My Wishes: An End Of Life Care Story (Patient)

[@brendacook6576]

My father died of lung cancer in 1985. When he chose to die at home, his doctor told him that he was a selfish man for putting his family through that. I am almost 76 now. It took me 25 years before I could listen to a recording he made for us, playing his beloved piano and singing the old Southern Gospel songs that I grew up listening to. I haven’t been able to listen to it since then, but I feel that it will bring me comfort when it is my time to go.

[@godschild3640]

POOR DARLING 😭

[@margodphd]

F... That doctor. Seriously. I'm really really really sorry that in that difficult moment you encountered a shitty person. Being selfish is the least of dying person's worries and what a vile person you ought to be to say that to an ill man. I'm so, so, so sorry. Please, enjoy Your father's love he immortalised for You. Try to forget that asshole's words.

[@ClaireMcculloch-d4k]

Your Father was not selfish sending you love, support and massive hug 😊😊❤❤❤❤❤

[@joannamorgan6911]

God bless you Brenda. Sending you love x

[@AlC-k2j]

Your beloved Dad was in no way selfish. He was filled with love and loved by his family. What a vile doctor to have met. Hope he at least has found solace in his own horrid life. What a wonderful Dad you had. You have been truly, completely and utterly loved by your devoted Dad. He has left a legacy of Love. Many blessings to you.

[@hayleymorris6294]

My dad and myself were in the room when my precious mam was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. It was at that moment my whole world stopped turning. We held her as we said goodbye, just three short months later- 17th March 2023 A part of me died along with her that day. ❤ xxxxx

[@vtwinbreed]

Truly is one of the most disgusting diseases.

[@sherryhorton2966]

It gives me comfort to know services such as this are available. I have Stage 4 Pancreatic Cancer and I know that I want to be in the comfort of my home with my family when it is time for me to pass.

[@maryjojouwstra3860]

So very sorry for that diagnosis. 🙏🙏

[@carriebaker5161]

A friend of mine wanted to go at home. Unfortunately, he was too weak from his last hospital stay to go home. He had a morphine drip that could add more every 15 minutes. We all made sure it was hit right at 15 minutes. March 9th at 6:35 p.m. he passed away.

[@dc.pentrumesteri4893]

Hi, and good decision dear lady so it seems normal for me to leave my dear house not the hospital bed, I hope you are still?

[@myahowlett6995]

I’m so sorry 😢 x

[@sugarbunns2966]

@@navindranv I looked up an obituary under her name and she sadly passed away on the 1st of November this year. I could tell it was not only her because of her name, but also her face and her cause of passing.

[@nenblom]

A couple of years ago, my uncle passed away from an aggressive melanoma, skin cancer. This was in Sweden which is my native country. One day he was out changing tires on his car. He had been sleeping a lot and couldn’t figure out why. The next day, he woke up in severe pain. My aunt rushed him to the hospital in Stockholm where he remained for about a week. They did a lot of tests and discovered that he had tumors in his brain and in his spine. Unfortunately, it was too late for them to do anything. It was terminal. He was sent home and died peacefully in his sleep a couple of months later. It was very hard on me because I was very close to my uncle. He was a good man. In addition, it was very hard on my father because that was his brother. I know he is in a good place now. I just wanted to share this story with you all.

[@tundrawomansays5067]

Thank you for telling us about your experience. Peace can be so very elusive. I hope each day brings you and your loved ones a bit closer to solace, how ever you understand this state of being.

[@bumblebeethoughts9753]

I’m so sorry for your loss. The same fate happened to my hero on Nov 22nd. I slather my son in sunscreen. I wear it all of the time myself. I’d not wish on my worst foe the pain my father endured. May god bless us all.

[@karaserrano]

Sending up prayers for peace.

[@nenblom]

@@tundrawomansays5067 Thank you so much.

[@nenblom]

@@bumblebeethoughts9753 Amen. I am so sorry for your loss.

[@sheilajohnson6478]

God bless all of you nurses who truly care for your patients and their families.

[@ttbko]

as a doctor, i found this hugely frustrating. The doctor is the one with the information and an understanding of what it means, dont prevaricate. The more "what do you understand..." questions you ask, the worse the patient fear can become. The only reason for prevarication is to delay your not wanting to talk about difficult things. Its not about you. its about the patient and their loved ones!!!!

[@loulou7963]

I totally agree. I found her approach really really frustrating and it would make my fear and anxiety just hit the roof.

[@LasVegasPitbull]

I agree. I wouldn’t want a doctor like that to give me any news, good or bad. She prolonged it.

[@laceybanter5937]

Right. It was like pulling teeth!

[@hannahhaircut]

100% she was really stressing me out watching this!!

[@Sophiecjp]

I so agree. If a doctor was giving me information like this I would find a new doctor. Asking me if I know what the test mean? I would have said “ no I did not go to medical school and I have not seen the test results.” Her approach would have put me in distress and on the defense. No “warning shot” is going to soften the blow of news like this. Information would be the most helpful.

[@lewisratzker8949]

My father passed at 51 which is now 32 years ago. I've never gotton over it, ive learned to live with the pain, remember the good, the love we shared the fun & living times. At the end of the day I'm grateful for having a dad for 21 years, some kids never experience growing up with a dad at all. Also, no matter how bad I feel about it, it was worse for him. I love you dad & RIP X

[@jeannedoan7748]

🙏❤️Hug!

[@LibertyStation92106]

We get THRU these things, not over them.

