My dad is paying for my sibling's college expenses but not mine because I'm a product of the affair.

[@Azulakayes]

Story 1: How is he naive to assume that a seemingly loving parent who has supported his siblings through college would support him? Seriously?

[@tofluffybunny6780]

That's exactly what I was thinking

[@kim-ff2qw]

This narrator is the worst 😕

[@michelledubois1276]

Thanks for posting that. He made it his fault his parents lied to him his whole life. Why wouldn't he expect the same as his elder siblings when he achieved it? Duh, and he's the youngest his parents raised him the same from what he said.

[@TowerArcanaCrow]

Narrator is a fucking dumbass. "Should've seen it coming" FUCKING HOW. THE PATTERN OF BEHAVIOR WAS LONG ESTABLISHED.

[@michaelsheal7025]

There on more updates to story 1 the dad has a school fund for the op. Op just happen to walk in on an argument between his parents the mom make a remark that made it sound like the affair was a good thing that set the dad off but the dad truly does love the op

[@michaelsheal7025]

Also if the dad didn't pay the Grandfather funds set aside for all three grandkids

[@TowerArcanaCrow]

​@@michaelsheal7025I hope they post an update, because that helps restore a little bit of faith

[@mmm1217]

Story 1 is a repeat. Worse, it's an incomplete repeat. and it honestly has me livid on OP's behalf. This is beyond simply having bad takes or misunderstanding what you've read. This is actively choosing to cut the story off early for what I can only assume is an attempt to get a non-existent dunk on OP. Per the updates, the grandfather passed away and that kind of managed to cool everyone off by causing everyone to focus on that for a bit. After that, when things settle down, OP talks about the argument that happened immediately before the original post. The father was incredibly stressed out about the grandfather's illness, and it's offhandedly mentioned that the mother admitted to babying OP more than the other siblings. Most importantly, OP realizes just how out of his depth he was and talked about the steps he's taking. He put together a list of the things the comments suggested. He's getting a job, and trying to be more independent. Not, as the update says, to distance himself from them, but to not feel like he'd be lost in the world if they suddenly disappeared. It is frankly disrespectful to the story that the narrator would actively choose not to include this. As I said, this is speculation but it feels like it's because it would mitigate the commentary going 'yeah, you reap what you sow, or not sow in this case, this is kinda on you too when OP' stepped up afterwards, used the situation as a hefty reality check, and just generally showed it was situational rather than laziness/entitlement. I can't see how it'd be unintentional because the original post has the 'grandpa passed' update not mentioned and links to the update post up top. The versions on Best of Redditor Updates both have all the updates there too, so there's really no excuse for not including this.

[@dangerousboxx666]

And on top of that. The narrator has an L take

[@lovelysakurapetalsyt]

I don't blame OP2. He lost his best friend because of the guy's shitty ex wife, and she has the audacity to act like it wasn't her fault he died, when she was the one who made him need to take that walk and got hit. She should've told him at the start of the relationship and said okay to whatever happened, but she couldn't handle that and decided cheating was better

[@lcoq19]

It said he was hit on a late night walk. It doesn't say she was the cause. I understand OP's anger toward her, but I don't think she _made_ him go for that walk. Unfortunately, accidents happen and it's natural to place the blame somewhere. He has every right to his feelings, including the hate for her lying to and cheating on his friend; but the only way she'd be at actual fault for his death is if she ran over him herself or had someone else do it for her. I understand feeling like you have to pretend you're someone you're not and hiding your sexuality out of that fear, but she took it way too far. At the very least, she should have ended things before pursuing other women.

[@jenniferkorf4767]

Would he have been in the depressive stupor that led to his death if she hadn’t been a cheating liar?

[@lovelysakurapetalsyt]

@@jenniferkorf4767 Yep that's what I was saying

[@lovelysakurapetalsyt]

@@lcoq19 Man, he was in a stupor and didn't notice the car when he got hit BECAUSE he found out she cheated

[@lcoq19]

@@lovelysakurapetalsyt not a man. And I didn't hear him say when this happened/how long between him finding out and his death. It could've been days, weeks, months, or years for all we know. What she did was bad and shitty and wrong and I'm not arguing that at all. But there's still every chance he just went for a walk for the hell of it and got hit. You can blame her for all the BS she did, but it's still not fair to blame someone for something they didn't do and had no control over.

