MY DAUGHTER WAS BORN WITH ONE HAND... and so what? // Congenital Amputee Story

[@elijahphillips2814]

This video has so much joy, I love it, it is good to hear other people having these complex nuanced and real conversations. Just beautiful

[@StumpKitchen]

this makes me so happy!!!

[@shelbydixon6224]

I loved this video, hearing first hand from the mother of a child born missing a hand. I was born 34 years ago, and my mom had no idea that I would be born with my left arm ending just below my elbow. I have a very well rounded stump, it is smooth, with no evidence of any fingers or hand. I know it was a surprise to mom, but she accepted me with all the love any mom could give. She never treated me any different than my sister and brother. I was expected to join in with the chores just like my siblings, and for that I am grateful. My parents did think I should have a prosthetic, and for a while as a child I wore it, but really hated it. I even got in trouble one time when I used it to hit my brother over the head with it. In middle school, I would wear it to school, then take it off and leave it in my locker until it was time to go home, and wear it home so my mom thought that I was using it. By eighth grade, I quit wearing it completely, and have never gone back to wearing a prosthesis again. I get along just fine using my nubbie as my second hand. I have raised two kids, never had any need for any help from others. My husband has been around to help me with those few things which are difficult for me to do, but all in all, having just one hand has never given me problems.

[@StumpKitchen]

Omg your story sounds very similar to mine! Thank you!

[@LeilahT]

Thanks so much for this, the conversation was fantastic, and she's wonderful. 🌻 This bit really got me... "You've got to take what you've got and do your best with it, and it's not always enough. You've got to go easy on yourself, because sometimes you just can't be enough. Enjoy what you can." I don't know that I've *ever* heard anyone say that before. I've heard, you know, it's ok to not be perfect, or whatever you can do, that's enough, all of that. But never that sometimes you won't be enough... and that's ok. You do what you can. Beautifully said, and exactly what I needed to hear right now.

[@StumpKitchen]

Oh this makes my heart so happy, thank you for taking the time to watch and comment!!!

[@StumpKitchen]

And your comment made me go back and reflect on that part two, and it moved me even more the second time! Thank you!

[@robinsanchi5490]

Thank you for your kind words. 💜 One thing I'd like to change about the video is the title. There needs to be ", and so what?" At the end. 🤷

[@StumpKitchen]

I'll do that right away!

[@10lauset]

I guess I'm next to comment. Cheers

[@StumpKitchen]

hellooooo!