My Jewish Conversion Q&A | Orthodox Jewish Mom (Jar of Fireflies)

There were a lot of really great questions form the comments on my Conversion to Judaism videos, so I made this Q&A to address the most asked questions. I will answer questions specific to my conversion as well as general Jewish conversion questions that I frequently get such as how to convert to Judaism.
Hello and welcome! My name is Chana, I’m married to my best friend, and we have three wonderful children together. We also happen to be Orthodox Jews and we homeschool our kids. This video is a sneak peek into our daily lives :) You can see how this particular Jewish homeschool mom sets up her days, rolls with the punches, and gets it all done. Thanks for watching!
Part 1 of my Conversion to Judaism story: • My Conversion to Judai...
Part 2 of my Conversion to Judaism story: • My Conversion to Judai...
Part 3 of my Conversion to Judaism story: • My Conversion to Judai...
Ashkenaz Siddur I used before I got married: www.artscroll.com/Books/97814...
Sephardic Siddur I use now: tinyurl.com/wpb9wyk
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[@jaroffireflies]

If you have any other questions, let me know and I will do my best to answer them here in the comments! If you missed my conversion story, check out the description of this post, it has links to all three posts!

[@joycemonson5873]

I really appreciated these videos as I am presently undergoing conversion with a Conservative synagogue

[@jaroffireflies]

@@joycemonson5873 so exciting! Best of luck to you on your journey! I’m so glad these videos can be a help to you :)

[@mastljn]

Does it offend you or how do you react if someone wishes you a Merry Christmas? Are you the kind of person who is ok if a person wishes you Happy Hannukah, Merry Christmas, Happy Kwanza, or whatever wish of goodwill as long as the person is respectful (knowing that some might or might not know you are Jewish)?

[@jaroffireflies]

@@mastljn I am personally not offended and I don’t know anyone else who is. I just brush it off and say happy holidays :)

[@dinadenman9138]

My grandmother and father were jews, I spent many years following the traditions of Judaism. I could never be considered a Jew because my mother isn’t Jewish. I finally gave up. I grew up with all the Jewish traditions… now I am a staunch atheist

[@peterdalyy3542]

When I left home I was 16 but had a deep burning desire to be Jewish , my catholic mother thought it was the end of the world, we could not speak to each other for 5 years because she was so hurt but the day before mikvah I called and thank g-d we had a beautiful relationship till she died which i thank hasem every day for

[@jaroffireflies]

Wow! What a story! I am so glad you were able to keep your relationship!

[@avocado00000]

@@aidasa3791 That is so they do not accidentally use the name in vain.

[@jenniferornduff7835]

@@aidasa3791 My exact question!

[@Getlostandwander]

Do all practicing Jews live in a Jewish community?

[@mariaferreras5411]

I am a Catholic grandma. I love learning about other religions and cultures and have many Jewish friends and friends of other faiths. If you were my daughter I would be very proud of you.

[@jaroffireflies]

Thank you so much! That is so kind of you to say :)

[@CarinaPiersay]

I love that green scarf on you! It brings out the green in your dress. It also goes well with your skin tone and makes your eyes look 👀 beautiful and very green 👍🏼

[@jaroffireflies]

Thank you so much 😊❤️

[@Mommee77]

I was raised Protestant and when it came time for confirmation, my father encouraged me to attend services of other religions. He said I needed to make an informed decision to join the church, that I wouldn't be a faithful member if I didn't feel at home at the service. I did stay at that church, but I appreciated having the choice .

[@jaroffireflies]

That’s wonderful that you found your spiritual home!

[@susanne022]

What a caring father

[@imtired6104]

Chana, thank you for the series on your conversion. Your kindness and respectfulness is really beautiful. I was raised Roman Catholic (still am) but didn't really feel *at home* until I attended Divine Liturgy at a Byzantine Rite Catholic church. It was breath taking and mind blowing, and made complete sense to me, so I can certainly understand what you described in your first video. Thank you so much for sharing your life with everyone.

[@jaroffireflies]

Hi Angela! Thank you so much for your kind words 💜 I’m so glad you found your spiritual home! Such a beautiful thing 💖

[@renazeltser3189]

I found your channel last month, and make sure to watch at least one episode every day. I am a religious Jew, born in the United States, but made Aliya 49 years ago. I live in Israel and love it. I find your life and knowledge interesting and special. Along with my family we have "adopted" quite a few lovely girls during their conversion process. I feel for what you went through. I am interested to know, how you met your husband, how his family excepted you and how often you see his Israeli family. Keep sharing with us your exceptional life.

[@jaroffireflies]

Hello! I’m so glad you found me here :) Thank you so much for watching my videos! I did a video about how I met my husband, here is the link: kzbin.info/www/bejne/n3Smk4VvoZ1lkMk Enjoy! His family adores me and I adore them ❤️

[@Rose-ip2xu]

I can't believe I didn't watch this video earlier! As someone raised as a secular Jew (or assimilated, since my mom loves Christmas) I feel like I have so much in common with converts when it comes to learning all the things. I also learn a looooot from folks who converted years ago. Chabad has been extremely welcoming to me and my family - it's really a shame that some folks look down on Orthodox Jews. Thanks for such a great video!

[@jaroffireflies]

Thank you so much for watching Rose! I’m so glad you have people to learn from :) Chabad is a great resource

[@BlomgrenKatie]

this scarf looks amazing with your eyes!!

