My Wife Lists Top 14 Ugly Physical Traits of Women

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[@MuslimSkeptic]

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[@truthlover8277]

Superb !

[@siddiqah89]

@@MuslimSkeptic no thank you

[@kitt7477]

I have a friend who is over weight, who is constantly criticized & horribly insulted by her husband, but then she’s birthed 7 kids via c-section. Its much more difficult for women to loose weight after having several children. I think people ought to be more sensitive about this one.

[@tataa51]

Yeah but it doesn't change the fact that being obese is unattractive. You have to deal with your circumstance. Although insulting your own wife for it is highly critical. I'm sure there are nicer ways to motivate your wife to lose weight.

[@LastWordInSilence]

Obesity after several children is very understandable. Here, in this context, it’s younger people who are just getting into marriage. Also, this survey seems to be of the population at large, not just Muslim men.

[@obama4789]

But men don't like overweight women that's a fact.

[@notapodcastpodcast5759]

So so different if you are a Mother with 3+ kids it's normal, unfortunately now we have 30+ year olds with 30+BMI no kids and an attitude.

[@Ali_Raza808]

So? we're talking about at the time of marriage not several years later.

[@SagTahir]

umm khalid based 😂

[@oussamabekk1108]

"Man don't like fat women" No waaaaay ... I didn't know ... no body knew that Umm khalid sooooooo based ... 😂😂😂 This is why women shouldn't be allowed on social media .

[@LanguageLearning13]

How based though? It is based on comments under a post. People might be.a lot less accurate on a social media comment. Another issue is that it will lack input from men that do not use that platform and do not share similar circles on the platform.

[@ianwazowski5607]

Well isn’t Daniel obese

[@100subswovideos2]

@@ianwazowski5607 a bit overweight not obsese

[@khadijahbegum3546]

😂💀​@@ianwazowski5607

[@MilahanPhilosophersCorner]

The short hair point is very true! The bad breath is a good point. You can put a travel toothbrush and toothpaste in the diaper bag or your purse. And the eyebrows point is so true because it makes them look like a Disney villain.

[@nyustdent]

unfortunately some women dont have good hair genes. i agree though that nice hair is so attractive

[@fahadmalik8862]

Short hair isn't bad. If long hair is affected by her health there is no harm in having short hair. Only when such short hair is done purposely upon copy men. The beatification of women is talked about in a Hadith where the women were cursed for changing Allah's creation.

[@RR-xt7ew]

I’d rather have a girl with short hair than a weave anyday

[@thetruthwithproof8802]

People say ST0P taking mistakes out of others ❌ ➜ But Allah says HELP each other out, by taking mistakes out of each other ( Surah Al Asr ) ✔

[@raymonddarhk20]

​@@RR-xt7ew when they're talking about short hair they don't mean black girl, just so you know.

[@Basit-AA]

Woman: I only want to be loved for who I am! Why does it matter what I look like?! Also Woman: He's gotta be AT LEAST 6ft tall, make 100k a year MINIMUM, 6 pack abs, green eyes, curly hair and a jawline that can cut diamonds

[@haf3113]

@@Basit-AA and what woman says this? You’ve spoken to enough to figure that out?

[@fatoumfatoumeh]

@@Basit-AA I know a guy who is in his 40s and never married…he’s 5 ft 4, morbidly obese, balding, has a bad temper (screams and insults women including his own sisters), is broke, doesn’t have a steady job, never went to university, doesn’t own his own home, and on top of all that he believes he is entitled to marry a beautiful 19 year old virgin, either that, or a beautiful, rich virgin who’s slightly older who can ‘help him out’ financially. Can you imagine, and he constantly complains about how women are shallow gold-diggers, etc, for rejecting him because he ‘doesn’t have a six pack’ and is ‘not a millionaire’ lol, his own words, yet he is always chasing women who are waaay out of his league and would never consider a woman who is as fat and as poor as he is. Allah didn’t let him marry for a reason. Many undesirable men have the same attitude he does, but I’m not going to generalize. I think men can be just as guilty with unreasonable expectations, it’s not only women who do that.

[@Muslim-87]

​@haf3113 hypergamy

[@khadijahbegum3546]

Sure💀

[@mdmahdimuntakim1538]

@haf3113 Not every woman says this but the double standard is a bit of a norm

[@user28914]

I think Daniels wife being proactive in the muslim community is a really good example of our womens role in society and how knowledge can be conveyed while still practicing the highest levels of hayah. This is exactly how Aisha R.A. would spread the majority of ahadeeth we have today. More of our women need to follow her👍

[@naimaabdullahi6272]

@@user28914 please dont compare this lady to our mother Aisha رضي الله عنها I don’t think Aisha رضي الله عنها would speak to women in this way

[@riadulkabir2792]

​@@naimaabdullahi6272 Our mother Ayesha was harsher when it comes to saying what true.

[@beastvader]

​@@naimaabdullahi6272 I agree, the wives of the Prophet (pbuh) and sahaba would never mock people for no reason like this. I normally agree with Brother Daniel but don't understand why he and his wife are acting like this. It doesn't seem fitting for a Muslim

[@continentaldrift2170]

she also wrote into the battle and gave men a piece of her mind. So yes, more women should follow her.

[@Ya39oub_G]

​@@naimaabdullahi6272 I don't think you know our mother Aisha or read about her because she was even harsher on certain things than Umm Khalid.

[@proofofmyexistence2352]

She simply described what men don't like.

