Never Contact a Man First

[@SheRaSeven1]

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[@imbossyprincess14]

You are going viral on tiktok, please make one !

[@shoublankasajous6156]

I literarily come across 1 minute video on tik tok . I just purchased your book. You are amazing ❤

[@asmas19]

Your self worth is worth way more than millions ladies

[@mslovely522]

Iikkk

[@Ana-pp6sn]

😊 😊😊 😊 😊 😊 😊😊 😊 😊0

[@thesummeraesthetic2045]

Approaching a man is a desperate look. Smile, make brief eye contact, use subtle sensual body gestures and if that’s not enough for him to approach you, he doesn’t want to meet you that badly. Move around him sis.❤

[@chayo4537]

How about doing absolutely nothing at all. Men are not interesting. They have no personality.

[@chayo4537]

What sensual body gestures? Bending over?

[@user-of9bx1uk3u]

👏🏽❤️

[@jmath1978]

The problem is that many women dont want to that! There is always cats ladies or dogs.

[@iihabibaii]

what if it is online and he doesn't even know I exist?

[@manalosman872]

Everytime you chase a man.. it ends up bad! Always!!

[@Coya919]

I stg

[@bigmack-oq1nt]

Now I see why the Muslims beat their women.

[@bigmack-oq1nt]

Hope you like cats.

[@Beautywithbribri]

We hope you like nursing homes. Get those diapers ready.❤​ @@bigmack-oq1nt

[@jillgarittagoatgirl-expose2759]

I have absolutely ZERO interest in a man that doesn't care..I have NEVER contacted a man first, and I never will..SHERA is on point here 💯, as always 👍

[@jmath1978]

Thats a shame! Well theres always cats!

[@veronicamoxley881]

Always on point

[@rebeccabejenaru]

If you leave, he calls. If you ignore, he calls. If you cry that you miss him....he disappears. That's so common nowadays. One person always likes the other person more. That's natural. It's NOT always going to be the man. It might be nature, and dating isn't tricks. I have no issues contacting someone. But they have to show the initiative.

[@Carmellalovespink]

@@jmath1978 found the loser 😂

[@general_electrics]

And you're successfully married, right?

[@meghanmarshall6687]

Men that don’t want to chase and think that they are the prize is playing a game!!!!!

[@athenawub]

I asked a guy for $2k when i found out he was cheating and he paid me lmao

[@dvnwifey222]

🤣🤣🤣

[@BlacKWidoW70s]

Hahahaha omg

[@bigmack-oq1nt]

Cap

[@ChelseaChance-q8t]

That’s a bargain, I promise you

[@brendavillanueva1447]

Remember ladies the moment you want to figure out how to seduce the man, you’ve already been seduced! So ladies mind yours and literally focus on you

[@simplyxenia3340]

The smartest thing I’ve read this year

[@j-tenn226]

I don’t even know how to be seductive so I don’t even bother lol.

[@collinemushaike8665]

Sprinkle sprinkle

[@Nessamoniiqueee]

I will never approach a man first, never again. Once I chase a man, it went downhill from there.

[@veekay6142]

true

[@crazystarluv]

men LOVE narcissistic emotionally and unattached women who barely give them the time of day. my guy friend was married to this woman for 10 years who was horrible in all of the ways you can think of. she was drop dead gorgeous but constantly deprived him of sex and depleted him of his resources. she was constantly cheating and lying to him and he would still take her wherever she wanted to go. she barely wanted to call him and was always busy going on girls trips and girls nights out. he gave her a ton of shopping money and paid her all bills. he finally left a couple of years ago after he got fed up for the last time with her cheating scandals but he is alwayssss venting to me about how he doesnt know what it is about her but hes still in love with her. this man is REMARRIED but his ex is living rent free in his mind. he is insane and its a crazy scenario. His current wife does all the things for him but he's always unhappy because he wishes it was his ex. just in case you want an inside scoop on the male mind its good to have male friends

[@munix9351]

This. Women are too scared to show up like this. We live in deficit nature rather than abundance nature. I can also assure you that she has tried that persona on different men, and he was the one stepped up to the plate. But women are so anxious and desperate. We don't know how to wait and pick our target. We want everyman we meet to be our target. Play the long game, ladies. Play it long. Wait it out.

[@Rose-fv2gz]

True , must play the long game

[@MrsEarth-pf4cr]

Wow! This makes me wanna change my character a little lol 🤭

[@JadeHeartLove]

Great story, pure Facts. Women chasing and serving men is a reversal. They WANT to do for women deep down! Why they are always chasing and serving! Haha

[@genovasquez8361]

heres a secret. If your not emotionally attached, you barely give us time and are difficult, We dont feel guilty when we cheat. The good thing about a girl who you see every blue moon, you can literally have 10 diffferent girls just like her, an you never lose interest because she gives you time to mess with other chicks.

