My Story About Leaving The Amish Culture

This is part one of me sharing my story of leaving the Amish culture at the age of seventeen. The journey of leaving the Amish community at such a young age was not easy but I being raised in the Amish community also taught me a lot of thing that I would not know today.
Although the path is not always I hope my story inspires you to keep believing in yourself and keep going regardless of what obstacles stand in your way!
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[@EmilyAdams_]

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[@jamesburke5709]

These people who are talking down to you are sinning themselves because it clearly says that judge as you want to be judged and ye who lives without sin can cast the first stone too and as far as the clothing issues there it clearly states in the bible says come as you are too it doesn't say that you have to dress like them either and I'm proud to hear that you have leaft them too now idk that they were like that here either okay have a great day now

[@EmilyAdams_]

@@jamesburke5709 thank you for your kind words. The way I see it is a choice to send them love.

[@jamesburke5709]

@@EmilyAdams_ np okay

[@EmilyAdams_]

@@jamesburke5709 I always appreciate the support I get!

[@EmilyAdams_]

@Lara Gravenor the materialistic things don't matter at the same time we shouldn't live with rules around it of that makes sense. God isn't going to care whether you have electricity or not 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@roxanagonzalez4928]

I just happened to find you WHAT A STORY! I too left my house because I lived under ridiculous rules, extremely strict father and a very jealous dominating stepmother, I was burned from studying all of my life (pre med) I had a boyfriend they hardly let me see, I couldn’t go anywhere. He asked me to marry him, my dad said no, I didn’t have his blessing and he wouldn’t go to my wedding, I was heartbroken he was the world to me. I didn’t speak to him for two years. I left eloped and we have been married 41 years. I’m so happy I found you

[@EmilyAdams_]

It sounds like you have an incredible story! Proud of you for following your heart!

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[@user-vi3jd7mm1k]

Would like to hear more about ur dad and sm.

[@seankingwell3692]

He was your external connection to the divine, True Love always is :) You found your way to Christ. The best way to deal with fake Christians, is to be a True Christian. When God closes a door, he always opens a window :) God bless you all.

[@taravelarde9728]

Girl. This is nuts. It's like you're telling everyone about my life story, like, exactly. I can't even say how much it means for someone else to have the courage to say it all. Thank you. You are brave, brave, brave. In it with you sister - it hurts a lot, and always will, but it's so much better isn't it? You did it.

[@EmilyAdams_]

Thank you for your kind words! It is all definitely worth it in the end!

[@seankingwell3692]

Its hard to connect to the divine with too much limitations organized society at large is not very different from the strictness of the Amish just different rules often adding up to much insanity. Are you really "leaving the Amish" or are you just following Gods calling to "spread the Amish" elsewhere into the world where you now live by personifying the best aspects of your culture to connect to those who never grew up in it? When God closes a door he always opens a window :) God bless you all :)

[@joannamiller9446]

My jaw literally dropped when I heard they burned your journals. How horrible. How heartbreaking.

[@seankingwell3692]

fear and self preservation serves only half the need, however, with all these people starting new communities with different rules that are merging societies together something magic is happening. There is definately good things about Amish culture to, and if you truly understand the horrors of war and statecraft you would know. Plus, there is toxic contracts I believe are held with at least some Amish councils with governments, its relation to Bureau of Land Management agreements with the cults of power similar to all other communities experiencing human trafficking. This is because THERE IS NO CITY RESERVE OR TOWN in the country without the influence of the Masonhood global government apparatus that just gets to live and left alone without PAYING RENT. So, lots of vulnerable children in reserves easy to snatch and rack up a big reputation red flags etc. The babies out of wedlock, as far as I understand they get trusted to agencies to adopt out in the cities not in the community, its done in secret, which allows for trafficking to go unnoticed. I have been at this stuff for a long time surviving childhood youth and adulthood in Ontario and the trafficking is organized by CIA and CSIS drugs to.

[@vm4890]

Moving hurts in all cultures. Having a voice in where you go and what you do is very important. It leads to anger when things are done to us without choice yet we are not able to find a way to survive away from that situation.

[@TheWynch]

My Grandmother was AnaBabtist, I remember how strict she was, when I visited her I had to abide by her rules. I had to wear dresses to my anlkes, cover my head and arms. She had no electric or running water in the house. It drove me nuts, I had lived in the real world and just didn't understand why she had to be so strict.

[@EmilyAdams_]

It is definitely challenging to understand!