[@jaroffireflies]

Thank you so much 😊

[@arleneg1271]

Great answers Chana. I appreciate your sensitivity in dealing with your parents feelings. As you say, now you understand a bit more as you know the hopes you have for your children in the faith. I have a daughter who has no faith walk. It hurts, but I love that girl with all my heart. I pray for her and I leave her to God. I had to smile when you answered the question about your Reform friends reactions to your becoming Orthodox. When we left Protestantism we faced a bit of the same thing. But my REAL friends are still here and I am happy about that.

[@jaroffireflies]

Oh I am so sorry you faced the same issue with your friends who were protestant! And I am sorry about your daughter having no faith walk at the moment. May your prayers be heard! I think faith is a very important thing :)

[@SusanP674]

I love how honest your answers are1

[@jaroffireflies]

Thank you Susan 💜

[@mcomeslast]

None of my previous reform folks were happy I converted orthodox. I have no contact with them now. I would add if folks are having trouble finding a rabbi, contact a regional beit din (Jewish court) because they know which rabbis under their supervision do conversions. I am so glad you did these videos.

[@jaroffireflies]

That is great advice thank you! I am so glad you like these videos! It seems to be a pretty misunderstood and rarely spoken about topic. I am sorry that none of your reform folks were happy about your conversion. I speak to a couple still, but we are not close.

[@mcomeslast]

@@jaroffireflies yeah, too many “super Jew” comments that weren’t kind. Time to move on.

[@jaroffireflies]

@@mcomeslast glad you were able to move on 💜

[@brucheweinberger6863]

Rabbi Robyn Frish(sp?) is reform rabbi that has a son that became charedi and actually attends Mir Yeshiva. There is a grear interview about their relationship on 18forty.org

[@karunastar3084]

Miss Chana, Thank You 🙏 for the siddur links & other conversation advice 🙏 I appreciate you. Stay Blessed

[@aEquanimity]

Thanks again for sharing such a personal part of your life and answering viewers’ questions. I really enjoyed this series and was able to learn more :)

[@jaroffireflies]

Thank you for watching and for your kind words!

[@aidele5757]

This was so nice to watch ❤️

[@jaroffireflies]

Thank you! I am so glad you enjoyed this video :)

[@kristinmiller4779]

I am binge watching all of your videos! You are so easy to listen to and so informative! Love to your family💞💞

[@jaroffireflies]

Thank you so much!!! I am so happy to hear that you are enjoying :)

[@kellybarfoot8124]

It made me smile when I heard you talk about Christmas because I'm a Jehovah's Witness and I get asked constantly whether I miss Christmas! I celebrated until I was 12 and then never again. But when your life is full of your own faith and you are active in your own faith you do not miss what you've left behind. It's very difficult for others to understand, I guess. Loved your video and I appreciate you sharing your heart and experience, I can imagine it's a challenge to do so on such a public forum

[@jaroffireflies]

Exactly! You totally get it! When your life is full of your own faith, its all good :) Thank you for sharing your experiences, I did not know that JW didn't celebrate xmas! Do you celebrate any holidays? I have a vague recollection of thinking you don't celebrate birthdays? Other religions fascinate me :) Thank you for your kind words and support!

[@kellybarfoot8124]

We celebrate the memorial of Christ's death each year but stay away from all other holidays and birthdays. For me, each day is a celebration and an excuse to buy fun things for my kids or do fun things for my family. When my grandmother passed away I had a momentary pang about Christmas but I think it was more about missing her and not the holidays...as kids we always met at her house and had Christmas dinner. As for my kids, I guess it's hard to miss what you've never had...they've never celebrated any holiday so they don't miss anything LoL

[@jaroffireflies]

@@kellybarfoot8124 I totally get that! All that makes sense and I adore your attitude about every day being a celebration:) 💜

[@TeamBensonHomestead]

I'm so happy I found your channel. You have been so helpful on my journey. Keep being amazing and keep inspiring

[@jaroffireflies]

I am so glad! Please be sure to keep me posted on your journey! I love hearing other's stories!

[@munkin93]

Oh my goodness, have I mentioned how much I love your channel? So much! Thank you for taking the time to answer our questions. ❤️ I can’t wait for your next one!

[@jaroffireflies]

Thank you so much! You are so very welcome :)

[@notsogreatreset4476]

Thanks so much for taking the time to answer. The absolute best part of your channel is your honesty and how real you are with your content, which is a rare find in the YT community. 💜

[@jaroffireflies]

Wow thank you so much! I really appreciate that :)

[@nomihoch]

Wow it is so wondaful to listen to you. and am so impressed with your sincerity and your complete acceptance of yourself and other peoples choices with out making it an issue of better and worse.

[@jaroffireflies]

Thank you Naomi! I appreciate your kind words :)

[@lindseymarcum7147]

Absolutely fascinating and so educational! I’m very much looking forward to the modesty/Mikvah video too!

[@jaroffireflies]

Thank you so much! I am looking forward to sharing that with you!

[@karenhill1739]

Thanks for today - very interesting. Have a great shabbos

[@jaroffireflies]

You are so welcome! Glad you enjoyed :) Thank you!

[@synonymrolls4051]

I just recently converted to Eastern Orthodoxy, and I can totally relate to how you felt when you were a part of the Jewish community but weren’t fully Jewish yet. Before I was received into the Church, I would go to services but I couldn’t participate fully until after I was received.

[@maraki8882]

Many years!

[@desert_moon]

Most of my oldest 8 of 9 kids who are now adults (only the youngest is still at home) have rejected how they were raised. The Christianity, the homeschooling, etc. I too have a T1D child (now adult) dx Thanksgiving Day 25yrs ago at age 6. I totally understand about that.

