My New Husband Won't Help Support My Family

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[@QueenBeeBeautyXO]

This isn't fair to the husband!

[@tiebear1]

that is why she got married

[@gwenscott535]

He is an adult and said I DO. They need to work it out.

[@billm4262]

@@gwenscott535 So is she and her adult family members. Her family needs to get off their collective butts and be adults about it and come up with their own solution just Like Dave said. Sell the 60k property or move back. They have the means to not be in this situation, just too suborn to do anything about it. Instead they are relying on her to worry about their problems for them. Ridiculous!!!

[@MrHeavyMetalRocker1]

Gwen Scott it’s very possible he was not made aware of what the real situation is. Also marrying someone does NOT mean you have to take care of their family.

[@Gonewithjon]

Thank you for saying that.

[@lookItsJayden]

When I stopped helping my ex wife’s family and told her to get a real job I soon after got a divorce. People like this only hold you back.

[@robwilliams239]

Personally, I think the husband made a mistake.

[@scoobydoobers23]

Maybe she is really considerate in the bedroom and he thinks it's worth it.

[@realamazingworld6756]

I smell a divorce

[@hairyrope1912]

Every husband made a mistake

[@realamazingworld6756]

@Ty Somers Some more than others

[@clublulu399]

He done fudged up

[@laurajm3694]

I get the impression her siblings choose to see her as “the one with all that American money” and use that view to justify their unwillingness to help support their parents.

[@rm5282]

Yep and all the folks in the comment.section talking about her family cultural norms fail tomsee that the whole family doesn't appear to follow.those implied norms.

[@purselmer5931]

Yes, b/c everyone in every other country KNOWS that money just falls off of trees here in the US. No one ever seems to concede anymore that maybe Americans work HARD for their money. Getting worse every day too.

[@gwildordipkin6504]

When indeed she got 110k in student debt and seems to have no career/income to justify it. She's the one "in debt all that American money" living off her husband.

[@raulascencio8405]

yeah, most likely…

[@stephengamber7000]

Bet the siblings spend whatever they want.

[@TerryOnDemand]

She didnt tell her husband all of this. I dont BLAME him for not wanting to combine finances. THEN she has more than 80% of the debt😒

[@cayetano6547]

combining finances would be the end of him..

[@justshady]

@zadose she didn't tell him, we all know this. No way a man signs up to take care for 9 people

[@Majestic_Dark_Horse]

Female Psychology: Money: "What's mine is mine, what's yours is mine!" Student loans: What's mine is yours, what's yours is...Hun, that's yours! ~Bachelor...I Stand Alone...I got my " Table", Ms. I hope you "own" one as well.

[@TeKnoVKNG23]

Has almost 90% of the debt...wants to combine finances...writing is on the wall with this one.

[@aligncars10000]

This lady sounds super expensive. I would never put a ring on her finger.

[@MrClassicmetal]

He should not pay for her student loan debt, and most definitely _not_ for her parents. This happens all too often. Some guy marries a woman with massive debt, and as soon as it has been paid off she's gone. He shouldn't have married her in the first place. That was a dumb move.

[@aligncars10000]

@Google Acct He needs to hit the road before he knocks her up and is tied to her for life

[@christinamartinez8132]

The husband isn't too bright.

[@futuresrock]

This lady's parents aren't gonna sell yhe property back home because it "belongs" to siblings there. Property in US belongs to her & her brother because he still lives there, so she can't sell that either all the while paying $2000 per month. She is gonna get preggers next year leaving husband all the stress & financial burden. And as soon as he remembers that he has a life too in a year or two. His wife will want to divorce him with him paying $2000 alimony a month!!! There!!! I said it first.... this is how her & his next 3yrs are going to pan out!!

[@jimh712]

80 year old people shouldn't have home loan Especially when they can't afford to make the payments... The parents should sell the property and down size

[@LilBleachThaGod]

jim h yeah they should have a small condo or apartment lol 😂

[@jimh712]

@@LilBleachThaGod The parents should have a good life But not at the expence of their children being over extended... Yes they ahould be living in something they an afford.. Or where they can afford

[@Vinicius.Passos.]

Also 80 year old people should have a security number. The whole time they stayed in the US, they didn't try to fix their status there.

[@DarkStarAZ]

If she and her husband are paying the mortgage then they should be building equity in the house when it's eventually sold.

[@halfbloodprincess989]

Truuuee. My parents had their home paid of, when my older sister got into college. That was really good, because they could financially support her and later me through college. Now we are done with college, my parents are retired and noone in the family has any dept =)

[@shellyd1811]

Have the parents move back to their house in another country, and have the brother who lives in that house take care of the parents....problem solved. Come on, this isn't rocket science.

[@NatashaVincent]

Agreed. There's way more family supports there, it seems. If health care access is an issue, however, travel costs back to the US may have to be factored in.

[@Janessa107]

Agreed. If they move back to Central America they can probably support them 100% and it’d be way less than here in the U.S. if no one else is willing to chip in.

