My crush doesn't like me back. (3 ways to deal with it)

[@oz6571]

Watching this to prepare

[@oz6571]

I didn't do it cus im afraid cus im gay and I don't wanna make him feel weird and his friends make fun of him

[@boiledpotatoes4154]

Same

[@jaineyoon9838]

deadass same🤧

[@keara805]

Same

[@amyamy100]

Osmar Ramirez yaaassss!!!!😂😭

[@imenocap3482]

i told my crush i liked him and he didn’t feel the same. we are still really close friends but i still feel the same way. it sucks but i think it’s better than me hating on him. thank you for inspiring me to tell him!

[@TeaLeafNeeka]

ximenna toscano if you still feel the same way then maybe you need to give yourself time to distance yourself and heal from the situation. He seems like a kind hearted person who'd be understanding. I just don't want you to put yourself through any suffering 💛 so proud of you for telling him!

[@isabellindin3398]

lucky, mine left me on read

[@meloman-rrr]

Literally same thing m8

[@Poppyyy7638]

@@isabellindin3398 he respond to me : " K"

[@adityamishra6509]

Were you able to move on, are you doing better now?

[@someone9667]

My crush likes my bestfriend

[@RandiMac]

That must be hard

[@ur1STandLASTeverything_]

someone I can relate. *sigh.......... I'm so sad...but at the same time inspired, because the world is wide and yet I kept on having a crush with that loser (no hate...but he really is)

[@ur1STandLASTeverything_]

GamingWithAneeqah I cant get you man..,,

[@aneeqah2079]

@@ur1STandLASTeverything_ oof

[@c.sashaaa]

Lol me too

[@patiencecormier8240]

I made my friend tell my crush I like him. She’s asked him if he liked me back, but he said no. This was ten minutes ago. help

[@TeaLeafNeeka]

Make sure to do it yourself next time 💛 but anyways, everything will be okay! I know it sucks at the beginning but I'm telling you, with a little time you'll be over this person. If this person doesn't like you then don't waste a second more thinking about them 💛

[@chloecarver5371]

Patience Cormier same

[@zaracoccelli4227]

Hunny if my crushes friends ask me if I like my crush I will say no too

[@quyenhoang5131]

Same.. I’m scared

[@pojiiii]

Same omg help me

[@delaneywillits]

I got rejected YEET but hey its ok honestly because I'm happier with who I am now as a person. I cried for two days, but im ok now.

[@TeaLeafNeeka]

I’m so proud of you for putting yourself through it. You’re a much stronger person now 💛 Although it can be rough at the beginning, you’ve certainly done yourself a huge favor by facing your feelings!

[@pinky-pie-por-Dios]

I just got rejected. It hurts like hell. Will the pain ever go away?

[@bridget3289]

*Ive been crying for months* 🥲

[@trisha9782]

And i am soo afraid of rejection...

[@sia8772]

@@pinky-pie-por-Dios no

[@robert-wq4wr]

got rejected^^ now he’s ignoring me who’s crying? ME

[@TeaLeafNeeka]

Hey I’m so proud of you for telling him. I know it’s difficult, especially facing the rejection, but you did yourself a massive favor and now you can go into 2020 without wasting time on him :)

[@shikha9892]

I called him When he picked up he asked my name and after hearing my name he said oh and cut the call. 😔😔😔

[@XimeGalVal_7]

Me i got rejected today, and now I'm sure that he is going to ignore me 😭

[@pauladecarlosalarcon9458]

me rn

[@siennajahan4344]

He's a dick. You dodged a bullet imo. If people can't respect your feelings and ignore you after you tell them you like them then they aren't worth a second of your time.

[@adamkozyrevski4036]

Told my crush I liked them and they said “oh” big rip :(

[@TeaLeafNeeka]

First of all I’m proud of you for doing it! Secondly, great now you can move on and find someone else who values you more :) you don’t have to waste time on this person anymore, that’s a positive

[@shikha9892]

Same

[@karinaramirez3196]

I’ve had a crush on this guy in my class since September and I can clearly see he is not interested in me but it still hurts💔

[@kacceyjoseph5040]

Aww ☹️ that's so sad ...I confessed to my crush and he doesn't like me back either 😭

[@stevekambiski6752]

It dont hurt to break them off, it's refreshing.

[@spiderisnthere]

At first it seemed he liked me... but my friend said he doesn't like me. :( I wanna die rn. I'm so embarrassed .

