My Cheating Wife Left Me During Quarantine When She Went Out of State to Sleep With a Married Man...

My Cheating Wife Left Me During Quarantine When She Went Out of State to Sleep With a Married Man Who Will Never Divorce His Wife for Her.
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[@matthewplenty3370]

My man has stopped simping for a narcissist, started to work out and is moving on. Character development 😤

[@k-boy1909]

Did he tho? He never said he started working out and 2 years later he's still stuck on her

[@lifeisamess8100]

What are u talking about??? Most women are indeed narrsistic, selfish, manupulative, will blame u for her own mistake, gaslight u when call her out and the second she found someone better, she wil leave/break 5,8,10 or even 15 years+ marriage/relationship😊

[@hmzzlks-ku8nd]

​@@k-boy1909improvement is improvement. It took me two years lose fat and see physical improvement. But there was improvement none the less

[@pyro7150]

@@k-boy1909 I dont mean to sound rude but how was he stuck on her? its like 4AM for me and my brain is dead so I would be happy if you could explain it

[@spooky5338]

He held onto the relationship until well after the divorce despite her literally cheating on him.

[@kayenat10]

Don't ever be this guy Have more self respect

[@jayallen9198]

This dude is a total manlet

[@rutuparnpawar1022]

Honestly, I am very angry at the OP. He needs to understand that respect is mutual even with his flaws. She could have just ended the marriage and moved on. The idea of helping the AP is totally disgusting.

[@fulla6967]

Feels weired getting this kinda advice from a fishhead strapped onto a raw chicken but yes.

[@mr.equity1120]

He literally said he suffered from low testosterone, what do you expect?

[@Sameer-es9vs]

How could she have not cheated bro? A man with such low self esteem and self respect, announcing his beta self so openly. You gotta stand up for yourself or the world is gonna walk all over you.

[@justinchristoph3725]

That woman was going to do whatever she felt like doing and that is all the justification she needs. People like that are no good to anyone.

[@SchoolVideosGoHere]

25:00 OP doesn't owe the AP jack squat. If he's struggling with self-deletion he should see a therapist not try and get OP to make him feel better and absolve him. I see OP hasn't completely abandoned the beliefs that got him stuck with his ex, but his progress throughout the vid was commendable.

[@draggy6544]

Dude low t is not just about sex drive. Testosterone levels directly correlate to how healthy we are physically and mentally. U are doing urself a major disservice if u are not trying to resolve testosterone issues

[@MinisterManDan]

Just one symptom after another for a disorder hes already seen a doctor and received prescription to treat that he refuses to do because oooo icky.

[@draggy6544]

@@MinisterManDan yea i commented before finishing the vid i saw he got the doctor to inject. Its a good start but he really need to commit to building as much muscle as he can which will in turn help with his hormone issues and not to mention overall health and self confidence

[@NazzyDragon]

Diet as well is extremely important. We eat so many things that mess with our hormones.@@draggy6544

[@_cup_of_tea]

Besides that, I wish he did IC when found out about the affair. It would have helped him realize the ex's treatment and divorced her sooner.

[@Nathan_Bookwurm]

You're right. I'm using testosteron injections too (transman) and when the T in my body is high my sex drive is the same as when the T in my body is low. But the lower it gets, the more exhausted I get from doing normal things and when it's in the last week before getting a new shot I feel terrible as if I'm depressed. O, and also, it doesn't make you an agressive alpha male either when your T is high. You just have more energy to do daily life stuff when you're high on T. And edit 2: being low on T is still giving more energy than I had on female hormones. The female cycle is terrible, and you only realise that after becoming totally stable hormonal wise. Men have it so easy 😄... But still, when you're low on T, take meds it helps so much!

[@kawaiipinkbunnychu]

I wish OP the best! And I wish his ex wife no happy relationships and deep regret for the rest of her life

[@arhael3594]

The fact that they are not sexually compatible due to huge sex drive difference is a dead giveaway that the relationship wouldn't last. She could have been mature and break up, but of course it's easier to just stay in comfort zone and pursue another man on a side.

