Narcissists Think You Owe Them These Things

[@Psych2go]

Disclaimer: This video is designed for educational purposes and is not to be used as a diagnostic tool for narcissism, narcissistic traits, and narcissistic personality disorder. This video is not made to attack anyone who may display these signs or anyone diagnosed with NPD, but rather to understand them and bring more awareness to the topic!

[@yoshiyoshi7965]

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[@Zextranet]

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[@Zextranet]

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[@anomalostoxoths6186]

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[@barefootanimist]

If they see you're not playing their game, a narcissist will stop treating you well, and will probably turn on you. It's important to remember that narcissists only value you if they're getting something they want from you.

[@Rozannna]

100% agree

[@harryboyes2812]

You ain't just whistling Dixie

[@lidiane3291]

The problem is when your mother is the narcissistic person of your life 😪

[@nasrin_05]

Thank you for this statement. Now I realize the actual reason for my breakup :)

[@Random_aroace]

@@lidiane3291 it’s my dad and I can’t move out. 🥲

[@katrinkasanfranciscobayare7364]

"The loneliest people are the kindest, the saddest people smile the brightest, and the most damaged people are the wisest. All because they don't wish to see others suffer like they do" ~ anonymous ~

[@itiswhatitismindset]

As a person who lives with a narcissist, this is accurate 😭

[@Psych2go]

Thanks for sharing. Did you relate to all the points?

[@Cation_bibliophile]

@@Psych2go Psych2go please make a video telling us how you started the channel (who came out with the idea/who make the videos/....) tell us about what happened beyond the screen :)

[@frenchvanilla1575]

HEY! good morning/night/day :) heres a daily reminder to smile at least once today! If that's a little hard right now then make someone else smile. I believe in you! Go slay the world today!

[@Julieann1437]

😭

[@itiswhatitismindset]

@@frenchvanilla1575 GSFGJK THANK YOU

[@Kawaii_Lannie]

"We're not saying narcissists are bad people, but narcissists are bad people".

[@dibkle]

Probably just saying that so the narctissists don't try to sue them or something.

[@thekholeefae]

It's not their fault they are like this, it's just that they seem to be unable to think or care about others (bad parenting usually is the reason)

[@Kawaii_Lannie]

@@thekholeefae narcissists still know right from wrong. If they didn't they wouldn't know that they were wronged in the past. Narcissists are abusers and manipulators. And to abuse is a choice. They choose to be that way because they go about life figuring the world owes them something because they got dealt a sh*tty hand of cards. It's not the world's problem that happened to them. It's not your problem, it's not my problem and yet we suffer at the hands of these people because they can't get their act together? And you still say they're the "victim" in all this? Do not feel sorry for people who act this way. Despite what they want you to think they actually DO know better. They simply don't care and that's the whole problem.

[@olgakim4848]

Some are down-right monsters.

[@HealingQuest777]

They’re not bad people, just wounded evil people, 😂 By the way great red flags video to listen too with such a good timing

[@OnlineLifeGuide]

A Narcissist will express all that they have done for you, but never openly express all that you have done for them...

[@sarahberlage5787]

TRUE they will tell you that you are an evil person and just wrong. They can destroy your self esteem over time with their gaslighting and manipulations. It's awful and don't expect them to give you a honest "thank you" the toxicity is sucking your soul out like a parasite

[@justimani4]

Exactly they're the literal definition of selfish

[@annsaar9335]

True

[@orkumm]

They may express that only if they perceive you are doubting that relationship and about to leave, as a way to keep controlling. Then it will be back to "all the things they do for you"

[@TKHSAWBY]

Agree

[@OnlineLifeGuide]

"How many Narcissists does it take to screw in a lightbulb? None, they don't use lightbulbs, they use Gaslighting!" - Anonymous

[@naturewitch8687]

😂😂😂😂

[@dibkle]

Lol

[@hallettaowens6828]

HILARIOUS!!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@doesmoes]

And what if they DO use lightbulbs? Still only one, it's an easy task for them seeing that the world revolves around them

[@kamicrum4408]

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[@frenchvanilla1575]

Life: confusing and harsh Pysch2go: makes sense, always there, easy to understand, caring, helpful, amazing, hard working group of animators and writers, etc. 💜

[@SisL_channel-april21]

Hmmm........ I love them so much ..... I appreciate their Work Hard work .. 💜🤍

[@Psych2go]

Thank you so much for your kind comment :) We hope this video helps. Did you relate to it?

[@frenchvanilla1575]

@Psych2Go unfortunately yes, maybe around half of the points? Does half-narcissist make sense? The worst part is it's a guardian...

[@mr.humble6214]

@@frenchvanilla1575 wow lol same xD (but i am not a narcissist)

[@sarahberlage5787]

Sooo true ✨

[@martincaballero3545]

True! No one owes us anything, we only owe it to ourselves to be better. Or nah?

[@lonewolfnergiganos4000]

Very true

[@wanderwaffles3113]

Nah you owe me a apology

[@odin9628]

The only think we owe is basic human decency

[@thephoenix2038]

@Ten too Damn, y'all dramatic af 😂

[@IshaSharma11]

True

[@nicolavanb89]

They are not capable of offering love or compassion, they will only cause chaos in your life and discard you when they get bored. You cannot fix or help them, know this is true. Please get out as soon as you can 🙏🏻🌷

[@uchiha1234Uzumaki]

A bit difficult if said narcissist is your parents. And in this pandemic, i can kiss goodbye any job opportunity and a way to leave this household. I had so many mental breakdowns thanks to them that i dont even care anymore if i leave this place or not

[@sarahberlage5787]

It is so hard.. But people like you give me the energy to go no contact with those vampires

[@youtubeaccount-yr6hb]

@@uchiha1234Uzumaki One day at a time. Don't give up! ❤

[@uchiha1234Uzumaki]

@@youtubeaccount-yr6hb thanks ❤ ill try

[@dibkle]

@@uchiha1234Uzumaki I hope things get better for you soon, in that situation myself. One day you will be free, and then hopefully life will get better for you.

[@dilrukshitennekone6624]

1:17 Your time 1:40 Your kindness 1:54 Your attention 2:11 Your companionship 2:35 Responsibility for everything 3:01 Your guilt 3:25 Your listening 3:51 Feeling indebted to them 4:21 Your freedom 4:52 You

[@sheilamatthews6975]

My mother

[@tonyrobbins1665]

The condensed list looks like this: M.E.A.T They believe you owe them: Your m.oney E.nergy A.ttention T.ime

[@gayathridd9295]

And our earned money too

[@angelmujahid2233]

They think you owe them your money. Forgot that one.

[@renar11]

Exactly. I have such a narcissist in my family. We are grown-ups and have separate lives in separate countries, but she thinks I owe her money I earn, although she is better situated than me and never helped me financially in times that were hard for me. Now she expects me to help her.

[@francesmartel7948]

@@renar11 He would demand most of my pension check (we were both paid monthly) and when I dared to question this, like “my half of the rent was $750, why am I expected to give you $1,600? Surely the utilities don’t come to $850!” But he’d throw such a heated tantrum that it wasn’t worth it! He ran up cards and gambling debts I didn’t even know about, the stupid BASTARD. I am definitely in rage mode right now!!!!

[@francesmartel7948]

@@renar11 that’s nuts! It makes me furious for you!!!!!

[@brucewatkins1624]

@@renar11 making you grow though isn't it ??

