My Father Killed My Mother, Brother And Sister (Pt 1)|Unpacked with Relebogile -Episode 52 |Season 3

A guest shares a tragic accident caused by a loved one that made her lose her entire family.
Studio Guest: Alicia Ramdharee
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[@dumisanisibaya4364]

Nobody deserve this pain, I'm sorry my dear.

[@aliciasewdass1804]

🤗

[@alexisd2587]

Sad story. You are a great interviewer! You touch on so many overlooked yet important topics. Love all the way from Connecticut, USA.

[@____lemogang]

I agree man.

[@joycemsiska-chihana9010]

She is extremely good and just a natural. Its in her

[@lungiao229]

Connecticut where 😂😂

[@joycemsiska-chihana9010]

@@lungiao229 you know something that we don't hahahahah

[@jaiyaalexandra144]

I just want to hug her because there are no words that you can say in such circumstances. I am terribly sorry Alicia.

[@aliciasewdass1804]

Thank you Jaiya. 🤗

[@jn8922]

This is heartbreaking. I'm Indian and this highlights the toxicity that exists in our community. I am angry listening to this for many reasons but mainly for the lack of sensitivity towards a 12 year old girl who just lost her entire family in such a tragic way. Indian aunties can be so cruel - I'm so angry that anyone would tell a child that their father left her in Jhb because she had a big mouth. Look how that detail stays with her and what it caused - she blamed herself.

[@thepertinentinfluence]

This country and its people need to be prayed for. South Africa has become demonic and eery. No person deserves this pain.

[@shereenmakwakwa994]

She can't even talk without crying, at 12 losing your father, mother, brother and sister. I can't believe it 💔

[@aliciasewdass1804]

It brings back so many emotions speaking about that specific day. A day I will never forget.

[@shereenmakwakwa994]

@@aliciasewdass1804 So sorry for what you went through, can't wait to see part 2 to see how you've overcome this trauma. You've inspired so many people with your story ♥️♥️

[@oratilethango8077]

@@aliciasewdass1804 sending love babes 🥰😘

[@LumkaJwara]

Congrats on 1ook you don't know how much this show has filled a void me. Hearing all the topics you bring to the show is life changing. Thank you to all the guests that have opened up their lives to us.

[@Godsmasterpiece33]

The family is growing. ❤❤😊😊😊🥳🥳🥳

[@damariszuckschwert9489]

The things I love about Lebo she is so excellent in her questioning to make us understand the story even more easier.

[@Afro_Sims]

It’s so heartbreaking that none of the adults actually helped her deal with everything. 💔

[@lesegomoropa556]

Unfortunately the adults were grieving too and probably didn’t know how to help her with her grieve. Hope she got counselling

[@aliciasewdass1804]

At that time I needed a support structure and as much as everyone was going through their own grief I wish an adult took time to help this child 😔 get through emotions that didn't make any sense.

[@Afro_Sims]

@@aliciasewdass1804 I’m so sorry you had to go through that, I pray for your healing & I hope your inner child finds healing too ❤️

[@nthomengmajara8575]

I think they also don't know how to deal with the situation.

[@_molebogeng6281]

How she's been able to cope with that trauma all these years and not lost her mind is beyond me

[@aliciasewdass1804]

It was hard. I was in a dark place many times. I chose to not give in instead I chose to live life to the fullest. My trauma does not define me.The entire process of finding myself, loving myself, putting me first, forgiving my dad and prayer.