[@72-bit]

And?

[@Abdur-Rahman862]

Im not getting your point

[@haf3113]

@@proofofmyexistence2352 right it’s not anything revolutionary

[@stv625]

But is it also actually true? Every man is different. If it was like that, women having these qualities would never have a man, yet that's not true. A matter of taste.

[@abumansaray7]

That's the point of the post 🤦🏿‍♂️

[@Muslim-87]

A wife should look attractive for the husband

[@mirzafardeen1257]

100% brother 😂

[@haf3113]

@Muslim-87 And the other way round too. Your point?

[@thetruthwithproof8802]

People say who are you to take mistakes out of scholars, alims & muftis ❌ ➜ But the reality is alims, scholars & muftis from 72 sects will not enter PARADISE ✔

[@Datruthhurts-z4n]

@haf3113no

[@E_ter_nit_y]

​@haf3113agreed, but did you even watch the video?

[@Suma-114]

6:00, the first 2 lines of the first paragraph I will agree with, but you seemed to have skipped over that bit. Having a short torso or a boxy torso torso is indeed bone structure and if you work out you will still have that build. Thats also what I believe the whole “pear shape” or “hourglass shap” is about, it’s about your proportions. Pear being if you have a small upper body(chest, and shoulders), but have bigger hips, hourglass being if you have a bigger upper body (shoulders, chest), small waist and big hips. I agree with what your wife says but she was definitely confused. I know she said in the response that she isn’t talking about things you can’t control but in the post she mentioned something that you cannot control. Both men and women should have their personal standards, weither it seems harsh or not. Do I believe both sides need to be posting it for all to see, making lists, and arguing? No. Because the facts are already there, being active and healthy is the best way for humans and we all need to strive to be fit and at the correct weight.

[@ZOI682]

Definitely agree

[@bewater6684]

I have a friend who has several eating disorders like bullimia and starves herself because her mother keeps calling her a "bro" Why? because she has a wide shoulder and doesn't have a thin waist. It lead her to a chain of starvation and binging eating and then vomiting it all out. Her mother constantly compares her to other woman or relatives and makes her feel like a mistake. By the way, that's the culture woman are brought up with, and that's why they turn to those toxic body acceptance movements that tell you being obese is okay and naturul

[@sonofgenetunney]

Salam alaykum daniel, you should make a video on the negative physical traits in MEN

[@Farzana_Alim]

I also want to know that

[@Freedom4Palestine3672]

@@sonofgenetunney oh, he'll never do that. Clearly thinks all men are perfect...

[@rose_mary3]

A person(man) sent a comment to Sheikh Hakeem. Man: Men tells his wife to keep fit and clean. To lose weight and belly fat. What advice would you give to both man and the woman... Sheikh Hakeem replied :My advice is to the man and the women... My advice to the men hit the gym first and lead by example, look in the mirror ya akhi, Mashallah who do you think you are?, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Mr Universe. If you want Miss Universe you have to be Mister Olympia. You can't demand your wife to be something when you yourself are not even as close. You can't always please or meet one's expectations. No one is perfect. This list can be the norm or standard for some and not for others. And should apply both ways.

[@fahadmalik8862]

I agree but it's more complicated than that Sister

[@adamsayid6319]

and im in shape and do judo........... i expect my wife to be the same. but yes, its a bit more complicated as the comment above me says

[@altonsafe]

Of course you shouldn’t have standards you can’t uphold yourself,, especially if it’s being applied to your children. The thing is that these are standards have different importance for a man rather than women. Just like women have standards for men that men wouldn’t expect from women. Level of importance changes things due to our nature.

[@cXms-k8y]

Telling wife to not be obese and take care of herself ≠ she have to look like model with thinnest waist Plus women's value is in their beauty if you do have it why dilute it by being fat Man can earn using strength and skills and knowledge and that's the value No construction worker gon be like staring some man with good physique maybe think I should work out but when their is sexy women they would mentally strip her That's the reality

[@MastersInPhd]

Where is the advice for the Woman? All I read is advice to the man.

[@basha6376]

they are talking about point 10, not point 1. not about weight gain but the structure of the body. "wide shoulder", "no waist". these are your bone structure not your fat. this applies to men as well. look at narrow vs wide clavicles when it comes to men's physique. your response is tasteless because you focus on fat women when point 10 is talking about something else

[@fahadmalik8862]

Women force male proportions in body composition. And no you don't know what you're talking about. You're a woman with a man's anime profile picture

[@fahadmalik8862]

The structure is unanimous. You don't know what you're talking about I do! Because I've researched it!!

[@basha6376]

good for you. you don't know what unanimous means

[@fahadmalik8862]

@@basha6376 no you don't nor do you know about the composition of women or what chemical imbalences as well as lack of enzymes Equate to. Why is it cancerous. I know more than you. Women force their body to be that of men's I know

[@rensal22]

@@basha6376 exactly, he went right back to talking about weight.

[@siddiqah89]

Not a great post by your wife. Caused more conflict..im unfollowing her because i feel like she just parrots all your views and some are quite extreme. FYI I'm not a femimist. I've studied in madrasah and I'm married with children. I'm also homeschooling. However the more I read from your wife, the more I CAN'T relate to her. Its like shes just echoing you. You can still have a different opinion to your husband. Many of the things in that article contradict our deen and reality!

[@Freedom4Palestine3672]

@@siddiqah89 agreed. The survey itself was not carried out solely on Muslims. Go figure.