[@shellyd1811]

Plus, if they keep the house in the family, then all the siblings and their children will always have a place to live, no one worrying about ever being homeless, if times get rough. Or rent it out if no one is living in it, and have an extra income for someone in the family. I honestly think it's the worst advice to sell the house.

[@ChrisMFlorida]

I think you knew Dave Ramsey in a former life.. good answer!

[@kingkong-ni4ho]

Its just simple steps. 1. Sell your parents home in America 2. Move your parents back to central America with the brother 3. Let parents live off the profit from the home sale and the parents social security 4. Have siblings chip in a minimum $50 to help parents live comfortable. 5. Come back and forth to America for healthcare.

[@osvaldosanchez2248]

This guy needs to run. This lady has no control of her life.

[@bigd1223]

Too late now, he married her. She can file for divorce and get a big chunk of his assets.

[@ChrisMFlorida]

true.. but where it stands now.. they need a family meeting. If no one else comes to the plate.. I'd question running :)

[@triad6425]

@@bigd1223 under 1 year you can get an annulment. Even if he had to pay alimony right now it would be only for half the time they are married. Literally any option other than staying is guaranteed to be cheaper.

[@murderouskitten2577]

@@bigd1223 why do you think she got married ?

[@NOAHfreakingTHOMAS]

Stupid comments under this video.

[@Uhhlaneuh]

“Let’s pretend you’re broke” “We don’t have to pretend” 😂😂😂

[@royalarmy1837]

Nailed it right there.

[@ecclairmayo4153]

@@royalarmy1837 - yup. She was right on the money!

[@globryan3222]

She finally gave him a good answer lol

[@hiphoplifesstyles2077]

😂😂😂😂😂😂 shoot

[@fogandwhirlwind]

Yeah I know that was hilarious

[@airinschiff814]

Luckiest man is the “exhusband” lol

[@notanotheryoutubechannel777]

@hermit gains luckiest man is who laid pipe and dipped lol

[@turdferguson5847]

Now we know why he is the ex-husband

[@minervagalvez4748]

I AGREE! LUCKY EX-HUSBAND!!!

[@littleripper312]

Being an ex-husband is the worst situation not the best...

[@angeladerienzo328]

You got that right

[@davidnatiel6886]

Send the parents back home and let them enjoy the rest of the time they have left Send them $500 a month and they should be good

[@ecclairmayo4153]

Yes and the leach siblings should contribute to the $500

[@hengineer]

Belize would be a cheaper lifestyle.

[@nicsanchez1770]

Send them nothing. Theyre adults.

[@jamesjohnson6472]

Very smart. Oh and put your brother on the street.

[@pollito5452]

300 more than enough. Brothers can help. They wont i know it for sure.

[@sasasavage5047]

There are 8 children. Each person can give the parents $250 a month.

[@MartinSal]

They all live paycheck to paycheck and one is over seas which gets paid less. I say they say the house the parents are living in . Move them back to Belize and they can live off the equity from the house or rent it out .

[@herbiehusker1889]

Parents can pay their own way

[@kingkong-ni4ho]

They are not living paycheck to paycheck. They can all easily cut down their expenses to chip in at least $100 each. They just don't want to because the caller is foolishly footing the bill for their part.

[@whitneyw.7919]

You missed the point where they're broke living in central america. $250/month in central america is probably equivalent to $1500 per month in america

[@pugtortuga3406]

Whitney W. You missed the point. They have 30 months income sitting in the house there. They should move back.

[@reggier2343]

She keeps saying he is hesitant to merge finances, but the reality is he is adamant and doesn't want to.

[@YeshuaKingMessiah]

Adamant and wont Nice marriage

[@boboneill6554]

She is afraid of the blow back from all sides.

[@jwebby85]

After finding out his wife is sending their money to her parents, do you blame him?????

[@granitemoss1451]

They should not have married before settling how this would be handled. I am a woman, but firmly on his side on this one.

[@BinksyBoi]

I'm a woman too and he is in the right. I wonder if she even told him?

[@Omonike88]

Me too. On his side.

[@jessicaHcat]

@Anthony Bush Not to mention she sounds like she clearly has no guts to tell her brother to move out. If she can't handle one sibling, I doubt she can stand up against the rest.

[@AdaEstherGJ]

I also feel the same way and I am also a woman.

[@HeavymetalHylian]

I doubt she discussed this with him OR she did, but was passive about it and did what she wanted anyway. If she can't talk to any one of her 7 siblings that she grew up with about something as serious as helping her parents survive, what can convince us that she's going to talk to her husband about anything?

[@lilithdemonia74]

Notice how she's hedging her answers; she's evasive and it sounds shady. Husband needs to run....now....

[@JD-qo7hm]

It doesn't sound shady, it sounds complicated. Shes trying to do whats best for all of her family without affecting any one individually negative. Thats going to be impossible as she learns what she needs to do, but shes not being shady by working her way to that realization. Grow up. She called Dave because she needs help doing the right thing, not because she wants to defraud her husband.

