MY PREGNANCY & BIRTH STORY : ELECTIVE C-SECTION | NATASHA BAILIE

This is my pregnancy and birth story. I decided quite early on in my pregnancy that I wanted a scheduled cesarean and after many months of research and talking at length with both my midwife and Doctor I gave birth to Max via elective C-Section in Singapore in 2013.
I never imagined that this would be the route I would take, but after my miscarriage I had really strong feelings about gaining as much control over the birthing process as possible. I know that having a c-section is down to the doctors so you actually have little control, but I wanted Max to arrive as quickly and as safely as possible. I would have nightmares about birthing complications, I would obsessively watch videos of natural labours and I chose to give birth via cesarean. I would do it again and I enjoyed the process. I had a smooth pregnancy and delivery. My recovery was textbook and I gave birth to a healthy baby boy in January.
I realise that some of you found me yesterday, some a year ago and some of you have been here since I started this KZbin journey, but none of you witnessed the first year - I could hardly communicate, let alone vlog.
I am starting a new series here, on my channel where I go 'back to the start' and share my stories from the first year of motherhood with you.
Max is now 3 years old and I worry that you might think I have everything figured out and to the outside - I might look like an 'established parent'. These first story videos are my way of sharing and documenting my own personal baby steps to where I am now.
My hope is that you guys will get to know me better, that you will have a better sense of my life, my background and I hope that you will see where I was and where I am now. My first story is a little sad, but it felt wrong to not begin here, after all this is where my journey began.
Love,
NB x
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[@khaisawa291]

I was approved for an elective C section yesterday, I'm SO happy! Its my first baby and due to a few health issues I knew from the moment I saw 2 lines on the pregnancy test that I wanted to get a C section

[@AriAri-rp9qt]

Hi! I was just wondering what health issues approved you for a c-section? I’m so nervous my OB will say no :(

[@lauralucero7846]

How was you c section

[@sharoncheeran761]

I am 37 weeks pregnant... I'm extremely sensitive to pain and struggle to keep myself calm during medical procedures.... Even during pv examinations...hence I told the doctor that I want to go for c-section cs I aintt sure that I'll be able co-operate during the entire Process of a normal delivery and its essential for the baby's well being that I do. Ppl including my in-laws keep criticising me .. but my doctor said that the choice is mine and she wouldn't risk mine and baby's emotional and physical well being. Ppl are so judgemental around me but I made a choice 😊

[@MirandaHolisticWellness]

Thank you for not making a traumatic video and so many complains that I seen in order videos!

[@jamiedorscht]

this is the first video i watched on ur channel. and i just have to say lady. you r HILARIOUS! !! really rnjoyed watching this

[@marlenalsmith]

You are absolutely hilarious at the way you have explained this. Very light-hearted but REAL! LOL Thanks for sharing!

[@cellaraee6174]

Thanks for sharing! Great video! Makes me feel better about my 2nd c-section next week.

[@belladigitalworld]

I really wish I'd had a c section as I'm telling you it ain't the same running anymore and I wouldn't wish forceps on anyone . Thanks for sharing doll love you xx

[@NatashaBailie]

+Along Came Jay ha!

[@JKTOYS]

So amazing that you decided to share this with everyone xxx

[@NatashaBailie]

+GIBSONVLOGS Cheers, I feel like women need to feel less scared of the C word, because emergency C sections are nothing to be ashamed of and you definitely have not "failed", which is something I hear a lot.

[@Cookiesandmilk2014]

Oh my gosh, I am a new subscriber to your channel and I cannot stop watching back through your videos, you are cracking me up! Thanks for sharing this, I also had a planned section with my second baby. xx

[@NatashaBailie]

+Mimi's Mummy Life hello, welcome! Xxx

[@pamelahinds9593]

Thank you for being so honest. X

[@victoriaslittlesecrets1616]

After a traumatic 39 hour induction, when my BIG baby got stuck round the wrong way, I was thrilled when my doctor said I'd be heading for a c-section! Felt right for me, I was born in theatre, I'm a theatre nurse, I knew some of the staff & there was no way I'd ever have been able to have delivered naturally as we was in the crown position & back to back. Couldn't have been more relaxed & get what you mean about 2 martinis down! Of course all that really matters is that baby & mama are safe & healthy, it really doesn't matter how we arrive into the world. Can't wait for the next instalment!

