Natal Mars opposite Neptune- Ego Escape

What the effect is when Mars opposes Neptune in the birth chart.
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[@eagillum]

Giving to recieve. People can see through to the motive. Giving too soon, too much. People can take advantage of them. No boundaries. Lesbians often have this opposition. Orientation that is more feminized. Neptune is feminine, Mars is masculine. They can be very attracted to beauty. Very persistent in making their desires known. May not see when they're pushing boundaries. Understand and respect boundaries. Spiritual warrior. Neptune is our spirituality. Mars is the warrior. Fighting for ideals and dreams. Funnel desires into practical applications. Evolve out of seeking pleasure, self-gratification to putting boots to the ground and marrying practical energy with intuition. Understand "the other world". Extremely adept at air and sea careers. They build self-esteem in actions and accomplishments.

[@cuzitsnecessary]

That's so hilarious. I'm a lesbian with this ascept. Not to mention my sun square moon, we have trouble dealing with the opposite sex.

[@qwertyJ94]

@@cuzitsnecessary lmao same! Lesbian with sun square moon and mars opp neptune

[@AlastorTheNPDemon]

Yep. Kill me already.

[@Pinkstars1605]

I like how you have put across your ideas'. I have this aspect in my chart, but for me it doesn't come across as lack of sexual boundaries, for me it shows up as a lack of self confidence .

[@Takanna89]

Yes this makes sense too :)

[@alexinkredible]

THIS VIDEO ANSWERED SO MANY OF MY QUESTIONS ABOUT ME. All of the confusing energies that would stop me from being fully aggressive. All of the reasons why I cant hang around guys too much.. HERE IT IS. -- I'm an Aries male, with Air aspects all over. This made so much sense!!!!

[@JewelMayberry]

+Alex Scott I am glad you found me. My 💗to you, Friend.

[@Paghmani1sher]

Alex Scott i am like u i have mars in aries square neptune then alof of other neptune aspects and sun conjunct saturn also wich gives me alot of doubt and fears all i want is to lead and dominate but i am very fearful of conflict its so humiliating i just want to kiĺl my self

[@thisis5123]

were you guys born in 1993?

[@MrFolelserr]

Alex Scott hello, I am also aries . I have this aspect , 1993 and I am a female btw so... ups

[@cellyspeaks1062]

Lunchbox McGonnickle same placement.. very complex

[@priyankachoudhury2965]

Finally an answer after years of confusion...

[@highpriestessmoon]

I have this aspect as well. This and uranus opposite my mars are the oppositions of my kite formation. It really helps hearing this because I've been trying to tap into this energy and make it work for me so I can put my grand trine gifts into motion. I have always had boundary issues. I have always been a touchy person as well and it can make closed off people feel uncomfortable, but it is just my love and affection language. I am very blunt with my feelings and what I want, doesn't help I am a sag ascendant as well. I have issues with finishing things, and escapism. I delve into video games and anime and music to escape a lot. Even drugs for awhile. I have learned I am scared of success, and I just need to put myself out of my comfort zone to grow. Thanks for sharing this.

[@donnatierney5643]

I needed to hear that. Thank you for articulating a very complex dynamic that has been a constant energy throughout my life. I am so glad you reinforced to me the rewards of mastering this aspect.

[@JewelMayberry]

+Donna Tierney My ❤️ to you.

[@mackaylachalmers4489]

This is really helpful I have this in my chart in a grand square with sun and moon, I am 66yrs of age and can see my part in this aspect and have self compassion and compassion for the people in my life who have been at the other end of it. With awareness things can change and this aspect can transform

[@eeeyooohoh]

omg.. the giving too much too early!! im lesbian and ive dealt so much with the sexual confusion/lack of boundaries from both guys and girls lol but luckily im way more self-aware of how im perceived now. i have venus conjunct jupiter in scorpio so that intensifies it lol. ive def had my share of awkward encounters cause ive unknowingly given off the wrong impression or vice-versa! this is by far one of the hardest aspects to deal with LOL. my love life is def a mess. also i agree with the other comment i feel a lack of drive/self-confidence in general too. thank you for this.

[@queerkat33]

ROTFLMFAO!!

