My Sister is a fan of 9 idol groups. Please help my sister.[Hello Counselor Sub:ENG,THA/2018.8.27]

[@yizhuoluv2186]

"When fans fight, I don't know which side to be on," Multifandom mood.

[@meeps8456]

U dont. Thats how. Just. Dont. Join. Fights. Thr isnt any need to add on to those stupidity called fanwars

[@kimhongjoong5724]

Same

[@jeongyeonstolejiminsjams]

I felt that 😔✊🏾

[@mcddak4441]

Same they sometimes fight about BTS and Exo and Blackpink and Twice I just don't know which side to pick

[@T00-f2g]

Peach Nation honestly it’s best to not pick any. Fan wars are very toxic.

[@ron6786]

She lashes out on her family because she’s in the midst of dealing with her stress, she’s facing a battle by herself and she finds comfort in her idols. She pushes people away and scold them because the people who’ve made her feel better are very valuable to her, she feels that her idols are the one who understands what she’s going through. I hope this is resolved by now though

[@lilmochi8923]

ronnie sorry but this is actually me. I feel like k pop idols I listen to can actually understand. But I’m also getting help. I’m not saying she should though.

[@windowwasher1493]

Well like how would you know why she's like that, you're not her.

[@naraheera9687]

reminds me so much of myself

[@lilmochi8923]

nara heera same. I know I’ve already commented but this really does.

[@heyyselene]

In my opinion, I don't think stanning many groups is a concern for her. It's just a pity that she seems care for those idols more than her own future and family. She should know when to focus on her personal life and when to be a fangirl on those groups.

[@tagaloalesatele9346]

"She's a loner at school " please understand her issue So kpop groups calms her down I understand

[@Sara-ts7lh]

Me too

[@jeongyeonstolejiminsjams]

Same

[@brixnna.axb7bangtan.776]

same with me kpop a way on how it clams me down

[@kaleidostellation5131]

Me too

[@rynne2486]

Same.

[@kanthisudha5600]

EXO is literally my inspiration to study, I can never forget them insisting us to study and work hard. People need to make idols as a strength rather than a weakness. This could also be the greatest gift you give them.

[@justvibing2171]

👏

[@exoesque]

OMG really same here

[@chanyeolbaekhyun2195]

Same

[@sweatayonzon9449]

The girl suggested her mother to listen nosedive by chen and dynamic Duo which is a song about depression and struggles. She wants her mother to feel her struggle through that song. I feel so bad for her I hope she finds happiness

[@marimcfly1086]

:'(

[@andreanic]

Thank you so much for bringing this up! Most comments are taking this too lightheartedly. But i feel her. I really hope shes doing much better now

[@zishana_ash]

I am finding comment about it

[@MarinaArtDesign]

Imagine the opposite situation. I am a mother, depressed, and Kpop and variety show help me a lot. Like I forget all my problems when I watch NJTTW or 2D1N, Running man, Knowing brothers. But since I am a European adult, I am not supposed to like the "kids" stuff. My music is Shinee, Bigbang, Suju, Twice, Park Hyo Shin....

[@linoe3816]

"Don't buy our albums Eri-ah. Just buy padded jacket." -Baekhyun "Eri-ah,buy our albums just ones. One person,one albums. Got it? Ne~" -Sehun

[@lerulara]

Who's "Aeri-ah"?

[@aniss1269]

@@lerulara name of exol . Baekhyun call exol aeri-ah . Like cute name for exo fandom

[@arnettefontillas4766]

@@aniss1269 can you send me the link please

[@chocristalyng.5120]

@@arnettefontillas4766 you can watch it on vlive

[@dayest719]

@@chocristalyng.5120 which one?

[@olivijabucelyte270]

I legit cried when she said she’s always alone at school cause I relate to that so much. It hurts so bad when you’re all alone

[@aoinguin]

Ikr, being all alone at school around a lot of people is more tiring than doing sports.

[@rachelannejuridico3108]

Me too, always being bullied cause I'm a shy type. And the worse thing a person that I trust so much left me in the air while I am having mild depression 😢

[@rachelannejuridico3108]

@@aoinguin i really feel you too, I'm in college right now my classmates gather and talk about anything. I'm still silent especially when I'm alone always watching Kpop videos that makes me feel happy ☺

[@jongdaeaesthetic9001]

Same...from school to college I've always been alone.

[@jongdaeaesthetic9001]

And what mostly being alone hurted me was because everyone hated me cause I'm fat.... I'm not good looking enough..so I never had friends in my school to college life...now I have my Exo-l fandom...but still it's lonely for me

[@whatsurpointoflivingifudon3115]

EXO always teach exol to be humble. "If you're not good at studying, don't even think about liking me. Exo may seem like the most important thing in the world to you right now, but in a few years, you'll regret it. Focus more on your studies than us and meet us again proudly in the future. " -Kai "Don't buy many albums,just buy padding coat instead " -Baekhyun If u r a real-aeri,you'll know it. Baby!Just try to be balance your kpopper life and personal life. This is the solution that every mature-exol used.

[@mintseokie]

If you're a REALREAL ERI you will know that our fandom name is Eri, not Aeri

[@AnhAnh-yu7sk]

They are so great

[@miayeahyeah7156]

it's eri 에리 not aeri 애리

[@Artemis_diana]

@@mintseokie But, some place call eri "aeri"

[@mintseokie]

@@Artemis_diana uhm girl no. Eri is Eri.

[@qwertyidc4321]

this is literally depression though???? she doesnt eat, doesnt shower, is sad and stressed because of her situation in school... this is so much deeper and concerning than being a crazy fan wtf!!!!!

[@nataliet.9403]

Um...I think they already realized that which is why They say it's a concern because your right, it is much deeper than they thought.

[@strawberrylin4099]

So true

[@jeonstaetic5299]

her situation is actually my condition and situation i’m going through rn. i totally understands what her eldest sister explains and yeah all of them are true :”)

[@jeonstaetic5299]

yoongiismydrug same. i know how you feel.

[@nailakamana763]

👏 you got that right

[@ssstormaore]

Mother: “She doesn’t sleep. Sometimes she’ll be up until 2 or 3 in the morning watching them” Me: *I’m TOTALLY not doing the exact same thing right now*

[@GandisMawaranggis]

Lmao

[@maryjuneorbita5463]

Uhmmmm.......Hahaha😅.....Me Too😅....Hahah😅

[@criistal_frappex253]

XDDDD my mom will literally scold me if I do that and if I get grounded by that I'll be grounded for a month I CAN'T MISS A MONTH OF MY BOOT I FULL KPOP GROUPS TT

[@wiisteriaa]

Lol i can stay awake for 3 days without one😏

[@RosemaryTurner2002]

Fatu G 😂😂😂😂😂

[@kurapika9691]

I think it's a concern that she spends $200-300 a month on those groups .That's up to $3600/year. That's a lot of money for a 9th grader.

[@kavyaxxvii]

yeah, not that she likes many groups ...but that she's so invested in all of them... that's the real problem here

[@exolnctzen1384]

Honestly $200-300 is not much I have heard a kpop fan has spent because I have a friend who is an ARMY and she spent 1.3k on BTS stuff 😂

[@jiniusrae4987]

It depends heavily on the family situation. $3600/year on hobby only is a lot for many families, and the family on the show has like 4 children :-ss

[@andrianateja5802]

I agree with you. I mean I like more groups than her but spending money on them from $200-300 is a no though. I'm a junior in high school so I need to think about my future too. I think everyone does that.

[@LH-be4bk]

the issue wasn't how many groups she liked, it was that she was using idols as escapism from how bullied she was at school, and ended up becoming so obsessed that she wouldn't eat, shower or leave her room. I'm glad now her family knows how much she had been going through, hopefully she gets better.

[@Hanna-jp7iw]

I wish EXO were there so they could give her life advices. EXO always tells their fans to study, go to school and buy food and things for themselves rather than spending it on their albums or merchs.

[@baekhyunsjaebumsnipples4176]

The problem is how she treats her family, not how many groups she likes. I mean i aslo like many groups but im still treating my family good

[@Hibescus]

wow amazing, we really needed to know that you're such a good girl.

[@HI-hb5yf]

That’s a problem but the real route of the problem is how she gets treated at school. So she found comfort in the groups rather than talking to her family.

[@catalinaalba_]

suga's lemon juice WTF you don’t need to be rude •_•

[@JMBBrasil]

Baekhyun‘s,JaeBum‘s Nipples you didn’t get the connection between those two things. Watch it again!

[@chhhaosss]

juice lol

[@lcvverboi]

Am i stupid or did they miss the whole point of everything the girl just said? She’s not sad and gloomy BECAUSE of idol groups, she’s sad and gloomy because she’s in a bad place and idol groups help her out, she’s just gone too far. its definitely more of a concern about the family and her school life, and less about the idol groups honestly.

[@elicub7745]

Hopefully they realized it and they are going to help her after the show

[@leonorie4462]

You're correct

[@f4iryth964]

zαídα ѕн. Exactly

[@itssmimi]

zαídα ѕн. Well said.

[@shintayolavita5004]

How about the money she spent?? The fact that she got the money from her mom and usually lie to get the money is so frustating

[@user-fj1sm7xx4v]

" I think liking 9 groups is too much " **laughs in stanning 1029381919282 groups**

[@MinYoongi-cc7xt]

a SAMEEE LMFAOO

[@SAR-re1fx]

LOL, SAME. I don´t get how people only listen or stan one group, when there are sooo many cool groups with amazing music out there, I can´t help it. I listen to most of them, I love kpop, not only ONE kpop group.

