"My Son's Suicide Note Will Change Your Life Today" | Jason Reid Speech | Goalcast

[@goalcast]

We urge you to contact a local suicide crisis hotline if you are having suicidal thoughts. Please know that there are people who have faced the same hardships that you are facing, and can help. It gets better.

[@terrysorange975]

I still do sometimes. I have attempted taking my own life once before and i am sorry for what you had to go through. Its not easy at all to express how you feel or to confine to some one. I really felt your stance and i can say i know how you or your son felt but i can say that i have bottled so much over the years and it lead me to sin and suicide. Thank you for this video

[@AmericanGal_69]

The fact that 3.2k ppl thumbed down this is astonishing. Wow.

[@shirleyorsak5656]

@@AmericanGal_69 Say's alot about the mindset of today's society lacking the morals ,compassion caring,and kindness for all people.

[@safinasliving]

@@terrysorange975 I am so sorry to you that you went through a lot. Try to focus on one little thing you did or happened to you in your life.And that thing will be be a lifesaver and mindchanger for you.Take goog care of yourself🌺🌺

[@terrysorange975]

@@safinasliving day by day i try to stay strong and have more empathy and compassion live more of a balanced life. Thank you for your comment

[@Phenomenal36]

No one takes suicide seriously until it’s too late

[@suhcheuy268]

That's just modern society these days. You dont see femenists talking about Male suicide rates

[@wwolf0948]

@@suhcheuy268 agreed

[@milindribeiro]

Very true

[@gobelgomen4143]

Fax

[@sewonjeon163]

@@suhcheuy268 i mean you do, you just don't see the most vocal ones talking about it. Sadly, its the vocal minority that attracts the most attention

[@mr_daz]

He couldn't save his son's life. But that kid definitely saved his.

[@iqbalnarotam6814]

Yeah !

[@ightmatehaveaniceday8158]

@i'm happy. wait what?? Calm down bro....are you suicidal? What happened?

[@nisheshthapa1]

@i'm happy. Are you here 😌

[@clipboard.]

@i'm happy. hey you okay?

[@Joab03291999]

i'm happy. Hey man, you alright? You know everyone here cares about you.

[@justjay926]

As a teenager I tried to commit suicide. I acted out, no one noticed my sunny behaviour change. Back then it wasn't discussed. I'm now heading towards 70. All I needed was someone to hear me & help. Thankyou for all you do. Condolences for your Son.

[@SkinCareLuver]

God bless you and the fact you made it to see 70. I am 39 and have suffered with severe depression off and on sincerity my teens but it's mostly been minor. Right mow I'm majorly depressed and it's sad because you don't have to be a teenager for your family not to listen and to feel as if no one cares which is due to the fact we always need family an friendship (I sadly don't have) but I'm wiser and older enough now to lay EVERYTHING down and tell my family what it is and is going to be.

[@deathrager2404]

the only thing/being/deity that can save you , is Jesus Christ.

[@animalloverswoof4995]

Bless you my dear, I wanted to when 16. I cried because I know it wasn’t me, it was the environment.

[@firuzaaliyeva1023]

I’m a teenager, and tried to commit suicide several times in several places. I’ve faced a lot of things, but I’ve never faced love of my parents. My parents never told me “I love you, I’m proud of you,”. They’ve never had a deep conversation with me that would’ve helped me to trust them. I’m not talking to them. Everyday I come home I go into my room directly. I lock myself in and don’t leave for hours, and when I leave it’s just for eating something. Every time they’re having a family time with my brother I don’t join them. Cause I don’t feel safe near them. I get anxious, I get stressed when I’m with them. I don’t feel ok or good with them. I don’t think this is the way a child should feel near their parents. I really tried to talk to them, but because I don’t feel safe and listened I just can’t. They’ve never let me to go alone somewhere and be with my friends alone. They never let me to go to parties or change something in my life if I want to. They never let me do anything that would help me feel better, cause they don’t like it (Color my hair, do rearrangement, buy new things for room and other stuff). Every time I hear other other people telling me that “ oh, I told everything that happened to my parents” or “I trust and love my parents so much they’re so good” I want to cry. Cause I know that I’m not able to say those words by heart, or just say them as a real thing. That what makes me feel sad. In my every birthday when I blow the candles I make a wish. And that wish is “ I wish my parents will understand me and be very good with me, I wish I’ll have a good relationship with them”. Writing it in tears.

[@justjay926]

@@firuzaaliyeva1023 firstly Big Hugs. I do understand how you feel. I urge you to call a helpline or speak to a counsellor. No child need go through this alone. 1 day you'll be old enough to leave, always bear that in mind. Maybe find an online support group? Your words moved me to tears as it closely resembles my own experiences. Never had we are proud of you, or we love you. A teacher took my acting out & gave me knowledge on Human Rights. To this day I remember the difference that made to my life. I started to write in a journal. It helped. Life will get better. You will feel better. Many blessings

[@elive1367]

The fact that Ryan’s final thought was to help others suffering like him is so beautiful

[@Abc-pb2di]

He was kind

[@ayosafespace]

Keep spreading love and awareness! You are beautiful as well ❤️

[@user-ob1oi7kn2w]

😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@ashd5760]

​@@user-ob1oi7kn2w😂😂😂

[@Ameer_Hamza8603]

​@@user-ob1oi7kn2wYou know what, you're a jackass

[@indigatorveritatis4046]

"People don't fake depression, they fake being okay. Remember that. Be kind" - Robin Williams

[@derangeddonald6779]

Must've been a cry for help no one picked up on

[@sherryarflin726]

Well said my friend, well said.

[@1Fatherlesschild]

You can’t fake depression because if you were to do that then you must be scarred deeply in some fundamental way so then you are depressed

[@knives5964]

@Unknown550 right? It can be faked, cry for help maybe but not necessarily depressed.

[@DhirC35]

Na nowadays teens fake depressed a whole lot more than before

[@MostlyRogue-]

The worst part is most of the people watching this video are the teens

[@hajarahalit8506]

Yeah😭😢true

[@cf8415]

For real

[@dabigblazek9639]

True

[@jcg7609]

You caught me

[@rahadianyamin8305]

it means that we have to be a better parent someday

[@ucwesley7743]

I was suicidal, I was so close to ending it all because I felt like a failure, I hadn’t failed before, not at that scale, I was 24. growing up I was given the best of everything a middle class child could get, I didn’t spend a lot of time with my dad because he was always busy with business, my dad was this perfect picture of what a man was to me. Lucky for me he was there when he’d found out what I was going through, my family helped too. I found purpose again, depression changed me, I think I’m a lot stronger mentally, I just turned 26 and still striving for success while enjoying the moment.

[@krypt6679]

Same here. It could be exact my story xD I'm 26 too and my problem was/is to make it as good as my dad because he's like the perfekt, mentally strong dad u know. And you have to be as good as him because otherwise u think you've failed. Keep it on brother greetings from Germany you are not alone

[@marcinkarczmarz8281]

I am glad for you. I wish I could say the same. I am 26 and I am failing like I've never had in my life. I have everything a middle child could ask for. I am in therapy. My mother tries to talk to me regularly. My father is hardly presnet in my life. I feel like I have no purpose. I hardly care about taking care of basic jeeds like eating, brushing teeth, taking showers. I am either in a constant state if emotional suffeeing or numbing myself with youtube. I am suicidal on a daily basis. I told both of my parents that I amsuicidal daily. My mother tries but she can't stop herself from giving me pieces of advice... These are good pieces of advice, but I feel like she's asking something of me on top of me being on a constant stress and I can't bear listening to these. I told my father I have daily suicidal thoughts and he told me that We all have battles that we can't escape. Why? Why not? He said that while driving me to a train station and it's like the only time we spoke about it in 2 months. Not a single telephone from him. I don't want to blame them, I know they're trying, but on the same time I can't help feeling hurt and abandoned. I am sad. I am in therapy and I don't think there is hope for me. Maybe I am just meant to die and that all there is to it.

[@Barjemer]

preach man, i am trying too (27), some days are just hard mentally and I have no drive to do anything, but id never kill myself, i wanna experience as much as I can

[@jackjackle9796]

@@marcinkarczmarz8281I believe in you. ❤

[@the36sweaters]

​@@marcinkarczmarz8281I'm not gonna pretend like I can fully understand your feelings, but I just want to say that it's okay to not be okay. I have no idea how long you have struggled with these feelings or how long you will, but please keep trying to live. I have several friends who I love dearly that struggle with depression and I would be shattered if they took their lives. You don't need to be perfect. It is not your fault that you feel this way. You don't have to 'get or be better' somehow in order to deserve to be loved. Just do what you can, when you can. My friends have said that when they are at their worst moments, they feel like everyone would be better off if they were gone. That will never be true. You cannot sink so low that your life does not have value. Your life will always have value. I'm rooting for you. If you ever want someone to listen to you please contact me. I'm just a random dude on the internet but I will listen as best as I can.

