5 Weird Things a Narcissist Does when they hit Collapse

[@narcabusecoach]

Heal After Narcissistic Abuse Program (HANA) emotionalabuserecovery.com/hana

[@Mooky1300]

Have you heard of Diana Diamond? She actually helps narassistic people to recover.

[@Blue24Osprey]

@@Mooky1300 Recover? NPD is apparently incurable in all the articles I've read, only manageable with medication and therapy.

[@heneverforesakesme4038]

one of the things that just absolutely blows my mind about a narc: they KNOW they are evil. They KNOW they hurt and use people and they just don't care but HOW DARE anyone, talk about them in a negative manner or confront them. They put on this act that they feel so BETRAYED, when that happens.

[@advancedbasicsAB]

I know. The absurdity of them would be funny were it not for the devastating effect they have on people

[@davidhenton1636]

💯

[@andersdottir1111]

That’s because they think others are less than dog poop under their shoes - they think ‘how dare you criticise me, you are nothing’. That is why - they are seriously mentally ill.

[@cassiebennet4262]

The only thing that matters to them is what others think of them. They have no identity or self esteem. It's really bizarre to me.

[@CodyCole80]

That’s the Devil. 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@Mary-vr6fs]

A narc will always try to make you look bad so they can look good. Funny. Only the smart ones will see through them. Thanks Danish for all your wisdom and expertise.

[@chaoswitch1974]

That's true, but then as you're trying to get away from them and find support, the victims resemble the narc. It's very difficult for those outside of the situation to see the difference between the narcissist and their victim, sadly. It's a very lonely place for a victim of a narcissist.

[@tiffanyclark3341]

About 1000% sure mine is going through this now … no one is catering to his pitty parties no one is sending him money like they used to he’s alone in a broke moldy camper and an illegal car all of his own doing an choices , he’s definitely on the road of collapse

[@geraldinebyrnes3298]

Karma

[@dwilliams5700]

Yes ... His Karma for sure !!

[@LindaB651]

Peace be with you! But also, be careful; he's at his most dangerous/desperate, right now. As my mother approached the point of realizing she was losing control, she accused the (few) people still around her of every abuse imaginable. I had to get in the habit of recording (legal in my state) any and all interactions with her, for my own protection, because she'd accused me of verbal/emotional abuse and threatened to report me to Elderly Affairs, (even though she was the one being abusive.)

[@nopereradicator]

Keep your distance. He’s at his most dangerous right now.

[@cendisjennings4008]

I hope he get a taste of his own Medicain

[@stupensardi2783]

So by the sounds of it they drive themselves insane in the long run.

[@ekdaufin1485]

Drag a lot of others with them!

[@kdmill7563]

The final last person abandons them, themselves.

[@waitwhat7724]

They destroy everyone including themselves.

[@Blue24Osprey]

I think they are already insane to start with.

[@DavidAKZ]

@@ekdaufin1485 if you let them . be strong.

[@TracyFarrell-gu7vk]

VERY informative, Thank You. Now, to get them to leave me alone

[@joseenoel8093]

Block, don't answer nor listen, don't acknowledge and that may only happen when they die, be grateful for small miracles.

[@TracyFarrell-gu7vk]

@@joseenoel8093 This is in real time.

[@ellasladek3124]

After I think I’ve heard everything about narcissistic people , you come up with one I am interested to hear , like this one , thanks

[@Drbevmentalhealth]

Excellent education 🎉

[@MrClintL]

Danish, when I started reading and watching all these videos by you, Dr Ramani, Dr Les Carter and others my whole life and damage from my family dynamics made sense. I’d be the one always confronting my mother on her mind games, her favoritism towards my narcissistic older sister who was doing everything she could to get my parents’ love and approval. Well, the game is over. My parents are both gone and nobody wants anything to do with our sister. Narcissists do not get better- only worse.

[@rgoodman4082]

Demons are real!

[@christinemunger7054]

On your 4th point: My husband had a weird case of mania which was so bizarre for this put-together, in control professor. I was away for the weekend with two friends and he was just returning from a holiday to France with a friend, who happens to be a woman! He knew it was wrong, but he did it anyway. So, when he called, I was having a lovely dinner with my friends and I had music playing through a Bluetooth speaker. When I saw he was calling (something he rarely did when he wasn't worried about losing me), I wondered aloud whether I should should pick up. They encouraged me to do so (remember, Bluetooth was activated). This euphoric voice launched in, excitedly telling me that he'd just spoken with his travel companion/would-be girlfriend and they'd agreed to "bury their love!" I watched the jaws of my friends drop to the ground and told him he was on speaker phone. He didn't care. He was positively giddy! I was so glad I had witnesses! No one would have believed it was my husband. Just when you think you've seen it all... It was truly bizarre.