[@rafayshakeel4812]

I always say that personality is key but physical attraction is also *very* important. As a 21 year old male, I always try to keep myself at a presentable level. We as men also gotta level up our game and become attractive, إن شاء الله. Anyway, the list presented by Ustādha Umm Khalid was very beneficial. May Allah سبحانه و تعالى‎ allow us to marry someone who is beautiful, religious, loyal, and has all the good traits that a woman should have. Ameen.

[@ajax1472]

Depends on your genetics

[@rafayshakeel4812]

@ajax1472 Ofcourse but that's not the only factor. Even someone with bad genetics can work on themselves e.g. exercise, diet, hygiene, etc... I'd give this person a 6.5/10 even though he has bad genetics. And I'm sure that the majority doesn't suffer from bad genetics so just imagine their potential.

[@ajax1472]

@@rafayshakeel4812 there are certain things which you can't improve, changing your genetics is not feasible, of course you can improve your hygiene and posture and be neat, but still that guarantee you a women. Humans are attracted to what is good looking, men like women who look good and attractive, the same goes for women. Looks is about 85℅ On rare occasions women accept ug*y men

[@ajax1472]

@@rafayshakeel4812 people say personality but in reality someone with 2 in looks and 9 in personality would not be desired. As hard to swallow looks is most important. People treat you better when you are good looking, easy to get women. A high chance of having good looking kids etc 80% looks

[@E_ter_nit_y]

​@@ajax1472 modern day food and lifestyle is soo shxt that everyone is blaming their genetics and not their diets and lifestyle. A person should have a good diet and lifestyle for a long time to see results, good things take time.

[@H.a.q.q]

Bitter truth but beneficial for the ones who ponder and follow the righteous way. May Allah reward you!

[@oussamabekk1108]

Bitter truth = she Shouldn't even be allowed to talk on social media

[@Samia_19]

Anytime I read umm khalid's posts I get a fresh perspective on things and it's nice May Allah preserve her

[@thetruthwithproof8802]

People say your not a scholar, alim or mufti so shut it ❌ ➜ The Prophet P.B.U.H told us even if you know one ayat pass it on ✔

[@IYeleven]

@@Samia_19 she doesn’t want Daniel to take a second wife so I suppose she’s suffering from feminism lol

[@hbk3119]

05:04 sorry Daniel, you’re being unfair. Read the full reply to Umm Khaled. The person went on a bit, but did say at the end eat well and stay fit. The point is men need to obsess less over body shapes because body shapes do not remain constant over time! You have zero compassion for all the women struggling with weight loss after child birth. I’m not one of them SubhanAllah, but when I hear some stories, I really feel for mysisters, sometimes its complete hormonal imbalance, and there are women who are trying , but they have issues….. this is what the reply is talking about! However there are a lot of women who also dont try , this is not what this lady is saying and she is certainly not saying what/ how you read it “ ladies, don’t take responsibility just be fat….” She never said that once.

[@ka3ka-hakima]

I agree with most, exept the weird build. So if she does plastic surgery to enhance her body shape then that's unattractive, but if she doesn't have those "feminine features" than that's also unattractive? No matter how much you exercise you can't grow a pair of boobs?

[@fahadmalik8862]

I talked about this. The beatification of women is not permitted. And requesting a curvy body isn't permitted either as that is challenging Allah's creation

[@sodium303]

​​@@fahadmalik8862requesting a curvy body? what does this mean?

[@TheFatMan]

​@@fahadmalik8862Why isn't it permitted? Where does it say it's not permitted?

[@ka3ka-hakima]

@fahadmalik8862 exactly 👏

[@RoseRose-wf8co]

Not every woman is beautiful and attractive, it is what it is. Beauty is a rizk from Allah and we shouldn't envy each other for it.

[@MichaelHurricane]

I understand your whole point. In our culture it is the opposite: women are trying to look good, to be fit and they know the importance of beauty in the eyes of man. But I hear a lot of stories when men are getting insulted when girls show interest in financial part of their future partner, saying that these women are greedy, they need only money and etc.. Not only men, but even old women are judging these girls.. Btw, my husband also said that he will less like me if I ever got fat :)) Of course I felt offended, but he is too honest about everything, thats why I ended up thinking that he probably said the thing that most men keep to themselves.

[@zyiadsherif4305]

"Allah made me this obese land whale" I died 😭🤣🤣

[@AdrianMuslim]

It is haram to say this. Allah made him/her that way.

[@JimmyTimmy-c4w]

The only one I disagree with is short hair, there's plenty of women who look fine with short hair so long as it's not borderline men's haircut

[@mocarlyle7713]

With my experience all women with short, doesn't matter religion or race, will always be liberal.

[@ZOI682]

​@@mocarlyle7713honestly no ! one preference which Allah has made halal doesn't define their whole ideals

[@pearleunjoo5439]

​@@mocarlyle7713Lilly Sing has long hair 😂

[@mocarlyle7713]

@@pearleunjoo5439 I have no idea who that is. Butt he Jewish women that introduced woman's didn't want women in traditional roles. And long hair was seen as traditional

[@Cherries6984]

Yeah I have short hair and when I used to take my hijab off in the past I would get attention and guys would always compliment how pretty I looked. So I don't get the short hair thing.