[@karstent.66]

Ich habe erst jetzt den Rest deines Videos gesehen. Du hast alles richtig gemacht! I just saw the rest of your video right now. You did everything in the right way! Ich hätte in einer solch strengen religiösen Umgebung schon spätestens mit 8 Probleme bekommen. In such a strict religious community, I would have run into problems so much earlier. before my 10th birthday. Ich habe immer schon viele Fragen gestellt. I always asked questions. Luckily, my family was never member of any church or religion - and so am I. But just as an adult I can fully appreciate this freedom, as I can say what I think - no religion can tell me what I shall say. I love your videos! I hope you will be a successful KZbinr in the very near future! Followr your heart, your inner voice. And you will be good!

[@EmilyAdams_]

Thank you for your kind words!

[@nancyk3615]

I'm glad you didn't hurt yourself when you jumped ! You are very brave!

[@EmilyAdams_]

Same! Thank you!

[@MICKEYISLOWD]

I watched the Leaving Amish series and when Maureen first saw the Ocean and beach her face lit up with awe. She said it was the greatest day of her life. It made me cry because they never experienced the world and missed out on everything. Every Amish person that decides to leave is a huge asset to the world.

[@EmilyAdams_]

The interesting thing is Leaving The Amish series doesn't really tell the truth or the reality of it all.

[@MICKEYISLOWD]

@@EmilyAdams_ I know it was produced and edited. I imagine leaving your community is extremely hard.

[@EmilyAdams_]

@@MICKEYISLOWD it was challenging but also made me who I am today.

[@rkeppel4243]

Some Amish take vacations and travel more than I have in my 70 years of life. I do realize that there are different economic levels in the Amish just as the English, so not all families are able to travel.

[@sandyb2391]

thank you for being brave enough to share part of your story, can't wait to hear the rest and so sorry you had to go through that. i have never belonged to any religion except family. wishing you all the best for all you are doing with your life. love love love

[@EmilyAdams_]

Thank you for your kind words 💖

[@sandyb2391]

@@EmilyAdams_ your so welcome and so happy you were able to make choices in your life eventually. your mind thought was not part of their process. its that simple. happy life for you no matter what you do. love love love

[@EmilyAdams_]

@@sandyb2391 I'm thankful my thought process wasn't that way either!

[@firetom911]

So sorry to hear what you have gone through but same time glad you did the cut off finally. God bless you and I wish you all the best of luck for your future life. Respect 👍 Tom from Vienna /Austria 🇦🇹

[@EmilyAdams_]

Thank you 💖 it's never easy but always worth it

[@CaseyCam]

This is so familiar to my experience being raised Mormon and then finally finding my way out as an adult. I’m so grateful that we both have been able to break free and create authentic happy lives for ourselves 💕

[@EmilyAdams_]

I'm proud of you for having the courage to do so 💞

[@solodad7999]

Having grown up in Utah as a heathen, I've enjoyed watching the few mormons who could actually look outside their imposed fantasy world and struggle with reality, then make the step to see the real world.

[@EmilyAdams_]

@@solodad7999 it's an interesting transition for sure.

[@violetangelflame1]

Casey, im sorry you had to go through this. You may not want to talk to me but I do understand where you didm it't have a choice. I am Mormon, but I f respect your decision. I course to be Mormon through. Actually, I was treated this way when I was one of Jehovah's Witnesses. And when I left I lost every friends I had. I do support you choosing what you wanted. I dunt think it is right to make someone choose something they don't want. I hope like this woman you have a good relationship with your family if you can.

[@snapmalloy5556]

That jump was figuratively and literally the longest jump you ever made. You deserve happiness! I hope you have found it

[@EmilyAdams_]

I have! Thank you!

[@zoeytrapper]

Can’t wait for part 2.

[@EmilyAdams_]

Part 2 is posted under leaving a toxic marriage

[@haleystraw8207]

We are literally driving home right now from Harrison Valley, Pennsylvania. A young man in our community left the Amish with his brother, he came back and immediately his fathe (very heavy-handed, also the bishop of the community) got him treatments. It's like his father thought he needed to have whatever in him that desired to be English gitten out of his mind somehow. I've seen that a lot as the driver of the Amish . I love your candidness and your passion! So many people just don't understand or believe that life isn't always sunshine and rainbows being Amish.

[@EmilyAdams_]

Thanks for watching and engaging in my content and for sharing your perspective!

[@noemikovacs4975]

Wow, it was such a good, informative yet emotional video. I had really different thoughts about Amish people, I thought these communities are very simple and strict but also loving and supporting. Thank you for sharing this!