[@christinemunger7054]

Just a follow up... I got out a few months later! 🎉

[@HANZELVANDERLAAY]

Oh my goodness...that is a WILD ONE..stay safe... incredible story wow

[@loverules802]

​@christinemungertgabk God you did7054

[@Mary-vr6fs]

Amen. Let the healing begin. I will never trust a narcissist or anyone with these traits. Question: can they also be a psychopath or sociopath? Let us know. Thank you for this information. All narcs go down 😢 their own fault. Price they pay when messing with others. The bible talks a little about narcissistic traits too. We must be strong and beware. 🙏✌️

[@MaxwellMcKinnon]

The trauma recovery stage of hyper vigilance from an npd is similar to the extreme paranoia phase of the npd

[@music123887]

These steps are very true! I have tried to get my husband help several times but to no avail. He snows everyone who is a professional. One however, was on to his narcissistic behavior. Yet let it all slide, to keep him coming to the office. Maybe dollar signs were in view! All this information is exactly what is displayed in my house.

[@davidalanbinder4238]

I highly recommend the book MIND GAMES The Dual Facets of Manipulation and Dark Psychology

[@lesabrydson2526]

Prayers Psalm 23 -73🙏🇯🇲👑🩺

[@TheCourageOfTruth]

Hi. Thank you! I loved this and it was right on! Especially the framing part. I was healed through a spiritual awakening via more of a triad psychopath avenue. I observed extreme evil. When I surrendered and let go, I was given a vision. I was in hell next to an Angel and across two demons and the rapist terrorist was laying face down. They picked up from the floor an illuminated light blue orb. I placed it in my chest and felt immediate relief. I was told I could stay in the dark land of illusion and false beliefs with my light (my gift of grace - 7th seal) or go to the light. I chose the light. Well. The old me did. That was the last time I knew me as an individual identity. Afterwards I just became awareness. Bliss - the kind I guess people talk about when you die. Timeless nothingness and no thought but a knowing of home. Then from the nothing, a particle. Then many particles. Then the rest of the experience of creation and eternal high knowledge. Or the knowing. It heals the body. There is a harmonic balance in the universe. It’s beautiful. Anyone going through suffering, this is essential to knowing the core being. It is peace, joy, love, bliss, eternal - never changing and can never be taken from you nor can it be damaged. Being raped, humiliated, slandered, killed - will not touch you. What it will do, is dissolve false beliefs. Love to all!!!! ❤

[@edgreen8140]

Last ditch effort for supply. The collapse look at me suffer. Its a form of supply.

[@oli230]

I know someone who is in the phase of collapse, his whole family have banished him and his wife and children are in living in hiding from him. He is a very bad mental state ; has extreme paranoia and often asks ' is he real?'

[@sailorPinata]

Interesting, that look exactly like what a narc victim can experience / betrayal trauma

[@junejelm423]

Wow....what a lesson!....wow what a depth of self induced psychopathy.....almost unimaginable the length a person would go to, to not grow up. 9:33

[@FulvioGa]

Great content, as always!

[@rachana777]

I refuse to face the truth, punished myself thus went into depression. I don’t want to hurt anyone but then I realised I’m making people suffer unwantedly when I’m in depression. So, I worked on myself. There is one way to make everyone happy that is to be happy no by going after materialistic things but just accepting and enjoying the surroundings as is.

[@ExtremeSurvivor_1]

C-PTSD is also mistaken for Bipolar 😢

[@joseenoel8093]

Call you anyway? They're so original burn out experts!

[@Stefcia33]

All you are saying is 100% true. Thank you

[@SunShineLady-d4r]

Sadly 😥 our churches ⛪️ are full 😢 of them. Be careful when you meet someone in church. Go slowly 🐌 and ask God to give 🙏 🙌 you discernment.

[@marthatladi-7012]

This demon is big, bigger and biggest. Shame.

[@joannecohen6764]

Thanks very much for this very insightful video.

[@rosemacaskie]

My Yoga teacher, Ramiro Calle, who has been to India so much that he is a well known in many ciuntries of the world as a great specialist on Hinduism and yoga, who has written an enormous quantity of books on such things, also got attacked by my sister and her group of Catholic militants and friends. She heard about him because of me, I live in Spain. The long arm of the Church allows them to get militants on to ,even a person in another country. They, as is their want, as an extra way of scaring people also attacked his son, at least his wifes son. His adopted son. .

[@claudiasbarra1044]

I have to say that I had most of these too after the discard ....but I am a codependent raised by a narcissist and married with a narcissist. Does that mean that I am a narcissist too? 😮 ok but I am in recovery....it makes me very sad because even if he abused me so much I don't want him to suffer without healing 😢

[@samanthafreesi471]

I think he should touch on this. As you go though discard and even abuse, you will mirror the Narc a bit. I've seen other videos of this confirmed. It's a learned behavior, but as we heal, it goes away. We want to heal and we're self aware. They are not.

[@claudiasbarra1044]

Yes you are probably right. I saw some videos talking about narcisstic flies, Sam Vaknin explained that they project all their bad traits into us and that we absorb it and are infected with this virus until we heal. Yes we can heal. I hope....it's a long journey. But they don't even try to heal. They are not looking for help and ready to do all this inner work. Thank you, I wish you the best.

[@SuperReasonabledoubt]

Assumptions are a big part of a narcissist annoying trate

[@Laurie-u7s]

100% I can identify w/what you said. This was just like my father before he died.

