What If My Ex Starts Dating During No Contact?

[@emmacarla1752]

Superb! The best Coach ever i’ve encountered!...❤️

[@zen8316]

agreed

[@calebcross2970]

Agreed! Straight to the point

[@alexander_no350]

agreed!!

[@joycevelmah711]

On point Emma Carla velayo

[@TheUrban1111]

So my girlfriend forgot to sign out of her facebook account on my computer. 3 days after we break up she hooked up with another guy that had a really big dick. She said to her friend that he was fucking her for 1 hour and that she is now just laying back and smiling and how dumb she was to pass up on all the big dicks before because she was scared of them. She said that now she is just laying on the couch smiling. I feel really hurt. What should i do?

[@jaysonleninenko6221]

Hardest thing to do is watch someone you were in love with become someone you don't even know

[@DEK33019]

I thought of the same thing. Well said!

[@thelegendriderx2740]

I know that feeling like just now

[@xxTAARGUS]

I thought this was the case, but soon realized it was how they always were. If you wait long enough you may just find they were going behind your back for a long time.

[@jessicadavis4163]

Amen! 👏🏼👏🏼 I really thought I knew my boyfriend of 8 years, but boy I was sooooooo wrong!

[@briankusmirek5166]

Agreed. My gf came back after no contact and told me she would never hurt me again. She wanted this relationship more than ever. We talked to me for a week and a few days later she said her meth head ex was sending threatening/abusive messages/calls to harm her and that she belonged to him. She then she stopped contacting me. She sent me a text breaking up with me and blocked me. Most hurtful feeling ever. Before I could even process what happened, I was getting calls from friends saying she was all over FB posting photos of them and saying she was in a relationship with the abusive ex boyfriend. Unreal! You ask yourself how can they do this to you? You never really know someone like you think.... She told me in the past he never physically harmed her but obviously from her history from another abusive BF years ago she went back into the cycle of violence.

[@ALLOUT_SOL]

Once your ex is inolved romantically with someone else after you, is when you should close that chapter of your life.

[@ultrararesabra6159]

Once you break up is when you should close the chapter 😂

[@masondykstra9464]

Ultra Rare Sabra not true at all

[@theseattlegreen1871]

@Jesse Carson What you guys do not understand is your new partner (if you ever get a new one) will have laid down with tons of dudes! People like you make no sense

[@oneputtsteven]

If they just went on 2-3 dates to see what was out there, NP but if you mean romantically involved as "having sex" then yeah there's going to be a lot of trust issues.

[@theseattlegreen1871]

@@oneputtsteven It doesnt matter if it's an ex or a new partner, the facts remain that both will have had sex made love (whatever you want to call it) with other people. So you people are saying I will take a new woman who had sex with other people but I will not take back my ex who had sex with other people? Do you now see that you guys are thinking incorrectly?

[@ZubairKhan-vs8fe]

I don't think your videos are about getting an ex back. That's just the cherry on the cake. Your videos are about getting your self respect and power back

[@cathleenalabarriento]

It works the same with trying to get your ex back and moving on. You’re trying to get your power and respect back for yourself whether he comes back or not.

[@gizziegamez1482]

Watch more of his videos...he is great 👍 Knows what he’s talking about

[@JC-ct3oi]

@@cathleenalabarriento yes i agree with you.. The goal is to get yourself back not your ex back.. if you keep on focusing to get your ex back, you lost yourself in the process

[@ervinqiu3686]

yeah thats the whole point, your ex certainly dont want the old or current version of you, so basically u are gonna remaster urself in order to get the second attraction from them

[@saraalbouji]

This

[@Armzed1]

If girlfriend/fiancee breaks up with you and then immediately starts dating someone new,you're next move should be simple.....the person you knew is gone! They don't exist and maybe they never really existed in the first place. You mean nothing to them,and you could of been anyone! Just be thankful you never married and had kids,that's whole different world of hurt! It will take time but slowly you will start waking up in the mornings,and they won't be the first thing on your mind,until one day you won't think of them at all. It takes time,time is your best friend also at the same time, your worst enemy. Everyone says move on,as if it's very easy but it's not,only you know what you feel,only you know what you go through! Everything else is just words. Focus on yourself,love yourself,treat yourself,try to smile and laugh,break out of the shell you're in! Believe me,while you're on the floor trying to pick up the pieces of your shattered heart thinking about them,they are out there having fun and enjoying themselves,not thinking about you! You don't want that person back! They kicked you out of their life! Remember that. I hope youre all ok guys🙏 Onwards and upwards🔥🔥🔥♥️

[@brbento]

Thanks I needed that

[@david443567]

Thank you, I needed this right now...

[@ch1bob]

Ouch.. what hurts the most is knowing i was the one that pushed her away first and made her lose interest. I cant forgive myself..on top of that i kept forcing even after she told me she started seeing someone else "because i told her to" ( yea i actually did and idk why.. at that pojnt i really didnt care about her i guess). I started forcing with wall of texts and more txts even after no response to my walls..got her flowers and she didnt want to open door to talk, met a friend of her later that night and asked about us to her and more and she told her i asked and she flipped telling me that she had told me she was seeing soemone else and that she wishes me well and that i would find someone better than her, thst this would be the last time we would speak. 2 days later i wrote her a letter (2nd one) basically pleading and saying i missed her and would always love her. I lefft it at her house with a choccake and she actually flipped again in chat saying i should leave her alone, that if i dont understand she doesnt want to be wjth me, to not send her anything, that she was gonna block me and that if i kept bothering her she would file a complaint for harrassment (exaggeration or nah?) Anyways.. After 40 days No Contact (5 days before her bday) i noticed she unblocked me from whatsapp.. but i didnt txt her.. i wonder if she wanted me to wish her happy bday..and if it was a test to see if i remembered and still cared? Or just to reinforce her ego if i did? I almost texted her but everyone told me not to so i contained myself..but now i live in regret a week later.. thinking maybe i lost my one oportunity to rekindle..thoughts? Am i too far gone? Am i just delusional thinking i could reconnect?

[@emanuel_soundtrack]

1 year no contact, at least, self-improving

[@ssgss4024]

What if we were just dating? like for 2 months... everything was great and talked about serious things already... then i act needy , make all that drama and she back off for real? i think she’s dating another boy already

[@MUde-ph7gr]

I don't want my ex back, but unfortunately, he's in my mind all the time and I don't want him there. However, your videos are addictive and useful. Thank you, coach.

[@momocyrine]

Did u Forget him

[@MUde-ph7gr]

@@momocyrine he's just a faded memory now. I don't like, hate, or respect him. Nor does he make me angry anymore. Naturally, I became apathetic.

