amp things down and learn to control themselves
@hillauch3 жыл бұрын
Iam a beginner sparring bigger much more experienced guys. They tell me exactly what you discribe... Any tips on how to go fast without going hard?
@asdfasdf-ob7mo3 жыл бұрын
@@hillauch alright so big disclaimer, this was probably rly fn stupid, but i guess i was lucky enough to never injure myself doing this and i feel it did really help me gain much more control in the end (meaning i felt way more confident in sparring in any martial arts i did afterwards in regards to not injuring my partner, BUT i never actually fought and if you want to actually compete, not just train, this might be counterproductive): i started "kicking trees" in my backyard as a kid WITHOUT(!) touching them, and later very lightly touching them (while going full speed tho). Saplings are obviously better than big fat tree trunks, and while doing it with your span feels totally badass when you get it right i guess you might break your foot if youre not careful. I practiced both kicking with the span and the ball of the foot, I'd strongly advise against using your shin doing this. I "only" hurt my foot twice from this, and it only hurt for one day each BUT i was practicing my kicks a lot on mitts during practice, by running my taegueks (TKD kata), and by just kicking air a lot. Like a lot lot, imagine a hyperactive kid living in the countryside with no soccer buddies around lot lol. Now that i'm older and my knees are kinda fucked up from playing a lot of football later in life, i wouldn't do this the way i did back then anymore, because a) i dont like the hyperextension you get in your knees from kicking air fast without any resistance at the end + snapping back into stance and b) it's kinda imprinting bad aim/technique because you train to have full extension before you make contact with your target instead of keeping a technique where you kick through your target but taking the power out before making contact, which would leave you with a bent knee when you make contact - like you see Jeff and other good fighters do it when they spar (imagine me doing a snapping roundhouse, fast but zero weight behind it, very different from kickboxing or muay thai roundhouse and only good if you catch your opponent without him seeing it coming - which is the whole point of that snapping headkick) so take all this with a HUGE pile of salt. I do feel like doing this has helped me tremendously in controlling my kicks tho. In case ur wondering how a kid could be this stupid: we spar with wests in TKD, and as a kid i thought that gave me the green light to just go all out on my sparring partner (back then i just saw him as my "opponent", dumb competitive 10yo mentality). Long story short, i was so in the zone one day that i legit didnt realize i was beating this other kid up so bad with body kicks that he couldn't hold back his tears anymore by the end of the round (not tryna brag, i was being an ass beating up a very casual yellow belt as a hypercompetitive green belt transitioning to my blue belt so i should've known much better). After that i felt so bad that i wanted to have enough control over my techniques to safely spar without hurting the other folks even with headkicks (which we weren't allowed to do in sparring as green belts yet btw). I was always paired with the older dudes after that incident and i think they kinda tried to teach me a well deserved lesson for it lol, good times and learned alot by getting my ass handed to me by the brown belts :) had to get used to those tibia cuddles real quick lol PS: tbh if you use a ball hanging from a branch or the ceiling that could be a useful tool to do what i did back then the smart way, just try kicking it as fast as you can, making contact but without booting the ball into the ceiling. Let's you keep proper form, easier on your knees, and no risk of breaking your foot. I might actually try that tomorrow :D
@theoneseraph3 жыл бұрын
Especially with some of the bigger guys, I've seen new members come in to the gym and throw bombs not realising how strong they are, but then they go too light and passive because they're scared of their own strength, it's a tough middle ground to find but once you find it, man you're golden. Another thing too is understanding your sparring partner, we had a boy come in who had autism and didn't understand how to control himself so his parents brought him in to get some discipline. He started out as a very shy person, not asking to spar and just hitting the bag instead so I took him to one side and explained that even if he accidentally knocked someone out, as long as he was sorry, it would be OK. Handed him over to one of the coaches who wrapped him up and put him through his paces with a training partner who could handle him if it got out of control.