[@kristimcgrath7470]

They are Rotten Deep Within...😂 YES THEY ARE!

[@marcieislas3990]

Great informative video! Accurate.

[@brightonfunds]

My ex started living in his van. He started getting bugs and insects in his beard and hair. He grew his beard very long. He stopped taking care of himself. He was angry with everyone. It's hard to understand why he chose this over a normal life.

[@erinmallory3017]

Sadly 😢 my mother is a narcissist & ít led to myself and both my sister's had a very hard time & we self medicated

[@carlamitchell466]

My husband would go through these fazes

[@garrimic3]

At this particular moment I am going through withdrawal symptoms. I kicked my covert narcissist ex wife out in February but it has been longer than that since I have touched/held a woman or a woman has touched me. I don’t really want to because my love language is touch and I don’t want to be a man who is viewed as a woman user. My dad has been that all his life during and after his teenage years. I don’t believe women are objects and neither are men but I am lonely for sure. Just a few more days and hopefully I’ll snap out of it.

[@skaziblu]

Doesn't this also reflect what the victim will go through?

[@newmommy413]

What does it mean to “fade away”. I mean it’s not like they die. What happens after a narcissistic collapse? Can they recover? Can you be a recovering narcissist?

[@CryptoProphet]

That’s actually scary.

[@Djinn510]

Seems to me that a lot of these professionals specializing in Narcissism are themselves, narcissists

[@IamHisHeismine]

I’m sorry but what of those after narcissistic abuse who are stuck with absolutely no support themselves and I’ve been looking so hard for some support. I’m stuck feeling like I’m in this cycle that you’re describing I have no one in my corner, so are you saying I’m a narcissist, because I desperately need some love and support.

[@tracieross9928]

@Danish Bashir what if the narcissist is currently with another narcissist and that woman knew about the 1st person all along. He had a stroke and now she has to take care of him. It would be a trip if she dumped him and he had to to an assisted living center.

[@TheMightyPika]

Show those birds!!

[@prophet1782]

No 1 is happening with me now . !

[@SophieBird07]

Well, “my” narc (6 yrs) who dumped me out of the blue when he had a new (old flame from years back?) move in with him him, over night actually after standing me up for his breakfast plans, is finally getting a reality check that he is not in control. He’s burning through her money, but of course fighting publicly, all while trying to Hoover me…no thanks. But he’s no spring chicken now, no charms to sell, always broke, and now his years of tobacco (and other) have caught up to him. You can’t trick COPD. It’s pathetic to watch him strut by my house, shadow boxing, and “dancing” like he’s living it up. He’s not convincing anyone, particularly himself.

[@rosemacaskie]

I have a sister who, when I listened to you, ticked all the boxes for a narcisist but had another theoretict reason for attacking so many, so often, for attacking all, were to cure them of their sins. All this is more complicated because the religious end it really serms to serve is to turn every one into militants in the secret hope of making all so afraidof being attacked that they will do what she. wants in order to try to prevent the blackening. She even tries to take away everyones partners at the same time trying to oblige them to marry some person she chooses for them. Do narcidists get supply from making others do what they want? I have suffered these behaviour even from a person she knew in Holy Orders as well as from militants in her group. They accused me of sins and if I denied such just went on accusing me of such periodically, though they did not all seem to be like a narcisists it is my sister and her friend a priest who seem to be such. . It makes me wonder if a person can be turned into one.I feel inadeqiate about myself as many many people do in some ways and have my own faults so to have more faults put on me is very frightening. Being asked again and again to admite sins you have not done is to be blackened and is horrible The militants blacken all my family members as well as accusing them of sins, in pursuit of aislating them, though the attacks are supposed to be in order to clean their souls, aislating them, also so blackening them by trying to make them confess sins so as to make all into militants in turn for the Church. My, militant for the church, sister convinced my brother to pay a priest to get me targeted 30 years ago bcause I had so liked Buddhism and yoga. Convinced by mymiilitant sister that I was not alright. . My brother asked the priest if I liked the Catholic attention the militants wereI lived gave me. He said yes, but later my brother heard that this man knew I had not liked it. I supected my family of organising this for me but did not know how to confront them with i My brother himself was being attacked and blackened and is so to this day and so were my other to sisters. When I read your site, then every thing you said ticked the box for my militant sister. I was so grateful for your description of narcisism. My childrem got attacked as well as did all thier cousins.

