My Adult Child Has NO Respect for Me... and I'm OVER IT

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My Adult Child Has NO Respect for Me... and I'm OVER IT//Are you constantly feeling disrespected by your adult child and reaching the breaking point? You’re not alone, and it’s time to stop tolerating behavior that drains your energy and undermines your self-worth. In this video, I’m sharing actionable steps to help you handle their toxic behavior, set boundaries that stick, and reclaim your emotional peace-without losing yourself in the process.
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6:00 - signs your child doesn't respect you
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[@sallyharriscoach]

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[@cloverconnections]

Parenting is overrated. It's really a crapshoot. I'm closer with my stepson then with my biological daughter. He respects and appreciates me.

[@gemmaselby5584]

I'm Over It. I Really Am. Estrangement is the Only Way .. I Don't Like My Son Anymore.

[@bklynqueen5928]

Me either

[@littlemissy8356]

ME EITHER. No more

[@vanlifebayou]

And that’s ok

[@madmarlowe1422]

My son dumped me after getting a girlfriend. I gave him all of myself for 23 years and he rewarded me by treating me like a pile of garbage. Since he is so smart and smug, he can figure out the rest of his life without my help.

[@ShihTzuNinja]

Dads too, not just moms.

[@humanchildofgod3126]

Distance (in miles) has been a blessing for me.

[@barbaracardenas5356]

I’m so ready to move far far away! Alone finally to take care of myself the right way

[@KerryJames-l6z]

My 27 year old daughter is married lives at home I am done it's not just for me but for her am so stressed I love her I cannot live with her I cannot stand the way am being treated I am 56 just had enough

[@Privatenospying]

@@KerryJames-l6z boundary learning time ..ugh I’m older than you and learning about them big time. Xox

[@skaterlover1999]

@@KerryJames-l6z I'm considering moving out of the place my daughter and I live in. She is on the lease so it's not easy to just kick her out. I've tried and for my own mental health, I am finally considering to leave. I'm absolutely sick of her 💩 and I have too much to lose to allow it to continue.

[@Beverly-e4z]

Jordan Peterson said "disrespect shows they don't value you." He said that disrespect is closure enough. I'm out.

[@phyllis9750]

So. we're on the disrespect stand off. I look at my daughter now and wonder who is this girl? It would NEVER occur to me to speak to ANYONE in that tone. It's a relief now that she's gone.

[@kurtgronert]

Thank you for providing this information. There is so much shame, regret and remorse for mothers that have adult children who are behaving in destructive ways and there are few resources for them.I am living with an adult niece that is out of control and though intended for moms, your videos provided me with great information and resolve.I will definately be passing this channel on to others and hope you have more success and peace than you can handle. Be well.

[@judyduncan1852]

I am "quiet quitting" my daughter. Im not going to be available all the time when she needs a babysitter or anything else. Im not going to say anything other than i have plans.

[@KerryJames-l6z]

Exactly I f3el hurt dismissed disrespected I need to stay calm silent remove myself

[@sallyharriscoach]

You've got this ❤

[@OneWhoKnowz]

My daughter is 25 and I’m 46 I’m tired of her talking to me disrespectfully and I need her to stand up. She moved and the dynamic is still there. She still keeps milking me and I let her . I do have self care and I disconnected but I did match energy tonight I was so angry and reacted . The invalidation is crazy and it triggers me so I gotta work on that but I like your videos . Thanks for posting ❤😊

[@lilyofthevalley7413]

I walked away two days ago, but I didn't do it quietly

[@Privatenospying]

@@lilyofthevalley7413 keep us posted - there’ll be an army of worn out disrespected moms following you👍 good luck!

[@vanlifebayou]

lol there is a time we have to stand up for ourselves also, I get it. lol.

[@deepost2604]

If you need to do a rerun, you will. If you are truly complete, you’ll move on with your own life. These departures are difficult. My departure was 16 years ago. I was offered a rerun in 2020 and turned it down. He wanted to “dump on mom.” I figured his therapist gets paid to listen to that. I don’t. Truly, I have my own life. Parenting was only PART of this life, not ALL of this life. ❤

[@marciaturley2850]

Beautiful reading. Well said. I love your readings. Thank you so much. 💗💫✨💗💫✨💗💫✨

[@tomboygypsy]

I appreciate this video.

[@sebmartin6595]

Highly disagree I’ve nurtured cared, respected,our children and this very single one destroy our family !!!!!unexpectedly and recklessly

[@KerryJames-l6z]

I need to release control what I can control how I respond and maintaining my own peace accept things I cannot control and control my emotional energy it's really draining me I don't want to be tied down to their actions God bless

[@johntuohy1867]

Let go and remember, no matter how difficult, that your value is NEVER based on your adult childs ability to recognize or appreciate it.

[@sallyharriscoach]

Well said. ❤

[@Claire5020GEN]

Thank you 🙏❤️

[@MarkLupson-it6xu]

No, silence is not key. Consequences are the key. Preferably physical consequences. Even people with psychiatric disorders understand negative reinforcement. If they can’t respect you, they don’t belong in your life. Unless of course you want to be in an abusive relationship forever.