[@winterbear1662]

same

[@skinnylegend9782]

@uwujihyo exactly

[@jazeelsaadhamid837]

*Laughs in nct*

[@samiksha111]

she should listen clearly what exo oppa say and must follow it. suho: it ia imp to be an successful adult; so we have to study D.O: stay calm and walk slowly so you do not miss any information. xiumin: keep your surrounding and yourself clean. chen: do not regret you own choices baekhyun: try to be a mood maker and to be on first place kai: do ultimate what you started. chanyeol: do not sit untill you get what you want. Try again and again sehun: take care of your health and look AND DO NOT TAKE THESE HYUNGS TOO MUCH SERIOUSLY BUT HEAR THEM lay: stay forward and ask if didn't understood. ot9 i miss you, sarangae

[@myeong-j7r]

Thanks EXOL you made me want to study

[@heiditu87]

if stanning 9 groups or more is a 'concern' then i think we should ALL be on this show ✨

[@jesselynabarro2215]

The true concern is being addicted to them to the point that she cant do her daily activities like eating, sleeping, study, and bathing.. Plus she get irritated easily and became rude to her family.. But, it doesnt mean that idols made her do that.. She is using the idols to relieve her stress from school and from bullying.. But the consequences are the one i mention earlier... I pity her and feel her loneliness.. Hopefully she could strive from her hardship and her family could help her too..

[@syedaimtisal5764]

You are right heidi

[@17caratmagic71]

That’s what I thought too I stan like 30+ groups

[@kairoskrausert5113]

14 groups✌👅😗🤪

[@lenlen9473]

I used to stan so many groups too but i feel fine though

[@_Min__Min_]

Is this mild depression? -doesn’t eat -lack of hygiene -doesn’t come out of room -using something as a coping mechanism (K-pop) -irritability EDIT: Also while reading the reply’s, I just want to say, please don’t diagnose yourself with depression with just a comment I made. If you think you have depression, and if you can, please ask for a professional. This comment I made was just a prediction of a bigger problem that she has than what they say as “died heart” fan. Please don’t diagnose yourself over a youtube comment I made, if you really think you have depression PLEASE get a real diagnose from a professional. I will be certain to ya’ll that I AM NOT A PROFESSIONAL ANY WAY SHAPE OF FORM.

[@widyaan650]

probably

[@yizhuoluv2186]

-want's to be alone Another sign. I have depression and I can relate to her a lot so. (Cept for the kicking, and cursing)

[@kkxebsong]

I also have depression so I can relate

[@insfiringpotaeto5222]

Why do I see myself in this

[@raoreok3032]

u just summarized my whole life rn

[@LH-be4bk]

Why is everyone in the comments saying how many groups they like? The issue was that she was so ostracised and bullied at school she developed an unhealthy obsession with idols. She lashed out at her family, wouldn’t leave her room, stopped going to school and spent massive amounts of money. They didn’t even ask her stop stop liking groups, just to try going to school and trust her family. Did any of you watch the video?

[@FOLIPE]

Liking the groups too much is a symptom of the larger issue, but it is unhealthy on itself.

[@suhosselfportraitwithlove4389]

true, i swear if i read " *i stan 163368 groups* " again. I'll shoot.

[@IlseBelievesInPink]

Ikr. These kids. 🙄

[@jimired]

Being a die hard fan is fine, stanning 9 groups is fine. But you need to balance your fangirling/fanboying life and your real life...Its okay to watch their videos, but there should be a limit. Spend time with your family and friends too before its too late. Its okay to buy albums, you can buy a whole album factory if its your own earned money but please be a little considerate if you are spending your parents money because they work so hard everyday to earn it and provide for your living. Please respect and be kind to your parents and elders, their hearts hurt watching you disobeying and being rude to them for petty reasons, and my heart hurts for those parents.

[@kaiyaxe955]

Totally agree with both of you!

[@clarissagani2650]

I agree with thisss

[@vandelisdewls]

Ayo team seojun🤣💕

[@jimired]

​@@vandelisdewls😅 🙌

[@GUUUTS.]

@@jimired team seojun!!❤❤

[@babycooky9698]

I dont understand those who proudly said "i StAn MoRe GrOuPs",y'all watch the full vid or not ? This girl suffer from depression and i can relate so much. By the way,just look at how happy she were while talking about idol group For you all lazy ass,here it is 16:38

[@criticalalfredo707]

she's just a lonely girl who wants to be someone that can share same interest. that's too much for her in that very young age unable to cope herself with social life even towards her family just because of her problems and interest

[@user-bd5vk2uz6g]

@@criticalalfredo707 wow you just describe my life ☻

[@criticalalfredo707]

@@user-bd5vk2uz6g so does everyone. there's so many live like that so don't give up, you and she's not the only one

[@user-bd5vk2uz6g]

@@criticalalfredo707 thank you that the sweetest thing I ever heard 👉👈❤

[@criticalalfredo707]

@@user-bd5vk2uz6g 😊

[@dqnuh]

When she said “When fans fight I don’t know which side to be on” I felt that I wish fan wars stop it’s so hectic

[@kairoskrausert5113]

Multifan problems, I'm a fan of 14 groups and everytime theres a fan war I'm just there like "👁👄👁 cant we all love eachother"

[@ruo-ye]

Right? Idols don't even fight yet the fans 🤦

[@amzdaking4623]

PERIODTTTTTT

[@sofiadahchour7935]

@@kairoskrausert5113 Hahahaha *cries in fan of 43 groups*

[@exoesque]

@@kairoskrausert5113 not only multifans, but as a single group fan it's still frustrating. I always wished why cant we stop comparing and peacefully enjoy the music

[@Tinipie]

Am i the only one thinking what would have happend if one of her fav group members were on the show??

[@val.quinny2432]

Tinipie same

[@qtlilah2105]

a big OOF

[@inThisBangtanShitForever1985]

Uhh I was thinking the same.. 😂 I really wanted to see this.... I hoped she is a stan of 2pm 🤣

[@MsNurtita]

@@inThisBangtanShitForever1985 theres mother in law send the concern that her in law is big fan of 2pm, and 2pm is the guest

[@inThisBangtanShitForever1985]

@@MsNurtita du you have al link to this concern?

[@shintayame1544]

I can understand her. EXO became my depression reliever when i have no one to hold on to. Idols can really help thier fans become more energetic and lively.

[@faiz7180]

The real concern is she does not know who is 2PM....

[@greennature4563]

Ikr

[@felizaguerrero1948]

Again and again and again ah i miss them

[@ljlee7581]

HAHAHAAH WERE THE SAME AGE BUT I KNOW 2PM A LOT HAAHAHA

[@Sohwanderful]

Chansung be like : Listen to my heartbeat, I can't feel it anymore 😂

[@shliaenn]

yeah i almost stan them but its too late:(

[@sonkahalx3]

the problem is not with the number of groups she stans, but the way she behaves with her family because of this hobby and the amount of money she spends from the family budget! i stan more than 9 groups yet i can still respect my fam and i earn my money if i want to spend it on something kpop related

[@mirxanauman1257]

Agreed

[@bunnybunny3889]

Sameee

[@shelly7099]

honestly my mom literally just glares at me and i leave lol so i buy it with my own money

[@GestaYuria]

So true.

[@kalijo3]

Agreed

[@Ari_Ki_]

i really like the older sister. she saw through right away that the problem wasn't with the groups but that she needed more support. Good older sister!!! overall i like that they didn't make the entire problem about her but encouraging more communication in the family all together!

[@alexisholbert1573]

Exactly!!!

[@nami1459]

Even as a Korean, I never understood Korean fanculture of wanting to date or marry the celebrity you like. they are there to make my days feel better and I am there for them to support them as good people how I can, but my life is mine and their life is theirs, and i don’t expect anything more than this. I wish Korea would stop normalizing such fanatical tendencies, because a singer does not equal your doll.

[@gunwookpookie00]

you are totally right

[@kaylinbaek739]

in America too omg have you seen the video of the American woman thinking she's married too taehyung.. honestly Korea is not only like that its just crazy delulu fans. In Korea tbh its not normalized as much as it is in America

[@roseannsencero6123]

yess ikr, i mean its okay to be a fan of them and admire them but being to obsessed and stalking and invading their lives is just a big no for me, and as a fan we should support them for what they do, and be happy for them.

[@sarah-jl8cr]

@@kaylinbaek739 i think the worst I have seen so far was a girl on tik tok pretending to be the 8th group member of BTS and telling stories as if there are real. I have only been rly involved with k pop since 2020. My favourite group where I actually stream, vote and stuff are GOT7 (Aside from that also EXO and Mamamoo. For the others I am more like a casual listener). One thing I love about GOT7 is how honest they are. Some of the funnest moments is when they flatly turn down any advances from fans. You can find them attractive and all and like their character. Me even daydream about it, but it shouldn't affect your reality.