@brunobonini49203 жыл бұрын
Like you said, it's always better just talk with your partner when things start to ramp up, but it hurts our ego so bad that we tend to choose for a bad training session
@MMAShredded3 жыл бұрын
haha yeah been there so many times :(
@kalenhouse3 жыл бұрын
I spared from bjj, boxing, and kickboxing. I remember a time I was sparring with a fellow classmate who's a fucking beast at least 20lbs bigger than me. Anyways we started out light and I went a little to hard without realizing it and my classmate stops me and ask, "hey do you want to go light or do you really want to go hard, cause I'll go hard and we both won't get anything out of this sparring session ". At that point I knew I fucked up lol. I apologized and we went back to light technical sparring. I would say light to medium sparring is where it's at to really learn.
@brunobonini49203 жыл бұрын
@@kalenhouse yeah, I think you need hard sparring from time to time to pressure test what you know. But light sparring should definitely be the basis
@h.r.1692 жыл бұрын
@@brunobonini4920 agreed. hard sparring can have its benefits but it shouldn’t be the goal since injuries happen. probably best to just spar lightly.
@ayomarvo3 жыл бұрын
I like this, Sparring etiquette wasn’t something mentioned during Muay thai class. It was usually Spar,Spar, SPAR… I found myself being the only one that would apologize if i felt i hit someone hard.. I’d usually be hard on myself bc i didn’t think it mattered. No one ever talked to newbies or encouraged me to talk to my sparring partners the level we want to spar at. Thank you Sensei
@MMAShredded3 жыл бұрын
thanks for watching :)
@fitheskeper21143 жыл бұрын
I love your videos! I’m an old guy who doesn’t train anymore. But watching you it’s motivated me to start working again. I love your humility. As well, you have some great insight on fighting and are a great student as well as a teacher . Keep up the good work . You got an old guy off the couch , thank you young man!!
@MMAShredded3 жыл бұрын
thank you for support and I am glad I had a positive influence on you!!!
@kickboxingunderground3 жыл бұрын
This is a good video to have students watch before they start sparring. Or even maybe for new sparring partners (if there is the opportunity). Setting a proper understanding of sparring, and of expectations between partners, goes a long way towards keeping sparring productive and not combative.
@MMAShredded3 жыл бұрын
100% man!!! thanks for watching!
@cehinton3 жыл бұрын
@@mmoj416 Yeah, I don't mean playing it before class. I mean it's a good video to share with people when they're interested in sparring, kind of like a "reading list" is when you're taking a class.
@JukemDrawles873 жыл бұрын
It’s really admirable how you keep composure even when their egos get heavily involved. My ego never gets involved
@MMAShredded3 жыл бұрын
thanks for watching!
@fizziz_10353 жыл бұрын
Chad guts
@Dtchmastrkilla73 жыл бұрын
It´s often really hard to balance between fast striking and hard striking. You might accidentally hit hard when you just meant to strike fast. And like you said in this video, your partner might confuse fast strikes with hard strikes and it can escalate quickly.
@MMAShredded3 жыл бұрын
100%!
@mylesfranco35453 жыл бұрын
Great video! This brings back so many memories. It's so hard to keep ego out of it, I think all martial artists are competitive by nature. Its hard to maintain the perfect balance between technique and intensity when your heart just wants a sense of victory. The best sparring partners are the ones who only care about perfecting the art together, sparring partners are teammates not enemies!
@MMAShredded3 жыл бұрын
thanks for watching!!
@isaiahkenny35442 жыл бұрын
Exactly
@Moist_yet_Crispy3 жыл бұрын
This video should be shown in every gym in America on a regular basis. So many students quit due to safety or injury from sparring and breaches in sparring etiquette for whatever reason. This video is absolute gold for MMA or MA in general. I know I pulled out of sparring at various points in nearly every gym/school I went to because I couldn't trust my sparring partners.
@MMAShredded3 жыл бұрын
thanks for watching :)
@mezzuna3 жыл бұрын
I've always enjoyed watching these videos on your channel as the blistering speed and teachnique is so pleasant to watch. I did boxing in my youth from 16- around 22. Every spar (almost) was hard sparring and not only do I find myself in my 30's tripping over my words, I really believe I never reached my potential. I hope martial arts as a whole spreads and fast, light technical sparring most of the time becomes the norm
@MMAShredded3 жыл бұрын
I def agree, light sparring is the way to progress!!