[@user-hb4gl8sg9m]

The fact that she cheated on him and sees that she did. Nothing wrong is disgusting. But I'm not too worried about it because she will get her karma and is gonna hit hard.

[@sephoraamisikiala9742]

Every cheater will get karma anyway so let's not worry about it 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@carbon7536]

Op even at the end of the story has no backbone. He is always compromising

[@Nruiz43]

My guy, I've watched dozens of your videos by now, and they're all decent. The best part about them is they don't have injected conjecture based on your own opinion or life experiences > a big part of the reason I don't really watch RSlash anymore. There have been several instances where I'm just begging that I can do a follow-up on a story, please give credit to those OPs who made the stories, or provide a link to said story. Otherwise, keep up the good work.

[@SheerLunaSea]

LITERALLY same, After Rslash had his kid he got WAY more personal in the videos and its like, dude I just liked the stories, why am I learning your life history...

[@djeurdjel1]

Same for me. It's so annoying; I usually listen to those stories in the car and am only interested in the story and not someone's opinion of it. I'm perfectly capable to form my own. I can't really pick up my phone and skip through those parts while driving.

[@yamairad1]

My husband left us 4 months and all his clothes are in the garage. I've painted over our huge canvas picture of our wedding day. Why on earth would you live with her stuff around you?

[@bgcno2]

After 4 months my ex's clothes would be somewhere in a landfill or a homeless shelter, not in my garage. You have one week to collect them before I assume you no longer want/need them after moving out

[@SheerLunaSea]

I'd hold my exes things for the legally allotted amount of time, then donate immediately. Or start charging for storage, either one.

[@Hecatom]

She was into funko pops, that alone was a red flag of all things to come.

[@alext9320]

Frustrating story. OP makes it seem like he grew as a person, or at least grew a backbone and saw through his wife's manipulative b.s., but then it ends on the note of talking to the AP, for the AP's benefit? Seriously? Who cares if the guy who destroyed your marriage feels guilty about it. If he's going to kill himself over it, that isn't on you. He should seek mental help from a professional, not forgiveness from his victim. Stop trying to save people who don't give a shit about you. OP shows he didn't grow at all for even considering the idea of talking to this guy.

[@ZipperKnight181]

People in the comments suck here tryna roast the guy for ED and low T. People get through trauma in different ways. It might not be the best way and HE REALIZED THAT. Give him some credit for getting out the situation instead of kicking a man whos down

[@cavey001]

S1 - This guy was using a bucket to try saving the Titanic.

[@brotherhoodofsteel4751]

The only thing I'd tell the ap is to remember to go down the lane not across the street.

[@James-sq4sc]

Sex isn’t a love language. People leave partners who love them over their genitals. Even if their so is sick and can’t help it. It’s not love.

[@kebbitevoke-5319]

This guy sounds like the worm jerry from rick and morty

[@derventhegreat53]

Damn this hit close to home, my ex wife did something similar just told me it was over when i was at a low point and started dating her gay friend a week later then would say she wants to be friends and try to hang put with me especially after they broke up

[@pyro7150]

wish you the best and hope you got through it

[@dmonk7887]

what happened later?

[@M1ch43l33]

Most masculine redditor:

[@creatordesk6414]

I was angry at wife first and then angry at op and now I'm just laughing😂😂 Worm and doormat are insult to worm& doormats if we compare them to op

[@bgcno2]

Honestly, I see why the wife wanted out.

[@mrjackdapper8573]

Yeah XD, I can’t wait to see his next story about your so cheating on you

[@gostavoadolfos2023]

the fact that he is low on testosterone explains his behavior but soon as he started taking his injections he started to slowly stopping simping. as for the ex wife a decade of not feeling desired and sexually attractive can make any women go vindictive and unhinged. intimacy deprivation is a cousin of sleep deprivation.