[@SamuTheFrog]

This shouldn't be locked behind a sensitivity filter, which makes a lot of people click off. This is a message that needs to be shared loudly, without censorship. It's a sad day when viewer discretion is advised for positive messages. We can't just keep shielding everyone from every tiny little thing dude.

[@notAsexOffenderIswear]

I feel like more people click when the warning shows up

[@ReedoAce]

💯

[@dottiec7943]

Yes I can't even hold the video still. I went to history on my account here. To try visiting the comments I'm very helpful.

[@Nogardtist]

Its youtube Automate common sense Making Defects is a part of the process

[@quirkyblackenby]

It’s there for people who could be triggered by the content which is extremely important

[@alexanderball2048]

No one searched this, but we’re all glad we watched it

[@cronner707]

Unfortunately, I did

[@mariusbecker303]

Yes!

[@bryanlaw2165]

Im in tears, alone and confussed. What i take from this; we all have a story and your story needs to be shared. My story IS NOT finishing now... Mr Seattle someone, your not alone mate. I hope you are well and not just fine??? Its your story mate. Own it..and share it. Bryan

[@gehdbdnsidhdhd765]

Alexander Ball I searched for this.

[@NoNippleNarc]

The Seattle Someone same

[@darrelldeleon1617]

" Dead people receive more flowers than the living ones because regret is stronger than gratitude " Anne Frank.

[@mayankrathore8721]

can't believe a teenage girl wrote something that deep. Marvellous

[@hadilol]

Such a deep and true quote

[@basicbeing7086]

sounds like something out of an old wise man who already knows the world

[@hadilol]

@@basicbeing7086 it was a teenage girl

[@mayankrathore8721]

@@basicbeing7086 yeah, but I guess it's her, the Germany situation taught her such stuff that we may never understand.

[@abominablebumble7180]

My brother committed suicide on July 27,1986. It’s still fresh in my mind. I was 8 months pregnant with my daughter. He did it in a field that was directly across the street from my house. I was so pregnant I was afraid to show any emotion for fear of having that baby right there.

[@jigggro]

I’m sorry. Hope life turned out ok for you.

[@jennysandoval5163]

Sorry for your loss, and thank you for sharing! Sending love your way ❤️

[@ayosafespace]

Sending love to you❤️

[@yoiyoikokon]

As a suicidal kid I know how it feels like being helpless. When I say I’m fine when I’m not really fine but I can’t tell my parents how I actually feel because they would never understand me. And only blind can’t see that things are not fine with me. But we all pretend that everything is fine. Talk to your kids. But never attack them for their feelings. Or they would never tell you about their feelings.

[@dylangabriel2703]

Why u sucicidal?

[@mordie31]

Hey reincarnated Kurt you are wise beyond your years little bro

[@mordie31]

@@dylangabriel2703Most od the time there is no reason we can consciously point too. In hindsight it’s often drugs and a poor diet though.

[@pippacarron1861]

I can understand you not wanting to talk to your parents, but do you have any other older role model who you feel you could talk to? A sports coach or teacher, for example. Do you have a crisis hotline you can call, like in Australia we have Lifeline and Kids Lifeline.

[@AIComedy228]

Hope you are doing okay! God sees and love you.

[@haz7257]

suicide is such a big killer and its only spoken about until a life is lost.

[@dennisr0cket847]

not really, it is spoken and can be any time someone want's for no reason :v

[@not7001]

harry bradley life has the biggest kill count, yeah what about that?

[@Zionwilliams897]

No your mind is the killer

[@nataliemccabe3290]

Sooooo true! 😢

[@sirkolme2761]

It's spoken some times when it happens, but no change happens because the people don't try to change the future of it happening again. It's like the history saying, if you don't learn the leason you're doomed to repeat it.

[@mrpaulgrimm6129]

My father was verbally abusive. It’s a miracle I didn’t kill myself .I still hate myself at times . I’m now 67

[@ladecouverteoulignorance9891]

Stay strong, that's what you did and not everyone has that power

[@emilykubik115]

Mr Paul Grimm me too. i’m 17. how did you move on.

[@arthur.s]

Lionel Sanchez this is really disappointing to hear someone say.

[@dovahking6514]

You're probably married and have your own family now, I hear that heals things so why do u still think that way?

[@TheNinnyfee]

I am very sorry to hear that, I am fighting with this kind of perpetrator introject, too. But I learned this: you are never alone and the way someone abuses you, even if it's your roots, it is THEIR calling card, not yours. They aren't strong enough to deal with themselves and think they need to make someone small to release frustration. All that abuse is one huge lie and we all deserve better. Your father was broken before you came into the picture, and he didn't fix himself, and neither did the adults before or around him. We can only move forward and learn from that.

[@500mmomentind.p5]

Watching this in bed with tears flowing down all over my face. Having lost my 65 year old mother to biopsy in hospital. 24 days ago, feels like yesterday.

[@y4nnis]

You are not alone! Stay strong! May she rest in Peace! She is proud of you every day

[@nellisnellas]

Wow. That's horrible. Be strong but take your time to grieve her. Sending you lots of courage 🎈

[@user-gn4pk1qd2l]

​@@iytdominotikI'm wondering too 🤔

[@bunk95]

Hospitals are fictional.

[@Akshaya-gf9ke]

Be strong...time will test ur patience

[@Pyrrhic537]

It's not this dads fault. He thought he was doing the right thing. And now he is making a huge difference. Thanks.

[@jatnarivas8741]

I don't dare fault this man for his son's suicide. On the other hand, thinking that you are doing the right thing when you are making a mistake doesn't necessarily mean that the consequences are not your fault.

[@TheDerekCrosson]

As a parent you are responsible for your child. While you may not be doing the wrong thing intentionally you still have to live with the consequences of your decisions

[@DivPivShiftmaster]

Many commenting most viewers aren't parents. But most viewers who aren't parents today, will be good ones in the future

[@mellaw2184]

Lets hope

[@andreasvestergaard5982]

Fax

[@baltimorefan5642]

Good point

[@Rockymtnbloom]

Im a grandmother

[@tenacormier7708]

Hopefully better parents ❤

[@miri1116]

*Hey stranger,* *If today all you did was just hold yourself together, I'm proud of you.*

[@sylwia7060]

Nice one,thank You all the way from faraway Norway 🤗

[@kittycatdays8719]

I’m almost a year clean from self harm :)

[@darksunshine9313]

@@kittycatdays8719 Celebrations!! :)) Soo happy for you!

[@irentoth8107]

I started to cry now at this comment. I feel so very lonely, sick and alone. I have been pleading God to come and fortify me because all people left me behind. (Except maybe my mum and dad, but I am already 31... they can give me momentarily help but I cannot understand why no relation of mine works on the longer. I am putting mch effort. And I have been going a year to psychoterapy, paying each time a day's earnings and accepting the faults she pointed out in me, having been working hard on them.)

[@sylwia7060]

@@irentoth8107 I feel your pain girl😘-all the way from faraway Norway 🤗

[@StudyWithBritney]

I get bullied online everyday about the way i look and i had to take happy pills because of how it affected my mental health. Bullied since i was 6 years old until high school too. Its easy for people to tell me to ignore until they read what people write to me everyday

[@jantiner9058]

I get sick of people saying to just ignore bullies when they obviously never were bullied or they wouldn't say that EVER. Ignoring it is not fixing any problems!

[@darkoddities9475]

hey, im sorry to hear that people bully you and have been doing so since you were 6 years old. I was bullied from elementary school until i was 22 years old. I started taking happy pills when I was a sophomore in high school until I was 23 so just about 7-8 years. im now doing a lot better and in graduate school studying to be a therapist. you dont deserve to be bullied, no one does. people can be so ruthless especially online in the comments since they can hide behind a screen. i am wishing you the best! this might sound stupid but stay strong and be genuine to yourself! 🤍

[@KC-ql6dd]

Unplug your computer.

[@Tchild2]

Your profile picture shows that you are beautiful young lady. Hard to believe that you are not fighting the men away.

