Narcissists Do THIS When They are Jealous of You

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In this insightful video, "Narcissists Do THIS When They are Jealous of You," we delve into the covert tactics narcissists employ when they feel threatened by your success or happiness. From subtle undermining to overt sabotage, we uncover the telltale signs of jealousy in narcissistic behavior, empowering you to recognize and navigate these dynamics with confidence and clarity. Discover practical strategies to protect your boundaries and maintain your sense of self amidst the challenges of dealing with jealous narcissists. #Narcissism #Jealousy #NarcissisticAbuse #Boundaries #SelfCare #Empowerment
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[@RebeccaZungEsq]

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[@RebeccaZungEsq]

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[@Devikafernando2011]

Very usefull.I get passive aggresive all the time.first thing in the morning he will says since you became the president all members left. Thank you for the tips

[@Devikafernando2011]

Thank you

[@user-xe3co5gj5h]

THEY HAVE A WHOLE LOAF BUT HATE IF YOU HAVE A CRUMB

[@redefinedliving5974]

Thats an apt explanation! Dang

[@goodenoughgirl8102]

Bingo!!!!!

[@bobbarker1798]

Well said.

[@akashalicinia4942]

They don't have sh&t....

[@MindBuddies]

Next-level explanation. Thanks!

[@CM-sm2pk]

After 41 years, I dropped an old college "friend." Too many snide remarks, too many put downs. I had been too tolerant. I had enough. I didn't ghost. I told her I had enough. She texted me once. I didn't read the fake apology text. I blocked her and deleted her worthless words. I have no regrets.

[@prairrie]

Sad but it's the only thing .

[@danielle1103]

Good for you!! The toxicity is real with the narcissist.

[@donnaanderson2846]

That’s so horrible! For me, it was my sister! It took me 61 years to fully acknowledge it, and go no contact!

[@luciahelenan.teruel301]

Well done!! I did the same! Didn't fall for her bait and to prevent any lame hoovering I blocked her and got her out of my life forever.

[@paulettelamontagne6992]

same had it out last week.i really didnt see her traits.untill threw huge fit over nothing.56 yr old women literally threw tantrum

[@chandac3839]

They always have to one up someone who's getting attention or shine.

[@70Ford302]

It's true. Anything you're good at, they have to undermine rather than just embrace and be appreciative.

[@idid138]

Or tell you how you could do it a bit better.

[@70Ford302]

@@idid138 I made a rule. By questioning why/how I'm doing something, you've just implied that you know how to do ______ better than me and therefore, this is now your job. Then walked away. I was just asking! No, you weren't.

[@tiffanyb.7596]

In college after I realized my narcissistic friend would constantly try and win over my boyfriend… I decided to tell her I was interested in a different guy. (which was a lie.) She went after him like nobody’s business. At least that kept her out of the way for a while. And I stopped telling her about any of my dates after that. She did other things also that were not what a true friend would do. Needless to say we are no longer friends. Thank you for your video! 🦋

[@tinac7921]

Yes my daughter had same thing and even tried to copy her. Got to stage where her. Nd other jealous friend kicked my daughter when she confronted them in a none threatening way. I seen the bruises on her leg. I’ve actually met her. I seen them in supermarket told her mom and she cried eyes out Cus I had the evidence of threats social media. Told head teacher My daughter is now limited to friends but at least she does not have to compete and now the jealous girls are all falling out 🤪

[@myutube5882]

Very smart! It's like spreading jam on a piece of bread and putting it on another picnic table when having a picnic at the park. The bees all go to the other table.

[@someoneyoudontknow7705]

Good idea!! I’ll have to remember this one lol

[@lindac6919]

Isn't it hilarious when you can manipulate a Narky? They get this undeserved reputation for being some kind of evil genius. But they AREN'T. A genuis.

[@pamelahorbett3764]

Good for you!!! My own sister used to do that to me. Even though she was already married. Needless to say I cut her out of my life - been years already.

[@cherylhillskemper7564]

Move on! I stayed in a marriage 20 years. I learned the longer I stayed, the more of myself I lost. It's seriously important to move on.

[@Fleibig-ej9sg]

What to do if u r sharing children As I lost everything because of my Narcissistic wife. My family is gone My house My car Bank balance Kids Job Most important my Respect, honour

[@michellehiggins4657]

I’m 10 years in and have lost myself too! I don’t even know who I am anymore. It’s exhausting

[@KEOSHAANEILIA]

Working on it. I can’t hardly wait to be free!

[@cherylhillskemper7564]

@@Fleibig-ej9sg I lost everything except the kids. I still have only them, but my main objective was that they be raised knowing love and not hate. I never had possessions during the marriage either. My kids were my priority.

[@cherylhillskemper7564]

@@michellehiggins4657 It takes a long time to recover.

[@anthonym.3781]

I don’t need their validation. I’m moving on.