[@susanfifer5744]

Brought tears , as my daddy lives with us for over 11 years then he got aggressive bladder cancer and was gone within 7 weeks, I did palliative care in our home until 5 days before as I wanted more pain relief for him as he was stubborn , so made the choice to take him to hospice where I became the daughter again holding his hand for 5 days and nights never leaving him instead of the caregiver.I treasure those days, hours, minutes that I was with my daddy and so grateful for helping him reach my mama who was gone over 21 years before him… He went on the brightest moon of the year and I received a gift from him that he made it to her..❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@GillDundee]

Same my dad too . Passed at home .needed nurses in daily once palliative care started .8weeks he was gone after being diagnosed.changed me as a person . Some frustration with carers not knowing full English and not trained correctly.they didn’t know how to handle my dad once palliative care began. Palliative care nurse came 1 x day for checkups she was amazing. Still feel as hurt today as I did Aug 2023 it’s so raw but his passing was surrounded by family my mum ,me and brother .all his grandkids . Wouldn’t have wanted it any other way . He passed 5min aft every one left the room .i know he chose that he wouldn’t want mum to see the end 😢

[@ShreyaChoudhuryMusic]

The actors deserve nothing but the best in their success. The way they portrayed the characters in this film really made the story so real. Well done! Thanks so much for sharing! ❤️💖

[@diane5522]

I didn't know they were actors but now I know I can tell but they are very good actors.

[@nenblom]

Amen

[@twilomix]

What gives you the impression they were actors??

[@tonyurmate]

@@twilomix their definitely actors

[@nenblom]

A little over a year ago, my uncle in my native country of Sweden died of an aggressive melanoma. He died peacefully at home with my aunt and my cousins by his side. He had a wonderful palliative care team. I live in the US so, unfortunately, I was not able to go to the funeral. Last summer I flew to Sweden and I was able to go to the grave. That really helped a lot in the grieving process. I really miss him a lot. One day he and my aunt came and visited us in southern Sweden. Me and him decided to go out for an espresso. We sat and talked for almost an hour. Uncle and nephew. That was special because they left a couple of days later and that was the last time I saw him alive. I’m just so thankful that, due to the palliative care team, he was able to pass away in peace at home and without pain. In fact, he died in his sleep. 😭 😭 Mike and Suzy seemed like such an amazing couple facing indescribable challenges. RIP Mike and it’s so heartwarming to see Suzie getting such wonderful support. Condolences, thoughts and prayers go out to Mike and her.

[@bobbykalevi9199]

may his soul rest in peace..

[@KrissiCreates]

I've been down this road twice. Once with my Momma. I took care of her and had Hospice services at her home. Years later I also took care of my Husband. We also had Hospice care in our home. Both of them passed away so peacefully in my arms. I am no longer affraid of death. I would do it all over again for them, just knowing they were both where they wanted to be when they died. Hospice also had wonderful bereavement support for me and our family after both deaths. My son and his family know this is also what I want. I've gone ahead and paid for all of my final expenses so there is no stress on anyone. Also have my living will and Durable Power of Attorney on file with Dr. and hospital.

[@larrysproul9424]

Well done by the actors . I have been a prostate cancer treatment for over 16 years. I have had surgery, Medication, radiation and numerous psa tests 4 times a year. Sad that Mike was so young with such a bad case of cancer. Best wishes for Suzy .

[@susiegoodman4425]

It makes me very cross over the years I have had my gorgeous dogs put to sleep especially when they have been part of the family for over 20 years - it breaks your heart but when the vet gets the vein with the drug when you know you have to say goodbye but holding their paw & watching them just go to sleep & not suffering anymore gives you solace !!

[@davidharrison6615]

My dog visits our local hospice . to see him with everyone is truly humbling . he communicates on a level we cannot begin to understand . the children always react on the same level as him . they understand him fully . I will never be lucky enough to have another god given dog like him .

[@sherryratliff5173]

Oh that's so wonderful of you an your Best Friend, God Bless you both

[@marynewton2774]

I worked as a social worker with a hospice and it was the hardest yet most meaningful job I could do.

[@wendyhowell3249]

What a wonderful nurse I love how kind and caring she is to the wife xx

[@ZacharyJohn]

This is completely scripted and acted out but the story line is very real. My father died of cancer just a few months back and it was VERY VERY painful looking even the days leading up. We should all be able to choose the day we die so we’re not in pain.

[@whatshisname3304]

i thought it was real at first. they seemed such a nice couple, it almost felt comically comfortable, I almost expected the grim reaper to jump out of a cupboard. it seems a trope of these reconstructions that people are blissfully happy and then the worst possible happens.

[@jennic.548]

End of life care is so important... Talk it over with your loved .ones so they know what you would like... It's difficult but necessary...Thank you for this video...

[@Babydollxxsaz]

This is such a beautiful video. I really am working towards being a carer within hospice care. Mainly because I have massive fear of death myself and I never want anybody to feel afraid passing over. This has reminded me how much love I have to give to anybody in the process of passing. I want to be there for them just like I want someone there for me when I pass. Its so scary to think that people pass with no love or support but can really be such a beautiful time with the right people around. Thankyou so much for this video. And love to everybody on here who are watching because they are going through this themselves.

[@cellashaniece3289]

Sarah Delaney I feel the exact same!

[@sorchasam3252]

Re watched this video and forgot I posted here a year ago!! I'm now a carer and have helped people in their end stages and have a resident on their way to heaven now at the moment. What an absolute privilege it is to be a loving person in the final weeks, days and hours of the residents who I care for. Shelley in this has been a beautiful inspiration. Thankyou ❤

[@sorchasam3252]

Oh and I am no longer afraid of death. It has shown me how beautiful it can be

[@robyndaniels1381]

If you can do it please do. Last week I witnessed a 93-year old lady die in an inpppropriate setting with inadequate care and all the pain she and her family endured. It doesn't have to be that way, and shouldn't be that way. And I speak as a retired nurse with 25 years experience. We need more nurses with knowledge, expertise and those important ingredients of kindness and compassion. xx

[@brendaputnam7234]

Put Love In Christ Jesus Precious One

[@Robby334]

Very well put "end of life care" is very important to have professional nurses to help. We have a great NHS service. Bless all that are going through this x

[@robyndaniels1381]

Sadly my experience last weekend of being 'cared for' in an emergency SAU unit rather than on the oncology ward they wanted to admit me to but couldn't because of 'lack of beds' - actually a shortage of nurses situation - was far from ideal and quite stressful for me and nurses alike. But at least I am now aware of the kind of 'treatment/care' I am likely to get when the ascites (and pain) return and I will be fortunate to get a hospital bed on an appropriate ward to die on much less a hospice bed nd nurses. God help me! I'm thinking my best bet might be to aim for end of life care in a nursing home with some wonderful Marie Curie/McMillan nurse input. NHS care for cancer patients like me is DIRE here in South Wales (Swansea).