[@kaylinbaek739]

@@sarah-jl8cr hahaha yeah ik who you're talking about. The worst i've seen was this american girl who full on thought she was married to taehyung and would make youtube videos about it and tiktok vids. another worst would have to be oly london

[@pufferfish3974]

*It's a way she copes with depression and anxiety. This isn't just a light subject regarding how many groups she stans, it's WHY she decided to close herself and become obsessed with these idols. I think what really convinced me was when she recommended Nosedive. If you guys know the lyrics, you'd know what I'm talking about. I hope she finds a way to interact with others and find happiness from other things.*

[@coraex6190]

BANGSTAXTEEN7 KPOP yes the reason I obsess over kpop is to help with my depression and if anyone knows people with depression and anxiety tend to get addicted to things a lot so make themselves feel better but it ultimatley doesnt solve your problem in the long run

[@asobimo5532]

whirlwind. d yup same here 👋. I get obsessed with things very easily. When I start to like something I would try to learn every thing about that to the point I get enormous amount of information in my brain. I just get really serious over the things I like.

[@ajbear9534]

the real issue i think is her passive attitude...introverted bcuz of being mistreated by classmates since young...her devotion for kpop groups is juz a way for her to get away from stress or negative thought...

[@musicaddict158]

AJ Bear95 yeah, shes relieving her loneliness, anger and stress by supporting (spending) to the groups. I hope she gains confidence.

[@sappy.3xe]

That’s true. I, myself, am very introverted and an overall very anxious person. Kpop helps distract me and alleviate the stress of my own life. I hope she doesn’t end up like me lmao.

[@fifi7367]

Hope she can improve her own live as well rather than keep escaping from the world. I am myself was obsessed and had no other thought than this world for almost 6 years. But now i open my eyes and start to look after people around me and myself. Maybe she could be like that when she gets older, but everyone is different. I still like kpop and keep getting support from them while facing my life.

[@ideknidcbro]

AJ Bear95 yeah that what I was thinking

[@asdsfjk]

That is what I love the most about kpop. People always think we are just obsessive fans that likes some group's looks, but there is more than that. They really can help you relieve stress or forget about negative things when you're passing a difficult moment...

[@junnie1297]

*her in the future* her BF: do you love me? her: of course! her BF: more then your idol groups? her: *know your limits*

[@harmharm2553]

Lol I love that meme

[@NeverClimbing]

It's like the perfect excuse for the bf to stan girl groups or purse gaming and sports that he enjoy but sustain due to consideration

[@el8931]

Taehyungie more like : *B*TCH WATCH YOUR MOUTH*

[@sugainmycupoftea355]

Taehyungie Yeah like...don't push you luck

[@sayunigeenadi2223]

Nope this is what happens BF: Will you be a better girlfriend her: Just for you BF: Will you stop screaming at me? her: Just for you BF: Will you always love me? her: Just for you More than your favorite idols? her: Who are you? get the reference?

[@AnhAnh-yu7sk]

EXO’s member always say “You’ll regret” when fan tell them about not studying just to watch them. They said “If i told you dont truant, wont you? But if you still being truant, you will regret a lot” D.O. said: “I wont let myself be blindfolded by familiar things to end with losing precious things” And many many things they have said, i hope that EXO-L will never forget that. Kpop’s fan need to balance between idols and your real life!

[@hownai-wl9lv]

I'm a huge fan of many groups that I can't even count and I don't use money on them because I'm too broke :')

[@thisisntallowed9560]

As long as you're not broke because you stan them

[@hownai-wl9lv]

Kaepora Gaebora yes as long as I'm not broke

[@sugalittlekumamon5195]

Same

[@shanialxyfish871]

Same here😂

[@olganikolaeva4016]

ahhhh the sad lifeu of a broke fan

[@esapark4266]

Exo's songs is more of about "Hope" so it really encourage me when I feel down! Thank you EXO.

[@exossionl2610]

Yes.. most of them are motivating

[@nana_rges]

I love exo too

[@m4r1isdead]

I LOVE EXO TOOO!!!! ❤️❤️❤️

[@llupin1250]

Same brah

[@marijamo9865]

Top motivating songs in my opinion: Bts-N.O Amber-borders Exo-growl Big bang-still alive Jonghyun-let me out

[@jay-x2o5m]

When I saw the part about how she was always being avoided by her classmates, I started tearing up as well because, although I don't know how it feels to be hated on by everyone, I could feel her pain. Nobody deserves to be ostracized by others, it's sad.

[@vivi-nv1mx]

This made me cry because I went through something similar while I was in elementary school too, it was very sad to be a victim of bullying, I had no friends at that time...

[@sarash8357]

Ayame Momo i hope you’re doing great in your life, both of you❤️❤️❤️

[@shaun9120]

same :((

[@vivi-nv1mx]

@@sarash8357 don't worry, i'm fine now 💗

[@jay-x2o5m]

@@vivi-nv1mx | "At that time." I hope you're doing much better now and are surrounded by friends who love you 💞

[@kusumnaik3895]

This is actually a serious topic how young generation obsessed for their idols. There is nothing wrong to be a fan but there is a limit in everything.

[@kaiyaxe955]

True

[@ruo-ye]

Agree!

[@min-wz4ed]

yess!! alot of comments dont understand how serious obssession can become :/

[@rabbitmask_]

Agree.

[@jikim3804]

True

[@Moonlight-dl1vc]

Obviously, there is nothing wrong with being a fan of multiple idol groups. That is not the issue. It's that she spends all of her time in her room, doesn't want to go to school, and mistreats her family. I can relate to her on some level, though. I'm very introverted and don't have many friends, so listening to music and watching videos of my favorite artists are an escape for me. It is also hard for me to focus on my schoolwork and take care of myself because of my anxiety and depression. I don't think it's right that she takes her anger and frustration out on her family, but I can understand why she does it. She becomes upset whenever someone tries to interfere with her interest of idol groups because they are the only source of her happiness. However, she should realize that her biases wouldn't want her to be living like this. I hope that she will receive more help and eventually become confident in herself.

[@piguu7226]

well-said

[@Ashley-vj8ox]

Natalie P I hope you are doing well.

[@쿠야-w4o]

Natalie P !! You said all of the things I wanted to say!

[@Lhamola]

Yes I don’t think the idols would want her to lock herself up and deteriorate herself but at the same time there are some idols that might be like I wish she Stans us and buy all of our albums. And those are selfish people. But I feel her so much You know girl you just have to have a limit on everything at the end of day sadly not just buying k cds but like other bad habits too. Idk why I am giving advices on internet while I still act like a worst daughter to my only single mom . I don’t study for example. Like those and yea

[@aikunhuang4418]

Just the fact that she recommended Nosedive to her mom, shows how hurt and sad she is inside. She clearly feels rejected and lonely. Nosedive is probably a song she can relate to and helps her get through the hardships she is facing. Her “problem” is much deeper than stanning 9 groups. She needs the help and support of her family

[@uniteight8657]

I super agree. Nosedive is included in my Comfort Playlist because I found comfort listening to it. When Chen hit that geunyang eorreo part... I always have goose bumps. This is where I realize this girl is not just your average fangirl. By her choice of song, it's definite that she needs extra care and comfort. I hope someone from these fandoms (that live in SK) will reach out to her.

[@aikunhuang4418]

Unit Eight If you don’t know the song “Lights Out” by EXO, it is worth listening. I love it so much haha. It’s comforting and the lyrics were written by Chen (one of the singers in Nosedive)

[@latherieth]

Thank you for writing about this song. It's beautiful, Chen writes really great lyrics.

[@uniteight8657]

@@latherieth you're welcome. Nosedive is a well written and well composed song.

[@uniteight8657]

@@aikunhuang4418 Thank you! I will listen to it. I also like to recommend a song for you, try OKDAL - Sugohaeseo eoneuldo (cheer up) or Coffee Boy's - That's nothing 😉

[@aaliyahsalvador225]

The older sister just... fucking gets it. She knows that they've been lacking as a family and that her sis needed love and respect. The girl's family has been ignoring her because she's been ignoring them too, but she just needed someone to reach out and make her feel loved. Especially at that age, kids needs to form social relationships and her situation has made it hard for her. Normally, her family should have encouraged her to go out and make some friends while supporting her and making her feel enough. But they didn't. She's depressed from the lack of good family relationship and lack of social life. She used the idols as her avenue to release her sadness and aggresiveness towards herself and family. When the older sister said that they should've been there for her, I feel so relieved because finally, some one in this show accepted her.

[@camilleaaa]

king stan which older sister? if its about the one who brought the family into the show, it was maybe to help put some sense into her younger sister. yes, she was clueless but thank god she did it. now the family can see what is the true reason she was the wasy she is. her younger sister's behaviour was unacceptable as well but i guess there were reasons. she may not have known the school problems but maybe some sense were knocked into her. her older sister who moved away? i guess its quite reasonable she didnt know but she shouldve opened her up. as an older sibling, she should care about all of them and like just not talk to her because she is an introvert. im the oldest in my family and i have weird ways of making sure my brother is alright in school. then again, hopefully the show allowed them to realise the seriousness in the matter. no need to hate on the sister so much but i understand where ur coming from. pls dun hate me. i just wanted to share😶

[@axelis108]

Camillea Norshahrin They we’re talking about the older sister that moved away. She actually tried to connect with her sister by offering to buy the EXO tickets. She was the only one that was making any progress in opening her up without nagging her or putting her down. But I do agree the short haired sister did good in bringing them there or else the girl would’ve gotten worse.