[@TeaLeafNeeka]

Why are you embarrassed? You shouldn’t be embarrassed about how you feel about another person. It’s a perfectly natural occurrence and all we can really do about it is own our feelings, let the person you’re interested know you like them, and if the feelings are not reciprocated then accept it and move on. How one other singular person may feel about you does not equate to your own personal self worth. Just because one guy doesn’t reciprocate your feelings does not mean that no guy will. The fact that he knows and he has responded means that you’ve done yourself a favor. You now how the freedom to move on and use your brain waves to think about more important things, like your future goals and aspirations :) I know things like this feel like the end of the world in the moment but just take the time to work through the sadness, surround yourself with your close friends and family, and try to move on following the steps in the video. You will see soon enough that time heals everything. Good luck 💛

[@anonomanno7755]

I have a crush, he dosen't even think we're friends :( i just feel so bad for it and we can't take distance bc he sits besides me in my classroom

[@TeaLeafNeeka]

Wait why do you feel bad about it? Did you tell him that you liked him?

[@boiledpotatoes4154]

That is actually meeeeee

[@biancachiran4740]

I understand you 😔

[@EmmaRaeM-n8j]

If anyone wants to listen here’s my story. I get how I’m still really young for this but as mentioned in the video you can still have feelings at a younger age, and for me that’s the case. When I was in grade one I met this boy and I otomatocly had a HUGE crush on him, and not only for his looks but with his charisma and personality that is really hard to find. He felt the same way about me. But, a couple weeks later a new girl moved into my class. He started to like her… but he still likes me a fair bit, but not as much as he used to. For the next five years or so I still felt the same way. It started to get really serious and I knew I loved him at that point. I COULD’NT stop thinking about him. I’m pretty sure he lost feelings for me about 2 years after the 1st grade but I blocked the fact in my mind that he didn’t feel the same way. Just recently he started to stare at me a lot, talk to me more, and follow me around. But then after a week or so he sort of stopped. The girl who came in 1st grade, actually turned into one of my best friends but she’s had moved a few monthes before. And I found out he still had some feelings for her. Then apparently he didn’t, it confused me a lot. I have faced the fact that he probably doesn’t like me, and if he doesn’t like me for the person I am today, that’s his loss. I’ve tried to move on and this video helped a bunch. Falling in love at a young age is magical. But in my case it hurt me ALOT. But on the contrary, it taught me a valuable lesson for my life to come. I haven’t spoken to many people about this. Hope you all have a spectacular day, and thank-you for this video! (My apologies if this was cringe) ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ Stay strong!!!

[@friends9960]

This happened to me today. 💔

[@TeaLeafNeeka]

Everything will be okay :) you can now move on and focus on yourself without any distractions. Just try to focus on the positives 💛

[@natalieloomis7854]

Your not the only one 😔💔

[@ayushiprasad250]

Me too. Hope you're good.

[@henryhr7730]

@@ayushiprasad250 it suckss

[@alexandruoceanu4072]

Same lol

[@jordanraebivona8629]

I told my crush and he doesn’t like me my friend who also likes him thinks it funny that he doesn’t like me and I just wish he liked me

[@graciexoxo1730]

Xø.jordan.Xø !!!! How come she's your friend lol

[@jordanraebivona8629]

Gymnast Graciee she’s my friend because she is and she is being nice about it now and he told me he liked me and I read the texts with her and him and she asked him if he liked me and he said no he only likes her and he tried texting me being all nice so that really hurt me

[@miamorselol]

i told my crush i liked him today.. he doesnt feel the same lol. im okay but it still sucks

[@m9kigf]

Xø.jordan.Xø !!!! she isn’t your friend :/

[@lilnicky131]

As a 29 year old man this video was extremely helpful to me. Thank you for making this. Real recognize real.

[@DJGlennoz]

Man even at this age it's fucked up. Getting the feelings going on, but not getting it back... hurts like a bitch :(

[@ugh1511]

Yesterday I told a friend (who I'm not too close with) I liked her. She rejected me in the kindest way possible and honestly, it was the chillest confession ever. The worst part was that she kept saying the word relationship, even though I didn't want one. I just wanted to get it out. The whole thing could've been so much worse. It was the first time I confessed, but I don't regret it.

[@HarveyLagura]

Few weeks ago I expressed my feelings for her and I told her that I like her but now she's "kinda" trying to distance herself from me by not replying to my socials. Although she said the reason for it, but still she talks to different people just not with me. Today it's my first time that I cried myself out for her. Thanks for the video Neeka, you got so many points that I can relate to and I learned a routine based from your tips that I will probably do in the next few days and/or weeks. Much love, Harvey.

[@michi.x0]

I miss him alot i still feel he likes me and i am a shy person and i want to know if he still likes me or not but for now i am a bit sad i miss him😭😭😭

[@TeaLeafNeeka]

Did you tell him about your feelings about him? I’m not quite sure I understand 😧

[@kayleemerriman4539]

I like this kid he told me he liked me also and we were talking for a long time. But people were spreading stuff and he said he only wasnts to be friends now, and it hurt so bad.