[@timothypeacock2737]

You are a well balanced person. I like how you have built up your life your way. It does not matter what others think or say, you are happy You radiate happiness I know of other people who have become Jewish and have turned their back on their family which is very sad because their parents did nothing wrong The whole situation caused a lot of unhappiness that has never healed. You have become Jewish and still have kept in touch with your family The best of both worlds without rejecting anyone Rebecca x

[@jaroffireflies]

Thank you for your kind words Rebecca! I appreciate you!

[@stephenlewis8498]

I have enjoyed listening to your story. I liked the question about what you would do if your children left the Jewish life. I have listen to your story it’s a good one. I can tell you have been able to find a relationship with your Catholic family. That is good because children love their grandparents. If your parents are still alive I bet yours do as well. It is possible that your children will at least want to learn of the traditions of it does I hope it goes well for you.

[@naomirobertson9616]

Ordered my book 📖 ☺ I AM SO EXCITED!!!! I have been binge-watching you I am so happy I found you!!!!! I am late but on the path behind you ❤❤❤❤

[@jaroffireflies]

I am so happy you found me too! Welcome! SO glad that you are here :) Hope you are having a great day!

[@jenniferruiz-arzola]

Sorry, is that book you're referring to a book with prayers in English and Hebrew? Have a blessed day ma'am

[@tracylawrence6872]

Thanks for the vlog. I suppose it's hard as a parent seeing your child going in a direction that's alien to you and all you hold dear.....and it takes time to reconcile to the change on both sides. Luckily your situation resolved itself over time......it's very sad when it doesn't though which must happen a lot. You've taken the path that's right for you and your joy in that path is obvious.......as a parent all you really want is for your child/children to be happy and content and you very obviously are. May God protect and bless you and your family now and forever!

[@jaroffireflies]

Exactly! You totally get it :) Thank you and Amen!

[@tracyl1368]

@@jaroffireflies I think the reason I 'get it' lovey is this: My late Mum was the 4 th of 6 kids......born and raised in Ireland (don't think I need say more!)........of those 6 kids only her eldest sister and the brother next in age to her mattied Irish Irish Catholic's..... My Mum and her 3rd sister married Protestant's, my dad was Anglo Indian born in Pakistan, 3rd sisters husband was English and also Protestant, the second sister married a Jew and converted, Mum's youngest brother's wife is Dutch and also Protestant.......myself and my cousins (youngest brother's kids) were brought up Catholic, 3rd sisters kids weren't broght up religious and 2nd sisters kids were brought up Jewish (though non practicing now). My great grandmother was livid that only 2 grandchildren married Irish Catholic but my nana very frimly put her mother back in her box......basically nana told her itvwas nothing to do with her as they were all adults and could make their own decisions like it or lump it! 😏😅 Funnily enough I was the favourite with nana and (great) grandmother along with Nana's sisters and brothers! So....that's why I understand love.......😃🙂

[@diannamcbride1607]

Thank you so much for the way you openly shared the answers to the questions here. I've just recently found your channel and while I am not Jewish, growing up I had a Jewish friend and we have lost contact over the years. Listening to you has made me homesick for her.

[@jaroffireflies]

I’m so sorry I made you miss your friend! I wonder if you could find her?

[@diannamcbride1607]

@@jaroffireflies It's okay. It will spur me on to try and locate her.

[@jaroffireflies]

@@diannamcbride1607 Good luck!

[@michaelurvoy]

Hello, Chana. The grieving process you describe when talking about what you would do if one of your children was to become less observant or non-observant would be completely normal. As humans we do project our hopes and dreams for our children and that is okay. I think that your husband's family and the fact that you have experienced Reform Judaism would help you along. I have no doubt in my mind that your children will feel safe and happy to take on a form of Judaism that is right for them. Whatever that looks like. And I know that you would be one of the parents that people look up to down the line if they are facing a similar situation.

[@jaroffireflies]

Oh wow thank you so much! I really appreciate your kind words :) Its a hard thought to consider, but one that with Hashem's help I will not need to deal with.

[@michaelurvoy]

@@jaroffireflies You are welcome. It is hard, yes. Religion is such a binding force in so many families. Whatever religion that might be. We must have faith in HaShem's judgement and plans and pray that He gives us the strength to handle it.

[@jaroffireflies]

@@michaelurvoy amen!

[@ellenhomeister7374]

Such a nice Q & A. Regarding your viewers who are interested in conversion: I’m glad I converted before the pandemic hit. It makes it different to explore communities except online now. I enjoy looking for Jewish learning opportunities online like Aish, Chabad, my Jewish learning, synagogue websites, etc. Reading Jewish online newspaper and developing a Jewish library is helpful. I have gotten a lot out of EasyLearnHebrew for a great method to learn to read Hebrew as well as Hebrew Reading Crash course, are great sources no matter what branch of Judaism one leans towards. A Rabbi will fine tune adult Jewish learning for sure.

[@jaroffireflies]

Fantastic advice! Thank you so much for sharing 💜

[@gloriouslyimperfect]

Your conversion story is so beautiful. As someone from a completely different faith tradition, I found your videos after a friend spoke to her interest and study to become more observant (she was raised, as she put it "culturally Jewish and that was about it"). I wanted to learn more so I understood her journey more, and I am learning so much from your videos! The question I have for you is what was the thing you wish your friends outside the Jewish community had understood/done as you began your process, and what were some, if any, things that they did that touched you/helped you? My friend is more like my little sister, and I want to make sure she is supported throughout this journey whatever path it takes her on, and I'd love to hear your perspective on what helped/hurt you through your process

[@jaroffireflies]

Great question! And how awesome are you?!? What a great friend! Ok, so most of my friends just kept acting normal, but some decided not to be my friend anymore and that was sad. Jew jokes got old quick from some friends. But what was the best were those that continued to act completely normal and invite me to do things and especially those who took an interest in what I was doing. Conversion can be lonely and I’m sure becoming more religious is much the same. She sounds like she has an amazing friend in you!