[@coffeejimin9220]

why are you describing me? Lol seriously, the only reason why I stan one group is because they're emotional support for me. They're the only ones that make me happy, actually make me smile. It's sad. I can't say, but they've helped me through so many situations, including life and death- yeah I'll stop here lmao.

[@winterismyfavseason]

I cried when the girl told her story, she's the same age as me and I am also ostracized at school and I study and do everything alone. My mum ignores me when I try to talk to her and my 3 siblings act like I don't exist. I stopped going to school from depression last year and my mum scolded me and took my phone and the internet down because her friends said I'm not a good student and should go to school. I stan BTS because their lyrics vlive, bangtanbombs and so on make my mood better. The only difference between the girl and me is that I don't have money to buy albums or any other stuff, and when I ask my mum for money my sister makes fun of me and my mum refuses.

[@aaliyahsalvador225]

Jungkook's illegirl hey, it's really hard having no one to talk to right? But consider this: if you stop going to school, what's gonna happen? Chances are, you're gonna end up stuck in your house. Maybe try to go to school again and make some friends? I know its really hard considering that other ppl in ur school already have cliques but maybe you can find someone to talk to. Also, your faves will want you to be better. Always remember that. I'm rooting for you! Fighting💞

[@joysongcayawon4048]

I was like her then but EXO helps me to stand by my own. They help me to conquered my anxieties. And I'm really hoping to see them in future and yes I was Grade 7 when I'm starting to know them and now I'm second year college taking education and yeah this is one of my dream to see them and thanks them for helping me...🥰😳

[@JS-qe9nb]

I watched their concerts..(CDs) They asked the fans to grow ( career wise, health wise)& not to get indulged too much into them I took it as my challenge and I bought the albums 2 days back (earning from part time Jobs) ❤️😊😊

[@joysongcayawon4048]

@@JS-qe9nb that's good 🥰keep it up, fighting!!!

[@keukeumulyati6922]

Really same with me

[@egujuga]

these comments confirms everything i know about stans

[@ayakaliddol_meow9254]

we don't replace oppa we collect them .

[@aishaisak7528]

sukanya biswas Thats the most iconic thing I’ve red

[@ayakaliddol_meow9254]

@@aishaisak7528 haha ikr. Just how can we not .it's number is more if u into kdramas too.

[@hilow9495]

I love this comment so much

[@aishaisak7528]

sukanya biswas How can you not be into kdramas? They all have the same plot, and yet you find yourself friday night in your room crying bcus of ridiculous reasons.

[@ayakaliddol_meow9254]

@@aishaisak7528 so true .

[@jeeeyy7098]

To me it seems like her eldest sister is the only one who understands her -.- She's not doing well socially and tries to make up for a lack of connections she has with 'real' people by obsessing over idols. Spending so much time on idols is drawing her further away from social life and family to the point where she's scared of being hurt by everyone and *she feels like she can't trust anyone but her idols.* It's a devil's cycle. And both she and the family should work hard to break it together!

[@ateezismyboba8158]

Yeah I can tell her sister really cares about her and it's a good thing she has such a good older sister who wants to help her. There are probably other people who don't have these kind of people around them with the same problem as the younger sister.

[@akinsayabe8850]

yas the girl and their family must have conversation to know the problem that they feel each other i hope her lil sister knows that its hard for her too n maybe they can be a fan together hehe

[@520mil]

Dang it I can relate too! To sum it all, this world needs more love!

[@HU3NINGS]

J Shark you say that as if idols aren’t real people

[@denisemorocho]

SHES FINE, im exactly like her when it comes to bts. i sleep about 5 hours every night, and scream when they have their comeback. you dont understand what being a real fan is. ITS SUPPORTING THEM NO MATTER WHAT

[@enhyna709]

i was about to cry when she said that the idols helped her get through the tough times in school. I can relate to her. Whenever i try to tell MY parents that kpop idols help me get through the tough stuff at school, they just scoff.

[@MarinaArtDesign]

My daughter was into Kpop, and I started to listen to them, and then I discovered Korean variety shows, and now they change my gloomy days of being unemployed. I hope your parents can see the benefits of being happy and finding something that makes you happy.

[@enhyna709]

@@MarinaArtDesign this made my day, thank you so much 💗

[@saishreemishrawworld]

I mean I can relate too, but she has to get a hold of herself 😭

[@v.s4874]

Yes or laugh

[@glaze-agma6126]

Wtfff

[@exosbutterfly8103]

I don't know about other groups , but if you are an EXO-l , you should study hard or work hard for what you want to do in your life , thats what EXO taught us , and they even don't tell us to buy their albums , because they know not everyone can buy every album of theirs so they tell us to buy something good to eat or some warm clothes to wear. And thats why I stan them. Most of the EXO-ls do the same , we chase our dreams and grow with our precious boys. Don't you agree EXO-ls ?

[@RG-er7kn]

That is exactly what they taught us. And also BTS have three songs about it, Spine breaker, Pied Piper and Go Go. The first one talk about hurting your parents for "good" things, the second one is about not waste time in them, and the third one is about spending all the money and don't save anything.

[@mayankjha7444]

And you are on KZbin writing a comment this long😂😂just kidding don't take seriously.

[@exosbutterfly8103]

@@mayankjha7444 well yeah buddy 😂😂

[@Awmsies]

@@RG-er7kn the comment is about exo tf

[@pinkdonut5065]

@@Awmsies the person said "i dont know about other groups", so RG dude just told us about it

[@miismyra5883]

If I'm being honest, I actually relate to this girl a lot. She is in a bad place and isn't taking care of herself because she is bullied and feels unloved. Idol groups are like her little escape. They make her smile and laugh, which is really important for someone going through something like this. I feel that the main concern in the video isnt the fact that she likes 9 groups, but that she needs help loving herself and people around her to support her. Just from the video, She seems like an amazing Person and I hope she gets the love and kindness she deserves 💜💜

[@lilmochi8923]

Seeing a comment like this, I really relate to her too. I’m quite a loner at school. Along with that, I have anxiety and depression. K Pop just makes me happy, just like her.

[@Cantstophyperstellar]

I could totally understand her. She's an introvert and she's always alone at school and after knowing Kpop idols, they became her way of coping up and helped her to not feel alone. She's always alone so when her parents restrict her, she would get mad and get furious because Kpop Idols help her and she would feel more close to them than anyone else

[@xaiael]

"when fans fight, i don't know who to side" -every multifandom

[@Maya-sy5cg]

Sameeeee when Once and BLINK'S fought i didn't know who to side with

[@RosemaryTurner2002]

RainbøwBunný Relatable. When EXO-ls and ARMYs fight...I’m stuck there being awkward because I like both groups

[@aqsapirzada7758]

'I'm always by myself when I'm at school' Big relate.

[@carolineangela6728]

the problem is not about stanning an idol group, the problem is she give up study so that she can learn about idol group, and she spent most of her mom money to buy album.

[@CharleneOcampo13]

No, she most probably gave up school because her social situation in school is terrible and she finds it stressful that her mom kept on nagging her to study when she was bad at it. It just so happens that she found idols as a way to escape her difficult school life so she focused on that instead. If she decided to do something like, say, painting, or travelling, she might still drop out of school to pursue that instead because her issues are the people at school and studying itself

[@Lhamola]

Charlene Ocampo omg this!!! I agree 💯% if she were to pick up another distraction/hobby, she will still give priority to that over school stuffs

[@Alicecantdraw]

TBH I see why they are worried, but I feel like they could easily come to an understanding. Like, she could earn her own money and spend it how she wants, but I feel she shouldn't skip school or mistreat her family. Even though the family could learn to accept her interests.

[@denk0ya488]

But she doesn't earn her money she gets it from her mom and sometimes she lies to get money

[@izdihartinina8354]

She's young and only get money from her parents. Her interest is okay. It just too much. Because her family can not understand. If her family can accept it. She could control what she should do and what she shouldnt do. Her family can help her out to determine.

[@hoahuynh7708]

She doesn’t make money so she is wrong if she did then ok whatever but still she not working to make money

[@MorinozukaTakashi123]

The original post is saying IF she did make her own money it wouldn’t be as much of s problem but since that’s not the case it is. I don’t know if some of you guys were confused or not.

[@agapezoraa]

Yeah. Like I'm multifandom too and I like a lot of groups. I have no merch at all😭 my family doesn't like kpop, but I'm just as happy to be able to listen to them. I don't have many friends either but I'm happy(or I think)tbh. Other than getting made fun of sometimes, I'm fine. I think it's a concern that she's mistreating her family and spending alot of money but I mean them idols be lookin FINE and they be TALENTED but like she's so addicted. Thanks for reading ❤

[@sleepy7878]

i stan more than 10 groups but im still sane

[@samiira24]

Sleepy Kun right lmao we exist

[@vrs1x_]

Same i stan a lot of groups but i dont spend even up to $50 for their items tbh

[@strwberryii]

same 😂

[@bethrosie6963]

Same

[@dragonbutler8325]

Same here lol

[@nikkit3967]

I saw D.O i read 9 idols I clicked at the speed of My LOVE FOR EXO

[@aditi3487]

Same 😂😂

[@tonny_bd_exol_blink_yeolma3150]

SAME HERE..

[@dyodoroexo4153]

Sameee so did he was ever mentioned tho?