[@Naturestheway]

Let me guess, you're not like this 😄

[@Naturestheway]

@@JD-qo7hm Ahh poor guy white knighting for females who would watch you die 😄 you'll learn your lesson soon enough, remember me.

[@JD-qo7hm]

@@Naturestheway Whatever you say, bud.

[@thecastle09]

run and hide in a cave. its cool being single. you dont need a woman ever.ever....i love being solo.

[@fire12731]

I can’t believe she’s not mad at her siblings or even her parents. This lady is truly incredible. I totally agree with the husband and the brother and the other country they need to sell that property so the parents can be OK.

[@jimbobduggar1747]

The husband made a mistake marrying this woman. I HIGHLY Doubt he knew the specifics of her debt and how much she gave her parents every month.

[@NrthrnKnght]

she threw the puddin at him HARD..

[@DanielIles]

It sounds like he was trying to get her out of crippling debt first. Help yourself before you help others or you won’t be able to do either!

[@triniwondawoman]

Daniel Iles 💯💯💯👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@RK-ve4xp]

💯 Help yourself first. And never help people who can't help themselves.

[@blackworldtraveler3711]

I can certainly see why she wanted to get married.

[@signorpops8520]

she was in deep love. Thats the problem with women. They love too hard .

[@robertjohnson4401]

@@signorpops8520 In love with money

[@patthetrucker5670]

Life insurance,hubby is about to have a little accident.

[@thewatchersuperman]

@@signorpops8520 lol timely sarcasm..

[@iviaverick52]

Listening to callers on Dave's show has made me greatly appreciate never taking out student loans.

[@paulremick4291]

Amen brother!

[@lovethemflowers]

This is one of the few times I don't blame the spouse for not wanting to combine incomes . . . yet.

[@MyNameIsCorey]

Shes carries more debt than her husband, her family is taking HER on a financial ride and this all some how equates to being her husband's fault...? Intriguing 🤔

[@JordanMadera]

MyNameIsCorey Probably has a liberal arts degree.

[@76shogun1]

Who said it was the husband's fault besides you?🤔

[@CodHumors]

@spot light to be fair, chinese math is the same everywhere

[@joyceboisvert9167]

Greed isn’t part of marriage she doesn’t love you she love your money

[@stephaniedonato6414]

Mom and Dad go back to Belize and the brother who lives the retakes care of them now. All other kids chip in to help them.

[@angelikalaser7778]

Yes, good Plan. They can't feel home in the US. Why did they move at 80

[@TsarOfRuss]

If i were the husband, i could secretly call immigration and get her parents deported !!! Problem solved !!!

[@onenikkione]

@@TsarOfRuss Bro, start a radio talk show. I'll be your co-host

[@ringchaser4488]

@@TsarOfRuss if they are here legally, you just wasted your time and the person you called time....

[@Windom_Craig]

@@TsarOfRuss savage sir. Real savage

[@genemartin6962]

RUN son RUN!!!!! She is living in a dream world. " I dont come from a financially stable house hold""" Run son RUN!!!!!!

[@littleretroship6403]

She thinks its weird that her husband doesn’t want to combine their debts when her debts are aver 5x more than his

[@RowneyPowers]

That's how marriage works buckaroo. Your debt, her debt, it's both of y'all's debt.

[@BradKandyCroftFamily]

It didn't sound like the debt was the problem, it's her parents living off of her that's the problem. She thinks they are her financial responsibility because she's the "rich" child living in America. Her siblings obviously feel the same way.

[@georgeide2337]

​@@RowneyPowersIts not when her debt is not paid because she funds her parents life.

[@YashKumar-tj3vt]

​@@RowneyPowers mam she has 5×debt even if that's okay she is funding her family every month.Why would anyone combine finances??

[@Jose243]

Wouldn't it make sense for them to move back to Central America where they have a paid for home and the majority of the kids live there? It's really easy to send money now a days and USD will be a lot more valuable over there. It's cheaper to fly to see them every 3-4 months than maintain this craziness

[@gkbluestocking]

Jose U yes but better medical facilities are here in the States

[@rebeccashields9626]

Agreed.

[@kingkong-ni4ho]

That was what I was thinking. Sell the house in America. Go live in central America. Live off social security and the profit from the home sale. Come to America every 6 months for medical checkups. So much less money will be used that way.

[@monikabennett]

Gkbluestocking Sounds like they can't afford the medical facilities here, either.

[@johndoe-ii1ko]

@@gkbluestocking they're medical facilities are just about the same. Would I get plastic surgery there? No. But if we're talking health and whatnot, they have comparable medical care. Hence why so many Americans travel to Mexico for otherwise expensive surgeries and prescriptions. I think it's more they're leeching off the American husband. The daughter probably promised she'd take care of them or something.