[@EmilyAdams_]

Your welcome. Thank you for listening and watching!

[@vchafab]

Every Amish is different. The one I was raised in was very loving but it was something I didn’t want for my life. I still talk and visit with my family. I visit them yearly, they are in Indiana, where as I am in California. Actually with everything going on, I sometimes long for the simple, hard working life.

[@EmilyAdams_]

@@vchafab what kind where you raised in?

[@TheLizardKing1967]

Hi Emily, I am Swiss German, Non-Amish and live in South Carolina.... Love your Channel! New Sub! God Bless you!!

[@EmilyAdams_]

Thank you for the support and welcome!

[@cupcakestormy171]

Emily this video made me cry! It’s sooo sad and scary living there!! I’m soo proud of u and happy for u how much u accomplished!! U r sooo strong!! U r amazing! Love u and keep up your amazing videos! ❤️❤️

[@EmilyAdams_]

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[@cupcakestormy171]

@@EmilyAdams_ Thank u love u

[@chrissybarr7508]

You must be a strong woman I admire you for telling your story as it can’t be easy love from 🇬🇧 uk

[@EmilyAdams_]

It's never easy but always worth it!

[@sarahweaver7299]

I feel like you are telling part of my story, how I felt trapped,my dairies, etc...thank you for sharing

[@EmilyAdams_]

Thank you for listening! I hope you have found healing and peace. Always here to support 💗

[@123456BobJackson]

OMG! your making a grown man cry with such a profound life story. NEVER give up girl

[@EmilyAdams_]

Thank you for your kind words 💖 I will never give up!

[@sharonmontoliu6573]

You are such a strong young women and should be very proud of yourself. thank you

[@peteacher52]

From one who spent 30 years in a rather restrictive sect, asking questions beyond a certain point and using an inquiring mind was frowned on. We used technology and all the usual trappings of modernity, but the rules and regulations were cloying for many members. I completely empathise with and relate to you.

[@EmilyAdams_]

The restrictions don't do any good it just makes things worse.

[@Iris-yp8mw]

You are such a brave soul even at your young age. My best wishes for you.

[@EmilyAdams_]

Thank you for your kind words 💖

[@lizakroberts]

You are such a good storyteller!!! And now I need to watch part 2! thank you for sharing your story. I always idealized the Amish culture and I feel like the modern world has so much to learn from a culture that puts family and a more simple ways of life first, but I’m learning more and more just how oppressive it can be.

[@EmilyAdams_]

Thank you for your kind words!

[@sharynhughes1061]

Hi.! Emily!!! Listening to your Story..You have the Courage!! to standup for yourself as a Human Being. Well Done!!!

[@EmilyAdams_]

Thank you for your kind words 💖

[@leannakeim2465]

Oh my how I feel you. This brought my issue back. It was a terrible what I went through. This made me cry. I’m so sorry what you went through.

[@EmilyAdams_]

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[@margaretschaefer9786]

Wow you're an amazing woman! Looking forward to hearing part two!

[@EmilyAdams_]

Part two is posted in the comment that is pinned. 🙂

[@margaretschaefer9786]

@@EmilyAdams_ Thank you!

[@ryanm7249]

Thanks for sharing and I am going to listen to part 2! I am an Orthodox Christian, and our services can be long also. But I love them and love singing in the choir. A normal Sunday for us is about an hour and a half unless something special is happening like a higherarcal visit or a holiday. Pascha (AKA Easter) is the longest service being 4 hours. But again, I love it!

[@EmilyAdams_]

I am glad you found something that make you happy 🙂

[@mruggier0]

Although this video is very old, I just found this channel and had to comment. The pain you l felt telling your story is raw. The tears are streaming down your beautiful face. So glad you followed your dream despite obstacles you encountered.

[@EmilyAdams_]

Thank you for your kind words!

[@rosezimmerman3821]

A video produced a year ago is very old? 😕

[@prettyredengine]

I came across this video while studying Amish culture. I just want to say you're amazing! New subbie 😊

[@EmilyAdams_]

Thank you for your kind words!! I appreciate the support.

[@pittschapelfarm2844]

You're such a great story teller! Hard lessons, no? Freedom costs so much, though, and you never know till you pay. I shall listen to Part II!

[@EmilyAdams_]

The freedom is always worth it!