[@janestirling7970]

It`s actually very rare to find that kind of care. My Mums end of life care was awful, she always helped people, she didn`t deserve any of that

[@AmberHorne34]

These actors deserve a standing ovation. They had me in tears, it seemed so real. This was incredible.

[@godschild3640]

HOW DARE 😭YOU BE RUDE 😭TO PEOPLE WHO 😭HAVE CANCER 😭HE DIED😭

[@Nate1975]

Respect to these people doing such important work

[@nenblom]

RIP Mike, I have been worried about the time when my elderly parents pass away. Thank God, I have a great and strong family And a psychotherapist and psychiatrist who are helping me through different mental issues. We have talked a lot about this. I’m not overly worried but I am concerned. Thank God, we do have a will. I have been through a tremendous amount of medical And mental issues myself. In fact my doctor has told me that I’m not supposed to be alive today. If I would describe all that, this will turn into a book. I do have major depressive disorder and generalized anxiety disorder which is very hard to live with but I’m fighting it every day. I know things are going to turn out good. This is an incredible and very important film.

[@miriambourke4505]

i m going back work as health carer. its avocation. my life is empty if i can t help people. it was an blessing to be with my nana when she passed away. i had the strenght to be with nana. all my family fell apart. i told her that i loved her so much. when i told nana that it was ok to go. she took her last breath. i feel that i send her home. looking back its was funny that i tried to warm up nana. 24 years ago. i worked in nursing homes and i was not afraid of dead bodies. i just think of nana. love and respect to every human person.

[@tanyahart2396]

Wow, it was so hard to believe that they were acting. It's was so real to me. Just wow. They need some kinda Emmy award. Cancer is so horrible, I pray someone will learn from this video

[@walkernick86]

The woman talking at the end sounds like she is about to burst into tears!

[@wheelz94]

I cried watching this and even though it's actors portraying real people and a real event, it made me emotional and it's close to home for me because I've lost people from cancer.

[@blakesasha3517]

Damn good actors. The wife actually cried real tears!

[@lucky5853]

I recently lost my mom and I honestly think that I'll grieve such loss until I die, it will always hurt, there is no way it will stop hurting ,however I've learned to hide it so my wife think I'm ok, and at least she can enjoy our lives together, when people tell you to get on with life, their intentions are good but really don't know how it is.

[@titifolol]

I don't think we ever get over the death of someone who was truly important to us in our lives, I think we learn to live without them over a period of years and so I am afraid time is your biggest enemy right now sir but you can rest assured that it is the way things are meant to happen, we are meant to bury our parents t the other way around and I think that no matter when it happens in our lives there is never truly a right time for it to happen, so my advice to you is not to hide it so much and speak to your lady wife about how you are feeling, i think t will do much more damage if you keep it a secret and why shouldn't you talk about your lovely mum and grieve for her......talk about her all the time and remember the good times and I think that i the best medicine when we lose someone to think of them at their best and to look back and laugh at some of the things they did that had you rolling over with laughter when they where here and know that one day you ill meet again in the kingdom of heaven. Know that your mother will be with you all the time she's only waiting now with her loved ones who went before her for when it's your turn to go, they are all just waiting for you.......god bless you sir i hope your pain eases soon for you, here is a lovely verse that sums it up beautifully i think.... Death is nothing at all. I have only slipped away to the next room. I am I and you are you. Whatever we were to each other, That, we still are. Call me by my old familiar name. Speak to me in the easy way which you always used. Put no difference into your tone. Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow. Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes we enjoyed together. Play, smile, think of me. Pray for me. Let my name be ever the household word that it always was. Let it be spoken without effect. Without the trace of a shadow on it. Life means all that it ever meant. It is the same that it ever was. There is absolute unbroken continuity. Why should I be out of mind because I am out of sight? I am but waiting for you. For an interval. Somewhere. Very near. Just around the corner. All is well. Nothing is past; nothing is lost. One brief moment and all will be as it was before only better, infinitely happier and forever we will all be one together with Christ. By Henry Scott Holland

[@melaniewalker5226]

Sentinel58 I lost my father 11 years ago I still cry most days I miss him more as time goes on.

[@saradecapua3264]

I HAVE LOST BOTH PARENTS AND A BROTHER. GIVE YOURSELF TIME. YOU WILL GRIEVE AND ONE DAY YOU WILL BE AT PEACE. TIME IS ON YOUR SIDE.

[@unaninanine3743]

Sentinel58 You will but it'll get a bit better. I lost my dad 31 yrs ago and it still hurts a lot, every day...

[@saradecapua3264]

You never really get over a loss but at some point you will suddenly find you don't get so emotional over a loss. 17 years and I still mourn my brothers passing but it was more fleeting a thought. To all with the losses I have known....it does get better.