[@rensal22]

All of the listed items are things a woman can do or not do to improve herself. However, Number 10 is extremely offense. Weight issues aside, some women have little to no curves. Some women are very top heavy, but a normal weight otherwise. Some women have broad shoulders. Take several seats for having for further increasing insecurities in women. You cannot diet or exercise your broad shoulders away nor can your lifestyle change your breast cup size. Infact, one of the flattest women I know, is like 90 lbs. And she is wonderful, pious, has a good husband and a happy family. Ma sha Allah, May Allah increase them in barakaat.

[@DrWoofOfficial]

True

[@tataa51]

Why is it offensive if it is true. If you have no curves that's what you have to deal with and make the best out of it. A short man also can't say "it's offensive women find short men unattractive". Just because you can't change it doesn't mean the other gender has to like it. Allah tests every person with different things. It may be that being flat is your test..

[@haifaashraf1955]

we woman should also start demanding the unrealistic standard from men . such as they should not be lower than 6'0 , should not be too skinny or should not have baldness

[@rensal22]

@haifaashraf1955 I agree with you. I think the problem of unrealistic demand is from both camps. I've heard demands like: no hijab, skinny dress size 4, green or blue eyes, fair skin, even requests of breast size and bottom size. I remember even hearing such talk from aunties looking for their son "oh he doesn't want her butt to look like XYZ". This was in the 90s and early 2000s. I think the pendulum has now swung in the opposite direction. Some women are making too many demands about looks or money. Everyone needs a reality check. When my husband and I got married WE BOTH ADMITTED THAT WE DIDNT LIKE EACH OTHERS PICTURES. We liked each other in person though. And he traveled 4 hours out of state to see me/my family because we had similar Islamic values and could communicate well. (His sister monitored our charts online). We need to give people chances even if they're not our "type". I've been married for 11 years now.

[@muslimyoungadult4931]

Important to remember that the entire idea of the poll was what men dislike (very brutally and honestly). Not taking into consideration what's good or bad, and should or should not be a priority.

[@salimyasini3100]

And the sad thing is in some muslim countries like Morocco and Saudi, Vaping and shisha is common, not realising that this destroys sexual and reproductive health

[@GermanMuslimDotCom]

The traditional family worked for thousands of years across many cultures. The modern family breaks apart and leads to the downfall of humanity within a few decades. That says more than enough.

[@Knowmad1010]

Masha Allah. You must thank Allah for finding such a knowledgeable and religious wife.

[@hiraamir2680]

I follow umm khalid and bought a homeschooling on for my 6 year old daughter.... you are lucy to have such a mother for your kids... as a mom, her online lessons(online course) are really helping me raise muslim kids as all the subjects are linked to islam alhamdulilah

[@MilahanPhilosophersCorner]

The only excuse for weight gain is pregnancy and the first two years if breastfeeding. If your child is not nursing and sleeps through the night than your diet is in your full control and you can push the stroller and go on a walk in a safe area with your husband and with his permission. If you have an all female gym or home gym that's even better.

[@fahadmalik8862]

@@MilahanPhilosophersCorner physical health conditions and other things like pcos. Or a bad mental health causing women to eat more or be unmotivated. Such things must be smartly addressed

[@braveheart8318]

​@fahadmalik8862 exceptions dont make the norm. I guess you're unmarried and simping to find your way.

[@greenhomestead6305]

The problem is nowadays young women are fat before they even marry and are still in their teens and early 20s!

[@ZOI682]

There is postpartum depression and many other uncontrollable factors to pregnancy exceptions aren't even exceptions here

[@fishbarbeque8540]

Yes this is true.

[@Kateru374]

I can see why some of these traits are on the lost but what's with mocking Allah's creation? Specifically #10. "Wrong shape"? This contradicts discouraging plastic surgery because buy calling a certain shape one is born with "the wrong shape", you're planting the idea of changing it with surgery. And lastly, my advice is to not fall for this "so based" trend á la Andrew Tate and western "Red Pill" ideology. It can be tempting to appeal to your followers and sound funny ...etc, but you should use your platform with responsibility and don't go against Islam to appeal to memes.

[@Kateru374]

And by the way, what "men want" has never been one shape, which your wife defines as "slim". For example, during the time of the prophet peace be on him, women with multiple layers of fat around their waist was what men found attractive. In some cultures up to this day like in Mauritania for example, fat women are what men find attractive. This can be explained by the fact that what humans find attractive can also be related to social status. And what tends to signal wealth is what people will find attractive. This article seems to be mostly written based on contrarianism, rather than objectivity. I could point out many other inaccuracies, for instance, many men do like tattoos in women. Women during Jahiliya even used to tattoo themselves, and you can still find men up to this day who find that attractive. Just objectively speaking, not to encourage tattoos.

[@cheriemanrique8044]

The fact that daniel is reacting to comments on his wifes post. . . Is the best thing on youtube! Im here for it. Allday everyday! 😂😂😂

[@ameen1443]

Is there a version of this list of women's thoughts towards men? Would be interesting to compare and see what matches and what doesn't for physical traits.

[@fahadmalik8862]

Women don't value men. And everything is in envious manipulative gains. Why do you think men don't call other men "pick me" or say the same things women say. Because if it was reversed women would scar them.

[@LanguageLearning13]

​@@fahadmalik8862Have you never heard of the word simp?

[@tataa51]

fat, short, bad hygiene... So a lot of similar things but behaviour is also very important for women. So you could be looking 10/10 but if you behave immature and childish it would make you a 2/10. Whereas men would tolerate more bad behavior as long as you look good.