[@nikstar1313]

Silence is a consequence

[@nikstar1313]

That goes for the toxic parents too who taught this

[@Renovation_complication]

@@nikstar1313yeah but keeping that up is painful

[@KerryJames-l6z]

Am sick of being yelled at o will choose calm

[@chriswright9979]

Wow, this actually was really helpful.

[@KerryJames-l6z]

She wants control my silence and removing myself I need support to take care of me feeling dustespected I need support to

[@nikstar1313]

I tried everything respectfully, lovingly and politely to have an open conversation with my mother about my story. I am carrying her trauma that she never addressed and she is a diagnosed covert narcissist it turns out. I was highly enmeshed with her and I am my family scapegoat. ❤ it’s not the child’s fault. Why would we not want our mothers to love us?

[@jackiemurphy1787]

@@nikstar1313 take care of yourself x

[@jayoakley7503]

Completely going through this. Ours is a little more complicated since we have grandkids involved and she was a teen mom. She is now 21 but still going through this.

[@sallyharriscoach]

Stay strong! You've got this.

[@Privatenospying]

Sadly this is a pandemic of this generation due to many changes in society especially the computer age they found themselves. They need to experience the world first hand emotionally and it is tough. I do believe they need love, patience and boundaries and time to grow up which they did not have with so much lightening speed information thrown at them. 😢

[@normatobin962]

This is Biblical prophecy: That they would be lovers of themselves, proud, disobedient to Parents, Unholy, blaphemous, having a form of righteousness..... 2 Timothy 3:1-5. Kinda scary. Stay faithful to God. Leave them.😊

[@Lbhacksaw]

If your adult child does not like you… REMEMBER chic a dees….. YOU raised them. 😎

[@Patricia-413]

Wow, do I hear this; thank you!

[@sebmartin6595]

A fantastic video

[@L.W.4269]

Thank you

[@KerryJames-l6z]

She over powes me no respect ignores me I fear rejection I want best for her when I get if bored yelled at I go quiet I get drained I watch you tube and try zoning out 8 refuse to quarrell I mov3 out of the room I won't stand being disrespected

[@nikstar1313]

Neither will she

[@Dandelion49]

My adult sons, ages 55 and 53 are so close to me and respect me. I am so sorry your children don't respect you. I raised my sons to respect all people especially their older adults. They were raise in church, knowing God and that they should respect others. There has never been a day since they were born that I have not prayed for them, some times many times a day. I believe that parents that don't know God and don't raise their children to believe and know God is one of the saddest things a parent don't do. The Bible says to, "raise up a child in the way they should go and when they are old they will not depart from it." Proverbs 22:6. Usually a parent or both that have no relationship with God pass on their attitudes to their children.

[@caroann]

I’m glad your parent life has been so rewarding for you. Many of us have “raised a child in way he should go.” And it turned out badly. That scripture is a “probability” and not a “guarantee”. May the rest of your life be as rewarding as it has so far.

[@catzee4720]

Does anyone else get when you say, the example, “please don’t talk to me like that way because it makes me feel devalued. All they say back is that’s how I feel. At this point he does this to everything and I say to him if I do these things why don’t you bring it up first. It is getting so invalidateing. It’s painful that he isn’t hearing that I feel devalued. Like throw away trash or he will simple say I don’t do that. He doesn’t address my feelings like I address his. The disrespect is immense and now can’t even communicate. He simply deflects it back to me

[@robertataklif4136]

I so get ur question! What do we say to l them ? IT’s deflecting back to me as a estranged mom grandmother-what how do I respond?

[@BlkSheepLoneWolf]

Yes! The gaslighting 😢

[@elyzak333]

That’s exactly what my son does.

[@americanviewpoint]

I use to do this and then I learned this before having my daughter when she and started teaching her how to do this for herself when she was very young and as an adult we have a good relationship but it's because we are different people😊

[@eileencorcoran3090]

Yes very disrespectful.... the adore a now passed father who was a real bad individual and violent!!! Unbelievable 😊😊

[@anotherjunkie2]

The other is the younger college age one where is I breathe the wrong way it is him still acting like an eye rolling foot stomping teen. He just turned 20.

[@AnnEstness]

Silence is GOLDEN. Duct Tape is SILVER ;P I will do a discovery call...in two weeks about...or a month...

[@sallyharriscoach]

I look forward to chatting with you!

[@roofinggalLYNN]

Subscribed. Glad that i found you. I will book a call. Thanks I just dont get it. Imy dauighter has turned on me and literally set oht to humiliate me, condemn me, cost me housing, etc Yes. We had hard times but nothing that would warrant this behavior.😢

[@sallyharriscoach]

I look forward to speaking with you!