[@sapphirerain70]

Good actors! Sorry that someone actually went through this ❤️🦋

[@MrHetherton]

it is my dads first death anniversary today even though it was a Wednesday when he died. he died from lung cancer, the palliative care team are wonderful, on my fathers last night we had the night nurse in, I remember been called by the nurse up from bed around 4am to help her slide my father back up in the bed as he slid down when she gave him an injection, then she called me again at 6:am that's when we found out he hadn't long more. my mother me and my brother were around the bed, I was kneeling down at his side holding his hand and talking to him although he was unconscious. nurse left at 7:am our father died around 7:20am, unfortunately my other brother and two sisters did not make it in time as they live some what further away than my other brother whom lives 5 minutes from here. we called the priest out and he anointed my dad and about a minute later he peacefully slipped away. RIP dad.

[@frlouiegoad4087]

Paul Hetherton /Bless You : May the lord grant you peace, You have given much.

[@flowerlm47]

Paul Hetherton Sorry for your loss, but I’m glad you had the support you did. May your dad Rest In Peace.❤️

[@rosepetryk4672]

Paul Hetherton 1

[@davidharrison6615]

Paul Hetherton If you can have a good death then that was it . sorry for your loss . i sm sure your dad knew you where at his side .

[@lindakassab1475]

RIP!!!

[@dawn.michelle.woundedarrow2048]

i have thyroid problems, austism, a.d.d. and scoliosis, but i can not fathom wanting to be "assisted" to take my own life, everyday i wake up i am greatful and feel more blessed then i am worthy of or deserve

[@rochelle123ist]

Dawn MoonWolf if you had terminal cancer you might feel very differently

[@VinonaGroupServices]

Bravo, this was a very beautiful and high quality information video.#VGSusa

[@cheryltaylor6488]

We have just lost my brother and he wanted to be at home. It really didn't happen as peaceful as this gentleman and I have since been told by others that a peaceful passing isn't always so.

[@robyndaniels1381]

Very well expressed and explored. I am terminally ill with weeks/months to live and after a recent hospital stay for some symptomatic treatment (drainage of malignant ascites that badly affects my quality of life) I have only just come under the care of a local palliative care team I can have confidence in. I am living in a hotel at present but know will need inpatient/hospice care soon. It's good to know about the electronic end of life care register. I am living near my sister at present but have come to realise she is not able (nor I suspect willing) to provide the kind of end of life emotional support I need (she nursed my mother through two years of end of life care due to lymphoma). My daughter lives around 250 miles away and although she visited last weekend I know it is not easy for her, It hurts me that my 18-year old twin grandchildren have not visited (one started uni and the other 'dropped out' I suspect to be there for her mother at this difficult time in our family situation/dynamics). My daughter did nor respond well to my diagnosis/prognosis last year nor my talking so frankly about my willingness and wish to die and for them to 'let me go'. She ended up in a psychiatric hospital for 8 weeks with a stress-related psychotic break. She is doing well now and still sees a psychiatrist/psychologist once a week who hope to bring her off medication in March. She has a wonderfully supportive husband and they run a print business together. I have undergone unpleasant aggressive chemotherapy and a lot of pain over the past year or so of 'buying them time' to 'let me go' and they know that although I had 9 months cancer free I do not want further treatment now it is back (since April) and I want to die as quickly and as comfortably as possible in the hands of professionals in hospital/hospice. I have life limiting side effects from the chemotherapy n terms of breathing and mobility and now on morphine slow release and for breakthrough pain I spend around 22 hours a day in bed trying to stay pain-free and fighting a body that wants neither food nor drink. It is not a life I want to live. I want to go as soon as possible. Back to the stars I came from. I don't want others to be in pain waiting for me to die either - I just can't live for others anymore. There are logistic problems of course and I have to find out if my daughter wants me to move nearer or not. The timing is not great with her doctors wanting her to come off meds in March and me wanting to die around that time. We will work it out with the help of the palliative care team and both doctors' surgeries I'm sure. Thanks for sharing. xx Pray for me and my family xx

[@kathyfreeman9596]

Many prayers n hugs sent hope your journey to the stars is peaceful

[@robyndaniels1381]

@@kathyfreeman9596 thank you kathy xx

[@louisejohanson6379]

Sending hugs your way 🤗

[@mp53840]

One day at a time, I’m sending you grace, blessings and peace…

[@trailer_trash_Barbie]

Seeing if you was still around

[@jeanettesteed3326]

What a difficult job this doctor had to do. Can’t imagine how you would do it. I take my hat off to all of these doctors who have to do this job.

[@intelligentsia9493]

It's the most ethical care I've known.

[@marioncannon9924]

She was absolute rubbish

[@Natasha-uv8so]

Truly amazing and kind people.....God Bless them for making this easier on the families and treating them with understanding...

[@ScouserGirl89]

she's an angel as all nurses who do this delicate time are. my nan's nurses were amazing to my nan and to us as a family

[@robyndaniels1381]

You were lucky - most people who die in hospital get tired burned-out nurses.

[@steveclinton4084]

Hello gorgeous how are you doing hope you’re having a great time with your family may God bless you and your family

[@teresapitts2021]

I can relate to this lady, my mom passed a few days before Christmas, holidays are especially hard. She had stage 3 colon cancer. I still miss my mom

[@ltruax29]

My mom also passed from stage 3 colon cancer and she passed on December 16th.

[@TammieBuckeye]

WOW.. the actors are great!!

[@ddsmiles6382]

Death doesn’t scare me pain does! I don’t want to suffer.

[@paulfasse8032]

Spot on and well said. Unresolved Suffering scares me while still being in my body.

[@munawarhusain7844]

GOD willing you will not son . May The Almighty give you a long , happy and healthy life and eventually a pain free cross over to the other side . Take care of yourself and the ones you love.

[@photomusicman9413]

@@munawarhusain7844 God does not exist.

[@wacerahchege8]

@@photomusicman9413 sadly, if you don't have change of mind, you might arrive there end and be in shock to find out that God really exist and that its too late for you. Hope and pray that God would have mercy on you before its too late. Take care

[@photomusicman9413]

@@wacerahchege8 LOL. You're deluded. When we die, we die. There is no afterlife. God does not exist. How sad that you cannot accept that.