[@Ant0417]

Here’s what I heard: “So I tricked this new guy into marrying me by pretending I love him and now he refuses to pay off my enormous debt and give half of his paycheck to my freeloading family! What do I do, Dave?”

[@arleneaugustahair8393]

JJ Anthony Pretty much! 🤣🤣🤣

[@GoogleAccount00]

Bingo

[@mexital1159]

That's sounds about right

[@rudybonilla9271]

After a few months it’ll be what should I do Steve or Jerry, Maury or your honor

[@GeneralChangFromDanang]

Also: "My original 5 year plan was to divorce him after he paid off my loan. This has set me back by at least a couple years."

[@FredSmith-s5t]

My wife and I seperated our finances after about 10 years. Shw worked, I was semi retired. I had additional funds elsewhere. I paid the mortgage. She paid the bills. We are happy.

[@MsJoyce31202]

He's not supposed to. He's YOUR husband not theirs.

[@sharynduran5993]

Yes the husband made a huge mistake

[@TruthHurts922]

Marrying her was his mistake

[@lmeaux5240]

Caller stated that she has been paying half of the mortgage for her parents. Where is the other half coming from?

[@tippytoe1250]

I have a feeling she’s paying the entire mortgage.

[@Faith-un7ns]

How did the parents get a mortgage with no income to begin with.

[@dasmesser1]

If those 2000 dls are for the mortgage only, parents are living in a mansion. She is obviously paying for more than half the mortgage or paying for living expenses too.

[@poopn69]

@@dasmesser1 nope ca thats average price .

[@elleivers9387]

@@tippytoe1250 I agree becuz the mortgage is in her name...

[@richardramfire3971]

Ramsey’s advice was spot on. I think they should move back

[@Kharmatos13]

why don't they sell the house here too that they can't afford? they should be renting at 80 if they can't, or like you and dave said move back.

[@jamesjoyce2528]

What a mistake marrying into this financial black hole. No spouse is worth this nightmare.

[@dartecoates9262]

She finessed this guy, knew she had crazy debt and was enabling people. She hooked this guy and now she wants him to deal with all her problems. Redpill or become a statistic.

[@dartecoates9262]

@TheLifeBidder Marriage is obsolete, a man gets nothing from it, but gives everything and can lose everything. Redpill men dont put themselves in situations where they can be taken advantage of.

[@poemsjones4184]

Red pill all day, I've learned.

[@I_like_turtles_67]

Well now he will end up paying half of it. Because the debts will be split up when they divorce.

[@chuckbarieka1843]

YEP

[@MrNckissfan]

TheLifeBidder: In many ways this is a Red Pill issue given how society pressures people to marry. However, I do see your point. Especially about the Asian community given that I personally have given up on Latina and Black women due to their extreme inability to wait until marriage to have children.

[@theodorelaurence1790]

Dude, she is exploiting him. What is she contributing to support her husbands parents? Nothing.

[@FightsRightsAlways]

I wish they would do follow ups on some of these calls. Because if I was the husband in this situation, well...I wouldn't be because no one could make me pay for a mortgage on a house that I'm not living in, while siblings sit around and did nothing.

[@dboucher26]

Her husband need to leave her ASAP. She have way too much baggage. I would never accept that kind of baggage.

[@MegaTeeruk]

As someone married to someone from another culture I am extremely familiar with this scenario.

[@akui88]

dude got suckered. i don't think she told him fully about the situation. also, who gives a mortgage to an 80-year-old couple with no income.

[@mw-ys1qq]

It illegal to discriminate based on age. It's something the government did to help fight elderly homelessnes

[@crzyruskie86]

It's probably her mortgage that's why she's so concerned about it.

[@gerrodrichardson7846]

Using him to support her family she's trash I wouldn't burden anyone like that

[@mrfred1000]

@@mw-ys1qq Aside from the mentally ill and physically handicapped, why is homelessness anyone's problem? Think on that. Take the modern idea and take the past ideas. Modern idea: Create a welfare state that takes care of homelessness and makes sure people cannot be discriminated against and offer all these types of programs and company incentives. Result: Thousands of homeless still exist Past ideas: Your family, Church and community takes care of the elderly, sick etc. Result: Thousands of homeless exist See, the problem here is not the states or governments problem. it didn't solve anything. All it did was transfer issues somewhere else. This elderly couple was suppose to take care of themselves and when they didn't their kids were suppose to and IF they didn't have kids their church or community was suppose to and those safety nets worked fine up until we allowed government to step in and play daddy to everyone. I live in New York and we have the most accepting homeless policy for shelters on the planet probably. You can't be turned away, you rarely get kicked out, you don't have to have income, there are companies that specialize in family, Couples and single male and female shelters, you can transfer, they feed you and they give you wellfare programs to get you on your feet. Yet for some strange reason, thousands of homeless still exist in new York despite the hundreds of shelters with rooms available and teams that go out at night to look for homeless people to bring them into shelters and aid them. And for some odd reason the shelter system is called a revolving door having multiple people in the system for 5-10 years at a time. Hmmm I wonder why. It's rhetorical.