[@janetstonerook4552]

I've always paid my own way and was generous to my extended family members. But after retirement when we moved back to my old homeplace, I began realizing that some of my relatives were taking advantage of my easy going nature. I was having health issues and unwilling to continue extending myself to these narcissists and started saying no to their many requests and demands on my resources and time. When I started putting down boundaries, that's when the push back came!. Eventually, I went pretty much no contact and have stayed that way for 3 years. And since they added so little positive to my life, I must say I am much happier and wealthier without all that craziness.

[@herotchii5078]

i had a narcissist in my life, we stopped being friends because they always got mad at me for not always having enough time or patience. When we ended our friendship, they told me that it was my fault that we stopped being friends, not putting the least bit of blame on themselves. It was mentally draining to be around them…

[@bunille]

Not putting the least bit of blame on themselves is a prime hallmark of it. Especially if you've known the person for a long time and don't assume that you know 100% of them, as they could simply have been someone who doesn't admit faults in emotional situations: something many non-narcs can do, but would admit fault later on, but NOT as a hoovering tactic to bring you back, get attention, or likes, as non-narcs would apologise for the sake of apologising, not to lure you back in, although it would be nice if friendships were not lost if we're being honest. A non-narc might want to come back, but not for the sake of themselves. And they definitely will learn from their mistakes, assuming they do not have another mental illness and what mistake it was. E.g. emotional volatility might repeat but it isn't a sign of narcissism, but things like smear campaigning is, and that isn't even a possibility of any other disorder.

[@millianalove]

“Mentally draining” yes. That’s the feeling.

[@LFMA7]

We know we are with a narcissist, it he/she is far away from us, we feel much lighter and happier!

[@gionagrace6279]

That is 100 % true! God forbid we are not there when they are ringing out phone or doorbell and don't ever tell them no. I dated 2 of them and they made my life a living hell! RUN LIKE THE WIND!!!

[@medic173]

I’m glad u broke free from that anchor trying to weigh u down😄

[@DrLizListens]

The quickest way to silence a narcissist is to ask them for something. May this be a sign that you are right where you need to be. Take a deep breath. Stretch the corners of your mouth up. Smile. You are worthy. You are enough. You got this. 💗 Dr. Liz

[@DavidRamseyIII]

Doctor of baloney. If you aren’t a medical doctor then you’re basically a house cleaner

[@bunille]

@@DavidRamseyIII Can I ask you to stop?

[@crystalskiss199]

Yes

[@jonmyers8046]

My ex is a narcissist. One day I simply said "Your Jedi mind tricks have no effect on me, only money" Instant silence 😁

[@denverdubois5835]

Oh, spot on!

[@MastaChafa]

A narcissist might legitimately love you, just not as a person, but as property.

[@gionagrace6279]

Yes..absolutely as property. They think that you are theirs forever no matter what. Once the claws grip you......in their twisted mind....its for life.

[@peaceofmindofpeace1650]

Yep they use you as a tool which they can put back on a shelf and take it back when they need it.

[@leviwhite3553]

"I'm not worried about you being with anyone else because you'll always think of me" "This is only temporary, I'll be back for you when I'm ready." Mind fucks, every single word orchestrated to trap you in their bubble.

[@crystalford528]

This is soooo true! Property(keyword)

[@crystalford528]

They tend to always think or even say you can't function without them!

[@ComicalRealm]

That weird moment when your cat fits all of the things mentioned above

[@crazybot1123]

yup

[@lonewolfnergiganos4000]

Yes

[@osheridan]

*o.O*

[@OliviaKruis]

😂

[@moonpatrol9717]

Cats get a free pass. Always.

[@MC-342]

The only way to deal with a narcissist is to cut them off and ignore them. Period.👍

[@halaenahurisse7799]

Yes, narcissist people make me feel unworthy and so I distance myself from them and I think that was the right choice I can ever make for myself.

[@dibkle]

Remember, every single person has the same level of worthiness. To make someone feel less than for no good reason is always wrong.

[@okaythen5903]

I really feel like i could have a deep conversation with the people that run this channel

[@lina.alva2737]

Fr tho

[@schnitzelberry]

Same. I really wish I could though thankfully my dad's a Psychiatrist lmao Little does he know, my mental stability is non existent ahahaha

[@DrakeMyass]

I miss meaningful conversations sooo much. I don't have any one around me I can do that with. It's like feeling thirsty in a desert

[@Armz69]

To be honest even the word "Narcissist" triggers me these days.. almost feels like a mixture of pain, fear, disappointment, guilt, hopelessness and anger all together.

[@medha5019]

I understand that completely but trust me narcissistic people have a deep rooted reason for the way that they are, most of them cannot even control this behavior it's like embedded into them. They're just really pure good souls who went through something so traumatic at such a young age it changed the way their brain functions almost you could say.

[@Fileege]

@@medha5019 actually that's really cute of you but also naive to think this way. Some of them maybe are like this but in most cases they CHOOSE to be narcisstic. It's not uncontrollably, this way of thinking make them look like victims which is simply not true.

[@Psych2go]

How come?

[@Fileege]

@@Psych2go I'm not sure if you are asking A Ra a ra or me, so I'll answer and delete it if it's not me :3 Narcisstistic people acknowledge their toxic behaviours. They may not call it that but they know what they are doing wrong. This is why they can control it - try to be better and stop manipulation or do the same hoping that they will find someone who will go along with it. That's why we shouldn't call them "pure souls" or "traumatized". I'm not saying trauma cannot be the cause of narcisstic behavior. I just think we shouldn't say it in the tone that makes them look like victims. They are only "victims" of their own actions, people who are manipulated by them are true victims who don't deserve it.

[@xxxthwagdrakexxx4672]

@@Psych2go have your world emptied out by one while you watch the life and social network die off while your parents claim they "love you" and maybe youd see why. Because even if youd get revenge your way of living will never return to what it once was or couldve been

[@Fileege]

The "real fun" starts when narcissist makes you think you are the narcissist xD That's where manipulation is deeeeep~

[@dibkle]

Projecting probably.

[@nasrin_05]

Oh yes 😢

[@ravenstillwaters5195]

So true.

[@leahlauren1331]

A good way to thwart this would be too say that’s fine being a narcissist makes other peoples lives very difficult and hard to be around I completely understand that you wouldn’t want to continue the relationship. It will drive them crazy, if your so awful then why do they want to be around you?

[@ktwhimsy6946]

Ha! So true. This is how I discovered the true meaning of gaslighting... (after being accused of it myself, I had to google it, and as I was reading, my heart dropped & I realized it explained his behavior to a TEE!) - his projection of his own abusive behavior towards me is exactly what led me to discover NpD 😳

[@geminiiequinox7913]

My therapist has helped identify whom is a narassist but this video helps explain a bit more points then they have. It is pretty scary to not notice them and more that you didn't know you felt like crap with them and even after breaking away from them. Please remember that everyone is important and not the one that treats you the best(?)

[@dreamthedream8929]

Are you also a narcissist? How to deal with or treat this mental disorder?

[@xtessa1]

Number 5 is wrong. The narcissist doesn’t think you are responsible for their wrongdoings. On the contrary, they KNOW it’s their fault. They just don’t WANT to take responsibilty, cause that makes them seem vunerable and weak, because to them mistakes are for the weak. And they just feel like they are more special than others and a exception of the consequences. The narcissist throws guilt and responsibility for their mistakes onto you because they know this will harm you. The narcissists goal in the end is just to hurt you. The narcissist knows fully well what they’re doing. They don’t believe you are responsible, they know you aren’t, that’s why it’s fun for them to throw all this unnecessary guilt onto you. They aren’t some kind of “lost cause” and “they just don’t know any better”.

[@gracer5923]

My experience is they are not self aware...at all. And unfortunately think you owe them.... If they however, know, like, really know what they are putting you through .. It could be psychopathy...