[@sharonsingh4037]

Ask yourself a question muydad everything I's about my dad nothing about mum and my siblings also you are trying to justify what you love your dad never did you mention you love your siblings or your mum you only lived your dad tell the people about who planted the seed of doubt in your dad's mind and also tell what happenedon valentines day year 1999 for a 12 year old you remember alot so go back that year let's take it from there I'm the eldest aunt talk to me I will give the whole story and when my brother in law shit his family he left R1700 HIS ID and my sisters ID and the children's birth certificate all I a envelope on the dining table she was never asked to look for anything ad she was a minor at that time

[@Nicole-wd4fh]

You're a way better person than most of us. Some of us aren't able to forgive those that have done far less. We tend to hold on to the pain they caused instead even when we claim to have moved on and start associating the people who've wronged us with the pain. Sadly once that happens, we don't see beyond the pain when we have encounters with them, there's nothing else one sees past the pain. For some reason that can take a person right back. Stay strong Alicia, I wish I had half your courage sweetheart 💞💞💞

[@aliciasewdass1804]

@@Nicole-wd4fh I believe we are all good people regardless of not forgiving. Its just that at some point we should realise and understand no human is perfect. Who are we to judge? I have done things I'm not proud of but I take it as lessons learnt. Remember what we give out to the universe it comes back. So give out positive and we get positive energy. I know I attract people who have had traumatic experiences and I always wondered why. Strangers just start talking to me about their lives. Its because I've been through it. Change starts with us, forgiveness is a process and you will know when you are ready. 🌻🤗

[@Nicole-wd4fh]

@@aliciasewdass1804 😭💞

[@missq9025]

We are also going through the same thing in my family. A lady from my ncanes church called my mom out of the blue and told her about a dream she had of my father putting poison in my moms food and my mom falling sick very quickly and dying, in her dream she saw the packaging of the poison and where it was hidden, also in her dream she saw that as soon as my mom was burried my dad moved in with another woman and me & my siblings were kicked out of the house. Following day my mom told me about the lady's dream and we decided to search for the poison. And guess what ??? We found it exactly where she said she saw it in her dream and also packaged the way she saw it😳😳😳. We took the muthi and hid it but worst of all my father is an arch bishop and we really don't know how to handle this matter or even who to talk to😭😭😭

[@jeaninedaans5313]

😞😞😓😓😓🙏

[@oratilethango8077]

Jesus Christ is Lord

[@babalwamncedane7723]

Thank God the lady had a dream, is she a clairvoyant person?

[@missq9025]

@@babalwamncedane7723 yes she is

[@msarchibong7813]

And your mom didn't leave immediately? Could the lady have been intimate with your dad? Did she have access to your home?

[@thandekampanza4749]

Having had the privilege of meeting I can attest to how strong yet pure spirited you are. You are warm, funny, witty one would not say you have been through what you went through. You are loved and covered in prayer.

[@aliciasewdass1804]

Thank you my dear Thandeka 🤗🌻

[@iyaloopaulus2601]

Congratulations on 100K Lebo 🍾🎊🎉

[@OleratoPharasi]

This is by far the saddest episode I've watched.

[@khef3846]

I told myself that I won’t watch this episode but I did. Now I’m a crying mess.

[@aliciasewdass1804]

Sending you a huge hug

[@gcinumuzimahlangu1492]

Kelebogile you are a natural, great stories perfectly told... Thank you for touching people's lives ❤️❤️❤️

[@nthomengmajara8575]

Now this broke my heart. Sending her love, light, peace and healing.

[@aliciasewdass1804]

Thank you Nthomeng

[@JudithNcapayi]

I think the adults failed her in this case. Why did they expose a 12 year old to this gruesome sight? They were supposed to shelter her. Why send her upstairs to look for adult documents? Yhoo she is very strong. I wish you all the strength in life Alicia 💪💪❣️❣️

[@ayandamgiba3912]

When you don't even wish something like this even to your worst enemy... You know it's really heartbreaking 😢

[@bianca83626]

You're so brave for sharing your story ❤ One can only imagine what you've been through. There is a greater purpose for your life, keep pushing and taking one day at a time

[@ms.martina8238]

Her story is similar to mine, my father attempted to kill us in 2016, he first tried to strangle my Ma to death luckily my younger sister was there in time and he later Burnt the house whilst me and Ma went to police station report him, only to receive a call from our neighbours telling us the house is on fire💔 Had we left the children in the house, nke re bua nthweng now...