[@gloriouslyimperfect]

@@jaroffireflies Thank you .. like I said, more like a little sister than anything, and Im glad she's exploring things that fill her soul - We all need that, especially after the last couple years of chaos! I know I got closer in my faith during this time and its been such a blessing

[@jaroffireflies]

@@gloriouslyimperfect absolutely!

[@TheSophisticatedmay]

I love your answer about your children following their faith. I love my children too, to the ends of the earth. The problem is, with my son not following faith, the lack of morals and integrity and respect to his parents is very hard on me. I think it is more of a progressive agenda than a religious one. The world we live in is influential on children and it really has made a detrimental impact on my family. Keep praying and keep believing and most of all keep the faith you have. Sometimes I feel like it is all I have. God bless you and your family.

[@avocado00000]

Chana, you are doing a lot of good with these videos, explaining the conversion process. The wife of one of my relatives converted to Judaism, but I can't believe I never asked her about it. I'm glad you have been fully accepted into the community, but it sounds like your community is composed of several people who were either chozair b'tshuvah or converts. I guess it would make things much more accepting. And, I also heard that converts are held in slightly higher esteem. You certainly don't do things halfway. I like the focus on spirituality and the practical aspects of it. Funny how your first rabbi didn't fully open the doors to what you could have.

[@jaroffireflies]

Thank you for your kind words Karen :) 💜💜💜

[@mocdeg]

Gut Voch! or Shavua Tov! I am a great grandmother (FFB)and discovered you last week. I am fascinated by you, and am so impressed how you are making motherhood great again!! Your children probably are too young to realize the extent of their good fortune in having someone so special raise them with total devotion and loving it. I was also a stay at home devoted mom of one son and two daughters, but nothing compared to you!! May you and your husband continue in good health until 120. Can I please have your email address to ask you some questions privately? Thank you!

[@erbearthgarden3658]

That shirt or dress you have on is really pretty; I adore it. It goes great with your eyes. ❤

[@jaroffireflies]

Thank you!

[@GrannyGarbage]

I can’t say I’m religious nor raised in a religious household, but I am in my heart and soul a spiritual person. I have a yearning for something structured and traditional… at 59 .. I know it’s there… just finding it.

[@arieltaylor3046]

Your hair scarf today is so pretty

[@jaroffireflies]

Thank you so much! It is definitely one of my favorites!

[@chayastaub-krell6601]

Chana, I'm sorry that I've not been around. Life has been just *crazy* busy! Bezalt Hashem, I hope to catch up moitzi Shabbos. I'll be back soon. Shabbat shalom!

[@jaroffireflies]

I totally get it! Glad you are well :) Shabbat shalom and chat soon!

[@mynameisasecret593]

Thank you for giving me some insight on the broken dream idea. I converted to Islam and my family was devastated, now I seem to understand why. Best wishes sis. 🤍

[@jaroffireflies]

I’m so glad that helped you to gain understanding for what your family went through. I’m glad you were able to do what you needed to do also 💜

[@sefisteinmetz131]

I am new to your channel super interesting for me to hear about your Jewish conversion. Greetings from Israel, Sefi♥️

[@jaroffireflies]

Hello Sefi! And welcome to my channel! I’m so glad you’re here :) I answered that question in this video. Yes, they accept me :)

[@sefisteinmetz131]

@@jaroffireflies I got to that part in the video, love your channel keep posting interesting vlogs . כל טוב,ספי.

[@jaroffireflies]

@@sefisteinmetz131 amazing thank you! I will!

[@clairelynch4171]

I have really enjoyed your videos. How has your Catholic family dealt with your conversion? Have they become accepting and accustomed to your living your faith?

[@jaroffireflies]

Thank you for your question. I addressed this in the video. Basically, they are fine with the life I lead but I am sure my parents wish I would go back to being Catholic.

[@myopinions1]

Yep parents constantly grieve during parenting. I discovered the same.

[@jaroffireflies]

Awww I am sorry you feel its constant! I find the joy overtakes :) But yes, grieving is a part of parenting for sure. As they say, to have a child is to constantly have your heart walking around outside of your body.

[@myopinions1]

@@jaroffireflies i think it's an important part of parenting and gives your children freedom to be who they are and not what you want them to be.

[@jaroffireflies]

@@myopinions1 I guess I just feel like the phrase “constant grieving” is a bit strong, but I do see what you are saying

[@myopinions1]

@@jaroffireflies i don't think it's negative.

[@jaroffireflies]

@@myopinions1 I understand:)

[@LadyMcCrystal]

I love that you open up about your journey. I am a reform jew and I am on my journey semi alone. I'm on the hunt for my special Tanahk to read and learn but I havnt found one. Any suggestions?

[@jaroffireflies]

So exciting! I don’t have a tanahk, but I adore the Artscroll Chumash. It has wonderful commentary. I hope that helps!

[@michellesunshinestar]

Your green scarf really brings out the green in your eyes. I'm hazel brown, they used to be more green. When I wore blue contacts so they wouldn't get lost, my eyes were greenish/blueish. They didn't work, I went back to glasses right away.