[@xtessa1]

@@gracer5923 my narcissistic parents know what they do. Because they sometimes laugh out loud doing it.

[@gracer5923]

@@xtessa1 I hear you... And I'm so sorry. Thank you. I'm never ready to be out of alternative explanations... Excuses.. Maybe that's why it's my hope, that they're not self aware... Truth wake me up..

[@xtessa1]

@@gracer5923 i wasn’t hurt by what you said. Don’t worry ❤️

[@gracer5923]

@@xtessa1 so kind... I'm learning... Quite snail-paced, about these issues. Hard to face it... But choosing to persevere, till I get out of a very unhealthy atmosphere.

[@daniellegotheridge6406]

This is so accurate.. and a great reminder why I left. The stress, pressure and refusal to communicate makes it impossible to have a life with them.

[@gailcrowe727]

This is what my mother did to me for 30 years, after my father left her.

[@Lizara14]

I relate.

[@VengefulPolititron]

look up enmeshment emotional incest. Brad Shore Jerry Wise

[@decapitatedfoul7135]

My mom's always saying I'm just like my dad and how he could say things that were awful but I don't know whether it's me or her I really don't know who to trust

[@VengefulPolititron]

@@decapitatedfoul7135 "Trust the Force, Luke." But actually talk to God. He can fix everything. And while you wait for that... write letters to yourself. it helps to sort your thoughts. Realize your parents... to someone else... are just random people. they are special to you, but they are just people. and everyone has problems. my mom sort of compared me to my dad too... who she hates.. (she is right.. my dad ruined alot, but her being mad at him.. hurt me also) try to find your inner child. who you were born as... before you got hurt and confused by all the crap im the world. Be honest with what you think and want. don't give them the answer they are looking for. but also.. don't be mean and rude. I forgot that part. I thought kindness was lying... but it's a choice to be polite and try to be good. learn about gut feelings. your gut connects to the brain. it knows everything. always trust it. dont trust the heart or brain. learn that intrusive thoughts are Not you. and that childhood trauma really affects everyone. and I mean everyone. get therapy if you can. if mom can't rely on dad... she leans on the son to help her with everything and to listen to her complaints. this is very bad. it's called enmeshment. look up Brad Shore. videos on this

[@gailcrowe727]

@@decapitatedfoul7135 You’re own instincts.

[@Vlad7sokruta]

Don’t apologize all the time. You’ll pull bricks out of your own house.

[@IshaSharma11]

Exactly

[@notproductiveproductions3504]

“I’m sorry you think I owe you”

[@richb1576]

I basically use a bend but don’t break method. The reeds bend when the wind blows and when the wind stops blowing the reeds stand as tall as ever. Never apologize. Never take responsibility for things that go wrong because of what they caused to happen. Never engage in arguments because even if your right your wrong. Nothing upsets them more when you refuse to engage in an argument. Silence is your friend. My go to phrase is this. I cannot control how you think. You can think whatever you want. Then disengage. Walk away. Go out for a while.

[@alexxdaye1]

WOW!!!!! Now THAT'S POWERFUL! They really play the victim well, make you think you've wronged them and will treat you like crap until they get through to you. JUST WOW!!! They can get you to apologize for giving them a compliment........THEY ARE EVIL!

[@LFMA7]

@@richb1576 thank you Rich.

[@aditibasu5906]

Love yourself..Without hurting others💜

[@dibkle]

It took me a stupidly long time to realize you could love yourself without hurting others, because of the way my parents acted, I grew up assuming that if I loved myself I was immediately a narcissist, and that was something I never wanted to be.

[@salsasweet185]

My ex was exactly like this... Now I don't bother about him and he is confused

[@Raindeww_]

tbh same

[@somachanda6054]

My father

[@HealingQuest777]

Same here. Confused and lost God save him

[@k0k0k0]

my ex husband was like this. took me 10 years to realize it

[@lessismore8533]

Exactly! I grew up with with a younger sibling who was JUST like this! And he victimized himself when I didn’t want to be around him. He takes no accountability for his actions. Em he really thinks he’s that perfect

[@vins1979]

This video basically sums up my adolescence and youth under the constant manipulation of my elder sister, who is a narcissist and a truly awful person. It didn't help that my father was basically the same. I haven't been in contact with them for YEARS and I am managing myself better without them, but NO ONE will ever give me my adolescence and youth back. I will never forgive them. Never.

[@dibkle]

I feel you, most of my adolescent was spent in fear and the other half was spent in escaping through video games. Remember, you have the whole rest of your life ahead of you. Hopefully without the influence of narcissistic people moving forward.

[@vins1979]

@@dibkle I have the rest of my life ahead of me, but I'm not that young anymore. More than half of my life I've been fucked up and traumatized. I have lost so many things that now all I have is little crumbles...

[@LFMA7]

I hear you but forgiving is healing too. Forgiving though does not mean taking them back into your life like in the past. Narcissists are horrible to be around with. I know by experience. Hugs.

[@Elitecommando501]

@@vins1979 How old are you? I feel for you and karma always has a way to serve divine justice. All my adolescence I was mentally abused by my older cousin who is much older than me and would always break into my room to make fun of me nonstop while my single mother was at work. It crushed my self esteem so much that I rarely had relationships during High School and most of that adolescence was spent in fear or escaping through video games. I’m 23 and slowly recovering my self esteem and worth from years of abuse. My older cousin still lives with me and I haven’t talked to him in a year due to the huge amount of hatred I feel towards him(he’s 30 now and acts all friendly and mature like nothing ever happened) He will never be forgiven in this life or the next.. and may god forgive me for not being able to forgive

[@lessismore8533]

@@vins1979 I understand the disclaimer of this video but it makes no sense to say it’s not made to claim someone has narcissistic traits when I grew up with someone who did many of these things. ! I grew up with a younger sibling who was JUST like this! And he victimized himself when I didn’t want to be around him. He takes no accountability for his actions. Yah he really thinks he’s that perfect. He grew up getting little correction for ANY behavior so it makes sense. One time he kept complaining about how I never congratulated him for any achievement he did which is disagree with. But even if I never did, he gaslights me by assuming I had bad intentions if I did things he didnt understand. Like he couldn’t freaking ASK first? Sheesh. Just because I’m related to him gives him NO right ti pressure me to do things. It suck’s cuz he wouldn’t do this to one of his friends. Yes it’s natural to desire certain things from family, but He exploits family members. I do NOT owe him any compliments for things he’s done. EVERYONE in my family has accomplished things but he’s the ONLY one who feels entitled to compliments. Not only is that arrogant but it’s narcissistic. It’s unbelievable he would sink THAT low and take no accountability. It’s sucks being related to someone like this. He even pressured me by bringing up things he did for me in the past. Another low move. Now I can’t even view his past actions as kind, because he later used them to manipulate me to give him what he wanted. What a spoiled brat. I’m definitely telling my parents

[@enigmatic2878]

Everyone thinks I'm a narcissist. Of course I tried to see if I really am, and I am one. But I try my best to not be narcissist, even before they told me I'm one. As I watch this video, I can now see that some parts of the list I do possess. I feel awful. It's hard to change a nature you had from the start, but I AM trying. So Psych2Go, thank you for this video.

[@birodactyl_of_the_web]

It’s ok, it’s good that you’re making an effort to change.

[@michia.3092]

keep in mind: It's ok. The will to change something is the first right step. Whatever other people think or say: I believe in you and your good intentions.

[@lilfairycupcake]

We are all narcissistic, self centered, and greedy by nature, but it takes a human being not to be these things. Admitting that you are one is not a easy thing to do. With that said there is hope for you.