[@momocyrine]

@@MUde-ph7gr does he have someone new ?? Does he seem happy without u? Why i cant get over the fact that he is with someone else !!

[@MUde-ph7gr]

@@momocyrine I heard from mutual friends that he is depressed and making bad decisions, but this was almost a year ago. I don't know if he's with someone new, nor do I care at all. It took me some time to get to this point. I haven't spoken to him and I'm perfectly fine.

[@MUde-ph7gr]

@@momocyrine don't fret over him being with someone new. You will find someone new too

[@marleew6455]

This happened to me. We separated in October and he had an affair in December. It was unbelievable and painful, but I promise, you let him go and move on and it gets so much better. Here we are in almost April and I have never gotten more compliments in my life about how healthy and beautiful I look. I honestly think it’s because I have let him go and am learning to love myself. I also really recommend prayer throughout the process and God WILL help you!!🙏

[@dr.options]

If you're broken up, then he didn't cheat or have an affair. It doesn't sound like he did anything wrong.....appreciate the fact that u2 broke up before he acted on his sexual desires.

[@keepgrowing9941]

You got back together?

[@tyetr9853]

Did he reach out

[@uteteemma7730]

Amen!! That’s so wonderful and encouraging!

[@luisenriquelander8044]

It’s crazy the power and trust you can give another human. Why do people hurt people like this, when all you wanted was to give them all the loving you had. I hate the world we live in.

[@worilareiemmanuel5055]

I can recommend you to someone powerful who was able to bring back my ex and it works very fast and I believe he can solve your relationship problems.

[@worilareiemmanuel5055]

WhatZapp hiM NOw🌹🌹👇

[@michaelferguson1934]

I feel your pain I know made mistakes in our 2 year relationship I didn't cheat I wasn't abusive but she dumped me 4 weeks ago and went on dating sites 2 weeks later. I want her back but I'm in no contact going on 4 weeks so I hope my absence is hurting her or making her wonder about me

[@sleon2528]

@@michaelferguson1934 update?

[@michaelferguson1934]

@sleon2528 we are back together it's been 4 weeks, and we attend couples counselling.

[@emilylavielle4757]

I don’t even want my ex back anymore. But this happened with me, we dated for a whole year and then I noticed he was talking to some other girl but I ignored it because I trusted him. One day he randomly broke it off, saying that I have issues and that he doesn’t want to be with me anymore. I was heartbroken and he blamed everything on me. Turned out the girl I was talking about was who he had a thing with in secret and he started dating her less than 2 weeks after our breakup. I am heartbroken but it really shows his character that he needs to fill his insecurities with a relationship. I never want him back.

[@tenzinkunkhen7563]

My gf started dating someone from her workplace, next day of our breakup. I don't understand but I still love her so much. I wish I have strength like yours

[@emilylavielle4757]

Tenzin Kunkhen it will get better over time, you got this. She doesn’t deserve you 🙌🏼❤️

[@tenzinkunkhen7563]

@@emilylavielle4757 thank you, I will try my best to get over this.

[@pocharaphotogolffy7519]

Yes its true

[@jrmejia01]

I feel you this happened to me too

[@LA_Drone]

No contact really works! Worked for me plenty of times. Don’t give up guys stay strong.

[@IrishCassidy]

There are so many comments from people who really haven't listened to Coach videos. They ask the same questions. The answer is No Contact.

[@runout1013]

It’s too tough I’m now in 4 weeks I just can’t hold out 😢

[@LA_Drone]

@@runout1013 bro don’t give up prob best to move on lol damn this comment 4 years ago i remember when i was down bad like you

[@sarahsmiles52]

Thank you. It does work. You gain nothing reaching out if you were dumped. Give it time

[@sboonthae]

I just start no contact for 3 days now. Wish me luck

[@mistynight123]

Hi coach. I've been in complete no contact after being dumped 4 weeks ago. I cried a lot and still have lingering sadness but even if he doesn't try to get me back I want you to know that your videos are a great comfort to me and have really empowered me. You really made a difference: thankyou.

[@annocampo7778]

Amy Bell hi im in the same situation 3 mos ago. And i promise it will get better. :) stay strong!

[@mistynight123]

@@annocampo7778 hugs..you too xxx

[@kellyperkins6568]

@@mistynight123 yes. We are here for u I'm going threw the samething nut my x got a rebound relationship. A month later I'm still in recovery. I'm taking a year off to focus on myself, so july25, 2019 will b a year and I'm going to make sure I don't move fast to hurt someone like my x hurt me

[@mistynight123]

@@kellyperkins6568 oh Kelly big hugs. I'm here for you too. Xx

[@jannieschluter9670]

@@mistynight123 Amy, you seem so wonderful. Just stay strong. :)

[@achilisdragoon2822]

Met my ex-girlfriend for the second time today after the break-up. (It's been 3-months since the break-up, over 2-months since she ghosted me.) She confirmed she's seeing another guy already, just 1-month after she ghosted me. And that she wants me to move on. Said she doesn't love me anymore. And doesn't want us getting back, ever. So I told her that I'm not gonna pretend that we are friends. And that I'm not comfortable being her friend and told her to take care. She said take care too in a pissed off look full of hatred. Then as I came back home, I texted her "I'm done chasing you. Goodluck with life." And then I blocked her. No need for a person like that in my life. She chose the guy whom she's been dating for a month over me whom she had a 9-month relationship with. She's completely different now and she's okay being heartless. Honestly, it's a relief now. I know how she is now.

[@nicholaslister190]

I open this video then read all the comments instead hearing the Coach Lee motivation 😂

[@hotta2nitelight53]

I do the same. I like to read comments

[@MasokaJiko]

Same here 😂😂😂

[@chrisnelson8866]

Do this if your ex has started dating while in no contact.......move on

[@oscarskee5726]

Easier said than done

[@chrisnelson8866]

@@oscarskee5726 it’s tough yes but it’s better this way. Trust me. I know.

[@antiyanna537]

@@SexAndCandyHair92 same..

[@dannyf5157]

@@SexAndCandyHair92 I'm going through this right now it's so painful 💔

[@dannyf5157]

@@SexAndCandyHair92 are you feeling better now ?

[@1tecito]

whenever I feel like reaching out I watch your videos to motivate me, not even to get my ex back but to prove to myself that I am strong and I won't lower myself to play games or be manipulative just to get someone's attention

[@GAMINGYOSHI6]

Me too 🤗

[@vanpaul147]

Ex: "I'm seeing someone new" You: "That's OK but try not to think it's me when the lights are off"

[@mmmm4646]

yeahhhhh

[@IrishCassidy]

you know they are thinking of the ex, taking notes, wondering... and a new person doesnt know the ex's physical desires. Their loss!! Boom!