[@jaroffireflies]

Thank you! You eyes sound very pretty :)

[@katibarrett8779]

Hi Chana! I have so many questions for you. I know some of them may be "sticky" subjects, so I want you to know I am asking in the interest of learning more about your beliefs, and less interested in debating. Easy one: Could you talk more about what living in a Jewish community actually means? Did you live communally? Did you move to a Jewish neighborhood? What if someone lives rurally, or in a very small city and there aren't Jewish neighborhoods? Less easy: How does Orthodox Judaism feel about homosexuality? Would your children be accepted if they were gay in your home? In the Orthodox community at large?

[@jaroffireflies]

We do need to live close to a synagogue so we end up in an intentional community of sorts which is lovely. The entire neighborhood isn’t Jewish in most places though in some areas you’ll find more Jewish homes than not. We all need to walk to services on Shabbat, which is why we live close. But that makes it easy to be there for each other and you do get a strong sense of community. As for your questions on homosexuality, to start with I will love my children no matter what and they will always be welcome in my home and would always be welcome in my community. For homosexuality in general it’s just a certain act that is prohibited.

[@oxymom2002]

How do your children feel about Christmas? I remember you mentioning that your son was offered a bell during an appointment. Thank you so much for sharing your story. 💜

[@jaroffireflies]

My kids have been curious, but as they get older they want nothing to do with it. It's interesting to watch their progression. I really leave it to them. We have family that celebrates it, so they are familiar.

[@rachaelsmith7924]

I've been to every faith place of worship,in my area,I was raised methodist church, I also belong to the presbyterian church where I got baptist.what like about the presbyterian church we have international Sunday that all faiths joins us in worship and fellowship and we learn from one another.

[@Belushi87]

would you be okay with your kids dating someone who was not jewish or be with someone who was jewish, but had left for another religion or became non religious?

[@kristinesharp6286]

A lot of people leave a church over a priest, parish nonsense, some statement from leadership on some unrelated issue, a question in one element of practice or interpretation of some scripture. Have you had any of those moments in Judaism where you wonder why you have to do something a bit over the top? Or just the local rabbi’s personality was a bit of a clash?

[@jaroffireflies]

Great question! Nope, I have not had that experience. I know that there are other communities that I would not fit in with because of their observance level (in either direction), but I and others just choose communities based on our needs.

[@VickiTheCraftAttic]

I’m sure you’ve asked yourself this before, but what if down the road one of your children who you’ve been raising Orthodox, decided they were curious, and interested in leaving Judaism, to become a Christian? UPDATE: as I was typing this question you suddenly began answering it in the video 😉

[@jaroffireflies]

Glad you got your answer 💜

[@acspanday8728]

You are very inspiring. I want to go live in Eretz Yisroel so badly. We’re not ready for aliyah, but I really, really want to go. Have you been? Do you ever feel like going?

[@jaroffireflies]

I have never been to Israel (can you believe it lol). But I definitely want to go and eventually I am sure we will make Aliyah. We are pretty settled here right now in the States.

[@swampophelia2098]

@@jaroffireflies so why were you taking about being Israeli …….you are a convert and you have not even been to Israel

[@samanthar1214]

@@swampophelia2098 she didn't say she was Israeli, her husband is.

[@swampophelia2098]

@@samanthar1214 no her husband is morrocan

[@samanthar1214]

@@swampophelia2098 I literally just watched a video where she says her husband is Israeli. kzbin.info/www/bejne/lZfOaGaAhZ2fbLs :29

[@ChyarasKiss]

It’s possible that the closed off-ness from the friends from the reformed community in regards to the Orthodoxy community is due to the closed nature of small religious communities in regards to abuse and mistreatment that happens. (Doesn’t matter the faith, it happens.)

[@savannahgonzalez2641]

❤️❤️❤️

[@jaroffireflies]

:)

[@jackiebeans2689]

💕💕💕💕

[@kirstensteffen2276]

When I converted, I encountered a lot of resistance from family as well as random people. I also had people at shul ask if i was gonna be "religious" or frum. I'm in WV though. Did you have these issues?

[@kirstensteffen2276]

To elaborate, my shut is orthodox but most of the congregation is conservative. Just because it's one of the only synagogues in the area. We have like three in the whole state.

[@susanne022]

In many orthodox communities the husbands are studieing the Tora and the wives are working. How about you?

[@jaroffireflies]

My husband works and studies while I homeschool our children and manage our house.

[@marlagross8061]

Hi, I love your videos! I recently heard that Sephardic families use only one set of dishes for both milk and meat, is that true? Lucky you if that is the case!(;

[@jaroffireflies]

Hello! Thank you so much for your kind words about my videos! I am so glad you are enjoying them :) Yes, I am Sephardi and it is our custom to use the same set of dishes for meat and dairy and even Pesach, but it must be glass dishes. So our dinner plates are glass :) We do have a second set of dishes for Shabbat, but they are meat only as they are not glass.

[@marlagross8061]

@@jaroffireflies how fantastic and interesting! Thank you for getting back to me! We are ashkenazi and we have 2 sets and lots of clutter (; Baruch Hashem!!

[@jaroffireflies]

@@marlagross8061 sure thing! And I totally get the clutter :) I have such minimalist tendencies so all the kitchen stuff a kosher kitchen requires makes me a little batty some days lol

[@note4275]

I have to correct you on this one. You keep Sefardic tradition but you are not a Sefardic Jew. Being Sefardic would imply your roots are Spanish or North African. It is why converted Jews go through a different section of the Jewish agency than born Jews. Sounds negative but many get so disappointed when they move to Israel because they assume getting the same treatment. Many diaspora communities are so silent about this.