[@desrayann]

Wow! All the red flags are there but he kept trying to hold on to trash! She treats he like crap and he takes it all and that is why she kept walking over him and cheated!

[@HippieInHeart]

Bro should have just dumped her ass immediately. She already cheated once that means sex with some other dude was more important to her than honesty and respect with her husband. There's nothing he can ever do to change that. Sure it hurts a lot to end a marriage that, from his perspective, was going well and made him happy. But it's kinda like ripping duct tape or really sticky bandaids or something like that off your skin. Doing it quickly will hurt a lot but the pain will also end much quicker than if you prolong it and do it slowly.

[@ThatOneAmpharos]

is this seriously an ad for that book?

[@atlus6412]

Showing kindness & Mercy to a Cheater is the biggest dumbass decision.

[@cardelharry6386]

This angered me on so many levels. I usually don’t hate the person being cheated on. But in every opportunity he was weak, and just fucking pathetic. Genuinely just sad . No backbone, no self respect. Never let this be you. NEVER LET THIS BE YOU . Fucking hell

[@MinisterManDan]

“I couldn’t have sex and I refused to take the medicine that would let me have sex because needles are so scahwy” Jesus Christ the helplessness of this guy.

[@scpfoundation8376]

Trypanophobia is the extreme fear of needles. Specifically, people with this phobia feel afraid of getting injections or blood draws. Having a phobia doesn’t make someone helpless. Taking back a cheater definitely does though.

[@MinisterManDan]

@@scpfoundation8376or we’re just raised multiple generations of people to think if something makes them uncomfortable or is hard for them to do it’s okay to just not do it, resulting in people who cannot manage themselves or accomplish anything.

[@_junedays_1614]

He takes the little blue pills, it’s just not spontaneous, So yes he can have sex.

[@C.G.Gaster]

So if it was soo important to her, why couldn't she do it? Obviously op sucks for taking the cheater back, but if she didn't want to help him improve either, what makes him so bad? He was content that way, but the way you put, it means that she wasn't. So if it was so important, again, why didn't she do it? Either give it to both parties or neither.

[@PsychoMachado]

​@@C.G.Gasterand then there is the question of "do you know my love language". She claimed neglect, but refused to acknowledge she was also neglecting.

[@rmsichawngthu]

OP is a good human...i hope he gets the good karma he deserves

[@k-boy1909]

Damn, now i finally understand the word simp

[@M1ch43l33]

I mean after the first 2 minutes i could have concluded that he has low test levels 😂

[@mrjackdapper8573]

I don’t even need 2 minutes to test your iq

[@AsheMonday]

Pretty sure the new boyfriend is cheating on her. “he’s out of state getting our new house ready.” After they’ve only been together for a month.😂 NAW GIRL, I think he’s just pulling a YOU

[@f687sNFM]

at this rate, if the op is a simp, i dont feel bad for them

[@joaop4585]

Just "a simp"? This guy is the personification of cuck energy

[@ZenoDovahkiin]

Oh, so if it's the MAN whose the sex bottleneck, suddenly it's a fucking problem and reason to leave...

[@m.c.9419]

"it's not like we can't get married again in the future" lol the audacity. "I didn't consider our marriage worth fighting for but if things don't work out for me I'll let you take me back". Hard pass. I hope she wakes up from her affair fog before she gets the idea that baby trapping will convince the ap to leave his wife for her. Edit: nvm. It sounds like she has an attraction for doormats. I pity the guy that agreed to let her move after one month of dating her.