[@TeaLeafNeeka]

Don’t listen to anyone else but him when it comes to his own feelings. If you are unsure of his feelings then ask him about it, just don’t rely on what people say around you to get the facts, since people have a way of twisting things up. Good luck 💛

[@madisynmarie8281]

my crush is my best friend and he would always flirt with me and send mixed signals + say i love you and call me perfect but it turns out it’s just “his personality” and he doesn’t wanna hurt me. i’m the clown

[@TeaLeafNeeka]

Ugh I’m sorry you have to deal with that :/

[@Rosey0928]

Sounds just like my crush where he seems like he likes you but I have know idea if my crush likes me or not TwT

[@RandiMac]

I just found out today that my crush does not like me TT

[@TeaLeafNeeka]

Remember that time heals everything, it truly does! Just take this time to focus on yourself 💛

[@natalieloomis7854]

Same💔

[@josiedaniella]

Same girl!! I kinda knew for awhile but I don’t know whether to be sad or relieved because I really wanted to know if he liked me or not turns out he didn’t

[@meowmeow6395]

and all this happened about 15 minutes ago

[@sherylkim2594]

meow meow yeah my crush is with my friend I’m bawling my eyes out

[@ayushiprasad250]

Same lol

[@Synthetically]

Same :(

[@ninoslanguagejourney6002]

Already making me feel better since I can remember the time of having to struggle after curshing way too hard on someone before being rejected. This time around I just adressed it early on about how I could see us going towards something and asked if we're on the same page and found out that he just wants to have a friendship + kinda thing. So now I's more of a "oh well that really sucks" kinda feeling but it'll be alright. Glad I cleared the sir before getting more into my head and can now focus on meeting someone who wants the same thing.

[@graciexoxo1730]

My crush punched me in the stomach :(

[@TeaLeafNeeka]

Punch them back? Lol jk don’t do that, report them because people shouldn’t punch people in general

[@Samosakhasain]

I’m so sorry for laughing

[@inotApril]

Me crying because he's probably not into me

[@summerghost6551]

Told my crush I like him yesterday coz he wouldn't stop messing with me unless I told him so. He said he didn't feel the same but hoped we can still be close friends since he kind of likes it when we hang out. he just doesn't like me back 😢💔

[@6th_Duo]

Jessica Y. I totally understand you, that’s what happened to me. But he has a girlfriend. I told my friends and she was telling him, he don’t feel the same way I am soooo embarrassed omg I wanna kms

[@its_ann.8703]

I’m in the “just a friend” problem

[@keshsans536]

Same thing happened to me

[@ur1STandLASTeverything_]

I had a crush....we met way back then during gr. 2 he was my BESTFRIEND! ♡♥ And he was the one who liked me first ( not bragging ) And slowly over time I started liking him too! I'm just 11 LoL ! But through the years.( 4 & 1/2 years....lol)..we have the same feelings towards each other! ♡♥♡ But we never talked because I was so shy, and so is he because of our classmates who always ship us. Now Im 12...and my parents wanted me to transfer to a different school........Im gonna leave him........BUT NO! Actually ...he was transfering too! He was transfering to the same school I was also gonna go to! I was so excited for school. ♥ 5 likes = part 2

[@kierandoesstuff7316]

You got those likes now part two

[@viannccaa]

part 2 bbbb

[@muffincrossing4152]

PART 2 !This will help me tell my crush (are class ships us)

[@ur1STandLASTeverything_]

I completely forgot about the existence of this comment. Damn, did 11 year old me actually just share her personal info to the internet? Well, I've done way more crazier shit than that so, okay. Man is this comment poorly constructed with bad grammar. Well, I guess I have to share part 2 now just because I'm bored.

[@roscurro]

I have a crush on somebody I know online (who’s also lesbian), and it hurts so bad to see her cycling through crushes every week while I sit there and listen to her rant on and on about them. I keep reminding myself I just want her to be happy, but I still feel like crying-

[@TeaLeafNeeka]

Does she know that you like her??

[@alpha9775]

The comment section here is comforting. Here's a little story. I've had a crush in kindergarten. I've had a crush in elementary school. And now in 9th grade, I have a crush again. I still don't understand why, but I've kinda always had a lot of crushes. The kindergarten one is understandable, and like, puberty is a thing. But what's strange to me is how my current crush feels, special. Like I just want her to be truly happy. I want her to understand how much happiness she's giving me by just existing. And I've honestly never had this feeling to anyone in my whole life before. In my eyes, she shines and brightens my mood. Whenever I'm sad, it's enough for me to think of her and I'm happy. But of course, like everytime I have a crush, she does not feel it back. Yaay! :D And look, I respect her feelings (or non-feelings haha), I can actually have a solid friendly conversation with her, which is amazing, because I've always been rather introverted, and it feels like I'm finally opening up, also thanks to me confessing to her. Hm, honestly I feel like I just wanna reach out to people about this, cause I wanna how others deal with it. It's not like I can't deal with it, it just would be nice to see how others deal with it. Thanks for reading, and stay safe!