[@taylorcamille5493]

"You can't go to Heaven if you leave the culture" Where in the Bible does it say that only Amish people go to Heaven? 😅

[@EmilyAdams_]

Exactly 🤷🏽‍♀️😂

[@sharonspencer2312]

No where. Heaven is for those who repent of their sins, turn away from them, and believe in their heart that Jesus is God come in the flesh who died to pay for our sins & we then confess to others that we believe he is who he says he is. This is not just head knowledge. for it is with the heart (spiritual) that we believe & with the mouth we confess.

[@DarDarBinks1986]

I'm one of the biggest atheists you'll ever meet. Last time I read the Buybull, it didn't say that only Amish Luddites went to heaven. Shunning people for not following the Ordnung is NOT what Jesus would do. He welcomed the stranger, hung out with sinners, clothed and fed the poor, you name it.

[@EmilyAdams_]

@@DarDarBinks1986 yeah it's their belief and I don't buy into it.

[@jturner2577]

@@EmilyAdams_ There a cult. Plain and Simple.

[@davidhellwege9773]

Although I was not Amish, I left a rules oriented conservative cul- like religion many years ago, and I have never looked back. My only question is why it took me so long, but I know the answer to that, it was raw, naked fear. Today, I know that any person or organization that can control your feelings can control your mind. People in a cult desperately want you to stay and will do and say anything to make you stay, because your leaving invalidates the feelings of those who choose to live in the safety of their gossip chamber of judgment. Jacques Cousteau once said something that helped me, perhaps it will mean to you what it does to me. " The conquering of fear, is the beginning of wisdom." I have found that to be true, and you will too.

[@EmilyAdams_]

Very true! Fear is a feeling like any other feeling

[@christineprice5463]

I am glad you were able to think this through. God is love and forgiving.

[@EmilyAdams_]

Thank you for your kind words.

[@atunis5804]

I grew up and am familiar with the Amish..You are a pretty and interesting storyteller. Keep the videos coming!

[@EmilyAdams_]

Thank you for your kind words and I will definitely keep sharing videos each week!

[@glennz6686]

I have a similar background but I'm now an atheist. I've been detached from all organized religion for 20 years. The best move I ever made. #freethinker

[@MrPaultopp]

Fantastic, laws( bibles) etc etc are written by man.. I know right from wrong and I do my best for my family or strangers... Mother Nature always wins Atheism all the way and I don’t need to justify it because I’m happy and hurt no one

[@Sheila612Miller]

@@MrPaultopp it's better to be Egnostic (to not know) then to be Atheist (just don't believe at all) because eternity is a very long time and if there is heaven then you have a chance but being Atheist is turning against God and you won't have a chance.

[@EmilyAdams_]

You can choose to believe in whatever you want.

[@EmilyAdams_]

Whatever you feel is right for you then do that. Each person has their own beliefs and feelings and that is the amazing thing about choice. We all get to choose what we want to believe in.

[@NotUnymous]

@@Sheila612Miller that Logic only make sense If you belive in a god tho... It's like answering the question "do you belive in a invisible purple Elefant living in your house" with "I dont know, maybe he's there" 😛

[@queenkoniljh]

Wowwww !! Emily such a powerful story ❤️

[@EmilyAdams_]

Thank you thank you 🙏🏼

[@davidvanbrunt4233]

You did real good kid , ALL the best in Life ....you deserve it !!!!

[@EmilyAdams_]

Thank you!!

[@kimmyfenn6313]

I really enjoyed your first video and searched high and low for part two but can’t find it 🤷🏻‍♀️. Tenacity is a god given gift 🙏🏽☮️✝️

[@EmilyAdams_]

Here's the link to it kzbin.info/www/bejne/Z4a7f3Z8dtKaZpo

[@BrunoWiebelt]

thank you for your story!

[@EmilyAdams_]

Thank you for listening and engaging!

[@bakerwannabe4435]

Thank you for sharing your story, Emily. I’m so sorry that you went through this.

[@EmilyAdams_]

It made me who I am today 💖

[@bakerwannabe4435]

@@EmilyAdams_ very healthy way to look at it. Which video is the part 2 of this episode, please?

[@EmilyAdams_]

@@bakerwannabe4435 here you go kzbin.info/www/bejne/Z4a7f3Z8dtKaZpo

[@bakerwannabe4435]

@@EmilyAdams_ thank you. I watched them and I’m blown away- you are amazing and an inspiration to me and I’m sure, so many others.

[@EmilyAdams_]

@@bakerwannabe4435 thank you for your kindness.

[@kathywilliams2685]

Sorry for your pain .God bless

[@EmilyAdams_]

Thank you! Without pain I wouldn't know victory.

[@hyalasilverkin2891]

I am an Indy native as well... subscribed. Great story.