[@nikstar1313]

Mine let me go 4 years ago blaming me for my father’s behaviour when I was a child. I’m the adult child they tried for years and she’s still silent treating me bc “I left”. No contact 4 years 🎉

[@joanteal6623]

My adult daughter 48 yrs old lived w us for 4 years. I’ve had to turn her out of our home for our own survival, but I am heart broken 💔 for her. She accused us of trying to poison her (among many other false allegations) ) Please pray for her and our family . She’s convinced she has no need of help . When she first came to us she had been living in her car and agreed to get help as a condition of living w us. That didn’t last long though 😢 She was a person who graduated college w a degree, bought her own home at 26 and held several positions of responsibility before she quit her job , sold her home and disappeared for a year or so ! 🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@Jonesy-q1p]

She may need hospital care. Baker act etc. May be schizophrenia. Meds help.

[@createone100]

Sounds like there is a trauma in there somewhere. She very much needs an excellent counsellor. One who has dealt with trauma. I wish all of you well.💖🙏🏻

[@pauline-v3b]

Maybe paranoid schizophrenia

[@ОльгаВоробьева-щ8ю]

😪😪😪

[@Jonesy-q1p]

Mine is long term parental allienation by the alcoholic father. He abused me so they learned disrespect.

[@kjsteele8688]

Me too

[@nikstar1313]

But you stayed didn’t you? 😢 I’m sorry ❤

[@nikstar1313]

You are teaching them how to be treated ❤❤❤

[@deborahl7875]

@@nikstar1313 You clearly don't know what parental alienation is. It is when the custodial parent actively works to turn the kids AGAINST the divorced other parent. So no, she didn't stay. Are you suggesting she should have walked away from and abandoned her kids?

[@WholeArtInc]

What if they are totally ghosting you ?

[@sallyharriscoach]

Ive got a videos on this too! Here is one that may help: kzbin.info/www/bejne/gV7FgqRmh96Vg8Usi=uqxcrr4CjhCoQp-g

[@mimiq1024]

There are not any appointments available at least through November.😢

[@sallyharriscoach]

Hi! My calendar is a "rolling calendar" new days/ times show up every few days!

[@nikstar1313]

Respect starts with me? How can i take accountability as a 2 yo child?

[@hopman64]

No times available in October or November

[@sallyharriscoach]

Hi! My calendar is a "rolling calendar" new days/ times show up every few days!

[@jordanavulej5726]

I gave my daughter a yr off to think and 1 yr for me to recover

[@nikstar1313]

Maybe she is better too.. daughters don’t want their mothers to not love them.

[@yk-xc1fn]

Hi Good evening Sally really amazing topic you have,which will help many Mother's they need that Support how to get through this trauma,yes I totally agree on that Silent is the key,depending on the circumstances,but still always making that communication,be very friendly Humble,and let 1 side complete there talk,and then after listening then say,is it now alright for me to talk,have you finished for whatever you wanted to say,but then yes the children's should behave themselves knowing the difference between Parent's,who's the Mother and who's the daughter and or son,so they should know who's incharge of the household so yes everthing should work out go smoothly 😊🕊🙂🙂🙂👍🤲

[@yvonnekjellsson52]

🙏

[@Unknown-hu4gf]

Quit trying to change people! And do forget your kids are just like you.

[@pjkempen7413]

Lol! "Moms alwayd feel like they need to respect their child" where did you get this ridiculous idea?? 😂 My parents feel owed unconditional respect thay they aren't obliged to show anyone in return, their children least of all. Some parents view their children as property and emotionally abandon them as soon as they express independemt thought and stop parroting back thir parent's thoughts.

[@raven4090]

Respect is learned from example. If you treat a child like they're worthless and can't do anything right, when they grow up, they're likely to return it.

[@autumn5852]

@@raven4090 and sometimes, if you treat your child with love, kindness and respect, when they grow up, they treat you like crap. And conversely, what we see most often, is when you treat your child like crap, when they grow up, they’ll be your most attentive, loving and loyal people pleaser. And of course, everything in between :)

[@Privatenospying]

Wise words Autumn - being raised the family scapegoat made me the overly accommodating too loving doormat parent. 😊

[@raven4090]

@@Privatenospying Same. I'm sorry you went through that, too.

[@adrianasacca]

@@autumn5852 Thank you for expressing exactly what I have witnessed happen often as well. It's amazing how an abusive or absentee parent receives the love (since they lacked it from that parent and it seems to create a yearning for love and approval from the harmful parent, etc.), and turn away from the parent who was always there for them with love and respect. It's mind boggling....yes, and all the in between as every situation is so different. I personally was tired of being controlled with them using our grandkids as pawns since that's no way to live and terrible for our sweet grandchildren to witness and experience also. It's all so very heartbreaking and frustrating. We can't control the harm they are doing to not only us but even worse to our sweet grandchildren as well.

[@adrianaalexander5592]

And sometimes you bring them up with all the love and examples of respect and they have their own personality and behavior contrary to their upbringing

[@sjonesblue]

Why did you have children? Didn’t you imagine that bad things could happen?