[@rynjrczk]

he kept me around for the same reasons he hated me-I had value. its so weird how they think and work. they are never really with you or on your side, they’re just watching, testing, throwing eggshells on the floor just to see you react. they’re never present with you, their mind is always on what’s next, what’s better. they’re always bored if someone’s not praising them or idolizing them

[@user-qv9nw1dq2f]

True. You can never get a narcissist not to be jealous of you because their egos are too fragile. And since the narcissist is always going to be jealous of you they will sabotage everything you do. Jealous people secretly disdain you as well and taking all of those traits into account there is no chance for a healthy relationship with those individuals. We have to walk away and leave them alone. Toxic is poisonous and lethal.

[@laurajones5352]

My mum became very jealous of me as a teenager/young woman as I started dating and living my life. Constant criticism and back handed comments - pure unadulterated jealousy. We had a horrible childhood.

[@map3384]

My wife had a narcissistic mother also. Kept telling my wife you’re nothing without me, you’ll fail without me, you’ll lose everything and be on the street. She really upset my wife’s confidence in herself. All to keep her by her side. Only her death put happiness back into my wife’s life. She still has a long way to go.

[@lisabowden402]

Same with my Mom. Started about the same time .

[@map3384]

@@lisabowden402 These crazy mothers try to stand in the way of boyfriends/girlfriends , husbands/wives and their children. They try to destroy other relationships and so their kids are all theirs. Terrible selfishness.

[@DMAC1301]

Mine too. I vividly remember one valentines my father came home with a heart box of chocolate. He was beaming. She was furious. She called me all kinds of names short of whore but not in front of him. He loved her so much, she was his person. He was not able or willing to see. How can a mother be jealous that her child’s father loves his/ her child, I never understood.

[@melaniesk1586]

I know what you went through. When I told my mom this boy liked me, she said: He doesn't like you, he is just using you. I have been happily married for 24 years and my mom can't stand it.

[@timrockman7]

When they make a snide comment about you, respond with glee as if they brightened your day. That will confuse them and fraustrait them. Accidently making you happy will F-them up.

[@KBArchery]

Yes!! I did this when a narcissist woman friend obviously upset because I pulled away from a relationship w her. At our book group she said in private to me “Your new nickname is The Terminator” I responded with a big smile like she just complimented me ,”I love that movie!” And I started laughing. She just looked at me in shock! Her arrows didn’t work She left our group

[@GalaxyFluke]

If it’s in a group setting and a narc “friend” says snide comment … I always ask them if they can repeat what they said a little louder bc I wasn’t sure everyone heard. They always look at me like what in the world is coming next. Nothing, just like to expose them.

[@user-dz7pi5wi6t]

I didn't understand why people were being so aggressive or passive aggressive. Meanwhile, these same people would be nice to my brother or parents. My brother told me that they're jealous that I got my masters degree at a school with name recognition. Their behavior bothered me a great deal...but it took me some time to figure out that these people will never be nice to me again. Like Rebecca says, it is best to move on and set boundaries with these people. Don't let them hold you back.

[@saraz9017]

Congratulations on your huge accomplishment in life. I hope you will believe in Jesus and have eternal life ❤️ God bless you.

[@user-dz7pi5wi6t]

​@@saraz9017 Thank you, wish you a lot of happiness and fulfillment in life and ever after.

[@tinac7921]

This is what causes bullying

[@espiritu_]

Any time I would talk about something good in my life or my goals, this friend was silent. Like she was annoyed. Anytime something bad happened to me, she wouldn’t stop asking questions about it. Like she enjoyed when I was suffering.

[@anniethompson1041]

I have a friend exactly like that

[@cherylfoster4182]

And when I’m talking (my friend) would talk right over me. I was so sick of it I just hung up on her and that was it. I have so much peace.

[@KEOSHAANEILIA]

This year I have decided to cut out family, friends, and a significant other because of these things. It’s hard, but I really want to heal whatever is in me that attracts these kinds of people. Working on having boundaries and not being people pleaser. I pray anyone dealing with people like this has the space to heal l, grow, and prosper! God Speed!

[@AboveRubiesTV]

I have done the same! While I am healing, I also do not blame myself for the actions of others. The fact that people would do some of what they’ve done, shows me their true intent-whether boundaries are there or not. I wish you all the best on your journey ☺️☺️

[@Lesacraft3]

I swear I think I'm surrounded by Narcissist! I encourage and support people and l'm genuinely happy for them when they succeed. How can you be this way and treat others so badly and feel good about yourself?

[@abbz23]

Your a narc magnet 🧲 too

[@trailerparkcryptoking5213]

Narcs are attracted to you because you sling around validation....they prey on you because of it! Churches are now full of narcissists because they know Christians are kind, loving, compassionate people and they take advantage of it!