[@sn4733]

These days I always say that being judgemental of OTD Jews is far worse than being a OTD/non-practising Jew. :)

[@sriddle3569]

If I can say the prayers and blessings in Hebrew, do you think that will pass the Rabbis, I find learning Hebrew so challenging

[@jaroffireflies]

You’ll have to talk to your rabbi about what he expects of you for conversion.

[@Lena-pm4vx]

Was it hard for you to not celebrate Christmas when you had kids?

[@jaroffireflies]

No, it was not hard at all for me

[@gritxx]

Did it rub you the wrong way that you had to have an interview with the Rabbi’s and have their confirmation before your conversion? Did you feel like your conversion was a matter between you and God and not them?

[@jaroffireflies]

Thank you for your question. I did not mind at all :) Had I minded, I would not have done it. My conversion is a matter between me and G-d, and these rabbis :)

[@jamespetherbridge2151]

Can you read Hebrew? How long did it take? I love learning Hebrew. You need a good teacher! 😉

[@jaroffireflies]

I am OK at reading Hebrew. My main focus has been on speaking and understanding since I am married to a native speaker. But especially now that I am teaching my kids to read Hebrew, it is coming back quickly for me to read as well :)

[@pernille8071]

Could you please indicate the exact name of the ashkenaz siddur, the link seems to be outdated?

[@jaroffireflies]

I just changed to an updated link that should be working now! It’s the Artscroll Women’s Siddur

[@pernille8071]

@@jaroffireflies Wonderful, thank you - and even specially for women!

[@jaroffireflies]

@@pernille8071 yes! They have a generic one anyone could use, but this eliminates things only men need to say :)

[@AndreaD.]

My question is simply do you have people that are convinced that they are doing everything “by the book”, but your wrong because you interpret it differently. I’m not Jewish but I have had this issue in my own denomination & my husband’s. My husband & I are religious, but don’t agree with everything & it’s okay for us. I just have had to avoid those people that are convinced that they’re doing everything perfect, but I don’t agree with my own interpretation of it.

[@jaroffireflies]

So like I described in the difference between Ashkenaz and Sephardi Jews, we have differences in how we observe Jewish law and we know that we are each doing it correctly. I hope that makes sense. The important thing for us is to have a rabbi who we can trust and that we go to our rabbis when we need to (basically not make interpretations of Jewish law for ourselves)

[@idmouse]

I got an odd order at work. Now they didn't want ham because they said they were Jewish, but the sandwiches have cheese. I thought dairy and meat do not mix in a meal unless that is strictly orthodox. I was wondering if I should call them an clarify since apparently I'm the only one who noticed the potential issue As always though fantastic and informative video to watch again. Also so fun to see things leading up to baby firefly again. 😉

[@jaroffireflies]

Hi Andiy, it could be that they keep some form of kosher style and don’t actually observe all the laws of kashrut. If you don’t work at a kosher establishment, then they probably are just keeping kosher style

[@idmouse]

@@jaroffireflies makes sense. Thank you! Appreciate your thoughts

[@jaroffireflies]

@@idmouse you’re so welcome :)

[@idmouse]

@@jaroffireflies 😀

[@JosephQuinton]

I would enjoy a video on your siddurim, as well as Mr. fireflies Siddurim

[@jaroffireflies]

Thank you for the suggestion! I did a video showing the inside of my Siddur, did you see that one? Is that what you’re looking for?

[@JosephQuinton]

@@jaroffirefliesI use the complete Artscroll Siddur and was curious about what you and your husband used.

[@jaroffireflies]

@@JosephQuinton that’s a wonderful Siddur. I use the Orot Sephardic Siddur. I’m not sure what my husband uses, I think he has his dad’s.

[@JosephQuinton]

@@jaroffireflies I I’m trying to find out, if Rav Nachman of Breslov has a Siddur with his commentary

[@jaroffireflies]

I don't know the answer to that

[@birdman9265]

Did you acquire citizenship in Israel when you converted? Do your children have citizenship through you to Isreal? I am so fascinated by this tradition of citizenship through the mother. I really love your videos.

[@jaroffireflies]

Hi there! I did not get citizenship to Israel when I converted. However, if I moved to Israel I would receive citizenship upon arrival. My children are duel citizenship but that is only due to my husband being Israeli, nothing to do with me. My children are Jewish because of me, that is matrilineal. Thank you so much for your kind words and I hope all that answered your questions!

[@benjaminr6153]

There is no citizenship through the mother per Israeli Law. Israel has a law of return which extends the right to claim citizenship to anyone with one Jewish grandparent (upon their immigrating to Israel). There are hundreds of thousands of Israelis (mostly immigrants from the former Soviet Union) who don’t have a Jewish mother or father. The Chief Rabbinate of Israel doesn’t consider these people Jewish but they are entitled to Israeli citizenship. But let’s be very clear that Jews outside Israel are not dual citizens. You don’t get Israeli citizenship by just being Jewish - either you have an Israeli parent or you move to Israel and claim citizenship per the applicable law. And actually, even if she had not converted but still married an Israeli and decided as a family to move there, she could get citizenship. Citizenship does not equal/is not synonymous with race or religion in Israel.

[@jaroffireflies]

@@benjaminr6153 correct! Thank you for the further explanation!