[@EmilyAdams_]

Thank you!

[@Lyleartist]

Listening to why you left the Amish gives me understand. Thank you.

[@EmilyAdams_]

Your welcome!

[@loren58]

Wow so sorry for all you went through. So Sad .

[@EmilyAdams_]

It's okay, it made me who I am today 🙂 I get to help others who are struggling with challenges in their life

[@alwaysabob8962]

This was a hard story to tell. Good on you for knowing yourself.

[@EmilyAdams_]

Yes it was but I also know it can help others.

[@sarahko2014]

Do you know of the KZbin channel The Amish Potato? I've really enjoyed seeing his videos about how he left the Amish and found peace with God~☆

[@EmilyAdams_]

I have not heard of that.

[@annehoyle3581]

@@EmilyAdams_ it's a great channel!!!

[@chantemichelle888]

@@EmilyAdams_ Girl, you gotta check out the Amish Potato. I like his discernment on the gospel and how the Amish get it wrong - unfortunately. But yeah, check him out. 🙂👍🏼

[@EmilyAdams_]

@@chantemichelle888 I'll have to check it out!

[@ebonyrenna]

I love the channel Montana Haven. They are ex Amish, now just Christian but they still appreciate their Amish heritage.

[@fredstevens7039]

Thank you for your story.

[@EmilyAdams_]

Thank you for watching and engaging!

[@mariarooney6262]

You are a very brave woman. The hardest thing to be when there is so much fear that blinds us. “Be brave and courageous” is what the Bible tells us and you are. I know because I chose to be a coward. Not with Amish but in my Christian life. I can not imagine you having to go through anything harder, but I haven’t heard the part 2 yet. Thank you for sharing your life, it will help many people. ❤️

[@EmilyAdams_]

Thank you for your kind words! And yes we are called to be brave and courageous.

[@susangenry6497]

God is love! Glad you had this insight.

[@dandyegharevba1903]

I am so blessed listening to your story. You started it and ended it with a smile on your face. I am thrilled by it. Send me the link for the second part of your story, please.

[@lvin9632]

She pinned the link at the top of this comment section 🙂

[@laurieberry162]

Nice haircut Emily. I love blonde hair. Your fellow blonde here saying that I appreciate your story. Thank you for sharing.

[@northerngirl4924]

What horrible treatment, I’m so impressed with your strength and determination.❤️

[@EmilyAdams_]

Thank you for your kind words. It made me who I am today.💖

[@Jen.E]

Wow, Your story could be a movie. You should write book about it. I look forward to part 2.

[@EmilyAdams_]

Thank you for your kind words. Part two is posted in a pinned comment under this video. I'm in the middle of writing a book and definitely want to do a movie.

[@jackienaiditch7965]

I just came across your video. You're incredibly articulate, by the way. I can't imagine the courage it took for you to break away from the Amish community. Your story was compelling and heartbreaking at the same time--especially what I'd call the betrayal by your parents, when they read and burned your journals. I am wondering about one thing. I thought that at age 16, Amish adolescents engaged in a rite of passage called Rumspringa, where they were encouraged to go out and explore the outside world. Did you not do this? Thanks for sharing your experience. It reminds me of the experience of the Jewish Orthodox woman depicted in the Netflix movie "Unorthodox."

[@EmilyAdams_]

You don't get the age at 16 to do so. I explain that in this video. kzbin.info/www/bejne/boXFkqCkgdmeb5o

[@maximusstrength157]

Loved the video! You decided to use your brain and question the status quo, kudos to you!!

[@EmilyAdams_]

Thank you for you kind words.

[@marinazablit]

Emily - you are absolutely, positively one of the most courageous woman I know- and I am Lebanese 😀😀😀 I have no idea why your channel was on my feed, but I am glad it is. My first ever Amish encounter was when I did 1000 pieces of puzzle 🧩 with the Amish country. Than, I started watching Amish reality shows- you are a beautiful soul and I am following you for sure 🥰🥰

[@EmilyAdams_]

Thank you for your beautiful words! Don't believe everything you watch on the Amish reality shows 🤣 not all of it is true.

[@marinazablit]

@@EmilyAdams_ I believe you - I hope everything that is portrayed is not true - otherwise, the drama alone can harm you. Well, after 28 years being in an extreme abusive relationship myself, from threatened to be killed after he kills my son, or if I leave him - I will have to leave my son after he had convinced us to move to Dubai - he always said: you can leave anytime you wish, but my son will be kept there. It was a constant mental, emotional and super abusive so called marriage. I feel every word you say, yes, you are an amazing beautiful person- yes, you deserve to be have and have pea ce of mind that we all need to be able to get out of bed… every morning 🥰🥰🥰

[@EmilyAdams_]

@@marinazablit I hope you were able to get out of that situation safely!