[@ashalata1117]

😂same

[@ashalata1117]

@@dyodoroexo4153 9:20

[@RJ-pi4uf]

i can feel her, when everybody dont want to be her friend, she was stressed, she was lonely, thats why she make her idols as her friend and song/lyrics may related to her life sometimes and thats why she love them. but for me, the problem is she need to respect her family too, and her family need to understand her too, she can love the idols but need to balance her relationship with family...cause family will always be there when you need them, not the idols, the idols just entertain you, inspires you and make u happy :) and its sad to hear about her school life, but just remember that people succeed when others says negative things. LOVE MYSELF LOVE YOURSELF

[@mariacorazonbautista6470]

Very well said👏

[@stephei1082]

Marianne Bautista: *stated, not "said."

[@paigeothen1515]

As stated by our king Namjoon💜

[@strawberrylin4099]

True

[@miyahana79]

I can relate to her too, but I spent my time reading books, especially fantasy and adventure ones. It's a replacement for being lonely and with no friends. Kpop is unknown when I was a kid (late 90's to early 00's) so I can't be obsessed with them like her 😂

[@RoMayDrako]

I'm not worried at teh amount of groups she stans, or how she protects her merchandise. I am looking at the other signs here. Her voice, her body language, and what comes out of her sisters mouth. Pretty certain a plenty of people mentioned she introverted but has anyone noticed that her protecting her merchandise is probably just a form of control she CAN have. If she was happier in her real life I bet the kpop would go down real fast. In the words of my teacher: It's not that they have an addiction that is important, it's the why.

[@charklat]

Hmm yass

[@wangxianesya4155]

the difference is in south korea people usually stan 1 or 2 groups while international fans stans 10+ bc we don't stan the way KOREANS stan and not everyone in Korea can spend money on stuff like that to go to fansigns. you usually have to buy 50+ albums in order for you to get a chance in the event. if your stanning exo or popular groups you probably will buy +100 albums to attended it. i think this is why the issue came out and it's pretty serious. i myself have been into a korea and stay there like more than 3 months and based from my observation they rarely stan a lot of groups. as an example, fansites will only focus on 1 group only. the culture is very different at there, they will only stan less than two groups and mostly the fansites or hardcore fans will bought like a lot of albums to enter the fansign or to collect the photocards and guess what happen after that? they will just throw the album near the trash or put it in a box for people to take it for free without the photocards. they really wasting their money on something like that and what is worst i don't even know how can a highschool students got a lot of money to buy all of the albums and merchandise. i remember, during my stay in south korea for about 3 months, i gained like 30+ albums from different group just for free because of this.

[@tea5224]

ooneday You’re not fully right, but not wrong either. Half half. Some of our Korean’s stan or at least know ALL of the KIdols. But some of them don’t even know one. Or just BTS. Lmao

[@XxxMarzipan]

Thank u. Maybe i am an international fan and most international fans are multifandom, i could not comprehend stanning just 1 group. That's weird to me but the culture is different there i guess

[@saifamahmud4880]

I’m an international fan but I’ve been a fan of only BTS for three years! I like other groups too but I don’t Stan them!

[@XxxMarzipan]

@@soft99babe14 acknowledged 😊

[@flamingunicorn4498]

ooneday I have seem people dropping the old group they used to stan and stan new group. I think liking both groups at the same time aren't so popular in korea. I don't like this when a lot of people leave fandom and join another bcz of this. the old groups work hard and some people just leave them and say "oh, they are old. They aren't trendy or relevant anymore". They don't work so hard for people to treat them like that. p.s// it's fine if they stan new group. The new group ALSO deserve it if they worth it

[@lennthokchom2558]

I came here because I saw D.O but then😭❤️✊

[@ahleenah]

When she started talking about her school life I almost cried because I saw myself from a few years ago in her. I also attended a small school and got ostracized, which led me to get addicted to anime and manga, later kdramas and kpop. I was always scared of annoying people and developed social anxiety. Around 9th grade (in Germany you usually stay in the same school after elementary until you graduate) my self esteem hit the lowest point and I felt like i couldn’t take it anymore. I was so stressed that I kept fighting with my family and shutting myself into my room to watch things on my phone. It got so far that in 10th grade I did everything to get into an exchange program to the States (the accumulated costs for that, including plane ticket, were almost 10k €) so I could get away from my classmates, whom I’ve been with since elementary, some even kindergarten. Spending a year there and coming back I realized that all of that wasn’t entirely my classmates’ fault. They naturally singled me out and me being introverted didn’t give them a reason to take me back in. I practically got invisible for them (when you’re in a group you don’t look at people outside of it, it’s normal human behavior) and you get labeled as “a lone wolf that wants to be left alone”. Me getting more and more gloomy, the more they left me out made them avoid me even more etc. after I came back, even though I finally made friends, I didn’t know how to act around friends, what to do with friends. I’ve been alone for years and don’t know what to do with a second or third person around. I’m sure this girl will have similar problems. Although, thanks to the things I experienced I developed a “I don’t care bout anything” personality and often just do whatever I want. And thanks to the hobbies I got so invested in I later found people who also like or liked the same things. I hate the time I lived back then. But thanks to that I learned a lot about humans. Not being part of something gives you a lot of time to observe. Humans are simple, they like what they know, but as they get older there are more people who like more diverse things. You will sooner or later find your people, find your group that will support you and stay with you. But on the other side, as soon as you’re labeled as an outcast it’s close to impossible to get back in. I’m sorry for my rambling, I just wrote down my stream of consciousness that led me to something completely different than what I actually wanted to write when starting this comment XD What I’m saying is, I relate to that girl a lot but she has to make it through this in order to get stronger. She has great sisters and wonderful parents by her side, I’m sure she’ll eventually make it. I believe in her :) (I’m actually most scared about how her classmates reacted after seeing this on tv. They could either sympathize with her and maybe try to approach her or single her out even more, maybe even start bullying her for real because teenagers are bitches “why are you overdramatizing everything?? Because of you we got scolded by our teachers you bitch!!”)

[@EleanorHunter-jm9iz]

i completely agree with with what you said about how when you're left out you get time to observe, because thats what happened to me and i also noticed those things

[@ahleenah]

u wu you learn with which people you shouldn’t associate with, what kind of people mean trouble and lots of drama without ever personally being involved into all that “shit” haha (Between other things of course)

[@minah3004]

Wowww you are so articulate. Also, I can relate to both of you, same situation with being ostracized at a small school.

[@kimchifriedrice8869]

I can relate so bad!😭 i was like that (invisible) in my class when i was in 7th and 8th grade and iy sucks. Theres no one cheering for u, no one cares for u that kind of feeling, and it even made me cry in some days. Now im in 9th grade and im trying to socialize to people well. And i figured out i just have to smile and show confidence around anybody else. Sometimes i feel that old me again and im trying not to turn to that person back. I also got low self esteem thats why i get really nervous when the center of attention is me and i got some reporting to do tomorrow smh. I know i should be confident when im studying at a science high school and everybody expects that all students there are intelligent and confident, sadly im not one of them. Im on the stage that's "trying to fit in" so i hope i can help myself out and try to inprove my self esteem. You're not alone girl, just remember there's a lot of things that u have to be inspired and be happy always🤗🤗🤗💜

[@bibiwands]

Ahree Park omg I related to this post soooo much (and the girl) but everything you wrote, it’s was like watching a movie about my past in my head. Unfortunately, I’m still at the stage where I don’t know what to really do with friends once I have them (and I’m 23 now) Hopefully I’ll get to where you are as time goes by. But in the meantime I want to thank you for his post, because it really made me feel like in a way, my feelings (and possibly others’ feelings) were validated. P.s I hope she’ll be okay with her classmates too. Kids can be vicious but I hope she can survive.

[@newyorkshitty3026]

Solution: Stan NCT, they're one group and multiple groups at the same time + they keep adding so you won't get bored.

[@alinavu6431]

bro i feel you

[@emilialeppala3406]

"Dude he's flirting"

[@nurulhannan9571]

Be there or be square

[@junii_munii]

That’s true~~~🤣🤣

[@townsongs]

WHERES MY HAIR?!

[@splendidjihoon5464]

“There are many people that is worse than I am” maybe she’s talking abt sasaeng

[@_.kuhyei6075]

I stan 65+ groups...

[@_.kuhyei6075]

@Frou Dae i really like about 85 but like...

[@Kimfatima007]

Im just a fan of 4 like i listen to songs of others but not considered fan

[@_.kuhyei6075]

@Frou Dae 1. Bts 2got7 3.nct 4 ateez 5.the rose

[@annukimuni3389]

Exactly

[@gibinas8466]

I remember a fan commented in Sehun and Chanyeol's live. She said, "I am watching you while reviewing for my exams". The two immediately reacted and said, "You have to study first" and they even bluntly said, "Go offline. Now.". And even waited for that fan to disappear from the viewers. They spent some time waiting for her repeatedly saying, "Pls log out". ❣️

[@orange1311]

The fact she chose nosedive as the song she'd recommebd her mum...she was reaching out in a way. She must deal with a lot of hardship in other aspects in her life and staning those groups might be her source of happiness. It's not always a good thing to escape and find comfort in these things constantly but I can relate. Nosedive is such a comforting song for when you feel down and the lyrics are beautiful. I can imagine it being a song she finds comfort in and maybe she wanted to articulate her feelings better to her mum through that song.