[@KoolBreeze420]

I wish I had had something like this but I didn't know my wife was dying I woke up and I was curled up with her cold dead body it broke my mind I am only now starting to come back before she passed I lost my dog and my father on the same weekend after she passed I lost her father,mother,sister,my grandfather and godmother. Since I now say the words I love you to my mother and my remaining aunts and uncles because death can claim you without knowing it I'm only 43.

[@da1stamericus]

KoolBreeze420 I am sorry this occurred to you. Hugs.

[@beckyg927]

KoolBreeze420

[@Elbaz8]

My heart felt condolences to you Sir.

[@jdsguam]

Damn.....

[@JulieR73]

It’s so hard to watch our loved ones die. My sweet mom had Parkinson’s Disease for 22 years and I’m so thankful for the hospice facility she was in for those last 8 days. It was incredibly peaceful as she left us. I’m so glad I was there holding her hand as she took her final breath.

[@angelam9333]

I lost my Mum 3 years ago. She was in hospice for 4 days and died peacefully. My Mum was in a coma so I never had the chance to say good bye. She died with dignity and the hospice was a lovely, quiet place. They treated her wonderfully and I am grateful to them. I’m glad you were able to hold her hand. What a wonderful gift. God bless you. She will always be in your heart

[@TreeBee4050]

Wow I didn’t expect such good acting. This really hit hard and got real for me, made me emotional. I lost my little brother a couple years ago now, watching things like this make my grief return full force but it’s somehow therapeutic? I don’t think there is a day still where I don’t think about you Ethan…. He was only 21.

[@silvana11221122]

My dad died 8 weeks ago thank you for the palliative care given in the last 3 weeks. - i wish i knew what the last few days would be like. Even though his final hours were peaceful in his own home Its scaring me still.

[@cherylross393]

So special to see a loving supportive couple.Its so hard saying goodbye when the time comes. I wish Susie the best in the future and friendship in her travels if she wishes to travel in the future.

[@aitsutsumi6269]

w he Chu hi by CT me see

[@virginiastevens3782]

My dear friend, no one knows till you personally go through this life changing experience, so please don’t express you should move on , we all are different how we handle a loved ones passing.Susys life is her own and needs support from her friends and family. She in time will no when to carry on living her life.Both Mike and Suzy talked about this ending of him, but shared their love as they always had with each other. God bless you Mike, and Susy, your life is about to turn that new page. God bless you my friend. Love Light and Healing goes out to you. Rev Virginia Stevens.✝️✝️✝️✝️🙏🙏🙏❤️

[@CynthiaHopperBagThatJazz]

It's been a little over 3 years since mom died from lung cancer in her bed. I must say this film depicted what we experienced very accurately. I'm still sad :(

[@jennyfoster792]

Sorry for your loss, I recently lost my mum and feel lost without her x

[@MamaBear1729]

Wonderfully done... I wish there was a way to get more people to see this...❤️🙏

[@paulawilliams8168]

Bloody hell that was some damn good acting by 'Mike' and 'Suzy'.

[@neponsetriver]

Oscar worthy.

[@sweetelyseadams797]

That was shit

[@melaniewalker5226]

I thought the doctor was the best actor.

[@Aitch_154]

For a cancer patient he looked well nourished!

[@SleeplessinOC]

oh wow, they were actors? I skipped over the screen information part at first and only went back to it later...they were incredibly convincing..

[@lashersquirrelslayer]

"Mike" was looking truly dead at the end.

[@carolstapleton9108]

Oh yes this was definitely for real. When my mother was terminally ill with Emphysema it was myself who gave the go ahead when her GP asked me if she had made any wishes known to us. She did talk to me about this sensitive subject and she gave me instructions on her inability to make such decisions at the relative time. So it was set, she was hooked up to morphine and it was just a matter of time. In effect she just floated away and I had her in my embrace for that moment. Do/did I feel bad for giving the go ahead for her final breath? No, it’s what she wanted all along since dad died just 24 hours earlier.

[@intelligentsia9493]

Nothing is more satisfying and comforting than befriending the doctor before death. Especially when you're not living with a caring family

[@brucecolemancfo5087]

Are they actors? If so, they deserve an Oscar!!

[@hasanalyafei6864]

Bruce Finnie in England still illegal but many go to Switzerland

[@nenblom]

I think they are actors. I believe this is a re-enactment. What a lovely couple they were. RIP Mike. God bless your family, especially Suzie, and other loved ones.

[@jennyfoster792]

Yh I think they actors and so heartbreaking

[@charlottearena]

@@nenblom Re-enactment are that stupid really? Have you ever worked in a hospital, obviously you haven't. Let me guess you must be a millennial!!!

[@charlottearena]

Re-enactment are that stupid really? Have you ever worked in a hospital, obviously you haven't. Let me guess you must be a millennial!!!

[@sherimcdaniel3491]

Thank you so much, Susie, for sharing your journey. God bless you.

[@lk4543]

They are great actors I only realised they were acting at halfway through and that was because the camera filmed him on the bed at two different angles

[@annxx7976]

These actors are fantastic! Great info video thank you

[@queenhoneybee.7772]

The acting is amazing! They deserve oscars!

[@ZauberinNini]

+Susan Evalyn. They really do! I thought they were the real people involved since I hadn't read the post above.

[@queenhoneybee.7772]

+Nina Bella - Oh yes! When I first started watching I thought it was a documentary about real people! I was amazed to discover that they were actors! No over-acting, etc., just real talent. I think that you can train especially for this type of acting. It really made me feel what people must go through in this terrible situation...

[@joshuanesbit]

Susan Evalyn. Is the nurse an actress?

[@queenhoneybee.7772]

I'm not certain, but I think the medical persons are actual professionals. This was an excellent and very informative document-drama.