[@rosemacaskie]

I talked commenting on one of your talks, of my teacher and long distance friend, Ramiro Calle, of how my Catholic sister, who lives in Belfast, had gone for and hurt his son. How?.you might well ask, as she lived in Belfast not Madrid. I have talked of it how before on other sights so forgot how crazy saying my sister attacked a Spaniard sounds. For one, her group, being of the Church, can get in touch with and influence Church members everywhere, who can then use their own to work on people in other countries. . One of their moves on this line was to get a group of Spanish Catholics into Ramiros more or less charge so as to control him, as he, as a pysiotherapist, as yoga people are, he looks after people, the ill for example. Also, so as to control who he marridd as a sevond wife. So they can get at people in other countries because the arm.of the church is long. He has taught many church people in Holy Orders to meditate. Being mean to him is then, biting the hand that fed them. My sisters group and from accounts of him, one English priest, a friend of hers, hate foriegn religions even Evangelism the last according to a friend of mine,. Hates other religions, so intensly that they try to stop hearing any speaker if such speak of even useful things from things of other religions. Being with them is like being with your proverbial, 'Hill Billy", your KKK. Also, but more madly, being "With someone in spirit", a Catholic phrase, which has seemed for me during the last thirty years, to mean telepathically, means that peope can be attacked in spirit, from.thousands of mikes away. So, Ramiros son could be made part of a militant group and later asked to take cocaine so as to work later hours for them and also harrassed so vety much as they do harrass people in my experiencefrom another country, by the use of telepathy. Tge use of telepathy by a grouo is a good way to go completely over the top and have ideologids that have gone mad, as it is a world whch no one or maybe just a few control. Also, Catholic militant group's members believe in endlessly morally attacking each other, for the good of each others souls so anyone working with them gets enormously harrassed. If you have been persuaded to take drugs and by those who like doctors, ask theirs to do enormously long work hours as the job is, sorta, charitable, not that doctors are asked to take cocaine, the person so used has a greater need for cocaine, than most. if on top of this, said person suffesr from vast quantities of harrassment, it is not to be suprised if you hear that he ended up taking heroine, which of course was a situation that could be used to greatly hamper his father, scared about the level of harrassment that could be applied to his son. This not only meant that Ramiro could be forced to talk in a veiled manner about Hinduism and such but it also meant that he, for fear of the harrassent of his son being upped, paid as if paying a decent wage to those that tortured his son. Tortured in many of the ways you describe when talking of narcicists. I was harrassed for years after studying Yoga but only in recent years found out about Ramiros situation. I had small children when this started and was older than Ramiros son and never got asked to work for them, my attitude to them being too negative though not then very vociferiously so, nor was I then harrassed as badly as he was, I was not a near yogui. so I was never asked to take cocaine for them. I read a bit of a book written by a woman who left the Opus Dei. She said that her principle reason for leaving this group was that they were required to use friendship so as to be abl e to tell on each other. If it was at anything like the rate which my sisters group use blackening each other then that includes throwing any wildest suspicion at each other and then insisting that wildest suspicions are proved truths then, this use of friendship in the opus dei was something much graver than I had thought it could be when I read of it something like twenty five years ago.

[@Jett-tz4od]

Oh yes, I know all about it! He lied about not talking to his high school sweetheart. I learned this from his best friend (who is married to my cousin). He finally told her he is an alcoholic and she quit talking to him. So, that's why he ended things with me! It all made sense then. He went into a narcissistic collapse and just quit talking to me! Wow! What a jerk.

[@elizabethbrauer1118]

I can't reconcile the narc/adhd/bipolar stream.

[@HelgaJonsdottir]

Does anyone have experience with a narcissistic couple? We are dealing with a couple who seem to be both narcissistic ie. employers. Thought two narcissists couldn't live and work together.

[@karishmagodage284]

Danish is it possible that after Post narcisistic abuse a person show this symptoms.?

[@nobodyreally8441]

So, is there hope for these people. How about if I truly love this person. How can I help them?

[@shannakellett9104]

Mine did this and hung up the phone from my telling him I can’t come back to him.. 10 minutes later he committed suicide

[@brittanyrobbins4720]

What can cause narcissistic collapse?

[@liseduedue2715]

This is excactly how it is… this break down … wondering is it adhd bi polar psychopath or what is it? Because of normal problems that everyone has, they’re dramatically changing the behavior and the problems and the situation and people inside this- so it happens like a 💥 panic attack of dimensions… shaking the life out of the close people around them…. Earth crake … You can see and experience the damage 😮 but it’s not possible to get it! Like they’re turning into something else

[@tarasilver8591]

Isn't it so scary I'm 52 she's 72 don't know how old u r but if ur still young enough to have a life n future plz run run run it only gets worse I have absolutely nothing because of her she destroyed everything that meant something to me including my children the anger I feel now is because if only I knew this before 40 yrs ago but yet I still feel sorry for her she has absolutely nobody but me n I know she hates the sight of me but swears it's all me her useless loneylife is my fault I could go on n on but in the end she won because my emptiness brings her joy i honestly believe i will be the only one to pay my respects when it's time that is a horrible legacy n it's my mother... Wow my anxiety just gets worse thinking about my dreams n goals that were attainable n possible but I didn't give myself a chance because I thought something was wrong with me... Plz RUN N DONT LOOK BACK

[@TanyaDavis954]

When you say there's no recovering from it at the end of the video. Does that mean they just fail completely?

[@chintamaniaryal4949]

Vampire!

[@erinmallory3017]

Wow!! This is my mother to a T!