[@Nini-tj7lh]

I'm an introvert, but after I know kpop especially EXO and became EXO-L, I can spend my time more usefull, as EXO's member said.

[@nimsuho6896]

Exo makes me more comfortable with myself. In the past, I didn't have the courage to go out on my own.But now I can go out of the house by myself comfortably, can go for a meal or just walk around busy places alone.

[@라이김-e4p]

I'm proud to be Exol😭🥺 I can even get rid of my depression just by watching their sincerity on reality or variety shows🥺

[@anggun9462]

They were so motivated

[@warriorwolfehh]

EXOL family

[@teddybear-sc9by]

yeah, me too .. then i want to be someone like Baekhyun who is easy to get along with..

[@Lelieo]

At first I was really put off by her aggressive behavior towards her family, but after finding out about her unhappy school life, I just felt so bad for her. Having no friends even in just one class is bad enough, but the fact that her whole school practically ostracized her would be pretty traumatizing and confidence-shattering. I would wanna be her friend she seems like she isn’t actually a bad person :(

[@maevealthea2621]

Me too

[@joannelai8544]

For that to happen it might be her own problem also

[@maylewis2421]

Mangies Yehet I agree with you. I’m not sure why she doesn’t have friends but it must be very painful and kids can be very mean. I think of how lonely she must be and I know myself even though I’m old enough to be her mom that loving an idol group can really help. Her being mean to her family stems from how much pain she is in. Of course spending time with her family and talking about her issues would help so much. She has just let herself be so withdrawn that I think she thinks it’s her against the world. I feel bad because it’s a hard cycle to break. I hope kids from her school see this and try to be friendly to her. (Although if it was a Kdrama they would just make fun of her lol). Anyways this program will help the family

[@bels214]

I would wanna be her friend, mainly because of this reason and because of the KPOP thing

[@zidanef.480]

Stanning a lot of group is not a problem, the problem is when you become like her. Forgetting family birthday date, being rude and angry for just a simple reason

[@Chloe-ur1th]

I read the title... Laughed... Then thought that it could (?) be a concern if she wanted to buy albums from all groups. But tbh I stan like 100 different groups so like... But I don’t buy many albums bc.. I’m broke af

[@elliasnow6142]

Chloe p same i really wanna buy one my mom said that i can but gosh having too pick one from a group that i stan is unacceptable😂

[@l.l.a1879]

Sameee

[@MyJongkey]

i think we ifans feel ok bcs we dont buy at all or buy at least one album per artist. but korean fans buys more than 10 maybe 30 or 40 albums per artist bcs the more they buy the higher chance they get to go to the fansigns. its not easy to get into fansigns. all those who got to meet idols in real life worked hard to earn that lol. the idol-fan game in korea is very strong. they spent their whole time following idols and spent money on goods so its pretty normal that they got so angry when idols date someone else other than them

[@hanakuddah2833]

sameeee lol, i stan sooooo many groups but never buy albums, bcs i'm broke af

[@songyoojung3230]

Same man.

[@lovelyday1670]

the idols are not the problem here, its obviously her mental health. I know that because I feel the exact same way... I watch bts videos all the time because my family situation is kinda toxic, so watching them takes my mind off the worries and makes me happy, same thing with the school: I skipped many days because I felt too depressed to go and the only thing that would make me feel better is bts so I stayed home watching them.. the parents think she's skipping school to watch them when she's skipping school AND watching them.. And the way she's possessive over her albums and posters is also understandable.. she payed lots of money for that and she probably knows that if they get damaged her parents won't let her buy a new version so.... TLDR; shes using these idols as a form of escape from her life and because of that she gets very emotional and stressed if her family tries to do something about it bc they would be taking away her "escape" in a way

[@urmakichan]

This is true, I was like this when I was a little kid, at school, no one wanted to be my friend, and I surrounded by negativity from my family, more so my “father”, I became aggressive at the age 10 when my family got a laptop, rediscovered a cartoon from childhood, and became obsessed with it, when I started middle school, I started to be obsessed with anime and vocaloid (not in a weeaboo way) since it’s was formed of an escape for me when my parents became more divided in their relationship, and that’s how I became depressed, I didn’t feel happy, I was torn and broken from my parents’ separation and a breakup with now ex in 2017(when I was still new into Kpop), I would hide in my corner of my room with room, only listening to all sad Kpop songs, including Sick by Got7, since it gave me peace from my toxic father, and I was happy I moved out 2 weeks after turned 18 with my mother, the only one I can trust, and that’s when I realized that my obsessions was making me aggressive and depressed, so I decided to loosen up, and just listen to my favorites groups’ albums fully once in while and enjoy life with friends I made through my phases, and also try to spend family with my mom and mom’s family now with my sisters when it’s their week at my mom’s (joint custody since they are still minors.) DONT become obsessed and just take care of yourself mentally. ❤️

[@argetra267]

Another army is here to support you :) Not only as an army,but as a human as well. For everyone out there,army or not,i hope music and the lyrics inside could save us from sadness. It's okay to be sad,but let's regain strength together,ajja ajja hwaiting!

[@harinenagaraj3188]

This is exactly me

[@muroo9188]

Just like me..

[@710000happy]

dullcetbaby ..hey but do u think listening to BTS will change the situation ur in.?no....people especially teens they get addicted to kpop and kdramas which acts like a drug to them.makes them lazy.lose interest in their hobbies and obviously makes their life meaningless by following these kpop artists like dogs

[@BananLord]

Kid: *is depressed* Parents: *takes their phone away* This is the worst move a parent can do. You don't just go in there, take their phone and expect them to open up to you and be happy.

[@yuzurulovebot]

THIS!!!!! like if they find comfort in the things that are on the Internet Then let them be,, Taking their most valuable possession will make them feel like they can’t find comfort anywhere and end up feeling alone, It’s like not like your kid is gonna open up to you once you take their phones, It makes your kid mad and upset just like you stated, Instead of taking their phones away try to help your child 🤦🏻‍♀️ aaaa I’m sorry if this was like a rant but people need to see from a different perspective and understand

[@yuzurulovebot]

Uwujin Bear awwwww 🥺 that’s nice to hear, not the parents part (I can relate to you to about that tho T_T) but I’m glad you have people to talk to about some stuff and know what you aren’t alone, they seem like really great people

[@BananLord]

@@mahmudshahriar6000 that's insane parents behavior. That's WAY too much

[@BananLord]

@@mahmudshahriar6000 that ain't strict lol She's very controlling and toxic

[@paragupadhyaya9216]

Exactly I wish the parents understand it

[@monethabdul427]

I wish they call exo so that she will be given some advice.

[@mariecie6337]

As someone who is introverted and through many hardships during school I can really relate with her. Stan Idol group cheer me up, I feel like I have friends and I can forget my problems.

[@KayYoung320]

Same, except its more so family hardships than school, but still. Music has always been my help. Even before I got into kpop, the amount of boybands I've followed(and still follow) is such a long list.

[@clair.delune2611]

Music always help us but not everyone understand what we feel

[@birgittaverlyna603]

Same here

[@aissssssssssha]

That is true, but it's not the concern. The problem is she spends hundreds of dollars a month and thousands a year for the idol groups AND she uses it as an excuse to mistreat her family. It wouldn't gave been a concern if she just liked 9 groups because sis, I do to. But it is that she spends too much money and mistreat her sisters

[@siera127]

just because you stan more groups than her, remember this, she buys every single merch from all those 9 groups!! all the albums and sht. Buying all the stuff from one group is already hard enough, but 9, that's too much. So we basically don't care how many groups you stan when you only focus on a few like me, while this girl focuses on all of them.

[@helloimnisha]

Yes. Ppl here bragging about how much groups they stan makes me wanna rip off my hair. Everyone is way beyond the point smh

[@kctdrama2cry743]

I do stan about 28 groups but just like you said I focus on a few to buy albums and merch and I buy it with my own money. so I do understand u

[@anikagh]

Hmm I stan like 18-29 groups and I have merch for most of them

[@ladya5410]

But if that person is like rich as hell there is nothing wrong about buying all merchandise of every single group. It's just like collecting toy cars, anime figures, etc.

[@kctdrama2cry743]

@@ladya5410 I strongly agree

[@karenkp]

People are mostly commenting about the way she is rude to people around her but why isn't anyone talking about why she acts like that. Being introvert is not easy especially at school and the only way she can really let her feelings/emotions out is by acting cold. I feel really bad for her since I have been through the same thing....

[@uniteight8657]

I hope you are doing alright now. Yes I agree, being an introvert myself, it is really hard to mingle with people, let alone make friends. That's why, we need to treasure what we already have (without effort) since birth --- OUR FAMILY.

[@karenkp]

Unit Eight I agree

[@thisisntallowed9560]

I agree with you I just want to say that being introverts doesn't mean you don't have friends. Not having friends is unhealthy. Introverts often just choose more their relashioship and it can be deeper

[@thisisntallowed9560]

I relate a lot to her story I have the same problem right now, but I'm not as addicted as her. The fact that she's addicted to boybands in particular might be because she's scared of relashionship in real life, or she seeks love she didn't have, or she has social anxiety or.......

[@joyce1343]

I agree I'm an introvert tool and unless I'm around my select few close friends I have i am pretty open but beung on a show like this I would definately act t like her

[@amayaerin]

This girl probably stans Stray Kids now, I think she would like skz's songs.