[@kennethforde5630]

Story 1 is incomplete. I know everybody has a different opinion, and I respect that, but I felt like the narrator didn't even read story one, and he didn't even finish doing his job. There's no need to come after this narrator. He's already telling on himself. Where are you Kevin!?

[@spiritwolf3103]

Kevin is the best

[@17nero44]

Story 1: Hope the update I saw mentioned was real, since it would be beyond shitty for the dad to punish a child for something the child couldn’t control. I also disagree with the narrator since there were no mentions of money problems or stigma towards OP so of course he would assume the same treatment his siblings got. Story 2: Homophobia is one thing, but consciously cheating is another. I don’t agree that she directly caused the friend’s death, but do agree that the wife had some seriously messed up priorities for ignoring OP’s feelings and the facts.

[@yamairad1]

Story 2. I understand the wife's compassion, but Sally has more support than her. She is blowing up her marriage for this woman. It's insane.

[@emanx222]

I couldn't understand the wife's compassion If I tried. How you can actively support someone that is quite literally the cause of her husband's death (no one can convince me otherwise because If she hadn't basically shattered every view Ben had of their marriage he probably wouldn't have been on the walk the night he died, I know it's a reach but that's just my opinion on it lol) The cheater had the audacity to show up at that funeral. If she had ANY respect for Ben whatsoever she'd have let his family grieve in peace without her useless ass there and the OP's wife somehow finds reason to justify caring for her.........nah that's a load of utter bullshit. Like it's so fragrant it's unreal!!!!!!!

[@yamairad1]

@emanx222 No, when I say compassion, I mean. I understand why she feels sorry for her and hopes she has support. I don't understand why she takes it upon herself to be that support as if there were nobody else to give it. I don't understand why there isn't any compassion for the husband. I believe that she will realize how she messed up one day.

[@benjibfenwick]

I have something to say about story two, OP is not the AH sally definitely is but the comments on pretending to love Ben are a little to much for me because I have a feeling Sally might be bi and Demi. Being Demi myself the comment about falling in love with Ben’s personality makes me think she might be Demi for men and just attracted to women. That being said it doesn’t excuse her cheating. And holy shit what is wrong with OPs wife she knows he hates Sally and she was consoling her in his home (he makes it seem as if his name is on the deed) and then still is hanging out with her after OP made it clear he hates her. People are allowed to have friends but if their friend hurt their partners dead friend cut that friend out.

[@1toshi32]

I used to live next door to a couple who had 3 kids. I was sort of friends with them. The woman rushed outside one day and she was in hysterics. I tried to talk to her and she confessed that she just found out that she was adopted. The her adopted parents paid the matron of a hospital who had orphans for her. Because they didn't tell her, she suffered mental trauma so bad. In the end, she thankfully found out that her real parents were living in Canada and the mother was forced to give her up because she had her when she was a teenager. She ended up divorcing her husband and leaving him to support 3 small children and went overseas to Canada and lived with here real parents. It was so messed up. I am really glad he told him. After what our neighbour went through, it's better to tell them when they are younger so they can process it all.

[@evanwillis1870]

Story 1: Dad is shitty for not paying for OP's education. It doesn't matter that OP's not biologically his son because he still took on the responsibility of raising him. To OP, his dad IS his dad, and denying him assistance because of something the mom did is just awful. Also, it's not trolling if you make a bad take and get called out for it. It's not naive to assume that your parents care for you and will help you if they did the same for both of your siblings.

[@PlaugeDoct0r]

His dad is not bad for not providing his money it does not matter what op thinks the dad is to him the dad doesn't think of is his son.

[@cipher5150]

​@@PlaugeDoct0r then the dad should have made that clear right from the start. instead he behaved and treated op like his own child. the dad MADE op believe he is op's dad, which of course caused op to think he will receive the same treatment as his siblings, emotionally as well as financially. but apparently there's an update missing and the dad actually had money for that purpose for op as well and op only heard the dad say otherwise in response to something f'd up the mother said during a fight/argument.

[@justanotherdude3113]

In the full story, the dad and mom were having a conversation that triggered the dad. That's why he said he wouldn't pay, but he ends up paying for him because he does love him as a son.