[@stacym2201]

😊u made me smile wit dat 1😃

[@LipstickNsofrito]

😂😂 I love this!!!

[@nunexmamba857]

Haha

[@taylorscombover3281]

A bizarre thing is when you go NC and you become "new" again.. And the new girlfriend is the one they get bored with.

[@ch1bob]

That happened to u?

[@lala4461]

J J it's happening to me now

[@ch1bob]

Well for taht to happen they have to actually see u and i havent been able to be seen by my ex at all and ive tried

[@kerrymillar1267]

This happened to me too, but these people don’t attach to people normally, they just seek highs. They’re mostly not worth getting back.

[@basicinfo2022]

That's a cheater...

[@nyeonii]

Remember everyone: if you treat someone like a celebrity, they will start to treat you like a fan… People only disrespect you when you let them. It’s okay to give and make sacrifices in a relationship, but it needs to be mutual!!

[@R1ch4rd]

It's so true. He crushed on me and wished that I was gay. He was so happy when I turned out to be one and I gave him a shot, even though I didn't feel the love yet. Not so long after I fell in love with him. He would always be gentle and cute and do things the way I like, even if it's not what he wants at the moment, saying that he cares for me and wants me to feel comfortable. But after I fell in love with him, I started saying no no it's ok, what do YOU want? And it slowly grew into him making the decisions always, even when I openly said I don't like want it, he said I'll be fine. He started casually insult me and even call me stupid saying that I call myself stupid anyway. At the beginning he always said I'm so smart and would always give compliments. At the beginning he always missed me and would cutely ask for more time spending together. Lately he said I'm an obsessive independent suffocating person, and that he needs time for himself, even though all I asked is just answer my one text “Are you feeling better baby” and not ignore for hours, but if I were to dare and not tell him in advance that I'd be busy and not answer for 30 minutes he would accuse me of cheating or not caring about him. He eventually broke up with me saying he's so out of breath and can't take it anymore. This was my first relationship.

[@apphea001]

See true! My ex quickly picked a girl who he knew he could have. She’s not good looking at all. Unfortunately for her, he probably just didn’t want to be alone

[@yukilovelyjung7825]

Totally Same experience here, now I’m Happy as I can see and found my self again

[@vunnox]

same ugh, it sucks

[@oldcunt574]

Idk i met girl after dating again who i didnt feel the highest attraction to at first but turned out to be the love of my life and the most beautiful girl i ever met

[@evalyt.e.n.1855]

Yep..and he cheated on her with me.....

[@teresalindberg2863]

Nooo. I moved on pretty fast, Because he loved me, comfort me and was my best friend like 5 years before me and the ex even begun dating. I truly see how love should be now thanks to him. ^^ 2 years now Love him more and more each day

[@digidyn]

Uh, no....If they're dating someone else that's a milestone. Even with what was said here this EX is not a stable person. It's done, don't beat yourself up over it and move on.

[@shaylazamanmonjori6489]

can u tell me how can I move on?

[@hippyraveguy5026]

@@shaylazamanmonjori6489 for me raising my value in anyway possible. Looks attituxe goals. Being around people or family i like. Letting yourself feel the pain and and just accpecting that its gone and not coming back. Yet focus on obtaining something better.

[@Young_23]

You’re right, but remember, we’re human and not all of us are stable. Sometimes it takes the right person to be able to break the vicious cycle of an unstable person. Immaturity, personal issues, troubled past, many things can lead to people acting in this way. It can be hurtful, yes, but sometimes there are people strong enough to not only endure their unstable behavior but also help them change. Remember we’re all humans capable of making mistakes and being flawed, just like we’re all capable of changing. Sometimes it just takes the right person with the right understanding and patience to help it happen. That or self analysis, but that is much more difficult to achieve.

[@aprilg3299]

@@Young_23 the only problem with this statement ..the person has to want to change u can't so that for them. If there actions do not support change its also a lot of talk. I think about it likw this..its super hard to change myself how the hell am I gonna change another person. You at some point have to learn that u are the important one in this equation and u don't want to waste the precious time u are given. How much are your willing give away of yourself and time to someone who is not giving the same effort? Letting go hurts like hell.. its like a death..but I am not gonna give him anymore od my time , money, or effort . For breadcrumbs and hoping it will change. U gotta take care of u and give yourself that love. That what I am learning..loving myself first . We all should because u deserve the best

[@robertcollins3587]

Thank you Lee, I have just been dumped out of a 15 year relationship. Your advice has stopped me from crying every day. I have now found my self worth. When I stuck to the no contact rule my ex was contacting me with any excuse. I have now taken my power back. Thank you

[@nawtyboy3252]

Any update on your situation? My wife left me 2.5 months ago and has been seeing someone else for 6 weeks. Very hard to bear 😞

[@robertcollins3587]

@@nawtyboy3252 8 months later, my heartache has almost gone, time is definitely an healer. If you really did love that person you should wish the best for their future. Hardest and bravest thing l have ever done. I went to Church to find peace. Most important thing, you look after and focus on yourself. Take one day at a time. Concerntrate on a task like ironing a difficult shirt. l became fit again and lost 25kgs, I am still single, quite surprising so are a lot of people, seems to be a cool thing. I picked my daughter up a few weeks ago after l had dyed my hair to look younger. My ex burst into tears and said you would not dye your hair for me. ?? WTF. That was the icing on the cake for me.! No l would not have her back, the trust is lost and l would be constantly be asking questions about her adultry. Take care mate !

[@nawtyboy3252]

@@robertcollins3587 thanks for taking the time to answer. Happy to hear you are doing well mate, that's really great to hear. The hardest part for me is that we still get on so incredibly well, we have such a close connection and a really great laugh when we're with each other. I guess she just wanted something else. I still hold out hope that we can try again, but for now I guess I need to just look after me. Thanks again mate, this Scotsman wishes you all the best!

[@robertcollins3587]

@@nawtyboy3252 There is plenty of posts on Google how do l win my ex back. I have to move on my ex is 20 years younger than me and she said she's a lot happier with out me. My friends wife wanted him back after 2 years after her new relationship failed. My ex father and mother in law are still together after 50 years after he had a fling. It would be nice to know how your getting on in 12 months time mate. Good luck and take care

[@nawtyboy3252]

@@robertcollins3587 thanks again mate, if I remember I'll try and pop back here and give you an update! Take care

[@MikeMethot256]

My ex married her rebound after just a few months of dating him, was definitely a bizzare and devastating turn of events.