[@lilfairycupcake]

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[@LFMA7]

Enigmatic, being aware that you maybe a narcissist is a huge step away from it; like an alcoholic admitting he is one and asking for help. GOD bless.

[@saltytoshiro3685]

My mother in a nutshell. She's always expecting me to be ready to do anything she asks unless what I'm doing is something urgent like schoolwork. She always expects me to speak to her as if she's royalty and is always boasting about how good she raised me despite me only remembering my childhood being a really confusing, scary sort of void between trying to understand the world like every other toddler and young kid would and the constant fighting between her and my siblings. She also has this bs notion that I owe her money once I grow up and get a job. But then talking about jobs and moving out is taboo. She even disowned me once. Why? Because I said I want to move out once I'm 18 lol Some actual real quotes from her: "I'm your mom. I have a right to yell" "You need to respect me and part of that respect is closing the window while I'm sleeping" "Am I your mom? Go look for you mom" "If I tell you to divorce your wife, you'd do that won't you?" I don't even know how to explain this without confusing everyone who didn't have a narcissistic parent. If you know you know. Needless to say I hate the bitch. I'm sick and tired of this misconception that all sons of narcissistic mothers happen to be momma's boys. All it does is take blame away from the narc and turn the victim into a criminal. The whole thing with not being able to do stuff themselves is something found in the golden child, and only some of them actually become narcissists themselves. They can also be girls, it's not just something specific to a mother-son relationship. Feel free to talk to me if you're going through something similar struggling to move out from your narcissistic parent. I'm always open to listen.

[@rudy5865]

I can so relate to your situation. My mum flips out and does not pick up my calls for weeks but goes behind my back complaining to my uncle things I didn’t even know I have done of which according to her I have. When she calls, she waits for it to beep twice and hang up the call just to blame you for not picking her calls. It was so confusing to me in the beginning because I haven’t lived with her for the most part of my life until last year. I have left the house now cos the gaslighting was unbearable and we haven’t spoken over a month. It is terrible when the narcissist is your mum but I am happy and stronger now. My self esteem has gotten so much better after I weaned myself off her. I feel your struggle man, we shall pull through and be better than the people that brought us here in the first place.

[@beatrixbrennan1545]

My father is such a narcissist that after I gave birth to my first child, he came to the hospital and proceeded to sit in my recovery room while I'm in immense discomfort, and talk about himself for over an hour. He also insulted the name we chose for my son ( we named him after my husband) right in front of my husband!! My life's biggest moment and he managed to make it all about him! I had another son a year later and after my kids were 1 and 2 years old, he didn't even remember their names. Pathetic excuse for a father. Sad part is, I was the golden child and developed some narcissistic traits just to be more like him and gain approval. It's been fairly easy to kick those narcissistic habits because I know how damaging they are to others.

[@oldlincolnpipewelder]

Gods honest truth.. I heard my mother in law say: “My best children were always my dogs..” Wonder why my wife has problems with self esteem.. My wife is also an only child… 🫤 Narcissistic Mothers suck!!! Stay strong and set up boundaries!

[@MechExplained]

I have been in a relationship with a narc, it was more than toxic and more than that it was a hard to believe that I was gaslighted into believing that I am not worthy of anything good in life. Things never go great whether you are of the best behaviour or any. It just didn't work out

[@chandranpk4252]

I too was in such a relation, I was drained and thought of commiting suicide,but still love him, I am struggling to forget him for the past 2 years, even though he is a narcissist and broke my heart many time i am not able to hate him, psych2go please help me

[@mjrussell414]

Funny thing is my sister likes to call everyone else she has difficulty with a narcissist, but she exhibits every trait on this video list…

[@PcCAvioN]

That's one of the top tactics of a narcissist, projecting. They'll take your lunch money and then tell the teacher that you took theirs!

[@HellasGD88]

It's called projecting it's what narcs do honey

[@lilfairycupcake]

The old reversal trick. He who screams the loudest is one.

[@Jess-td5vy]

My ex narc literally told me over and over that he owned me. He cleverly only said it during intimate moments. To him I was his chattel. This type of person is the most dangerous. No contact has saved my life.

[@justuscoetzee8104]

My ex narc one day told me ‘I want to own you’. It was completely random and not even in the heat of the moment. Only did that comment strike me 2 years when nothing made sense anymore and it felt like I was in a maze of doubt and confusion. Luckily, there was one neuron holding on to reality and it took me back to that day she said that. I told her to go away. I’m proud of myself for doing that. I trust myself better these days.

[@lilfairycupcake]

No contact is the way 2 go.

[@shannondove9029]

So a narsesist is a real man?

[@shannondove9029]

KZbin keeps only erasing my comments

[@lilfairycupcake]

@@shannondove9029 fancy that.

[@tulanzuya]

Sadly I think it can all be summed up in one word - "entitlement." No matter who that narc is or what role they play in your life, they feel entitled to abuse you without a second thought.

[@oliverspiler9101]

In short: 1) They think you owe them your time, ear, kindness, guilt, freedom, attention and companionship 2) They think you're responsible for everything, and that includes the things theyve done wrong 3) They make you think you owe them something 4) They think youre their property

[@lessismore8533]

Number 3 is DEFINITELY gaslighting!

[@aimeerijnart]

As a narcissist, I do relate to these things, I like to control others and am egoistic, but because me and my family knew I am a narcissist when I was very young, they have helped me be less egoistic and more kind. Its still hard to have empathy for others and stuff..

[@mashaur.9262]

You seem like a very self-reflective and kind person to me!! Far more than me, and I am not a narcissist. I think many tend to forget that narcissism is a disorder and throw that term around like it's nothing... Wish you all the best!

[@lcozzarelli]

“This video is not designed to depict narcissists as bad people…” [proceeds to describe the most horrible character traits anyone can have]. Narcissists are the worst. Unless they are a rare subtype who have a modicum of self-awareness and want to change, I’d classify them as ‘bad’ people.

[@ponponpatapon9670]

i display many of these traits and fit the criterion for ASPD. needless to say, i'm now diligently working on myself nowadays.

[@lcozzarelli]

@@ponponpatapon9670 Awesome! You are a rarity (at least from what I can see), and the fact that you care about how other people feel means you have empathy. And I don’t say this as any kind of perfect person that also doesn’t need a ton of work on myself. I am also trying to better myself little by little. Best of luck in your endeavor!

[@natthebratster]

They're not "people" in the traditional sense.

[@lessismore8533]

@@natthebratster lol exactly

[@lessismore8533]

True! I understand the disclaimer of this video but it makes no sense to say it’s not made to claim someone has narcissistic traits when I grew up with someone who did many of these things. ! I grew up with a younger sibling who was JUST like this! And he victimized himself when I didn’t want to be around him. He takes no accountability for his actions. Yah he really thinks he’s that perfect. He grew up getting little correction for ANY behavior so it makes sense. One time he kept complaining about how I never congratulated him for any achievement he did which is disagree with. But even if I never did, he gaslights me by assuming I had bad intentions if I did things he didnt understand. Like he couldn’t freaking ASK first? Sheesh. Just because I’m related to him gives him NO right ti pressure me to do things. It suck’s cuz he wouldn’t do this to one of his friends. Yes it’s natural to desire certain things from family, but He exploits family members. I do NOT owe him any compliments for things he’s done. EVERYONE in my family has accomplished things but he’s the ONLY one who feels entitled to compliments. Not only is that arrogant but it’s narcissistic. It’s unbelievable he would sink THAT low and take no accountability. It’s sucks being related to someone like this. He even pressured me by bringing up things he did for me in the past. Another low move. Now I can’t even view his past actions as kind, because he later used them to manipulate me to give him what he wanted. What a spoiled brat. I’m definitely telling my parents

[@ВадимПоляков-т4ш]

It's sad, how much people watch this video, just for the reason, that they think - they're narcissistic themselves

[@julzberg]

That's me. I'm so afraid that i have narcissistic qualities and it scares me more and more with every video I watch on the subject.

