我都想分享一下自己經歷。我和前夫都係青梅竹馬兩小無猜再結婚的童話故事,經歷婚姻失敗之後我終於明白童話確實係呃人。 我同前夫經歷17年的關係加婚姻,由香港去美國再由美國返香港,已經係彼此的半邊生命,先生最後一樣都選擇出軌,放棄辛苦建立的家庭同個女,我都只是三十出頭未變黃面婆的中女,還未變老卻落得如此下場,當時不停自責到底自己係邊度做得唔好,所以一直深愛的老公會咁樣對自己。我雖然都有工作,但前夫一直太照顧我,當我知道佢出軌後,我因為怕唔知點樣可以生活落去而唔想離婚,除左跪係度求佢我咩都做過,但前夫最後都決意離婚,因為佢覺得關係已經有裂痕,無論如何都返唔到轉頭。 之後我患上抑鬱症,要睇醫生食藥同見心理輔導,但我慢慢開始好返。 今日我回望曾經經歷過,其實都只係過程,但當中有好多learnings會令你成長。 婚姻同關係係一生人都要不斷學習的課題,出軌同處理方法誰對誰錯也許每人都有自己答案,我就不作討論。 但當其中一方選擇放棄,不一定是你問題。如果關係已經破裂,大家忍痛選擇放手真係對大家真係最好。人來人往,有些關係,緣盡時我地都無法控制。 四年後的今日,我已經擁有新生活,個女好乖好聽話,因為眼界已經唔止有老公所以事業反而步步高升,完全變左另一個人。 我最後學會愛的反面不一定是恨,我可以放下也許是源於深愛,我想取回我人生下半場的決定權。 當然,放手後重新建立自己人生的過程都是好不容易,我仍然在學習重新相信人和異性,但我仍然相信婚姻,因為我覺得自己係deserved to be loved. 你要先照顧自己感受,多為自己着想,無必要將所有情緒都攬晒上身,尤其是當媽媽的,我相信女人可以十分強大,更相信為母則強,你可以為自己同個女先去加拿大探探家人,等自己情緒平復再慢慢梳理情緒,計劃下一步。 我相信你有愛錫你的家人陪伴下,你會更加有勇氣同動力。 祝福你明天會更好。
@mandy161516157 ай бұрын
噤好好彩係中女時發生
@simonwoo39836 ай бұрын
加油👏
@sidneychan13726 ай бұрын
Of course you deserve to be loved and be with someone worthy of your love. 我都認為愛嘅反面唔好係恨 只有肯放下 only then you can start a new journey. I wish you the very best of luck.
聽到你把聲好心痛! 其實因為你未同過其他男仔拍拖,你未知道乜嘢先叫做好男人,我明白你諗法! 加油去面對,前面係光明架! 放心機係自己身上同個女!佢對你咁衰! 唔值得咁傷心,俾個期限自己做決定!之後跟住應該點樣做⋯⋯例如攤牌⋯⋯乜嘢都好!set個schedule俾自己follow! Don’t be lost 💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻🥰⋯⋯支持你💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻
唔攤牌其實行不到下一步,贊成錄音睇下佢點講,如果認錯求原諒你再考慮,如果佢選擇妹妹,佢個心已經走左去就無謂勉強,離婚叫佢俾足女女生活費,你去加拿大同父母好好生活,我肯定你一定找到一個對你好的人,你仲咁後生❤ 妹妹u grad 左到社會做事,玩多幾年就會嫌佢老,到時佢的報應就到了 唔好氣餒,要愛錫自己,做父母的寶貝女,陪伴女兒長大🥰
Similar situation happened to me. I forgave my husband the first time and 4 years later after we had 2 children, he cheated again and ended up he was gone. I regret so much why I forgave him the first time. It's okay, be brave and move on, you're still young to find someone who really loves you. It's time to be brave, grab the money, and protect yourself and your daughter. If he loves and cares about you, he won't do this to hurt you. When a man changed his heart, whatever you are doing don't really matter to him. Yes, it hurts, and yes, it's not fair. I was a single mom and started over in my late 30s and I ended up met someone who really loves me. My life is way better now! You and your daughter deserve better!
我想同Katie講:有咩事都仲有加拿大吧屋企人、有呢度嘅人撐你,三十幾歲好老實超後生!我地咪又係三十幾歲先結婚生仔,你另一半咁對你,你最好就係扮到約無其事咁對佢愈來愈好,好冷靜咁收集所有佢出軌嘅證據,等到時機成熟、你先同佢好冷靜咁講你知道左!可能係去去下遊樂場同公園、突然間話佢知你知道左,叫佢揀屋企定人地個妹!如果佢揀你,congratulations but still keep all the evidence on your hand! 如果佢揀人哋個妹、你就攣啲證據去拎女女撫養權同善養費!佢地既然都唔理你感受、你就對自己好啲,都唔好嘥錢嘥心機嘥精神去受傷,俾多啲心機返加拿大搵錢搵工搵另一個愛你嘅人💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