[@kaypreston8908]

great video

[@abefroman70]

Wow! That was Oscar worthy. I totally believed this was all real since I didn’t read the first few seconds.

[@internetpolice1166]

What scares people about death is that we try to understand it in our human brains. We think of it as conscious eternal darkness or whatever you believe with added emotion. Feelings of anxiety and fear. When you really think about it, there is no more consciousness. Those feelings don't exist after death. I think death is much like the feeling of before you were born.

[@leylamamat215]

Internet Police death is one thing, pain is another thing

[@abdoolhamidburtally4927]

Internet Polic

[@daniellecole4408]

when we die our body die we go see Jesus if you know Jesus we always live but if u don't know him there will be darkness

[@nikkiejones669]

Internet Police hi I need to tell you to watch people's near death experiences we are very conscious after death and know who we are are and if we've been in pain alive we have no pain after death in fact it's an incredible feeling. God is very real and people who do not believe in God find out after life that there defiantly is Jesus and Heaven is very real. I hope you look up on you tube and listen, there are lots of them and they give you a peaceful feeling of knowing where we go once we die. God bless everyone who reads this

[@TheDesperado557]

I agree

[@meow-wow81]

I could cry watching this vedio. It's too hard when you lost your love ones ...

[@J3nRose]

Mike: Just tell me the f’ing news Dr Twig!!!! Geez!!

[@jennifermarshall2022]

I was just thinking the same thing as you. Stop beating around the damn bush and come out with it already. Am I sick or not

[@rolfenblom412]

@@jennifermarshall2022 Agreed

[@alisonalibongo3177]

Such lovely people the care workers honestly thay take care of the family’s so well. ❤️

[@rozsa7828]

It's very important to keep checking on the person who lost someone don't forget bout them and invite them to get out keep them company make them tea a cuppa bfong them .some flowers it can make all the difference

[@frlouiegoad4087]

We all die. No medical advances will ever change that. We all are passing through this world.

[@eirene1988]

Hopefully not just passing passively, though, but doing our best to do good to others and make a positive impact for society while we're still here.

[@inmatejason]

I believe this is just one step in are journey but It doesn’t make it any less scarier to die though. Sometimes I think it’s because I don’t have 100% faith and I have this small part of me that thinks what if there is nothing and it’s just an off switch for ever. MmmmHow does one get 100% faith these days? Then I start thinking if I don’t have 100% faith will I not go to heaven, as you can see I’m going through some stuff and I need help lol

[@ShyAnn291]

Jason B I think that’s normal, I do believe in God and heaven, but even I have some fear about it, so like I said, that’s a normal feeling.

[@inmatejason]

ShyAnn291 thanks, you made me feel better.

[@ShyAnn291]

Jason B I’m glad I could make you feel better!

[@davidturner4610]

This was very brave to put this story on camera. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@gloriannepapolis6525]

It's a skit

[@justonsullivan3807]

Cancer is a very nasty disease, u would think that this world would have a good grip on this illness, being that it kill's so many people all over the world. R.I.P Mike u will never be forgotten, I wish all the best to his Wife and loved ones. 🙏🇺🇲🗽🇬🇧🙏

[@Skycop51]

This was very informative, about caring people. I do not want to die alone, please not alone God!

[@Capilya]

+William Arthur You will not be 'alone'. Those from the other side will be there to greet you.

[@k0smon]

1991/// Certainly you are joking. There is plenty of proof of that. You have fallen for the trap of believing the crap about "soul-sleep" you heard from the JWs.

[@k0smon]

ice/// Yep, sure is, whether you wish to recognize it or not. The bibles teaching has been contradictory and full of discrepancy and error on a lot of subjects. Why do you think there are so many Christian denominations? Because the bible is not clear about what it teaches. "Today thou shalt be with me in Paradise" "To be absent from the body is to be present with the Lord." These teachings are backed up by secular knowledge gained from those who have had NDEs, and by mediums in contact with the deceased.

[@GillDundee]

Im Scotland I got so frustrated during care. Care has to be ok by social services dad couldn’t get toilet break without going through social service. He was dying there telling us to wait 2 weeks 😡 the frustration has turned to anger . Our palliative care nurses came in daily .and we’re so amazing it was the carers. Barely spoke English and need retrained

[@PB.JACKSON]

A reminder to us all that our time on earth is limited; we all have an expiry date! Fill your life with love and seek peace, forgive people who may have hurt you, seek forgiveness from those you may have hurt. Death can come like a thief in the night, no warnings, or you may we given advanced notice of a time frame, either way life will one day end for all of us. Enjoy whatever time you have on earth.

[@sonnysnavarro6860]

Her voice was very comforting

[@stevenhensman2541]

My dear nurse you are so wonderful so beautiful for the work you do helping others you are ready the pass on to the next world thank you

[@gailcrowe727]

Carol Webs. I totally agree. We never saw the GP at all. The Macmillan nurse came once a fortnight and the GP the day before he died. The nurse rang for an ambulance and he was taken to the hospice where he died the next day. He lost a lot of weight, his face looked awful, not like him at all. I certainly had no support from from the GP at all, in fact nobody actually. I found the number of the local Cruse councillor but she was 88 years old and just told me about other peoples experiences. The only real help I got was from the hospice staff, they were brilliant people. The state the NHS is in at the moment, you can’t even get to see a doctor, it’s disgusting.

[@deniseemond9263]

So much mote kind than health care in the USA. Wish I was in England about now.

[@lucyterrier7905]

Denise Edmond. It's not the doctors holding it up. It's the lawyers.

[@metaxajack2007]

The strangest feeling ever when you are told that you're terminal and there is nothing more that can be done and all they can offer is palliative care only. This was told to me in October 2017 and I had less than six months to live due to a failed kidney removal that allowed the cancer to spread to every major organ of my body. I got angry. I got upset and then I got positive. I discovered full strength, full spectrum cannabis oil. Seven months later I am cancer free with the exception of a small lesion on my rib cage that I'm confident would have disappeared when I have my next scan. I was sceptical but I took the leap of faith because I had nothing to lose. I just hope that more people could discover the cancer killing properties of cannabis oil and not die needlessly.