[@annaburke8537]

@@julzberg it is something you can help. Just remember we're all worthy even if we're flawed

[@SATANFUCKSMYSOUL]

I know im not narcissistic, im kind of a floor mat for everyone haha, im just here trying to educate myself on these signs if I ever meet a narcissistic person, so that I know not to mess with them for my own good.

[@Psych2go]

Interesting thought. It could also be that they've had experience with narcissistic people or want to know the signs that they're dealing with narcissists.

[@FrostyM22]

I am a narcissist (have been recently diagnosed) and I can’t help but feel like I’m doomed to be a horrible person. It feels like everything is hopeless. I only see what we do wrong, but never how we can change.

[@makim4199]

I get this.. and I think "narcissist" is thrown around by people who honestly have no qualifications to diagnose or assess. Seems like everyone knows or has dated a narcissist 🙄 seems like if people have flaws and/or don't get along with your personality, you're a narcissist! Feels very witch hunty. Narcissistic personality disorder is just that.. a disorder.. a mental illness. People forget they're human too and mental illness stems from nature, nurture and trauma. I'm honestly kind of disappointed with this video.

[@sparkstudies1675]

I hope you're doing better honestly. You're a person too and deserve to be treated as such. The road ahead may be difficult, but what matters more than the useless negative voices shouting for your demise is your willingness to keep climbing.

[@ikazuchi-san5772]

You're already being a better person from the moment you wrote this, because you accepted this is something to be worked on and are willing to do so. Hope that from that time you've managed to improve a lot. Don't ever give up. You can do it. Might take a good while but you will become who you want to be as long as you keep putting the effort of doing so. Hope you're doing well and your progress is going great.

[@ratzdoll]

My mom is a narcissist and I believed her for 15 years. Just this year, I broke free from her grasp. I tried to make amends and have a some what relationship, but she kept making it about herself. During my time away from her, I opened myself to new intrests. I'm glad that I finally am out of there.

[@Emmawow12]

my mother does that to

[@lidiane3291]

For me till today, and I no longer live with her. I'm married and she's playing her games. I don't really know how to break free 😞

[@ratzdoll]

@@lidiane3291 For me, it was the help of my therapist and myself. She constantly hung up the phone on me, but when I do it to her she has a whole meltdown. She called me later crying and begging me why I did it, but I confronted her bc I got so mad. My sister was very proud of me, so I could see that it benefited me.

[@aelfycarcini3992]

I thought I was like that some years ago. I was free, I was with a lot of friends, job and new interests... Until my family call for help. My father was in an accident and they needed me to take care of him. I lost my job, the contact with friends and now I'm here, stucked again in the middle of a pandemic in the house of my utterly narcissistic father. Beware.

[@elishacanny8793]

same! I have been NC for 3 years.

[@yoshiyoshi7965]

Me just trying not to fall asleep to their calming voice

[@frenchvanilla1575]

sameeee

[@aiiiia9971]

I felt that ahhaa

[@varun.shenoy10]

Totally agree 😴

[@HealingQuest777]

In the begining they are like vanilla 🍦until they become trash 💩

[@w00gidy]

Thank you for reminding me I'm not the narcissist and these men trying to use me are. This channel was one of the things that got me to get out of my narcissistic relationship. I still suffer from PTSD from the time and person I lost in that relationship but I'm here now and I am grateful and proud

[@bitturuyal6850]

I was in a relationship with a narcissist only for 8 months, it's been more than a year since we broke up and i still can't get my self-esteem back. I'm scared to be in another relationship casue i'm afraid that he also gonna hurt me badly.

[@lonewolfnergiganos4000]

Good job getting out of the relationship 👍

[@jeslord718]

The most challenging relationship is the healthy one after the toxic one.

[@joyceannsolario]

8months is a lot sending you virtual support as I am going throughbthe same thing now. Almost 7 years of me lsoing myself I don't know how to pick up my pieces

[@bitturuyal6850]

@@joyceannsolario that's so sad sweetie. Breaking up with a narcissist is the hardest part and the worst part is the recovery period from their abuse. You can't understand the mental trauma they gave you untill you walk away from them and try to start a new life. i hope you get over this asap. Life is to short to be wasted over a narcissist.

[@Raindeww_]

I hope it gets better for you

[@innerpeacemeditations1613]

It’s important to also remember there is a spectrum of narcissism. Someone may have some mild traits, which can make you feel crazy because you question if it’s really a problem. Take care everyone 🙏🙏🙏💗💗💗🦋🦋🦋

[@bunille]

Uhh, every single human being is a little narcissistic. So maybe you're just blowing it out of proportion and cannot come up with a good reason that they're a narcissist, because they're actually not enough to be considered one in the first place. The ones that make you feel crazy are actually the ones with stronger traits as they know what they're doing. If you think the traits are mild, then you're only confused and feel crazy because you cannot find evidence, because they're not. As I said, every single human is a little bit narcissistic, we cannot self-diagnose anyone who we disagree with or don't have the knowledge to understand, that's toxic.

[@kateyare4708]

@@bunille This is the best of all comments on this video. Thank you for your clarity.

[@lessismore8533]

@@bunille true WeChat diagnose ppl as NPD because we are not trained experts. BUT I can confirm o have a siblings wit high narcissistic traits. Not because I “disagree “ with them dude. He literally MATCHED the things in this video

[@bunille]

@@lessismore8533 As literally everyone does. The thing is whether or not you're in denial about having some symptoms sometimes.

[@Yudentheepicboy]

My Dad is the definition of a narcissist. Sucks having to have lived with him for the past 17 years.

[@naturewitch8687]

Get out! 😣

[@Yudentheepicboy]

@@naturewitch8687 planning on it

[@squirmtastic]

@@Yudentheepicboy Yo that's literally me! I turn 18 in 17 days (on the 29th) and I'm moving out that weekend and in with my loving supporting boyfriend. Hold on, u can escape 💛

[@inshivinci2312]

Relatable. My FATHER is also a narcisisst and manipulator, he lies all the time and abuse/blackmail emotionally. Always need praisings and very selfobsessed.

[@lolipopPrincess]

Mine is too

[@dejavu2852]

I used to be a narcissist but I became friends with another and fought a lot it helped us both stop being a narcissist

[@dibkle]

How exactly does one stop being a narcissist exactly?

[@mariamontoya3318]

@@dibkle LOL I agree remember they lie so they got supply from u LOL

[@Vaguely_Existing]

Just cut out my dad from my live, cause I now realize he is a narrassict or at least demonstrates many traits. I still feel guilty, get panic attacks, and even have sucidal thoughts some days. But I know cutting him out was the best thing for me and my mental health. For anyone in this relationship please try and get out. I know first hand how hard it is, but it also has made me feel freer. I also know it's not easy to recognize it, so just don't let yourself be isolated and reach out.

[@Psych2go]

Thank you for sharing!

[@miapdx503]

I had to walk away from my aged mother. She had nothing left but acrimony and self pity and anger. I had panic attacks when I thought of seeing her. Walking away was the best thing I could do...for my mental health.

