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[@baindumassaquoi9167]

I think both of them might have had a kind of soul tie or a blood covenant between them. . Both of them experience abuses from each other, yet both decided to stay in the abusive marriage, for reasons best known to them. This for me is virtually a case of deep evil and perhaps a ritualistic love which was definitely supposed to have a tragic ending. I pray 🙏 that Lord protect and cover those beautiful children away from all that confusion in Jesus name

[@susan8576]

Your insights as a legal practitioner are so profound. I have been around drug addicts and one of the first step in their detox journey is when they on their own agree to walk away from drugs. My mother realised that if she didn't leave her marriage when we were kids she would be dead. Today she is alive and I get to tell her "thank you for making a painful but life saving decision."

[@nneobivlog3634]

No body should blame the family, like you said I have one on my hand right now. We did everything infact just this past week, she went back to the man without telling anyone and the whole family thought she was missing.

[@preciouslove1521]

Social media has really destroyed our people in Nigeria. Where’s the shame? I was born in the 60’s and I still have shame in my decisions today. Our culture is gone😭😭

[@madinatibrahim4149]

My life was like bimbo the only difference is am not fetish...l ran for my dear life...am now in Cairo doing housemaid bcos l.dont have money..atleast am.alive for my children

[@onyinyeuche2339]

God bless your endeavours and may you find love again

[@oyinoluwayelu7846]

Sending love your way. Blessings.

[@madinatibrahim4149]

@@onyinyeuche2339 Amin...thanks for te the prayer

[@Motiv8teyou]

May God bless you and bring love your way 💟

[@bisiyahaya6142]

All bloggers should use you as a yardstick. I always watch out for your take because I know you will not only provide unbiased updates, but you will also educate. You are doing satisfactorily well 😊👌.

[@Bella-ro7tr]

God I pray my niece don't end up like this we do everything for her

[@chyokp5447]

Nez You’re elegance and brain personified. Great job . 👍

[@evelynkyeremateng3244]

I just love what you do and how you speak. I pray you sit on the supreme court of Nigeria one day. I see myself in you. The way you critically and objectively analyse these social issues from the legal perspective is fantastic.

[@stellaebikeme345]

I strongly feel that there should be a centre that teaches anger management and how women and men who suffer DV learn what to do about their situations. Religious Centres should preach against DV as well as offer therapy. In developed countries all medical people are aware of DV and are mandated to report to the Police.

[@bosslady5464]

The most Toxic relationship I've ever come across. Oh my god. May God protect us from such Toxicity.

[@bukolapopoola5574]

Yes, toxicity at it's peak!

[@nkemhurunanyaezeh7703]

This is why I don't want to comment on this issue, because most women who found themselves in this type of mess have refuseeeeed to get help when there is still time.

[@empoweredlifebyesthertv1200]

I think this case is more spiritual, blood covenant or soul tie.. Her friends advised her to go for deliverance but she didn't. A person can only leave this kind of bondage with strong prayers and fasting. Thanks Nezeville for a very enlightening video

[@queentstv]

FROM ALL INDICATIONS THEY WERE BOTH TOXIC.

[@catherinejohnson9550]

Addiction is not only to drugs and alcohol. You can also become addicted to the abuse and toxic behavior so much so that a safe and loving relationship feels abnormal. The only thing that would have stopped her was if someone killed him period.......My prayers to all who on both sides. What a tragedy. I don't care how much drugs she did she didn't deserve death because of it.

[@ashleynajrah699]

By the way when a woman sets her mind to leave...she does it without any help or even after anyone first...she just walks away...those that people try to help in most cases are still in denial after the acceptance stage....it just happens!

[@KelechiIbeleche]

The family certainly did all they could to help her. I have a family member who’s exactly in these shoes. Our family has done all they can to help her (lovingly, prayerfully, forcefully, name it) but she is not willing t to be helped. We have left it to God at the end of the day. There’s really only so much that can be done. It’s so sad. Such women are among us, our sisters , friends, neighbors. All around us!