[@lindac6919]

It's their goal. You know that there are abused children and spouses, right? Well, who do you think is doing the abusing? Every time you walk into a store or a PTSA meeting or drive in traffic, you're surrounded by abusers. You might talk every day to perfectly nice neighbors and friends who are abusers, like my Mom was.

[@JXakaJoshuaWills]

According to what I have read, shadow work changes our energy, preventing us from attracting a lot of pollution. Sending you love and light!

[@lindaspiess3545]

@@abbz23 No one is a narc magnet. Or everyone and anyone is. Usually they go for people who they deem successful. But not always. As far as sex? Any body will do, as far as they are concerned. So, you see, you can't limit yourself by thinking you attract them. You allow them to stay, or worse, you get trapped. But you can't stop yourself from being talented, beautiful wealthy, accomplished, etc. So yeah, a lot of people will be interested you, including narcs. Educating yourself is the key, that, and tough boundaries.

[@DEAN_23]

My narc was my so-called "best friend", who undermined my growth and development at every turn, all because of the way I went about doing it. He couldn't stand the fact that for the first time in his life, he wasn't the centre of attention, and uitimately, and I firmly believe this, after years of being the "alpha", the leader, the "big man on campus", he was afraid of either losing his self-imposed spot, or losing me - ultimately, he ended up losing both....

[@rynjrczk]

yup they don’t like it when people see them as a real person, you must look up to them and idolize them or they can’t function properly

[@tmklunk]

I was told I was in too good of a mood and to stop it! Imagine that!

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

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[@r3sfernjbb]

Yup, a big one with narcs is to accuse us is smiling too much. 🙄

[@luciahelenan.teruel301]

I was told that by a guy I was dating!!! Needless to say he's blocked!!!

[@MissRed92837]

My mother and siblings were always jealous with me. Then they were also envy and then it became hate. My mother and my siblings hate me so much because of their jealousy, that they are obsessed with destroying me completely! Smear campaigns, ruining my reputation with lies, calling my employer, landlord and authorities spreading terrible lies about me. They are telling friends and relatives terrible lies about me and that everyone should go no contact with me. They are definitely trying to push me into suicide. But I won’t give them that sick joy! It’s a nightmare and hell on earth having such evil narcissistic sadistic family members!

[@user-rx4ze1hy7r]

Almost the same fate with me My late Mom was a narcissist mum Now her younger sister has taken over.

[@StuffnSuch]

I’m going through the same EXACT thing

[@TurbulantSynider]

Stay strong. Avoid them. Study. Get job. Move

[@Meechl]

The last person I expected to be a narcissist and jealous of me was my youngest sister. Like ex narc husband they initiated smear campaigns against me. I realised how much she hated me when our father died. She is jealous about everything to do with me and along with ex narc husband turned my son against me. This should have broken me but it has made me stronger than I ever knew was possible! I must have incredible Karma because whatever they throw at me bounces right back onto them! I don’t feel anything for any of them, but they really need me more than I need them because I’ve learnt they belong in my past and not my future.

[@GuitarMatt]

Exact same story about my younger brother for me too! Thankfully I am NO CONTACT for life as a response for years now

[@Hollymadeline]

My next door neighbor provokes me, but I’m remaining unbothered. I know that she is just a hater and wants me miserable like her 😅 I am a narc magnet 😬 I have gone no contact and it’s driving her nuts

[@joicoulbourn3486]

This.right.here! 👍👏

[@island661]

I work with a younger girl who is so jealous of me and I'm old enough to be her mother. It's so funny. What an ego boost! 😂

[@user-gw8uz8ux1q]

She sees your Light ✨ jealous🤢

[@KristyLynchTidesofsiren]

That is funny!🤣

[@izzypaynee]

@@island661 a part of me doubts this. I don’t think a child would envy someone old enough to be their mum. Look into this.

[@island661]

@@izzypaynee No need to "look into it" Izzy. 🤣 It is what it is. Look into yourself, and ask yourself why you would question this. Nobody ever been jealous of you? 🤭😂

[@izzypaynee]

@@island661 it genuinely just sounds so unlikely for logical reasons.

[@LenaKrupinski-vg5wi]

💖 I've had this happen to me with my sister's and their friends and brother in law ! I'm only learning now from these channels that they are narcissists . I've never understood envy ! I'm genuinely happy when people are doing well. Many Thanks for educating us on this cruel behaviour ! 💖🌹✨

[@stonec.a.5455]

Just move on. Yes!

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

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[@smithgroove945]

Thankfully, i am at a point in my life where i don't have to validate Narcissists. No time in my life for them.

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

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[@user-rx4ze1hy7r]

​@@RebeccaZungEsqI have an aunt who is a die hard narcissist, she has hijacked every one's love in the family to herself making her elder brother look bad and horrible. mine is even worse with her because it's like she loses confidence in herself anytime I try so hard to impress the family. Now I have to hide my progress from her so she doesn't pull me down.