[@marinazablit]

@@EmilyAdams_ yes broken, shook myself bit, thank God I have very strong blessed family who just made it all ok. 🥰🥰🥰🙏

[@EmilyAdams_]

@@marinazablit I'm proud of you for pulling through it! You are never broken 💖 you are whole and it's just learning and growing.

[@smurph4959]

Wow Emily! Go you 💪💪 I really admire your determination to go with your gut instinct!!! I can't even imagine what it would be like to go up against all you've known ... But excellent choice on not giving away your energy on pointless verbal debates 💗 I really hope your family and friends could found a way to stay in touch 💗💗💗 Emily my parents are controlling but that's a whole other level of control ... Must be nice wearing any socks you like now 🌼🌸🌼

[@EmilyAdams_]

Thank you for your kind words! And yes to wearing any kind of socks!

[@smurph4959]

@@EmilyAdams_ ... I can't even imagine how freeing it was just to choose things for yourself 💗 I find the residue of the control can be hard to shift ... but not impossible 💗🌼💗

[@EmilyAdams_]

@@smurph4959 it is really challenging but definitely can be done.

[@NYMusic89563]

You tube recommended you today 😊 I subbed

[@EmilyAdams_]

Thank you! I appreciate the support 😊

[@jillgott6567]

I am also a fan of the channel " Growing Up In Polygamy" the strength to make important life changes as a teenager takes a great amount of fortitude. Good for you to take your life in your hands.

[@EmilyAdams_]

I'll have to check that out

[@luannknepp9078]

You are so brave ❤️

[@EmilyAdams_]

Thank you!!

[@maximac222]

What a story! Your courage is inspriational. Your exasperation as a person, even at such a young age, motivated you for a long time. Your parents never viewed you as a person hence your seeking validation elsewhere.

[@EmilyAdams_]

I am grateful I was able to overcome the validation phase and be able to now validate myself and not seek it in people or things.

[@terrychittam945]

Bless You Sweet Sister❤❤

[@EmilyAdams_]

💖💖

[@douglasthompson9482]

Thank you for sharing your story. I really believe the Amish culture is very high integrity based. I do support the Amish and support this wonderful group of citizens. I wish that I was Amish.

[@EmilyAdams_]

What about it is appealing to you?

[@ricecristi]

Wow! Thank you for sharing. We need a foundation of safe houses for people (usually young people or abused people☹️) leaving the Amish/cults. There’s got to be a way to help kids like you who want out.

[@EmilyAdams_]

I have thought the same thing!

[@brucepedersen4032]

It is hard to leave. They make it that way. I am still angry that some family members do not accept my choice to change the situation. Can you relate Emily ?

[@EmilyAdams_]

Yes I can relate. I had to learn to forgive. It's not easy but worth it!

[@aprilrobertson8081]

Hi, you are so strong! You have came a long ways ❤️. I was just wondering, you said you have a good relationship with your parents now, I was wondering if you have a video about that I could not find one 😊

[@EmilyAdams_]

I don't have a video of it. I am getting ready to do a Q & A if you have questions feel free to comment with them and I'll cover them.

[@aprilrobertson8081]

@@EmilyAdams_ perfect, I was just wondering how you got in touch with them again and how that went 😊

[@EmilyAdams_]

@@aprilrobertson8081 I can cover that 🙂

[@AD-mw5mv]

so glad you saw reality at such a young age and had the courage and strength to free yourself.

[@EmilyAdams_]

Me too!

[@doddnejadfard3251]

God,,that is so sad you had to go through that,,,

[@EmilyAdams_]

It made me who I am today and I learned a lot of lessons.

[@MommyKnowsBest]

So cool to learn more about the Amish Community! Check out our interview with former Amish, Lizzie Ens, who pursued her dream of becoming a health coach! ❤

[@EmilyAdams_]

I'll have to check it out

[@willwipf7030]

You a tough lady ,fear of the unknown was never a problem with me ,I'm known as the Russian rebel from my growing up days ,I was wild as a mountain lion never feared anything still don't,so you are my little Amish rebel wear that badge with pride ,l do god bless you!