[@canipleasehaveyourname]

I still remember when I started a Convo with now ex bf once, how I asked for his contacts first, how I REACHED OUT TO HIM FIRST, HOW I WAS PRACTICALLY THE MAN IN THE RELATIONSHIP AT FIRST, but when I realised my value i started to detach. Guess what. That's when he fell for me the hardest, then I dumped his ass

[@b9442]

Queen shit 👑

[@SKBSKBSKBSKBSK]

How you “dumb” a person?

[@SKBSKBSKBSKBSK]

@@b9442 Relax b

[@brendacrawford343]

Good “gurl”

[@canipleasehaveyourname]

@@SKBSKBSKBSKBSK dump bae, means '' to leave ''

[@adoreme4245]

Yall becareful i just met this handsome rich man..he has is own business snd he works for IBM . he gave me everything I wanted for 3 weeks. Wined and dined me... he paid 3 of my bills and everything. Absolutely no sex, never talked about it.. But I just felt like something was wrong... so about 4 days ago. I asked him did he have anything he wanted to tell me about himself.... he said yes. I said okay, he told me he had HIV. Yall please becareful with these high value men alot of them are can be sick.

[@desiraegrimes8259]

He told you before y’all even had sex. Why even blast that if me kept it honest with you. If anything your missing out on a possible good man for the long run because your judging. You never know how someone can catch something. Some people aren’t to lucky when it comes to mistakes. Show some humanity

[@mbloveprincedyne]

@@desiraegrimes8259 he should’ve told her before she even asked. That’s not something you keep to yourself. What if she had an open wound? HIV isn’t a joke. Be fr right now

[@desiraegrimes8259]

@@mbloveprincedyne open wound with no form of sexual contact? You sound uneducated. Baby having that is not something that’s very easy to disclose to others who are judgemental. Just look at how she just jumped to the internet with a story about how someone kept it honest. Her way of moving is why people find it hard to disclose. Of course I agree he should tell which he did but the point of it is we don’t give others grace.

[@mbloveprincedyne]

@@desiraegrimes8259 lol. Choosing not to deal with someone because they have HIV is okay. I’m not arguing with you however. Heal. Not talking to him is giving him and most importantly HERSELF grace. Be fr

[@desiraegrimes8259]

@@mbloveprincedyne never said it wasn’t but I said a mature adult wouldn’t blast someone’s business on the internet. There’s no need for me to heal when I’ve never been broken love. Hence why I show humanity to others no matter what they have. Pratice what you preaching

[@wPleasur3]

Damn this topic hits really hard. I just keep remembering how my deadbeat father would tell me that I had to call him first when I would ask him why he hadn’t reached out to me. Mind you, it was when I was a preteen and he had already separated from my mother. This dude really set me up for failure in the beginning. THANK GOD I found you Shera because I unknowingly used to be a pickme looking for male validation because of my dumbss father. 😒

[@destwho]

been going through the same thing with my father all my life, pathetic. no one in my family seems to understand my frustration and side with him. makes no sense why i should have to chase the man who created me

[@MJWife07]

So sorry that you ladies have experienced this. Unfortunately my daughter has been through the same ordeal… and the bad traits from her dad has made her wise and has taught her how to not accept foolishness and laziness from men. It’s a man’s responsibility to LEAD…as a husband, father, etc…and if he doesn’t lead than he’s weak. So grow from your experiences ladies and learn what NOT to accept from men.

[@PullthaleverKronk]

Same with my dad, it annoys me and comes across as unmanly but when he does call it’s to ask me the same 5 questions 🙄 I love him but man 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@chelseaphilice7458]

Omg is this what’s happening to me haha

[@fluermor..]

Oh my daughters “dad” always has said “it’s not my job to call it’s yours” when I said you don’t even call to see how she is. Scumbaggery at its finest.

[@tigre9271]

I have never contacted a man 1st. But not because of a power struggle. A man will pretty much accept a date from any woman if she falls in his lap. A man will make the 1st move and take the risk of rejection if he has genuine interest.

[@Westside444]

Girls just use the Law of Assumption, affirm with two affirmations every day that he is obsessed with you and loves talking to you He will come back so fast

[@incognito3599]

That's too much effort🤣If a guy is really obsessed with You, You won't have to do that. I have guy's obsessed with me, Because I simply do not give a crap about their feelings and I am mean♥️💅🏽That's all...

[@Westside444]

@@incognito3599your story is different, this was a advice for people who a struggling, it’s our reality

[@modesta6743]

@@incognito3599 your doing good sis, but for us who are healing we need to reprogramm our mind, and beliefs to get there... ❤️

[@etherealdeal1792]

Wow so simple and true. Thanks for the reminder 🥰

[@anyanavarro4114]

omg law of assumption gurlies!!but yeah having a great self-concept will have you attracting providers and rich moral men left and right.