[@jannlewandowski5540]

MikeMethot256. That happens a lot, Mike. I've seen so many of these marriages fail. If you need extra help I can recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit which is fantastic! myexbackcoach.com/ebk

[@miniec5675]

If your ex begins to date someone else so quickly after breaking up with you, is that person worth getting back, to begin with? Even if they were on a date to get over you, which means they are weak and dependent on others to make themselves feel better. Either way, not worth getting back. For me, soon after I find out he is on a date with anyone, it is an instant turn off and helps me move on completely. The problem is usually when you find out that a person is still alone and thinking of me, but we are for some reason not totally compatible. The real conflict and difficulty comes when you are not sure whether you can settle with someone who feels less compatible or you should let go of someone you love, thinking you will find someone more compatible.

[@mikeerickson3924]

I'm not dealing with another man's residue!

[@bctw9004]

I’m so grateful for Coach Lee. Just when I feel like reaching out to my ex these videos give me the strength to stay in NC. Thank you Coach!

[@keepgrowing9941]

Same 💔

[@R1ch4rd]

@@keepgrowing9941 did it work ?

[@vernhalvorson7326]

Weirdest thing ever. I put my girlfriend that I really loved into no contact. And every ex girlfriend before her has come out of the woodwork. Seems to work for everybody else but the one I really wanted to work for

[@hotta2nitelight53]

Lol

[@luiseleon93]

I’m so glad I kept my dignity and didn’t beg . So thankful I found you and got on the right road asap . I feel bad for all those lost soldiers .

[@mariianicababaPT]

Hello :) any update?

[@tonyahenry4167]

Just move on what else can you do

[@justbargelle]

I just want God to heal me and restore me from the top of my head down to the bottom of my feet, strengthen me and equip me from the inside out. LDR isnt easy coz in the beginning they are transparent but later on they are playing hide and seek and ghosting and lying and cheating. I wont chase nor beg someone to stay if they started seeing someone else and broke my trust. All I need for now IS MORE OF GOD and my heart to get back in perfect shape for the right man a genuine man sealed with the Mark of Christ and not a mark of fake Christian lured by the world. 💪🏼

[@flimsy47]

Ellen Mendoza amen!

[@justbargelle]

flimsy47 🙌🏻

[@juliettesera4343]

That’s why I want too🙏🏾🙏🏾amen

[@shellierussell6776]

Ellen Mendoza AAMEN!! Mine says he doesn’t want to date or see anyone or have sex with anyone. That he wants us to have space for awhile and see each other every once and awhile to see what happens. He drinks smokes pot but goes to church. Ugh!!!!!!! Jesus please deliver and heal me.

[@cindyg3396]

Amen

[@mylenecinco137]

Run and never look back.. just like I did and now finally healed and not feel pain anymore..

[@farouqkatana7216]

No contact helps us to come into our senses its meant for us pliz guys

[@dt3963]

I’ve watched so many of your videos. But this one has saved me. It really has. I haven’t eaten properly for weeks. But watching this one.. you’ve described everything that my ex did to me and said people who do this tend to be narcissistic, you nailed it down to a tee. She accused me of being one, but it all makes sense now. Thank you.

[@mauriceachach3351]

Thanks. As soon as you mentioned the word "narcissist" it sealed the deal.

[@meoshaarnold9497]

I got my man back using the no contact rule thanks coach lee!

[@meoshaarnold9497]

@j j Yeah it's a good sign he wants to keep in contact with you. If he was really finished he wouldn't even text you. But then again if he has someone else he could be keeping you as back up if the new woman doesn't work out?🤔

[@meoshaarnold9497]

@j j Girl you need to chill did he ask you over?

[@lulg.5931]

Meosha Dinwiddie does my girl still care about me because she still logging in my snapchat 2 times today to see what i been doing, And her instagram bio says “TAKEN” she still logged into my snapchat again after that

[@TaylorSmithTheTsmith]

give me some tips on what you did

[@猫在烙赛]

Meosha Arnold i hope I’ll have the same situation as you

[@annaelmo9357]

Don’t ever take this ex back and be rod of this toxic energy and move on, why on earth would you want someone who put you through something like this back?

[@collinrohwer1790]

I 100% respect the fact that you talk about whether or not you actually belong with the ex rather than just getting them back because it's your business. We are humans and it's not black and white. Alot of these scenarios these people aren't even right for each other, so talking about that is important. Thank you! Sometimes it's just loss, pride and attachment that you feel and want fixed, not the relationship or the actual person.

[@monicawylie3985]

This particular video inspired me to remember a meme that was popular a few years ago. “Underestimate me. That will be fun.” Let your ex underestimate you. Show them otherwise. Thank you Coach Lee

[@Vince-jv7tf]

While she happy with someone else, me i was left alone, fighting my own battles🙃

[@hendrixferdinand4736]

I can recommend you to someone powerful who was able to bring back my ex and it works very fast and I believe he can solve your relationship problems.

[@hendrixferdinand4736]

WhatZapp hiM NOw🌹🌹👇

[@meeriphillips815]

My ex used me as one of his rebounds I think. Didn't last a full year and I had to end it after constantly being not listened to and listening to everything about his ex. These videos really help to get over this.

[@divinabiccay7839]

Ex belong to the past...accept,adjust and move forward..thats why its called ex bcoz it did nt work..there are billions of people on earth..find someone thats is fit for you..

[@jeremyfannon8537]

Easier said then done when you've been with them for so many years.

[@victeroh1672]

@@jeremyfannon8537 very true

[@hotta2nitelight53]

@@jeremyfannon8537 I think it gets easier when you start to realize the exes never loved us. It gets easier when we realize that if they really loved us, they wouldn't leave us, much worse, leave us for someone else. And to top it off be cold about it.

[@Sarakassy]

If no children are involved in a relationship, after 2 months of no contact, I am gone! There are plenty of other compatible humans out there. In fact, no need for no contact; break up, get it over with, heal and start a fresh hunt!!

[@93Sammyj1]

Coach Lee, I have to say that I absolutely appreciate you. I just went through a break up yesterday and I was heading down a path of devastation until I came across your videos. Thank you so much for everything you do.

[@razankalifa6062]

you are amazing really .. you are right couch NC till they contact you is the answer to everything..thank you

[@marshatrustnobody1736]

Yesssss Coach! Your a genius, I believe he's a narcissist and it's sad to admit.

[@tornfeather1]

I'm so glad to discover my ex is seeing someone else. It's been 2-3 weeks. It's not a rebound, it's I'm-dumping-you-for-someone-else, and I feel hurt but mostly relieved. Now I know he didn't have the courage to be honest with me. But I now also know my closest friend knew and didn't tell me. I'm so glad I went no contact. I'm so happy to see an end to this tunnel. I feel stronger now. It has been a learning experience.