[@r.a.n.n.asworld6834]

My dear sometimes those girls are under a spell! Those boys also go to native doctors!my cousin was like that, it was if she didn't have ears! My father bought them a house gave millions to invest in business, the guy had a strong hold on my cousin and was cheating and mistreated her because he knew my dad love us so much, that since my cousin is my dad's heart because of my late uncle, that man was playing with all our emotions. Until my great grand mother back home lost it and went to see a native Dr. They made him confess! We believe in God, but sometimes one has to go back the nature and culture to get her out of that! His plan was to kill her the following coming year because she was now a multi millionaire in dollars as an entrepreneur in America. He was lazy as hell and was just spending money on her, thank God he put a spell on her so that they won't have kids, so whenever she was pregnant she lost it! Once they separated my cousin got pregnant and she is in a very healthy marriage with twin girls! The guy is a crack addict now in rehab! So pray for her by any means possible , sometimes it's not natural love it's possession they do on a girl coming from a financially stable environment! Don't blame your sister. She might be going through hell and he is holding her hostage , threatening to leave her and forcing her to do not speak to you guys, or else he will kill both of them etc... That's what is creating the frustratiom in the woman, because he is caging her, while *HE* is having fun, so now she goes crazy, no friends, no family, but Mr is socializing and she is too ashamed of admitting that she made a mistake because she projects the judgement & criticism coming from the family and females older siblings laughing at her etc... So she thinks at that moment that she can fix it by showing anyhow that disagree with his behavior by breaking , fighting and arguing because she is just a bank account, he never wanted the kids with her so he used all her weak points to look down on her, she lost her self estime! If you truly love your sister like we did with ours, please by the grace of God do something drastic before you lose her! Take any kind of drastic measures before she kills him one day or he does! Because trust me,she might be very sad every evening crying in the bathroom! And pretending to be the happiest married woman on earth in front of the world fighting you all the time! FREE HER FROM THERE! SHE WILL THANK YOU ONE DAY! WE SAVED OUR OWN, AND SHE IS DOING GREAT! AND OURS IS A PhD holder, so it's not about education, it's about the power that these monsters have on our siblings, because it goes both ways too! Take care , I pray for you sister dear! God bless you, please don't abondon her even if she is DISRESPECTFUL, my dad was depressed because my cousin was like a mad person insulting and threatening to kill herself, it was just insane but he said one day, I know the daughter I raised this is not my baby girl! And my great grandma went ahead and did what she had to do, to free my sister! So my dear, dont GIVE UP ON HER ,IT DOESNT MATTER HOW DIFFICULT IT IS! PLEASE IN THE NAME OF GOD! 🥺 PLEASE, PEASE, PLEASE, WE ARE A VERY HAPPY FAMILY AGAIN AND WE ARE ALL MARRIED AND HAVE FUN ON SUNDAYS ON FAMILY REUNION, WHE IS BEAUTIFUL AND DOING VERY WELL! PLEASE *SAVE HER BEFORE ITS TOO LATE!* GOOD LUCK AND MAY GOD AND THE POWER OF YOUR ANCESTORS BE WITH YOU GUYS! GOD BLESS!

[@KelechiIbeleche]

@@r.a.n.n.asworld6834 Please I need to speak with you. Please let’s link up. May I have your IG handle?

[@nanalooloo806]

No extra mile to be run by the family so unfortunately it ended sadly. Bimbo is the sole architect of her life's fortune or misfortune again sadly, it is a misfortune for her. May the good Lord give the family and friends fortitude to bear their loss Amen xx

[@anthonypatrick3824]

You have no ideas how i always wait for ur analyses, am currently waiting for ur narratives about apostle Suleiman case...ooooo thanks?

[@jareya]

So true Neze, you can never force help on anyone who doesn’t want it

[@GracefulKnots]

Some women grew up in places where they saw their dads beat their mums and so no matter what you say they think it’s normal. That’s why some parents and pastors will ask “what did you do “ when informed of domestic violence against their children 😢It’s terrible

[@Preppypookiesellaamaddi]

“What did you do?” Lol it’s not funny but my goodness culture is something 😅😢

[@GracefulKnots]

@@Preppypookiesellaamaddi exactly sis exactly 😒

[@gistwithtoryteller247]

Honestly, the first step to helping victims of abuse is convincing them that they are abused and letting them accept that they can be helped. If they have not accepted that they need help, no matter what you do, they will always return to their abusers. It's really a scary situation. That is why people need to do their due diligence before engaging in relationships and marriages as well as be knowledgeable enough to know what they deserve and reject any wrong act being meted on them.