[@916bigAl]

My prison penpal has this aspect

[@empowermentthroughpersonal2817]

very informative. I like how you associate things to real life events. thank you

[@viniciusalmeida7701]

Hi Jewel, I'm from Brazil and I wanna thank you so much because this video touch my soul.

[@JewelMayberry]

+Vinicius Schultz My 💗 to you!

[@carlinetorweihe4246]

It's very touching to read that many fellas have come forward with their experiences with this aspect. My brother has the conjunction and I estimate he has many moments where he doesn't feel very male at all. The difference to you readers is that he would NEVER admit this!! Thank you so much, Jewel, in relating the hard work and setbacks involved in getting established in the area where your true calling is. I have an active Neptune but no water in the planets or angles. I don't have this aspect, either. Nevertheless the problem of self-expression rules my life way above and beyond money, status, friendship and the usual aspirations of most. It nags at me constantly. I just can't let it drop. The perfection required is rather overwhelming but without it I have nothing.

[@cuzitsnecessary]

I'm a lesbian with this ascept. I can't even tell you how many times I go above and beyond for women in my life. Personally and professionally even. I do have trouble dealing with boundaries and those fantasies you speak about. I can't believe how spot on this is because I've wanted to know the answer.

[@andreac647]

Ok, my father has this one and the part about doing things for people but secretly expecting to be rewarded is so true, I've always been confused, he seems so altruistic but still he isn't completely and later you get the outburst from him... Also there has been a lot of weird sexual energy (yay...). In the same time he is really not idealising my mother, quite the opposite, there is this slightly narcissistic behaviour unfortunately that he displays...

[@ss-nc2dy]

I wonder if this manifests differently in men vs women. I've known a few people with this aspect and yes- the guys definitely have this issue. Sometimes even feeling like they're owed sex after taking a girl out a couple of times and blowing up later when they didn't get any even though they were a gentleman and "put in the time" whatever that means. The girls I know with this aspect genuinely do seem altruistic though. They'll pay for someone or do something nice and then move on and never bring it up again.

[@mrchoonleong]

Thank you for making this. I was waiting for it!

[@hoppergrasa]

why is this so true wow i never understood why i give so so much. and never get anything!

[@AlastorTheNPDemon]

I have so many oppositions, squares, and generally hard aspects that I just don't even give a damn anymore. Hey though, that's why the Good Lord gave us alcohol! 🍻 Yes though, I RESENT people with boundaries. I know it's BS, but I feel like I am denied everything I deserve in life. Self-esteem is never not at rock bottom. I just don't love myself anymore.

[@Marooth]

"looking so far outside of themselves to get their desires met" 😥

[@zonary1]

MY GOD ! your full of stars!!!! LOL!!! SPOT ON! and thank you for passing on those pearls from dad. :)

[@TheAstrologicalBuddhist]

I have this aspect at the point of my Kite (Mars in Gemini, trine Sun/moon Aqua, trine Pluto in Libra with Pluto and Sun/moon sextile to Neptune in Sag) Looking at the pattern which I do not know enough about I felt that the apex of the kite must be important which is the Neptune opposite, Mars. Thank you for this video it helps ALOT and I can see how it has played out in so many ways in my life especially no one ever being able to meet my ridiculous expectations that I never realize I have... I now understand this and I am working real hard on allowing giving to just be giving. I will watch this many times and keep reading on this aspect as I really believe that this opposition may be the key to unlocking my air trine. I also have a fire trine creating a Star of David which brings my Neptune in contact with Ascendant (leo) and Jupiter (Aries). Many blessing to you I am very grateful for you giving of your knowledge so freely. Namaste x

[@Lordofthefliess]

Thanks for this! I have this aspect and just now figured out how to use it. Mars in the 12th opposite Neptune in the 6th. Talk about floating through life 😂

[@MarenAltman]

would having this as well as the opposition to uranus, square to saturn, and the semi-sextile to the sun (+ the sextile to the moon & trine to pluto and jupiter) cause each aspect to be acted out situationally or would it combine them all somehow? each description seems to match me quite well, but i am unsure whether to consider it in a case-by-case basis or just altogether.