[@worilareiemmanuel5055]

I can recommend you to someone powerful who was able to bring back my ex and it works very fast and I believe he can solve your relationship problems

[@worilareiemmanuel5055]

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[@mariianicababaPT]

Hello :) any update on your situation? Mine is similar :(

[@vellyshi]

I so feel you…I am in the same situation. How are you after 10 months?

[@vellyshi]

@@mariianicababaPT sory this happens to you too. I am in the same situation

[@deshawn1801]

Just when I needed this video your right on time!

[@christopherlamb3817]

Same omg

[@_LilacRoses]

This video is perfect timing! Thank you coach Lee for always being there to give me the push I need to remain strong in no contact and to move forward in my healing.

[@Jade-bs3pb]

They say they can't imagine being with anyone else or that the idea makes them sick. Then they'll be downloading tinder and talking to girls out at clubs. All I wanted was honesty, and they can't even give you that.

[@EffinAllTheTime]

some here. he told me : after you I could not be with anyone else. I will die alone. and here we are.. him with new girl, so easily, so fast!

[@cynthiaanderson3252]

You are the man! As we say in Black church, Preach, Brother! Preach!

[@kennethjohnson9446]

Hey Cynthia, you really have a beautiful smile 😍

[@nananono2286]

Your video has come in the right time sir. He told me that he started to date a new girlfriend I wished him good luck with her and I suddenly disappeared I started the no contact he texted me in the first week I didn't reply the next week he called me I didn't answer I really like this feeling 💪😄 he thought that I can't live without him 😂 but now I'm sure he's shocked 😂

[@C_l_e_o_n_a]

Nana Nono love this !!!!

[@deshawn1801]

Nana Nono ok that’s awesome it if he reaches out don’t ignore him lol that’s the whole point of no contact is to get your ex to reach out unless you don’t want him back then ok but if you do the don’t ignore it’s just gonna make them move on

[@nananono2286]

Thnx I gonna do your advice 😉

[@ch1bob]

I feel like no contact works more for females than males... females have more options usually so they dont care about a guy doing no contact

[@netefrog]

@@ch1bob they're also wired to preserve connections and bonds, at least on some level. When they feel that bond is broken or extremely damaged they get very upset

[@Chrissybell1210]

Totally! Demonstrating insecurity is so embarrassing among other things

[@markzapata4369]

Hardest thing to watch is when you see that person that said they loved you for years and right when they dump you they act like none of it never happened

[@worldrigo1]

I feel like I was the person in a rebound relationship with my ex. And I think she's a narcissist

[@MagicPalak]

In my case, he is narcissist

[@soniangonwiekameni7488]

Me too

[@leaderrr7992]

Update?

[@specialk864]

yeah, just realized my ex a M A D narcissist. at the end, she wanted to, and tried to get pregnant, w my kid, twice, then sent me 2 pics of 2 different pregnancy test results on fb messenger, cause she couldn’t getta hold of me through text message, at the time. they were both negative, so the last message she sent me, after the 2 pregnancy test result pics, was a sad emoji face w the 1 tear drop... fast forward to like a week later, and she’s dumped me, nearly ghosted me completely, aside from a few texts convos and a few nights were we talked all night on face time, and fell asleep on face time w each other (used to do that every night cause we live about 45 minutes to an hour away from each other), and she’s gone on a date w a new dude. they went to the beach, in Galveston, TX, had a picnic there, and spent all day in Galveston, TX on their date that Saturday (roughly 4, or 5 days, to a week after she dumped me). she face timed me Tuesday evenin, after their date on Saturday, and told me all about her new dude, and that they had hung out Sunday, he took her out to eat dinner Sunday night, he picked her up from work w chocolate, flowers, and a few other little things, I forget what all she said he had for her now, Monday night, and that she had stayed the night at his house that Monday night, after work (she face timed me that follwin Tuesday night after comin home from her new dude’s place). after she told me all about her new dude, and their time together, I could tell she was happier than she had been w me, at least at the end, so I admitted to her that, while I loved seein her happy, it hurt me to know that I wasn’t the one makin her happy, anymore, but I told her that if she was truly as happy, w her new dude, as she seemed, to me, to be, than I hope everything worked out and their relationship lasted forever. she told me she wanted to still be friends, which I wasn’t ok w, but I told her ok cause I didn’t want more confrontation w her, at that point. she told me next, that she was packin. I asked why, cause I thought she may have been goin on a vacation, or sumn, but she told me, she was packin, cause she was gonna go stay the night at her new dude’s place, again, the next night (Wednesday). the next day (Wednesday) she had set her FB status to “in a relationship”. I didn’t hear from her for like 3-4 days, after that face time from her Tuesday night, then she face timed me to tell me sumn that she knew would hurt me, but could have texted to me 3-4 days after that Tuesday night face time. my ex before her had reached out to her and apologized to her for what she said about her when I left her (my ex before my most recent ex) for my most recent ex, and vise versa, and that they had became friends. after thinkin about that, I realized that she didn’t wanna text me, even though I had hung up on her face time call, twice, and texted her to text me, just to be made to think that what she had to tell me was too long to text to me, and I eventually answered her face time call, she didn’t wanna just call me, but she wanted to face time, so she could do as much damage as possible by tellin me what she “had” to tell me. she wanted to make sure I heard her, so she didn’t wanna text message me, she wanted to know that I heard her and that I knew what she “had” to tell me, which could be done over a phone call, but she wanted to see my immediate reaction, as well. she wanted to hurt me as bad as she possibly could, while bein able to know that she hurt me and know how bad she actually had hurt me by face timin me and bein able to see everything for herself, as it happened. I didn’t realize all that, though, til’ a few days after her face time, then... after hurtin me, me sayin sum foul shit to her and callin her names, her doin the same in return, me apologizin and tellin her it wasn’t her fault that my ex before her, and her had become friends, she went on to mention that we could still be friends, and that she wanted to, so I told her ok, but I planned on not talkin to her, anymore, after that face time. I told her about me lookin at the last fb messages from her, again, and I told her what they were, and how they had made me feel now compared to how they made me feel at the time she sent em’ to me. while tellin her this, she paused her screen and jumped to do sumn else real quick, then returned to our face time, after a few seconds, then we said goodnight and bye a few minutes later. the next day, I realized that the whole time she was sayin we could still be friends, to me, she had jumped to fb to block me, while I was talkin to her about me lookin at the last few fb messages she had sent me. almost like, she had blocked me on everything cept fb, forgot about fb cause I barely use it, and am more of a regular instagram user, and she coudln’t wait til’ after our face time to block me fast enough on fb after hearin me bring up the last few fb messages from her, and had to jump to fb and block me right then and there, asap. I blocked her number after all that. I didn’t know if she would ever try to reach out to me again, or not, but I didn’t want to talk to her, have her INTENTIONALLY hurt me, anymore, or be lied to, by her, anymore. the followin week, on a Tuesday afternoon, I was unfollowed on IG, randomly by sumone. I looked to see who it was and found out that it was a dude who, both of us followed and who had been followin us both back, as well, but they had been followin each other for sum years before he and I began followin each other. he has also liked damn near every single one of her posts that she’s made over the time that they have been followin each other, then on the followin, Wednesday, evenin I unblocked her number just to see if she was done w me, or if she had tried to reach out to me again, anymore. after unblockin her number, I found out that she had face timed me at 12:50 am, Monday night. I think she blocked me after not bein able to reach me through face time, though, because I sent her a message that Wednesday evenin sayin, “you called me the other night”, but to this day it still just says “Delivered”. I also was able to put 2 and 2 together and realize that she had stalked my IG, that Tuesday afternoon, and had the guy that unfollowed me, unfollow me, after I seen her missed face time from 12:50 am, Monday night. I know this because she admitted multiple times, to me, while we were still together, that she had stalked my IG. I figured she wanted to try to hurt me more, for whatever reason, by face timin me, but couldn’t get through, so she did what she could to hurt me still, and had her friend unfollow me. I say A L L O F T H A T to say this... she wanted to try, and she did try, w me, to get pregnant w my kid, twice, dumped me soon after sendin me some pics of a couple of negative pregnancy test results and a sad emoji face in fb messenger, just to go on a date w sumone new, a week after dumpin me, spend everyday w em’, the week followin their first date, cept for Tuesday when she face timed me that night, stay the night at his place, twice, be in a relationship w that sumone new, and continuously try to hurt me more than what she already had from dumpin me, when I had wished her the best and did my best to give her space, so she could live her new life w her new dude, and I could just do me... A L L I N 2 W E E K S . bein together, tryna get pregnant, twice, then bein sad when you not, to hurtin me as much as possible and blockin me outta your life where ever possible, cept my cell phone number, so you could still hurt me as much as possible through face time when you wanted to... D A S S U M P S Y C H O T I C A S S S H I T !