[@Thetruth-preacher]

They were both obsessively in love with each other but honestly, I don't think they were meant for each other. Both were toxic! The children will need a lot of therapy and counseling to be able to get through this ugly childhood. I really pity them and I pray they find a loving home and guardian soon. Bimbo... continue to RIP🙏🙏🙏

[@ifeomaookoli]

Keyword: Obsession.

[@ifeomaookoli]

The only one who deserves our Obsession is God alone... Obsession for a human being can destroy as we've seen. A human can't meet our deepest needs and desires, that's a space that ONLY GOD CAN FILL. God help us all 🙏🏾

[@tankozadok7432]

Your line of thought on the this matter is perfect.

[@thefoolrepellant8256]

This is what I kept saying. They were both toxic and violent. She maybe dead now but she was still just as toxic as he was. Then you factor in her mental health issues which is rumoured to be a result of the rituals she did. A woman who is willing to set the house on fire with her children in it is definitely not mentally stable. People handle things differently, the man may even be in shock.

[@tanagunda1368]

Nah bimbo was the one obsessively in love while Ivd was just a narcissist who loved the stuff he got from her, he reaped benefits when he was with her, he just used her as a means to an end

[@relaxationsounds7654]

The scale has fell off his eyes now...we are humans ..he must be regretting it now

[@patiencempirirwe5449]

I was waiting for you to give your take on this.your very well organised,audible and don't use pidgin alot so some of us non Nigerians understand well.

[@tryphineshumba1181]

I also love Naija Gist, but I can't understand the pidgin. I just subscribed bcoz this woman is very eloquent and well spoken.

[@safeinhisarms337]

There was never any real, healthy love btw the two of them. The lady was very obsessed with him, and the guy merely used her as a means to an end. So sad. I hope the young unmarried ones are learning from this.

[@catherinehogan5333]

Grooming makes abused women feel dependants to their abusers, which makes it impossible for them to accept help and support.

[@Iphie2019]

I can’t wait for your legal opinion on this matter. This matter is deep abeg.

[@eteneshtefera5093]

Thank you🙏❤️🌹 for following up. A big lesson to many trapped in toxic marriages . God bless and comfort family. Keep up the good job beautiful Neze 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽🙏 RIP 💐 Bimbo 💐

[@olukemiosameyan7938]

You can force a horse to the river, you cannot force the horse to drink water. Welldone!!!

[@100carats8]

With all that you have said, thank you. Wonderful lawyers like yourself should now be lobbying for better laws to imprison domestic violence offenders. The country of Nigeria and other countries should STOP seeing Domestic Violence as a ‘personal matter’. Victims will be more empowered to leave….

[@UcheyEzeomedo]

It's either Neze or Nezeville. Nne you are thorough.

[@Thetruth-preacher]

The family did their best to salvage her and the situation. But when you're in love and blind, believe me, not even the devil can break that love, only You can help and save yourself.

[@tinaigbinigun3231]

Wait you're a real lawyer? I didn't know ooo. I just love how you narrate your stories . Keep up great work. I'm a realtor in Atlanta, Ga if you're looking to purchase a home or investment property.

[@yemisiajayi8072]

Nice presentation ❤️👍. I'm short of words. May God Almighty help the children.

[@jennysoutlet]

May God help them all and I wish they find peace. For most people, it is hard for them to leave their abuser and it takes stronger strength for them to do so. I like the fact that you said the victim has to resolve to want help. I wonder how people go about blaming the family because if the victim doesn’t want help be rest assured that no one can help them.

[@r.a.n.n.asworld6834]

Sometimes they are under a spell! I saw another story about a lady: Imagine one going to bell her cheating husband because he cheated on her with a married woman and the husband out of rage locked both of them, and when he came out he still beats his wife, and when the family went to fetch her to bring her to the hospital, and beg her to leave the husband, Mrs crazy said its also for the worst ,marriage is not only for the best I will not leave my husband 😂 it's not funny, but those spells are not playing with their brains and hearts....! ....When the family knows that normally their daughter doesn't have that kind of behavior ,they should take drastic measures to save her or he! Because it goes both ways, sometimes men are also held hostage under spells in passionate marriages.