[@dopedjent6296]

See yes! I picked up on this very early and don’t give too much too soon anymore. I don’t EXPECT the same things in regard to what I give. Sometimes I give and don’t expect anything back because I did it out of kindness, especially with the people I love and care about. I felt like honesty was the best policy but some people would rather not know that you even like them at all😂 so now I just wait until someone comes onto me cause I just cannotttt and I am gay btw

[@mackaylachalmers4489]

One other thing I can say through direct experience of this, it is hidden from the one who is playing it out and like any addition it is not until one owns it that change happens I can see how it can be about sex addiction and illusion. I am so grateful to wake up to this in myself x

[@chandrayoung6178]

I have Mars in Taurus in the 8th opposite Neptune rx in Scorpio in the 2nd. I’m wondering if Neptune rx has a different effect. I’m more reluctant about sex and basically have no self confidence. I’d love to figure this out. Thank you so much for your videos, they are very informative.

[@marilynzeinel-abidin1027]

You are the best. using this video as a presentation in my Holistic Health course. Thanks again, Jewel :)

[@Deepestofoceanicblue]

Jewel, what do you make of the contraparallel aspect of Mars and Neptune? I resonate with Mars inconjunct Neptune but also Mars opposite Neptune as you've described here.

[@DevsEnd]

Spot on. Let's see..how so I say this tactfully...I once know someone like this, and it absolutely displayed itself as the lower echoes, especially romantically. (To the point where I had to press charges.) Your description makes perfect sense. Neptune (the fantasy) in the 8th manifested as a sexually/pornography addiction. He was known for having 3 girlfriends at a time. Sun + Moon in the 12th too.

[@kiradelarochefoucauld7499]

Yep.

[@IloveCamels335]

My bf has this exact opposition in his chart. And his Neptune conjuncts my ascendent and his Mars conjuncts my Venus at the same time. Will have to check his family charts too as there are many pilots on his fathers side of the family maybe it’s a generational aspect. And currently i have this aspect myself to the degree but in transit. Interesting video again, as always. Thank you 🙏🏼

[@kingheru291]

Lol I finally found out what my problem is😂😂🤦🏾‍♂️

[@Takanna89]

Hi Jewel, this is informative and so true! Thank you for this! :)

[@dilshanization]

Thank you so much Jewel. I've been trying to understand this aspect for some time now. Do you have any thoughts on mars in 1st opp Nep conjunct the DSC? Nep is also conjunct saturn in 7th and uranus in 6th. Mars opp nep/sat/uranus square to moon in 10th. I've learnt that this sort of native may suffer a lot in relationships and is very sexual. Like you say sexual boundaries can get blurred and subsequent cheating may come about. This sort of T Square kind of makes me feel that a native may struggle to maintain a long term relationship. Do you have any thoughts on this sort of aspect?

[@marimarcruznieves]

Hello! Thanks for this! One question...i don't have this aspect on my birth chart, but I having in transit. I'm having a bad time with this...very confusing. Hopes are go nowhere with something I believed...can I apply this transit or is different?

[@69brazzo]

Looking good 😍 - thanks for the interesting info!

[@glencoco3142]

I have this aspect but I'm struggling to relate to it. It might be that other aspects I have outweigh this one perhaps. I have confidence and self esteem issues that I'm working through. And I definitely day dream too much and dont spend enough time working towards concrete goals. But I dont have sexual boundary issues. I've only ever been with my husband, and I love our relationship. And If I truly respect and love someone, then I dont give to receive. I would give with no expectations. I feel this is a freeing way to live.

[@rueexxi]

do you and your husband have this aspect in synastry as well?

[@aThousand_Words]

i have a wide opposition... something like 9-10 degree orb... to the point where i'm like, oh i don't think this really matters or affects me. but then i watched this, and read more about it. blah

[@giovannamenegon6109]

Love your videos! Thank you so much, helps me a lot ! much love from Brazil

[@lionheart1232]

If you are a very direct individual set in their ways with firm values and morals then these individuals will drive you crazy, if they could channel this energy in to the arts and creativity, caring for others then perfect but unhealed and in their shadow these individuals are self destructive to themselves and others, boundaries are very weak, often low self esteem and self worth, they need guidance in life for sure.

[@Princess-cf5kx]

This was extremely helpful thank you for this analysis opposition. ✨

[@Anna-ft2mi]

I would love videos about the midheavens, if that’s possible.