[@despoinakotsopoulou4027]

Same here

[@TedGaming1987]

Hi Coach Lee, me and my ex we’re together for 7 years and now she is seeing some one else. Immediately I went into no contact with her and have been in no contact with her for the past 10 months now going great showing her that I have strength to be the prize and for her to seek me

[@MalitesZA]

So today the thing I feared most actually happened which I was expecting to happen, I was told my ex is with someone else and photos of them together were sent to me. We broke up around 17 Jan so we apart about nearly 5 months now and I have been in no contact with her for the past 65 days. I actually never took it as bad as I thought I would and I think that was my greatest fear but now I know it cannot get any worse for me but better for me as an individual whichever way it turns out from here on. I just thought I should come share my story with use, in a way I am glad she is with someone else, it will give me the courage to work on myself more to prove I am better, I know I am better.

[@danrey2435]

Hey mAn how are you?

[@hendrixferdinand4736]

I can recommend you to someone powerful who was able to bring back my ex and it works very fast and I believe he can solve your relationship problems.

[@hendrixferdinand4736]

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[@samia6888]

@@danrey2435how are you now?

[@OldDirtyCollector]

I wish I would have found this channel when I was going through my separation and divorce

[@centralcoast6720]

Dose anyone have the Coronavirus here? I need you to cough on my ex! ASAP

[@michellemcfalls2870]

Lmao 😂

[@OHBOBBYSLUG]

Nicely played

[@barflin]

kinda what i thought after being broken up with and most likely cheated on by my girlfriend after 4 years. i hoped she got the HIV or at least Herpes.

[@jenniferjohnson8901]

awesome!

[@ArtsyMegz_On_Etsy]

I finally learned how to behave like "the prize" during my last relationship; because it just so seems that they value you less when you are always "ready to make them happy", just because you respect them.

[@ikor-awajisamuel2131]

I can recommend you to someone powerful who was able to bring back my ex and it works very fast and I believe he can solve your relationship problems

[@ikor-awajisamuel2131]

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[@kerrymillar1267]

I think this is true but maybe only for toxic people.

[@ArtsyMegz_On_Etsy]

@@kerrymillar1267 Yeah, that is a possibility. It seems to be that way when choosing who to be friends with too. I think that because I was online dating, that probably isn't the best place to find guys. The could literally send you 2 messages a day, writing things that a good and respectful guy would write, just to appear that way. I think that it's next to impossible to really get to know somebody by messaging alone. Even if they were to just call me once a day at the beginning, they would probably be able to put on a nice personality for an hour. It can be tough these days.

[@chlochlo8207]

And this is why I’m staying single forever 🤘🏽👏🏼✌🏽

[@losgarcia5648]

I sometimes feel the same way. It's the trust we loose in them that we believe everyone is like that. Hard to get the trust back because we obviously dont want to feel that pain again of being heartbroken

[@lockeparsons9198]

Hahah you’ll find that right person, it’s hard to trust someone but it’ll happen😁

[@Woburngirl68]

MOST DEFINITELY!!!

[@keepgrowing9941]

I pray that i will meet soon a new person who will choose me everyday, and to be with for the rest of our lives. 💫🙏🏼

[@jeremycorod2861]

Wow, that's my ex.. It's better to move on

[@lostrec6127]

I just started watching your videos. thank you soooooo much!! Even if my ex and I do not get back together I really do want to say that your videos are really comforting and helps me mentally. I love how you go into detail about the possiblities about maybe the ex's persona or the other individual's persona. I fucks with you heavy!!

[@Val-mi3nx]

Did they end up reaching out?

[@RunningBears10]

Wow everything you said is true , it feels like you're talking to me , thanks coach!

[@katerinacakri9291]

My ex kept talking about how he just feels like he can't be in relationship because he doesn't know what he wants and because he wants time for himself and his hobbies. So I ended things after a year since he just didn't care anymore. Less than a week later he's with someone new. Kinda funny how that works. He gives his mom and sister a hard time about not being able to be alone. But hey! Look at him! So much for him just wanting to be alone

[@knowwhouare]

Same situation here! 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@gaoang3391]

@@SexAndCandyHair92 same story here lol

[@xhenared7461]

A week after dumping me... and he was already seeing someone else and now there are officially together.. Rebound or not.. wish them all the best..😄

[@cynthiaelezovic1027]

Omg same situation😂after one week i am like wtf

[@natap9939]

Xhena Red I’ve been told that it means they had been in touch while you were still together.