[@beyondonevoice9667]

You should also share your story on this show.i

[@LenaHelena_]

@@beyondonevoice9667 yeah she should

[@namisazulu1372]

Where is your father now?

[@nthomengmajara8575]

I am so sorry you went through that.

[@aliciasewdass1804]

I am sorry you had experience something like this. Sending you love and light

[@madamflames]

Congratulations on 100k ma'am. To us who's been here from 6k.😍😍😍 I love how fast we growing!!

[@ireadwhatilike1967]

Tjo! I haven't started watching but I know this woman is courageous. I wouldn't be able to sit down and talk about it.

[@aliciasewdass1804]

Thank you

[@sekgolaluckymoeng6566]

Love and light to her🥰🥺🥺. It takes so much courage to talk about such an experience without crumbling 🫂🫂.

[@simplylebohang4099]

This is so sad 😔, strength, love, peace and courage to you, you've come this far 🤍

[@aliciasewdass1804]

Thank you so much

[@bongiwezaca2721]

I'm so heartbroken for this young lady😔😔

[@aliciasewdass1804]

Its okay Bongiwe sometimes life dishes out the harshest of things. I'm here today to motivate so many with my story

[@emmahobiero4724]

this is really sad,am sorry for what happened to you,may God give you grace everyday

[@aliciasewdass1804]

Thank you Emmah

[@moshibudithelma991]

Just finished watching this on TV must have been very hard for her to move on after your own father kills almost all your family and you are left to deal with everything and also she was 12 years old 😭💔😩

[@londymotsoeneng5542]

TV?

[@aliciasewdass1804]

It was difficult to go on with life. I missed them dearly. I mastered hiding my emotions and dealt with it later. I was suicidal in my teenage and young adult years. Until I've decided to turn my life around. To be positive and love myself. I am here today because I chose not to give up.

[@ItsOnlyJunie]

@@aliciasewdass1804 Sincerely sorry, 😭 I pray for strength and healing ❤️🙏🏽

[@swazi4769]

To live with so many questions is probably the worst for the lady. I'm so sorry that you had to go through this my lady. This is horrific.

[@aliciasewdass1804]

The unanswered questions will forever be. Today I am grateful that I can help many and share my story. I am a Warrior and I am here to save as many lives as possible. Suicide is not a solution.

[@swazi4769]

@@aliciasewdass1804 you are so positive and we praise The Almighty for your wisdom and strength. You are a warrior.

[@petronellahmushore283]

@@aliciasewdass1804 ❤️❤️

[@afropages6177]

This is so painful full sending you hugs and luv. Star point, always pack important documents in a box, file or folder and let the kids know what's there my Mum had a secret Box so important.

[@ziyanda6521]

This happened to someone I know, the only reason she wasn't killed was because she was a baby then the father turned the gun to himself.

[@hlengiwemasondo2858]

I'm so sorry to hear this, did u find the reason why the father did what he did ?

[@LethoHali]

😢

[@ziyanda6521]

I have no idea, it's really sad.

[@aliciasewdass1804]

So sad.

[@ntombizodwamahlangu2829]

😭

[@Cryonic7740]

One question I would like to know is if Alicia’s feelings for her dad changed over time. That was such a selfish thing he did, and it’s so painful that a young girl had to carry the burden through self blame for so long in her life.

[@aliciasewdass1804]

At first I was furious at my dad. Over the years I've found it in me to forgive my dad for what he did. I hold no harsh feelings against my dad.

[@Cryonic7740]

@@aliciasewdass1804 Thank you. Forgiveness is the only way to be free

[@kwandilekhanyile2667]

No one should go through this no one deserve to experience such pain this is too much.

[@jaiyaalexandra144]

Why? Why bring children to this world to kill them in such a brutal way? 😭😭😭Oh Jesus!