[@jdsguam]

With all the cannabis I smoke, I suppose cancer is the least of my worries.

[@hjo4104]

are you still alive?

[@ratelhoneybadger]

@@jdsguam try to take it as an edible, smoking causes cancer.

[@anapprenticeforlife4116]

Unfortunately, Cannabis Oil only works on very few cancers, and you have to use it in conjunction with other treatments for it to work. It's very, very odd that cancer had metastasized to all your major organs and it went away completely save for one lesion. I'm not saying that it isn't true, but that's very, very rare and had to have been exact circumstances for it to work. Natural remedies like that should definitely be more widespread in use, but people need to make sure that they still treat with other known treatments as well. Source: A long, long time nurse with heavy cancer experience. Hope you're well. Cheers.

[@christinecreasey2342]

The way I wanna die is just pump me full of morphine, watching this had shead some light on what happens through the course of dying

[@rhondawilliams5859]

I HAVE BREAST CANCER AND I THINK ABOUT WHAT IF I DON'T MAKE IT?????😑😑😑 I HEAR THAT MY CANCER 💔😢 CAN COME BACK???? THIS SCARES ME SO MUCH 😭!!!!! BUT I ALSO KNOW THAT IF IT'S GODS WILL THEN BE IT!!!!! 😑😑 FOR ONLY THE GOOD LORD 🙏🙌😇🙏 SAYS IF WE LIVE OR DIE!!!!!! BUT I AM STILL AFRAID!!!!!😑😑 I PRAY EVERYDAY 🙏😇 FOR ALL OF THE PEOPLE WITH HORRIBLE 😢 DISEASES!!!!!! FOR WE ARE ALL SCARED!!!!😑😑😑😑 PLEASE KEEP YOUR FAITH 🙏 IN OUR GREAT 🙏🙌💞 GOD 🙏!!!!!!! PRAISE GOD 🙌🙏!!!!!!!!!!

[@photomusicman9413]

If it is god's will that you have cancer then don't you think god is not a very pleasant person? If there was a god you would not have cancer.

[@ec8787]

@@photomusicman9413 God’s ways are Higher that our and your ways.

[@indiamitchell93]

Wishing you the best

[@indiamitchell93]

@@ec8787 he kinda makes sense

[@snarkasticsquid2435]

I’m sorry. But using that logic, that means it’s your supposed ‘god’ that gave you cancer. No. I have incurable disease (MS). No god gave it to me. No one gave me the lesions on my brain. No one is making me slowly lose the use of my body. I don’t need to blame it on someone. It is physical, biological, genetics & sheer shit luck. And if I die because of it, its not any ‘gods’ will. It just freaking IS. Love to you 💕 I hope you’re doing ok today.

[@JavierBonillaC]

Darn actors, almost made me cry. One is never quite ready to say goodbye to it all but one should think about it often to appreciate life and to better accept the inevitable.

[@georgeenke7482]

Very compassionate people in Hospice. Dear God, I pray for peace and assurance that You're waiting with loving arm's in Heaven.

[@sickpeople1164]

Compassionate? That nurse is laughing while the guy dies! More money in her pocket!

[@larryb8022]

God be with him and his wife, death is something we can’t not avoid so we need to be all we can be, share ones love with other. If people would stop all the hate the killings, those horrible things humans do to hurt others and kill others as well. 🙏🏻RIP Mike🙏🏻

[@cindrastover2782]

I manage an Adult Foster Home and have supported several families through end of life care. It is a very intimate time. Very sad.

[@maviswilliams7955]

I pray to my heavily father to give me the strength to prepare myself ahead of time before my death. I know I will die one day. I idea scares the devil out of me.

[@davidharrison6615]

Mavis Williams its just like walking into another room . dont be scared nothing to be scared about .

[@lucyterrier7905]

Mavis William's. That was the most intelligent, caring comment I have read. God Bless you. I lived with horrific pain with no relief for almost 7 years. I survived my disease. I became very close to Christ. When it's your time, all fear goes away. But, I found after being well for a few years now, my fear is creeping back. I think it's normal.

[@rhondawilliams5859]

Mavis Williams, AMEN!!!!!!!😍😑

[@rhondawilliams5859]

@@davidharrison6615 I TOO AM AFRAID OF DIEING!😑 YOU SOUND LIKE A STRONG CARING MAN!!!!!😍 MAY GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR FAMILY!!!!!!😘😘

[@iamessence6268]

Not death is transition.

[@rochelle123ist]

I went through this shit even when I had stage 3 cancer. It was terrible but in case I died I wanted my wishes loud and clear.

[@terrybertch7201]

...we all pass through this world 🌎! Some fast & some slower...Each in our own unique way...🤭

[@dulcehajjar5826]

True .... 🤭👀😨

[@jackiebrooks2276]

I know it's been several years now but still I am very sorry for your loss.

[@margaretkinnaird4136]

god bless them

[@sallyclay1974]

My sister retired from NBC, in Rockefeller Center, for over 30 yrs, and was a top journalist. She has been living in her house since 2014. She lives in Ridgefield, Ct.She started forgetting things right away. She has been diagnosed with Lewy Body Dementia. Now 5 yrs later, she is wheelchair bound, diapers, non verbal and round the clock caregiving in her home.Lewy Body Dementia destroys the brain rapidly. I think this yr, is the final yr. Blessings to u, and your friends and family. Non of us ever know what is ahead for us. Many prayers!

[@iamessence6268]

We are all going to die sooner or later...I hope I die while I sleep.