[@hoshiko8376]

i really had a deep connection with my crush but these days she would ignore me? sometimes i think its probably because of school and that she's moving but she would talk to other people? i use to think she liked me but....i guess she got bored of me?

[@MROscar702]

My crush liked me a few years back, but as soon as I got the confidence to tell them I had feelings. They rejected me. ))));;;;;;

[@LuMabellini]

i told my crush like 2 times that i love him, for four years he never feel the same with me, its sad that he even pretend to like me but i know he never felt that way. Im- rlly sad with myself and it makes me feel miserable seeing that he is falling in love with my friend, but ok i cant manipulate him to like me lol if he is happy i will be happy too

[@TeaLeafNeeka]

Some videos that I think might help you is Ask Neeka #2 and My Crush is in a Relationship, Now What?? I’m sorry you’re going through this but know that you’re not alone and it doesn’t last forever! :)

[@vegetableautopsy3551]

If I have a crush on someone I assume that they don't like me back. Either that or they're not available.

[@emilies-g7784]

My crush rejected me. The problem is, they were sending ''I like you" vibes when I would text them. They are my only friend. The only one I could come to and now I just cant get myself to text them again. They were my best friend.

[@thewannathree.]

Bro can I tell my story .

[@Miki24zz]

Smile through the pain and count the blessings

[@rhinohaddad4245]

Told my crush I liked him, left me on sent.

[@TeaLeafNeeka]

I’m so proud of you for doing it though. That’s the most important thing, just getting it over with and then navigating whatever happens after. I believe you did yourself a favor. Good luck 🍀

[@auspicious8885]

Ya I got rejected and idk why it’s been a few months but I still am sad and I have nobody to vent to

[@boiledpotatoes4154]

Woah this is legit the first video that's never had a dislike on it and it doesn't deserve one you are so good at giving advice thank you so much I love your channel

[@phungitla]

I told my crush that I liked him through lyrics prank and he was like oh, hehe, why?..blah blah & ended up not replying me. So, I am here to prepare myself not to make awkward moments between him and I.

[@TeaLeafNeeka]

Haha I low key always wanted to do the “lyric prank to my crush” thing but alas, I’ve been in a relationship for 6 years

[@chellienippie2300]

I almost killed myself when she said no

[@TeaLeafNeeka]

Are you exaggerating?

[@hellothere-nv8gc]

Don't:((

[@bridget3289]

oh no plz don’t u are precious

[@alperalper9596]

Well .... it’s been 2 years I’ve unfollowed my crush deleted all of his pictures forgot about him But I feel like I just can’t I can’t help but thinking about him all the day long I’m not used to this feeling It took me a long time to admit it and accept it Now that it’s been 2 years I’ve sent him a message he replied and After replying again he just ignored me I don’t wanna know any other ways about forgetting about him , I’ve never knew what I wanted But rn I’m pretty sure that he’s the only thing I want If you have any ways that might help me please don’t hesitate I’ll be waiting Good luck for y’all ♥️🖇

[@belugacat4599]

I told her today that I like her but she said “I don’t like you only as a friend”,that moment I felt heartbroken and helpless cause I like her very much…..

[@dorfan3506]

Do anything, but don't accept to be her friend

[@Grasstoucher3]

On the first day of highschool as a freshmen i asked for my crushes number and she said yeah, we would talk for hours on text messages. We would talk for so long and she would let me sit with her at lunch, i really was so happy i didn't really have friends before her my first friend in highschool was my crush and she finds no interest in me like that. So now my friend who i hang out with the most who gives me butterflies and makes me blush so hard ill never win her we will always be friends im crying so hard as i say this I'm a guy and I'm telling you i felt love for the first time i couldn't do it anymore i loved her and the feeling of them not loving me back hurts so much

[@NightOfCrystals]

Thanks for the video! It's definitely geared towards a younger audience (I'm 29 and recently single) but it's helped me as I reflect on whether or not to ask out my crush (who I'm pretty confident isn't interested.)