[@mayanlogos92]

i wanna share this videon my fb but dk how my "friends" will react... what to do? ///

[@jaroffireflies]

Definitely not a decision I can make for you :) But it’s fine with me if you choose to share :)

[@mayanlogos92]

@@jaroffireflies you know what. I will...

[@jaroffireflies]

@@mayanlogos92 :)

[@Happy_HIbiscus]

nice

[@jaroffireflies]

Thanks!

[@Fil0girl]

What would've happened if the bet din had said no? More learning?

[@jaroffireflies]

I would have had a discussion with my rabbi about the best way to proceed and would have continued learning and gone back at a later date.

[@Fil0girl]

@@jaroffireflies that other rabbi was something else. What a jerk! Honestly, even as a devout Christian I wanted to smack the guy. I hope the people who were turned down tried again too. I'd hate to think that one person could keep you from doing what you thought was right.

[@mayanlogos92]

im curious how did your christians friends reacted, did you have to move far from you home that was before the convertion, wwhere u more the types to wear blue jeans than skirts before? ah, and how do yo go to piscine and swin in, keepin tsniut, do u have a special place to go where men and women are in separate like rooms or sth, how about kids, they stay in according to the gender, and what about on beach??? for ex muslim women wear a sspecial impermeable suit..

[@jaroffireflies]

My Christian friends didn't really have much a of a reaction. They were interested and supportive as a whole. I did not have to move far, though I could have if I chose. I did wear a lot of blue jeans before I converted, but now I can't imagine wearing them because they would be so uncomfortable. Men and women do not need to be in separate rooms, not sure I totally understand your question there. We are totally allowed to go swimming. Women can swim anywhere, but men should not swim at a place with women who are not dressed modestly. So I could go to the beach but my husband should not unless it is a very uncrowded beach, private beach etc. Hope that answers everything for you!

[@mayanlogos92]

@@jaroffireflies what kind of unmodest bathing suit a woman has?

[@jaroffireflies]

@@mayanlogos92 like a bikini. Really any swim suit that doesn’t cover the chest and upper legs and upper arms. I wear a swim suit that looks like a dress.

[@mavericklync9542]

Why did the rabbi from Detroit have a problem with your triathlon running and blogging online? Are these not permitted?

[@jaroffireflies]

It’s permitted, I’m not sure what exactly he was not liking there, or questioning rather. I think he may have been concerned I was after glory, like winning, you know what I mean?

[@mavericklync9542]

@@jaroffireflies ok like getting all the glory. Interesting.

[@kimberleyroutledge-blondal3564]

About your child who has type 1 diabetes … I thought that wearing a glucose monitoring device meant that no finger pricks were necessary? During your video with your son, he is getting getting finger pricks.

[@jaroffireflies]

Sometimes we need to calibrate the monitoring device, and sometimes there is an issue that causes the monitoring device to stop working for a period of time.

[@kimberleyroutledge-blondal3564]

@@jaroffireflies I hope these devices improve! I feel for people who have to prick their fingers - especially children!

[@kimberleyroutledge-blondal3564]

@@jaroffireflies Oh … and about your conversion story #3 … where the MALE rabbis watching you naked in the mikvah ceremony? I actually asked you this question under a different video - but since you saw the diabetic question - I thought I’d ask it again, here. I don’t know how you can keep track of all the conversations! Bless you! ⭐️

[@TorahisthetruthPsalms]

⁠@@kimberleyroutledge-blondal3564the male Rabbi does not see the convert in the mikvah.

[@nadenrc]

How did you meet your husband

[@jaroffireflies]

I made a video with that story you can watch here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/n3Smk4VvoZ1lkMk enjoy!

[@lisafraney4987]

I have 1% Ashkenazi Jewish in my ancestryDNA. Found that out in my journey of learning about and trying to live jewish-ly. It’s now four/five years later and want to be converted but I don’t live near a Jewish community.

[@jaroffireflies]

Wow so interesting! You can start now by independent learning and of course reaching out to different communities you might be interested in relocating to. Aish website and Chabad website are both really great resources.

[@lisafraney4987]

@@jaroffireflies Thank you so much. I am trying my best to find some Jewish people here where I just moved too. After the DNA I found out I had a bunch of close relatives I was never aware of and I moved to be closer to them. But since I am the only Jewish person or consider myself Jewish among the whole family and apparently the whole town it is difficult but I do what I can to keep and try to be an example. Not having a rabbi is hard because I don’t know everything and in fear of doing it wrong. But I will not give up because I do not want to be a gentile.

[@Mama24loves]

The closed captioning for the hebrew words are insane...lol.

[@jaroffireflies]

😬 eek I’ve never looked at that lol

[@michellesunshinestar]

My parents gave me permission to become Mormon as a minor (I was 17 and 1/2). They raised us so that we would choose our own faith at age 18. After leaving Mormonism I only have two friends from that faith. There is a Jewish community kind of in the center of where I live. It's a really rich community though. If I were to convert, I can't imagine how I could afford living there. There's no way they would let me join though. I was LDS for 10 years and Lutheran for 2 years. The priest down street does not like me.

[@conniepayne931]

I apologise if this question is offensive. You've been raised with believing 'Jesus' is Christ, how does that fit with you now? I don't mean it to be nasty or judgemental or anything like that. I'm trying to understand. I don't know a lot of Orthodox Judaism, but know a lot of Judaism believers, believe that the Messiah has not arrived yet.