[@yokiweyy4770]

Lately I've been thinking that my so called "best friend" has some of these traits. He always demanded other to do more for him than he was willing to do for others. In the last couple years he established this "what would you do without me?" vibe, because our friend group fell apart and we were the only ones left. He always acts like he's the most important person in town that doesn't want others to make him look bad. He always expected me to do whatever he wanted, and when I couldn't, than it meant I didn't care about him and life was shit. Like that time when he wanted to go out on Saturday, but I already had other plans. He recently broke up with his girlfriend and wanted to have a bit of fun. He told me "life always shits on me. Maybe I'll find some friends one day". That really pissed me off. Last year he did one of the most absurd things I've ever seen. I went on a couple dates with this girl. After a week, the topic comes out (while he was explaining to me what I MUST wear or post on Instagram in order to pick up girls, all with this arrogant "you must do as I say, because I know everything and you know Jack shit" vibe), he gets furious, says I ruined our friendship because we're best friends, and we must tell each other everything when we go out with, or bang girls. He stopped talking to me for a month. It was all well during winter. Then he disappeared a couple of months ago. Whenever I proposed something he was always tired from work. But the other day he told me that he is hanging out with this guy that we used to hang out with years ago, without even considering to invite me. I'm starting to be tired of his shenanigans. Sorry for the wot, I didn't know how to make it shorter, and I could have said a lot more

[@lilfairycupcake]

Life does not shit on them, they shit on themselves. Personally, i would stay away from that person, TOXIC!

[@yokiweyy4770]

@@lilfairycupcake well, it's kinda hard for me to ghost so easily someone I've been close with for so many years. But I'm quite sure that I won't see our friendship in the same way again, especially after that crazy tantrum he threw about that girl I dated. I think that maybe starting his own business a couple of years ago went a little to his head

[@lilfairycupcake]

@@yokiweyy4770 Was close to mine for yrs, dropped her like a hot pancake, and never looked back.

[@lessismore8533]

I understand the disclaimer of this video but it makes no sense to say it’s not made to claim someone has narcissistic traits when I grew up with someone who did many of these things. ! I grew up with a younger sibling who was JUST like this! And he victimized himself when I didn’t want to be around him. He takes no accountability for his actions. Yah he really thinks he’s that perfect. He grew up getting little correction for ANY behavior so it makes sense. One time he kept complaining about how I never congratulated him for any achievement he did which is disagree with. But even if I never did, he gaslights me by assuming I had bad intentions if I did things he didnt understand. Like he couldn’t freaking ASK first? Sheesh. Just because I’m related to him gives him NO right ti pressure me to do things. It suck’s cuz he wouldn’t do this to one of his friends. Yes it’s natural to desire certain things from family, but He exploits family members. I do NOT owe him any compliments for things he’s done. EVERYONE in my family has accomplished things but he’s the ONLY one who feels entitled to compliments. Not only is that arrogant but it’s narcissistic. It’s unbelievable he would sink THAT low and take no accountability. It’s sucks being related to someone like this. He even pressured me by bringing up things he did for me in the past. Another low move. Now I can’t even view his past actions as kind, because he later used them to manipulate me to give him what he wanted. What a spoiled brat. I’m definitely telling my parents

[@anneneem]

"I'M TIRED OF YOUR MENTAL ABUSE" - on having a logical calm conversation with them about a minor issue in the relationship. "YOU'RE A NARCISSIST" - when you set boundaries. Watch out for those lines also.

[@hallettaowens6828]

Yes... it's the narcissist projecting onto the empath and trying to flip the script!!!

[@thekholeefae]

so true it hurts

[@scottjackson163]

Yes, the entitlement coming out. Their only rule: Never ask me to change anything that I’m doing.

[@heatherallingham7120]

Good point

[@IndianOutlaw1870]

My mother is 84 and still acts like this. You can only have a "relationship" with her if you agree to pretend she is perfect all of the time, in every way. She is suffering from dementia and severe memory loss but gets angry/enraged if you even hint that she is forgetting things. She literally raged for two weeks because I tried to help her with her nutritional deficiencies -- cracked teeth, cracked fingernails, hair loss, etc. To her, me offering her (free) nutritional supplements is an attack on her diet, which is "perfect" of course. Walking on eggshells around her is a gross understatement. The littlest things send her into protracted narcissistic rage.

[@Wizard-es7ym]

I sometimes feel like am a narcissist, but I tend to try to hide when I'm feeling bad to not bother others. I "sacrifice" myself often for the needs of my closest people without them knowing. A narcissist doesn't really fit that description, strong co-dependency would fit better, but can you make a video about how to know that you are not a narcissist? It would really help me, because i cant really find something on the internet and I sometimes consider myself to be a very bad person because of this. I'm going to heal from that trauma and be happy, without impacting others negatively, who have no fault for my situation.

[@v78981]

Your comment felt very familiar to me. I asked my therapist once if they thought I was a narcissist, and I'll never forget what they said: "If you were a narcissist, you wouldn't be worried about whether or not you are one." Apparently a lot of kids from narcissistic homes grow up and thinking they are narcissists. Some books they recommended to me that really helped: Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents The Narcissistic Family I really hope this helps!

[@ivy.27]

Sometimes trauma and depression can lead to covert narcissism. Narcissism is more like a person who needs healing and I don’t necessarily think it should be looked at as someone who just wants to hurts others. A narcissist has many insecurities and that’s why covert narcissists tend to hide away. You should also really consider narcissism if your childhood wasn’t all that great. A lot of the characteristics of a narcissist are coping methods to hide those insecurities we developed as children. That’s why narcissism is considered childish when you rationalize it. Becoming self aware is the first step to realizing you’re a narcissist, although sometimes it might not always be the case. When I finally realized I was a narcissist and that was what was wrong with me, i was finally able to be happy. I wish you well on your journey!

[@divyak745]

Yes I feel the same about myself. I always question myself "am I toxic? Am I narc?" But then I think if I am aware enough to even ask myself this question then maybe I am not. But still I am always stuck between these two thoughts of mine. My childhood trauma was hidden all these time which resurfaced back in my relationship. Now I have to heal everything. Narc aren't always bad. They just want to be seen/heard bcoz in their past they weren't able to express themselves. They need to heal themselves.

[@tRexArmXtender]

@@ivy.27 In my limited experience, narcissists that are unaware often desperately need others to give them the validation and depth of empathy that they are not capable of giving. Simply because they haven't learned how, and their coping mechanisms are focused on external supply. This can be deeply problematic for a person who has never learned that they have a right to receive unconditional love and then compensate by trying to fix the other person while suppressing their own needs. That was me btw. with my mother, and I copied the same pattern on the job, with friends and relationships. This can lead to toxic codependency where the narcissist never has to overcome his flaws and develop empathy, and the codependent never has to learn to develop healthy boundaries and live out their life like they would want to. He allows getting drained of all self-esteem and self-respect in the hope to get some inkling of true love. But as long both feed the cycle, nothing will change, and there are really no winners, in the long run, just two people going through the motions on autopilot. If this lifeway of living had a color, I would say it's gray.

[@gratituderanch9406]

Letting my narcissistic mother go was one of the hardest decisions I ever made. But the lifelong abuse has been hard. She started grooming my eldest daughter to accept her abuse too. My family doesn’t understand, especially as there’s been an epic smear campaign, and she’s rich, and charismatic. I don’t care about money. I never wanted it. All I wanted was respect. And she is unable to provide that. So we cut her off. She keeps trying. But we are healing. And my husband who was constantly set aside, disregarded, disrespected by her has grown even closer to me. He really loves me, and respects me. It’s so beautiful. This video was so true. Nail on the HEAD One of my favorite books- Boundaries by Drs Cloud and Townsend

[@monsterwithoutname9689]

That wierd moment when you realize your parents fits in all of the categories.