[@TeaLeafNeeka]

I’m so happy it helped you!!!! Yeah I mainly try to gear it towards younger people but I’m so glad to hear that you were able to get something out of it

[@dillanskatez8376]

Fuckkk I just texted my crush on Snapchat saying I like her and and I logged off snap and I’ll check when I wake up I’ll keep you guys updated!!! Pray for me that she liked me atleast 1% and I’ll be a happy boyy:)

[@jayson2121]

I asked to hangout right after getting rejected and we just became best friends over 2 or 3 weeks. I think that makes it easier than breaking someone off entirely

[@janwy6477]

'Go out with friends'....I don't have friends

[@TeaLeafNeeka]

It’s fine, that’s not a requirement to get over someone :)

[@janwy6477]

@@TeaLeafNeeka that's true🥺

[@belol69]

I've liked my crush since 2019, asked her out yesterday and BOOM friend zoned

[@talaabdallah1954]

I dont talk to him on social media but hes with me in the same class

[@clairesneddon6149]

I have a crush right now and I can’t stop thinking about him because he has a gf 😭😭😢😭😭

[@CrackerBarrelkid555]

I always get attached super quickly and I’ve only been talking to this girl for 2 weeks I feel like she messes with me but maybe not in the way I’m feeling for her. I keep trying to hang out with her and she always has plans and they seem legitimate and I don’t think she’s lying either.

[@Vlogsbymegs-28]

I had a crush and I really thought he liked me but he didn’t. I started crying right away. I don’t even know what I’m going to do when I go back to school.

[@quidieepau]

I got rejected by my crush, it hurts so bad. I hope I can easily move on.

[@sia8772]

If you really love him You can't Struggling for 4-5 years

[@lmankbrovaoffical8361]

Thanks for all support.You are such an amazing person💜🍭

[@franscine1232]

Asked him if he wanted to grab some food and got rejected…sucks

[@Duckk20]

She was perfect 🥲

[@shre274]

cause he already has someone else 🥹

[@madisonbranco2753]

I told my crush I liked them TODAY and I knew they didnt like me back but I did it anyway and now I regret it

[@TeaLeafNeeka]

I can’t tell you how proud I am of you for doing it, even when you knew they didn’t like you back. You have to remember that doing this is for yourself so you can finally get your closure and move on. I get that it stings immediately but I don’t believe you’re going to regret this later down the line. So proud 💛

[@Divina_Star]

Me too😔 but I don't give a f about him 🤑

[@shockwave._.8098]

I just asked my crush for a phone call and she rejected me

[@lib.777]

Yes u can focus on yourself, yes u can hang out with friends but it just SUCKS and the feeling is so hard to shake.

[@TeaLeafNeeka]

Yeah I get that :/ sometimes these things just heal with the passage of time

[@brooklynrose2108]

I told my ''crush'' that I like him like 10 mins ago. But he doesn't like me back:( he blocked my instergram account. But after i sat down and think, I found that I don't like him! I like him is just because I think he's cute! The one I like is my another friend ! That makes me feel better because I am not really into him... But I still feel bad for getting rejected:( what should I do😢😢can u help me? 😢

[@simonrodriguez1871]

I’m not trying to be rude or anything but like I ride the bus and I have a class with my crush and I got rejected

[@TeaLeafNeeka]

Are you worried about facing them after the rejection?

[@someone9667]

Simon Rodriguez my crush is in all my classes and it hurts and I feel embarrassed

[@reillyhaas5360]

TeaLeafNeeka yES

[@kaip5511]

EVERYTIME I GET A NEW CRUSH THEY ALWAYS LIKE ONE OF MY FRIENDSSSS I HATE IT HERE

[@Anetusn]

No one likes me. No one wants to hang out with me. No one talks to me. I feel like I’m alone in the world but then again it’s my fault I’m not social. If I truly wanted to change myself for the better I would start by being more confident in things I do or say.

[@arcadia.902]

Know what's even worse when your crush likes you and other girl but your crush chooses the other girl over you. True story

[@meowmeow6395]

well my crush doesn't like me, he think i am ugly and fat, he was looking at me in school but i guess he doesn't looking at me like i was looking in him, while he was looking at me he saw acne, belly fat, ah idk i followed him on insta and he followed me back i was SO FUCKING HAPPY and then he unfollowed me, in school he started looking at other girl he was always on the halls of the school with her, they are laughing and enjoying.. that fucking hurts

[@chloethepro8776]

I told my friend that i liked them, and i wanted to think that they would like me back! But then..she liked someone else. And i don’t think she wants to be my friend anymore..but thank you!

[@dieKahvelin.]

My crush, my friend and I were on a walk, we usually go on walks like 2-4 kilometres every weekend and my crush said, that she had a crush on no one. I didn't want to believe it and told myself, that she just doesn't want to talk about it, but some days later we were still talking about crushes, but with another friend and she told her too, that she didn't like anyone. At that point, I was really sad and if I was alone I would've cried. Now I'm here to get over her. :(

[@dieKahvelin.]

