OP does not owe her lame excuse of a mom any favors. The time for this playing pretend crap is over. She only cares about two things. Living off rich men, and maintaining her image that is built on lies. The grandparents need to stay the hell out of this, because it's always so easy for the people who aren't the victims of mistreatment to act like they should take the moral high ground. This has been a LONG time coming and OP finally gave her what she had coming.