[@melrenee2510]

I recently left a job of nearly 5 years due to both male and female narcissist. One female imparticular wormed her way into management's good graces. And then started a smear campaign fighting for my position and responsibilities. Despite the fact that she had no proper training or basic people skills. I realized my health and well being was more important than fighting to prove my relevancy any longer. Management would always side with her and in the end gave her exactly what she wanted. However I know that she will never be happy and that things will no doubt crash because of her mean and jealous spirit. However I wish them the best and I pray my journey towards healing will be swift. 😊

[@lindac6919]

I had 2 former employers call and ask me to come back because of similar things. I didn't go back to either one. When they put you in the Scapegoat position once, then they'll see you as Scapegoat forever. Move on to where people really see you.

[@michellehiggins4657]

My husband accuses me of cheating- we’ve been together for 13 years. Known each other for 30. His ex cheated on him & apparently he thinks I cheat on him with the same dude & more. To the point he accuses me of meeting someone at the grocery store. So my response was “congratulations you just won yourself all the grocery shopping duties” he then of course denied ever saying that. The mind games and gaslighting is exhausting

[@lianawangari1586]

A narcissist's accusations are always confessions. They mirror what they are doing to you to: 1. Put you on your defense and you'll be too busy tryna prove that youre not cheating, whole time theyve been doing it to you. 2. To feel better about themselves while avoiding shame and guilt cause he's convincing himself that you're probably doing the same so it should make it okay. I challenge you to discreetly investigate whichever way you know best. I guarantee you'll be surprised.

[@idid138]

When mine accuses me of cheating or doing something behind their back. I sometimes say, "nope, but now you've got me wondering what you are up to?" Usually makes him change the subject & get all friendly like, just joking!

[@michellehuggins9716]

The problem is.…..I did move on….I went and found a new hobby, a new set of friends, left my narc sister to do her own thing..being the most beautiful best at everything…guess what…..she couldn't stand it and has now barged into my world…couldn’t stand the fact that I was happily successful in something that she wasn't a part of...and now she is trying to compete with me…. For goodness sake 😮!

[@bettydoughtery3920]

Very tough spot. Been there. Stay calm, and ignore. Keep interaction neutral regarding anything, and everything

[@michellehuggins9716]

@@bettydoughtery3920 Thank you. Great advice. I will.

[@mariposa1933]

Me too girl! Me too. Practice INDIFFERENCE. IT GOES A LONG WAY! We know what the deal is here, so it’s us who has to pivot and change perspectives. 😉☺️🥰 Take no offense too.

[@michellehuggins9716]

@@mariposa1933Thank you. I will heed that advice and make an effort to ‘take no offence’ That is particularly hard when she.constantly undermines and minimises my achievements. 😊

[@talita88862]

Why do you give her your space? Stay in your learn, whenever she needs help go ahead help her , not to involve her or allow her into your social life never, even to have contacts with your friends don't.

[@Myopia2047]

I have experienced so much intense jealousy n envy at workplace , for just doing my work , not interfere, yet a group of individuals tried everything to sabotage my work, undermine my work, used triangulation to trigger jealousy n false rumours then later smear campaign. Both husband n wife duo who worked in the same workplace started targeting me during the lockdown n even now they continue to do, they involved my family members too just to protect themselves about misconduct undertaken professionally they blame shifted and made me the scapegoat for their mis doings …

[@inezbuethe7684]

They always get figured out in the end the best thing is to stay happy. That's something the wife and husband don't have.

[@julieq3910]

My narc coworker took down my web pages at work with everything I'd done for the past 3 years. Once I found out, I built new pages within 2 days and started quietly sharing the new links with anyone who asked why the pages didn't work. Hello, I'm the author. Of course I have backups! I'll not complain to management. I just keep providing the service to those who ask or need it.

[@IzzyNChrist]

What's confusing to me is, why would my sister be jealous of my achievements if she already has everything she wants? She always goes on about how wonderful her life is, is that all just bs to hide her insecurities? I have moved on, it's just fun now to watch these videos and see everything I wasn't realizing before. I'm proud of myself for figuring it out. do yourself a favour. JUST MOVE ON.

[@aycakaygan]

Maybe she's not agree with you tough she thinks she stole all

[@IzzyNChrist]

@@aycakaygan that's fine she doesn't have to agree with me, but she should allow me the freedom to disagree with her instead of criticizing me

[@talita88862]

I have moved on and when ever they need me, I will be there for them, but they don't really care about me even on my darkest days, I've learnt not to be hard on myself and to them, I always smile and take life easier.

[@goodenoughgirl8102]

My toxic mother. The queen of “one upping” and raining on my parades, triangulating….among other things.

[@salvatorethomas9546]

Something I never fathomed is a woman being jealous of a man's looks. I found female coverts notorious of this. I'm an attractive older man (based on people's reaction to me) that looks much younger than I am. They absolutely hate that. Never knew.

