My Naturally Curly Hair Makes Me Feel Like A LOSER...

Growing up the typical "pretty girl" never had curly hair. I felt like I had to conform to the beauty standards and then I got use to those beauty standards. Now I'm trying to re-learn what beauty can be and start to love the my natural curls.
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0:00 Intro
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[@NyahsDiary]

Every single word you said I agreed with like I felt if in my souls it’s honestly scaring. But the part about where you look at girls with curly hair and think they look great but not you just letting you know I feel that way about you! Your hair looks amazing ❤

[@inoparks8602]

You’re beautiful and I’m not saying this lightly. I watched some of your older videos and all the latest ones, saw you wearing different styles, all were splendid And you’re definitely not a loser, miles and miles away from it. You mentioned those videos being a way for you to look back at your life later, see all the way you’ve come. If you do, you will be as impressed as I was. Since I follow you, in just a few weeks I saw you doing and accomplishing more things than many people in years You’re awesome and beautiful and inspiring. Don’t go thinking about yourself what no one else does. See what everyone sees, how amazing you are 🤩❤

[@AlanahCole]

You are seriously so thoughtful and sweet. Thank you for all these kind words! That’s means so much to me. I definitely have come a long way and more grow is to come! 💓💓

[@RyansChannel0203]

Your hair is beautiful, Alanah. It has always been beautiful, curly or not. ❤️ There’s never been a time since I’ve known you when I thought it looked bad. The same also applies to everything about you.

[@AlanahCole]

💜💜💜 thanks Ryan!!

[@SuperButterfly217]

Your curly hair is beautiful!

[@erin.a.b]

first of all your hair is beautiful. second of all i don’t think this a “you problem”. i think white/western beauty standards are so so so ingrained in every part of our society. so anything that doesn’t quite fit into that, we’re programmed to hate. this isn’t on you. and i do think many people feel the same way and can hopefully be a resource/support for you! i’m sending you love!!

[@Khloecelticsfan]

You're curly hair doesn't make you a loser I love it so much I appreciate your friendship always thank you for being such a great friend to me and hope our friendship keeps going stronger every day forever I love you friend your beautiful Khloe 🫂

[@AlanahCole]

Thanks Khloe! I appreciate you! 💖💖💖

[@thenortheastcity2317]

I’m so sorry that you’ve felt so down on yourself bc of your hair. I personally love your hair and think it gorgeous! I used to have pin straight hair and always wished it was curly. I think curls are beautiful!

[@leish_dee]

This title is triggering!!! Wahhhh! Relatable but omg you look AMAZING for real! I'm learning to embrace mine, but I do not feel put together without smooth hair. Soooo time consuming.

[@leish_dee]

I'm almost done the video but damn. I feel you. It's a big deal. The style you're wearing here is fucking adorable.

[@sharpsvilleBill]

NO, Alanah, your curly hair is glorious! You look stunning either way but I love the curls! ❤❤

[@arinavivargas8247]

Curly hair is the best 🥹🖤am not an curly hair but I wish I was it’s jus pure beautiness emotionally 🥹💕

[@AlanahCole]

Thanks! That is sweet💕

[@arinavivargas8247]

@@AlanahCole ur welcome no need to suffer having beauty 💕🖤🥹

[@thenortheastcity2317]

I always wanted curly hair too

[@SparkyPeaches]

I just discovered you this week on KZbin because I was looking up 2c/3b hair…I subbed right away! ❤️ My hair, and my hair struggles, are so similar to yours. (I did the same thing, frying my hair straight EveryDamnDay of HS….etc) When I decided to embrace my curly hair a few years ago, even family members made comments like “That’s what was wrong with your hair when you were little. We couldn’t get it to do anything.” They had no clue what to do with my “cotton candy” hair. I’m definitely still figuring it out. Unlike straight hair, it’s as if you never know what your hair is going to look like (at least for me). I really appreciate your honesty- because I can relate SO MUCH. I’m so sorry you’re upset about the gray hair too. Most of the women in my family start to go gray in their 20s/30s. I genuinely think it looks great on you! It adds a little more texture and interest. Hope to see more hair content from you! ❤️

[@AlanahCole]

I appreciate your comment so much. I totally understand what you went though. I definitely have that feeling of never knowing if my hair will end up ok looking or not! Hopefully we can figure this out and find some love for our hair during the process!! 💗💗 more hair content to come!

[@nicolecalvo4467]

To hear that you have insecurities makes me feel sad bc I think you're just so beautiful. We all have our own insecurities. I thought losing weight would fill a void and I discovered that it just gave me a new gang of insecurities. Its just the way the human mind works in this time we are living in. But girl! You are smokin! Just the way you are! Its a journey for sure! Hugs!