@Omolaye Boluwatife I don't like men

[@OA2605]

I just found out my crush didn't like me back and now I don't know what to do or how to feel. It is a bit hurtful so probably that's why I'm here

[@TeaLeafNeeka]

I’m sorry you’re going through that now, it will get better with some time :/

[@OA2605]

@@TeaLeafNeeka that's so sweet of you to reply, thanks alot.

[@Kireina]

my friends were in a party, and my crush was there too. out of nowhere(my friend called and said this) he asked if i liked him, she said "no" (because YOUKNOOW) and he.. he said "thank god." and i was about to confess.. :(

[@misty9483]

I am my crush’s best friend first and I introduced my friend to him and we started playing games together that time it’s him and I who was close and for 2 weeks I stopped playing that time my friend and him got close and then he started to talk to her like the way he used to talk to me🙂and I did everything to him I just sacrificed many things to make him happy and when I made mistakes he would yell at me don’t talk me and he just blocks me when I keep sending him messages like sorry and when he makes mistakes I would just okk even though it’s hurts me like hell💔 yesterday me , my friend and him met for the first time and it was fun at the first and when he touches her I just can’t able to loot at them😭I felt like something is crushing my heart and when he holded my two hands I just felt that butterfly moment that was just🥺 after sometimes I felt that he is more into her like keep on talking pictures of her and talking about her and we started to take pictures first I took a picture only one in b/w he said in this photo only he is visible and as I am darker than him I am invisible🙂💔I just laughed but deep inside it just broke me and he started to take pictures with her like 4 or more😭 and I was just staring the other side and I was walked away a little bit my face just turned really sad I wasn’t able to smile🥺 then he was about to leave home I said bye first he looked back and said bye to her first like 2 times and then looked at me and said bye😌after we reached home I posted the story on Insta pic of three of us and then she posted our pic. He reshared the story of hers by hiding his face and he didn’t reshared mine and I asked why he said in that pic he is not nice but he posted hers by covering his face🙃 and just replied 👍. I am Broken💔

[@ghiz1ene]

Roses are not all red 🥀 Violets will never be Blue🦋 Because what ever happens💐 He can't love me the way i do...💔

[@helenmeng989]

felt

[@durttydan1768]

I'm too scared to ask him out

[@TeaLeafNeeka]

Why are you scared? Try to break down the reasons :)

[@kristin5510]

About 1 hour ago, I was in a groupchat and one of the people I was chatting with was my crush. His friend was like "play fortnite and stop texting your crush~" I was shocked! I was like omg he likes me back! And then my crush was like "who is my crush" and his friend said "-" and that person wasn't me. And so I was just like "aww you look cute together" and then I told my friend, she got mad and texted him. He was like that wasn't - (his friend) and he was like "I am home alone" and stuff and then he was "I don't like anyone either" I texted him back, and he said "it's fine I'll act normal at school" and then now, I'm crying in my bed watching this video. So if you're out there I just wanted to tell you that I still love you...

[@antibacterialsoap5306]

Damn it. I’ve liked him ever since 2nd grade, and I’m a sophomore in high school. I’ve been to his baseball games, basketball games, I’ve been in the same class, but he still likes her. A girl he’s known the start of this year. He went to out volleyball game to tell her. I’m so sad. I wish I would’ve knew. This is so hard. We had a crush on each other throughout middle school, his friends told me that. But, I’m so sad. So sad. Taking it so personal. I wish I could be his type. She’s so much skinnier, athletic, she’s blonde, pretty, loud, social, funny, and perfect. I wish I could be her. I don’t wanna be me right now. He teases me everyday, I was tempted to thinking he thought about me, but it’s just her. She isn’t the smartest person, but she isn’t ditzy. She’s so perfect for him, but she’s so mean to me. Her tone and facial expressions make me upset. She’s so mean. I wish her and him the best. I hope you guys make it out. I’m just grieving this hard right now. I was never boy crazy, but for him I am. The only real crush I’ve had. He’s not even cute just funny. I like him.

[@helenmeng989]

OUCH. I cried just by reading this. stay strong gurl

[@sprink6803]

😭 it really hurts 😢 Same goes with me but bit different I wanna cry out loud 😭😭

[@minayj]

My heart is beating so fast, it honestly started as a joke and I kept flirting with him. He knew it was a joke so he flirted with me back to it, it was in a group so some people also started shipping us. Months passed I actually started liking him, I didn't ask him out but he told me he was still not over with his ex. So I don't want to ask him out cause he still loves his ex

[@t.princessd157]

I er got rejected :( he was nice and says he thought of me more as a friend. I really don't want to go to school and see him, but your advice really helped, I should focus on myself more and do things to impress myself rather than others 💕💕

[@TeaLeafNeeka]

Exactly! Trust me, as time goes on this will hurt less and less. Time heals all! I’m glad he was nice about it 💛

[@raqueltorres45]

Me and my crush like each other, but then her new neighbor came to the picture, she told me today that she doesn’t love me anymore, i was sad, crying, feel like no one will love me anymore, so thanks for the information. She still wants to be friends, but idk how i can be

[@ueenelisabeth6256]

I didnt even tell him. I just know he doesn't like me back.