[@srky4346]

I’m on Millionaire Match and the women are thirsty. They forgot even tho he got money he isn’t the prize.

[@Kissmy.freckles]

Girl!! I used to be on there and sooo many thirsty women in the men’s public comments…. Had me questioning myself like “dang! Should I be up in their comments too?!” THE THIRST IS VERY REAL ON THERE! 🥵

[@srky4346]

@@Kissmy.freckles omg, the men are jokes too. Zero,and I mean zero game at all. Bunch of freaking weirdos. I’m giving it another week. Not going to waste my time for another month.

[@Kissmy.freckles]

@@srky4346yess ! Absolutely I met a guy on there… we were dating for 5-6 months… and I asked him what the deal was he responded “I’m still getting yo know you”… I’m just like wow… after 6 months yet he wasn’t hesitant about not knowing me that well when it came to the bedroom… SMH.. I honestly think he was gay because he was waaaaay too interested in spending time with his fraternity brothers at his BIG age of 42… I had to cut that off!! Losers, losers… EVERYWHERE!

[@munix9351]

Yeah, it's a waste of time. Pay extra money to go to a private gym and join squash classes and group classes in the morning.. Thank me later.

[@mostbeautifulbelovedgarden]

@@srky4346trust me I’ve had two verified millionaires ask for my numbers and I see why they’re using online dating now…

[@JuliSstar5]

"A marriage proposal is not a good thing unless it comes wish a lot of money." "Run! That was almost a threat to your life"

[@kstorm9954]

I laughed but she’s absolutely right 😂

[@aqua8907]

Yes! This is why I do not like the Bumble app. I will never approach a man online or in real life.

[@incognito3599]

Yuck humble is so dusty

[@shaungarrett5291]

You better go for what you want. Or you can just sit there and wait.....

[@moonlightprincess449]

@@shaungarrett5291nah rather wait than approach a dusty man

[@Leafonthewind92]

@@shaungarrett5291why would we want a man who didn’t even want us enough to come up to us? If he was too shy then I don’t want him cause he’s weak. If he’s not that into me then he’s clearly stupid and has bad taste.

[@shaungarrett5291]

@@Leafonthewind92 you don't know the man doesn't want you. Stop making excuses. Yall keep showing why you are the most single and least married. Drop your handkerchief and go for the man you want. Men have more options because there's more females in America. If you don't put your best foot forward, other women will and do. So just sit there and wait then. Men are trying to help yall but you refuse to listen. Yall are terrible at taking directions and guidance.

[@laragun9733]

Yess that is the exact reason why i love you and i hate male “realtionship coaches”. They’re sayin a bunch of true words first and then nonsense comes out. Texting a man first is not powerful and looks very cheap.

[@SheRaSeven1]

looks desperate and sad…. you want to remain the prize.

[@Imadrinkmatea]

Stop listening to males . They have a code and their not looking out for your best interest even when they pretend to be. They are looking out for themselves and other men

[@bellota2363]

😂😂😂

[@adisa4434]

Yep! ❤ The best way to do this is to never save his number, and delete the recent calls/texts. Remove the temptation.

[@tiffanyyisrael7989]

Yeppers......I do it all the time. 😜Delete!

[@itzliz6030]

girll fr if he ever leaves me on delivered for a long time or read i just delete the whole chat. out of sight out of mind. then he texts me again bc he knows i won’t text him lol. and tbh if he don’t text me back we’ll never talk again sprinkle sprinkle ✨

[@jideca]

Never ever save his number 😂

[@meowkity1]

Especially if he says something sweet. Delete asap. Don’t linger on it

[@LL-sf3cv]

I delete if it has been a few weeks because I need to remember my lies …just incase 😂😂

[@MrByTheMile]

Reality is people do not need friends. They need mentors.

[@HP-sq2fp]

Men get sooooo angry whenever you say that the man needs to love the woman more, but when you look at long term relationships that are successful and happy (I.e. they don’t despise each other like many couples unfortunately end up) it’s rarely, if ever, a situation where the woman is the pursuer of the man. But they can’t accept that truth

[@Imadrinkmatea]

I mean but who’s verbally saying that outloud to men ? That’s women’s biggiest issue , talking too much. Stop telling them the game they have studied women for centuries. Close your mouth ( not you ) study them and take notes. Like they’ve BEEN doing

[@AA-yc9dq]

@@Imadrinkmatea thank you. Some ppl talk to much.