[@aliciasewdass1804]

We will never know why and what the next person is going through. Sometimes people are on their last straw. Its sad but real.

[@tlhologelomashigo4663]

Sending Love and light to you Alicia I just want give you a comforting hug, this is so traumatic may you find comfort and grace through your life's journey and in God

[@aliciasewdass1804]

Thank you Thihologelo

[@snezikhali7699]

This is so heartbreaking 💔

[@rebirthpodcast2023]

Such a sad story. Thank you for Unpacked Relebogile, every episode I watch I'm so moved

[@didintlemokotedi5138]

This is touching 🙏🥺 Alicia is strong.

[@aliciasewdass1804]

Thank you

[@sizakelediya4080]

What a painful story 💔 😢😪, I can 100% relate to the denial part, after you cry and then you just become num through. Losing my brother in car accident after just saw him was torture. I tell you this is really until you final see arrangements being made, for I needed to go with my parents everywhere even though I couldn't even look at his body which I'm glad as my last memory was positive. I know kids get to be left out in the grieving process because even adults are deeply in their own painful feelings looking at this little one bring pain I can imagine wishing you can take her pain away. I'm so sorry you have to go through so much pain 💔.

[@aliciasewdass1804]

I am sorry for your loss. 🤗. The grieving process is a messy place. It hits you sometimes like a ton of bricks. Thank you Sizakele

[@sizakelediya4080]

@@aliciasewdass1804 Thank you my love. So true, it might sound crazy but they are close to you than when they were alive. He visit me in my dreams now and the again. I've learn to appreciate memories that we had and things I took for granted now they mean the world to me. I know the pain that comes when his funeral dates come but he visiting me through dreams and signs to show he is okay. I have a picture in my phone of dove 🕊 that just sit in my door for hours I knew that's him showing himself or sometimes i see a person exactly like I will what??? but he had very goofy personality so I know it him. So they are still with you loving you above. Sending you big hugs 🫂🫂🫂

[@nonofobaikalafhi1602]

Jeso! The whole family gone and she's left alone. Bathong mara why ntate yo a entse ntho e mpe jaana. This is heart breaking. A 12 year old having to hear her mom and siblings moments before their untimely demise. The trauma this lady must be going through. The unanswered questions as to why her dad did this. I'm so sorry for this lady. My heart bleeds for her. This puzzle called life will forever have missing pieces for her💔💔

[@TheRecruitmentGuru]

This is so difficult to watch. I'm drowning in tears. You ladies are both so strong. I pray to God to comfort Alicia forever. I can't believe she's so strong. ❤

[@thembekilemsimanga2897]

This story touched me so badly 😢 M really heartbroken 💔 and I couldn't stop crying. For a twelve year old to experience such an incident it's a trauma. She made it through the grace of God. 😭😭😭😭

[@aliciasewdass1804]

God carried me through in so many ways. That today even if I'm having a bad day I know it will turn into something positive.

[@thatokammerer2498]

I cannot wait for part 2. And not to take away anything from her story... after binging about 6 months worth of episodes today... the way Lebo says OK....I cannot unhear it

[@dankumarasamy7704]

This really touched my heart. What this young girl went through at such a young child.

[@leratoelizabethmanong129]

Love and strength to her... this was heartbreaking to watch. It was difficult holding the tears back😭

[@fariraimapiye9491]

What a painful experience...sending you soo much love

[@HombakaziTsolo]

Oh my God please give strength this young lady I am crying

[@Shekinah_Glory]

I feel like the father had planned to do this That’s why he left Alicia in joburg I’m wondering why he killed the other kids and not leave all of them behind And the big question is why did he do this awful thing This is just a nightmare and I’m so sorry Alivia had to lose the people she loves all at once like that

[@aliciasewdass1804]

I will never know why I was left behind. Today I am truly grateful to be here, to share my story. Suicide is becoming more and more in South Africa. And I hope my story prevents Suicides from happening.