@Parkeraust1n3 жыл бұрын
“to be honest 90-95%”😂😂
@MMAShredded3 жыл бұрын
LOL
@karimshebeika80103 жыл бұрын
another important point he makes is the speed/power/weight problem. Being a light guy, it is easy for me to be quick. Sparring heavier opponents made me realize that, if someone heavier wants to reach the same speed, their shots automatically increase in power (obviously cause massxspeed=force).
@lzrshrk04123 жыл бұрын
@@karimshebeika8010 yeah that depends on how much they're pulling their punches
@karimshebeika80103 жыл бұрын
@@lzrshrk0412 what does "pull punches" actually mean? Decrease power or stop before full extension?
@karimshebeika80103 жыл бұрын
@@lzrshrk0412 The point I was trying to make was: Heavier guys cant match speed without going harder naturally
@jorxaunfiltered3 жыл бұрын
I've had sparring partner who would say "let's do a light sparring" and try to land hard strikes and then would apologize or get mad when i picked up the pace... people like then are down horrendous 🙄
@MMAShredded3 жыл бұрын
haha 🙄 I see! I hope you can find better partners too!
@aanghel3 жыл бұрын
Brother in your “why you transitioned to mma” video, what’s the name of the last instrumental you used? Hope all is well with you.
@MMAShredded3 жыл бұрын
hey brother, the artist's name is OGGY BEATZ!
@Nug_Lord3 жыл бұрын
I subscribed because of this interaction
@sytokai66533 жыл бұрын
@@Nug_Lord Fr tho 😂😂
@Rich-tl7nm3 жыл бұрын
@@Nug_Lord same. 😁
@nicksalvatore57173 жыл бұрын
@@Rich-tl7nm just subbed. He's really cool for replying to every comment
@inigocenozhuarte6362 Жыл бұрын
So cool to see you sparring with your friend Fred that was wholesome
@MMAShredded Жыл бұрын
fred is awesome!
@jayceeinvincible3 жыл бұрын
Oh I definitely remember that one incident in Bali. To this day still glad you bang him up my brotha
@MMAShredded3 жыл бұрын
HAHA thanks brother!
@OldWorldNY3 жыл бұрын
Thanks for educating the youth my mans 👏🔥🙏 sparring can literally make or break a fighter.. watch n learn folks!
@MMAShredded3 жыл бұрын
thanks for watching brother!
@HudsonKane3 жыл бұрын
'Misunderstanding' is the key repeated phrase. I think its a good idea to discuss expectations with every partner, every round. Even just 'same as last round', 'ramp up power a little', 'lets go light this one'.
@MMAShredded3 жыл бұрын
I can agree with that!
@dcgregorya54343 жыл бұрын
Just like a marriage lol
@ThirdLawPair3 жыл бұрын
Especially for novice fighters who are trying to simultaneously learn to gauge/control their power and learn good etiquette. They need the verbal feedback as much as they need the physical feedback.
@JamesJohnson-pz8pu3 жыл бұрын
I have done boxing and kickboxing for many years now and I’ve experienced all of these problems. As I am now experienced and matured in the sports, I have found the key to safe sparing is to communicate with your partner beforehand and quickly agree on a pace you’d like to spar at and you’ll find that most people would say around 50% to 70%. Sometimes it might even be ‘light to the head and hard as you like to the body’. I’ve heard people communicate before sparing and they’ve said “I’ll hit you as hard as you hit me” and this really isn’t good because you can accidentally land a hard shot and to carry out the rest of the spar at 100% isn’t safe 😁 hope you guys appreciate my comment and that it helps you when you’re next in the gym, stay safe 🥊
@MMAShredded3 жыл бұрын
true, I agree!
@angusmurray65783 жыл бұрын
As someone who spars very rarely and likes to keep to grappling and a few muai thai classes this was really helpful. My biggest fear when sparing is not being in control of my actions with someone levels above me, throwing a shot which was not in line with tempo and getting lit up as punishment. I would then lose the opportunity to learn and they are getting very little out of the spar. I see it happen all the time in gyms. I see it as a conversation, good faith conversations happen again. Bad faith conversations make us feel ugly, and in the case of fighting..give us brain damage.
@MMAShredded3 жыл бұрын
cheers!
@Nepthu3 жыл бұрын
Great video! I love sparring but new people are always terrible at it because they can't control their intensity. I view sparring as rough play and do it for fun and exercise, not injury.