[@tiffanyyisrael7989]

​@@ImadrinkmateaPreach! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@Nick-zd5ni]

if you want to avoid contacting him first, delete his number

[@mimimeriem9229]

😂😂😂

[@cassielin529]

this is what i've been doing all 2023 :)

[@moonlightprincess449]

And don’t remember his number lol

[@thefeminineeye]

​@@moonlightprincess449this was the worst part for me 😢

[@greciavargas3563]

Yes ladies get their money and live your life to the fullest with no shame zero shame 💁🏻‍♀️❤️❤️

[@JadeHeartLove]

💯💯💯

[@PrettyPoshLife]

"Does he want a hard working woman or does he just want something hard?? Tell him to go find something hard" 😂😂😂 SHERA IS THE QUEEN 👸 🎉😂

[@aetherstarz]

Period. Helping us break generational curses

[@tiffanyyisrael7989]

Real ish, that's exactly how I roll and if he thinks I'm contacting him first he's a WHOLE fool. I have never been the type of woman to chase a man, unless he stole my purse. 🥴🤷🏾‍♀️

[@SuperUhohspaghettio]

Shera is the mother I’ve always wanted!

[@whimsicallady9759]

I don’t even contact my husband first unless I need something that day, I never call or text him just to “talk” or anything 😂

[@JadeHeartLove]

Same.

[@Suckafreevibes]

😂😂💯

[@becky15707]

This was me and my ex he would send me calling card and still call me . But i never called him if he doesn't call me

[@ummmkayy]

Curious, why though it's your husband ?

[@JadeHeartLove]

@@ummmkayy cause it's not a therapist/husband 😂 good luck finding one of those!! Haha

[@nephretite6301]

She's so right 100 I've never ever called a man per my mom and grandmother....I only respond, if they text, and even then, I'm always busy... they will chase, and chase, and chase... stop acting like you so need them, and they'll chase you.. you have to be unattainable

[@shaungarrett5291]

You must deal with some insecure men. Your number would be deleted fast if you show no effort.

[@Love_Meat_Tender]

How do you seem busy via text? Take hrs to respond or what?

[@tlhalefocamillamabihi]

Yes , act like you're busy , he is going to be wondering what you're up to and focusing your energy on you.

[@LL-sf3cv]

Yes and never bend your schedule for him. Keep your hobbies, sleep schedule etc …unless he is trying to send you money during that time 🩵

[@rebranding163]

Where does this lead you? Have you found marriage or happiness doing this

[@BrittinyKay]

Idk if you have a profile on TIKTOK but your videos have blow up on there and that’s how I found you 🙌🏽 I’m so grateful.

[@mariako2831]

it’s not her account, it’s someone who posts clips of her videos!💗

[@haniya_5600]

Me too😂

[@bunnybeetle1304]

This is basically a lecture. I’m taking notes.

[@bunnybeetle1304]

What if I live in a country where cashapp, paypal etc are blocked? Do I send the dude links?

[@missaok8092]

@@bunnybeetle1304ask him to take you shopping , buy you something specific you want , pay rent etc

[@Mia-sp8jc]

It is important that the man loves the woman more than she loves him. He will always be panting and faithful -- this includes husbands. Sounds wild. Use your self-worth and discipline ladies. Even Kelly Ripca says she never calls her husband first, unless it is an emergency {and he is Fine } Try it, you'll love being a desired femme woman.

[@Mia-sp8jc]

@ellen a hobby, a passion, take a class, start a book club, write an easy e-book , learn a language - let him know you have goals- translated: I will not be available at your whim [let your actions say this- don't verbalize it] a passion or goal will keep you hands off the phone.

[@b.freeman2118]

@@Mia-sp8jc you right. This is SOLID ADVICE pour into you ❤️

[@Mia-sp8jc]

@@b.freeman2118 Ty🌹

[@justlurkin]

@@ellenmellis Go ahead and listen to this advice and destroy your marriage. I bet after that you'll blame him for not being a pawn in your game.

[@ayotomiwasalau6373]

When he gets a side chick, you all will start crying

[@megallgurl]

"congratulations thats how it feels to be a man" im saving this one for future reference.

[@BreeziDeezi]

I’m still cringing at how I was in high school and college and I’m 29 😂 nothing wrong with a little refresher! I watch your vids for maintenance ❤

[@lyfesaquarium]

Heavy on the maintenance

[@queensun6059]

👸contacting him 1st is the same as saying ur desperate, which makes u the man & him the prize🎁no, nope, nah & hell nah🙅he'll use u, but you'll never💰 ever be "the one👰‍♀️.

[@genovasquez8361]

pimp game, the girl chooses the man

[@shaungarrett5291]

Contacting him first says you are interested not desperate. You females say the dumbest things.

[@_HiKai]

I once gave my number to a guy and then he said he lost it 15 mins later. I told him I guess it was important enough and walked away.