[@999vektor]

@@KC-ql6dd and phone

[@cathystone2618]

With my son I could see he wasn't fine. I asked him always if he was ok. He would show me a broad smile and would say, I'm good, mama. Sometimes we spoke and he told me how hard life was for him. We tried helping him with making life nicer,easier, happier for him. And sometimes it worked, other times it didn't. After lots of tests through psychiatrist and specialists my son was diagnosed with schizophrenia in 2014. In May 2016 he lost his battle to this horrendous illness. I knew my son wasn't okay and still I couldn't stop him from jumping that day 😔

[@baileygreen2324]

I lost a friend to suicide. Last time I had a chat with him I made him laugh. Edit: I’ve lost another one, didn’t really know him much but we had chats nearly everyday. Both died from bullying......

[@Rose-ko4op]

May he rest in peace🙏💜 I know he was happy to have you as a friend 🤧

[@ly6841]

Rest in peace

[@chickenbanana6439]

❤

[@dodo-ch9bx]

OOOF

[@wafflemangaming282]

@@dodo-ch9bx that is really rude you know.

[@charyssayong8643]

“I'm just a guy who lost his kid.”that hit me.

[@Aaron-gt6xn]

straight up. Said he wasn't a psychologist or an expert he was just a dude who lost his kid😭

[@unitedfilmsstudios2691]

It's so heartbreaking... suicide is such a horrific thing ;(

[@paulasimoes1820]

I am so sorry. Hope you find peace and strength to move on. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

[@aseaoasis8725]

💔😭

[@sobatnu7078]

I am a dad with two teenage sons.i am a strict dad but i love my sons so much n spend much time with them.but it is not easy dealing with them.there were tough arguments, cries and tears but thank God i can say that i am sure that my sons will not do any horrible things that worry can worry me because since their early ages i have been teaching them about what is right n what is wrong before God.if our children know the truths of God, we as parents will have the least worry about our kids.

[@steceymorgan814]

Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.

[@APOLLINAIREBARTHOLOMIEU]

Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!

[@elizabethwilliams6651]

Yes, dr.sporesss. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.

[@Jennifer-bw7ku]

I wish they were readily available in my place. Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone. He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.

[@APOLLINAIREBARTHOLOMIEU]

Is he on instagram?

[@elizabethwilliams6651]

Yes he is. dr.sporesss

[@anthonywilliams5047]

I just cried my eyes out watching this. You are an unbelievable man sir. Your Son forgives you. Thank you for talking about this because you are going to save a lot of people.

[@lukeweeks5400]

Instead of asking my kids, “How was school?”. I ask “what was the best part AND worst part about your day?”. it has revolutionized our daily conversations. I also share mine.

[@nyahhbinghi]

very good idea, thanks for sharing

[@andreajackson2925]

Thank you!

[@cdm3235]

Why didn´t I have that idea when my kids were young???? REALLY VERY SMART way to sharpen one´s awareness... AND share your own thoughts too... 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👈 ...

[@balgraeve]

so true. thanks for sharing

[@HimJ]

Nice Mam . My mom from starting , when we were young she told me and my sister that whatever happens in school , whether good or bad , you will share it to Me. And we always used to share our school experience everyday , even if we got scolding from teachers (if we did a mistake ) , we would tell her. My mother listens to them till now , Im 16+ now 😀 , it really helped me . I became really depressed during my early teen age years when I was 11 or 12 , because of bullying . My mom really helped me to overcome this 😭😭😭 I love her so much 😀❤️ My message is that asking these questions from your kids will really make a deep bond between both of you . May you stay happy always and remain healthy . You are the best mom ever ✨

[@Oxideacid]

To be honest I just say "I'm fine" because I don't want my mom to start criticizing every single one of my life decisions, saying I never go out, saying how dirty my room is, pointing out how my grades has been dropping, and just killing my self esteem in general.

[@laday4792]

Overly critical parents are excruciating to live with. Does she ever show any compassion to you? I hope so. Sometimes when a parent constantly criticizes you it’s a projection of what they feel about themselves. Stay strong. Rise above it. Someday you can leave and lead your own life. You will be okay.

[@garizzmaa]

Tbh everything is same with me too. Although I don't have my own room , I have to sleep with my mom. You won't believe but I can't even cry out. I just cry silently :')

[@jesusisking3974]

J-time What you have just said is what is needed for all Parents to hear. Many parents are themselves under tremendous pressure in today's society and just don't realise that they are not taking time to calm down and really Listen to the problems their children or teens are going through in the outside World as WELL as at home if no one takes time to All calm down and really talk and listen to each other. You would be a perfect spokesperson for all others as you know how it is ! I wish I had listened more to my teenager and UNDERSTOOD their anguish as you have just pointed out the mistakes I made and to which I'm deeply sorry for. Thank you for your brave and honest depiction of what it feels like when you are put under pressure by a parent or parents. God Bless You and hope all you wish for comes true. 🙏

[@BiaRosy]

They are so blind thinking that kids are happy and dont have problems, that dont see how do we feel LITERALLY DYING, D Y I N G inside Im 14, I shouldn't even think about killing myself, but I do

[@garizzmaa]

@@BiaRosy Once there was a time when I thought that I should better die. But now I'm like why to take my life just for two fools. If they don't care, I won't either. Now, all I wanna do is to leave this house and move on to somewhere far away from them and find a job and live on my own. I don't care if I'll be poor. I'll try my best and live on my own at least 🙂

[@nathankim1083]

"I'm not a psychologist, nor an expert. I'm just a guy who lost his kid, and spent the last year and a half trying to figure out why." This man is much more qualified to speak of this topic than any psychologist.

[@darylfoster7944]

I lost my son four months ago. I've read a few books about suicide since he died, and they mention that there is a desire to play detective, to try to figure out why. I have an idea, but in the final analysis, it doesn't really matter if I'm right or not. It's not going to bring him back.

[@sallygard63]

My brother took his own life and from that moment on, our lives were and are never the same again. My story though is a lot different from the majority of suicide stories. Michael wasn’t depressed … on the contrary, he was always so happy go lucky , in fact his nickname was ‘smiler’ by his friends & colleagues. Michael was a policeman and absolutely loved his job , he was so proud to be part of the police force. He was the youngest of us 4 siblings and was such a good looking young man. He had a partner and 2 young children. We didn’t know it at the time, but he & his partner were going through a rough patch. She was a bit run down and hadn’t wanted sexual relations with him for the past 4 months. Things went on and he had to train a young police cadet, which meant they were together 8/10 hours a day. I’m not justifying in any way what happened next but not getting any affection at home probably caused what happened … he started to ‘think he had ‘ feelings for her … she was definitely coming onto him … She started to text him … he wasn’t one to text much anyway but one morning while he was having a shower his phone got a message and his partner heard it. She read it … it was the girl saying thanks for the dinner the day before and that she missed him. My SIL went loopy and told him to get his things & leave. She called their kids , boy of 7 & girl nearly 3, and told them daddy didn’t love them anymore. My mum called me saying Michael was at hers and was in a state. I spoke to him …. This was 4/5 hours before he committed suicide … he told me he hadn’t been unfaithful at all yet … but that he had feelings for this girl … In the meantime my SIL put it all on FB and then phoned him saying she was gonna phone his chief and tell him about the ‘story’ between him & the girl , and to ‘be ready to lose his job because when they found out it would be instant dismissal ‘ Just before he left my mum’s, he received a text from the girl saying you must ‘deny deny deny’ … that she didn’t want to lose her post with the police … and that she didn’t really have feelings for him … it was to pass her course. Shortly after, Michael was banging his head against the door and saying he had made the worst mistake ever. After some time he then left and got in his car. Mum asked him if he was ok and he said yes. That was the last she saw him alive. He shot himself in nearby woods. My brother wasn’t depressed. Drs say he had a brainstorm … 🤷‍♀️ All I know is we lost our baby brother. He was 37. In his right mind, he would never have done what he did. A few months beforehand, his friend took an overdose of pills. He was devastated and said “ poor bloke … he’s left 3 small children… how come?? “ I miss you Michael 🦋 So sorry to have been so long everyone … I needed to get this out of me 😢

[@BlacklungsSanji]

I’m so very sorry hun 😞 I’m only 20, and been going through severe depression the last couple months… it’s truly my mom and older sister who keep me pushing and here. I know your brother loves you and your mom with all his heart, and he’ll always watch over you if it’s possible on his side ❤️ Please stay strong and surround yourself with love and joy, don’t let your traumas eat you alive like me, I haven’t experienced nearly anything as horrible, yet I cry almost daily when I’m alone because I just feel so weak mentally. But one day people like us who suffer in silence most days are gonna be rewarded greatly when we’re gone… I’m sure of it. Much love to you and your family for real ❤️❤️❤️ His children had a great father, I know that they’ll inherit his good heart. RIP to a hero 🙇‍♂️

[@sallygard63]

@@BlacklungsSanji thank you so much for your kind words, I truly appreciate it … I wish you strength, comfort and serenity … that you can soon feel better 🍀🍀

[@BlacklungsSanji]

@@sallygard63 thank you very much, you as well ❤️ you got this :)

[@yoni532s9M5w]

I'm very sorry for your loss.