[@NatashaBailie]

+victoriaslittlesecrets exactly right... It's one of those situations where the journey doesn't matter as much as the destination. X

[@mandy22f]

Thanks for sharing! So so good you decided to do it the way you wanted it to. When being pregnant as a woman you get so many opinions, and advice and "you should do this...and try that" it gets really overwhelming sometimes. xoxo

[@NatashaBailie]

+mandy22f Yes , it was actually quite freeing, just knowing...if that makes sense?!

[@rachelfoster7289]

I completely understand. I had a horrendous labour with my son which ended in an emergency c section. I had this bad feeling from the beginning and asked multiple times for a c section but was fobbed off. I will be having an elective c section if we have another baby.

[@JamJarGill]

I love your style lady and I feel you all the way. Currently 34 wks with non identical twin boys and am going for an elected section. Gut instinct felt it was the right choice for me from the moment I found out I was having twins. :)

[@catherinefranklin3103]

Nice to hear a positive c section story! I had an emergency c section at 32 weeks with my first and absolutely felt that I had failed at the first hurdle of parenthood! Gotta love the drugs though - I think I entertained many a midwife and my husband with my ramblings during my second labour!

[@NatashaBailie]

+Catherine Franklin oh my mouth ran away with itself in recovery... Pure nonsense. Hilarious!

[@Chloe_furlong]

Yay another elective Csection love hearing you chat :) you have such a calming voice 👈🏻 weirdo 😂 I had an elective Csection to as my son was breach and I didn't want him turned.

[@NatashaBailie]

+Chloefurlong Thank you lovely Chloe x

[@-MaryPoppins-]

I have had two surgeries on my hip labrums and then I broke my femoral heads (military related) and I needed to have that c section so that my hips did not separate further which would have made it easier for my legs to break yet again. It's technically a scheduled or elective c section. But let someone tell me my decision wasn't the best. A lot of people don't understand. You are an amazing mom for being able to explain your decision.

[@caz8833]

Max is just such a MEGA dude Natasha 😊 You have done AMAZING ! I had a c section with both my boys they are Achilles 6 and Joshie is 3 same age as Max. I totally hear you with having previous miscarriages and needing to feel the control over the safety of how your baby is born 😊 xxx

[@NatashaBailie]

+Carole Davies Awww thanks Carole!

[@yourtypicalinternetcommenter11]

OMG I love you, this video is hilarious, I laughed so hard! I had the same thing with fruit I was like I'm eating so healthy lots of fruit ( yeah it's actually also lots of sugar from fruit lol)

[@m.b2269]

You're birthing story has got to be one of the funniest ones I've seen. Just in the way you told it. I was laughing so hard. "I'd like to be two Martinis into this already." 😂 love it!

[@NatashaBailie]

+Michelle B seriously though!

[@miscellaneouscell]

I'm not even pregnant, and I would want an elective c-section. If that's not an option, then I'll never have kids.

[@minnumg]

Me too!

[@aarthivasu7310]

Did u have any back pain now? Or had it after first few weeks of delivery?

[@tolka80]

U are amazing mum! I end up having c section as my baby didn't turn to right position ... And we found about it at 38 weeks...! Despite midwife reassuring me that baby was in right position ... After 2 miscarriage I was so anxious and nervous ... Omg!!! Being a mum is so so hard! X

[@NatashaBailie]

+tolka80 agreed. Sorry for your losses x

[@thejoyrandolphshow]

Was it hard to get a planned c-section? Thanks so much for sharing this video

[@Eman1900O]

not in America, thanks to not having socialized medicine like they do in the UK. in the UK you can't elect to have a c-section

[@mrsmaisie1]

Thanks for sharing, elective c section is the way to go & would be for me again hopefully next time. Loved your comment about being two martinis in... it def made me lol! I keep being reminded by my hubby how I told the anaesthetist ' I can't feel anything below my tits'!! during my c section. Always love your vlogs

[@NatashaBailie]

+SkinnyLatteLover hahaha hilarious! You are my kind of gal x

[@TheNewEllie]

I had an emergency c section after going into labour naturally on my due date, labour went fine, got to 9cms (with only gas, but was dying for an epidural by the end) when my boys heart rate dropped and they took me in for emergency c section. Recovery was fine, was pretty much back to normal 2 weeks later. Now I'm trying to weigh up what I'll do for the next one (baby #1 is 8 months, want to start trying for #2 within the next year). I'm a control freak so the idea of an elective cesarean sounds ideal but there's so many other factors to consider! If you ended up having baby #2 would you do it again?