[@meloneymoore8856]

Thank you for pointing these out ❤❤❤-Xclusyph Icon

[@rosemacaskie]

When you say, "They convince themselves that they are not real, do you mean, the them they are projecting is not real? It is hard listening to a specialist, they use the words of thier speciality which are normaly used for that topic specallists know what they mean when they use a word in one context. but it is hard for us other people to make out. You explaim, convincing themselves they are not themselves, later on but it is still.hard for e to catch all you a psycologist means by this. I keep watching bits of this video again and again so as to understand it all. .

[@evelynspaghetti4978]

I don't understand either . Prof. Sam Vankin says a narcissist isn't real, only a false self. So I don't understand exactly what he means by that either. Whether he is talking about dissociation or what. .. very confused

[@sinsity7]

Hello bashir ??why do they cover mirrors 🪞 🤔 ❤...

[@havestrength5802]

don't worry about dumping them. they will find other people to use.

[@iaaeottg21]

.....and abuse

[@carminaburana9163]

Poor other people.

[@itsjustweard2328]

Exactly.

[@ad6417]

This is absolutely true.

[@divorceOfCourse]

And trash you to that person.

[@geraldfriend256]

“Stage four cancer of the soul”- Dr. Sam Vaknin, referring to narcissistic collapse

[@fagbamilabukola6304]

May everyone dealing with Narcissistic (especially a dear person to them) find help to heal from every emotional trauma and strength to move on from toxicity 🙏

[@casperinsight3524]

Amen 🙌🏼

[@janiebutterfly5251]

Thank you so much that means alot to me I'm asking the Angel's to wrap their wings around you and bring you everything that you wish for sending you love and light and many blessings 🥰🥰💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜

[@SurrelStewart]

Thanks very much and I wish the same for you and everyone else

[@reginadsouza4432]

Only Heaven can help the Nascissist, after all they are created by God.

[@rebeccaglaze3707]

Thank you for that. It’s becoming increasingly clear

[@marysullivan1815]

They are bullies selfish abusive men . He moved in on me trying to control me in my own house . He scammed me made a personal injury claim against me which was fraud . This monster tried to destroy me

[@richardtheriault9121]

They are also women. Think about the first thing in the morning putting on makeup for an hour to deceive the world into seeing her as she wishes she were rather than as she is. Many women are very transactional, mining men for money before, during, and after marriage.

[@annettedillon7751]

My ex narc keeps asking me for my house insurance policy number. Even though he refused to take his tools when I asked him to leave and they were eventually stolen by another narc tenant, he will forever harass me about getting reimbursed for an exaggerated amount of money.

[@marysullivan1815]

@@annettedillon7751 just tell him the policy was cancelled

[@inpersonaDK]

Yes, my ex-woman was a most women being financially, emotionally and end up being physically abusing. Women want on the expense of a man’s hard work.

[@brightonfunds]

Yes! Mine accused me of pushing him down the stairs when it was him who was trying to get in my house. I had to call my neighbor to get him to leave. That's when he started pretending I pushed him down the stairs.

[@kryssysmith1486]

Narcissism equates to energy vampires! That's the best way I can explain it to myself; narcissists are like energy vampires; they will take and take without giving anything in return. I remember getting off the phone with a narcissistic friend at the time, (not realizing the impact until later). After every call, I felt completely drained of energy, but couldn't figure out why. When I mentioned this to the person that they were an energy vampire, they dismissed it by telling me "Go, talk to your imaginary friend Anne." That's when I realized I needed to set boundaries for myself.

[@cocobenji6123]

I truly believe that narcissists are demons in human form. The soul that was in their bodies is long gone.

[@waitwhat7724]

Empty skin walking

[@barba5537]

Agree..

[@calico-kitty-chrissy]

cocobenji6123 You are Absolutely Correct. Leviathan

[@karenhartman7115]

Amen I constantly decree that the demon will leave my son

[@lisanygaard2720]

I saw the mask slip once and it was terrifying.

[@dwilliams5700]

They suck your energy and your spirit amongst other things. It's mentally and emotionally draining!!! I'm so grateful for this knowledge and was able to see without a shadow of a doubt who I'm dealing with because for so many years, I just couldn't figure out what in the world was going on. Now that I know, I can let him go without any regrets ... It's ALL on him!!! I'm blessed I didn't lose my mind ❤. Peace and Blessings to all of you 🙏🏼

[@cbaby6572]

You are so right everything you have said I felt it all I just got over that it took a long time I said the same thing I didn’t lose my mind. It was rough now he gone to one of his ex I feel so peaceful now.💜

[@sharonoverton9897]

Same thing happened to me...he kept circling back to me...for years and years..finally 5 years ago I read about narcissist and he fit the profile to a T..I cut off all communication with him and started therapy..I feel like I escaped from prison...😅

[@dwilliams5700]

@@sharonoverton9897 That's exactly what you did ... Escaped !!! It's definitely a prison.