[@raspberryeri]

Oh wow, this was amazing, i learnt so much about astrology from just one video. Definitely will be watching you a lot more. Do you think this aspect is softened by sun sextile moon? Thanks x

[@aminahlouise1203]

I do have a question about this....how do you make your Mars work FOR you when it's in its fall??? Like my Mars is in Cancer and already that's at a disadvantage because Mars doesn't like being in Cancer

[@aminahlouise1203]

Coming back to comment that I think I've figured it out ....with a cancer Mars, we are motivated by the moon. So looking into the cycles of the moon can be helpful

[@aminahlouise1203]

I just would like to say thank you for taking time to explain this aspect. I have a Capricorn Neptune( with a Sag ascendant surprisingly) in the first house with an Opposite​ Cancer Mars in the 7th and have been really trying to understand why my affections come on too strong or why my dreams and ambitions dont always come to fruition( I am starting to see some success; small but little baby steps I always say) and this really expains alot but would love to see a video on Uranus Opposite Mars if one hasn't been made already maybe I just overlooked it.

[@CelineCatch]

Lmao.. sometimes I just like giving especially if I feel like I can.. it makes me feel bad if I don’t idkkk 😂

[@tinalilith]

I would appreciate it if you do one on Mars conjunct Neptune and also the soft aspects (trine/sextile)... I would love to know the differences... Thank you :-)

[@RDC1804]

I have this opposition in my first house (Cancer, Mars) and right on the Descendant (extremely tight conjunction Uranus and Neptune).

[@jazzycakeup5725]

I have Venus, Mars, and Moon opposite Neptune it’s so annoying lol🙄

[@queeng1342]

I have mercury and mars conjunction opposite neptune. Its just all a big fog.

[@nayomi3242]

Thanks for the video! I have mars conjunct my ascendant ( cancer) conjunct my sun in leo both opposite neptune ( which trines moon , saturn and jupiter ) ... any thoughts? Slowly learning.

[@rosyb16]

For some reason I don't really resonate much with this description. I can't even imagine myself acting boundlessly in sex matters. Sex is something spiritual for me, I guess it's my Mars in the 12H and I really feel very happy by helping others unconditionally (I'm a PT and a teacher in my field). When I was younger, some people even took advantage of me but nowadays I really don't care if people don't appreciate my help. I try to do my part.

[@MrFolelserr]

Ró I have read other descriptions that says that sex means and spiritual experience.

[@PS-qn4oz]

My Pisces moon squares Mars and Neptune (t-square). I was always overly generous and it started backfiring on me from a young age. Later I remember packing up care packages for loved ones and crying because I honestly couldn't tell if I was going overboard or not. Asking people to help me figure out the right words, the right gift, the right way to go because I just feel like everything I do is somehow off the mark and I don't want to bother anyone. It's a serious mess but I am blessed with good friends who *get it* and help me without judgment.

[@annabosaeus896]

Thank you, I can relate so much to this! I have mercury in a t-square apex with these. I slowly, sloowly am beginning to trust my own instincts on how to get the things i want. Learning that there is no right or wrong way to say things, in my case with mercury, just as long as i stand up for it and have trust that it will somehow come across. We can make moves for sure. I always write down in my calendar the day in the month that the moon opposes my mercury too, its a good tip for anyone with t squares:)

[@PS-qn4oz]

@@annabosaeus896 Thank you for your reply and that hint. Best wishes with everything!

[@plutostarr8605]

I have mars opposite Neptune n Uranus 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@JB-pj2lj]

Same

[@zozojojo4611]

@@JB-pj2lj Same born on 5 jan 1993

[@sarahk6254]

Me too

[@dopedjent6296]

Mars opposite Neptune and Venus opposite Uranus.

[@temsn4242]

Same

[@94kieshababy]

Mars 1st house , retrograde neptune in capricorn in 7th house

[@Love.Angeela]

omg i have this 😳😫😫😫😫 i am heterosexual but i love women but not really sexually. i just obsess and strongly admire beautiful women. i love men as i’m married to a man tho lol even now i’m pursuing a woman but i just want to obsess over her lol. she’s actually responding to my affections so i’m in love 😍 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@kingachrobot4478]

I have neptune transit my 10th house and opposing my moon-mars conjunction in the 4th house in virgo and i wanna die. ive been avoiding so many responsibilities i might actually get expelled from college. im not even looking for solutions here, im too defeated with this one

[@IloveCamels335]

I have the transit the other way around .. Neptune in the 4th transiting currently (whole house) opposing my natal Mars in the 10th.