[@ltash131]

TheNewEllie Definitely. I am due in 2 weeks and planning for c section because I am having severe SPD and want to get control of my body.

[@lifewiththecorbitts9214]

Thanks for sharing, love hearing people birth stories! If you have another baby would you have a c-section again? I had an emergency c-section with my first and have a feeling that they may push for a c-section if I have any more. My first was 9lbs 6oz!!! and also had a massive head!!! Xx

[@NatashaBailie]

+Life with the Corbitts Corbitt Power to the big babies! I think I would have another C section, I understand the recovery now etc, but never say never I guess. I have friends who have gone on to have natural vaginal births after cesarean so I don't think because you chose one path, the other is closed off to you. xx

[@ArinnMackenzie]

I'm 35 weeks pregnant and my baby girl has been chilling in the same breeched position since day 1. I swear she hasn't moved around, floated to the other side, nothing. I'm going to the chiropractor in two days and I'm hoping they can turn her (though my doctor said chances are very slim in this case). If not, my hoped for natural birth has just turned into a c-section. I'm becoming more comfortable about this, hearing women's stories and the successes. But I really didn't want to be "two martinis in" lol It's just a preference, either way I just want my little one to come safely and healthily, thank you for sharing!

[@Posh369]

I had an emergency c-section with our oldest, I was induced, then he was in distress, I had pre eclampsia so after hours of painful contractions I practically snogged the doctor when he said a c-section was to be done! fast forward five years and due to a lack of movements we nearly lost our now two year old at 39 weeks. I Was whisked for an emergency c section after being monitored (he was really distressed to the point if I had gone to bed he wouldn't be here), My husband missed it as he was at work in London and it was the scariest night of my life. In hind site I always knew I wouldn't give birth naturally - I think you know and it's been something I have struggled with but I wish I had planned the second c section, as it would of been done at 38 weeks with my husband there and calm! But so thankful my baby was ok and that's the main thing xxxx

[@KrysAtTheCross]

Lol! Omgsh same. First few months ate my veggies and fruits and then bam..i just started eating all kinds of things

[@rachwhite6311]

Ahh I wish I had a csection both boys had terrible midwifes who wouldn't even give me i pain relief and I have big babies 9pd 120z this one ive found an amazing midwife and having an elective epidural as I had a seizure after my youngest wish in New Zealand we had the choice but we have to pay quite abit to get one

[@NatashaBailie]

+Rach White I'm so sorry. It's a dramatic experience as it is... It doesn't need to be complicated by people! You poor thing

[@hollysp877]

thanks for sharing, can you share abit about the recovery after the c section. just really want to here someone's honest experience rather than a generic hospital leaflet. X

[@NatashaBailie]

+Holly Speight I will, I will!

[@gg1555]

"What a dick!" 😂 I love it

[@robbie-leighlock8573]

I have a proplapsed uterus from my first birth and would likely have a c section if I had a second child, but I hate that the doctors put you off.

[@Me-lc9dk]

Super vid :) I will also have a c-section and every woman around me told me with horrific eyes OMG you will never be able to do anything after the c-section. that they were not able to do anything for a month or more - what's the real story around the c- section? ladies who had a c-section ? nooorrmmaaalllyyy....after one week after the c-section I will have 3 exams - graduation exams ( I am 33 just to clear the age ) :)))) and everyone around me is like ...noooooo you will not be able to do it. Thoughts? I am confident that everything will be OK and I will be able to do what I need to do no matter what :)

[@danyellebelbin654]

Me Recovery took me months. it's not the same for everyone.

[@-MaryPoppins-]

Me girl I was walking and making food, helping hubby clean up, gently mind you, I was watching tv and sleeping in between feeds, I even took my dogs out for a walk. That's all within the first two weeks. You need to let your body calm down. So when you feel like you want to leave the house DO IT. If you feel like you're up to walking about DO IT. If you don't feel well enough lay down and cuddle the baby. You've got a genuine excuse, you've had your guts rearranged ;)