@MMAShredded3 жыл бұрын
yeah its true! gotta value those experienced sparring partners!
@ashb42753 жыл бұрын
Exactly, I think new people don't know how to control themselves and get a bit overanxious when sparring someone they know is more skilled than them. I always find if a new person is getting a bit too out of hand, a well placed hard body kick usually settles them down haha.
@YamiYoshii3 жыл бұрын
Love this. Intensity and speed does not have to mean power shots when guys go "hard". Some students have a hard time understanding that. I had a few instances where I would increase volume but not power, and typically newer guys would think of that as a slight challenge to go harder with power shots.
@MMAShredded3 жыл бұрын
100%
@zrod63483 жыл бұрын
Your coaches head movement is crazy!!!! Best I’ve seen maybe lol
@MMAShredded3 жыл бұрын
haha yeah he's good!!!
@cryptomo87942 жыл бұрын
I applaud you for sharing so openly and honestly about what makes good & bad sparring partners, and having the honor to show when you were in the wrong. Thank you Jeff, I learned a lot from this video and look forward to taking it to the dojo
@TheUmmahFightCamp3 жыл бұрын
I have been training for 50 years. This person speaking is very wise beyond his years and right.
@MMAShredded3 жыл бұрын
thank you sir!!
@Legkicker3 жыл бұрын
Wish my old Muay Thai coach would see this. I was loving it and would have some hard rounds occasionally. He never listened when I asked for light sparring because he injured me on multiple occasions within 3 days of training. One night I had done 2 hours of training and over 20 sparring rounds and I had him to end the day, I kindly requested light sparring. He didn’t listen, knocked me out cold, gave me a concussion that lasted for 3 weeks and I haven’t trained since (This was just over a month ago). So now I’m looking for an MMA gym with a good environment for sparring because it’s not sustainable taking damage like that in training especially at a young age.
@MMAShredded3 жыл бұрын
oh wow that's crazy. Glad you are not with that coach anymore. A good gym environment is the most important!
@Legkicker3 жыл бұрын
@@MMAShredded He put me in hospital until 4am when I had university the next day.
@mace_xuo38183 жыл бұрын
That is one of the trickiest things to learn in early combat sport. Sometimes people don't realise that connecting with speed =power shot. It's about knowing how to pull out at that last second to still connect and still close out the shot without injury to partners. Most people take a long time to learn this and you end up having 70-80% sparring sessions until people get more familiar with the sport.
@MMAShredded3 жыл бұрын
true!
@coachronhelpingtoheal71353 жыл бұрын
Thank you Jeff for this video. My injuries from long ago are healing and I am getting back into training after 18 years off. This is a great refresher for me and to share honorable sparring etiquette with fighters at a gym that I am training at. Hoping to meet up with you one day and have fun and spar.
@MMAShredded3 жыл бұрын
thank you man id love to meet up one day!
@sebastianlencina85492 жыл бұрын
the way u are in this entire video , show a true warrior , disciple and master of life and martial arts , thx for the motivation about who u are , i train martial arts and sport all my life ( about 33 years of practice ) and this is the first time to see something like this about true respect , honor and wisdom for partners , humans , masters and disciple's , i enjoy a lot urs vids
@plexq3 жыл бұрын
Really great to watch. I was sparing last week in my gym, and the guy I was sparing with just wouldn't pull back. He kept telling me that that _I_ should be pushing through my punches and kicks more. I ended up with a bruised breast-bone so much so I couldn't really do any partner work for more than a week. I'm fairly new to the sport (like just 6 months under my belt of 2-3 a week partner training), and maybe only a half a dozen or so sparing sessions, and I have to say, I'm feeling concerned about going to back to sparing after that experience. Your comment about going back regardless of a single bad experience is encouraging, and it's nice to see that misunderstandings do happen, and often its easy to correct with good communication and sort it out. Thanks for posting this.
@MMAShredded3 жыл бұрын
thanks for sharing your experience, cheers!!
@alaskatoburningmen45493 жыл бұрын
Damn, slamming you into the floor in sparring 1 st time with a 50 lbs weight advantage...i'm at a loss for words...what a meathead!!