[@nahlaalbaba376]

thank u dear for this video so there a lot of positive thing in this

[@pineappleapple]

You're incredible thank you for this.

[@signatureblonde5956]

Ethereal did u mean? Or earthy?

[@lisacrawford6786]

Could this also apply to natal Mars in the 12th house?

[@akenyaseymour3407]

This. This is the one. Thank you.

[@LoveEmbodiment]

So much balance to do... And I say this because I am also the one that have her natal moon opposite Venus. But my moon is also in Taurus and I think Venus rules Taurus so Venus against Venus lol. And actually my Venus placement is in the 10 house while my moon is in the 4 house.

[@PeachyKins]

Oh yeah, I can relate to this one big time. Wondering if Saturn conjunct Mars (7th) and Ketu conjunct Neptune (1st) helps curve it? Definitely guilty of manipulating my romantic relationships. Mostly, I can see now, it was with guys that have Neptune conjunct Mars, AND Venus opposing Neptune lol. I've made up stories that I know will make them jealous, but do so in a hidden way. (ex: my HS bf was a PLAYER. I found out he was checking my email, he didn't cover his tracks. He didn't know I knew, (bc he's smarter than everyone 😜) ... Immediately, I made a fake email, (for pretend guy from my pretend past...) from "his" email, I received a message that discussed "our fling" the previous summer, and how he was going to be back in town for a few days, along with some steamy made up and detailed events "he" recalled from the past. My BF actually confronted me, too. Hey, don't spy on me, lie to me, steal from me, cheat on me etc or it's on. I prefer not resorting to this, it's annoying and exhausting. I'm so tired of being taken advantage of. Really just want peace and love, but betray me and I will tear you apart like a Pitt bull before you can blink. This video was really helpful. Unfortunately, I have done this a lot. (childhood provided conditional love only...) I've even helped my friends do it, too. Also, I have never cheated, however, I find I usually will let the ex that cheated on me "discover" I cheated on him, by "accident" way after the fact when he's acting all high an mighty. One guy even cried, I felt so bad, so I told him the truth. (♋ men...) Despite he cheated on me in the most disturbing way imaginable. Most recently, ex husband, trying to manipulate custody arrangement. Legal threats, misrepresented accusations, (doesn't want to pay child support.) Screaming at me over the phone (have to record our calls) after I hung up, I sent him an "accidental" text about him... He called me out on it, too! I was like, yeah, 👌 believe that if it makes you feel better. Then he continued talking about court and making legal threats. Without even thinking I blurted out, "who do you think I was talking to?!" (he has been suspicious about me dating a cop) then I made up this whole story about "the cop that wants to date me" I left a lot to his imagination ofcourse. Don't know where that came from! It was not premeditated. But turned out to be brilliant bc now he's stopped messing with me and has been really reasonable and generous ever since. Clearly, I am justifying my behavior. Thanks to you, I am learning what I need to do internally to stop attracting jerks and stop reliving my childhood conditioning. You are a real life saver, Jewel. Thank you ☺ 💖

[@bobo9537]

I have this aspect and across my 12th(Gemini Mars)/6th(Sag Neptune) houses. I also have a Venus Cancer 1st House Square pluto Libra 5th house aspect in my chart. In other words, I am messed up when it comes to relationships. I have Nessus in the first house too close to my venus (My Venus is also my sun -moon midpoint) and I have Dejaniara smack dab on my descendant. I have my Vertex conjunct Juno and Uranus in Scorpio. I also have a trine beween pluto and mars and a VERY CLOSE trine betweenVenus and Uranus. Uranus is square my sun/saturn conjunction- Pluto and Mars are sextile my sun and Neptune is trine my sun (so that gives my chart some relief) However my moon (The ruler of my Venus)is completely unaspected-exept for a square to my MC- at 0 degrees of Gemini in the 12th house. So, I think I am screwed in the end after all.