[@torand7504]

I've been been following and reading Umm Khalids posts without ever knowing she was your wife. As soon as I saw the title and thumbnail, MahsaAllah it felt so right!

[@Soloman_1800]

Some women are allergic to working out but blame the husband for losing interest smh

[@ianwazowski5607]

The host is allergic to working out

[@Neutron311]

They don't really have to workout, diet alone is sufficient

[@noney4083]

How about you get a treadmill and a stationary bike for her and join her so that she doesn't "complain" about being put on the spot like that

[@heromine_9]

I am a Christian and all 14 of those traits are correct.

[@lartist-jk8fp]

It was narrated in al-Saheeh that Abu Hurayrah said: “The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: ‘Allah does not look at your appearance or your wealth, but He looks at your hearts and your deeds.’” (Narrated by Muslim, al-Birr wa’l-Silah, 4651).

[@wth1982]

Ok? Umm Khalid didn't say Allah looks down on these physical characteristics? She said an online poll showed what men dislike in female physical features and she thinks it's valuable for women to know this? This hadith doesn't really apply akhi/ukhti

[@sohaibmahagri5037]

Great insight, you're the genius in your classroom I can tell.

[@asmaubaid7565]

For the first time he is supporting a female because she is his wife . And she must be genetically beautiful, healthy

[@FroginFrock]

Seriously, how a Muslim man could be such an annoying bully. 🤢.

[@jayjoe3716]

Pretty on point, honestly. I think if we asked women it would as "harsh" as this too. And they're also entitled to that opinion. Not many like obesity (if any, besides some people fetishisizing it), body oder, uncleanliness, bad breath etc.. All valid imo

[@Cherries6984]

It's actually not as harsh because women are a lot more forgiving with men's looks because looks aren't as important the other way around

[@fahadmalik8862]

@Cherries6984 I can provide evidences against that and the devaluing of men and ingenuine interactions. So I strongly disagree

[@Naruto-xd5xj]

Daniel Posts a video, I watch it. Life is Good, Al Hamdulilah.

[@azch6424]

Assalam Alaykum and brilliant video brother Daniel. I love the way you call a spade a spade. Jzakallah khayran

[@hanh9707]

“Wrong shape” Something they 100 percent can’t control, maybe shouldn’t be included

[@Abdur-Rahman862]

Doesn't suddenly make it attractive. But I agree

[@maaz322]

List a little ridiculous. Many girls have wider back and shoulder, it's in their bone structure. This is true for certain ethnicities, especially. He also mentioned nose rings being ugly. That's perfectly normal in South Asian cultures. Most find it attractive.

[@fahadmalik8862]

​@@maaz322no women enforce a wider back shoulder etc. I know because I have seen before and after photos

[@fahadmalik8862]

​@@maaz322no it's not!

[@xAmiin]

‘Wrong shape’ is a 100 percent a valid point and has it’s place on that list. You can control the food you put in your mouth and exercise daily. Stop making excuses to be lazy and be unhealthy.

[@thecatthatateaflyinduoling2513]

A woman can be fit WHILE having broad shoulders, boxy waist and a square build. Obesity is a thing, and body shape is another.

[@adlanebendimred3855]

Daniel u are my cup of tea may Allah bless you and strengthen u in your way

[@Quthology]

To be fair with the body shape one it’s women themselves that decide to change it with certain exercises.

[@ik5441]

Honestly.... on physicality these are very true. But i think what i and most men would appreciate a lot more.... is that if she did a list on character/personality and adab. Cant speak for all men but i think men might even take a hit on one of those horrible physical no no's if it meant he gets "peace" and "respect".

[@Cherries6984]

Being a healthy weight is crucial but y'all it takes effort and is much harder if you're a sahm and don't get out much. There's less motivation at home where you have easy access to the pantry. I gained 6 kg in lockdown when I was stuck at home and bored. Lost the weight when school reopened because I was moving my body a lot more and not as tempted by my kitchen since I was in school. When I'm 18 I'm going to buy a gym membership. If husband's want slim wives they have to step up and either buy them a gym membership, or home equipment and workout side by side with her for motivation or take her hiking or other outdoor activities that gets the body moving. To do none of these things and expect ur wife to somehow retain her prepregnancy body after she's literally carried a whole human being in her belly is ridiculous, and those husbands who make sly remarks about their wife after she's put her body through hell to birth his children are just disgusting. I have no more respect for them than I would an atheist man who treats women like an object merely for his viewing pleasure.

[@zahraamin6790]

Ya Akhi i understand you are trying to defend your wife which is very kind. However a lot of points were controversial. I’ll leave with this comment on the hadith the prophet SAW said. Narrated Abu Hurayrah, Rasulullah ﷺ said, "The woman is like a rib, if you try to straighten her, she will break. So if you want to get benefit from her, do so while she still has some crookedness.” Be kind to the women.

[@fahadmalik8862]

@zahraamin6790 nope this is regarding women are fragile

[@Thatssswhatithought]

😂 Daniel you crack me up “men wants to know your blood pressure” 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@KimAly]

If a woman wants to know if they are beautiful or not, find out from children. They have no filter, social, or hormones messing it up. If they think you ugly but they love you, then you have something beautiful to you that will bring the right man. If kids don’t like you or no amount of fake crap will make you wifey material.

[@Abdur-Rahman862]

Facts.