[@EmilyAdams_]

Definitely learned to face the fear and keep going 🙌🏽

[@hannahb2383]

Hearing this made me cry 😭😭😭

[@EmilyAdams_]

It made me who I am 💖

[@NYMusic89563]

Them burning your diary is a metaphor for the way the felt about your thoughts and feelings.

[@EmilyAdams_]

Very much so....

[@tedtimmis8135]

Very moving story. As a parent, I know your parents did what they did because they love you. I hope that your departure fro the Amish culture didn’t mean a departure from your faith.

[@EmilyAdams_]

Yes I know they did the best they knew how to do. And I still have Faith but more spiritual and not religious.

[@debsmith7460]

Lack of grace is not a characteristic of the God I know. Only of imperfect people who are not reflecting God's image. God is all about 2nd chances, forgiveness and redemption. I hope you remember the Bible and know that truth! Thanks for sharing your story!

[@EmilyAdams_]

@@debsmith7460 thank you for watching and engaging!

[@prettylady995]

I always wondered if there were buggy accidents so sorry you lost a friend. I don’t know if there is a perfect culture.Life is difficult. My husband parents took him out of his favorite school and moved also. They didn’t care about his opinion. Things can happen in any culture.It was very difficult for me without family when I was young. So it’s hard no matter what your background is. Love your podcast!

[@EmilyAdams_]

Thank you for sharing!

[@roses609]

You are very brave person

[@BryBergilicious]

Great video

[@EmilyAdams_]

Thank you!

[@jmiller1977]

Awesome ! From a fellow Escapee !

[@EmilyAdams_]

Haha yes!

[@susangenry6497]

Your story is fascinating and so interesting. Bless you. You lived your own suffering. Try to rewrite as much as you can remember from this point on.

[@EmilyAdams_]

Definitely writing things differently!!

[@mariannedressler6784]

I went to school with some Amish kids. Some of them left their community. I remember how big of a deal it was for them as boys. Can’t even imagine what you went through as a woman. Bless you. I hope you have found some peace. Looking forward to part 2. I’m pretty sure God will allow you into heaven without black socks 😘

[@EmilyAdams_]

Thank you for your kind words. Part two is in the pinned comment 🙂

[@pattiupton1499]

I think it's interesting most just don't question, just follow as that is all they have ever known/been told. I'm with you, God doesn't care what color your socks are, your exact hairstyle or dress style/color. He cares about your heart. I'm sure the Amish as a whole are good people and mean well. All these rules are almost cult like IMO. Glad you are now living your best life!!

[@EmilyAdams_]

Thank you for your kind words.

[@kathywilliams2685]

Glad you are happy now

[@EmilyAdams_]

Thank you for your kind words.

[@sharonmontoliu6573]

I like what you say about God is love and not blame. I feel that too. In Africa there is a tribe that when someone does something wrong etc, they would sit in circle and and all would talk about the good thing, attributes of a person instead of blame.

[@EmilyAdams_]

That is awesome that they do this

[@michaelgarcia8293]

Have u seen Peter santenello videos ?? He just made some interviewing some Amish people in Ohio I’m from Ohio too originally but now I stay in Texas Ohio is beautiful wouldn’t trade my growing up experience for anything but I’m glad you wanted more for yourself sometimes though the way the world is going especially now in days and according to the Bible it’s not gonna get any better as far as the world goes but anyway I enjoyed your video it’s interesting learning about other cultures

[@buzuxi]

Her rant sounds like a typical American teen, lol.

[@EmilyAdams_]

@michael gracia I haven't seen it. @buzuxi hold your judgement if you didn't live someone else life. Let me be very clear you don't know the whole story nor do I expect you to understand the challenging life it was. Then again no one sits here and tells you what to watch and not watch.

[@gliderider7077]

When I pass Amish homes and I see the young children out working and being so quiet and obedient, I feel bad for them not allowed to be a little child. Your story is very intriguing and interesting to hear the other side.

[@EmilyAdams_]

It is definitely sad and as an adult to be able to start having a voice and speaking up is also challenging because of past programming.

[@gliderider7077]

@@EmilyAdams_ I’m certain you have a great deal of struggles with the old programming, but dang you sure are a survivor and it’s great to see. As a veteran Police Officer, I deal with so many battered woman and men, I’m going to recommend them to read your story and witness your transformation. You will be a great motivator for them. Keep up the amazing work and stay strong 💪

[@EmilyAdams_]

@@gliderider7077 thank you for your kind words! This is one of the many reasons why I am writing my book and sharing my story!

[@RockinRavenVA]

It's not like this for all Amish children. I have many Old Order Amish friends in PA and their children have lots of time to play and have fun every day.