[@awangie]

Same 🥺

[@Smellabellastinkyfella]

He acts like he likes me but when I ask he says he doesn’t

[@MaryMary-hn5fg]

Tough This video was really helpful, I’m still really sad. I know my crush doesn’t like me back because of my looks, I never told him beacause I already know what would happen if I did and please don’t tell me something like oh no ur just being pessimistic, I bet ur beautiful because I’m not: it’s not that I’m not happy with my body in general, it’s the face that looks horrible with a giant wide nose, small eyes and average lips. Nobody has ever found me attractive and never will. When I turn 18 I’ll get a nose job and hopefully I’ll look decent and feel comfortable with myself, but till then I’ll be trying not to focus too much on boys and live my life in the most peaceful way possible, please don’t tell me personality is the only thing that matters because if you really think so you’re lying to yourself.

[@TeaLeafNeeka]

Eh okay yeah I feel you. All I’ll say is this: whatever features are considered beautiful are solely based off on what our society thinks is beautiful. And what are society thinks is beautiful is heavily influenced by what media and advertising corporations want us to think is beautiful. That being said, let’s take my nose for example. Its not cookie cutter, it’s not small, it’s not “ideal”. But when I wake up in the morning I look at myself and I think “damn, I look goooooood”. I used to think a lot like you when I was younger, but at 24, I cherish what makes me different so much. I’ll also say that I don’t like the way you look at yourself. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and if you look in the mirror and call yourself horrible and average, how are other people suppose to see you differently? Like I said, I was a lot like you before. I hated things about my face so much that I dreamed of correcting it. But then something in me changed. As I progressed in life and completely focused on my life, career goals, and dreams, I stopped tearing myself down and just saw myself as this unique looking person who’s killing it at life. That sort of confidence led me to dating, but it only happened after I completely accepted myself. You will not be able to progress productively in your journey if you do not love yourself first. Please work on this and remember that you may only think certain features about you are undesirable because the girls on tv, social media, and in magazines look different from you. Not all boys (or people) fall prey to what they think they should be attracted to. If you completely disconnect from the outside noise (tv, ads, media), and completely focus on yourself, your dreams, your future career, and your success, you might start to find yourself less bothered with this. Many boys in middle school and high school didn’t like me because they thought I wasn’t attractive. But then I met one who did and we’ve been together for 6 years. I felt like I met him at the right time, when I was full with self-love and radiating with confidence. There’s no place for self-hatred in that equation. I really wish you the best of luck on this one 💛

[@youtubezcyferconnor7700]

I got friend Zoned from my crush like if this happened to u

[@bettyblack8866]

I was in 5th grade and I asked (my friend surprisingly asked her for me ) if my crush would date me. Without hesitation she said NO. I don't think I have the courage to confront my crush because I'm afraid of the same situation happening again.

[@bryantsanchez3258]

To be honest I’m 12 years old and I’m going through a lot things in my life!!!😕

[@TeaLeafNeeka]

:/ I’m sorry to hear that. Try to focus on the positives in your life, that’s what I try to do when my situation seems rough. As Newt Scamander says, worrying is just suffering twice 💛 Hope everything is okay with you

[@bryantsanchez3258]

TeaLeafNeeka awww thank you are so sweet thank you for the advice!!!

[@iiam4laurahh443]

I feel you its harder for me because I have school

[@lovedbygod6898]

neeka wow your videos are so helpful i just recently got rejected by a girl and your helping me go through this tought stage of my life am 20 yrs.

[@TeaLeafNeeka]

I’m so glad I could be helpful to you 💛

[@agnemma]

I can’t leave him . I don’t have him on social media but he sits next to me in ALL my classes. He reverted me 2 times. I swear I can’t not like him. Can I plz get some advice.

[@TeaLeafNeeka]

That’s tough. I’m assuming that he rejected you twice? Honestly I would just try to remember the pain of the rejection and how if he doesn’t want to give you any of his time then you shouldn’t give him a single second of your time. I know it’s wayyyyyy easier said then done but just don’t talk to him unless you have to and try your best to focus on your classes and studies. I mean, worst case scenario is you can get the teacher to move you if you have some sort of assigned seating? I really wish I had more I can say to you but this seems like something that time can heal. Just take it day by day and soon you’ll see that with each day it starts to get a little bit easier to deal with all of this. Good luck 💛

[@onlyliveonce232]

...first time telling my crush I like him ever to anyone... also first time being rejected... first time crying over a boy.. I’ve never felt this much pain. It’s like I’m crying over a breakup but we were never dating. He and I were sorta friends before I told him, then I told him and he said “sorry I don’t like you back but we can be just friends.” My heart shattered. You’re telling me to push him out of my life, but now he is trying to be friends with me because he feels bad for rejecting me. Help.