[@PatrikPatrick-zw5wj]

You're projecting

[@KimAly]

@ Alhamdullilah I am an old happily married Muslim. This is just my observation. The men and women that children want to be around tend to be beautiful in some way. If someone sees this, they will often perceive the person as having a quality that makes them marriageable,

[@fahadmalik8862]

Children are unknowing. Out of boys and girls. Girls mature faster. So the preference here would be girls. But even then girls and unknowing of men. And even to women. It isn't right to ask. The beautification of women isn't permitted Sister. Like trimming the eyebrows for beauty or attraction. If it's done in health conditions then it is permissible. Skin care is very important. Nothing wrong with face masks. General exercising. Taking care of the hair and teeth. Good diet. The women imitating men is made in the point that it seems like women want to replace men. The reason you don't see this in women's lists "men who try to do a feminine body etc" because men don't do it. There are mentions of weakness about men covering in female representation but this comes from appropriating women and fetishing them. Degrading women. Part 1

[@fahadmalik8862]

Vape a lot of men. Alot. I tell my brother can you do it outside please. Piercings. A lot of men do ear piercings because they think it looks cool. It's not my thing and it looks like it hurts. Dying the hair entails hurting the hair so by schools of thought this would be not permissible. Being loud and aggressive isn't bad per say only when you are as I said imitating the man in reverse placehood. From male perspectives. Deviating from what is allocated to them. How women talk to men is also accounted for فَلَا تَخْضَعْنَ بِالْقَوْلِ فَيَطْمَعَ الَّذِي فِي قَلْبِهِ مَرَضٌ وَقُلْنَ قَوْلًا مَّعْرُوفًا “Then do not be soft in speech [to men], lest he in whose heart is disease should covet, but speak with appropriate speech.” Surah al-Ahzab (32) Part 2

[@ahnaflfc369]

As a man, it's okay being fat if it's after many kids and you really tried to fix yourself ❤

[@_runta]

Umm Khalid for the win

[@JOYRIDEUS]

Here comes the twist: women don't care about what men want 😭 "your a queen and if he doesn't like this about you "he's not for you""

[@areejshams3253]

How can someone change 10. It is not about obesity rather bone structure. That is by Allah

[@fahadmalik8862]

People forcibly change it

[@jawaadshahid]

Umm khalid said: Linebacker build 😂

[@DaniDaniela-x7i]

"hairy" and "wrong shape", both things we can't do much about. Especially if it's because of PCOS.

[@backupacct2165]

Hairy is fixable by shaving, may have to do it more often but self-care is always important for everyone. With PCOS, majority carry a lot of fat, losing weight should help a lot iA. I agree with shape, genetically one can get unlucky but there are still many things a woman can do to optimise the other aspects, same goes for men

[@zm_headhunter]

Second one absolutely, but for the first one laser hair removal does exist .

[@fatoumfatoumeh]

Laser hair removal is permanent and not too expensive…let him pay for it.

[@adamsayid6319]

hairy can definitely be controlled. and the other is just a different way of saying (im fat and i dont want to stop eating)

[@fatoumfatoumeh]

@@DaniDaniela-x7i oh, and ‘wrong shape’ can be improved with work outs and eating healthy. If you think about it, ‘wrong shape’ is almost always just fat stored in undesirable places, like a muffin top or an excessively large upper body compared to lower body. You’re not going to magically turn into an hourglass shape, but you will definitely have a more attractive physique when you’re fit, regardless of your natural bone structure.

[@Head_of_the_Table2.0]

Marry from the believers according to your choice and encourage others to use their tongue wisely

[@Anonymityfan]

To some extent bodyshape is genetic however it can largely be changed by working out. Also, it is far more within control than height.

[@zeeryos102]

I love you Daniel, but you are indeed a bit harsh with your choice of words. I know you may not care for what I say I or others when provide a feedback, but I say this because I love you and your content (with better word choices). Otherwise a great video for women to reflect to.

[@FroginFrock]

He may have a proper faith and a sharp mind. However, this video is absolute bully unbecoming of a Muslim; and this manner of speaking is arrogantly fitting for the devil!

[@doshplease]

Umm Khalid never misses, I love her posts

[@elafeltayeb2613]

So, what should women with naturally short hair and a non hourglass body do??!

[@Spiced2551]

Nothing. Myself worth as a woman isn't based on a man's opinions. Man who want to judge me for my short hair or whatever else get the middle finger. I wasn't put on the earth to be I candy for men.

[@naeemamd1]

The last one should be at the top of the list.

[@JannahAlFirdaus91]

i love your channel brother and u speak alot of sense about the religion but this vid was unnecessary and divides both genders further. im an old school traditional man whos anti feminist and leads my marriage but it goes both ways for both genders. what you just listed applies to men as well, alot of brothers are out of shape, underperforming in life and dont take care of themselves properly also. Jazakallah

[@sana409]

A lot of people are divided on the big upper torso. Let me tell you I had that same issue. But I started exercising like those asians and my shoulders and neck back and arms all started to become thinner. A lot of women are working out the wrong way. It's very simple.

[@badshahSelamet]

The list is 100% right.

[@Anonymityfan]

Genuine question. How does one get such a based wife?

[@yulia4519]

Thank you so much brother, her page is literally a gems. mashallah!

[@HA-vc5dl]

Why anyone is seeking um khalids opinion on anything is beyond me. These two deserve each other ❤️

[@MS-Hussain]

No one is perfect. So if there is one or two aspects weak in physical beauty ppl shd ignore when choosing a spouse

[@LastJanissary1773]

I don’t know who said #6 actually for some women the short hair (length to shoulders) is attractive. But I get it they meant like bald or masculine looking hairstyles.