[@sallygard63]

@@yoni532s9M5w thank you ☺️ 🙏

[@ivandurega9336]

As a teen here is a pro tip. Whenever your talking to your kids don't make it end in a scolding. The kid needs help not another scolding. Nothing hurts more than being scolded by the person you are seeking help from

[@staircasefunction9124]

There's one thing that hurts more: Scolding and then saying 'I care about you.' Then repeating this sequence. Ig it depends on how one looks at it. I find it somewhat funny.

[@tacbleded202]

@@staircasefunction9124 Happened far too many times to me this year, it's pointless to talk to my parents for help now. I don't know what to do anymore.

[@whenthequalityisbadbutiam]

and dont get mad at them when they refuse to tell you anything, or hide emotions, it’s only going to make it worse

[@gyutaro.7554]

my dad in general

[@staircasefunction9124]

@@tacbleded202 I can relate. Try to acknowledge yourself. It may help.

[@trippydeadhead481]

“People cry at funerals, because regret is stronger than gratitude”.

[@1z487]

And because someone's dead...

[@lumbratile4174]

So true

[@senexiar]

Too real ;-;

[@ZJS12]

Dude give Anne Frank a credit mn .......

[@andrew7861]

r/Im14andthisdeep

[@randomedits_00]

Im a teenager myself, i cried when he said "I'm sorry". I promise if i ever become a father myself, i will be kind and reasonable.

[@dannieden]

No one left this video without tears 💔😭😭

[@will-gk6ei]

It’s a very strange concept to me that a man who runs away from his feelings is considered more of a man than the man who is willing to face his feelings.

[@thecurrentmoment]

I think when a man is looked up to as a rock, for other people to be reassured, it makes a lot of sense that he doesn't show how scared he is. But he needs an outlet somewhere. If you're not a leader then other people are not looking to you for reassurance and you have a lot more freedom (often) to be vulnerable

[@mariyaa111]

will 2583147 I say this all of the time !

[@haidengeary8277]

If men showed such feelings early in our species history, we'd not be here, period. Human nature was this way long before you or I , or anyone, for thousands of years came along. Its foolish and naive to think can evolve overnight. Don't go on like its unnatural for us to be this way.

[@jerseymusicman3332]

will 2583147 thought he explained it pretty well. It wasnt that he was running from his feeling but rather he felt it was a way to protect them. It’s a common feeling for a dad to want to protect them from all harm, but there has to be a balance. I’m opposite in that I’m super emotional without being a snowflake. But I’m an artist and I have two little girls so I’m a different animal altogether lol.

[@Money-talking]

Because it's based on perception.

[@shnaaa5487]

Finally someone gets it that "I'm fine" doesn't really mean "I'm fine"

[@matheodaniel1364]

if you need help go talk to your friends, family and people you trust, life can be great and will get even better after the pandemic ends so do not waste it and life have a lot of good experiences and memories that are gonna make you think it was all worth it, a lot of people who tried to end their lives remember that they changed their mind and are happy to be alive, if necessary search for help in the internet and if you can afford it call a therapist "ending your life is a permanent solution to a temporary problem" also do not be shy to call for help.

[@V01DIORE]

@@matheodaniel1364 Though I never really got the use of “ending your life is a permanent solution to a temporary problem”, are not all problems by that same standard also temporary. Is it saying only a temporary solution is valid? If someone were to perceive being caged and tortured is that sentence any motivation to preserve? To which the hope of life seems lesser than death.

[@aldrinmercado3475]

If everyone who needed help wouldnt say im fine all the time, that'd be great. Just like how women tell you "its ok" or "im fine" when they are totally not and will later call you insensitive for not recognizing that its not really ok

[@brandonwoo8299]

@@matheodaniel1364 most of the people choose suicidal main intentions is not ending their life but to end their pain.

[@mahlindotexe2845]

So why would you say fine if your not?? It makes no sense

[@bootyeater]

My ego and my dreams are the reason why i am still alive

[@the_micks]

I never cried so hard in my life, because now i'm a dad of a 3 years old girl and the love a feel for her is so great, so vast, so immense, that it hurts in my chest. Thank you for tell your story, i felt just a tiny bit of your pain and it's already too much.

[@sannivarudra9453]

I'm just a 16 years old boy If i ever become a father I'll surely talk openly with my future children ... :)

[@pankajyt410]

Brother , besides this you make them feel that there is life is important too. 🙂

[@joshuapatron50]

Me too!

[@rtsbee_]

me too

[@-_nicky_-]

Me too!

[@ikwikwi]

Pray your future children want to listen to u and not d internet

[@astonmartin4360]

My son hanged himself at 21.I found him I tried CPR.I was too late.I closed his eyes and held him.His mum died of cancer 6 years before at 43.He missed his mother too much.

[@randomgirl566]

I hope u find peace on life💙

[@tesseract2365]

That's tragic I'm so sorry.

[@catluva74]

I'm so sorry for your loss. I struggle with suicidal thoughts myself. It took me until I was in my 30s to be able to tell my mother. At least in my case it's often hard to even talk when I'm at that point. I've been to levels where I was to screwed up to kill myself. With that being said please don't blame yourself. Depression is an illness. And his suicide was no more your fault or his then if he had a heart attack in the middle of the night and wasn't able to seek help in time. And for anyone else reading this keep this in mind. One of the most dangerous times for a depressed person is right when they start feeling better. It can take a long time to fully come out of an depressive episode. If they don't pull it together quick enough their negative emotions often turn the returning energy towards self harm.

[@lxnewolf7275]

I'm so sorry to hear that. I hope you will find your peace

[@lxnewolf7275]

I know this might sound dramatic but last month I tried to commit suicide by hang myself but shits doesn't go well. Today, I watched this video and look at this comment somehow I saw the image of my father as if the picture changed to his face. I wondered what if I did what I wanted to do last month? What if I am no longer exist? How my father would react? Honestly, I don't know what would happen in the future, but if I'm given with a strength, I hope I won't do the same mistakes. Thank you for sharing your story, your son was a strong person too.

[@jhonzeimerman5650]

My dogs are the only thing keeping me in this world.

[@ProudFatherofTwo]

I'm 34, I have a 3 yr old and my wife's pregnant with our 2nd. I lost my mother when I was 12, my father became aggressive and abusive to the point he would yell scream, put his hands around my throat and hit me. There were a lot of times I thought about ending it. One time in particular were I had my gun out on the table while I was on my computer. I was 27 at thay time. I spent hours crying going back and forth on if I should do it or not. Obviously I didn't do it. But, that was the toughest moment of my life, and I am glad I did not go through with it! If you read this and your at a point where you believe it's all over for you, don't do it, it can get better, it won't be easy at all especially if you have no one, but it can get better I promise you!

[@persephonemaeve2704]

It seems like school is a massive catalyst for childhood issues.

[@fireyblazemaster3253]

Sphynx Mumma Which is why I think there should be no school but online!

[@someraccoons]

@@fireyblazemaster3253 I was homeschooled my entire life and it's not all it's cracked up to be. And I have taken online classes through college and some professors dont care about their online student's so unless teachers receive special training all online classes could cause more problems than they solve.

[@gabbiano2346]

I think school appears to be the problem because it's the first occasion you are leaving your home and face society. It's not about the school itself. Society is full of d***heads, and you need to be ready and prepared.

[@PippaPasses]

Childhood is sort of a molding process. It’s where are your damaged kinks develop and it’s up to you later on in life if you want to properly tackle your deep rooted trauma

[@Drawfill]

if there was no school it would be something else. It just happens that every kid goes to school (in our society at least..)

[@junechang6915]

My son is 15 years old. Then one day he stopped playing games with his friends and was mostly in his room. I didn’t realized that he was depressed. He was telling his cousins and friends about suicide. Luckily someone told us what happened and we talked to him. It is serious.

[@McBreadbro]

Teach your son how to fight. Whatever or whoever comes into our lives, we must use our brain first to think logically to make rational decision. Anger, love and affection are emotions that can easily cloud reason.

[@rayschindler7451]

I'm 16 and it's very tough to say how we feel at getting bullied at school etc

[@r2gi277]

@@rayschindler7451 I can feel that, but forcing you to tell it to your parents will solve this problem for sure. You're not weak, you're strong, so don't be afraid to tell it.