[@jojorey6886]

@Monster Without Name, funny, I was just thinking my children fit in all the categories.

[@AMubher]

While this could be true. Please don't be hasty to jump to conclusions without trying to understand why they are acting the way they do. Give them the benefit of the doubt. Even if they hurt you in some way, their intentions could be good. They just think they know what is better for you. On the other hand Narcissists lack sympathy and don't care for the well being of others. Whatever the problem between you and your parents, it could be caused by lack of understanding and communication, not by lack of love.

[@MastaChafa]

I seriously suspect narcissistic parents are much more common than people realize. Just look at the way they say "You are MY son!"

[@jojorey6886]

@@MastaChafa maybe parents use the phrase, “you are my son,” when son says, “bob’s parents let him have girls sleep over.” So parents might say, bob is not my son, meaning they’re not responsible for what bob does but because you are my son you will not do that. Once children leave home and are not supported by parents they can do what they want.

[@sharonjones5173]

Exactly. With you on that.

[@astxrism7919]

when the first person makes the time stamps:

[@peaceandlove0317]

Nailed it! Parent who’s a overt narcissist to immediate family. Covert to others.

[@christianpulisic7784]

Peace and Love,You are beautiful 🌹🌹🥀,hope you are not with a narc 😈!!

[@1matsg]

This is very accurate what I went threw with a narcissistic friend for 2 years. Cutting that friend off completely had freed me of the hell I went threw.

[@mayo_nnais3]

As someone with narcissistic parents ALL of these points are so relatable

[@user-nl4yn5yo4o]

So much truth to this video. When I'm on my way to visit or go to a function involving a narcissist & I'm stuck in traffic: They constantly call & say, "Where are you? Where are you??". They don't even actually care about you or want to see you. They just act like you have to answer to them & they are getting impatient. But then they show up whenever they want, no regard for anyone else's time. Then if they "help" you in some way, they act like you are nothing without them & you owe them everything for their "kindness" & "generosity".

[@1simo93521]

I'm surrounded by a lot of narcs in my family. Stepping away is hard.

[@EduFirenze]

Another one is when you tell them they're wrong or incorrect about something they quickly change the subject

[@highliving-animatedvideos5831]

1:16 - Your time 1:40 - Your kindness .. well I stopped at n.2 because time travelers have arrived and published the complete list already. Damn time travelers. 😅

[@atdh2024]

🤣

[@ghabwy9733]

I appreciate this channel. Not because I desire to seek out the narcissist and point at them but because I desire to remove any narcissistic traits that are within myself. Take care all!

[@CrudzMcKenzie]

My long history of attracting narcissists has kept me from dating for almost 7 years. I don't think I even know what a healthy romance looks like.

[@heikek2134]

Same - I've only ever had relationships with narcissists in my life, and I don't even know what to look for in order to find a healthy partner. I believe that the key to finding a healthy partner is healing, though, because the more you heal yourself, the less interesting you become for narcissists.

[@DEATHCHICKEN1337]

When a problem happens with me I always feel the need to blame someone. 😢

[@dibkle]

Sometimes I wonder how much more I could have achieved in life if I didn't have the lingering stress from my narcissistic parents constantly weighing down on my psyche. At least I am good at writing and drawing. But I wanted to do much more, I wanted to play an instrument, I wanted to learn a language I wanted to learn more about science. But i was so anxious as a teen that I basically threw learning out the window. I guess I turned my research to psychological and social topics instead but I wish I would have studied biology, astronomy and chemistry more... Oh well, I'm only 18 there's always time. But I'm so depressed now, it's hard to learn anything... I wish I wasn't depressed...

[@stardust6830]

Whatever you do… don’t give up!! Your really young, and you can definitely succeed! It takes bravery, and it also takes a lot of try’s before you can succeed. Don’t ever feel discouraged, and don’t let the voices of doubt get in your way. -always remember, if there’s a will, there’s a way. We all got to start somewhere. And lastly, always ask yourself when you are doubting yourself, “but what if I can?”

[@stmark4181]

This reminds me so much of my mother. Sometimes the TOXIC people in your life are your own family and relatives.

[@lonewolfnergiganos4000]

If your partner shows all of these signs, get out of the relationship, asap.

[@slusheewolf2143]

I wish I heard this sentence sooner. I'm out now, but not before he cheated on me... And gave me an STD (I got tested quickly after I found out he cheated).

[@Psych2go]

Agreed!

[@medha5019]

what if you love him for who he is and dont want to leave?

[@ruthiehzn]

@@medha5019 then you're signing up for a cycle of abuse that makes you feel inferior and exhausted

[@MidnhtCrzr]

The relationships of any kind of a narcissists are all for their own convenience. They don't like others for who they are, they only like the things others do for them.

[@509wildflower]

This is much more difficult with a narcissistic parent..

[@deadmoney2093]

Agreed it’s definitely way harder to no contact with yr parents. I’m so sorry..

[@lessismore8533]

Or sibling

[@0-CONCON-0]

Some people abuse me for how kind I am. They think I dont have the ability to say "no". However, when I do say no then they either end up giving me the silent treatment or attempt to use gaslighting. They also end up blame me for THEIR problems in which I had nothing to do with

[@gwendolynwehage6336]

The narcissists in my life could not stand that I moved away from them to develop other relationships outside the family. They gossiped about me in order to remove any love and companionship from family members. When I grew new relationships outside of family they were offended and gossiped worse. They wanted me to have only them and unable to have loving kind relationships. They loved to hurt me time after time without ever leaving them. They never at any time expressed sorrow over driving me away. I have no desire to ever see them again because they act the same way every time I have been with them. I am 68 years old now and love my life with my spiritual family, those who love Jesus Christ.

[@anichka101]

Oh my word......this explains my last toxic friendship so well. I was the empath, she the narcissist.

[@brenthipps3080]

This is why relationships aren't worth it. On the of chance you get one like me you'll know there's nothing worth taking that chance again.

[@dianacalzadias1064]

Absolutely. Once they lose control over you they fall apart unable to be understand why or accept it.

[@kizzy7829]

I live with a narcissist, I DONT GET A BREAK-

[@naturewitch8687]

Leave! 😣

[@Isaiahvsthegame]

I know what its like I'm trying to leave

[@freddyhat9796]

TAKE a break.

[@deadmoney2093]

Me too I’m afraid of her so I can’t really leave. Please help!

[@nosmoke247]

Especially when a group speak casually at work. A narcissist gets jealous if there not the focus.

[@MegaTrivial]

Basically, all they feel from the beginning but hide from you, they want you to feel later the same as well; like: - They are superior and entitled - They know everything, can everything about you (this they manage to convince you later by controlling you) - They are the only ones - You owe them every bit of your life - Everything is because of you what they do to you, etc...

[@L.Alchemy]

I'm not an Empath, but am Empathic, so it's good to know these things. It never occurred to me that my personality could Attract narcissists, but I did fall victim to one (who happened to be my grandmother) when I was 10...and she very Nearly succeeded in turning me against my whole family. However, one aspect of my personality (that I was unaware of until my late 20s) which seems to have provided a good Defense is that I tend to either Mirror or inspire mirroring when in the company of others. That, and I treat Everyone the same, unless they give me reason Not to...I Give What I Get & Observe - Kindness, Respect, etc. If someone treats Anyone/Everyone with disrespect, it Instantly turns me Against them...which, again, has happened. Anyway, Great Video, As Usual! Everyone could really benefit from your channel! ❤️

[@lmnop7737]

When you're the narssisist watching this because you don't ever want to be that person again...