[@fahadmalik8862]

Imitating men isn't permitted

[@nousername105]

So if someone has naturally thick brows and isn't allowed to pluck.... Then what they just don't marry, and if their waist isn't defined enough then what, just don't marry 😂😂. The rest is all fine but those two are literally in no ones control

[@Fatma-j2p8w]

Yeah literally what are we supposed to do with our middle eastern eyebrows? Y'all don't like how Allah made us? Interesting🤔

[@EarCandyContraption]

Built like a linebacker loool

[@PatrikPatrick-zw5wj]

Her husband is built like a discord moderator😂

[@dausmaa2416]

When it comes to nose ring some cultures have it and it's not haram in Islam so it's fine. While some might find it bad however some cultures value it and men love it as a beautification style for women

[@genjamboy6545]

Appreciate this video

[@abdullaha9906]

Umm Khalid is kinder in her replies than Daniel is in this video

[@obama4789]

There are way too many feminists in this comment section.

[@fareehan1]

Daniel, get yourself in shape before you preach others.Did you even look at yourself in the mirror 😅

[@bakhtiaruddin1582]

based Umm Khalid Ma Sha Allah. May Allah give all of us a god fearing wife that doesn't fear nothing but Allah and listens to her husband within the limits of Islam.

[@Lamophiles]

your wife is how she should be, but you're too harsh Dan 😂, correct your behaviour and be polite bro.

[@MastersInPhd]

Umm Khalid soon to release new course, Based School.

[@jdkhan5620]

Recently I've been encouraging my husband to take on another wife, because I just realised he isn't attracted to me anymore. I've had 4 kids so my body isn't the same as before, and he made comments here and there that hurts a lot, I've been on a once a day meal and walk at least 10 thousand steps a day but I can't get back to my previous shape anymore, I'm so ashamed of myself. So I've decided to do the right by him. I've even offered him that he can even divorce me if he wish, because I don't want to burden someone and be sinful. But he doesn't want to divorce me, he will explore marrying 2nd.

[@fahadmalik8862]

What reasoning is he not attractive anymore? You telling him to pursue a second wife isn't a viable option. It isn't permissible or a valid reason. The purpose of polygamy is helping women.

[@fahadmalik8862]

He shouldn't be making comments as he isn't a woman.

[@haf3113]

@@jdkhan5620 That doesn’t make sense - him getting another one for your low self esteem? Why are you ashamed. It takes two to make a child and he’s done that 4 times - he can live with your body changing. This video is really for people who are looking to marry and know what a man likes, not someone who’s already married. Getting a second wife would make him not like you more

[@xAmiin]

@@fahadmalik8862 Your comment is full of nonsense buddy, there are no specific reasons that men can go ahead and have multiple wives, its literally a basic right of men given to us by Allah (SWT), Himself. Also, talking without knowledge is a major sin, so i advise you to refrain from doing so.

[@jdkhan5620]

@@fahadmalik8862 I've explained why already. And a man doesn't need a reason to pursue a 2nd, 3rd or 4rth wife, it's his right given by Allah(SWT) just like Allah(SWT) has given women many right too.

[@bintkhorasani7015]

how is it not a valid response to highlight the fact that some aspects of a woman's physique are not in her control? a woman can be small, fit, and healthy and still have wide shoulders or a boxy torso because that is the bone structure of her shoulders and ribcage... it would have made more sense to say women who are overweight and don't take care of their physique. also how can men say they don't like an unnatural body while also saying they don't like any other body shapes except the mainstream woman who has a bbl and perfect ratio? make it make sense. men who say things like this can be so dumb and clueless and can't even differentiate between a real body and a plastic body.

[@haf3113]

@@bintkhorasani7015 he assumes all women must fit his idea of a smoking hot bod because apparently Allah says we should have a beautiful body LOL

[@maaz322]

I think Daniel lowers his gaze so much, he doesn't even know the natural variation of women body types.

[@fahadmalik8862]

@@bintkhorasani7015 no because if you actually looked into anatomy you would know women enforce their body composition to be closer to male ones. I know because I've spent time researching it. Women's shoulders, torso is not that of a man's. Do not say women can have wide shoulders or a boxy torso because women are not men. It is enforced by forcing their shoulders in unnatural contortions. I have a whole written piece on this. The ones who commonly bring "wide shoulders" into the conversation are women then go to imitate their misconstrued constructions of men. Even looking at the imbalances in disposition. Including when women don't get enough of certain enzymes etc hence forth what they have isn't natural. Why? Because if the result comes with cancerous results it isn't natural! An unnatural body is what the beautification of the body is. Hence why the Prophet (S.A.W) cursed the women who did so. Why? Because it's changing Allah's creation. Simple as that. So the answer is simple.

[@fahadmalik8862]

@@bintkhorasani7015 you're wrong and you suggest/argue that women naturally have wide shoulders and boxy torsos when they do not. Womens anatomy does not work this way. No wonder women enforce so many of their misconstrued constructions of men upon women while talking about "mendrawingwomen" and about men talking about women. Fear Allah.

[@fahadmalik8862]

@@maaz322 it's not natural. Get your head checked and actually research

[@homtanks7259]

May Allah reward sister Umm Khalid

[@zee4125]

These traits could be applied to men also, except for number 4. Moral of the story is we must all aspire to be our best selves physically. We all need to be grinding workouts and fuelling our bodies with the correct foods. The prophet (pbuh) fought in battles well into his 40s right? You think he was ever out of shape? Strength training, cardio, and good nutrition is a must for all people men and women.