[@jaroffireflies]

Correct, the messiah has not come yet. And the messiah is not G-d or G-d in human form or the son of G-d. I appreciate the kind way you worded your question 💜

[@conniepayne931]

@@jaroffireflies Thank you for your reply. Politely I ask can you help me understand Isaiah 53 from your point of view? I'm asking because of my own upbringing, but being lead by Yah (God) to the Truth. I started with Anglican upbringing, left Religion all together but had many questions but all 'Christianity' was different, all religion was different (I hope I'm making sense). Found Seventh Day Adventist, left because of differences in what The Way, The Truth and the Life mean. I keep Feasts, and as much of Torah that I have knowledge of and still learning and asking questions. I don't have any Jewish people near (small country and they are in the big cities). So internet is helpful. Apologies for the novel. 🙂❤

[@TorahisthetruthPsalms]

@@conniepayne931please see Rabbi Tovia Singer or Jews for Judaism on Isaiah 53 on youtube.

[@jennifercleveland5703]

You should do a video about Jewish peoples peoples ideas of the afterlife and heaven. Also how u view God. Is he a loving God who watches over u and cares about you and listens when u pray. (This is how we see him in my Christian faith.) Because sometimes in the old testament God could have a bit of wrath. Lol (The great flood, etc.) Love ur channel!!!

[@quinoasongs2507]

yes that is one question I have too.

[@no2mob889]

Well God did show Noah and his family Grace love and mercy. He gave him instructions to build the Ark. He saved his family. He provided for them! The disobedient world had been full of violence and mixed DNA sodomites doing as they wanted in their own eyes therefore he had to destroy the earth as it was an abomination. Next time he destroys the earth it with be through fire and brimstone…(I think nukes). We are in the days of Noah now. Violence is exponentially increasing.

[@mavericklync9542]

How do you stay in shape now that you are an Orthodox Jewish woman?

[@mgramagl4]

While I totally admire your commitment to those Jewish roots and it is the solid base for Christianity and so important. What I could never do is deny Christ. While you are so enduring my heart hurts because of that denial. How did you reconcile that. I believe a true relationship with Christ that couldn’t happen. Just know you are loved and I pray you and yours consider this. Much admiration to you and your enthusiasm always. Peace be with you

[@dossit1]

The old testament was written first by Moses as G-d told him. one of the things it says that the Torah (old testament) will never be replaced or change, and G-d is one and will never be replaced or changed. Whatever comes after cannot be the truth.

[@dossit1]

@Theresa P you don't understand the point. As soon as she believes in Judaism - Jesus is not exist! God is one and only. He doesn't need any agent. In the Judaism we have direct communication with G-d. It may sounds defensive to you but this is our believe that is going on from generation to generation since we got the Torah in the desert after exodus from Egypt.

[@mayanlogos92]

2.49 - but ofc im pretty sure you will make them - as hard as it might seem to be religious and to attract your kids in like that whole of being - fall in love with it.... but as far as ik as an adult or after the age of bar/bat mitzvah they will have to convert if they wanna be hallahically jewish cs their mom is jew by choise, not birth.... but mb you were actually jews (i mean your natural family) who got asimilated or crypto or as such? ok have to follow next

[@jaroffireflies]

I’m not sure I understand your comment entirely, but to clarify, my children will never need to convert to Judaism. They were born Jewish.

[@chayastaub-krell6601]

I think you are asking whether or not the children of a mother who halachically converted to Judaism are halachically Jewish. That would depend on the timing of the mother's conversion. If it is before the children are born, the children are halachically Jewish. If the children were already born when their mother converted, they are not Jewish. In that case, in order for them to be halachically Jewish, they would need to go through conversion, if they choose to (they are never forced). I think, though I'm not positive, the child would need to be at least Bar or Bas Mitzvah age (13 for boys, 12 for girls). For example, in a family I met many years ago, secular Jewish man, non-Jewish wife. They married, had two children. He started becoming more religious, Orthodox. The two children they had before also had to convert but when older so they could choose for themselves. More children followed and they are halachically Jewish from birth.

[@TheCerealluvr]

Chana, I BEG you to figure out your camera settings because I really want to see your beautiful face!

[@fcohen8296]

Apologies in advance if this question has already been asked (direct me to where I can see the answer) and for the length (not easy to put it in words). I have a problem with acceptance of a child's decision to choose a different path in life with full respect. If I choose this path because I believe it is truth, then how can I respect someone who decides to spurn it. It's not just a matter of my dream of my child's bar mitzvah, wedding, learning together, having holidays together. It's more that he is creating damage to his/her soul. To try to put it in perspective in non-religion terms. If a child commits crimes that are horrendous, can you really respect his/her decision and allow them to continue living that way without pointing out where you think they are making a major mistake in their lives? (And in my experience, when you do that, the child considers you not being respectful, accepting and loving no matter how much you really are. I mean it would be stupid not to accept something that is a reality. But to respect it? That I find difficult)

[@marilynbloch5972]

If the person is financially poor the pastors refuse them to attend mass on Long Island if converted from judaism.

[@marilynbloch5972]

@Theresa P St jodeph RC Church said to leave with jail and sent my father and me on our e Way. Catholics had inquisition for we jews We had holocaudtand inquisition for jews.

[@lisawillbrand2281]

How were you able to get beyond the Christian belief in the divinity of Jesus?

[@TorahisthetruthPsalms]

The idol Jesus isn’t divine.

[@rachaelsmith7924]

You went born a catholic and became a jew, that's interesting.

[@no2mob889]

So I guess you don’t believe in the Christian Jesus? How did you come to that conclusion? 🥴. I often wonder and have googled why Jews don’t accept. I understand the Catholic part. The graven image thing and Mary thing disgusts me. So did you study and come to this conclusion THEN convert?