[@kalasmith9472]

Once you see narcissism, you can’t unsee it

[@Rickettsia505]

These things happenen when life got boring (stable): Extravagantly wasting money Dressing up, going about town or traveling and spending extravagantly, trying to find new sources Calling friends and family and threatening to commit suicide Deliberately getting sick or injured, neglecting to take medications in order to get sick, or abusing drugs or alcohol. Demanding grandiose celebrations, particularly traditional holidays and their birthday in particular. Refusing to get out of bed or care for themselves or their surroundings Stop paying bills and hiding the fact until there is a crisis Wrecking their car Joining clubs or creating groups that meet regularly, then creating disputes and other drama, including seduction of various members Changing churches, the crazier the better, and attempting to rise in the power structure.

[@hestercastlemansa2976]

Towards the end of our relationship I knew he is eventually going to self destruct. Sad, but not my problem to fix. I tried long enough to realise it's not going to happen - there is no fix.

[@jurepotokar6218]

Sad but true. In my case it was/it is she... I can't help her.

[@ΜΑΡΙΑΠΑΠΑΔΟΠΟΥΛΟΥ-π7ω]

I still have to see my ex narcissist at work. I have imposed strict no contact, but observing him from a distance, without him knowing, I see a man in EXTREME EUPHORIA one moment and DEPRESSION the next. It explains a lot. Why I felt psychotic while with him. Sometimes he looks angry, stares at me agressively and right after that, chats enthusiastically with colleagues. The man represents chaos.

[@gbrown9942]

Damn, that's terrible you have to work with him. Out of interest, does he have a substance abuse problem as well? IME that seems to increase the rapidity of mood changes, with Narcs.

[@kdmill7563]

Yes they are human chaos

[@lindaschultz7900]

​@@gbrown9942Mine has a huge gambling problem. Just as bad!!

[@christinerobertson9596]

like my mother.

[@ΜΑΡΙΑΠΑΠΑΔΟΠΟΥΛΟΥ-π7ω]

gbrown, thank you for your reply. Yes, I am almost certain that he drinks a lot of alcohol on a daily basis and I have suspicions that he does cocaine. I know with certainty that he drinks, but to what extent, not sure.He loved whiskey, he said.

[@bellezanegra0206]

This video has been one of your most helpful videos. The “accusing everybody” chapter was so informative. All of your videos are educational, don’t get me wrong, but this one was really timely.

[@khamxoxi5536]

I am not a narcissist but suffering from some of these things due to being scapegoated, childhood and abandonment trauma, narcissistic abuse from siblings, relatives, spouse, the troop of monkeys etc. Now I rather stay by myself trying to heal myself from the 40+ years of it. They won't stop coming for more ...

[@BlinkinFirefly]

I completely relate to be being scape-goated :( It is a horrible, isolating feeling. Dealing with a narcissistic family feels like a never-ending nightmare.

[@khamxoxi5536]

@@BlinkinFirefly You are so right. I wish I could disappear from all of them. Despite the damages seem lasting, God is my strength and support.

[@keithhowell1590]

I too grew up in a toxic home and was the scapegoat. I developed many coping mechanisms. I developed a victim mindset and constantly having to defend myself. Now I question whether I became a covert vulnerable narcissist myself. I feel like I’m suffering a complete narcissistic collapse. Deep depression and no desire to live. I always play the victim to get sympathy. All this is a recent discovery. Not sure if I’m a narcissist or just severely damaged and developed warped coping mechanisms. I’m so miserable and such a state of despair I do not want to go on living.

[@Nibiru3600X]

⁠@@keithhowell1590They will make you question if you are the narcissist all along! You can also develop coping strategies just like them while dealing with them! I think you’re in the worst of it, but can head towards the light ✨ You’re doing great by questioning yourself! Try also to break down all barriers of others’ voices in your head of who & what you are. Work on your hurting inner child 💖 Keep going with these videos & online support communities. Find the good in you again & nurture it 🙏

[@monareed7287]

I totally agree

[@lynghee159]

Thank you for your insights ♥️! "Un-understandable Rage Spells" that have no rhyme or reason to them that I'd tried to explain to family & friends who'd only witnessed the perpetual smiling, wit & charm - until the black eyes, bruises, etc started appearing. God bless you sir for your VALUABLE work🥲

[@mybiz1006]

I have started to think of narcissists as the ultimate consumers. No putting in, only taking out. Also, your videos and insights have helped my daughter, thank you for helping her. 💗

[@zellerized]

VERY TRUE. PURE CONSUMERS... THROW IT AWAY AND GET ANOTHER ASAP

[@ghostqueen2082]

They have the ability to believe their own lies...kings & queens of gaslighting

[@briandrake6881]

Prisons must be full of these people with NO supply.

[@indianiecworld]

they prey on other prisoners

[@JoshuaAnzalone-zk5ht]

Thats the demons eating them alive

[@enednas801]

I like to think they at some point in life when they left their true self to go be with their false self that they sold their soul to the devil and his deamons cos our soul/true self as a connection with god who is love and light.when a person leaves all that he/she sells their soul and will forever feel tormented by deamons and the darkness :O . I know couple of these people and this one guy has this bizarre dark,devilish vibe but also tense cold stare and his face looks like a mask for a non human beening.he could need an exorcism xD

[@BNyaB]

👍👍👍

[@cocobenji6123]

Yep

[@Diamondjane54]

My life reminds me of an old black & white movie of Dracula. He had a man as his slave named "Renfield". A sickly gray faced ,no mind of his own, dupe. After 23 years my spouse turned me into Renfield. I am recovering slowly. I am thankful for this website. I have to thank Danish & thanks 2U. No one knows what narc abuse is like better than another whos been abused by a narcississt.