[@revasarah5028]

i stan 2pm don't worry chansung

[@r.e.3397]

Reva Sarah the editors did him dirty 😅😅

[@SussySwampert247]

I think the biggest concern here is that she doesn't know 2pm lolol

[@kamikazeshibarushi8548]

There didnt do any comeback so its understandble if the younger generation didnt know them

[@revasarah5028]

reereere le haha they do it for fun but seeing chansung expression make me sad

[@revasarah5028]

Tatertot 247365 haha lol maybe she don't like beasty idol

[@wooniepatootie]

I think the concern applies for every fan. It's our escape from our stressful lives. After all, it's the reason why you smiled after a whole day with a long face.

[@dillangchisangma3900]

Exactly. But cussing and disrespecting towards her family wasn't a good thing.

[@onomahson9784]

The thing is... when you get to be so anti- social you start to get more sad because you miss reality. I am like that, I just realised why everyone needs a good relationship between your mental, physical and social life. That’s why she gets so aggressive, I was like that. Please make sure to take care of yourself first!

[@RnRnR]

Idols are the source of my stress tbh 😂😂

[@husnachesamae6511]

Exo 😍💕

[@wooniepatootie]

@@dillangchisangma3900 I don't agree with her atittude as well.

[@amrithai.5705]

sHe'S a FaN oF nInE gRoUPs _me in the background:_ *coughs* amateur. I'm a fan of 50+

[@jeshellecerbito6697]

*die hard fan. Not a casual fan

[@ludovica271]

She's a die-hard fan indeed..

[@kyliedior914]

Amritha I. Yessss!!

[@WonHakWoon]

Here I come with only 12 groups

[@army-atiny-stantalents2765]

Tell me about it xD When they said she stanned nine groups l literally said "only nine?"

[@nuriffah8648]

I think the best thing to do is trying to interact with her about stuff that she likes. If she likes idol then try to interact with them about their idols. A lot of teens would love to talk about what they like to others.

[@aleeyaroslan2736]

“Sometimes she’ll be up until 2 or 3 am” Me: hiiii.... its 6 am now.. i feel great🙃😂

[@aureus4735]

true😂

[@faiipie]

Trueee😂

[@lamiah.2938]

Sameeee

[@maangelesmartinezmartinez262]

lol same

[@najibhassan4107]

@@lamiah.2938 ayo hitman bang

[@peachthetic6817]

liking many group is not a problem, but the way she treats her family is lik bit too much

[@chyyuwa]

shuahana__ __shua Watch it again fully you didnt knew her hardship i suggest you to watch it again

[@lys3521]

@@chyyuwa It's a cause but DON'T has the right to treat them like that.

[@user-gv7uz4wh2l]

@@lys3521 the cause shows an effect

[@ok-wj6lc]

@@user-gv7uz4wh2l It still doesn't make it right

[@kyliedior914]

shuahana__ __shua I agree!!

[@nesisgontier8841]

omg i cried when she started to cry, people are assholes in high shool and i cannot imagine how it es in korea, this is a cry for help from this girl and is clear that she feels like she need people's validation so she put all her efforts to idols cause that way maybe she can feel like she belongs to a coomunity?, cause i my selfe as a fan of various groups but an stan of BTS i've found great friends trough kpop and those friends have found a friend in me so maybe is that what she's looking for?, but sometimes that can be toxic when you found yourself befriending the wrong kind of crowd, cause even if i've found lot so friends trough kpop i've found lots of crazy stalker fans, i really hope she can overcome all her stress and depression and try to be mentally healthy and talk about this problems with her family or friends and try to express those feelings...

[@fadiahamwi6262]

Nesis Gontier true i am also a fan of alot of korean groups i feel i get good friends who understand me better through kpop

[@nesisgontier8841]

well i started to listen to kpop back in 2009 caus i stumbled upon heart breaker by GD and i fell in love, but never stanned a group how hard as i do for BTS, they debuted back whe i has just graduated high school and was about to start my career in university, and to this day i wish i've had their song while i was stuying, cause i studied in all girls private school trough all my life and those were hard times, people there were so stuck up and snobby and i hate it!, but i made good friends an they are my family to this day, i consider them my sisters cause we helped each other to stand up for ourselves and don't let that group of stuck up people tear us apart, but when i started my university life i had to change city so i had to make new friends and thanks, those were really depressing times to me cause i'm not so extroverted but thanks to bts i made both girl friends and boy friends!, bts music made us friends and made us connect...

[@thisperson6800]

I remember when I found out my friend liked BTS. I was in Science when she turned around and said "Aye, you like BTS?" It was a magical moment, the first ARMY I've ever met. She's suicidal and always tells me how she feels I'm the only one she can open up to, so I'm glad I get to be there for her. She also likes to tell me how funny she thinks V and Jin are.

[@nesisgontier8841]

yeah i have many friends from around the world that i've never eeven imagined to meet and they are precious to me, we support each other and we like to support other people!, i've always said that if you need someone to talk to even if you think is something stupid i'll be there, cause some times talking can help a lot to relieve stress and to have a breath of fresh air!.

[@kholidamsolikhah0373]

I also dont have friends since friends treats me like some shit,being in kpop is a blessing since you have click to talk bout your idol online with people

[@jongdaesmic915]

I guess all the kpop stans can agree how big of an issue is this. We all have struggles to deal with and hardships we've been through each day. These idols just happen to appear in our life to cheer us up in hard situation. Why we can relate? A fandom is a family, they cherish you and support you. After all we have this kind of bond where we never met each other but have a lot to talk about. We have a lot in common as we stan the same group. So, being a kpop stan can really relieve your stress out. To those who have been in this condition shoul know well. As for me, I'm growing up along with Exo as my ult, forever will be. She might love Exo as much as I am so I know how it feels. When we're so down and have no motivation, we watched their videos to keep our spirit up. They are like a charger for us. Once you get into their fandom, you'll never walk alone. That's why, being a die-hard fan became our choice. And as for stanning more than one group. You can't blame her tho. As an Exo-L, we barely get contents and when they've a comeback SM gave them minimum promotions so we dive into another groups for more contents. Not to mention that I'm also a blink, sone, once, nctzen, army and shawol. It's impossible to stan only one group. Lastly, for the girl. I truly can understand what you're going through. It's not a crime but if you really love those idols, study hard and be a successful person. You surely know how much Exo want their fans to prioritize our studies above all. Be a better version of you. Be a fan that the idols can be proud of. As an Exo-L, remember when Exo said "let's meet when we are both successful" prove how much they want you to be a great person. So that they can proudly tell everyone that you're their fan. Stay strong and study hard. "whenever it gets hard, remember the beautiful us" -Kim Jun Myeon

[@icy9428]

as an army who only stans bts and no ther group i do think it's possible to stan one group

[@jongdaesmic915]

@@icy9428 good for you tho😊, but as I'm mostly into Exo and we don't get their content as a group much, it's been hard that why I look into the other groups too. But in the end, Exo is still home❤❤❤

[@AnhAnh-yu7sk]

@@icy9428 For me, until now, 6 years, i cant stan any group but EXO, i know that one day it’s possible that i can stan the other groups but i know that EXO is home, we always comeback home by all means.

[@ipsitahansdah7428]

@@icy9428 Yeah... It's not a necessity to like only one group. It's ok if you don't, but there are many people who are multistans. N there is nothing wrong in liking more than one group. Stanning more than one group is not a problem here. But getting too much into it that we are unable to focus on our life is the concern here.

[@aariachaudhary6143]

@@jongdaesmic915 Yup..it's just like when you travel around the world but still there is no place like home...we may watch other groups content too but still no one can take Exo's place

[@JrepuSHINee]

omg she recommended 'nosedive' to her mother.. the lyrics.... she's lowkey reaching out... :') p.s i love that song

[@01strawberryfig]

it's my favorite song :,) im-

[@april00026000]

Being a fan is one thing, but being obsessive is another, and I hope you guys don't glorify this issue. She's spending way too much money, time and effort into this. It's obviously masking a deeper issue ... I hope her and her family's situation gets better

[@8M1Tpe]

bless your comment! I mean most of them think is ok to be disrespectful ...

[@casualflex4048]

Honestly that's normal for Korean fans, they're different from us international fans. They go to shows, fanmeeting, buy Merchandise and all that stuff

[@aishazoom2557]

@kpop- fangirl101 But the difference is in Korea people usually stan 1 or 2 groups while international fans stans 10+ bc we dont stan the way *KOREANS* stan and not everyone in Korea can spend money on stuff like that to go to fansigns you usually have to buy 20+ albums to get a chance in the event if your stanning exo or big groups you probably will buy 100 albums to attended it.

[@sepetconteng7494]

Well said buddy...and if u want to buy, use your own money...

[@april00026000]

NuhaAzmi Sepet exactly! Like i dont care what you do in your own time with your own money, but when it starts affecting your family and your loved ones then something needs to be done

[@biancaexhoe-l2800]

I'm a simple girl. I see D.O in the thumbnail, I click.