[@aliciasewdass1804]

@(mxolisi) 🥺 I've thought of this so many times

[@nomvelocbahleshamase4913]

@@aliciasewdass1804 thank you for sharing 🙏

[@nnninsideneusaslyf6201]

@@aliciasewdass1804 bless you Alicia. I pray for strength for you.

[@tumietshireletso9159]

Even relebogile was emotional yoohh it's too much😭😭😭😭

[@LethoHali]

Yoh! I thought I had problems…

[@Dklady]

Me too, in all honesty I'm reminded of the thousand things to be grateful for....I haven't been through half of the things I heard from this show and I thank God for that

[@desrilmukwevho2003]

Yoo, this is sad guys. I pray that she get all the strength she needs throughout her life because yoo it's going to stay in her mind 🙏

[@aphiweK]

Noo man, some people go through a lot 😩😩

[@jerrychetty2524]

Dear Almighty God please embrace this young lady and give her love and some solace

[@aliciasewdass1804]

Thank you Jerry 🙏

[@ekakhumalointombi5286]

The devil is a liar! May God,the Prince of peace comfort her...strengthen her and give her peace!

[@kanyiswazixesha4195]

Heartbreaking story, one question I have is was the father an abusive man or suffering from a mental illness. The way the family reacted seems like the knew that he would do it. The way she is constantly reassuring us that he was a good man is just sending red flags to me. "He was a father figure at school". I wish the family would tell her more about who her father was and the relationship he had with her mom, maybe that will help her heal and close the gaps in her memories.

[@aliciasewdass1804]

My father was never abusive.A man of Sober habits. My parents did have arguments but it was never violent.

[@kanyiswazixesha4195]

@@aliciasewdass1804 Some things don't make sense in this world but in all things you were meant to live and share your story. Live for your family thank you for having the courage to share your story with the us.

[@mpendulomkhonto818]

Ohh my God 😭, this dear sister has seen a lot in her life

[@maladhi1235]

Such a sad story. I'm also crying while listening to this sad painful story.

[@irenemusaringo1744]

So heart breaking 💔so sorry dear God is always with you

[@TM-ys1kc]

This is absolutely heartbreaking 💔💔💔💔💔💔

[@Natasha-yv6os]

I'm sitting here busy thinking 101 reasons as to why would a family man do this to his family maybe he found out a devastating secret about his family and couldn't handle it or maybe someone was behind this whole thing and asked him to make a phone call so everything will points at him such cases needs an FBI to investigate throughly

[@denicefrancis6540]

I don’t think I would be able to forgive my father even tho he would be no more.

[@aliciasewdass1804]

Forgiveness is hard. I guess at some point we understand and we need to let go.

[@mapalokaunda7900]

Am sorry beautiful ❤️ Please God keep on strengthening her

[@ekakhumalointombi5286]

Eish...madoda kunzima emhlabeni!!! Usatani uyabusa shame... Yoh!

[@sbonzama7013]

Stop giving satan power!!

[@MY6797A]

💔Am so sorry.

[@g07t3522]

Oh my goodness this is so heartbreaking.

[@alphymahlatsane5087]

What a sad story😭😭

[@lindokuhlesamukelisiwezwan6350]

This is so painful my baby, I am so sorry to hear about your loss. God will comfort you

[@thokovilakazi6073]

May God give you strenght wisdom and ease your pain daily we love you nana stay blessed and lnlw there is God

[@MissLinks99]

She sounds so sweet 🥺🥺

[@cheftalcy]

Good night I'm watching form jamaica i come across this and I'm glue to it

[@ingelosikazi]

Touchdown📍! Lets unpack

[@malebogomolefhe747]

Oh my God this is soooo heart breaking. Am so sorry Alicia🙏😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

[@siba92]

Aibo we are on 100k subscribers already!!!!! Congratulations Relebogile.

[@laura-leeharris452]

Ended at such and anti climax. We would like to know, her success story. How she persevered to grow into this strong confident young lady. Her coping mechanisms... that can encourage other young people.