[@pioneerxx]

Dude’s low testosterone really shows. Not the sex drive, no. He really lacks self-respect. It wasn’t just an emotional affair, AP’s wife recording proved that. The wife cheated on her husband and acted like he was some friend to her. The indifference is really hurting, and the husband just does whatever she wants, thinking that they had a chance at reconciliation even after all the disrespect. Really makes you wonder whether she loved him at all… Also, why the hell is he considering compromising with AP? If that ahole wants to self-delete, it’s none of OP’s concern. He definitely should not console him out of it. If ap wants to self-delete and opt out of taking up responsibility for his actions, let him do it. It’s his choice and op should not feel bad about it. I know damn well I’m not going to be a therapist of those who wronged me because their life is definitely not worth anything to me

[@billcutting2681]

Eh lmaooo I really don’t fault her for finding someone else she should’ve left before cheating

[@dontreadmypfp6026]

yeah I don't condone cheating but he didn't even try

[@MinisterManDan]

When the guy said he was diagnosed with hormonal issues but didn’t take the medicine prescribed because needles scare him I just about fell out of my chair. Bruh what did you expect to happen? How could any partner respect someone who willingly chooses a dead bedroom because the widdle needle is too scahwy

[@PsychoMachado]

​@@MinisterManDanabout needles, i had a scare of needles for a while. My father is terrified of them. To the point he passed out when taking blood out. It's not that "needles are scahwy". Some people have a strong reaction to it, the same way some people are terrified of clowns, or open spaces, or the number 13.

[@billcutting2681]

Yeah, I stopped feeling bad for him midway through sure she is despicable for picking another married person, but I’m having a real hard time looking at both of these negative people as one worse than the other

[@bgcno2]

​@@PsychoMachadotrying to justify a "phobia" when it's affect your entire life is a cop out. I have a fear of heights but I still worked as a roofer during my summers in high school. He could have sucked it up because it would have help both him and his marriage in the long run. Being a man doesn't mean you are brave inherently, it means being willing to stand firm even when you want to run away

[@WriterGirl90]

He needs to tell their friends and family some of what’s going on. Otherwise she’ll make him out to be the bad guy

[@TheShadowSentinel]

OP let her keep her stuff in his house for YEAR? Is he stupid or something? Should've told her to take her garbage with her right after divorce.

[@EricMcgill-iu8uv]

I hate that that crappy woman never got her comeuppance.

[@Mop222]

I don’t like how this ended, I wanted to know what the cheating husband with kids at home had to say.

[@jamegumb7298]

"Started walking together to lose weight." Uh yeah. They were at it since the training all that time ago.

[@CG-yb6zj]

She left him to starve and ghosted him for 3 WEEKS.... Over a snarky comment about a bill that could've been settled in the same breath.... How was THAT not enough for divorce??

[@Tamara_Middleton]

Do not take OP’s advice…. He was a doormat! As soon as she told him not to use to much power and went no contact for 3 weeks, relationship was over! As soon as AP’s wife told him about the affair , divorce! One the divorce was done, she would have 10 days to get her stuff out of the house before it was taken to charity!

[@chrisj.1608]

He diluted himself into this world that had he never gotten covid they would still be together he refuses flat-out refuses to face the reality that's right in front of his face even at the end when he's acting like he got all this massive closure the only thing that changed is she got the divorce she wanted and she still waiting for the guy

[@ezoez7548]

Bro, wtf???? This dude is a literal carpet will all the walking everyone does over him like DAMNNN

[@Turbocharged200]

This man is Jerry from Rick and Morty lmao

[@ViralOtomo]

Hold on, how did this go from her saying "it was never physical," to "he banged my wife and ruined my marriage"? Did I miss it somewhere in between or was that revelation excluded?

[@CJ-BZ]

pray to god he never spoke to AP and just let him wallow

[@macylouwho1187]

You don’t want to be the guy who gets walked on like a doormat like this guy-the “too nice” guy. You will never be respected or loved like that. Women will walk all over you. That doesn’t translate to you should be a big pushy jerk, either. More like find a happy medium and have and enforce your healthy boundaries. That being said-sexual incompatibility is a relationship killer. He was told this was a major issue for his wife and he did literally nothing about it. If you can fix it and you won’t or it’s “too little too late” and the feelings have already died-then that’s his own fault for not caring what she needed and not even trying to fix it prior to the marriage failing. There’s not a lot of men who are very happy if suddenly their wives stop putting out sexually and they end up with a dead bedroom-so why would it be any different for a woman who does want sex in her marriage? He nuked his own marriage in that way. He greatly underestimated her need for physical intimacy even though she told him she wasn’t happy with the way things were.