@MMAShredded3 жыл бұрын
thanks for watching!!
@daslick60853 жыл бұрын
and he still got owned lmao
@silase20293 жыл бұрын
This channel is such a blessing
@MMAShredded3 жыл бұрын
thank you man!
@koberowland97983 жыл бұрын
Just about to go to sparring and u post this stop reading my mind!!
@MMAShredded3 жыл бұрын
HAHHAHA
@catyson913 жыл бұрын
Well done Jeff! My rule of thumb is if you can't smile every now and then while you're sparring, you aren't learning as much as you can.
@MMAShredded3 жыл бұрын
100% bro thanks for watching!
@williamsilva73582 жыл бұрын
Great video that should be seen by everyone who spars regardless of the discipline or style of fighting. I find that most of best fighters have excellent control and consistently work on technique rather than being focused on just winning. Sometimes when you spar with new people they try to bulldoze you and it is necessary to match or slightly exceed their intensity. I enjoy heavy sparring occasionally but it has to be done without ego. Some guys don’t mind dishing it out but dislike being on the receiving end of the punishment. I have been both the hammer and the nail but I always work on being calm and considerate during my sparring sessions.The mental game is just as important and developing the physical attributes of fighting. Usually it’s best to communicate the desired level of intensity with new partners. It’s appreciated that experienced fighters such as yourself are willing to share some insight on the subject. Thanks!
@MMAShredded2 жыл бұрын
thanks for watching!
@10t0esdown3 жыл бұрын
Great content again, Jeff! I think most guys who have been in the mix for a while, know this all too well. The good ones let the other dictate the pace, they keep the primal instinct, but leave the emotion out. Those are the partners to stay with. 🙏 🥊 🦵
@MMAShredded3 жыл бұрын
thank you for watching man!
@hassanalialqadiri3 жыл бұрын
just came back from sparring with a heavier guy where we agreed to go lighter. as time went, we upped to power and it ended up being like 90%. after landing really good shots i felt bad. i think within the heat of the moment, it's difficult to stay focused while worrying about the power of the shots. i find that sticking with a good partner is key so etiquette isn't an issue because both sparring partners know what eachothers' limits are
@MMAShredded3 жыл бұрын
true!
@mattiasandersson8693 Жыл бұрын
That’s why I personally only go harder with people I know and have sparred with for a long time. You know their preferred level and they know yours, so you don’t risk something getting out of hand
@guyver00053 жыл бұрын
You and Gabriel Varga should do a collaboration!
@MMAShredded3 жыл бұрын
would love to one day!
@mndeg3 жыл бұрын
Oh yeah, they're both Canadians
@broakenlag3 жыл бұрын
Second this, great idea!!
@mndeg3 жыл бұрын
There's bazooka Joe too. He's also in Canada.
@OLDMANNATHAN3 жыл бұрын
Fred is an amazing instructor. He was in Peterborough for a seminar before covid hit, and I honestly couldn't get over how much I learned in the few hour visit.
@MMAShredded3 жыл бұрын
he's the best for sure!!!
@jmueller8081 Жыл бұрын
The two I loved watching were you and your “lifetime” sparring friend. And you and the gentleman named Manuel. He was incredible to watch and seemed good mannered.
@martynkaa64502 жыл бұрын
I was told a story by someone who was once a newbie and the instructor let or even made him fight with much more experienced fighters who went much too hard on them. The person eventually became as good as who he used to fight against, maybe even better but they also became egoistic and would offer to spar complete newbies or ppl who never trained the sport (I was one of his friends he would spar) and would go too hard on them causing injury. He did that to me but he also must have not liked me much as he was more aggressive towards me than others.
@DeeBeeScribe3 жыл бұрын
When you have a CLEAR advantage on your partner that's when you have to have to slow them down, decrease your own intensity below theirs and turn the session into a lesson. When you're clearly the more experienced and skilled fighter it is really selfish to use the rounds to pummel the inexperienced fighter.
@MMAShredded3 жыл бұрын
I can agree with that! cheers!
@overtflow3 жыл бұрын
great vid
@MMAShredded3 жыл бұрын
thank you!
