My Team Doesn’t Trust Me Because I’m Young

[@zachblackburn5149]

The first call was definitely meant for me to hear. 23 and I have 5 direct reports, 3 of which are 25-40 years older than me. Have had the same struggles (Work in the food business). Thankful for the Entreleadership podcast!

[@marshall1068]

It's very possible that you are projecting your own opinions onto those older employees. Competency is the only thing that matters. The employees may feel jealous, because you're young, but if you're an expert, that's all that matters.

[@willleslie2745]

1. Grow a beard if you can 2. Go to the gym and get fit and muscles if you're not already (grows confidence and stance and room presence, also, its what men need to do.) 3. Find ways to raise your competency and confidence

[@NSER164]

⁠@@willleslie2745lol! Its true actually! I also find that just making yourself an apsolute expert and work harder than everyone els and that will build confidence and true confidence commands respect.

[@XboxSpecialist]

Contrary to popular belief , I think you should be clean shaven . Dead cells aka hair is gross .

[@ajalicea1091]

That is how my son works his business. In fact the older gentleman that helps a lot my son used to work for him and took over his business. He said that this gentleman is so full of experience and wisdom. He calls him his right hand man. Unfortunately some of his ex-employees he had to let go because they did not appreciate the fact that this older gentleman was listen to more than them. Yeah they could not come up with a better situation.

[@j.o.2359]

22:47 to 23:16 - “seven team members” does sound like “seventeen members”. I had to hear that again to confirm I wasn’t hearing things. He’s right on that lol

[@toddtheisen8386]

Trust is earned. Earning takes time. Old or young, most people do not trust any boss until they see what their skills truly are when things happen.

[@bradleybennett6979]

Yeah but he’s not just a boss, he’s the owner. It’s not up to an employee to decide whether you want to do it his way or not. You can make suggestions and ask and give reasoning to a different way but at the end of the day it’s HIS ass on the line if it doesn’t work.

[@CoffeenSpice]

I have the first problem, the respect when it comes to my family. I'm the youngest, almost 30 and everyone else doesn't take me seriously. They have been also talking smack about younger generations in general. I always feel not seen. I have no debt and I believe I'm working hard, so I don't feel why younger people should be looked at as something less...

[@talyahr3302]

If no one's told you, you're a freaking rock star. No debt alone you're better than literally majority of 30 year Olds and the rest of your behaviors probably follow the same pattern. Your family's behavior speaks more about them than you. How would they like it if you smack talked old people all the time? Try it and see how it goes. If they complain list out all the things they've said about young people. Then they might stop.

[@jensgronning4436]

There will always be people who live in the “back in my day” mindset. Guess what the world keeps turning.

[@jared07x]

You don't need anyone's approval but your own, you set your goals and achieve them. Approval and respect is nice to have, but some people will never give it to you no matter what.

[@cheezeball6109]

In the trades there is lots of ego. Problem is talking to a a guy who has been doing it for a long time, won't change.

[@clarifyingquestions]

Dave is a much better person when combined with Sharon even though she has never worked outside the home. Hopefully the bitterrmen's club heard this. Dave chose WISELY:) as did Sharon. Marriage is the opposite of a gender war.

[@JacobsNews]

They got married in the 80s don't get confused. Yes, he went bankrupt but he was never broke and if you listen he saves she spends . He went bankrupt in 88 buy 92 he had a radio show . He had one bad year at most 😂😂

[@elizabethpieters7798]

Sharon worked full time and only stopped working after the birth of their first child. Even though she was a housewife she is heavily involved in Dave's businesses and sits on the board. She helped him build his wealth.

[@JacobsNews]

@elizabethpieters7798 No, dave said she never worked till after the kids got out of school.

[@clarifyingquestions]

@@elizabethpieters7798 Of course she worked to support her husband and take care of the home and children which is why Dave always say OUR money and in a divorce half belongs to her and without her he ie we could not have built wealth. * And of course they made ALL decisions together especially the one about no debt ever again or she would divorce him:)

[@clarifyingquestions]

@@JacobsNews Let s not all split hairs smh. Marriage is a WE and they both did their part. Now look at how they succeeded. I stand by my comment: Marriage is the opposite of a gender pissing match ie the bitter club of those who chose poorly.

[@tryingtothrive157]

1st caller: More info. You don't magically jump from civil vibe at hiring to suddenly not trusting the owner. Something significant happened, maybe not so terrible for them to quit but terrible enough to lose respect in the owner's decision-making or character - that needs to be addressed.

[@phosphate66]

if you listen to the dudes voice you can tell hes very timid, doesn't demand much respect

[@mvubu6823]

Grizzly old blue collars are always going to struggle to listen to a chubby cheek new boss He breaks that by having a sense of humour, being honest, being humble and being firm when he has to be.

[@Mark_Proton]

Never had that issue for some reason. I've been a tech lead since I was 23, with my team being 35-60. Got consistently lucky with my teammates I guess.

[@JacobsNews]

A lot of people young people just project insecurity

[@tomw485]

I’m trying to understand if this guy is more focused on the process or the end product. If the end product is good I’d let it go (assuming the process is efficient). If they’re too slow or the quality is poor then you have a conversation with your employees around doing things your way. Sometimes young managers can get very micromanagery simply because of lack of people manager experience and they think their job is to make their employees clones of themselves. People are people not robots so you have to allow for a little bit of individuality in the way they operate. But if their process sucks and results in poor quality and slow output then you have an opportunity to correct the issue. If they fight you on it and are unteachable… well then you need to have a difficult conversation about their future working with you.

[@MrMockingbrd]

I have a problem with "harsh correction in private." The order generation seems to have no problem harshly correcting younger workers in front of everyone, at least in my line of work, so if they can't handle that, they dont need to be working under younger people in the first place.

[@OptimalOpinion]

4.5M is NOT going to call up and drag - HE HAS NO NEED TO. My opinion

[@Pure_KodiakWILD_Power]

If they don't want to listen, they can go listen to ( and work for ) somebody else.

[@JB-uk7mn]

Hire some veterans, pay them what you promised and be done with it.

[@survivingthetimes]

I'm 54 with 40 or so years worth of woodworking experience. I would roll my eyes at a 20 something trying to tell me how to sand a table.

[@definitelynotlebronjames443]

You can go sand tables for someone else if you can’t respect authority

[@maynnemillares]

Don't bite the hand that feeds you.

[@huntguy3831]

Can’t tell you how many older guys I’ve seen that can’t do their job correctly. If you can’t take direction sounds like you are in that group.

[@2ar2betrY]

That's what Ramsey is saying. If someone younger is hiring you to HIS business. And you don't like the way he is running things. Leave. Or provide feedback to YOUR employer.

[@giblets00]

You sound like a delightful employee. You’re going places in life.

[@OptimalOpinion]

He hires lows and is OVER demanding. IMO