[@LilBleachThaGod]

akui88 yeah I’d least keep the mortgage in my name if I was paying it so when they go out I could rent it etc ! She’s goin pay off a mortgage just so the family can pass the house to other relative

[@tiebear1]

This is why you don't get married ... EVER. Now this guy is on the hook for taking care of 2 households and when she leaves he's going to get taken to the cleaners.

[@Eaglejake]

Fortunately, there is no "Parent Support" for 18 years. She works and he works. If he gets out under 3-5 years he will be fine. But yea, never sign the Government Marriage Contract.

[@r4ym1n13]

He will be wiped out no doubt about it

[@cyberzonie631]

@Big_A ..... you are exactly right. NEVER sign a Government marriage contract. Constantly quoting pro marriage statistics, Mr. Ramsey never discusses the true marriage/divorce legal entanglements that men can get into.

[@MrTmenzo]

Unfortunately I've heard that courts side with the female even if she just lives with you non married. Dang!

[@RK-ve4xp]

@Be Frank lol

[@eviLempire2013]

Chick said she’s nervous to ask the siblings for help. All this time and she hasn’t asked. Boy, am I glad I’m single.

[@clair233]

If my brother married into this situation, I would be mortified. She's expecting her husband to take care of everyone.

[@PvtNoclass925]

God this woman has huuuuuuge baggage! I feel so sorry for the husband. He made a mistake with this woman.

[@georgewashington938]

she better be really pretty and many years younger that the husband, and really really good to him

[@e.honchoo9596]

Fr that’s tuff

[@vg6790]

Her plan with an American husband backfired

[@pawsnotclaws2772]

Vera Gonzalez lol

[@nadia4999]

More like his plan with a foreign woman backfired.

[@Lion_Rey]

@@nadia4999 you're in the minority if you believe that

[@nadia4999]

@MrTwk63, his plan(marriage) to a foreign woman with 7 other siblings CLEARY backfired. He did not marry this woman to support every person in her family. He married her. I am sure he does not mind helping her and there, but this man has realized he married a woman that had a lot of baggage that he did not fully think through.

[@JustIngrid86]

I'd be embarissed if i was her mom. And 2k...2k that isn't going to her 100k+ debt.

[@Ant0417]

We’re talking about a mom who had 8 kids with no money and then moved to the US with nothing and depends on her children for support. She’s not embarrassed, she has zero shame.

[@soILLitsADVISED]

Just Ingrid in about 6yrs, what she’s paying towards her parents expenses could amount to $120k. She’s capable of cleaning up her loans without a doubt.

[@canadude2010]

the parents are very old and probably senile and oblivious to the whole situation....no one would deliberately exploit their son or daughter to this degree(or son-in-law)...especially when they have obvious options.

[@Overly_Hydrated]

“Did he say for rich and for poor” “did he mean it” “so you give money to your family without asking your husband” This guy is great. Literally no bias, just marriage and dollar signs.

[@wPJyat]

Sounds like that guy realized he's now enslaved and married into a family of freeloaders.

[@michaelford1124]

Sounds like a marriage for someone to take care of her and her parents......

[@coconutsfor2963]

This girl sounds like she will ruin He's life . The guy should divorce this girl quick before, she turns into her parents . Shes got no BACKBONE - I bet her family hatessssss her husband .

[@madbro4803]

Man this answer is super boomer. The "sirs" don't fool anyone. Her smiling through the phone shows you just how much respect she has for her husband. Getting married sounds like it was really financially convenient for her. I'd like to hear his side.

[@adamwalker2377]

Boomers are uxorious. She was elated right at the start, because she had a stick to beat her husband. My prediction: Dave will lose credibility with men, and then women will stop using him.

[@madbro4803]

@@adamwalker2377 I think in their day the relationships were more symbiotic. In that context I can understand that mentality. But now if I want my boxers ironed, I gotta do it myself and women have to provide for themselves.

[@bobbarker9556]

Let me interpret: We have xyz Debt --> my husband is responsible for my debt that was incured wholly by me. I let him know before --> I had no real conversation about my debt or details, I just hinted and assumed he knew before we married. I have student debt 100k --> I took a usless course in school unlike my husband who paid his schooling and took something that brings actual real income. My parents have property elsewhere --> The property has value that my parents want to keep for themselves even though they are struggling, so husband needs to sacrifice (what no one else in her family wants to do) his lifestly that he went to school for and worked hard for, so that my family dosn't have to take responsibilty and continue in the lifestlye the are accustomed too. I guess they never heard of downsizing, if they can't handle their own mortgage, they should sell and find something more affordable. I bet this guy had no idea about all these "responsibilities" dropped on him once he got married, i bet she never told him the truth. He should run run run, once she drops a kid, she will sit back and expect the workhorse to provide for her entire family.