[@deusex4905]

​@@justanotherdude3113 oooh, that's the same story? I remember it. I'm glad for op. Besides the struggle with college, it probably hurt him a lot to think that his dad didn't loved him after all

[@PlaugeDoct0r]

@cipher5150 because it was on the mother to give him that info the dad was just doing what should be the bare minimum.

[@mwalton9526]

Story 7: The child has a right to know, and OP has a right to disclose that information.

[@tofluffybunny6780]

Yes the child does but it's the parents decision no one else's

[@mwalton9526]

@@tofluffybunny6780 Absolutely not.

[@Yellowbeing08]

​​@@tofluffybunny6780absolutely not, an adopted kid, even more if their like OP's brother needs to know, but the parents were not ok with it, so OP had no other choice Ofc it would be best if the parents say it, but since they refused OP needed to

[@roxannabellkuehn4645]

That first story filled me with RAGE. What kind of crap man let's a child call him "dad" his whole life and then is like "wtf, I'm not your dad". Uhm, yes, you are. The moment you allowed that child to call you dad, and raised that kid like he's yours, the kid became yours. What an unattractive trait.

[@LunaP1]

And he stayed with his cheating wife like an idiot.

[@michaelsheal7025]

There is an update to the story with the Tldr being 1 there is a college fund for op 2 he just walked in at a bad time after his parents just had an argument over a remark by his mom that made the affair sound like a good thing 3 even if there wasn't a college fund the grandfather who passed between posts left a fund for all three grandkids which op can use as a college fund and 4 the dad apologize for what he said to op and he does truly view him as his son

[@PlaugeDoct0r]

I don't want to see anyone defending the ex in story 2 no one deserves that

[@jenniferkorf4767]

THE CLIFFHANGER AT THE END, PLEASE HAVE AN UPDATE SOON ( sorry for the caps, I’m internally screaming)

[@emanx222]

I vehemently disagree with thr narrator's take on the adoption story if anything its more OP's place than ANYONE's to tell that kid they are adopted especially since 1. The kid is already noticing things subconsciously 2. Its clear Narrator forgot the part where OP literally clarified the parents have outright decided NOT TO TELM HIM EVER 3. OP is the most trusted person in the kid's life, if not him who the hell else is gonna tell him All that being said, im not saying OP should just come out with it ignoring reality and going in without a plan and a lot more thought into the aftermath needs to be considered but to say "its not OP's place to tell him" is a load of rubbish ESPECIALLY gven all the overal context of the story. Somefimes nuance is needed when judging these stories

[@kristahathaway9308]

How is he naive to think that he would get the same treatment as his parents did for his other siblings that is just I don't know like dude if your siblings are getting a college fund when did you think you would too this guy raised him for 18 years and he is still his father and he's not paying for his college friend what a crappy f****** family

[@sleepy_sheepz]

As a person who is adopted I would feel so much anger and rage towards my adopted parents if they didn’t tell me I was adopted I now only express negative emotions towards my bio parents but that’s due to them bringing me into a world where they could not care for me and throwing me into the system thankfully I got put into a good loving home but that was thanks to chance on top of that I was placed their as a newborn there for my chances to be adopted was a lot higher than a toddler being adopted but I express a lot of negative emotions towards my bio parents for placing the risk of me going to a bad home

[@deusex4905]

Story 1: I'm glad at least op's sister has his back. The parents here are shitty. The mom for cheating, never saying anything and not planning his futur, and the dad for letting him down unprepared Edit: by the way, college in USA is SO expensive it makes me angry for students who are poor or with shitty parents. College system there is, for me, made to stop those students to get better education. Just seeing how homeschooling is a big thing in America confort me in this opinion. People deserve to have a good education and better chances without living their whole life with loans.

[@deusex4905]

Really confused with the credit system too.