[@A2Kaid]

@@natap9939 A week after yeah they probably were in contact prior.

[@sourab11]

I saw her add a new man on Facebook and changed her fb status to in a relationship while dumping me and saying that she was not looking for a serious relationship at this time and goes in a new relationship after 1 month when I apply the no contact

[@lewisdwyer1536]

@@A2Kaid same with my ex

[@kimfinley3755]

Hurt people hurt people, that is issues with themselves. Some men was never taught how to be a man & treat a woman 🙋🏾‍♀️ I taught my son, treat a woman how you want your mother to be treated from a man PERIOD! & some men can’t be by themselves. But Never entertain your ex & his new lady. That’s entertainment to them. THE BEST REVENGE IS YOUR PAPER 💵💰busy yourself...

[@gabbymontoya2085]

I’m much too busy raising my boys to be real men RN . I don’t have time to bother with immature men. I don’t like wasting my time.

[@eatsandadventureswithlee]

My ex is definitely a limerance type of man...just crazy...

[@streakkiller8130]

If you are in no contact and your ex got into a new relationship..Congratulation You win🎉

[@Thomas_Curiel09]

Can you do a video on Narcissist please. You have a lot of great information to share about them just like you did on this video but I couldn’t get enough.Great material man.

[@RealCoachLee]

Here is an article on narcissism and how to know if your ex possibly is one, how to deal with it, etc. Be sure to read it all the way through at least once. It’s at myexbackcoach.com/ex-a-narcissist/

[@tracyannaleclair8003]

@@RealCoachLee can you post the article again, it says it's gone

[@natap9939]

Your videos are the best piece of advice i have received about the nature of breakups and what to do when the unfortunate time comes. We all have uncertain moments in our relationships and it is important not to do more damage than necessary. I feel so dumb for having behaved the absolutely opposite way and now understand that it’s me who destroyed last chances of making things work again. 2 couple therapists in real life couldn’t provide even 10 % of your information. Just useless «you are better off» and «he doesn’t deserve you» which was not what i wanted to hear. I wanted to make things work again. Your words go right into the heart and explain a lot. I wish i found you earlier. You are amazing ❤️ Thank you!

[@jamesarmstrong4179]

Nata P,You look stunning,hope you are not with a narcissist....

[@natap9939]

Thank you for kind words, James. :) Yes, he was a narcissist and as it turned out, he was cheating, so he broke up to go directly to his second choice whom he had been grooming for a good half an year, so there was never anything to save. As for me, i am single.

[@nikhilgarg1326]

@@natap9939 i am not sure if my ex gf is a narcissist. She went into relationship with her friend in 1 month of breakup!!

[@tinedomz6162]

My ex boyfriend had a dating app after a month of post our break up... then I immediately saw that they were together.. in tiktok 😔

[@898moto5]

This happened to me 10 years ago,she put me through hell for a month,i went no contact and found a new partner,as soon as she found out she wanted me back instantly,she used our daughter to take her back,10 years down the line shes gone agiain,im happy with no contact and just looking for a girlfriend...your video was 100% right for me,i only wish i had all the public information we have now,thanks.

[@SamsAHippie]

Just what I need! I just got out of a 6 years relationship. It's been over three weeks now. I did no contact right away and he contacted me last week but just to ask for his stuff back and to add more to it, I found out he's already seeing someone who is 18. We are both 23. I feel betrayed and grossed out :(

[@_LilacRoses]

I'm also out of a 6 year relationship and its been 7 months no contact! It takes time but things will feel less intense over time.

[@edgarsoto9184]

@@melablu8888 same place here man

[@wes25]

@@edgarsoto9184 how u guys doin any updates

[@miguelgmail8605]

Am really sorry to hear that Samantha...how are you doing now?

[@paulcapetown9260]

62 days and she started posting pics together, but her friend started visiting the day after our breakup, she said she needed space and time alone and well see what happens when we broke up.

[@lindak8307]

If a person is in a classic rebound relationship but still loves you you should be open to possibly working it out if it can be worked out.

[@jannlewandowski5540]

Linda K. If he's still with the rebound, how come he didn't leave her and come back to you? If I was still in love with my ex, the rebound would be OVER!

[@comparecards5688]

@@jannlewandowski5540if he/she does that move one otherwise you’re disrespecting yourself

[@vernhalvorson7326]

Mine told her friends why she broke up with me. They told her that she is messed up for that reason. She turned her back on her friends. An she is dating some one else. I feel like I dodged a bullet. Going to start a new. Got a date tonight. Crossing my fingers that I can find a sane woman soon. But thank you coach your videos did help me get though some tough times.

[@imc0624]

Hi No contact help also to heal and maybe you don’t want them back. What do you think?

[@conradsmith9441]

I almost contacted my ex, but I’m so glad that I watched this video. Now I will stay in no contact even though I feel my situation is complicated and needs special fixing. I will take the no contact approach.

[@richardj2531]

Conrad I was like this before someone help me fix back my relation'ship and help me bring back my wife, try for help WhatsApp him+2348116765476💌💌💌

[@richardj2531]

@@louisemeryem8024 you be fool

[@richardj2531]

You be mumu

[@austino1114]

How are you

[@conradsmith9441]

@@austino1114 better. I'm over her.

[@Rpamungkas-r3g]

Thank you Sir, you the only reason that i can survive and stay strong at the moment. 😭 God Bless You ❤

[@valeriavoltage4262]

dear just reading all the comments makes me feel better. I am getting over him slowly and I start seeing my own value. there are so many brokenhearts here and I feel the pain of everyone who was dumped and disappointed,especially if it was a very romantic and special long lasting relationship. I wish God gave me more strength to completely lforget the guy who couod not start loving me more after five years, and who wanted to have more freedom and no commitment relationship with random people. Sending hugs to all of you!

[@SSpitz16]

Thank you coach lee. Two days ago I found out my ex of 11 years got into a rebound 2 weeks after he broke up with me. The worst is I had no clue especially because he was keeping my hopes by saying he loves me every two weeks. By saying I am the one, that he wants to have kids with me and build a family. And then I find out while he was constantly telling me this that he was with a persons. Even when I confronted him he still says he loves me and I’m the one. That he is/was with her because she gave him things I didn’t give him. When I found out I was super understanding with him. However the day after (yesterday) I still tried to keep my calm but at night I was mad and angry and upset. Thank you for this video, I will do exactly what you said showing understanding and stepping way from all this drama. Needless to say I feel completely betrayed and also feel sorry for the girl because she doesn’t even know he was all this time speaking with me and that we had sex several times while he was with her (I had sex with him not even knowing that he was with her). In sum , shitty person he is. After 11 years never expected this.