[@rubyr8093]

Staying away from these types myself.. HONOUR, YOU !! BEST

[@mdwallace]

Ok, this makes sense of some situations now.

[@salvatorethomas9546]

@@mdwallace Yeah, they even try to sabotage your efforts in whatever the endeavor.

[@dean8705]

Agreed. I know a lesbian bar manager who has smeared me, painted herself as a victim of me. Seems jealous of my looks

[@Ms_SexxyDiva504]

💫This was so on point. I had my own terrible experience with a jealous envious deflecting ex narc. I been no contact for 2 years and healed and kept it moving. I have akways validated myself. No man controls me nor validates me. I move and live on my own terms. Boundaries are set strong and took my power back my peace and happiness feels great . Nola9Ward ⚜️💃🏽

[@mariposa1933]

Indifference and taking no offense are your two bffs in this. She’s right! Tell them nothing. Good or bad.

[@Steph_Mystique]

Thanks for sharing awareness of societies toxicities ❤

[@critter9857]

so describes my coworker...she showed her true colors one day..i was like wow...dealing with a adult stuck in toddler age...jealous always watches me and listens to me and does what i do, says to me thats no how u do it and then does what i was doing...so much bs...how does one ignore a coworker and still work along side one because u need a full time job..live in a small village

[@francineherraman7368]

I call that eye the stink eye! As there are so many around me like this. Thank you you are just awsome..

[@saviourawudzi5244]

If a narcissistic person is jealous of me, what he or she does doesn't matter, whatever they do or say doesn't define me. After all, I don't need them to be me, to love myself and set my boundaries. I'm just happy to be who I am.

[@saminasulthana8351]

Absolutely it's true...only sometimes they behave properly.. other times arguments fights.

[@southernbelle6564]

Yes! My ex husband was so jealous of me. I couldn’t understand why. I was his wife, and thought we were doing life together, but as soon as we got married it was as if he and I were in the ocean and he had his foot on top of my head to keep me under water. Strange phenomenon.

[@Sam-pl3yd]

Hia Rebecca 💕yes they try to put you down and bully.🙏❤️

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

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[@lynnschaeferle-zh4go]

I never imagined a man would be jealous of his wife. He has all the opportunities and control he wants and also does things that people say “he’s jealous “. I didn’t get it until I understood the core of that narcissist is still that 3 year old who looks at you feeling things he can’t. I was shocked to realize I had married a man who can’t laugh, cry, sing smile. He can frown. So I moved on

[@feliciajenkins5041]

My last job the general manager was jealous of all compliments and tips I would get from guests. We would have huddles that were nothing but gaslighting where we would always be told "if you don't like your job you can leave now" after a rant because the compliments weren't coming to them. But they're management 🤷🏾‍♀️.

[@naarah9242]

(This woman 🙋🏽‍♀️) Moved on !

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

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[@DEAN_23]

Underplay your achievements, undermine your progress and development, derail you as much as possible, yeah I know - been there, done that, got the t-shirt....

[@lisafelton2057]

So true! Mine also every time I say my kids are coming for Easter Sunday. Instant change...he sleeps downstairs throws a tantrum. I'm it's working reverse. Not a punishment.

[@lisaokoniewski1317]

My ex was a narcissist. He always made my achievements were nothing and the fact I was doing good in college was nothing. He always needed attention and if I was getting it more he would become distance and then start a fight so he can accuse me of being jealous or not making him important. Over 4 years, he broke up with me 3 times and it was as if he found a reason to do it. I didn't make enough money, my home life caused him issues since it involved him since we were dating. And he always started drama but would say he hated drama to the point he said I had too much drama and he didn't want that in his life. This last break up was due to me breaking his rules and he not only dumped me thru texting, he also blocked me.

[@user-js5dx5yy1p]

Well, this explains why those two women who used to bully me as children, all the way back in elementary, are still fixated on me today as adults. They are sad and pathetic narcissists. Whenever I run into one of them out in public, they act like they are still ten; rude comments, sneering and trying to intimidate me via staring. I suppose I should just be flattered, I live rent free in their heads but they were long ago evicted from mine.

[@codrake784]

I have a sibling who has the same trait as our father. A complete Dr Jekel & Mr Hyde. Several months ago, I handed my sibling a copy of a letter that our father wrote. The sibling had accused me for a long time for something that I had allegedly done, but had I nothing to do with, as I knew I was completely innocent. After the sibling had read the letter, the accusations have now ceased, but no apology no nothing. Recently, I started to compile a list of all the bad things that was done to me over the years, and I feel like letting the sibling know, that I know, why this has happened to me, over the years. By watching the KZbin videos on this subject, it has been tremendous and wonderful to learn about Narcissism.

[@lindac6919]

I vote for NOT letting your sib know. They will only use it as a weapon against you.