[@darkwya]

about the story about the grandma, i dont blame her for thinking the way she does. older woman have seen and lived a lot of things regarding men, and their believes abour men is very settled because of those experiencies. "all men are the same" is a very common thing to think when youve seen so much. OP may be diferent, but she cant know that for sure, and despite i understand how bad and offended op is feeling, i can also see where shes coming from. its a very hurtful situation but the best op can do is prove her wrong with time

[@ashleyrios9001]

Story 7: he shouldn’t tell his brother that he was adopted cuz what if his mom couldn’t have kids so they chose to adopt an it’s better the parents tell cuz they can answer questions he will have

[@mwalton9526]

They were never going to tell him. It also doesn't matter why they adopted him, he has a right to know.

[@AtotehZ]

If I was the dad, OP in the first story would not have known me other than when I pick up or drop off the siblings at their mom. Zero tolerance for cheating. Cheaters are for the streets at best and belong in a coma at worst. My honest to god opinion is that you should have the option to register relationships and if a person cheats while in a registered one they should be punished heavily by law. Whether that means X years of salary or X years in prison I don't care.

[@PeachfuzzPenguin]

Wow the last story, I cannot believe the parents would push that they dont want him to know because it will make him feel rejected, and then they lock Jim out and ignore him. How backwards is that?

[@pablosanchezbellouccinni]

Another Re-upload!!! Dude!?!?! Make sure next time you Re-upload, it's been more than 3 months. That way we might not have it so fresh in our minds!!!

[@mwalton9526]

It's not a full re-upload, just a repeat of story 1.

[@arynkoeings668]

I dont think it was no one wanted the stepdaughter i think she expected to get her way an when she didnt she got mad and i think the mom said if Op agreed she could stay but SD didnt ask Op and threw several fits shes not getting what she wants to the point of flipping out on Ops daughter cause she didnt want to share a room

[@mvc861]

Exactly. The narrator didn’t understand the story.

[@joy4themightydonutchainsaw620]

Story 2:I feel bad for the OP and he is grieving and the biggest problem in his life is still around and his wife sides with her it’s awful and I hope he can fully get away from her and she is genuinely an awful wife arguably person as well. On the other hand Sally is grieving as well and I do think she loved him in every aspect except sexually but cheating is horrible and she strung him along hopefully beards (I don’t know if there’s a female version) don’t have to exist anymore and these people should leave their partners so they can find someone more compatible. I also find it funny how some affair partners tell the SO, not because they are guilty but because they think they will go back to them, like they didn’t just betray the cheater.

[@Kore_Kita]

Maybe I’m just messy but what if the kid had kermited unalive out of shame like that other Reddit story where the kid found out they were an affair child?

[@snonyabeeswax]

talk about a scumbag dad should still be supportive like wtf

[@snonyabeeswax]

bet he dropped that on op to get out of helping

[@arynkoeings668]

Stick it or get stuck by crazy ya mean 😂 omfg i know how Op feels

[@hypnotherapy69]

story 2 I don´t want to defend Sally and what she did BUT belive it or not you can acctually fall inlove with someone who is of the oposit gender than what you are sexually attracted to so she might really have had romantic feelings for him atleast to some extent. That being said, I would probably have said the exact same thing to her if i was op.

[@sohanpanda]

Story:4 why do so many comments keep saying its her decision, yes its her grandma but its their wedding not just her's but that being said his fiance aswell the rest of the family seem rational, so I don't think there is any to worry about.. just don't agree with the reasons in the comment😅

[@jenniferkorf4767]

THANK YOU, it’s like… it’s their wedding, not just hers, if the Grandma causes a scene it won’t just ruin her special day, but also his.

[@dreamwithouttears8293]

I want to say that when i saw video clip text, i think that dad is something like a** hole that he is biolog father but because "she/he" was born outside marriage, he doesnt want to bay anything. But no it same old story.

[@ashleyrios9001]

Nah it looks like they couldn’t have kids so they adopted yuppp an it’s more for them an they don’t wanna bring it up

[@onycagayle4485]

❤

[@9351jb]

Yeah I don't like this narrator

[@hennigadient4265]

I dislike that narrator. his commentary is just bad. my opinion only.

[@TemporalOnline]

My f*ing hell every single opinion of this channel is made to anger and make people comment because of that. I am unsubscriibing and blocking this channel so that I dont ever get tricked to that ever again.

[@heyyitsjanea]

op2…i would’ve been reacted a LOT worse and a LOT more vindictive. to both.

[@heyyitsjanea]

i mean it’s a pretty fair assumption