[@menace3583]

@No Out!et that's true friendship

[@Kevin-fl9yo]

@Ray Schindler in my country bullies are not a thing thats common and for that i thank god, but for you my friend i must tell you never give in to their pressure and open up with someone whoever that may be ! If not your parents than your grandparents since sometimes they listen more but never say you are worthless

[@MrDuvalbulldog]

To those who are struggling with demons that won’t let up, that are pushing you to that point. I know I’m a complete stranger but I love you, you matter, you have so much to offer this world. You bring your own very unique, wonderful light to a world that desperately needs more shine. I know you don’t know me or what I look like but just visualize a hand, my hand reaching out to help pull you from the edge of the abyss. There will never be another you, please don’t leave this world. You’re not selfish or weak for feeling suicidal, you’re under so much pain and suffering. Please reach out and get help. And to those who know someone with those thoughts, don’t brush it off, their silence is a deafening cry for help ❤️

[@v.m.e.6641]

Thank you so much.

[@MrDuvalbulldog]

@@v.m.e.6641 of course ❤️❤️

[@zZz0mbified]

@@MrDuvalbulldog You are a beautiful light shining brightly, thanks for being you💙💙💙

[@MrDuvalbulldog]

@@zZz0mbified thank you ❤️❤️❤️

[@jonastrex05]

Amen!

[@tmcorey1]

Being a good parent is simple. Just be the mother, or the father, that you wish you would have had. Always. Be present. Spend time with them individually, one on one. Listen, don’t lecture. I am so sorry for this family’s loss. I couldn’t survive the same.

[@jamescanto8036]

Take note: when your child ask if you can talk, drop what you're doing and shift your focus on your child.

[@tekknolog1c]

yeah, because maybe they won't ask you next time

[@slideonem3651]

My parents would never do this

[@yogendrasinghchauhan1034]

@soham aychitte what do you mean by that?

[@justinmean7370]

You won't have to "drop everything your doing" if you have regular deeper meaning conversations. Show that it is OK to share your feelings in certain circles. My mom did an awesome job at that on her own. Through multiple bad relations. Love you mom!

[@guiandre9347]

@soham aychitte shut up

[@SonOfGOD937]

Takes a MAN to say, I AM RESPONSIBLE, I AM ACCOUNTABLE.

[@criticaltweaker4393]

Yep, a woman would have said the reverse

[@garystevens1044]

Critical Tweaker how would a woman say different if it takes two to make the child then two people realistically are responsible and accountable for that child

[@traze2963]

Critical Tweaker what are you on about

[@scr3am273]

@@garystevens1044 it takes a "MAN"

[@habibbialikafe339]

@Grace Holm i know plenty of women and men who blame others. i know very few who take responsibility, but most of them are men

[@user-ck5hh2oc6p]

I was a suicidal teen. I asked my parents for help, they didn't believe me and said it was a phase, they blamed it on hormones and growing up They told me to just be strong Then they left and said goodnight I self medicated, I self harmed. Age 15 I was an alcoholic at its finest I did drugs and smoked. Bullied people, took my anger out in terrible ways. This was my teen years. I am now 21 years old, I've healed, I have a family, a life and a hope. I'm so glad I didn't end it all back then This is my story.

[@nazzver]

Im proud of you. It wasn’t easy and i hope u are okay

[@sumaiya3385]

Thank you! So glad that you healed and are now feeling better. I am sure you will understand your kids in a better way as you know how that feels. Kudos to you and best of luck for your future!

[@Etrehumain123]

Nobody told me how to fight my bullies. I told my father and he said "well defend yourself", like "well dont be sad" type of feedback. I wanted to end it all hundreds of times. And teenagers, it continues after school. There a bullies in adulthood, at work, office or construction site. The best way to get out of it is to find sincere and true friendships, people that respect you for who you are, no fake no pretend, because we need you, you are awesome and you matter. And I know you will say "but no one I know cares about me" well think this way: how can I know your existence? How can I find you? Get loud, get known, reach out, get out, We exist and we need you.

[@dong7474]

A generation that wasn’t listened to, is trying to listen to a generation that wants to be heard, creating a generation that will finally listen when the time comes.

[@samusaran7317]

I don't see that happening...

[@lara7416]

right! i hope i become a mom and can teach my own dad how he should love his kids :/

[@lonedemonofdeath666]

I’ve always believed that a father makes his children strong but at the same time no one wants to accept how little it takes to make someone consider suicide

[@samusaran7317]

@@lonedemonofdeath666 True words. Its the reason why they're attacked and families get separated so easily this day in age.

[@pikkivs]

I have tried to kill my self..

[@AnasatisTiMiniatis]

One thing not mentioned here: When I was a teen, the number one reason my peers said they couldn't go to their parents when they had a problem was because they expected their parents to react with hostility.

[@klajdisinanaj3977]

i thought the same too. I have had problems at school like these kids these days struggle with but it wasnt that big of a deal to me all i had to do is speak up for myself even tho i got beat speak to someone if no one takes u seriously deal with it yourself but in no world should u take your life , u r not special everybody has their problems so u deal with yours and struggle to live.

[@phoenixero8161]

...And they weren't wrong. A lot of parents DO react with a ton of hostility to stuff like this.

[@lovesakurasan]

to me it was because my father was a single parent raising 3 kids while also working a 40 hours a week sometimes more and me not wanting to bother him with my problems.

[@muffy7323]

@@klajdisinanaj3977 The last thing you should say to someone with depression is to "Deal with it" and "Everyone haves struggles". I see you don't know shit sadly. But still dare to comment about it.

[@jimmyfreeman5235]

Thank you for this mention.

[@onelife-celebrateit]

Reminder for me to be a better friend for my child to give him what I always missed in this life .

[@communism8037]

Страшно то, что больше всего это видео посмотрят именно такие дети, а не родители. Ведь именно они понимают истинный смысл видео, который резонирует с их судьбой. Я никогда в жизни не мог поверить до определенного момента, что я начну сомневаться в своём оптимизме.

[@khusheenuvlogs0903]

Dead people receive more flowers as regret is more powerful than gratitude. - Anne Frank

[@moozloony4397]

@@edwardblake1407 bruh what

[@benreiners9451]

@@edwardblake1407 You do realize, who Anne Frank was, right? There's literally pictures of her and her entire life is documented, how is she not real?

[@leafre]

@@edwardblake1407 Average american citizen

[@callumdolten7486]

@@edwardblake1407 anne Frank is rean come on man dont u remember history

[@Bababooey2008]

@@edwardblake1407 I’m losing brain cells from this comment there are literally pictures of her and her dairy to prove she was real

[@roxlyde8163]

As a former teenager "Im fine" is usually slang for "I'm not fine, but its nothing I want to talk about right now"

[@mallardofmodernia8092]

Im alright is one too one of mine infact...

[@k-isfor-kristina]

I would correct that to "I'm not fine but I don't feel comfortable talking about it with YOU". This guy hit the nail on the head. It's so important for parents to make themselves unapproachable to kids. My parents felt unapproachable. Judgemental. Constantly made me feel like if I opened up they would just emphasize how I failed to meet the expectations they set. Even now as an adult I struggle to be open with them, and have to remind and force myself to be, mainly because I have been fairly successful in my adult life and therefore there's nothing that they could possibly make me feel inadequate about. My stepsister took her own life though after battling an extremely hard period in her life. I feel like my parents failed her the way that this guy feels he failed his son.

[@downhomesunset]

@@k-isfor-kristina I’m in my late forties and can totally relate!

[@KitKat17700]

No, it’s ‘I’m not fine, I just don’t feel like I can talk to anyone because I don’t want to disappoint you or open up about my feelings because it will make me feel like a failure.’

[@dimitra8569]

@@k-isfor-kristina im going through this right now (im a teenager with parents like that)... i hope i end up successful like you in the future and not like your stepsister... may she rip. either way both of our parents failed.

[@perosivaimauga1758]

My son toook his life 4 months ago I found out he was being bullied at work 😢 never in a million years I thought he would leave us 😢😢😢 love and miss him so much

[@jesterjamie8065]

Thank you for sharing. I'm so so sorry you lost your son to suicide. My heart breaks for you. I wish you healing, in time. ❤

[@natashak4927]

I’m so sorry for your loss. I pray the Lord Jesus will comfort your heart and give you peace. You have a friend in Jesus.

[@adarshgaurav3335]

Sorry for your loss. No one can fix my problem no one. Life is the only thing which can hurt, But death is beautiful no one can hurt me.