[@tsreiki]

Be very very careful before confronting a narc, they will spend their last breath to bring you down

[@bobbarker1798]

Don't bother You can't change them.

[@darintalbot1]

Thank you, Rebecca. I escaped a narcissist, and I’m doing better than ever. I love your videos. My ex was very jealous of me. She enjoyed it when I wasn’t doing quite so well. What are the things that she would say to me a lot was that she was better than me and that I didn’t deserve her even though I paid for everything did everything for her. And you want to talk about entitled? One time I was driving my car and driving her to a show and she was demanding that I buy her a piano, not asking demanding. She was borderline personality disorder, along with narcissistic personality disorder. It’s sad, because as an empath, I want so much for her to be OK and to be healthy and I know she had a horrible childhood and a horrible experience with her father. I know she wants to have a kid really bad and I used to pray that she’d have one but now I know that would be horrible for the kid to have a narcissistic mom. It’s a really sad thing narcissism because they will never get help because there’s certain they’re better than everybody. So it’s a black hole to nowhere. I’m a singer songwriter and I’ve been doing that all my life for a living and I have a really cool song coming out called the narcissist and I want to share with you when it comes out. Hopefully it can help people. God bless you and what you do

[@jamescarrington5521]

My own mother did this to me my entire life, starting in my childhood...telling all of my friends' parents vicious lies about me, so I was effectively a "loner" growing up, but it wasn't by choice. She continued into my college years with nasty, clandestine phone calls and letters to my fraternity...then when they asked me to leave, I'd be taken completely by surprise, not knowing at the time just WHO my various roommates were basing their decisions on. Eventually, she destroyed my first marriage because I kept going back, I kept allowing her back into my life. She died last May; I had gone "no contact" for the last 16 years of her miserable life; I did not attend her funeral, and I refused any part of her estate....when I finally said that I wanted NOTHING from her, I meant it....and I am A-OK with my decisions, and I will be for the rest of my life!

[@anniethompson1041]

❤️🙏

[@susanjones8489]

My narc older sister raved about what a terrific mother I was, caring for and raising the girls alone single handedly. All the while she was devaluing me, making up stories meant to create rifts between us, refusing to help in emergencies, and communicating with my X, their neglectful selfish deadbeat father. She was always jealous, and I now stand accused of horrible unspeakable events that never happened. Parental alienators are not always a parent.

[@user-xt3gh6du9r]

I’m moving on, I’m in motion with actions.

[@conniecampbell3201]

I was married very young to a narcissist... didn’t even know the word existed back in 1978. got divorced in 1986 and Stayed single 19 years and married another narcissist. Now that I finally got away from my second ex-husband, and I take care of my 95-year-old mother, I realized I married my mother twice.🤦🏼‍♀️ listening to your information videos has helped me immensely! I finally understand why I always wanted to please my mother as a child. She checks all the boxes that you just talked about. Thank you for your information messages. I ran into an old friend yesterday. And we both started comparing notes. She is divorced twice. She is the only one that I have talked to that understands the personality of narcissists. She and I both confirmed to each other that we pick the wrong men. Her dad was a narcissist as is my mom. my mom has been jealous of me all of my life. She plays down my accomplishments, and I had to almost beg her to come stay with me after I had a bilateral mastectomy. I was listening to another psychologist, and she said that narcissist hate sick people. they don’t like to be around them. My mom is exactly like that 💔 she is so negative and is getting worse as she gets older. she seems like she’s miserable all the time, and unfortunately will never be able to heal from her childhood trauma. Because she is a narcissist and she doesn’t think there is anything wrong with her.

[@marhiapeterson1718]

I am currently co-parenting with a narcissist and the most current jealousy I'm dealing with is over the fact that I am single and happy. He has recently started seeing someone, but has still been trying to convince me that our family is what he wants. I made it very clear that I don't want the same thing, set boundaries, and only speak to him about our children's needs. There is a lot of passive aggressive behavior and he will randomly bring up how I do not like his girlfriend. I do not know her. I have no issues with her. I don't even respond anymore...

[@BugsyMeadows]

About 12 years ago now, my wife showed her parents a house we were looking at buying… only to discover a few weeks later when we tried to put a deposit down - we couldn’t - because they’d put one down 😢

[@nancystewart2686]

Omg, how devastating, for so many reasons. It's truly astonishing that anyone behaves like that.

[@bettydoughtery3920]

Nailed it. Locked, and loaded. Thank you.

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

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[@arenee118]

After years of therapy, I was now doing very well. I got my Masters degree and a great job. My narcissist sister really went out of her way to show her jealousy. She would say "I don't see you as stable", "I don't see you as successful", and "Anyone can get a Masters degree. They're a dime a dozen." I tried not to take it personally, but hearing it over and over again made my blood boil from time to time.

[@deliverancefornow]

I get those kinds of people all the time. I think sometimes I have a magnet on my back for these wackos.