@LeoLeeGaming2 жыл бұрын
I haven't practiced martial arts in a long time(sparring), but I always communicated during sparring sessions. It's too easy for things to get out of hand if both people remain silent. I think it's just better to agree on intensity beforehand and let each other know if there was a strike that was too hard. Keep the anger in check. With that said, my favorite was always fast with medium intensity to the body and light with everything else. Nothing better than sparring with someone you are good friends with or someone with mutual respect and trust. Love your videos man!
@FoxySpartan1172 жыл бұрын
Amazing! This is really important to feel out and know, especially for someone like me who isn't good at recognizing others and general emotions.
@tigahstyle3 жыл бұрын
This should be shown as like an employee training video to new students. "Welcome to the academy. Please sign this waiver and watch this video."
@MMAShredded3 жыл бұрын
HAHA true
@rriicckk7873 жыл бұрын
Always always always gotta be ready for when someone tries to take your head off when its someone you haven’t spared with before. I feel like he guy that dropped you was having trouble with your quick feet and couldn’t land anything unless you were in close. It looked like a frustrated shot but not intentionally meant to hurt you. A lot of props for showing that clip though.
@MMAShredded3 жыл бұрын
thank you for the support!
@zrod63483 жыл бұрын
Jesus loves you!❤️ you’re awesome!
@MMAShredded3 жыл бұрын
thank you!!!
@CKpremium19922 жыл бұрын
that sparring during the good etiquette segment was beautiful.. like my god thats what art in martial arts looks like. good stuff bro.
@DoYouDontYou893 жыл бұрын
The powerbomb as a defense for a triangle choke is a big part of why I ALWAYS try to hook the leg. You never know when someone might try to elevate you. Hooking the leg also makes the choke much tighter and energy efficient imo.
@MMAShredded3 жыл бұрын
cheers!
@oziaus3 жыл бұрын
It's all good until the dude throws an oblique kick and then all the rules fall off the table.
@MMAShredded3 жыл бұрын
I agree as long as it is a controlled oblique kick! but yeah a hard one would piss me off too haha
@stevena33333 жыл бұрын
6:09 he didn’t throw an elbow, it looked like he was just pulling away or simulated where he might have thrown an elbow. Watch it at .25x
@tjnmma3 жыл бұрын
Sparring etiquette is huge. This is why I came from a martial arts “school“ as opposed to an MMA gym. Lots of crappy people out there and sadly lots of crappy gyms. Keep up the good work Brother 👍🏻
@MMAShredded3 жыл бұрын
100% man cheers!
@lavish51532 жыл бұрын
As a trainer of kickboxing i have to say i agree with most of this but there are parts i disagree with for example when your opponent goes harder then you want them to you, the rule of hit them harder makes it 100x worse as it will keep getting harder the best way to stop this is get rid of the ego and say to your partner go lighter.
@jc360able2 жыл бұрын
I've been seeing you for many years, you've changed, you've got the face of a fighter
@MMAShredded2 жыл бұрын
haha thanks!
@w4rf4c393 жыл бұрын
This is a big reason I’m hesitant in engaging with people that are new to me. Especially when they’re sometimes 2 or 3 weight classes above me. I’ve learned to always be extremely cautious with anyone you don’t know. I have had people try to take my head off in sparring even after verbally agreeing we would be going light. When that happens you either need to be vocal with them and let them know that you don’t want to go that hard or tighten up your guard and match their energy. Great video brother, thank you 🙏
@MMAShredded3 жыл бұрын
I agree man! thanks for sharing your exp!
@Autorall3 жыл бұрын
Man, you were in control ALL the time, even with the 'axxholes' trying to hurt you. Fast, precise and strong. SO GOOD! A lesson to learn. Congrats on your work. Following you here.
@MMAShredded3 жыл бұрын
thank you bro!
@drae4082 жыл бұрын
I tell people this, I will give you what you give me. You do a great job with telling people the difference.
@MMAShredded2 жыл бұрын
cheers!
@ziapsp41673 жыл бұрын
Man, that sparring session shows how well rounded you are and skilled. Very impressive. Dude had it coming. You still stayed cool. You let him off easy. ✊
@MMAShredded3 жыл бұрын
thank you brother!