[@AnneSaluppo-t2p]

Bless you, dear Heart. This is my story too. 25 years married to a monster, he nearly drained me of life. Couldn't sleep, couldn't eat, dropped down to under 100lbs. Nobody can possibly understand this level of abuse unless they have lived it. 1 year post divorce and I'm getting better.... never give up!

[@lisanygaard2720]

What a perfect analogy!

[@ekdaufin1485]

They don’t want to face their real self. They gaslight themselves when adaptation does not work so they don’t have to face the pain.

[@vandanabhogaraju9673]

I simply admire your clarity and observation and explanation Danish

[@monamohabir4897]

I was always blamed for everything that goes wrong. Everything you said is so true ❤.. Thank you 🙏

[@Margie-z3w]

I know! I was once blamed for my ex falling off a ladder and I was nowhere near him!

[@Friday-i1m]

Mar ex narc did the same thing too me 💯💯💯💯I was 14 when we got married and he was 24 and had 6 kids and he discarted me I just could understand what he was telling me during the phase discarted I was in a term oil I just could not understand he put me in hell and still fighting me with the marital esets 💯💯💯❤️❤️❤️🖤🖤🖤🤥🏦💵💵💵💵💔💔👿☠️💯💯💯

[@GULZARVIRANI-o2d]

Very well done video. Thank you. So very true. This year would have been my 40th wedding anniversary. I left 5 years ago. Hard at first, but now i am happy and i dont feel like i am walking on eggshells every minute.

[@bonnieblood3983]

The ex lied, cheated, ignored, demeaned, rejected, stonewalled, etc., but when I was beyond fed up and ready to leave, he went nuts. We were 'one,' I couldn't leave, I just had to forgive. The flying monkeys were after me hot and heavy. He caused the loss of my job. He turned my children against me. Yet he 'loved' me. I have zero good feelings towards him. The sight and sound of him disgusts me. I'm so glad I persevered and got away from him. I felt totally smothered, like I was going to d|e if I didn't get away from him.😶

[@loverules802]

Glad you got away

[@chaoswitch1974]

I feel this right now. He's living in my house and refuses to pay rent or get a job. I'm literally forced to legally evict him, go to court, and have the sheriff remove him.

[@chaoswitch1974]

... this is an extremely difficult thing to do for a person with empathy, no matter how injured by the narc, when you know they'll end up homeless.

[@hodadog2]

You are not alone- these personalities use and discard without any guilt

[@carparthero]

a narcissist is nothing more than a damaged person with unresolved childhood trauma. narcissists don’t learn from mistakes. they don't learn from being wrong. they don’t apologize, they don’t change their ways. they will never become a better person. they will, however, learn to lie more efficiently, & convincingly, how to deceive more covertly, and how to deny or cover up wrongdoings, so as not to be discovered the next time. cheers from southern ontario, canada 🍁

[@vaijayantipathak1642]

👊👊👊

[@carparthero]

​@vaijayantipathak1642 thanks for your support. -cheers, steven

[@geraldfriend256]

As a narc I have to agree. We can change our responses, not our internal reactions which 2:41 are those of a child. 99 44/100ths of us only get worse.

[@rikokojima]

So very true

[@mybiz1006]

It's sad, isn't it? I hate giving up on people, and yet I have had to - because my energy was so drained by the drama of it all.

[@LavenderandLinen]

It never ceases to amaze me how well you know my co-worker! Manic highs, manic lows; I can tell by the sound of how he climbs the stairs to the office in the morning which state he is in. Honestly, the manic lows are easier to deal with because he just mopes in his office and leaves me alone. And the manic highs are so fragile! He acts like a child playing stupid practical jokes and fake laughing at everything, but all it takes is some tiny little thing to send him off into a rage and then another manic low after that. At first I thought he was bipolar, but it didn’t take long before I recognized all of my brother’s issues in him and realized what I was dealing with. A vulnerable covert narcissist who’s paranoia is directed at me on a daily basis even though I have never in my life ever tried to sabotage anyone. What a mess he is! Thank you for the encouragement and education that you give to us in your videos!!

[@Hyderagean]

Not every person who experiences dissociative amnesia is a narcissist. Not sure who needs to hear that to heal/stop blaming themselves, but here you go. ❤

[@chaoswitch1974]

Yes, some of these things happen to their victims too.

[@SaraCole-mn4uv]

Severe TBI, from a brain-penetrating gunshot wound to the head, caused the official diagnosis of dissociative disorder, by Dr. Askins the Forensic Psychiatrist, whom skillfully becomes a victims' dream come true!!!! The narcissistic discard is all to frequently fatal, so let's empower ourselves to the no-contact mandate for safety….