[@Asperger0815]

Just curious. Was there ever an update on the talk at the end? Would like to know if he was simping to this guy, too?

[@badmedicine1977]

Dudes beyond to blame for his marriage to fall apart

[@NessieNice]

Wow. She reminded me of my ex. It started with me catching the eye of a certain narcist manipulator guy. I was a quite and submissive girl. WRONG. Anyone who know me long enough know I could be a tiger. I just put on the "gentle and good girl" mask in front of strangers and this mask was what lured that a--hole. We went out a bit and apparently he thought I was very gentle and caring and easy to control so he asked me out while in my mind I was like "eh, got nothing else interesting to do anyway". I might be a devil but if someone trully kind and nice to me, I wouldn't disturb them and my friends say I'm actually nice so long no other devil around. That we going out alone was pretty much a flag to my friends that the guy probably problematic (not first time). And he really was problematic. He was super needy, clingy, and controlling. He wanted me to be always available for him even through work hour just for petty things like he demanded scheduled "how are you have you eaten" calls, accused me feeding my own ego when I said I receive certain work achievement (heck he even mad I have driving license just because he doesn't), and many other petty wtf things. So of course I broke up with him after only 3 months, totally made a congrats for breakup party. He tried to contact me again but remember I'm an evil it was fun ghosting him. A few days later his friends came up to me to ask my side of story. It was never matter to me so I told them to just believe whatever he told them but they still insisted on having my side so I asked what did he tell them and turned out he was an even more idiot than I thought. He actually told them the truth with our chat as evidences. He totally didn't graduate from manipulation school. Of course all his friends now against him and taking my side! It was so hilariously stupid the 2nd embarassement was real. I told his friend "yeah, that happened . . ." Last time I heard he kept cutting contact with all his friends who sided with me even after he omitted some details until the only ones who sided with him were strangers he completely lied to

[@boredcryptek5513]

That's not your wife man thats a girlfriend. She wants to be a girlfriend and a crappy one at that.

[@victoriacristina9610]

Just to inform: Love Language isn't a book written by any specialist in psychology. There's no scientific evidence of the information in this book

[@mateuszlewinski7774]

A tale of a simp....I am to much afraid of needles to save my marriage xD

[@TheSergio1021]

Wow, what a door mat.

[@EpikBulletYT]

21:37 bro got dementia

[@mauriciobaez7665]

ty so much for this post--- it opened my eyes, ty so much man

[@AECH_CH]

love language is real bs... just communicate what your needs are - that's what this fancy word describes.

[@kiyajohnson4436]

You need to stop spending time with her you need to let her go she's comparing you to the other guy you deserve a lot better You deserve more love

[@Thaddius0]

7 week quarantine for covid LOOOOL... too afraid of needles to man up. She fell out of love hard.

[@fall22123]

I have a hard time feeling bad for this guy. People with low libido have no idea how hurtful it can be for their partner. Doing it out of obligation doesn't work either. Most people would rather not have it at all than have boring pitty sex with someone who obviously doesn't want it. Everyone needs to feel loved and desired. For someone with the physical love language, sex is a need, not a want. The details and timeline of what she did and if it was after she left him was foggy so there's that too. Messing around with a married man goes without saying but that is an entirely separate issue. Also, it's hard to respect a doormat. Her stuff is still at his house a year after they divorced? He still gave her attention when she was lonely after she left him?

[@senecaarnold6651]

Bro, you need a vacation. Go on, cruise to make new memories, and while on cruise, dont get drunk actually try to participate in the activities.

[@blue3532]

Who cares about his life. Come on man. He destroyed everything. And OP doesnt have responsibility for AP well being. Tsk.