[@scottstangeland2878]

I had went to a tech school and got a degree in Architectural drafting and all my sister could say is I cant believe you got a degree over and over and never said she was proud, this is after my mothers 3 divorces and after my being abandoned by my mother when I was 16 and pulled my self out of poverty and almost homeless on many occasions

[@monicaperez1578]

When my friend would come over my place, she always complained how it looked as if it was her place. I ignored all, and never did anything she wanted me to do. She never had a compliment. It was very rare. When she saw that I was doing well, she downplayed it, but I always knew she was jealous.

[@Stanley-xc4yc]

Yes I've experienced narssicist jealousy. After my stint in the Army my narssicist sibling would ask questions about guns. I would try to give my opinion based on what I was taught. Then my narssicist sibling would Ad hominom attack me for attempting to answer his question. 😊

[@daiseymae6263]

This is exactly what I’m experiencing right now thank you for the video

[@trailerparkcryptoking5213]

Rebecca you did a great job on this video and laid it out so it is easy to understand and helpful to people that may not completely understand the disorder....

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

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[@l.w.5345]

I am in a divorce from one after 15 years. I knew at the beginning there was something off, but I had a stepdaughter I loved more. And I know I gave her the stability she needed. Her bio mom wasn't around, and he just put her in my care. It was bad enough that I have a restraining order even. It's super fun, but my release of emotions is crazy. It's weird I don't have to answer to him or be on guard from any possible abuse. You saying move on, they will never change. EXACTLY!

[@maryd253]

“They will take credit for something you did.” Bingo. I’ve seen this! Also my ex narcissistic best friend took the ONLY guy I was interested in High School. Married him, had two kids and then told me she never really wanted to be married or have kids. WTF?

[@buffyramm294]

Great info! I have always been too trusting. I get snagged by theses people all the time. Ready to break free from them!

[@johnbehneman1546]

GREAT VIDEO REBECCA!!! THANK YOU SO MUCH.

[@rogerp6903]

Thanks so much Rebecca,This is so true.

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[@mygisable]

.... I have moved on. Not fully, but I have moved on. Thanks Rebecca!

[@bettydoughtery3920]

Always pertinent info...

[@DawsonDave-YZF-R6]

Just move on ! Found the second Narcissist in my life ! Just moving on from last week 😎Thank You Rebecca 🤩

[@user-he6pd1nw1t]

I experienced all of what you described.

[@danielstewart8106]

My late, narc mother-in-law was a master of the put down. Unfortunately, my wife, who is not a narcissist. learned these behaviors and can't stop making snarky, condescending comments like that. I used to try to ignore them. Lately I have taken to saying "I'm so tired of that comment." I'm not sure if that is the right approach, but it seems to be working. I'd love to hear your thoughts.

[@BugsyMeadows]

My wife and I saved to afford a new car for our growing family - an entry-level base model. My father-in-law bought the same car for himself: topic spec with all the ‘bells & whistles.’

[@prashantiyoga3554]

😂 My parents would do this over vacuum cleaners, washing machines, dishwashers, dryers etc. We'd buy a new appliance, and suddenly they would need a new one. Always the next size, model, or both, up.

[@BugsyMeadows]

@@prashantiyoga3554😅 oh my goodness, so true with my in-laws on ever level: higher spec TVs; phones with more memory; even the kettle! Always unnecessary replacements just to have one 'better' than us. So sad!

[@prashantiyoga3554]

@@BugsyMeadows It was amusing at times, but as part of the bigger picture.... 🥴 Mine would also give us the things they no longer needed. Often, this was very welcome and appreciated. But I ran into trouble when I said no to a couple of items. Mum threw a tantrum, and just kept pushing and pushing for us to take her old mattress (it was still very new, she was just one-upping my brothers new girlfriends mattress 🥴) She guilted me for AGES over it. She wanted my son to have it, but he already has a beautiful, organic mattress with a latex topper. It was just going to create unnecessary work and trouble for me. She just wouldn't let it go. It was eye opening.....

[@BugsyMeadows]

@@prashantiyoga3554Wowzers! I’m wondering if your parents are my in-laws - it’s uncanny. My wife’s parents would do the same thing. And exactly like you, we accepted with appreciation - especially in the early days when we first started making a home together. We would also get given things that they didn’t want anymore but didn’t want to throw away. They’d also get cross when we binned it weeks/months later!

[@prashantiyoga3554]

​@@BugsyMeadows The shame-guilt-shame that was doled out every time I passed these things on, threw them out or they weren't taken care of to her standards 🥴 Which was always, because I'm chronically ill and barely able to even take care of myself some days 🥴 Plus, ya know, small children (thankfully not as destructive now they're teens 🤣 but those days were HARD) My ex husbands mother used to palm off her old stuff too. She pushed THE ugliest serving platter on me once, and it promptly slid out the other side of the box and smashed on the floor 🤣🤌 My then SIL laughed and laughed, her mother had been trying to make her take it for about 5 years at that stage. I used to just take the stuff from her, and swing by the op shop on the way home. She was never any the wiser, as she rarely came to our house (thankfully) I drew the line at the life size gorilla toy though 🦍😅

[@virginiabraden6849]

My modus operandi is do not defend, explain, engage or participate. Become disinterested and boring. Yawn a lot to let them know they are boring, and do not initiate a conversation. Excuse yourself after 5 min.