[@manyi2020]

Love your analysis Barrister Neze.

[@eteneshtefera5093]

I strongly believe the family had intervened. God bless Bimbo didn’t listen. I had a coworker murdered by her hubby in Kent , Washington state in broad day light. Her families repeatedly intervened for over a decade but she declined help and stayed with him. He had chronic kidney failure and the thought of her out living him was something he couldn’t handle. Many around her warned her to flee due to his frequent assault. She claimed her high school sweet heart , and father of her sons ......making excuses that it is his illness or coming to America that made him an abuser. I agree family intervention had failed in Bimbo’s case. Thank you Neze. RIP Bimbo 💐😭💐😭

[@pauline444yuveyonge2]

you are right. I believe the family did their best. She was obsessed with love for her abuser

[@adeolaajibola3419]

According to the IVD himself, he said enemies will get him if Bimbo leaves him and that he would die so according to him, he will be gotton by his enemies and he would eventually die.

[@CyAzor]

Exactly what I want to talk about.Could IVD be held responsible?

[@bluebaby5487]

Hi …new sub here been watching for a while finally subscribed 😊love your submissions and analysis

[@nnekairoegbu2360]

Most times why these women go back is because of stigma from the society and not being financially independent.

[@joylm9108]

Abeg. It’s stupidity’. We have unlimited supply of mumu people in this world. Being born with sense is lottery and hardwork from nurturing from smart parents.

[@nnekairoegbu2360]

@@joylm9108 It easy for you to say that, have you lived in Nigeria and seen the way the society frowns at divorcees particularly the women? No one says anything to men, they can be divorced fifteen times, yet no one will ever blink at them. FFK comes to mind.

[@pdm8446]

Not always. There are people that their families will tell them to come home and they will cater for them but they still decide to remain. My own sister was one of those.

[@JcaveTV]

Yes you are absolutely right the society doesn’t help matters at all, they call these women all sorts of names divorcee, single mother and all sorts of nonsense, and these people will still complain when these women die in an abusive marriage. It’s wiser for the women to leave in peace. It happened to me I spent only one year in my toxic and abusive marriage and fled with my 3 and half month daughter without even looking back went back to my fathers house thank God am alive…. Some women would stay there and have so many children before they realise they have to leave why wait that long? Omo life is precious biko…I can’t kill myself for any marriage.

[@tanagunda1368]

@@joylm9108 no it’s a mental thing, until you have been in such a situation with a manipulative man who break you down physically to emotionally to mentally, women end up gouging back because that their new normal, they prefer that rather then the unknown. They aren’t stupid

[@anonnona6433]

It's the toxicity of their relationship that is overwhelming. It was getting to a point where one of them was about to hurt the entire family!May she rest in peace. I think it's a combination of fatal attraction, devil worship and drugs 💉 🤔 🙆🏽‍♀️🙆🏽‍♀️🙆🏽‍♀️🙆🏽‍♀️🙆🏽‍♀️...what does he mean when he says enemies will get him if she had left him 🤔

[@dinydgeraldine3254]

It's really very difficult trying to help who doesn't want to be helped~ it's such a complicated situation i pray they all fine peace🕊️~ Poor children😥

[@nkemhurunanyaezeh7703]

God bless you my barrister. I can see 👀 that this pregnancy is getting there. You are now very very beautiful 😍 ❤ 💖 💕 keep up the good work.

[@ogunsakinjulianah176]

U are hundred percent correct my sister d family can't force her out of d marriage it all depends on the woman involved

[@banniemafinda4630]

My strong Iron Lady!! Come here you all for facts!!❤

[@Bella.Regina]

I feel sorry for those beautiful children… My heart 😞😣😭😭

[@valentinenkem9193]

Well done Neze, you explained why Bimbo build not be rescued . I can fully understand, because I have a sister in the same situation, who will go extra mile to protect her abuser.