[@Azeraph]

Now understand a bit more about these guys. They're LL's and this guy was a wuss over needles. Sure she couldn't handle it and broke but you've got to read what and how it affects HL's. How it grinds them down and the LL partner doesn't even click they're losing their partner little by little.

[@1712Afterlife]

That's what men do we always blame ourselves even when it's on rational it's not his fault he got sick and had to be isolated just like it's not a man's fault that when he has a family he works a lot and he does that to take care and support his family and the best time of the day is when he gets to come home for that little bit of time but women I don't know man all they want is to have fun

[@DisappointedButNotSurprised]

Stop being a doormat!

[@jayblack854]

moral is dont be scared of needles or just ask ur doctor to give u a shot

[@Royman87]

Time may heal all wounds but scars never heal

[@John-wd8vm]

Op sounds like a typical redditor

[@jayadityakushwah2021]

i mean we can't blame the wife for being dissatisfied with the marriage cause as a saying goes one cannot clap with just one hand a relationship has to be upheld by both sides its OPs fault too BUT nothing excuses cheating tho and OP is a doormat

[@Papanando99]

Where is the rest of the story!!!!! It feels like it's cut off.

[@tommyvercetti4687]

damn, i dont know doormat can talk

[@blue3532]

This story is so frustating. Just grow your spine.

[@bigboy23005]

Weakest man ever in this story.

[@Taeallday802]

That lady doesn’t even like you much less Love you. You were having good times I’m not so sure about her.

[@giga_chad9]

This guy is just……. Bruh, she literally made out with another guy while y’all were dating and he’s just cool with that? My goodness man

[@Sunshineboy2002]

This story is about to get good then it ends. WTF

[@scarlett4024]

I would have been petty and texted the ap wife that he is still seeing my wife or worse texted the ap wife acting as my wife and told her everything the wife had told op and how the ap was buying her a house so that they could live closer to one another and then text her as op saying that this was her last chance to leave him before he does something worser then this ghost the wife and gtfo hard

[@1712Afterlife]

Is there a part 2 to this it seems like it didn't really end

[@legiontepes3474]

Mare, I follow your videos and recently there are always repeated parts. Why the drop in quality? 😢

[@samuelw4492]

This guy is pitiful

[@wholikedthisgame8103]

LOW LIBITO MEANS (STRESS FROM BIRTH (PSYSICAL), DAILY STRESS (NON STOP. EX. LOW INCOME), TOO MUCH MAST.....ION (WITCH IS GOOD BUT NOT TOO OFTEN)..

[@SelflessHero]

I don't pity OP much. He should have stepped on her sooner.

[@ScanTronIndustries]

IMO, they she’s more an AH but I can’t get passed she was paying the bills and not getting what she needs in the bedroom. Honestly think these two were just incompatible and they ignored it.

[@soundaryabalaji1741]

Great ur moving on. That's just a useless woman. Throw her things in the porch and lock ur doors. No way u need to store ur ex things even after a year

[@tribalnaga8800]

Why even get married if you have ED!

[@Mehhh_was_here]

when i have thought i've seen everything...this is the most cux#ed op ever ...till bext find then.

[@allieisms]

Dude I need to know what the AP wanted! Trying to find the update but I can’t. Anyone help?

[@MrToubrouk]

TIL: Testosterone injections cures simping.

[@zeparthe16thspiritofarsgoe15]

Simping so hard? 😂

[@randomperson8405]

0 self respect.

[@peterjackson1430]

God I can't stand simps!!

[@aayushb2843]

Update??

[@schmidt9531]

Gosh, this dude is sooo boring

[@sana-xe4fr]

Are there any updates

[@user-du5qg1pr5r]

GROW A PAIR

[@appleapple1988]

Ive never used this word unironically, but what a beta.

[@aaron75fy]

some of the lines are repeated, is that in the oruginal post or is the video glitching?

[@Tempest27]

Am never getting married