[@ItsMadMaxine]

Just read the title and said “exactly” lol. But I still see women make this mistake all the time

[@SKBSKBSKBSKBSK]

Why not? You show interest and put in small effort, imma drop big money on you. You h**s ain’t got no clue how to act.

[@AahyiSam]

I’ve done a lot of dating and relationship coaching private, intensive, group, high-end, all, etc. Every coach I’ve worked with said to contact him, to reach out first. I always felt icky but opted to ‘do what I needed to do’ to meet a provider man. Now I know better… Thank you Shera ❤️

[@genovasquez8361]

This only works with men who are invisible and not attractive. Its like when i was a teenager chasing after women over 30. Its easy because they have fewer options than girls my age. The girls my age i was with all approached me. i was only approach easy targets. ie older women. Same thing goes now that im older i approach bbws. the skinny girls i been with have all approached me. Caveat the only girls i actually loved were the women who approach me first in public. How ever i always find women to spend money on me. Older women and Young BBWS spend money on men.

[@Queen-ConsciousYa]

The mistakes are being made because their listening to desperate women with low standards and deceitful/arrogant men with ulterior motives.

[@PumaSimona]

Shera , you are one of the best psychologist I know... without theory... put right into practice. Genuine , with real outcome.

[@mashae.1066]

Thank you for mentioning the fact that a lot of the men date just to get back at their ex. Two of my exes always text me when they meet somebody new, to check in to see if I want to give them another chance before they start hanging out with someone else. And check in with me every few months while they’re in those relationships. So men are really opportunistic like that.

[@BlackberryTitties]

My ex told me that his new woman is ugly and she kinda looks like a man. He didn’t even want to show me a picture of her!! She went from being ugly to being his woman in the span of three days. I want to tell her. But it’s not my business! She’ll find out. And after he broke up with me because I refused to sleep with him he hurried up and rushed into a relationship. I’m so glad I am not his woman anymore.

[@shaungarrett5291]

​@Roller324 that actually days everything about you. He would rather be with an ugly person than you. Meaning you are ugly on the inside.

[@redpillqueen8888]

Ewww think they’re the prize

[@jt305]

​@@BlackberryTittieswhy you still in contact with your ex and talking about the women he's dating? he's using you as a free chat line 😂😂

[@acc6905]

@@jt305💯 she lowkey thought it was a flex

[@AahyiSam]

I’ve done a lot of dating and relationship coaching private, intensive, group, high-end, all, etc. Every coach I’ve worked with said to contact him, to reach out first. I always felt icky but opted to ‘do what I needed to do’ to meet a provider man. Now I know better… Thank you Shera ❤️

[@femininelogic5078]

We’re these mostly male coaches?

[@AahyiSam]

@@femininelogic5078 only 1 was male, all the (many!) others were women, well known in the US & internationally. All were coaches back in the day long before coaching became a thing & online dating was unpopular. As a black woman in Japan, I was looking to connect with men who were also foreigners. Needed to learn a lot and every Coach I worked with added value to my life. Still… I’m so grateful & glad I found Shera - perfect timing for me ❤️

[@vivianamieres]

Sound like a man advice...... that is what they want.

[@funkygymgirl]

“unless he’s in a wheelchair he better get to rolling”🤣🤣

[@anastasijabeograd3903]

😂 She made me laugh too

[@anusha2465]

Lol..I was lol in the midnight

[@MyFrankieee]

50s 😂 I love your videos I’m just so pleased I didn’t stay to long with the wrong guys they still had to be the bread winners any way !having a conversation about the men being a providers etc with my 28 yrs old son sat in the garden ! He turns round and says oh Mother your so entitled !was laughing to myself 😂thought of shera ❤

[@auroramothergoddess]

You are a genius how are you so smart????! Smart funny pretty a literal Goddess✨✨

[@MrByTheMile]

If you constantly need people around, you means that you have a codependency issues. Everyone must be peaceful in their solitude. This is coming from years of psychological study, plus undergoing my own therapy sessions and seeking advice from actual professionals.

[@asha4189]

How do you find peace in your solitude? Especially if you’re a people person

[@Coco_xoxo]

@@asha4189maybe instead of finding solitude in romantic partners, have lots out friends/acquaintances or do a lot of volunteer work. It’ll be a better environment

[@HiLifeItsMe]

@@asha4189Mindful Meditation will help you. Go into Nature Alone. No music. No people. No phone. Just peace. It will come natural🧘🏽‍♀️ It’s all Connected.

[@angelnetworkascension2039]

It's a matter of semantics. Try not to get caught up with the word,, "chase" meaning pursue. Men naturally pursue. That's not our role...to be pursuant. We can pursue our careers and goals in business while we await being pursued by the right man who is provisional. Grown men don't have any issues with being a provider.