[@adamnorthwood1673]

Damn just when I feel everything is going south but then I’m saved by your videos 🙏

[@powerchord1000]

I have to say, coach Lee, you are way ahead of your young years, v articulate and to the point, you make the videos compelling viewing with your knowledge and insight 👍

[@michaellamotte8689]

Hey coach. GF dumped me in April and started dating a former co-worker (who i was told i didn't need to worry about) a couple days ago. Told them congrats in a comment and left it at that. Not sure what's gonna happen now but I'm gonna continue no contact and see where life leads me. Thanks for the lessons, they've been a great help

[@azzimnazmi6006]

Update?

[@Renren625]

Plz update

[@adblrow1514]

Thought I was ready for this one but I couldn’t even make it last 4 minutes 😭 my heart start to break all over again

[@Crillknubbsal]

The hardest thing for me was that during the same week. She told me she wanted to separate, I lost the house that we just bought and was going to move to three weeks later and she started seeing someone else same day as we took of our engagement rings.. I watch these videos everyday, 5 of them, they actually help! :D don't give up guys!

[@AdrianMartinez-ho6db]

Just remember your self worth and hold your head high. You do these things, go through personal development and just do u and remain unphased and whether they have blocked u or not they will see it one way or another

[@moonie9000]

Genuine question: why TF would ANYONE want their ex back after they jump immediately in bed with a new person? Don't be a simp. When they reach out, tell them no.

[@jen9216]

My bf dumped me after 5yrs. Found out with coworker. .she just started 5 months ago. She's total opposite of me. Blonde , short, covered in tatoos and piercings and alot younger. He always told me he hated tattoos and piercings and Blondes. I told him once I would get a tattoo and he flipped out. I'm tall, brunette

[@kennethjohnson9446]

Wow! You're gorgeous 😍

[@kennethjohnson9446]

Tall, brunette, and beautiful 😍

[@lanigood3484]

Coach lee is truly a saviour ❤

[@jchess78]

I followed his advice and got my friends back and now she is my fiancé. No contact works IF the person that broke up with you loves you.

[@linuseriksson533]

She was my first real love, its been 9 days without contact and i just want to reach out to her.. I don't think I will be able to see her with someone else.

[@RealCoachLee]

Linus, you want to reach out to her for one or more of three reasons: One, to attempt to regain some type of control. Two, it would feel good to hear her voice and connect again in some way with her. Three, you hope that some contact with her would rattle the cage and cause some kind of response or action. Not one of those reasons will move you toward what you want. All three are illusions. Stay strong.

[@linuseriksson533]

@@RealCoachLee Thanks, that's just the way i feel 24/7.. You are the best!

[@048593246]

@@linuseriksson533 update?

[@lauremora3256]

Any update one year later?

[@linuseriksson533]

@@lauremora3256 yes brother. I found myself and what i was worth. Im stronger than ever.

[@punkbeluga5091]

From personal experience, dating somebody else short after breaking up, for me, was like a NEED to have someone in his place to give me attention, also I did think about making him jealous. But it never was the same, I wasn't attracted by anyone and didn't make anything official

[@comparecards5688]

No self respect I would say!

[@senatorarmstrong9459]

The wisdom In every single video I have seen so far is priceless and accurate, like 99% accurate which is amazing. Keep on coach lee.

[@chimeyantandajunji9812]

I always listen to coach lee and I feel stronger in my heart. I know that he is be feeling my absence. My heart is healing from the pain and fear of losing him. I need time for myself. I don't even think about him anymore.

[@ikor-awajisamuel2131]

I can recommend you to someone powerful who was able to bring back my ex and it works very fast and I believe he can solve your relationship problems

[@ikor-awajisamuel2131]

WhatZapp hiM NOw🌹🌹🌹👇

[@xxvoid4]

Thank you, we went no contact for a month and within that month they got with someone who was ENGAGED. Her and I dated for a full year too.

[@jannlewandowski5540]

Void, she rebounded so fast bcse she needed someone to fill the void. It's only a band aid! Very needy person!

[@marlynhill5094]

My ex was talking with someone and it’s killing me inside.sad to say I still love her

[@yeahtbh.161]

No, don't say anything at all, let them contact you.

[@libo6368]

Excellent ..gives me strenght

[@rd10]

Dude I begged, pleaded, sent her gifts, showed up at her house once (mind you begging and reasoning worked the first few times but its because she was still hopeful i’d change) and all it did was get me blocked and turn the sweetest most compassionate girl into the coldest and most emotionally devoid girl i’ve ever met. Even after that I still sent emails. I’d give her a week of space and try again. Found out she started seeing someone new literally a week or two after the break up (we were together 6 years). I was absolutely in love with this girl. I’m 31 years old i’m a fucking confident social guy and she was a shy and needy girl. It can happen to anyone. Heed my advice, especially if you get dumped and want the best chance to reconcile. Immediately accept the break up, its ok to tell her how you feel, plead your case once and only once, and immediately go into no contact. The respect will remain long after, the memories will not fade, and when she encounters issues in her new fling (chances are she will) she will remember how strong and confident you were. Don’t do what I did, i learned the hard way. Your life is yours to live, don’t let it be dragged down by someone who doesn’t want you anymore and if you truly want her back, take the time to reflect and be the man you were meant to be, and time alone will allow her to walk back into your life if its meant to be, or you’ll move on and become a better version of yourself as a result. We’ve been broke up 2 1/2 months, i’ve been in strict no contact with her for 3 weeks, and it gets better and better every week. Trust the process.

[@DinDin-jd9lg]

Omg i read your story. And it really similar to mine!! I can feel how hurt you have been through. You are not alone! Hows thing going now? Mine is day 32 of NC.

[@hillarykittim8186]

Broke up like 4 months ago, tried to do NC but in vain. Would give her space for like a week then get back to her again. She became super cold, just like in your case. So today she posted a pic with her new man. I will never reach out to her, but I wont go into radio silence. I do not intend to get this narcisstic A hole back to my life ever again. I want her ego to remain on the pedastal just to make sure we will never get back together. PS: we dated for 4 years.

[@tattoomonkie]

Same situation for me as well.

[@larryreynolds7676]

Separated 4yrs now she walked out when I lost my job. She blocked me and only text and almost never a verbal conversation with me. Why is the need to avoid confrontation ? She abandoned me !

[@Ckyt572]

I wouldn't care, he started to update his dating app profile but it doesn't matter if he's going out on dates, he will be thinking about me inevitably. I've had 4 dates lately but only as a distraction. He's still in my head. We'll meet again, sooner or later.