[@laurasmith4783]

Understand about the triangulation and projecting for sure. 👍

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[@michaeleckert5877]

Yes ,I agree with you ❤❤

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

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[@danielle1103]

They accuse you of being selfish.

[@dean8705]

My mother has done this

[@steenkristensen6351]

Thanks for your information and have a good Day 🙂👍

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

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[@nickemanouil114]

Have a sister that's mad i survived two brutal accidents, and she has to be my trustee....... I just ignore her crap and she hates she can't push me around.

[@melaniesk1586]

Thank you for explaining triangulation. My Narc mother did that this weekend.

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

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[@rachelm2041]

I agree. Just move on!

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[@user-lv5lq1nf5d]

Shadow work, do and say the opposite to pull you out of character. They go through your dwelling to find out things about you. And then force the repeat. They breadcrumb . One of my favorites. Use something your in need of, not a want, a need . They attach 20 negatives to that positive to keep harming the victim. How about gaslighting ? Use of a team to send mix directions. How about one person in charge says, no one on their phones at work. Then send in 12 that are always on their phone and management does nothing about it. They write people up for doing the right thing. Let the ones doing horrible to squeeze by. How about shadowing? Or mimicking? Those are great tactics too. Not narcissistic people. Tactics used by a control group. The group has to be controlled in order for this to work. Manipulate and lie. Narcissist are one percent of the population. They have perfored control tactics that resemble narcissistic traits but not the scientific diagnosis. It's so they can control the desired outcome. Mostly metal snd physical exhaustion . Til they collapse. Targeting people who they deem a threat or worse...someone they don't like. It also takes many to accomplish this. Teams of people group together to force w repeat. If you don't go along or catch on to what they are doing? They get rid of you.

[@ellyturner6125]

My room mate who hardly goes anywhere else other than home a home from work early ...is a narc and gets jealous when I go out and complains about one light being on ....for when I get back home at night ...he gets upset and complains about the power bill .....I pay my rent for the room when I asked for the full bill he got upset ....and said it's something else ..

[@benverasso4836]

thank *U* rebecca

[@mikehess4494]

Thank you...just move on

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[@francineherraman7368]

Omg I have had people Le like this around me I gave birth to 1! This is so disturbing for me as she has done all this to 1ns self, my very own child!

[@kittyblue8310]

I think jealous behavior in the form of passive aggressiveness is the most insidious…… it shows up like : leaving you out, ignoring your text or your call, Not talking to you at family events, telling everybody else something but not you , giving you a backhanded compliment for instance, ‘ I never expected you to be the last person to get engaged in the family….. The point is to make you feel bad in someway, but still maintain their reputation as a good person… I gave these family members so many excuses oh they must be depressed or they’re tired or they’re worried about something else, etc. etc. etc. nope, no more excuses they were just plain jealous….

[@patricepate9083]

I've moved on, please move on too!!🙏

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

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[@florapaintedstone33]

I am dealing with a Narcissistic cyber bully who is trying to put me behind bars by filing fake incidents that are lies and because she hates me. I never got the chance to show the garbage stuff she posted in the past to the judge.

[@anthonybunty9232]

After watching several videos about narcissist and how to detect one, not only my family but several people at work also. Might like to talk to you some time about it

[@williamwoody7511]

We were together 3 yrs..I didn’t know I was in competition with the “Just A Friend”…hell I didn’t know about the”Just A Friend” till a few months before she ended it with me..

[@sivam33j5]

You are helping me slowly extricate myself from a 28 year marriage,, thanks

[@lornacouper30]

I had a friend who I believe was jealous of me because I was getting closer to a guy and she had been single for years. She sabotaged me by inviting me out one time then going without me and then blaming me for it. Then she went to my love interest and made up lots of lies about me.

[@oglemedaris]

You are exactly correct!😂❤

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[@juicebox9922]

Life rolls on.

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

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[@TheeyeOftruth-yx2np]

Thank you so much for this Rebecca, You're absolutely beautiful, This was absolutely tremendous, They're jealous of your talents, They have to copy your creative mind and make your ideas their own, It's insane, Also they bring in 3 party, Trianulating, manipulating and influencing, Quiet competition, I'm wise to all of this, Peace, love, Respect to you and everyone, Thank you universe, All glory to the universe, The most high God is great 😃💚💛❤🌈🌌☘✌🕊👽😍🐉🌝🌞😘🤗🐎