[@mmiller401]

Ignorance and negligence seem to be running rampant in reaction to relating in narcissistic behavior

[@rachelwest9243]

This is very true. I live with one and he never apologises for anything. Everything is my fault, makes me feel bad, if I go out, even tho see my mum, he tracks my movements. Love bombs me, then I get a guilt trip if I don’t give in. X

[@lessismore8533]

I grew up with someone who did many of these things. ! I grew up with a younger sibling who was JUST like this! And he victimized himself when I didn’t want to be around him. He takes no accountability for his actions. Yah he really thinks he’s that perfect. He grew up getting little correction for ANY behavior so it makes sense. One time he kept complaining about how I never congratulated him for any achievement he did which is disagree with. But even if I never did, he gaslights me by assuming I had bad intentions if I did things he didnt understand. Like he couldn’t freaking ASK first? Sheesh. Just because I’m related to him gives him NO right ti pressure me to do things. It suck’s cuz he wouldn’t do this to one of his friends. Yes it’s natural to desire certain things from family, but He exploits family members. I do NOT owe him any compliments for things he’s done. EVERYONE in my family has accomplished things but he’s the ONLY one who feels entitled to compliments. Not only is that arrogant but it’s narcissistic. It’s unbelievable he would sink THAT low and take no accountability. It’s sucks being related to someone like this. He even pressured me by bringing up things he did for me in the past. Another low move. Now I can’t even view his past actions as kind, because he later used them to manipulate me to give him what he wanted. What a spoiled brat. I’m definitely telling my parents

[@Kikarh]

This video has perfectly described my mother. I'm 43 y/o, I have my own career, but I do fear her, her reactions (usually very aggressive) and this is becoming harder and harder each day. I'm choking...:-(

[@christianpulisic7784]

Kikarh,Your lovely smile 😊 can make the news!!

[@brdxeexe]

*reads thumbnail* “But that’s what I do because I’m to weak to stay mad at people and apologize when I did literally nothing..”

[@dibkle]

I did the same for a majority of my life, while it's good to be able to be accountable, it's also important to know when to stand up for yourself. Hope you're doing well btw.

[@LFMA7]

@@dibkle True, apologizing for nothing is enabling the other party to continue doing the awful stuff he is doing to you.

[@tuffguydoe7937]

When they try to play the victim is when I really get annoyed.

[@aa3ali4]

100% accurate from a point of view as MED student , but I feel these are the general traits of narcissists because this kind of personalities has so many dimensions that can't be calculable in couple of points ! Nice work for rising consciousness. You're always surprising me . Keep up Psych2go , I'm a big fan of you 👍

[@gerrimiller3491]

I'm finally learning to accept people whom are kind without conditions or expectations

[@hungoverpuppy3907]

I have an Ex boyfriend who has been acting VERY entitled to most of the things mentioned in the video. He also likes to gaslight me whenever I call him out on any BS on his part. I've been trying to find the perfect word to describe him, and this video just might be it.

[@TheBoots72]

Indifference is what hurts them the most. They love to be adored, they don't mind being hated. But they can't handle indifference..

[@strawburyy]

I think I used to be a narcissist like 3 years ago, probably because of my childhood trauma. I feel really bad for one of my friends that was a victim of it and I'm trying to be a better person and apologize to them.

[@yaiwouldwantyoutospitintom3698]

I'm soo proud of you, keep it up

[@bunille]

Personality Disorders are genetic. You've either had it all your life or it was something else, or you were just a jerk. Most likely the latter.

[@strawburyy]

@@bunille its possible that it is genetic, I don't want to assume. but im pretty sure narcissism can also be caused by childhood abuse or neglect if im not wrong!

[@strawburyy]

@@yaiwouldwantyoutospitintom3698 thank you!☺️

[@bunille]

@@strawburyy Personality Disorders are a little bit of both nature and nurture, but without it in nature you wouldn't develop it. As for narcissism in particular, I'm not sure, but trauma isn't something that causes it nurture-wise, spoiling and enabling is. Trauma is just something that's very likely with a narcissist because they demand a lot from their parents that their parents cannot do, and they're pretty picky and judgemental. Also, you cannot fully heal from a Personality Disorder. I'm not entirely sure about narcissism but I'd assume that you can be undiagnosed with it, but you'd still have lots of traits, even severely, but not enough for a diagnosis anymore... but that only happens after years and years of intensive therapy, it doesn't just disappear at random or after trauma.

[@kaymuldoon3575]

This video is a perfect description of my neighbor and ex friend. No contact is the only way to go with a narc.

[@birichinaxox9937]

As someone with ASD the idea of "blaming others" gets comflated in our community. ASD brains are more effected by outside stimulus and so peoples actions can have a larger effect on us. Something as simple as having the tv at a large volume can cause some of us to meltdown. And if we ask polity for the volume to be lowered often it is seen as us being controlling and then if the meltdown happens and we explain we tried to avoid it but the other person didn't listen. It gets twisted that we are shifting blame. Ppl with ASD can be narcissistic but too many of us try very hard to make others comfortable but then don't get given the same consideration.

[@fidlekid]

Anyone like me wondering: ASD = Autism Spectrum Disorder so anyone higher on the Autistic spectrum. You're welcome.

[@tulanzuya]

That lack of reciprocation when you are trying to be polite and considerate is something we all deal with:) True narcissists will always respond with anger or contempt when asked to do anything.

[@birichinaxox9937]

@@fidlekid thanks i forget the acronym isn't well known

[@aad7984]

This video describes perfectly my situation with two former friends, what they did to me. Thank god, both of them are out of my life. I have so much peace in my life now.

[@littlebrainlittleheart]

I love it channel You really don’t know but ur making all of the ppl who watch u lives better keep going we all love you ✨✨✨

[@Psych2go]

Aww thank you so much :) Did you resonate with this video?

[@littlebrainlittleheart]

@@Psych2go I don’t but still thank you

[@dianndranewman2350]

Thank you. Its spot in and I'm gonna rewatch everytime I miss him

[@ryuinu]

I haven't met a narcissist before, but I don't want to meet one ever.

[@marious9986]

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[@frenchvanilla1575]

hi! :) heres a reminder to smile today! If it's a little tough to do that then try to make someone else smile instead. go own the world!

[@yaiwouldwantyoutospitintom3698]

Yes steer clear, they're very toxic

[@enigmatic2878]

True story: When I read this comment I was about to reply with... well... a narcissist reply. So am I narcissist? Yes, yes I am. Did watching the video stop me from replying like one? Yes, yes it did.

[@frenchvanilla1575]

@@enigmatic2878 thats really good to hear :)

[@Ol_Ben]

It drives me insane how true this is, when I reflect on being betrayed.

[@TheStashBin]

my cat comes to mind, but she’s forgiven!

[@laurentstorchi290]

your cat is just very independent but not manipulating you.

[@marthaharris6276]

To be fair, though, cats deserve it. I mean...lookit those lil toe beans! And the wittle nose! You have to worship the kitteh! :D

[@sarahberlage5787]

Why do the videos on this channel always fit so perfect to my life circumstances? It's honestly a little spooky 😶 I was in narcissistic abuse for years and it was just a few month ago when I could finally see the pattern. It's so exhausting.. I wish everyone who reads this a beautiful day and a successful healing Journey. Wish you all the best and stay strong everyone! ✌

[@madhuraurade6177]

Wow this is really accurate.. my bestfriend used to be so nice when I first met him... Now he's showing his true colours trying to control my life and choices... So I've been living with a narcissist without even knowing it... Thanks Psych2Go... I'm well aware of what's happening now because of you... Thanks!

[@Nephibis]

This sounds like almost everyone in my life...