@22leggedsasquatch3 жыл бұрын
People can communicate during sparring.. this avoids misunderstandings and corrects mistakes. It's also very clear when someone deliberately goes hard and when they are lying about it being an 'accident'. In which case, teach them a lesson. Good video.
@MMAShredded3 жыл бұрын
thanks for watching!
@patricioferraggi5052 жыл бұрын
I watch this often on fridays since that is sparring day for me. It is a good reminder. Have a nice day.
@ivanpinto87233 жыл бұрын
Thanks for putting this online, speaking about all of this behaviours in the "sparring" makes me realize its not all about power in terms of training methods and objectives, really its amazing!! Thank you a lot, greetings from Argentina.
@MMAShredded3 жыл бұрын
thanks for watching!
@Canal_Marte3 жыл бұрын
That's what i say, what is accorded by both sides, will never get expensive. Perfect video.
@MMAShredded3 жыл бұрын
thanks Marcell!
@KevinLeeVlog2 жыл бұрын
Keeping a great communication between you and your partner is so important! Great video bro!
@MMAShredded2 жыл бұрын
100% man! thanks!!
@45nolo2 жыл бұрын
People, keep in mind that a well placed shot can feel "more intense" even if it wasnt. In my fairly small experience sparring I think misunderstandings happen mainly when working with someone outside of you weight class. Big guys shots are gonna feel heavy for a smaller guy unless they've worked togheter before and trust each other. But, even in your own gym, you should always give what you receive no matter what. After watching this vid, I feel I would approach "sparring" as a visitor other gyms as a fight mindset and be ready for whatever. Even if things remain civil and controlled, I wouldn't let my guard down. Too many clowns/assholes in MMA gyms.
@lordhanzo75443 жыл бұрын
Bro you seem like such a humble guy much respect. Thank you for the lesson. Such a positive fighter 🙏🏾
@MMAShredded3 жыл бұрын
thank you brother!
@TsukiyoHeiki2 жыл бұрын
You earned yourself a new sub, man! I love the way you explain things calmly and in detail, truly inspiring. Keep it up!
@MMAShredded2 жыл бұрын
thanks for the support brother!!
@konkyolife2 жыл бұрын
Your Father, God bless him, raised a well mannered confident young man. You do him proud.
@MMAShredded2 жыл бұрын
thank you brother!
@turbofister60003 жыл бұрын
this is one of the best videos ive watched on youtube, seriously. and you reply to a lot of comments, thank you
@MMAShredded3 жыл бұрын
thank you man I appreciate it!
@isaiahkenny35442 жыл бұрын
This was a must have conversation for the martial arts world I experienced both whether they naturally hit hard or they was ego tripping with my experiences from sparring I definitely experienced them all but for the times I was discouraged I went back better than before!
@320speed3 жыл бұрын
Jeff you the Man! I love your content and I've been a long-term supporter for years. My only thoughts about this is when you travel to other gyms and spar, some people (not everyone) who already train there can take it as a challenge, especially if you come from a rival gym or have trained at high level. It's mostly a ego thing, that's what it is. Technical sparring is always the most effective and efficient way of sparring.
@MMAShredded3 жыл бұрын
thanks for the support brother! and yes I can agree, some people see the camera and definitely want to beat me up haha!!
@320speed3 жыл бұрын
@@MMAShredded Yh i bet, just like the old adage says, ego will only get you so far. People that are driven by ego will eventually become stale. Successful business men can leave that at the door. That's why you're doing so much better for yourself productively and financially then they are.
@-007-Warzone-MW3-MW23 жыл бұрын
If you ever open a gym in Toronto please let the people know I will join you are a treasure chest of knowledge and I am very proud as a Canadian to watch you grow
@MMAShredded3 жыл бұрын
thank you Liam!!
@gerylagrande3 жыл бұрын
When lockdown is lifted next week in my country i'm hitting a new gym so that video is very helpfull cause in my old gym we all knew each others fighting style. Thanks👍
@MMAShredded3 жыл бұрын
sweet!
