my first hinge date fail experience and what i learned

[@alwaysbelieve8396]

The way you've analyzed this, just proves you're a heck of a good guy and you're gonna land a girl who really appreciates that. Great state of mind, bro.

[@itsyaboidil]

@@alwaysbelieve8396 appreciate that bro. A bad experience is still an experience!

[@ryanselby99]

Loved the vulnerability of this video and how you turned a negative into a positive. Ghosting shows their own true colours too. Keep going bro

[@itsyaboidil]

@@ryanselby99 ❤️💪🏽

[@ryanexplorer]

I started very actively dating last year, and I can tell you: never ever ever focus one single girl, no matter how nice the girl was on that first date, many end up disappearing. I've had a girl who I was really close with, dating for 3/4 months, and one day she found another guy, started talking to me in the most disprectful way, after questioning her she admitted she is talking to someone else and we've "only been dating nothing else" and blocked me everywhere... -> Good thing I was talking/dating with an other girl at the same time and it didn't affect me that much. And I have many other stories to tell, but just remember: when you start dating, always date 2 at the same time at least, never ever go all in on the first person you meet that's the best recipe for heartbreak + even subconsciously you even talk to the girls better when you date 2 cuz you ain't as needy, your aura becomes different (from my experience) and I love it! I agree it's kinda sad to HAVE to do this, but this is the way nowadays sadly... We've gotta adapat and stay strong in this messed up generation (regarding dating & relationships)

[@itsyaboidil]

This was such a valuable read bro thank you for sharing your experience man

[@Launders-]

I like how optimistic you are about this experience. Ghosting is becoming very prevalent in our society. Hopefully, this one experience doesn't affect you too much. You just gotta keep pushing and use that negative energy like you mentioned to focus on your goals and self-improving. Seems like you have good people in your life and a good head on your shoulders. Just keep at it, and I sense great things. Good luck, bro!

[@itsyaboidil]

Aim high, expect low. Thank you bro there’s the real mission on our hands.

[@ChaoticLethal]

As McCree says: “Happens to the best of us”. Keep your chin up king 👑

[@itsyaboidil]

My goat, welcome to the channel ❤️

[@Anil75987]

This has happened to me many times before and after 2 years of online dating, I’ve got rid of all the apps and decided to try and meet organically, eg badminton group, networking events, community events, volunteering, weddings, in person dating events etc. Dating apps don’t work anymore, there’s more guys than girls so there’s loads of guys competing for the same girl. Ghosting is very normal so dw about it too much bro, you did nothing wrong and it’s her loss. The key thing is to not get too attached to the girls you’re talking to on the apps and don’t think about your future with any of them. It’s difficult to do this but it’s the only way to emotionally protect yourself when things like this happen!

[@itsyaboidil]

This is solid advice, organically seems the best and yeah you’re right about not sticking to one person (attachment wise)

[@michealadeleye7476]

Newly subscribed after coming across this video, looking at your page at first glance you appear to be a content creator similar minded to me, thanks for sharing

[@itsyaboidil]

Thank you supporting and stopping by!

[@BrandonDJx]

I'm very like minded in the sense of planning and hitting goals by certain time limits such as monthly, quarterly or yearly. You can't apply the same strict logic for dating. You have no control over how the other person feels. Sure, you two had a great date and a really good evening and both left happy. BUT, in today's era the options are endless with dating apps and especially for girls. They have way more choice in comparison to guys, unless you're in the top percentage of really attractive guys. No doubt she had a great time, but you may have been 1 of 2 or even 3 dates she went on that week. I've experience a similar situation before myself and yes we had a great night and everything went really well, but the truth is a better option came up and she chose to pursue it. You really have to focus on the moment and the 'now' when you date. Do not think of tomorrow or if you'll see her next week because it really isn't promised, no matter how you feel or what you are told on the night. Treat dating as an experience and not a to do list.

[@itsyaboidil]

Bro you opened my eyes! Sometimes with a regimented routine it can be easy to not live in the moment when it comes to things like dating. I’m now purely going to focus on the hear and now for those activities.

[@michealadeleye7476]

highlighting when you have a massive to do list, what approach do you take when you have a lot of things important to you that you want to get sorted?

[@itsyaboidil]

I have a note pad with all my tasks for the day then I organise them with the biggest tasks first. Each time I get them done I tick it off. So when you have a lot, make sure to prioritise the largest tasks first.

[@michealadeleye7476]

@@itsyaboidil Thank you, I'll take this into consideration

[@itsyaboidil]

@@michealadeleye7476 let me know how you find it!

[@michealadeleye7476]

@@itsyaboidil i asked to be more knowledgable and open to what works for others, not that i don't know what to do. i'm experimenting with different approaches. what do you think about completing little things to get you in a momentum. i strongly believe that an appropriate mix of different methods is better than sticking to one rigid method. while i'm focused on the 2 big things i'm mainly working on, i like to also complete little things on my to do list to boost my ?completory? flow.

[@BetterWithBob]

Ah buddy, I'm sorry. It sucks when that happens. I'm an aromantic dude so I thank my socks I don't have to ever deal with that shite. If you ever find yourself in Ireland...well can't introduce you to any gals (all the ones I know are taken or swing the other way) but sure there's a great cliff walk in my area that's really good cardio 🤣

[@itsyaboidil]

Haha mate, will deffo one like to see Ireland in person - heard fantastic things!

[@BobbyCalloway]

@@itsyaboidil The weather would drive you mad but sure we're in the British Isles - we're used to the skies serving disappointment on the regular lol

[@itsyaboidil]

@@BobbyCalloway don’t worry London is the same 😂

[@BF-eb4xs]

interesting. i went onto hinge for experience if im honest. Get myself better with women, as that is a weakness. Talking to new people in general is, but thought id kill 2 birds with 1 stone. Anyway, signed up. Ill start off by saying it is super addictive... swiping, swiping and more swiping. Likes, matches started to come in, which was a nice confidence boost, got some numbers... and met up with one girl. We had some fun, but as you said, takes a lot of time and energy out of you. Girls are very time consuming, mentally. Ended up cutting things off (was only fun anyway, didnt want to date), as it didnt feel right?... now what do i mean by this? I felt like a man slut, which doesnt sit right with me. We only spoke when we were in the mood, and i was thinking... is this what you want? Does this feel right? When im not in the mood... im thinking no, this isnt (more logical mindset, not horny lol) so we were due to meet, rang my mate asked his thoughts, and decided to cut it. Id rather go into these things - fun or dating with girls i like... not just because im horny ygm? So since there, ive been focusing on going after girls i like - that are actual gf material, someone id date. And as you said, girls move mad. Id match wiht girls, and we'd be talking... going well, then out the blue, airing me, telling me she is interested, and all the usual shit. It went from good... to shit in like 5 mins. Literally. It is a mind fuck. Dating apps are huge dope hits, like social media. Apps gone, as it was beyond distracting if im honest, and i realised that. Maybe in the future, but atm ill ease off the apps. It is tempting for the dope hit, but is it what it is. Wish we were irl friends, we'd have great discussions haha

[@itsyaboidil]

Bro, thanks for sharing this I can certainly relate to you. It gets like this but stick to your purpose as the primary goal then these just become little side quests. Glad you commented!

[@Anil75987]

Audio isn’t good bro

[@itsyaboidil]

Thanks bro I’ll fix it