[@siarheipilat8152]

Depressed males: I am sad and I am not feeling well Society: Man up! Depressed males: *commits suicide* Society: *confused_pikachu.jpeg*

[@Chuleta_9]

Your feelings are valid, and you should be true to them regardless of what a broken, disconnected society says. As a female, I’ve been dismissed and invalidated many times because we’re “too sensitive”. So for a long period in my life I became a rock. Funny how we can go through the same things in different ways. Being sensitive is not weakness, like many erroneously think. Being sensitive is a connection with all the energies around you, and your own. It’s picking up on the subtleties of life: your intuition, empathy, self love, etc. The invalidating and ignorant reactions you get from people are their own disconnection being reflected, because your honesty is poking at that and it causes discomfort in them. And that is good. So whatever, man, just be you and let them react however they want. Change starts with ourselves.

[@hevertreyesyupitsme9394]

Poggers

[@grendo45]

"Society: confused_pikachu.jpeg" more like Society: Yall heard sumn?

[@CC-mm3bl]

Straight Fact!

[@mug4009]

@elise veldt mostly females but k

[@Sean-dm8ez]

I really wish that my dad had realized this. He did so much to provide for me in material ways, but was so distant from me on an emotional level.

[@kafkatamura2461]

Same . I can relate to this 100%

[@phoenixangel5073]

My parents were both distant AND didn't provide for me. I was born just to inherit family name, they didn't even want me. Imagine not being wanted but still being planned pregnancy.

[@brandonporter6223]

@@phoenixangel5073 That sucks man

[@MalMalWasTaken]

Yeahh

[@manjarigupta1143]

More power to Sean. We all fighting silent battles.

[@robertsmithington8892]

A few days ago I just told my girls “If you ever feel down, sad, something doesn’t feel right, your mother and I are always here to talk. Being young ain’t always as easy as we think it should be. The weight of the world comes down on us faster and harder than we expect. It’s something a lot of us go through sooner or later in life.” Hope they know I meant it.

[@kimjane2493]

I constantly encourage my nine year old son to keep being brave and tell me when he’s struggling. He’s in counselling at the moment, because he opened up to me about to how he’s been struggling with anger lately. If I am ever busy, and he wants to talk to me because he’s sad, I will always drop everything for him. The other day, I was meant to meet my friend in town but my son wanted to talk, so I was 2 hours late to meet my friend, who was beyond annoyed at me, but who cares. Kids need to know that you will always be there for them the moment they need you.

[@homixideactivist]

You are doing a good job as a parents. God bless, and keep going. I pray for you and family

[@rowanburke4070]

Burying a child is one of the worst pains a parents will ever have to suffer

[@truelovewontwait]

The smaller the coffin, the heavier it gets

[@rajab4187]

I buried my father who died last year April😭😭😭 I'm 21 now Left with my grandpa mom n 13 y/o brother

[@accidentalGamer69]

Dying daily is the worst pain the child has to suffer , knowing that no one will listen

[@adyy444]

one of my classmates passed away a few days ago. i feel bad for his parents..

[@usernotfound162]

@@rajab4187 💖be strong my guy. Hold on the rope of allah.

[@Casper-dh6nx]

Personally I feel the reason we don’t tell our parents these things is they won’t understand what we mean exactly if most of us were to tell our parents something was wrong or we were sad they would think it was over something childish and stupid so we never approach them about our problems

[@naritruwireve1381]

That's exactly how I feel. I remember a time I was so depressed, I didn't eat meals, I would do nothing but lay in bed from morning to night, and just silently have mental breakdowns daily, and one day I heard my mom on the phone calling me "moody"... Also my family knows I have social anxiety yet they say things like "just go out more", "talking to people isn't even that difficult", and "how hard is it to do this simple thing??" Safe to say I'm trusting no one in my family with any of my secrets.

[@jennyb.9237]

@@naritruwireve1381 Please hold on, things will get better for you.

[@samuelbishop3316]

Exactly right. Many never take it seriously.

[@samuelbishop3316]

@@naritruwireve1381 I understand your pain my friend. I cannot say I know it from experience but I suffered alot when I was younger. More than most around me ever knew. I don't know If you'll accept my words, but I struggled for 7 years. One day I decided to give my life to Jesus. He sought me first, as he does. But I made the decision to be his. Please reach out to him. Through him our wrongdoings will be forgiven, and he will mend you. Piece you back together as he did me. Things won't always be perfect, they'll possibly be quite hard, but you will be sheltered under the wings of the Lord.

[@scruffygaming627]

Even worse, many parents will instantly assume it's their fault and react badly because they themselves are extremely insecure/broken. They may blame the child or berate them/abuse them more. I personally know of two children in this situation. Sadly here in NZ, there's little I can do about it. Unless the child shows physical evidence of severe physical abuse, they won't remove the child from parental care. So they grow up abused with zero confidence and a history of self-harm if they survive at all. All I can do is try to offset their parental abuse with encouragement and support, and when they are old enough to be allowed to separate from a parent, support them getting onto their feet with no parent.

[@morganfalkdesigns]

My husband killed himself a year ago. He couldn’t bear letting anyone down, and he had had a crisis at work and thought he had let everyone down. He hurt many people. He had no idea how many people loved him. I miss him.

[@homixideactivist]

I am so sorry for you lost. God bless you

[@slimmy696jim7]

We can change the way our children feel ! But we need to get more involved with their lives and question them gently . And encourage them to speak their minds Without any fear of judgment. Tell them you love them in as many ways as possible. I lost my son Chase and I could have done a better job AND HE WOULD STILL BE HERE 😢😢😢

[@Oblaczech]

Sadly, it appears to me that this video is being watched mostly by teenagers themselves, rather than the parents. But even then, let's make it a good thing. All of you teenagers, my peers, who've watched this video, promise me you'll be good parents who will listen to their kids, be kind and gentle, vulnerable at times. Promise me that.

[@the.seagull.35]

❤❤❤

[@user-th4cn1uv1p]

You're right

[@ArkendOfficial]

I promise.

[@allenzhang4644]

I don’t even know if I’m ever gonna have kids. Have been going through a tough time and a promising future seems as far away as possible.

[@the.seagull.35]

@@allenzhang4644 been there man. Ecclesiastes says there is a time and a season for everything... a time to be born and a time to die, a time a time to plant and a time to harvest, a time to mourn and a time to dance. Even our darkest seasons are just seasons 🙏 if you trust in God and wait on him He will bring you out into the light again.

[@stxn_cxld7342]

"how they feel is how they feel, you can't fix how they feel." THANK YOU

[@sohangandra3353]

yes.

[@blankblank9403]

Well idk how everyone is feeling but I hope EVERYONE READING THIS is feeling great, Because you are great and unique in positive ways(: Blessings to you reading this.

[@thunderlifestudios]

Its true people think talking and activities are gonna change feelings. They do not. The person who feels it changes it.and the road to that varies.

[@Winchester1973]

Attention is the rarest and purest form of generosity. Simone Weil

[@stxn_cxld7342]

@Krazy WhiteBoy He can't fix how we feel. It's us ourselves who need to find a way to fix it, with support from others and outside help.

[@lyndamac1058]

I did hide my problems from my sons but it got to a stage where I started to open up to them and visa versa. Kids aren't stupid and knew I was struggling. We have a very open relationship and I think that helped when my oldest through a trauma has PTSD, social phobia etc and he was at times not wanted to live but we talked and talked and I listened.

[@heatherpage1445]

I'm so sorry for your loss. And thankful that you're helping other parents. ❤

[@zoesmith5326]

I hope my father would randomly see and watch this

[@litpen8056]

Msg anonymous, or mention it in passing

[@angelakea9866]

I would just send it to him...one click of the button could change his life. I just sent it to my husband...

[@babla69420]

Tell me his I'd I'll send it to him

[@ultimatesportsmedicine4395]

You send it, and tell him I needed this from you! You grow up and make sure you are better than him. Be the best version of yourself. Every day we wake up and are blessed with a new day, is a new opportunity to do just that, practice being the best we can be, each day until our last!

[@MrMate8869]

Talk to your father Zoe! This video being sent to him randomly would just confuse him on what action to take.