[@Tony-dh]

Bob Barker very accurate. Are you a psycic?

[@Pulapaws]

Run,run, run. This lady shows all the signs of a gold digger i would not be surpirisebif she truly even love the man. She just wanted someone to care for her and if he loses his job or she found someone with more money willing to take her in she will bounce so fast. This happen to me dad, happen to my coworker. I bet there was red flag she was like this be he just push though them may be bc she is petty and look will kept. He should have never told her how much he make, only gold digger are super interstert in how much you have in the bank and how much you make. You can easily get a range of how much someone make online this days if she wanted to know. If she truly care about his money they would have talk about how much debt each other had before. She do want him to pay her debt all gold digger do i have not seen one that want to work off they own debt.

[@YeshuaKingMessiah]

Except you interpreted thru eyes of an American. So, its wrong. I know you wont change ur thinking tho lol

[@fudogwhisperer3590]

I was engaged to a woman in my mid 30's that had student loan debt. I told her she would need to show responsibility in paying that down before there was any marriage. I suggested we lay all of our finances on the table and go to a financial planner. I made it clear i was going to be in charge of the money and finances. She left. I dodged a bullet. This guy was an idiot for marrying this person.

[@MrOccyc]

I had the same experience. My fiancé was all about the spending for this and that, but not interested in how to pay for it. I was called overbearing before she left. That was 25 years ago and I am now thankful it played out that way.

[@carolynb.9469]

"I made it clear that I was going to be in charge of the money and finances" 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩 Sounds like you both dodged a bullet....

[@RepentImmediately]

I can't imagine being a grown ass woman and someone else tells me they're going to manage my finances 😂 marriage is a trip, man....I don't get it

[@QueenBeeBeautyXO]

Why aren't her siblings helping out??

[@EyeAmCoa]

QueenBee Bargains WHY!?!?! it doesn’t make sense!!

[@VanFelo]

They're smart, that's why. Parents could live almost on nothing outside of the US in their very own home. For certain they would not need 2000$ a month...

[@ChrisMFlorida]

@mondblume63 I'd guess the siblings probably aren't in a financial position to help.

[@shachede6828]

@@EyeAmCoa they are 80 year old, should they die?

[@EyeAmCoa]

shalom modupe are you unbalanced? y are u replying to me NOT MY POST! Should who die? I was referring to all the siblings pitching in....just wow!!

[@charlesdabadi4766]

It’s better for your parents to stay in their home country where your bother can take care of them. You can send money every month to supporters them $200 .

[@Sc0rpic0m]

Indeed. Sorry to say but they have no entitlement whatsoever to live in a high cost country. Move back where the cost of living is low or get a job yourself in the US.

[@kimmywimmy7305]

Excellent advice, Dave. I appreciate your heart on caring for her elderly parents.

[@EyeAmCoa]

‘SPLITZIES’ for SURE!!

[@frankish5314]

What the heck was this guy thinking before he married her? This is out of control.. The Brother is still living in a house she is paying for?.. NO WAY!

[@jillygirl2024]

I imagine the husband was not fully aware of the situation before the marriage took place

[@cactaceous]

Frank Hinde The house in Belize, where the brother lives, is paid for. The house in the US that the parents live in, and where she was living, is the one she pays for.

[@farmerned6]

Hubby went in TAKING ON 100K of Student Debt - AND She expects him to help pay parents? she's taking food out of the mouths of their future children - That's THEIR Family

[@leprechaun8067]

Apart from paying equal rent and bills, me and my husband are two separate individuals financially. I did not realise before I came across this show that you could marry someone and then boom they have to pay your debts. Its a totally new concept to me.

[@hannahbahtyaqov9319]

She’s afraid of her user siblings so she marries and uses him. Hurt people hurt people.

[@FabulousCucumber-ip9hu]

"I'm so poor.... With my two properties, one of which is being paid for by my daughter."

[@Syrpens]

They will be divorced very soon if the man is smart. She will sap him for every penny he has

[@xero925]

As soons as I saw her debt, I would have ran. Dudes need to start thinking to their big heads not their little heads.

[@TheOhioCountryboy]

A lot of foreign women think that an American man is a lottery ticket. Why don't any of the siblings move in with the parents? Or why don't they sell the house the parents are living in, and let the parents live with siblings?

[@savannahliz]

Sounds like a she has a Filipino family.

[@abemartinez9623]

@Luz Renteria yup. Seen in it in my family to some extent

[@angelineoh6116]

she said her family is from Central America

[@kzamora2548]

That's how my wife's parents are. They literally said that their kids are investments. It's sad that they think like that.

[@Majestic_Dark_Horse]

Ay bendito!! Female Psychology: Money: "What's mine is mine, what's yours is mine!" Student loans: What's mine is yours, what's yours is...Hun, that's yours! ~Bachelor...I Stand Alone...I got my " Table", Ms. I hope you "own" one as well...bendiciones!