@ChernobylClocks3 жыл бұрын
The sparring between him and his Coach Fred Stonehouse is an excellent example of how hard sparring should be high intensity but stripped of any ego
@MMAShredded3 жыл бұрын
100% :)
@HariOmRadhaKrishna3 жыл бұрын
I agree with your opinions on how to pace a sparring match. We do so much sparring on tests, that we've split all the upper coloured belts & Dan tests into 2 days. Forms, & Drills on day 1, Sparring & meditation on day 2. We start with Continuous or Technique Sparring, which we call Kickboxing. We do a little Rolling sparring for fun (5 minute rounds - no points). Primarily we practice padded single stick Eskrima-Kali-Arnis sparring + some padded double stick, sword & dagger, & padded knife fighting.
@MMAShredded3 жыл бұрын
thanks for sharing your experience!
@HariOmRadhaKrishna3 жыл бұрын
@@MMAShredded I am not experienced in MMA, but have been training in Eskrima-Kali-Arnis & Karate since 1987. This was a very well thought out explanation of why one doesn't need to hit hard/full-power during friendly sparring matches. This attitude applies to Karate/Kickboxing & E-K-A sparring as well.
@parasimon87232 жыл бұрын
Fr one of the best videos on yt Such a nice style of fighting as well as video making
@jasoncontreras16482 жыл бұрын
Your approach to sparring etiquette is spot on. Very mature and very sound. Incredible vid. 🤘🤘
@MMAShredded2 жыл бұрын
:) thanks!
@Brandon-w3o3 жыл бұрын
One of the best channels out there! That's the bigger bro I wish I had...!!
@MMAShredded3 жыл бұрын
thanks man :)
@FiremanKevin3 жыл бұрын
Yes. To add to technique no no’s- I’d say snap kicks to face and kicks forward to the knee. I’ve had people ‘drop by to check out class’. Decide to spar (I agree with you, I always spar them first to see if I’ll allow them work with students) and it’s ALWAYS either too hard or a shady technique. So. Now we are fighting, stranger. Those people rarely have the capacity or humility to learn. Being a guest is the murkiest water. Because you have a target on you. It’s just what it is. So I think matching intensity is fair play.
@MMAShredded3 жыл бұрын
100%!
@jordanbassist298311 ай бұрын
I see a problem that was not mentioned, and is the lack of communication: If you are sparring with a guy that is going harder than you, then tell him to lower the intensity, if he wants to spar harder because he's preparing a fight that's not your problem. I say that because I always see people complaining about hard sparrings, and their response is to go harder in order to match the instensity. If you are going 50% and your opponent 80% then try 65%, something in between so both of you can adapt to your needs.
@FightingSpirt2 жыл бұрын
This is great advice. I have Friday nights spars at my mma gym and went against a guy who stated he did not have much experience so I went easy. He threw a teep at 90 percent power and knocked me good. I then went a second and third round with him and sweeped and clinched him since he was tkd guy. He then mellow out and made excuses about bad neck and back. I told that's it super disengious to lie about experience and then start beating up other students who don't have as much experience. This video helps define it.
@MMAShredded2 жыл бұрын
cheers!!
@o0cscore0o3 жыл бұрын
I’ve experienced this myself and noticed that the ones who usually go hard without matching are the ones who don’t know their strength. The worst are the new members that spar with ego and then someone ends up getting injured. Good video nonetheless. Thanks Jeff!!
@MMAShredded3 жыл бұрын
thank you bro!!
@Skazmatron Жыл бұрын
I always thought that this was the way to spar. A few people used to go 100% every single time and I wondered why it was so exhausting until I watched you explain it so well in this video. They were just not good sparring partners.
@truecrimeradio14883 жыл бұрын
Wonderful video that all martial artists should watch and I will be showing my students. Many of these rules are unspoken and good coaches are quick to correct these issues as there can be serious consequences. That slam was a violation for many reasons and could lead to serious injury. Subbed to you 2 minutes into this video great work!
@MMAShredded3 жыл бұрын
thanks for the support matt!
@FightrForLife3 жыл бұрын
Great video... I use a standard practice of making sure that I land the first combo, using the amount of power or speed I feel is appropriate. Most people get the message, but as I've seen in some other comments, being a smaller guy (I compete at 125), sometimes people try to prove something, and you just have to let them know. One guy (close to my height, but about 20lbs heavier) at my gym is notorious for hitting as hard as he can, and then complaining when I match his intensity. But he also concussed me a week out from a fight, so safe to say he's not the greatest partner 🤷♂️