[@PeachyKins]

Oh yeah, I can relate to this one big time. Wondering if Saturn, pluto, rahu conjunct Mars (7th) and the opposition of Ketu, moon, sun conjunct Neptune (1st) helps/hurts? Definitely guilty of manipulating my romantic relationships. Mostly, I can see now, it was with guys that have Neptune conjunct Mars, AND Venus opposing Neptune lol. I've made up stories that I know will make them jealous, but do so in a hidden way. (ex: my HS bf was a Player, liar, emotional manipulator and cheater- his Mars conjuncts closely w/ pluto & Saturn same house/sign perfectly square w/ sun, mercury and rahu) Found out he was checking my email, he didn't cover his tracks. He didn't know I knew, (bc he's smarter than everyone 😜) ... Immediately, I made a fake email, (for pretend guy from my pretend past...) from "his" email, I received a message that discussed "our fling" the previous summer, and how he was going to be back in town for a few days, along with some steamy made up and detailed events "he" recalled from the past. My BF actually confronted me, too. Hey, don't spy on me, lie to me, steal from me, cheat on me etc or it's on. I prefer not resorting to this, it's annoying and exhausting. I'm so tired of being taken advantage of. Really just want peace and love, but betray me and I will tear you apart like a Pitt bull before you can blink. This video was really helpful. Unfortunately, I have done this a lot. (childhood provided conditional love only...) I've even helped my friends do it, too. Also, I have never cheated, however, I find I usually will let the ex that cheated on me "discover" I cheated on him, by "accident" way after the fact when he's acting all high an mighty. One guy even cried, I felt so bad, so I told him the truth. (♋ men...) Despite he cheated on me in the most disturbing way imaginable. Most recently, ex husband, trying to manipulate custody arrangement. Legal threats, misrepresented accusations, (doesn't want to pay child support.) Screaming at me over the phone (have to record our calls) after I hung up, I sent him an "accidental" text about him... He called me out on it, too! I was like, yeah, 👌 believe that if it makes you feel better. Then he continued talking about court and making legal threats. Without even thinking I blurted out, "who do you think I was talking to?!" (he has been suspicious about me dating a cop) then I made up this whole story about "the cop that wants to date me" I left a lot to his imagination ofcourse. Don't know where that came from! It was not premeditated. But turned out to be brilliant bc now he's stopped messing with me and has been really reasonable and generous ever since. Clearly, I am justifying my behavior. Thanks to you, I am learning what I need to do internally to stop attracting jerks and stop reliving my childhood conditioning. You are a real life saver, Jewel. Thank you ☺ 💖

[@lynnak1508]

I have this aspect as part of a kite in my chart.

[@lynnak1508]

Neptune in the 10th, mars in the 4th,

[@hoppergrasa]

Oh my gosh, Jewel. Thank you so so much for this. This is so helpful, it makes so much sense to me now. I've always had an issue with having too much to give, a terrible sense of boundary and I didn't know why people couldn't reciprocate and it all makes sense now. I have my moon in the 12th house of Aries also so this adds more to the Mars-Neptune domination in my chart. Which can be very frustrating but after watching this, it's really inspiring me to Hone in on my Capricorn and Virgo and get to work practically. Thank You Jewel you're amazing!

[@juliamlnk4960]

🙏 Can you please make video about transits of Neptune over other planets!

[@Jackgritty28]

The spiritual warrior✔

[@user-zl7so4rp9i]

can you do mars opposite neptune in synastry

[@kgwilliams7684]

if its possible uranus in the 12 and or neptune in the 12th

[@Jay_den]

Great video

[@Topicsorare]

Thank you 🌿

[@kgwilliams7684]

also my mars is 2 degree's in cancer and neptune is 16 degree's in capricorn but i identify with this aspect.

[@aminahlouise1203]

Same. But getting that Mars in Cancer to work is so hard....

[@cellyspeaks1062]

Thank you dear ⭐️🌞

[@jojokelley2333]

pls do sun conjunct neptune 🙏🏻

[@Mezzphoenix]

Spot on

[@MsMozel]

Lol. I am, in fact, very gay.

[@oileengrace8228]

YEs! Thank you. My ex.

[@lessandra602]

🙌🙌🙌

[@nightdimonds1531]

Tru they give to receive

[@Jackgritty28]

Pleasure seeker aspect💲✔

[@glencoco3142]

Most people give to receive, whether they have this aspect or not