[@chinwenduaniekwe8835]

It's so pathetic neze. I love the way you analyze your points and makes it easy for us to comprehend. Most importantly you are super intelligent and pretty. I enjoy watching all your videos. 💯💯💯💯

[@omaryland5039]

Two TOXIC and diabolical people where one is meant to destroy another. She choose not to help herself because of what is btw two of them (soul tie). The family is not to be blame for she choose not to help herself. LORD may my love/marriage life NEVER bring pain to me nor my loved ones IJN...AMEN.

[@mondayajabor8445]

Well said, it’s inevitable hopefully others will learn from the tragic circumstances.

[@aishaahmed4553]

Every adult have their decisions to make in their marriage. Nobody should blame her parents.

[@mamajojovegan]

Some people envy and ignorance are just out of this world. Look at my daughter for an example. From 9th grade I started following Dave Ramsey, I sat her down taught her the budget, taught her tithing from ten years old, taught her investing , mutual funds , 401k from the time she was in 9th grade. She saw me and watched me pay off 16 credit cards and all my debt , pay cash for everything . In 12 grade high school the first day her theology teacher introduced Dave Ramsey, my daughter was way above the class. She got up and taught the class. I went to pick her up from school the teacher was waiting to tell me thank you. You think that this kind of child will go to college and make poor money decisions? Be bad with money. Blow up money like she had no financial education at home? Your better stop blaming parents who did the best and raised their children right. Children have their own minds . Make their own choices. This lady parents on several occasions told her to leave, intervened. She said she was not going to raise her children as a single mother. Why are they blaming her parents. Bad society .

[@CyAzor]

Come to think ofit what would be the most likely charge that would be used against him. I seriously don't think there is going to be a charge. Will it be murder or attempted murder. There is no malice aforethought here or intention to cause death or harm that lead to her death. Will it be manslaughter? he did not set the fire so there is no negligence. What charge now will they use to prosecute him. Will they find a probable cause to prosecute him?. Well I think when it comes to the actus reus probably an omission to act when he owed the duty of care to act. Most likely but actus reus to what offence. Chai! This is a difficult one.

[@edithekeuluabia7017]

I don't think he feel any remorse. I can't understand them. Devil can't give you anything without correcting ransome in return. They dinne and wine with the 😈

[@nwankwobenedict7575]

Second here I love all your videos God bless you and your family for us.

[@Beauty_Tyna]

I just pity those kids because this is a dent on their image growing up😥😥 and they need a lot of therapy..

[@gloriaakinwande7968]

Hmmm na wa oooo May God help us and may the soul of the departed rest in peace.

[@bookybam35]

Welldone Neze

[@CyAzor]

Well they can't force an adult to do what she doesn't want to do.

[@manyicarinendashi8241]

Neze is here again Am always attentive when listening to you I wonder why they video every of theor their move Something serious was going on in that marriage

[@phenomenalyuzed]

Same thing I was thinking. Why the social media craze? Probably the only thing not made public was their s** life. That act alone reeks of severe immaturity. They were obviously not ready for marriage and parenting.

[@samplellaellaogeokeke]

Dear Neze, no matter how mean he may have acted , he must remember the good times when he's calm .

[@robertcharles7312]

Ur right they will always go back to their lover ....

[@debbiecreationandpastries]

The family tried their best but I strongly believed that both of them were into convention.Thats why she found it too difficult the leave the abusive marriage. May we or our children not be a victim to such ijn

[@debbiecreationandpastries]

Convenant I mean

[@joanoloyede1062]

if, if what. if wishes were horses beggars would ride. Nez you are so right. Her family did what they could have done. that woman was not in love with herself. Just a pity it went the wrong way.

[@onyinyeuche2339]

I don't even know what to type nor say but honestly this couple are both sick with due respect to the dead...they don't deserve to be married in the 1st place ,making videos of all this incidents is really insane .

[@zambi1979]

Yes I agree that they couldn't do much for Bimbo now.. but they would have been able to do a lot for her when she was a child at 17, then this whole fiasco would have been avoided.

[@janebassey3943]

Neze you spoke the truth as usual What a sad story

[@hauwamshelia6218]

My dear u speak the truth and target the point🎯🎯🎯 u cannot help someone who does not want to help themselves and accept responsibilities for their actions. She frustrated her family by being difficult and stubborn to their words of advice. The gal had made her decision of going towards the path of destruction no one could have saved her because it was her choice. I don't know if her husband use charms on her, but she could have used the good advice and set herself free from the mind bondage she was in about her husband. This should serve a listen to everyone, make the right choice of what u want to fight for, and fight the good fight with God on ur side, victory is urs.