[@stevenhensman2541]

Would you want to live forever that would be a curse knowing what's there for you on the other side I know these people don't understand what's coming their way I'm talking about the afterlife but but I do agree it must be hard passing away we don't know what it's like till it is our time

[@stevenhensman2541]

Your wishes has been granted

[@Kingjamesbible161]

Steven Hensman The Bible tell you how it will be befire and after that way their are no suprise It’s either he’ll or heaven and one choice to reject or accept Christ befire death is up to the person Either decision is eternal and can’t be undone no second chances after death today is your chance today is the day of salvation Everyone has free will

[@stevenhensman2541]

@@Kingjamesbible161 dear friend may I ask you a question number one question is this world real number to question if you had a wooden chair in front of you is it real

[@stevenhensman2541]

@@Kingjamesbible161 and please can you answer me this question when a person is in a hospice and they are dying do the loved ones who have passed on before them come for them and also do The Dying see them and see the next world that they are going to

[@michelletaylor4112]

My father passed away 10 years ago of prostrate cancer he passed away at home , surrounded by his loving family, it was a very precious moment for me I am the who found him passed in his bed, I love u daddy and miss u

[@annelouis7956]

Thank you for sharing this life's end.

[@debbielocklin7563]

I know this was a long time ago, but damn just tell them! Don’t drag it out!!

[@MrHetherton]

the palliative care team even posted an anniversary card to us.

[@yukiefromoz2573]

Gosh I thought this was real. It wasn't until the end where she was on the phone saying "I think this is it" when I realised lol. Good acting.

[@lorij6796]

Hospice, palliative care such an important service for end of life care.

[@steveclinton4084]

Hello lori how are you doing hope you’re having a great time with your family may God bless you and your family

[@tatersalad0130]

While they were actors, the message is clear. Make your end of life choices known to your loved ones. Talk with them. Make sure everyone is on the Same page. No surprises. Everyone needs to follow the plan when the time arrives. God bless hospice nurses, end of life care teams, and the families that come to know and depend on them.

[@Apple-xt4vp]

I have seen this video before and this one was hard to watch being married my self for a long time I know it must be so hard for them to let go and for any people in deep relationships

[@EF2000CanFly]

This was one of the saddest documentaries I have witnessed concerning the end of life. The gripping scene when he choked down the poison cocktail with a straw was the hardest. The secular humanist suicide assistant kept saying he would "go to sleep" How does he know what happens when you flat-line and the soul separated from the outer tent? The bibles says "it is appointed unto a man once to die, and then the Judgement." Who is foolish enough to imagine/pretend there is no God and Creator? Judgement does not sound like RIP to me no matter what we want to pretend? If you are an unregenerate, lost pagan sinner, at death, you will go to a much worse experience that the Lou Gehrigs Syndrome patient. He is what make this a true catch 22. End pain here in this life, only to trade it in for a much worse existence in the next? Hades and Sheol are described a fiery places of torment with no rest day or night. As real as this life is, so shall the next be... and where will you turn? Knowing the terror of the Lord God Almighty, we beg the secular humanist pagan to be reconciled to God in Christ Jesus who experienced unspeakable pain and torment on the cross to save us sinners from certain condemnation.

[@nikkigarcia_2007]

EF2000CanFly People have the right 2 choose but for assisted suicide i would not support it,god gave us life its god who should say who goes & so i dont agree with people who do this who choose assisted suicide i dont agree with people who support it or the families who support it... god suffered for everyone on earth.. doin this assisted death i thing is a discrace or slap in the face to god something thats disrespectful i do think that their is alot of suffering.. but god has a plan 4 everyone we might not understand his reasonings etc 4 things but god does its not 4 us 2 question god...i think that people who do this probably dont go 2 heaven...i dont know if they do or not i dont know what happens when after u pass,but if i was way sick...no matter how i suffered,i would still thank god 4 never abandoning me or family n being their and 4 every day i did have... n that ill know when i go it will b on gods time n his will not mine,not the coward way out... people just shouldnt go against gods will it just is what it is... im sad for those also 4 those who do suffer :-(

[@nikkigarcia_2007]

#CatholicAndDontApproveOfAssistingDeath Theirs faults in every religion,but i strongly agree that assistant death helping people die is not gods way... god died for all of us.. he has a plan 4 everyone but doin this.. this helping others 2 die i dont think people should,god says who goes not us,its god wills not urs... in good health or not,no ones promised 2morrow,no one knows how long they have here on earth,everyone will have the turn when its their time 2 go...

[@gerryrain16]

EF2000CanFly you are right.

[@AdrienneAce2]

Oh, my, people. Not everyone has such religious beliefs. It's great for you if you do but leave those of us who are not bound by a god's restraints out of conversation. You can suffer through whatever painful and horrible condition you may have someday (I wouldn't wish that on anyone, of course), but some some of us choose to go a different route. My life is mine and mine alone to do with as I would choose at a time like this. Worship your god and read your book and leave the rest of us the hell alone.

[@penelopejbishton769]

god bless you both... I lost the love of my life.. be strong just go 1 day at a time

[@dulcehajjar5826]

💔💔💔

[@gailcrowe727]

My aunt had pancreatic cancer, she was at home and given about 6 months to live. At one point she said if I’ve got to go I just want to go.

[@nenblom]

These palliative care workers, nurses and doctors are heroes. I experienced this first hand about five years ago because I had a blood clot in my left foot which put me in the hospital for about a month in intense pain. Luckily, I got my own palliative care team Who, through a very strong pain medication, got my pain under control and made me more comfortable. Yes, I was practically sedated but that was all right. I did not want to experience that pain anymore. After that, my doctors decided to start inpatient physical therapy which saved the foot from amputation. Five years on, I am still going to outpatient physical therapy and will be for the foreseeable future because this is a chronic condition.

[@lianseldou]

If this was india. The nurse / doctors or ambulance would be stuck in traffic.