[@TeaLeafNeeka]

Hey, sorry to hear about your situation. If this is a friend you want to keep then you for sure don’t want to push them out completely. However, you MUST have a period of separation so you can heal from this. Being around him after this might make it hard. Tell him you need some time apart but you’ll be happy to be friends with him after that. You have to take care of yourself :)

[@onlyliveonce232]

TeaLeafNeeka thank you so much

[@emoelmoiscool9918]

I told my crush I liked them and he said “I know” I said ok and just went home. Two days later he’s dms me saying “I’m sorry” and just said that he didn’t like me. 4 months later his schedule changes and then he’s in my 4 period class. We started to be ‘friends’ but I didn’t feel like that because he always made fun of me. One day I asked him “why do you hate me so much?” And then he said he didn’t and we talked about it and he stopped talking to me.

[@TeaLeafNeeka]

It sounds like he doesn’t know how to handle the situation. He wants to be friendly with you but it sounds like he also wants to keep you at an arms distance just so you don’t feel like he’s leading you on (which explains how he’s making fun of you). I don’t think he hates you, I just think he’s worried he’ll give you the wrong idea if he talks to you as a friend. I want to say that I’m really proud of you for telling him; that’s a hard thing to do. I don’t believe he is handling it well, from what you said. Please try to move on from him and focus on your own future and success. I don’t want this weird dynamic to go on for even longer, it’s just a waste of your energy. Don’t try to talk to him anymore. Please focus on yourself and try to not give him anymore of your time. 💛

[@ester8117]

i'm fat, i have acne and stuff. I mean, these things don't bother me in a way, that's the way I was born. but i'm unfortunately I'm not his type :/ i'm going to finish school this year, and i'm sure i won't have any more contact with him..

[@newchampion8784]

This video made me cry, no matter how hard i try, i can't forget Elena :(

[@sia8772]

Me too for like 4-5 years

[@newchampion8784]

@@sia8772 same:(

[@Just_shushhhh]

That's Why I Started To Become Independent Since That Day And So Far It's Still Hard (I Had A Crush On Her For 5 Years...

[@florichan2399]

I don't really know what to do? My classmate told him that I kinda like him, but as a joke, and he believed it...then he told me that "Don't worry, we can still be friends *pats on the shoulder*". It would be very weird to tell him the truth after all of these..

[@Kellienline]

I told my crush that I liked him and I am so sad now and he literally told me he didn't and I have known him for 8 years and it hurts so much and I have been crying for the last hours.

[@TeaLeafNeeka]

I know it hurts a lot right now, trust me I know. But I can’t emphasize enough that knowing is so much better than not knowing. You did the right thing. You’re not going to waste any more energy on this person anymore and you have opened up space in your heart to find someone else. Please just take this time to connect with friends and family and practice a lot of self care. Everything will be okay :) Time heals everything.

[@Sarita0e]

Im really sensitive with my feelings which makes it worse

[@EmmaLangdon]

Crazy imagine what life would be like if we didn’t have these chemicals that make us find others attractive. That’s deep

[@TeaLeafNeeka]

Our species would probably die out! It’s a necessary burden 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@luna-xb1zs]

somebody found out and told him and then he talked to me abt it and he said “sorry to crush your dreams, but i don’t like you.”

[@TeaLeafNeeka]

He said “sorry to crush your dreams”? Ugh. You’re so much better off moving on from him. You won’t have to waste anymore of your time and energy on him

[@NotnooblyOfficialchannel]

Exactly why I don’t wanna tell her

[@danielgriffin6088]

Crush liked me then I blew it by overthinking our date …long story short we cancelled.. I’m gonna work more on myself. I’m confident I will not rush love … just let it be ❤️🥀

[@sprink6803]

I don't want to have crush on him but I can't and he has crush on someone else and even looks at her continuously it really hurts.

[@clef6853]

Told her today, really messed me over for a little bit. But this really helped.

[@TeaLeafNeeka]

I’m glad it helped! Just give it time, it’ll get better. Proud of you for doing it.

[@siimplynaomi]

My “crush” liked me for 3 months and couple days ago We asked him if he still did and my friend wanted me to be there when she asked so I did and he looked at me and said nope so then my friend said well she likes you and I am so humiliated 😭😭😭💔💔