[@dhatgirldhatgirl4744]

Most people won't understand but the devil was taking his dues when ur whole life is on social media it also attracts evil eyes , this kind of marriage for will end In tears

[@Zovani02]

I love this woman 😍🥺❤️Why am I just seeing her page?

[@ajayieunicem5357]

You're so on point. Well done

[@ayanfeoluwa4461]

I really feel for both of them. They had crossed the line in their bid to live a particular life style. How sad!!!

[@LilyOgini]

As a matter of fact I can’t and I will never 👎 try to help any grown woman out of her abusive marriage. People blaming the Martins are just trying to put the blame on the family just so that her bully (IVD) can get away with it. He may not have been the one ☝️ that killed her directly but he positioned her there so she can do it herself. 😢😢😢😢

[@janebassey3943]

I can never to You will turn to the enemy eventually They will see u as a home wrecker

[@banteckevine5423]

They did their best my neze .

[@abisolaoluyomi6271]

wow just like my late elder Sisters story ,who contacted phv which killed her with cervical cancer.the kids are with the family,so sad she died at 47 Last year June 1.

[@joyyummyyummykitchen]

What a tragedy! IVD has to be thoroughly investigated because I don't understand. How can he be there seeing his wife trying to set herself on fire and he didn't do anything to save her life Hummmm! May her soul rest in peace.

[@botashekiyah1444]

The family did their best to save her but her case was ill-fated.

[@maryjo2394]

WOW this woman sold her soul to the devil because of a man if this tragedy didn't happen in the long run she would have started sacrifice her children for him.

[@lindaanuo7643]

Honestly she went too far for riches , hmmm too bad

[@madinatibrahim4149]

Hummm

[@tankozadok7432]

Absolutely correct

[@User-gj3rk]

She fueled down a house with her 2kids inside...that says it all

[@phenomenalyuzed]

@@User-gj3rk that bad?😲😲😲

[@odianosenarabome4100]

This is murder. One of those that is quite cryptic to unravel.

[@grazzellian]

Very well said. That is why FIDA should intervene in the case of Femi Fani -Kayode's ex wife, Whitey. That woman is in danger now that her ex husband has permitted her to see her children for a brief second. He's only doing this because he is busy with the Tinubu campaign. Once his candidate fails and life goes back to normal for him, Whitey will see the tiger coming out of her violent ex husband

[@emmacollins2164]

Well as a man, I am NOT in support of a man whom in all sense of living humiliated his wife who sacrificed her life for her husband to become rich only to see him cheat on her, have children with other woman, disrespected her, abused her and all. Even tho d woman had her own faults. From the story d man pulled it first and d woman had the right to b up to fight for her right. It was the duty of d man to have understood and respect the woman rather than kicking back at her. I personally understand and to me I will heap 90% of the blame on d man to have desecrated their agreement or mutual understanding. In all, I think what gave them riches turned around. Is a lesson for everyone. To romance Satan bcos u are desperate for wealth etc.

[@merryozonuwe1705]

You always look smashing 🥰😍

[@Lala-fv2ed]

Neze is just a smart lady.

[@preciousebor]

Please what tribe is the IVD man from? The state pls? Thanks

[@agoiobunso]

Well done sis you have said it all

[@joyyummyyummykitchen]

So sad. May his innocent soul rest in peace 🙏

[@iamsosasmama]

God bless you @Neze. You have articulated it all well, as usual. I wish people will just stop with the "woulder coulder... As disheartening as it may feel, there's nothing one can do. DV victims have to want the help, they have to be willing.