[@dgurl064]

Ur beautiful alanah!!!❤❤❤ I love watching your videos and i always love the cute hairstyles you have in each video and i lovee loveee your naturally curly hair!!❤❤❤❤

[@s.medina_kcm45]

I'm sorry you feel this way honestly. Of course I can't change how you feel about yourself. & I too have negative thoughts about myself. I think we all do. Actually I will just say I have body dysphoria about my entire self. You really are gorgeous Alanah & I personally love your hair. Again I can't change how you feel about yourself but I will say it can always be worse. So about 5-6yrs ago I started losing my hair on the top of my head right above my forehead & very thin throughout. I've tried many things to get it to grow back & still nothing has worked. I used to have such nice healthy hair before & that was the 1 & only thing I liked about myself so for someone with already existing body dysphoria this extreme hair loss is something that really hurts & it's very embarrassing. & being a woman possibly even more embarrassing because it's not the "norm", though it is actually pretty common. But I will not step 1 foot out of my house without a hat or bandana on to cover up this ugly hair loss. I can not afford a wig & I know they are a lot of work to care for. The only person who I don't freak out about seeing me without a hat or bandana on is my mother. So again I know I can not change how you feel about yourself but it really can always be worse. & you're correct, a person can actually see your gray hairs when they actually just focus on that but when we focus on you, the person, the woman you are, they disappear because we see you. We do not focus on the tiny (btw it's "tie nee not tee nee" lol) details. We just see the wonderful good person you are. I know we all see ourselves differently than others do though. & yes I should be saying this to myself but again our brains just don't work the same way when we see ourselves. Truly, you are a wonderful person, your are a beautiful woman, your hair is gorgeous. Thank you for just being you. & as always, loving the videos 🌹🌹❤️❤️

[@thenortheastcity2317]

PS I’ve had gray hair since I was 20. It’s the worst! People always say they don’t notice but I know it’s extremely noticeable! I think it’s our younger generations that have gotten it so young. Part of me wishes Hollywood would embrace it more and show that it’s ok and maybe make the rest of us not care but it’s so hard.

[@EITURKEY1]

I know it seems creepy to say that you are beautiful, but real beauty is not what you look like; it is what you ARE, it is the shape of your personality, and yours is outstanding. what you look like is kinda superficial, and will change as you get older, but your personality will always be there, and you will always the kind of person who helps others in your community.

[@AlanahCole]

Thanks. That is so true. Personality is the most important. Who you are on the inside is what matters. Sometimes it’s hard to remind yourself that but you are so right!!

[@dameiahrowell3923]

Your natural curly hair is Beautiful I want curly hair like u. U never a loser because of anything or your hair

[@travisrassel9978]

You are not a loser. Your a winner. And the curly hair makes you look amazing.

[@sophistoast]

I looked up videos on this topic because my hair makes me want to scream (its super tight ringlet curls). I tried so hard not to straighten my hair anymore because my hair was so damaged, but after years of putting all this effort into my hair and painstakingly wetting it each morning and styling I just... I hate it, its so frustrating and it makes me feel so ugly to wake up looking like a fucking haystack all the time. I hate it in pictures, I hate it first thing in the morning. I straightened my hair for the first time in years this week and it makes me want to cry how confident and happy I feel with my hair straightened. And there is nothing I can do about it unless I was to super damage my hair straightening it every day. And I'm just so so fucking sad about it.

[@SeunKing]

You are always beautiful ❤

[@beezwax7094]

Hello Alanah. Your hair is beatiful. Mine is long and curly and I love it. Don't put yourself down. You are beautiful inside and out.

[@AlanahCole]

Hi 💜 thanks. I’m doing my best and hopefully I’ll be able to find some love for my hair soon!!

[@loupelizzo2399]

Your hair is beautiful and I would love to have hair like yours, and hair is natural though and I’ve never seen look bad. Ignore all the negative comments they know nothing and they’re ignorant but what’s the stereotypical woman supposed to look like you’re beautiful inside and that’s all that matters. Thank you for sharing this video and appreciate you and everything you represent

[@aamiller90]

I’ve always had a love hate relationship with my curls. I never like the maintenance but my wife likes the “shaggy look” I love your curls though 😊

[@054645567665666]

You're so beautiful Alanah, don't think too much about things you can't control like your gray hairs and your curly hair, because these things are out of your control and it's just your luck in life! You were given OTHER attributes like your natural perfectly sized breasts for one :) Your face is all pretty and cute with all the freckles

[@Bcr26420]

Good Heavens.... I LOVE it.... and your cute freckles too..... It's YOU..... Remember this: Always be yourself...and Be yourself ALWAYS

[@assiminakor2251]

You're beautiful either way bcos you're glowing love, passion, friendship, honesty, genuinely possitive emotions more or less. Fullstop. Straightened hair just make you look more hot and sexually desirable, slightely depending also on your make-up and dressing outfit. Kisses and never stop to amaze first yourself.

[@AlanahCole]

🧡

[@ladymorwendaebrethil-feani4031]

Your hair looks like my hair, but i have bangs.

[@aurora3655]

i can try.

[@skmv87]

❤️💙❤️

[@AlanahCole]

💗💗

[@SparkyPeaches]

I just discovered you this week on KZbin because I was looking up 2c/3b hair…I subbed right away! ❤️ My hair, and my hair struggles, are so similar to yours. (I did the same thing, frying my hair straight EveryDamnDay of HS….etc) When I decided to embrace my curly hair a few years ago, even family members made comments like “That’s what was wrong with your hair when you were little. We couldn’t get it to do anything.” They had no clue what to do with my “cotton candy” hair. I’m definitely still figuring it out. Unlike straight hair, it’s as if you never know what your hair is going to look like (at least for me). I really appreciate your honesty- because I can relate SO MUCH. I’m so sorry you’re upset about the gray hair too. Most of the women in my family start to go gray in their 20s/30s. I genuinely think it looks great on you! It adds a little more texture and interest. Hope to see more hair content from you! ❤️