[@haf3113]

this is so odd. Like cool what she said is right but this is from a census of men voting on this from a poll not from her own brain why are the comments praising her LOL

[@haf3113]

Also - really odd take from this channel. Was here for Islam not to learn about attractive women.

[@shahidabdoullakhanzorovr1564]

​@haf3113Daniel is a more of a social commentator than any sort of heavyweight in religious knowledge.

[@Abdur-Rahman862]

​@haf3113 You're lying through your teeth. Weak attack on Daniel. If you were here for Islam you'd do one of two things upon reading the title 1. Unsubscribe 2. Simply not click on the video Get lost.

[@xAmiin]

@haf3113 We praise her comment because she is right on the money and most men around the world would agree with that list, including myself. I’m a regular gym goer, and there are no excuses for men and women to be lazy, unhealthy and unattractive in today’s day and age.

[@xAmiin]

@haf3113 ​ We praise her comment because she is right on the money and most men around the world would agree with that list, including myself. I’m a regular gym goer, and there are no excuses for men and women to be lazy and unhealthy in today’s day and age.

[@not_ahmadx]

Why does Umm Khalid DRIVE????!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! UFFF there goes the last of my online inspirations!!!

[@IYeleven]

When will you get three more wives ? Your wife you said is against that. But it doesn’t matter, you’re allowed to have more than one.

[@LanguageLearning13]

Just because he is allowed doesn't mean he has to.

[@enacausmembrane]

you give him the money

[@IYeleven]

@@LanguageLearning13 Why shouldn’t he ? He advocates for it and he will be increasing the numbers.

[@IYeleven]

@@enacausmembrane lol now suddenly money matters? You don’t need money to ge a second wife.

[@Read-Quran-2-learn]

Its just silly when something as obvious desiring someone healthy and good looking is considered offensive

[@fatemahabdi5558]

Umm Khalid- the chad of based women. It’s a miracle how your wife was raised in the America and she thinks like our grandmothers, absolutely amazing and Allah has blessed you beyond you can imagine bro.

[@ansat_hans]

I loved the video and sarcasm ahahaha

[@moosa86]

Very grateful for Brother’s information… With all due respect though Brother has incorporated an unnecessary scoff into too many of his statements

[@elchappo1320]

So basically liberal women

[@haf3113]

@@elchappo1320 liberalism doesn’t affect someone’s body

[@MartinMalmy]

@haf3113 liberalism = my body my choice

[@haf3113]

@@MartinMalmy liberalism is a political grouping… my body my choice is a slogan some women say against anti abortion…

[@rationalistfaith]

May Allah give her success, strength and peace in this life and the next 🤲

[@Spiced2551]

Some of the comments from women who have husbands that don't find them attractive anymore after they went through pregnancy just to give him children make me so mad. Personally I'm not worried about obesity as I suffer from anorexia. These men should be grateful they have a wife who's eating and able to nourish that baby in the way that it deserves to be nourished. If I got pregnant any husband I have would be lucky if that baby even survived with me being barely 94 pounds and not wanting to eat anything.

[@Sarah.G_2]

Anorec-zia is not attractive sis. Please eat. Not saying you should be overweight, but just enough to be slim-fit.

[@Anonymityfan]

It's funny how this will get a tonne of hate but women's preferences in men are considered completely valid 😂

[@gh72355]

Everyone's general preferences are valid as long as they're not literally obsessed with looks and way too specefic with their preferences, there is nothing wrong with the list being simply a poll on what men might generally find unattractive , but this isnt just a poll giving you some facts and that's it, the post is about advising wives to be a certain way so the women in the comments got the impression that they're expected to do sth about their broad shoulders and what not.. ( not talking about obesity cuz most people had a problem with the body shape point not the obesity)

[@thaknobodi]

Women who might be considered slightly obese but their lady curves also increase because of it can be very attractive. Then there are those who you can tell dont hold back from food at the restaurant. (Im a cook at a halal restaurant)

[@Saddam-N-S]

She's spot-on 😮

[@rrrr-hx8hy]

Solid list can't lie. Too much make up/fake advertising should be higher

[@abd_md]

Is there context for this video? like I stopped watching youtube a while ago.

[@Vali45777]

Instead they should thank um Khalid for this information.

[@YaMumineen]

I could be wrong but isn;t nose piercing halal?

[@LanguageLearning13]

Why are you expecting a reply here? And this doesn't necessarily have anything to do with halal and haram. It simply being ugly is also enough to get included in that list.

[@YaMumineen]

@@LanguageLearning13 if something is halal who cares what's ugly or not because that's subjective.

[@fahadmalik8862]

​@@YaMumineenit's more of a cultural thing as you see in south Asian cultures that also leans not from Islam

[@maaz322]

@@LanguageLearning13 Except it's not objectively ugly, and it's attractive in many cultures. He's dead wrong. He's taking a p*ss at the western feminist archetype, while simultaneously offending women who are being perfectly normal.

[@صباحةسيد]

Nose piercing on one side and septum piercing look totally different. One looks like a normal south Asian lady and the other looks like a bull

[@essentime]

Great bro

[@aadil1474]

Love your work from India 🇮🇳 On the point of piercing, I bursted out of laughter, when you have said they basically look like cow😂😂😂😂