[@chuck5555]

That’s EXACTLY what I thought 🇵🇭

[@joeblow9931]

exactly why I would NEVER get married again!

[@MrJas1455]

Right there with you!

[@bikerty67]

How did they get a loan for the house? And if no s.s then how were the parents paying half the payment when she was living there?

[@V.E.R.O.]

That's a good question, maybe they could rent a room to someone else to cover the gap she left.

[@bernadinetinker3028]

She needs to "step-up" and address the issue of parental support with siblings and new address for parents.

[@leonardgrant6876]

Why do I have a feeling that Dave did not convince her?

[@canadude2010]

I get the same feeling...the type that only hears what she wants to hear....

[@leonardbreau8928]

Each of the siblings will say they haven't got a dime to help out & she will remain in the same situation.

[@KH9th]

One of two things need to happen. Ship the parents back or hubby becomes ex-hubby.

[@WinnieClark1]

A true case of how love is blind...until you wake up after the ceremony.

[@dc1674]

I live in Central America and NOBODY has a financial or retirement plan. A few folks have a business or a rental property or two but that is it. Im the only person I know who watches finances and invests regularly.

[@Frissdas1207]

Just because she says he knew doesn't make it true. Women and men alike can be incredibly deceitful.

[@Asmodeius]

because of such women, i put in my tinder profile a requirement for a girl to come from orphanage house with no siblings at all and be naturally mute.

[@joeairbender267]

I'm 26 and I'm the only one that help my parent, its such depressing sometime.

[@yes_man_lol]

I hope you speak to your siblings, and you can get some help. Take care!

[@im-gi2pg]

The brother is caretaking the property. That has value.

[@MsDEV89]

This is a really common immigrant issue. Especially in a family where only one or two siblings have “made it.” And I’m using the term very loosely. I suspect she feels guilt around being a bit more “well off” than the rest of her family and kinda overcompensates. Again, loose use of the term well off. lol

[@lovethemflowers]

She should compare her debt to her siblings' debt.

[@MsDEV89]

@@aightwellsee3347 I point it out because I've lived it (living?) it! It really is a delicate balance. Luckily my spouse and I are very similar heritage and backgrounds. We talk pretty often about how our financial life will be influenced by assisting family.

[@germination4234]

She has over 100k in debt and she doesn’t even make at least 80 herself. I was feeling bad for the husband, but that’s what happens when you don’t do the math.

[@NadyaPena-01]

Yeah I was thinking the same. She could be making $30k for all we know. Wouldn’t be the first time that happens.

[@jimh4167]

In this instance Dave is wrong Husband don't combine finances.... They just want your money train

[@user-mv9tt4st9k]

This is pre-nup territory. I would get a lawyer and separate out the finances because it did not sound at all like she was willing to give up paying her parents' mortgage. I found it interesting that the parents owned property in the US but apparently never worked in the US? If they are citizens they would be entitled to social security. They have a mortgage on a home at eighty? No social security? Something is off.

[@foxvulpes8245]

6:16 ... ignores everything and goes back to combining finances. The second I found out she had over 100k in debt, I would have gotten rid of her. Or I would have a prenup saying that was her problem.

[@a1cwillette]

Spouses aren't legally responsible for their partners student loans, so you don't need a pre-nup.

[@aacuna4420]

Same thing happened with my family. Parents lived here 30 years. Didn’t save a dime. Good thing $300k home was paid for. We didn’t want them to be a burden to my brother and I with young families. Idea, sell and go back home where the money multiplies because of the exchange rate and prices. They both go SS from working here. Where able to buy 3 properties there, A few taxis and live above average now.

[@brution2000]

It makes sense for the parents to go back and live where they have a paid off house, and the cost of living is cheaper. She could send them 1/4th of the money is paying them now and they would probably live their years out very well.

[@voiceofreason4u147]

Im NOT getting married to HAVE DRAMA

[@Eaglejake]

"We were never taught how to save"......What does that mean? You don't know how to spend less than you earn??????????? FFS!!!!

[@monikabennett]

I actually laughed at this. "So, Dave, I never learned to care about managing money. Can I just continue not caring and have my mule of a husband pay for my parents?"

[@bkay1535]

He needs to keep money separate! She owes way too much college debt! She gives away way too much to parents! She will go bankrupt and take him with her!

[@The6FigureAffiliate]

If I was him - I would exit stage left NOW

[@2inchfromtheground]

In their 80s and still paying on a mortgage? That is stupid

[@brysoncherry9884]

Well part of the American "dream" is to "own" a house immediately.

[@canadude2010]

@@brysoncherry9884 more like criminal ….how can this be even allowed

[@mattorama]

"We're talking about combining our finances." No, she's talking about him taking on her debt. This sucker should have done more recon before marrying.

[@Trevor7727]

So she went on the hunt to find a PROVIDER.......wow what a surprise.....