[@famym9578]

there is a part 2

[@charlenenaransamy9402]

Thank you for sharing your story ❤️ you are truly an inspiration to so many people ❤️

[@aliciasewdass1804]

Thank you Charl

[@annwanjiku5923]

Ooh God this is so painful,😭 I am sorry gal for what you've gone through,may Almighty God protect you, and give you peace

[@MirrorSelfies]

I had a lump in my throat the whole time while watching this😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭What a sad and scary experience to go through 😞😞😞😞

[@julietteputterill5591]

I am so sorry for your loss and pain 😭

[@bolerilengshinners4010]

This a very sad and painful story💔

[@lynnmothibeli325]

I'm sorry Alicia💔. Our men need help in South Africa. Serious help. Their mental health is not good at all😔. The culture in SA needs to change. Something's wrong.

[@nokuthulakhwela9074]

Hello Ausi Rele, how do I get ahold of Alisha? I would like to interview her on our show called The Chatroom(Voice of Wits) airing every Wednesday at 8pm.

[@azaniajuicethwala5324]

Girl, did you look her up on social media?????

[@nokuthulakhwela9074]

@@azaniajuicethwala5324 yes, found her thank you

[@sharonsingh4037]

@@nokuthulakhwela9074 hi I'm the eldest aunt and I would like to be interviewed as well the picture that alicia is painting about us is not true please give us the platform to tell the right story 🙏🙏

[@louiscanthyshakela88]

Seriously we as parents should explain the death proceeding to the children

[@mbt9820mpp]

This is even painful to listen to. She had to navigate this life all alone. I trust that God will heal her completely and bless her with her heart’s desires.

[@friscondebele8834]

such a sad story

[@lucillebonadie368]

I'm wondering if he love this daughter the most and thats why he didn't want to hurt.. or if this was a way to hurt her by leaving her.

[@margaretmuhanga6205]

You're such a sweet sngel, i wish i could hug you.❤

[@motlagomangmankgomelaphela1051]

Am i the only one who is addicted to unpacked lena😮

[@gretakapend2492]

This is very heartbreaking 💔💔

[@nhlanhlandhlazi4485]

Congratulations on 100k subbies ❤️❤️❤️💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻

[@bellatalkssa405]

Sad story..... what as a 12yr old would you say are important documents man.......... shame. I wonder what was the father's intention of leaving her behind. Sending you hugs.

[@mukonazwothemudzanani3729]

100k 🤗🤗🤗 congrats

[@mandisapeggyali7002]

What a truama wish elders can sit their children down n explain

[@koketsoprinnymashego6411]

@Alicia you are very strong honey.. God bless you❤

[@AfricanUSA-th9ov]

Sadness 😢😢 That Is Killing Incident Not Accidents.

[@nellykekana3829]

such trauma 😔😔😔

[@pontshopono]

So sad. People are selfish. Why do that to your family honestly 😭😭

[@sharonsingh4037]

There is 2 sides to a story please publisher contact us the family we like to also verify the truth and alucia is lying I can go to court for this

[@sefediletsiana1561]

@@sharonsingh4037 what do mean she is lying?

[@JudithNcapayi]

@@sharonsingh4037 Confused.

[@ntombitivane8097]

This is so sad and heartbreaking 💔😭 I couldn’t stop crying💔. Strength to you Alicia, I cannot even begin to imagine what you went through. A BIG HUG TO YOU💞🌻 @Lebo.. your show is amazing, you are doing an outstanding job and you are simply the best💞🌻

[@aliciasewdass1804]

Thank you so much Ntombi and hugs to you too

[@nononono7550]

How do I suggest a topic to Lebo?

[@relebogilemabotja215]

[e-mail]

[@bernelee_van_rooy]

Congrats to 100k subbies...

[@nokubonganene422]

Sori.alicia for your.loss find in your heart to forgive your father be strong dear