[@joostdriesens3984]

@@RockinRavenVA Yes, I think for most younger children it is ok. The discipline is strict, but they have many siblings, outside to play, animals etc. And it sounds school is easy? 😅

[@SF-ru3lp]

Thank you for sharing your story Emily. The oppressive legalism is crushing on one's spirit. Well done. God bless you. G Ire

[@EmilyAdams_]

Thank you 💓

[@myamishheritage6426]

I grew up New Order Order Amish. I find it interesting that you say Amish is not a religion. I would definitely say it's a religion. Even though it is also a culture.

[@EmilyAdams_]

I believe it is more of a cult versus a religion but that's my personal belief. Religion or cult it doesn't matter it's still unhealthy and not a good way to live life.

[@gailwentz8296]

I just found your channel and wondered if you still make Amish type food.

[@EmilyAdams_]

I do occasionally

[@michelekobayashi890]

thank you for sharing. I am Catholic but don't always follow the EXACT rules, but rather my relationship with God Michele in Yokohama, Japan💜💙💚💛🧡

[@EmilyAdams_]

Good for you for following what you desire!

[@michelekobayashi890]

@@EmilyAdams_ I am 60 years old & have been living in Yokohama Japan for nearly 36 years. Japanese people are somewhat like the Amish: conformists over here. When one does not "do as the group" one is shunned. I dared to be "me" & ended up having it tough. I have never regretted coming here nor being myself. What an adventure life has turned out to be!

[@EmilyAdams_]

@@michelekobayashi890 that is incredible! I know how much strength and bravery it takes to do so.

[@michelekobayashi890]

@@EmilyAdams_ I am not strong; I just have relied on God. God alone sees me through everything!

[@EmilyAdams_]

@@michelekobayashi890 that's awesome but you are still STRONG in God 🙂

[@paulpochan9631]

Thanks...... similar to some of my experiences being raised a strict Catholic.....

[@EmilyAdams_]

I have heard that about Catholic several times

[@paulpochan9631]

@@EmilyAdams_ ...Yes too many "rules"..... especially when I was told in grade school that all my non-catholic friends were going to "burn in hell"....kinda messed me up.....

[@EmilyAdams_]

@@paulpochan9631 yes that is very messed up and I know the feeling! I experienced the same thing. I hope you found peace and happiness!

[@awilson816aw]

If you all don't learn geometry, how in the world do you build that super awesome furniture?? I mean I get reading a tape measure but there is insane craftsmanship in the things you all build!

[@EmilyAdams_]

A lot of this is taught from generation to generation. Also just because it has the "Amish made" label on it doesn't necessarily mean that it's built by them.

[@mariahostetler6984]

Our school teaches geometry. I would say most Amish do

[@north40lady98]

Trauma bonding. We find narcissistic mates that do the same thing to us through trauma bonding which feels familiar to our experiences as children. Our childhoods always reflect as adults

[@EmilyAdams_]

Trauma bonding for sure!

[@helferockfarmhomestead9323]

Have you posted part 2 yet?

[@EmilyAdams_]

Yes part two is posted under Leaving Toxic Marriage

[@sugewhitejacoby8654]

I went through your Playlist and don't see a part 2? Did you make one?

[@EmilyAdams_]

Here is part two kzbin.info/www/bejne/Z4a7f3Z8dtKaZpo

[@emeych3084]

Hi Emily I enjoyed your video very much. I have a few questions if you dont mind. Ive always wondered how do the Amish view Black People? Were there any Black People in your community? Would a Black Person be allowed to join the community?

[@EmilyAdams_]

I don't mind any questions 🙂 There were no black people or any other race in the community. We were always taught race didn't matter we should still always show love regardless of the race. There is a process you have to go through to join their community regardless of your race or gender.

[@TexasHomesteaders]

You're right. It's a CULTure. Glad you got out.

[@EmilyAdams_]

Thank you for engaging!

[@catmom1322]

You are very pretty!

[@EmilyAdams_]

Thank you

[@randyheath8566]

Good for you 👍

[@EmilyAdams_]

🙌🏼

[@Getlostandwander]

I've never experienced an Amish culture that had church every Sunday and didn't allow Rumspringa. That sounds intense. Sadly though, I've never experienced any community, whether through church, homeschooling, just living in a small town, etc... that didn't have that same interfering/gossiping atmosphere though. It certainly isn't specific to the Amish. It makes me sad.

[@EmilyAdams_]

Yes I know it's not specific to the Amish and it does happen in other communities.