[@googie_jeon_6708]

I'm 😆😆

[@himeliuu]

Bianca EXhOe-L metoo

[@thatoneteenager3724]

gurl same

[@diandra_m01]

Same lmao

[@user-wp2fu4ck3o]

Same xd

[@Akhila-nm5my]

Chansung's face when she said she don't know him...poor maknae😅

[@gabrielazempulski1952]

that had to hurt

[@TheTruthpurr]

Poor Changsung!! Don’t worry, I know who you are!!! ♥️♥️😭

[@aishwaryaamarapurkar6347]

Even if I like other groups I wouldn't have said that I don't know him... Because I definitely know him being a international fan ... I'm damn sure that she also knows him... What a idiot girl 😑😑

[@syafianizam8743]

me : *stan 10 groups* also me : 0 album , 0 lightstick , 43 posters , 20+ polaroids .

[@hildasuryani3827]

Me too 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@00gnehnad]

Me: 0 album, 0 lightstick, 0 poster, 0 polaroid

[@elainsfernando7564]

@@00gnehnad same

[@ikaru5089]

Me: stan a lot of groups Also me: 0 album, 0 lightstick, 0 posters, 0 polaroids But I have one GOT7 shirt so I'm hapoy

[@라이김-e4p]

Note : They all are Unofficial😂

[@zs8468]

MEANWHILE EXO ALWAYS TELLS US TO STUDY HARD😂

[@kristybam2576]

Me: oh it's D.O 😱 *clicked* 😂😂

[@watashiadira1732]

same

[@googie_jeon_6708]

Me tooo😅

[@dynakarlyy]

Yeah me too

[@mayacabal6183]

Same here

[@quintinitaninamaeb.1516]

Same here

[@ren_xj2061]

THE TITLE SOUNDS LIKE THE MAJORITY OF INTERNATIONAL KPOP FANS HAHA

[@buttercup4827]

the minimum amount of groups international fans have are like 9. I was confused why they reacted to her having so many groups at first xD

[@ren_xj2061]

Jucyee True. I’d say I support like 20ish groups, so I feel like I have a bigger problem than her😭😂-though I only have 1 album because I’m broke :/

[@buttercup4827]

Becca K if international fans were there lmao no one would relate

[@ren_xj2061]

Jucyee Haha. I laughed so hard at their reaction to when he said she likes 9 groups. When they listed them I was like “yep, stan all them, plus...”😂

[@buttercup4827]

Becca K LOL SAME. i seen a tweet of kbs world i think or maybe another one. judging us international fans for stanning so many groups

[@applepi5386]

I feel her because she gets singled out the majority of the time mainly for being different and loving kpop is probably a way to cope.I know this because i myself do it as well.

[@mehreenali3602]

She doesn't love them she is obsessed with them

[@ilovesuga22]

Mehreen Ali How? Kpop is source of happiness, for me especially bts, they make songs for teens like her. Buying their merch and albums doesnt make her obsessed.

[@beommiewinter4029]

Yeah,I am also like her...(but no Albums and Lightsicks)

[@gazellete4925]

@@ilovesuga22 liking kpop doesnt make you obsessed, but for her specifically she is. $200-$300 a month? And watching a clip 10 times? Her obsession is so bad that she doesnt know her family's birthday. It's very unhealthy coping mechanism

[@sarasr18]

Looool awww Chansung. FWIW I'm a 2pm stan, I still remember all the fanchants.

[@nurhidayu4865]

yes...im 2pm fans too

[@_ch.naa__]

“I hope idol won’t get a refrigerator advertise.” BTS: Car advertise

[@shafiasyed6151]

I Laughed wayyyyyyyyyy tooooooo hardddddddddddddd (sorry i am using my laptop no emojis)

[@GS-ry1ky]

Bts said YOU THOUGHT

[@ΚλεοπάτραΜαρίαΜυτικιώτη]

I thought about bts car advertisement first too, 😂😂😂

[@_ch.naa__]

Shafia Syed I was about to buy Hyundai and this popped up😂

[@radyaaiko5495]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@kellyyang4302]

now bts have a Hyundai ad is she gonna buy a car

[@lunamoon7599]

Lol probably 😂

[@natasyatsurayya3209]

Exo had a lotte ad and is she gonna buy the whole lotte company

[@me_irah.1111]

When your bias has airways ad, will you fly without any bussiness you wanna do? ✈

[@reannegentz2601]

LMAO 😂😂😂😂😂 probably yes 😂

[@ashley_1898]

kelly yang hahaha

[@andreacastillo1273]

I haven't finished watching the whole thing but I can tell that there is a bigger problem than her just liking Kpop idols. Many people seek comfort in stanning Kpop idols because they feel a certain kind of security. This girl said she was ostracized and in her new school she doesn't have many friends, she uses Kpop as her coping mechanism. Maybe they should focus on getting her help and then taking care of her obsession.

[@shintayolavita5004]

Andrea Castillo then you should watching the whole thing before u leave the comment

[@okei3322]

Army and Inner Circle they’re right anyhow. she’s wrong in using all that money but she also needs help as far as her personal life is concerned.

[@smolkyungsoo]

When Chansung said they were popular 10 years ago, it hurt me for some reason 😂 because I literally grew up with them. 2PM was the last idol group before I stan EXO.

[@MintSodaPop]

14:45 honey, she's not eating not because she's "watching their videos" - she might have an eating disorder in addition to social anxiety, sometimes you just gotta be there for someone and not ask questions but just... make it clear to them that you're there for them no matter what

[@nadiasilva3615]

Thats very true but there is also so much her parents can do, not saying theyve done much but even the fact that her parents buy her idol merchandise and albums is a sign that they want her to be happy and have the things she wants but the daughter needs to come back to earth and realize the most important thing she needs is her family. She chooses to be alone and be is so disconnected from reality that she doesnt react. Trust me I know what she's feeling but no reason for her to act the way she does, it might take time but I hope she grows and can be close to her family. Sorry I wrote a lot but just my opinion

[@MintSodaPop]

nadia silva There’s nothing to be sorry for lol, I agree that there’s a lot of growth she needs to do on her own. However, loving someone doesn’t mean you’re doing what’s best for them, and wanting someone to be happy doesn’t mean they will be. I think she will definitely mature over time - she’s just a kid, after all - but they’re enabling her without addressing underlying issues, regardless of their intention.

[@LauraLin_]

i dont think so :>

[@shinnysunny7565]

thats what I went through i can relate :< people around sometimes don't get us and don't know how to make us better, they even make us worse instead :(

[@gidlexbts4524]

This made me tear up, I relate to her 100%. Back in December of 2017, I was feeling so sad and unmotivated, I felt so lonely and still do every single day. Specially at school, I have no one to talk to, hang out with, and most days I’m eating lunch by myself. I found a BTS video and instantly became obsessed with watching their videos, they made me happy and feel connected. I listen to their music to distract me from the struggles in my life. This girl is going through the same thing, it’s not her stanning a lot of groups that’s the problem, it’s the problems in her life she’s avoiding to face and fix, she insteads focuses on these groups to make her happy. If I knew her, I would gladly be her friends, it makes me sad to see someone who has the same problems like me be from another county and speak another language, because I can’t help her and be her friend :(

[@chickenbiscuits7476]

follybts me too. A few Nights ago I was so sad and listened to Love Myself; Answer and the lyrics in English were displayed on the screen and MAN I CRIED LIKE A LIL BABY

[@gidlexbts4524]

Lillian Zheng I listen to Young Forever, First Love, and Butterfly to cry to lol

[@AyAReI00]

follybts exactly the same scenario happen to me expect was for a Mamamoo song, those girsl Help me in the worse of my times, I feel so depress that i relive stress watching their inmortal song performances over And over again

[@Hana.K_Hana]

Same, I can get through 2017 because of BTS' 'help' :)

[@jonaviepulido3492]

@@carlli2689 how I wish we can virtual hug all ARMYs who are going through tough times

[@aiishataal]

the fact that she doesn't know her family's birthdays is quite sad, learning how to balance things in life is essential, i hope she gets better at it and resolves what she could be dealing with edit: i’m terrible with birthdates too, but the problem is that she prioritised her idols over her own family. whew chile anyway so

[@isusoveSandale]

I don't know my family's b-days too

[@gowonsgirlfriend4862]

@bts ARMY not something you should be proud of lol

[@manupatel9981]

@@gowonsgirlfriend4862 true

[@gowonsgirlfriend4862]

@Hina Khan ok?? do i care??

[@gowonsgirlfriend4862]

@Hina Khan honey no one asked you to reply to my comment :)

[@haechanace207]

Man: When a child is a die-hard fan of something, she can relieve stress through that Me: Thank you

[@myungsoothemungbean4290]

i think that its rlly totally fine if u wanna collect and stan kpop groups but the thing that her family members aren't rlly bringing up is that she is relying on them to escape reality. I think she can use her hobbies as encouragement and rewards but not as her life. I think she should step out of her comfort zone sometimes.

[@samanthanicolev.santiago8544]

underrated reply

[@ahleenah]

I completely agree with you, but as someone who has experienced something similar myself know, that it’s not _that_ easy. She’s at a point right now where she can’t get out of that “hole” by herself. At the one hand she herself has to realize that her life can’t continue the way it is right now (other people can tell her that as much as they want to, it has to come from herself). At the other hand she needs people who reach out for her and, again, she has to see and accept that help. Getting out of her comfort zone is one step, but she has to learn to be able to stay out there and find a way to “survive” without running away from her problems. If she doesn’t, she’ll run away from them all her life (because that’s what an obsession like that is, an escape). She’s lucky to have a supportive family by her side, I believe in her to overcome this with their help :) And who knows, maybe she’ll find likeminded people at her school thanks to this show.