[@jaymemurphy5946]

"I don't want you to fix me, I just want you to listen" ... can't even remember the last time I was heard

[@thompsonbros4080]

Dear friend Jesus loves you

[@TheRingmasteR23]

I want my life to end

[@puddingfox890]

@@TheRingmasteR23 I’m sorry to hear that and we are complete strangers, but every life matters. People will listen-if they don’t, I know I will. For whatever reason, don’t throw your life away, it’s a privilege and a journey. Things will get better if you keep fighting. There’s so much left to explore and discover in this world. If you can’t continue living for yourself, choose to live for others. Whatever you’re going through must be miserable, but others around you may be going through something too. After having experienced being at your lowest point, strive to pick yourself back up in slow steps. You must be hoping there will be a ray of light-a person to take your hand and guide you, but one less person will be able to fill that role for someone else if you take your life. Avoidance does nothing, but perpetuate the never ending cycle of hopelessness. Anyways, I wish you and anyone who reads this success. Keep fighting to live. Many fight to survive, don’t waste this opportunity.

[@lorileiguillory9412]

We hear you

[@carbonblade1]

Bless you Jayme....I think I know how you feel

[@jimb1783]

Thank you for sharing. I was on the other side of this, my dad killed himself when I was 11 years old. Now as a 56 year old man, I always ask that question and make time for anyone

[@mccharliebliss5881]

What an amazing video , you had me crying , and then punching the air victorious....Ryan did a massive thing for Humanity.....and Dad don't be sorry as you listened to the 3 words that are the key 🗝️ " TELL MY STORY " your steps you have taken to help parents ....it's so needed ......your Ryan's Legacy will be still impacting humanity way after we all have passed on ...keep push'in keep shine'in.... Warrior 🌹🦅🌹

[@chitwithac4487]

I'm not a dad, but I wish I could send this to myself in the future as a dad.

[@ricksterlias]

Saving the video

[@nessus3251]

Make a playlist called “for future me” or something like that

[@Bigknucklesandhands]

You’ll be a good dad just for wanting to prepare yourself

[@calabiss4672]

just remember the knowledge? lol

[@Adrian-by2yr]

The future you already sent this video to you!

[@liertco6191]

He wasn’t the best dad, and he couldn’t save his son. But he has already saved many more.

[@blueshell0]

I don't think he would have, if there wasn't the note his son left.

[@fathanyusrizal]

@LawofAttraction What?

[@francessmith9063]

@LawofAttraction this man is trying to help others, he can’t turn back time but he is telling the truth. As he said please learn from the things I didn’t do right. I can tell you from my own experience my son completed Suicide 30 years ago this month, there is not a day I wish I could have saved him. I understand this mans heartache.

[@fathanyusrizal]

@LawofAttraction How?

[@whiteballs538]

@LawofAttraction i can only feel sorry for you, and hope that you see the sadness inside of you dear. May you find a good path in life instead of this one filled with hatred and rage, try to stop hating your self, forgive yourself.

[@N00b_Bot]

I'm a dad to an 8yr old and 4yr old. I watch this every now and then (maybe just twice a year) to keep this in my mind, front and centre. Thank you for this brave and powerful message.

[@eriasmara7739]

I am literally listening to this man crying, thank you for sharing your experience, wisdom and strength. I pray for you and your family healing journey ❤❤.

[@roydamanna]

"You only cry for help, if you believe there's help to cry for." "You will never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have."

[@jusbfreejf]

Very True!!!!!!!!

[@bye6683]

thats beautiful

[@barleysam1]

another quote, "when the time comes, don't go expecting someone to come save you" you've got to get stronger yourself, it`s inevitable. a quote that i always cherish and look back at

[@maryj560]

Being strong, grabbing a bible too! Believe me the devil tries to destroy you through depression. The devil tries to destroy a sound mind. Don't let him win! Ask God to help you. He will! Don't let yourself be alone. Take a walk with Jesus. Read the bible.

[@Aman-md6mr]

@@maryj560 very true ♥️

[@maplemaple626]

One of the worst things parents say to their kids is, "Be grateful. Others have it worse" Saying that isn't going to fix the problem, it will only make it worse. Your child came to you for help for a reason, they won't understand your bills, or your problems at your job. They are a child. You need to put yourself at their age and realize that their problem is a lot bigger than you think.

[@Ghost-Tales]

I totally agree as that is the problem I've been facing the last few years that others have it worse. That it has come to the point were my relationship with my parents is almost gone the only times we speak are at the dinner table and most days we dont even do that, and the only thing that's said is from my dad about his work days. The only times we actually talk is when I have a breakdown about how Im feeling about school or lost pets I've grown up with and that i miss they almost newer get into how or family relationship is going. So the only things I've actually had a relationship with is my pets because they are always there for you no matter what, and they are one of the reasons I've been able to go on.

[@maplemaple626]

@@Ghost-Tales So sorry you have to go through that. I too have had a few of those moments with my parents.

[@sebasthecrab1345]

This annoys me. Its the truth, other kids are starving, or being sold. If youre commenting on a youtube video, you have it easy. I think my generation is just a bunch of snowflakes who cant stand up for themselves. Grow up, not everything is about you.

[@maplemaple626]

@@sebasthecrab1345 Yes but knowing that isn't going to stop depression. Yes, I acknowledge the fact that many kids are dealing with worse, but telling that to your kids isn't going to cure their depression. It's gonna make them feel that their feelings don't matter just because others have it worse. I think that would make you a bad parent.

[@sebasthecrab1345]

@@maplemaple626 I was depressed for quite a while. I told my parents, and they explained that in the real world nobody cares. They told me to grow up and be mature. So i did. But, i guess that doesnt work on people who are sensitive.

[@jessicalowery8035]

I hope you realize that by telling your story you are telling your son “I’m sorry” every time you share. I am so sorry for your loss and am inspired by your bravery in sharing your story. Thank you and God continue to bless your relationships.

[@sky-hm6sr]

I'm not young anymore. I dont have children, wasn't able but ill say this coming from someone who is probably struggling mentally Now more than ever, especially if You Yourself didn't grow up with parents who had or not the ability to emotionally connect. If You just dont get it, do your best to educate yourself about mental illness. For Some I reckon, they just arent capable of fighting anymore. R.I.P. Ryan❤

[@punkw7852]

Worst day of my life was my son’s failed attempt when he said after, “I didn’t think anyone would care.” It’s been over 15 years since I heard that sentence & I am crying as I write it. I had no clue.

[@grindingyt]

is he ok now?

[@iloveoppaio7541]

Hope he's OK now...

[@bugs4680]

I'm sorry 😞

[@Sis_Izzie]

Yea. thats how we feel. everyone so busy that we feel left out. so we think " why do anyone else care. but im happy your son still here and now you know and you guys are working on it everyday.

[@grindingyt]

@@Sis_Izzie pls dont hurt you self i care about you :)

[@sharp5687]

I'm 17, no friends, miserable and just feel hopeless, killing myself is a big cloud in my mind, but I know that if i do, I would cause more pain to others around me than the pain I'm feeling right now. I still have hope I'll get better soon.

[@bartjonker7401]

If you feel the need to talk to anyone you can contact me.

[@cradlemynutz]

im in the same but im turning 16 april 5 i have one friend 2 parents and 3 siblings and i know it would be selfish to take my life out of theirs so i wont theres always something to live for remember that

[@dicki97]

Feel free to contact me at any time my dude.

[@alik5623]

My insta is @aliwestboasty I’m always here for u. Feel free

[@joshuatoledo8844]

I usually do not write on social media. However just want to share something with you guys. I am father of three young man 24,22,20... also a veteran with 25 years of service as a Special Forces operator, meaning I have seeing a lot. Here is my quote " we are not depressed, we are distracted ".... do something for yourself: write 10 things that you are very grateful, after you finish, think about it and put them on order, most important first and so on. Write that list on a piece of paper and put the paper by your bed, so when you wake up that is the first thing that you see. When you wake up, read, think and be grateful.....just by starting your day like that, the perspective is different, is a positive one. That paper is a working document , you can add more, you can change the position, etc, etc. I am currently on Afghanistan but you can reach me if you want.... just by telling where I am I can talk you that your problems are minimum compared to where I see around here, think about it. Buen Camino.

[@KrazyJohnny]

When I was 5 I found my 13 year old brother hanging it totally messed my life up I'm still feeling it. When people do this it's the ones still alive who suffer. If you're having thoughts of leaving this world don't speak up you're not alone and you are loved.

[@NotAnymore_e]

No

[@Breeandfree]

This made me cry so hard. So sorry for your loss, and anyone who has had to lose a child, my prayers for you ❤

[@joncampos-cw2tk]

Don’t ever say to your child,”What do YOU have to be depressed about? Look at what I go through”.

[@pooppoop2767]

I told my mom I was depressed as a teen and she just got mad and said I was bumming her out.

[@joncampos-cw2tk]

@@pooppoop2767 Yep. They’ll do that. It’s their world, we just live in it.