[@CallMeQuietASMR]

This reminds me of when I made the first move to arrange a date on Valentine’s Day with a tinder match…at his HOUSE! I definitely had a fun time and it was better than spending V-day alone but I cringe so much looking back and I now know why there was no second date 😅

[@emmathompson6223]

Noooo! Don't be a pickmeisha girl! Let's level up x

[@j-tenn226]

His house? First date? Valentine’s? What did y’all do???

[@moonlightprincess449]

@@j-tenn226what you think lol

[@Datb2]

Whew chile

[@MsSjchic]

No such thing as a house date.

[@Debowale]

I come for your videos anytime I’m about to make a stupid decision ❤

[@j-tenn226]

Me too

[@naturallykisha7237]

Me too😂😂

[@Thats_Sew_Shy]

😂😂

[@evianpree9619]

Sammee

[@iaf4454]

Me too hahaha

[@JadeHeartLove]

I have three friends married to MUCH older men and they STILL work!! Figure that one out! 🤷🏼‍♀️ (I’m with a younger provider man who’s attractive and don’t work) 🤷🏼‍♀️

[@kyla6953]

That’s because those men aren’t providers bookie lmaooo

[@JadeHeartLove]

@@kyla6953 right?! It's crazy! Why are they with old men then?! 😂😂😂 There are WAY hotter men that are also Providers 🤣 (and they are not super unattractive or anything either) 🤷

[@rebeccabejenaru]

My mother is married to a Billionaire. Real Estate. She cries broke so often. She finally sent me and my lawyer some money because she about to get sued. By me. She's been with this garbage for 20 years. The cheapest, cruelest, nastiness person I've ever seen. She didn't get ISHT out of being married to him.

[@JadeHeartLove]

@@rebeccabejenaru Exactly. It's why we are saying "Provider" men not "Rich" men because there are men out there (non billionaires) who understand the devine feminine and you don't need to lift a finger.

[@j-tenn226]

I feel like Shera exudes the most energy and youthfulness and enthusiasm in this video. Plus the message is the most important out of all of her videos.

[@Care3meone]

I know you already know but girl you go viral every day on TikTok I’ve seen 4 of your videos on TikTok well over 100k views that’s crazy 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 love to see the girls supporting you! Idk how many accounts exactly but it’s definitely multiple accounts

[@ongagaden911]

I didn’t get this notification because I definitely contacted him first yesterday 😂

[@AngelKrystalStar]

I think women are hearing these messages and going to chase high earner Men but are missing the point. It doesn't matter if he HAS money it's whether he WANTS you enough to GIVE to you that matters. There is Zero point to a high income if you get none 😆 and he spends it on side chicks etc.

[@minalpuntambekar1239]

Exactly

[@gracefullyrachel6573]

Truth!! Men will spend time and money where they want

[@girlfromnextdoor_]

I’ll listening to all your vids and buying your books soon you are the truth and Im glad you’ve helped me rewrite my mindset for the better no more settling just cause he’s “handsome” but broke

[@carrieduvall4579]

I heard this in another book, you have to let them come to you. If you look at them, etc, show interest, whatever and they then do it it might be just that they are pleased that you’re interested and if it goes down the drain or whatever you basically artificially created this by not allowing him to do it. You might not be his type type but you’ll do for now and he will leave you eventually for his real type. So ladies let them come to you so you don’t get hurt or taken advantage of afterwards.

[@shaungarrett5291]

Always playing the victim. So sad. Considering women leave relationships 80% of the time, who is really doing the hurting??

[@j-tenn226]

We got hurt men in the comments

[@shaungarrett5291]

@@j-tenn226 you females just say anything. Where is someone hurt?

[@j-tenn226]

@@shaungarrett5291 you

[@Iknowgia_222]

So happy I’ve found you. You’re the female influence I always wanted. 💕

[@eleanor7242]

Thank you for your teachings, it work. This is not for everyone , but for committed ! As Shera said If you have to call or tex first , ask for a favour , help , money etc…

[@clarityandself1895]

Lmaooo her old man impression got me crying

[@Banzii_Mavuso]

😂

[@Heloise-gm5ku]

😂😂😂

[@25peyimwen]

I wished I found you when I was in my 20s because I was such a fool but we leveled up

[@143aquafina]

Y’all questions be so funny I wouldn’t even think twice 😂😂😂

[@silverplim]

I love old men they tend to be classic gentlemen, no childish shit

[@imanr8302]

fingers were itching to contact him after almost 3 months of no contact so thanku Sheraaaa for reaffirming

[@redpillqueen8888]

In all honesty, how many women would like a real relationship instead of playing games w players?? 🙋🏻‍♀️

[@j-tenn226]

Me

[@nataliamarciniak5596]

I stopped watching you for 2 weeks and lost myself again. Please don’t stop with your videos 🙏

[@lenahkn7155]

I swear, i have to watch her everyday to stay on the right path

[@cassielin529]

@@lenahkn7155 this is like my 3rd time watching this video

[@rayyanrayyan7059]

agreed, its been 2 months i listen to shera almost everyday on the way to work to maintain my self worth and smart,😂

[@Honeyiroseupfromthedead]

For me its one day, to get myself off the track.