[@mikethemechanic7395]

Married to Asian. The days of counting on your kids to take care of you are almost non existent. Most of the kids move far away. Only one will help if that. When I married my Asian wife. I told her. I will never move in with them. If they need help. I will. But not thousands. I was lucky. The Asian parents saved up for retirement. They don’t need help. Same as my parents. You should not get married till your bills are paid off. My wife refused to marry me till I fixed my credit and she paid off her college loans. We purchased a house after all of these things.

[@suckafatone]

New husband is not a smart man marrying her before dealing with this

[@iviaverick52]

A husband's responsibility is to his wife and children. He is not on the hook for taking care of your extended family.

[@ulical]

Truer words have never been spoken. Unfortunately, in a lot of foreign cultures (and even in the US amongst certain minorities), it's an unspoken rule that whomever makes the most money has the responsibility of providing for those that aren't as "fortunate."

[@ryanlowe509]

💯💯💯💯

[@hannahl1387]

I disagree. Families should take care of each other where there is real need, but the responsibility should be shared fairly. Life is unpredictable. What if he and his wife were killed in a freak accident? Would it not be their hope and prayer that the grandparents and siblings would care for their children/future children properly and not leave them to welfare/state?

[@littleripper312]

@@ulical The thing is we're in America so we follow American culture. If I go to the Philippines then we can follow their culture.

[@MurangShaBu_MahalNaBiGas]

@@littleripper312 and that's the reason Filipino family crumble because they are depending too much in one person as a bread winner, and by the time the bread winner is sick and needs help, all they can offer is moral support and prayers which result to all of them go broke and hungry, sad reality. To have food, house, water and medical help you need money.

[@traveler320ak7]

A brother staying on family property while this woman pays for everything is insane.

[@giannabaptist5347]

very insane😂

[@theyhateme8763]

common overseas

[@tashinaking3198]

Exactly!

[@tedphillips3119]

Husband is the one that should be calling Dave Ramsey.

[@yvonnecopithorne192]

Husband knows only half the story !

[@av8tor261]

Dave would tell him to bail.

[@commandershepard9601]

@@christopherbeddoe406 Dave is a huge simp. He'd tell the guy to man up while he handles women with kids gloves most of the time. Its gross.

[@katiejon17]

...or a divorce attorney.

[@gooserich3970]

Exactly

[@mwafrika4]

7 siblings and they can't take care of their parents?! Hubby needs to flee.

[@thechloromancer3310]

mwafrika4 seven losers.

[@AEpsalm]

I’m married and my husband and I often help MY mom and HIS mom when we can . But getting my siblings and his siblings on board is difficult

[@ecclairmayo4153]

@@AEpsalm - they are selfish. Bet they would help out of you guys stopped doing everything

[@priscilapuente8327]

Parents need to go back to their country

[@user-cv3gd2wr5q]

It’s less than $300 per sibling a month. She has way too many excuses.

[@Ruthbaby175]

The family thought her getting an American husband was their winning lottery ticket.

[@katiejon17]

Her too. Dave asked her if her husband knew, before they married, that she’d keep paying for her parents... that girl stuttered before answering. He didn’t know. She saw her husband as a cash-cow, just like her parents see her as a cash-cow. What’s worse is that US tax payers are absolutely paying for her parents too. 1) caller said none of her sibling help, 2) parents are in their 80’s and don’t work, 3) they have assets in Central America that their other kids are living in, but they have “nothing” here, 4) she pays for half their mortgage... where are they getting all the rest of their money? Welfare, that’s where.

[@Maelu-op9gf]

Ouch.. I think u are right

[@audigex]

So she's subsidizing her parents, while the sibling lives in the parents house and pays nothing? Yeah, that's kinda BS

[@NG-di5lc]

Well, she has got to get her loans pay off somehow while paying off a home that the husband doesn't have a stake in. It's crazy for her not to combined the finances because when they divorced later, he'll be settled with the whole debt from the settlement, and she'll also get the home they live in. It's a win win for her, her parents, and the 7 siblings.

[@DC-ml6cv]

Lol that exact reason guy above me stated is why marriage rates are falling through the roof lol

[@heinzkitzvelvet]

@@NG-di5lc You NEVER EVER combine finances.

[@SarahR2D2]

@@heinzkitzvelvet We did and our house is almost paid off. We are like minded when it comes to finances

[@blessed7927]

Omgosh i didnt even think about that too!!! The sibling living with them in the parents house. Its a mindset and they need to go back . She can’t do that to her husband

[@chocolatecuban]

They should have cleaned this up before getting married.

[@tiebear1]

she got married so he can clean this mess up

[@VanFelo]

She though he is the solution for her problems. It was simply a matter of locking him down without a premup if he has no debt and has a good stable income. He's her betabux.

[@VanFelo]

@ablackprep Her siblings are smart, that's why. Parents could live almost on nothing outside of the US in their very own home. For certain they would not need 2000$ a month...

[@RealLifeMoney]

Yeah this is a mess to talk about

[@chocolatecuban]

@ablackprep Yeah... that is what my statement is referring to.