[@AestheticallyAbigail]

When I told my parents that's exactly what they said. Suck it up. There's way worse. My dad was in the military, and he just told me that he's seen worse, my problems were nothing and don't matter.

[@joncampos-cw2tk]

@@AestheticallyAbigail These are the parents who wonder why their kids ignore them as they get older.

[@JesseBaxter-zb8du]

Shutup u mong

[@siennaclair]

as a teenager, we say “we’re fine” because we are hiding something, it’s embarrassing, we’re scared how you will react, we’re scared what you’d do, we don’t wanna talk about it

[@skobywankenobi]

That doesn't change because you become an adult either.

[@dfquartzidn6151]

Especially when you live surrounded by people with limited or outdated morals, awareness, knowledge, and education...Either your parents are too worried that you wouldn’t survive or they’re in denial of the fact that they don’t know exactly what to do.

[@hiyesiambanana2310]

No it isn't lol i say I'm fine so i don't have to make small talk with my parents

[@dfquartzidn6151]

@@hiyesiambanana2310 And because of that too

[@anarchy2118]

I mean,I also say I'm fine when I'm actually fine.

[@AllHustleNoLuck8Gaming]

The way I’m fighting back tears watching this in public . Thank you for sharing ❤

[@JustTryingToInnerstandYou]

I’m so glad we have always been so open with our kids and blessed with the ability to connect with them. I know they still hold onto things but we deal with it. They are never alone in their fight and we just have to let them know.

[@thelittlehedgegrove2079]

My son attempted suicide at 14. This hit home hard. He thankfully failed his attempt and doing much better today at 16. But I never saw it, especially the night before he attempted. He was acting so happy. He even wanted us all to do a movie night together. The next morning in the hospital I asked him about it and he said something that will forever haunt me. He said, "I just wanted one last nice night together with you before I died." Please talk to your kids, even if they 'seem' okay, especially if their mood changes to positive when that's somewhat out of their normal behavior.

[@finlandsuomi6144]

❤️

[@ChingMiya]

That made me sad but i kinda understand him. Glad to know that he is doing much better now. God bless your family.

[@aadilbappoo6498]

You can be a great dad. You can learn from your mistakes. Send you lots of hugs and wish your son loads of happiness.

[@debbieevans7169]

Wow ! That is very powerful!

[@gerry1031]

That may have been the saddest thing ive ever read Tears are now going down my face Omfg

[@YETl]

He’s right about that “right time to talk”

[@flarmie]

nah, that's just an issue with bonding knocking is a thing, connecting with your children is a thing

[@TobyBanci]

plumbean it isn’t Trust me

[@davgg9621]

@@TobyBanci he does have a point, if you're not sharing a bond with your parents its hard to open up, especially if they just barge in and start wsterboarding you in questions. I guess, timing is really key but taking time is probably the most important.

[@dontlookatmyvideoREE]

Yea he nailed it, some teens like me just prefer dont talk when we're like watching some videos since it kinda just relaxes your mind

[@dontlookatmyvideoREE]

But this is just my prospective, some doesn't have the same concept probably.

[@ralitsasapundzhieva5212]

Respect to this man and all of the pain he has gone through, i hope he finds peace

[@gulee]

True love is listening to our kids and spending quality time with them. Children are such a blessing! 🙏

[@zacburns5091]

I went to my dad telling him that I think I am depressed. His reply was ‘man up’. Very supportive father 😂

[@lonedemonofdeath666]

Dude it’s cause most people refuse to accept how little it takes to make people get to that point

[@motrhead69]

That was me...and I'm 51 haven't off'ed or consider any of the following...I believe it's in the water?

[@thomashoffmann8397]

Like that other comment said, people don’t take suicide seriously until it’s too late

[@spidermanthreethousand]

Fr..when I start talking about my feelings, my father tells me that he had it tougher than me. Like what? You could have a tough past, but that doesn't mean my problems are meaningless

[@zacburns5091]

@@spidermanthreethousand exactly the reason I give him. Like just because there are starving children in Africa, it doesn’t suddenly make me happy.

[@mariobk1064]

I’m a teenager and I wish I could have a better relationship with my dad. I wish I could ask him for help maybe ask him how to deal with girls or sum. But I never had that relationship with my dad.

[@brelnd8991]

this might be weird coming from a random guy on the internet but if you ever feel down or need anything please reach out to me and I will be happy to help.

[@jasonburks6644]

brelnd it’s not. We need people like you to help those who can’t get it elsewhere

[@LOLOsugoi]

show him this video Not sure he'll change his ways but at least you can try

[@velcture7643]

Yeah, it's hard to talk to dad about it

[@comradecat1859]

@@velcture7643 Especially if you don't have a dad.

[@Tiquono]

As I've gotten to adult age I've really started thinking about how to help my future kids. I couldn't be more grateful for this video.

[@user-gd3ln4dj1c]

I have been suicidal in my teen years. I didn’t have many friends. I was bullied. My parents would tell me that my problems were not important, I would “grow out of them”. I stopped talking to them. I fought long and hard to overcome my suicidality. I am now 57. I have a wonderful bond with my 25 year old son. I never hid my struggles from him. I can confirm what this video says: invest time and effort in your children. Don’t hide your struggles from them. It will pay off. When my son comes with his struggles I listen. He has suicidal tendencies. He knows he can always come to me. I drop everything and listen. He is stille here. I thank God for that. ❤️🇳🇱

[@ThatKanaks]

I onced tried to open up and they didn't think I was serious. They thought it was another joke. Then I left class because I found out my best friend killed himself and I told my teacher I felt too depressed to stay. My parents come home and barged in my room and basically interrogated me and I felt so uneasy and unsafe in my own room. To all the parents that read this, please treat depressed teens with compassion.

[@lisuki128]

Im so sorry for your loss! Wish u the best..

[@okplay9446]

Hey bro, stay strong out there, I know it's hard when you can't share your struggles with someone else, but try to seek out help and understanding, and remember that there are people who value you more that they appear to

[@firemaster2191]

Hey, I’m spreading the word about this, because it kind of changed my life and I hope it helps, because it may feel like you have no one you can trust, nobody you can talk to, nobody to open your feeling up to, but let me tell you something. I took a risk once. When I was at my lowest. I’m so glad I did. I felt like nobody I knew cared about me and that when I died I would die having no friends. But what did see, was I took a risk, I opened myself up to a discord group one time, and it was a moment I still haven’t forgotten, because at the time I felt like I had nobody left. But they actually cared about me. People, who I had barely even talked to before, actually cared about me, they didn’t know who I was, what I looked like, or whether or not anything I was saying was true, but they helped me, encouraged me, and most importantly, they acknowledged me and listened. The internet is a wonderful thing because it has made humanity so much more connected than ever. We have grown to hate more, but we can empathize more too. Someone will listen to you, and if you need I can as well if you like.

[@daphenomenalz4100]

If you are a jolly person like me, who jokes all the time😶, your parents will of course think you are joking. Not considering it happens with you, but when i speak something i make fun of myself 😂, though i don't feel bad, it's within the family and love within it is more important. If they are not understanding, then it leave you with the responsibility to understand your mistakes and your family, just don't feel seperated with your family.

[@Polyglot_English]

Determinism is Freedom 🤙🤙

[@VikingerOnYT]

As someone that is struggling myself, this video hurt on another level.

[@Nero_PR]

Stay strong man, but if you think you need help try your best to get some your own way. Don't force yourself in going with this pain all alone to keep the appearances like I do because you are too concerned about bothering others with your own personal life struggles and problems. Keep it up!

[@geonite2072]

I know how you feel friend. Life is just one disappointment after another. People judge me all the time. I have a dream career in mind but I have low self-esteem. I'm plagued everyday by the thought of any bad that could happen.

[@AnaLuisa-bm3vc]

Same. I started bawling my eyes out when I thought I was going to watch just one more video before trying to sleep

[@gd8839]

Hope you're feeling better, if you're struggling, ring some helplines. Imagine how kind you would be if your friend was feeling the way you do and be kind, really kind, to yourself 💖💗

[@simonb2991]

@Vikinger hey man, I know I am a stranger but if you want to talk to someone just send me a message pls! Even if its just for a view minutes (And I am serious)

[@marthavalle4392]

Thank you for sharing this with us. I had lost two people near in my life and it was devastating, not being able to see the signs of pain in them. I work in the healthcare and it’s sad our own coworkers make fun or they look at those with mental health issues without empathy. Mental awareness is very important to avoid this type of tragedy. Thank you again, your work is not in vain.