[@catgirl4sure]

Your video is important! You are among the extreme minority of experts that speaks with authoritative knowledge about the panic attacks narcissists can experience during a traumatic collapse. There is virtually no information about this phenomenon ANYWHERE in professional literature. Many so-called experts are not experientially informed. You gained massive credibility with me when you discussed this. Please expand upon this phenomenon in a future video.

[@angel-mq2mo]

@connievalentine2174 I totally agree with you! And I would like him to expand on it as well, especially as to what happens after the endpoint he spoke about, after the "virus" takes over every part of their being. Do they do away with themselves? Do they start over again? Do they go insane? Like, what??

[@SteveTheGhazaRooster]

These sound like they could be other conditions for the most part. Bipolar or severe depression, paranoid personality disorder or even a form of schizophrenia

[@ketoauntie7301]

I'm beginning to think that a lot of victims of Narc Abuse should qualify for at least short or long term disability under Medicaid/Medicare/Insurers in order to heal due to the trauma. Changes need to be made to the diagnosis codes for this to happen.

[@mikey92362]

Nope. My kids and grandkids don't need to pay for that. Pay your own bills. Start a charity if it's so important to you. Any time somebody thinks that more government is the answer, then it was a stupid question to begin with.

[@christinerobertson9596]

My narc mother has turned her hospice flying monkeys against me. She used to my daughter , but my daughter told her to quit badmouthing me. My mother is a ruthless creature.

[@mikawayu1413]

Now that my ex mal-narc and I have been split for 3 yrs we have a "shark-remora" relationship. We co parent which is truly unbelievable. Hence the shark-remora analogy. Its hilarious when he gives relationship advice to my older son. 🤣 It sounds so good. His explinations on how in a marriage the couple needs hobbies so they dont smother each other..Lol!! As if lack of hobbies was the issue!! I could never have a hobbie smh...I was always exhausted and sick. Many kidney issues etc.Even if I did find an acceptable hobbie in the "king's" eyes he would accuse me of having an affair with whoever else I encountered during this hobbie. What a load of crap.

[@roeileen2148]

Is there ever any room for compassion when it comes to hurt and traumatized people? Real narcissists think they own the world. They are not broken and ashamed people.

[@cheralyse1352]

I've witnessed this complete collapse . . . which shocked me in that this person flipped into an apparent psychotic state. Later, he did not remember the bizarre behavior that I witnessed. He appeared to be hearing voices of a paranoid type. His "foundation" had crumbled! This after a 5 year relationship. He was most definitely a covert NPD that was hiding a more severe pathology. I can now see that they need to hold onto someone like a drowning man needs a life jacket, someone who validates their alter reality. Desperation! And by bonding with a partner, they have found a safe space - only for a while.

[@kwsl4858]

“0nly for a while” Best line…

[@danbrooks2874]

I am witnessing every single one of these things happen right before my eyes.

[@judyl.761]

Thank you! This is excellent. My father is a narcissist and destroyed me in high school. He turned on me, became paranoid, blamed me all the time even though I felt such compassion - he refused to see the compassion. It was like he wiped me out of his world, like he hated me, like he pulled a plug and stopped loving me. He would only be mean to me.

[@daisyrani8921]

Sir i saw lot of ur videos. My husband is a narcissist. Iam sisty five years old. What ever u said is very very true. Iam also a Christian.. Totally fed up. Only God Almighty has to help me to live.

[@Wonsulting_Watched-si6kf]

Learn about Islam.

[@manjeeram-ju6ny]

Learn Bhagavad Githa..it will surely help u. I have laernt and My God Krishna helped me. Now whstever happened all happened for the good of me. Now I totally recovered from the abuse cause am a devotee of Krishna. Thank god.❤👍🙏🌹

[@marilynschmidt6400]

Divorce is a healthy option. God isn't against divorce. He'd rather you be healthy and happy then having the life source sucked out of you by a demon

[@Chris-tc8sm]

If you can just leave him. They're not people they're just biological portals for evil spirits. You don't owe him anything. You owe yourself. Choose yourself and God and leave the Demon.

[@georgesonm1774]

Don't listen to these people. Also: yes if he doesn't acknowledge his disease (it's a severe mental disease, narcissism) and doesn't want to change (there are paths to change although ostensibly only in terms of behaviour, code of conduct, integrity - not in terms of feelings), leave him if you can - whatever your church's opinion on divorce or separation - God understands and is capable of forgiveness beyond pedantic rules, especially in special cases like this one. Really - you can make up for it in whatever ways you want, but you should not restrain yourself here - it's masochistic and does it help him in any way? At least that's this stranger's opinion ;)) Certain narcissists might change but 1) not while they stay in the position of power, 2) they must want change out of their own volition (or realize this is their only chance, understand who they are etc.); then it's a hard road to becoming as good a person as they can be - check out Sam Vaknin's channel here on YT - he has a video 'If you suspect you might be a narcissist...'. anyway, he also has many videos on narcissistic abuse and/or how to communicate with narcissists - some of that might be of interest to you. Also - about the prospect of change, mortification etc. Good luck - please take care of yoursel!