[@chels1668]

So happy I have found your channel! You have completely changed my way of thinking with dating

[@kyumushhummedova8967]

😅😅😅😅😅😅.

[@atlfun08]

Omg…Shera is always hilarious but that old man talking about his boat…I lost it.🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@fluermor..]

I had to rewind, I laughed so hard 🤣🤣🤣

[@atlfun08]

@@fluermor.. OMG just recalled how I laughed and laughed. 🤣 Have you seen the video she did like a old dude? That will be funny anytime I see it from now till forever! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@Lyzylyzy1922]

Omggg she’s so real and smart. Lol I need to be on this level. Lol

[@TheBlessedQueen2000]

Me too 💯 ❤

[@jasmineasheri]

For real

[@padsgem3736]

2:11:11,Old Man Voice That Part! I think I laughed non stop for about 25 minutes straight. Her acting voice is on point. Shera is off the Chain wit it

[@masashi1307]

Thank you for posting SHERAA!!!! ❤❤❤Literally love you! You’ve changed my mindset and I’ve grown and learned from your videos

[@mermaid5948]

Omg I love you since you first came out and I have a topic I’d LOVE for you to discuss! I just went to a dive bar and it occurred to me how so many men from other countries first ask me what I do for a living!! Omg I know how you said that men never really asked you that and you don’t ask them unless they bring it up first. I would not say I’m unattractive so I find it appalling that it is even an important topic to talk about. 🤔 😅But get this Shira…the only ones who ask are immigrant men! No offense if anyone who is reading this is an immigrant. I am American 🇺🇸 and I notice that there are a lot of immigrants in Orange County dive bars trying to land a successful American woman. Shira…I would love to see you do a discussion about these men who are scoping out us for what they think they can get from us and what we can bring to the table. I bring nothing! Lol 😂 I told the Egyptian man last night (well first of all I am already talking to someone and wanted to ward him off anyway) but when he asked me what I did…I straight out said I’m just a teachers aide! Lol 😂 I told him I didn’t need to work before when I was married because my husband was the bread winner. Lol 😂 I told him I am very traditional and still believe that I should not work if it’s going to make me become so stressed out. Lol 😂 Anyway…I think you should forwarn women about new men who are trying to land an American and for-warn them that they are time wasters. Sprinkle Sprinke!! ✨✨✨✨✨😘

[@mermaid5948]

@@lionesslamb7049 Right?? The audacity!! I can’t stand that!! 🙌😒 Pickmeishas are SO ANNOYING too!! Perfect match!! 🤣

[@modesta6743]

That response was on point 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 lol

[@jt305]

these Estonian men flirting with me on the plane. They then ask all basic details where you from/ WHAT DO YOU DO FOR WORK? why they ask me this & how to answer to avoid !!!! ughhh 🤢🤮🤮😂

[@teacup1558]

The old man SHAKE is taking me out!😂

[@ilovereadinginspanish9424]

You: "that friend that is older and pretty just married a youngster in prison. Thoughts? Sheraseven: "girl?! No thoughts. Sprinkle, sprinkle". 😂

[@rebeccabejenaru]

That's funny 😁

[@gottaloveme90210]

This is like a podcast for me

[@RichPortQueen]

Shera you're crazy af girl you make me laugh so much. When you role play the old men you had the head shake goin and all. I'm dead! 😂😂

[@jasmineasheri]

😂😂😂❤

[@jen..93]

Queen Sprinkle, please upgrade the camera!

[@BlacKWidoW70s]

“He has to spend it’s the law “😂

[@unicorngirl1901]

My guardian angel! listen to you any free time i get

[@sherylcastro5688]

NEVERRRRRR APOROACH Ladies & compliment them. Soooooo embarasssing for us ladies if any of you does THAT!!!!!!

[@LL-sf3cv]

Only compliment his generosity ☺️

[@tarahbruno3793]

Only compliment the size of their wallet 😂

[@GoddessLaurel]

Oh Shera, your yacht guy character has me in tears 😂

[@fluermor..]

The old man with the boat imitation, fully took me outttt😂😂😂😂😭💀girl you are too much, I am crying and having an asthma attack at the same time😅

[@fabstouchcosmetics3191]

A wise woman

[@khartoniapratt2792]

Ms. Shera , You're 💯 correct. It looks desperate if a Woman does that behavior. I will NEVER contact a man FIRST. He is a make him sweat and chase.

[@PrettyPoshLife]

THE OLD MAN SHAKING TOOK ME ALLLLL THE WAY OUT 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@JadeHeartLove]

Lol you don’t need to date or marry an 80 year old tho hahaha there are many wealthy men who are younger and happy to provide

[@trapsource_goddess]

Idk I dated someone for a year and I never contacted him first, I always went on and lived my life and allowed him to contact me first every single time and it still didn’t work out, he chose another woman and he said he felt like I wasn’t interested enough. I think it’s about balance allow him to contact you first some times or most of the time but also sometimes reciprocate and contact him just don’t over do it that’s the problem women don’t know how to stop. Contact him then pull back, and take turns. BALANCE

[@kimoumy6270]

It's quite late . But I would say that maybe he just wasn't that interested or was in his feminine energy, cause we're different we don't think the same way , if he wanted he would, forget him and move on to someone who would treat you as the prize you are

[@shaungarrett5291]

​@@kimoumy6270he was in his feminine energy because she didn't reach out to him at all???? You females say the most ridiculous things and think you sound smart. He clearly was the only one putting in effort in the relationship. She can't even contact her so called man. That gets tiring doing all the work.

[@BlackberryTitties]

@@shaungarrett5291Awwww

[@shaungarrett5291]

@Bronze_GoddessBeauty Black females give the worst advice. That's why you are the most single and least married group. You make just contacting someone difficult. Yall are sad and losing so.badly, but fail to recognize.

[@shaungarrett5291]

@@BlackberryTitties have no clue what that means. But, you black females keep doing things the way you are doing. As we can see by the 80% children out of wedlock, being the most single and least married that you are doing something right.

[@peachdumpling9053]

Given how men really be out here, I think it’s more older men who aren’t married have never been able to maintain a woman properly😮‍💨

[@angelnetworkascension2039]

I agree with you.

[@alejandragamez6155]

Yup!!

[@moonmaiden4197]

Shera you have me dying this AM. 😂😂😂 thank you for all you do ❤

[@mavshorts1076]

Girrrl you are too hilarious doing the shaky old man impression - I near spit out my iced latte 😂

[@sharmarie777]

Lmao 😂😂😂 Shera I'm over here dying laughing. You give good advice but you're hilarious.

[@YoshiXO]

I knew some of these … manipulation tactics.. I’m glad for the in-depth explanation because it helps me vary my responses etc. these men been playing these horrific games for decades. It’s definitely time for us women to thrive.

[@marcellagamble6633]

Between 1999 to 2001, when I was living at home, while both of my parents were divorcing. I used to listen to Lil Kim rap songs, watch talk shows, with women and men, discussing, how to be a player, I took all those skills, and round them up all together. And played men, for money, trips, vehicle repair and more. Some were marry, and some were singles. I bet those men, on personal ads, when before it was website dating. Some I did not sleep with, and some I told them, it was too soon, need to wait, 3 to 6 months.

[@uhhoh]

Shera's old man oice about the yacht took me OUUUUT!!!!!😂😂😂😂😂

[@etherealdeal1792]

Omg girl you crack me up as you drop this wisdom. Thank you

[@MichelePearl]

So true, that’s what it feels like to be a man. 👍🏻

[@RT-fs3tt]

Wish I knew this before… oh well! I know now! I remember you said once that you can’t get ghosted if you don’t text first LOL

[@endermanbaby]

I swear u are so real 😂

[@Infamouzsori]

I have started doing this recently and I gotta say it works ! Sprinkle sprinkle 💯

[@anastasijabeograd3903]

LOVE THIS LIVE 😂❤ Shera is my inner voice 🙏🏼 who protects me from cheap men!

[@deerobbins1462]

Sprinkle sprinkle!! 😂

[@andreadudley1902]

This!!!❤😂 the old man voice!

[@misscooks601]

My aura seems to naturally give boujee. Idk why 😊 but imma take it.

[@ayeshadee3347]

SheRas old man voice at 1:10:10 has me dying 😂😂😂

[@masashi1307]

She’s so funny yet classy and elegant!😂😂

[@jboopsie]

Hilarious 😂😂😂😂😂

[@maatrael]

No but for real cause I watched it twice and teared right up both times 😂😂😂😭

[@Tionaintown876]

Omg I couldn’t breathe 😂😂😂😂

[@SB0707B]

❤❤❤❤😂😂😂😂yessss!!!

[@leandranieto-xi8tf]

Shera, I died when u said “ baby it’s time to ask for a raise “ lmao 😂😂😂😂