[@earthsign6305]

No, i don't think he is remorseful. Following the story of their marriage i realized he displayed narcissistic behaviors. And from my research, i understand that narcissists don't regret their actions, or become remorseful. Narcissists, never see themselves as the one at fault. They always, see themselves as the victim. In your last video, you talked about IVD making mocking posts immediately the wife Bimbo died. That is how Narcissists, behave. They are always eager, to win public sympathy to make their victim look bad or guilty. Watching, him repeatedly say " in my own house" meaning he doesn't feel the house belongs to both of them. That's exactly, how Narcissists THINK! They always, want to use the things they have achieved as a tool to abuse their victim. He absolutely, ignore the role she played in making him successful or rich. The greatest, mistake Bimbo made was staying with him for so many years. When you continue, to stay in a relationship with a narcissist. You end up defending yourself, all the time. You end, up trying to beat them to their game. You end, up explaining your private life to the public cos that's what the narcissist does to make you the victim look bad. You end, up being toxic, bitter, and vengeful. Narcissists, are very manipulative and controlling. Which, is why Bimbo kept going back to him everytime she walks away and he begs. You end, up thinking you can get them to love you (love bombing) like they did at the beginning. You keep, trying to prove yourself to make the abuser see how good you can be to them. Which is why Bimbo, can do anything for IVD cos' she felt the need to prove how far she will go for him. By the time, you realise what is happening you are already deep in the mess. She takes, drugs and do the things he do to make him see how loyal she is and how perfect they can be as a team. And just when you finally, realized it's never going to get better as long as you remain with your abuser. The abuser, wouldn't let you leave them or walk away from them easily without making you regret it. Which, is why he wanted her to leave with absolutely nothing. Which is why he would rather watch her burn than let her walk away with the papers. Which is why he would rather she leave him looking burnt and deformed, of her beauty. Than let, her leave in a way that she could still be useful to herself, or still be attractive to anyone else. When it comes, to dealing with a narcissist you can't win them when you become just like them. The only way you can win them is walking away from them and living your life, happily without them in it. From, your last video in which you explained how the family fought so hard to separate them. I don't, see why the family should be blamed for any of this. Thanks Nezeville, for sharing.

[@comfortsulola1055]

Hmmmm big fact

[@okeoluwatoyosi1012]

This is so apt, I fled a narcissist marriage, I was 3 months pregnant and 6 months into the marriage and i never looked back. People were like you should have endured more. I didnt know about the word Narcissm till i got married and started to experience the abuse. It is emotionally draining, it is really hard to explain. They will beg you with everything, my husband will cry like a baby and recruit others to beg me, but it is always a circle. If you leave, they will blame you. if you die they will still blame you. In the end you will choose how you want to leave dead or alive.

[@colorfunch]

With information has been released to the public so far,Yes the family did all they could. I hope he does not get released

[@Goldpoint3295]

The victims usually refute 'help' they give many reasons that make you bleed. 'For my children' or fear of ostracism by society. The family did everything. The only person that can help, the abuser is ONLY the abuser.

[@SKNmedias]

Women needs to love themselves more. this is really 😢

[@godschild4615]

@Nezeville thanks for the updates but what is FIDA doing in Nigeria to help push laws in the house of assembly that protect women and even men in abusive marriages as well as providing shelter for them until they can get their footing back because the reason these women don't leave is because they are afraid of starting from scratch. We all know that Nigeria is a very patriachal society where men push women out of houses they built together and even take the kids from them. I think our judiciary can do more in this area

[@Nezeville]

Nigeria's legislators are predominantly comprised of men.. a good percentage of whom beat their wives. They aren't quite keen on passing these kind of laws.

[@oghaleuzih6277]

You are always unpoint on issues like this, you are doing well keep it up.... And congratulations considering your new look tells it all. 👍👍👍

[@Iphie2019]

I think the family should have done more. I can’t understand how a 17 year old would have been allowed to do all she did despite having a family. I truly can’t understand it. I was once 17 and I now the family I come from, best believe none of my siblings or I would have been able to even to conceive the idea of what she did neither would we have been able to carry out any negative action.

[@janebassey3943]

Pls its not everybody that listens to their parents or family!

[@Iphie2019]

@@janebassey3943 but should that be the case? I know not everyone listens but as a society we have to find ways to also manage kids who don’t listen so they don’t end up going astray in life. There are many lessons from this story and that’s the angle I am trying to highlight.

[@tanagunda1368]

She met him when she was 17 but once she turned 18 what did you want them to do?

[@Iphie2019]

@@tanagunda1368 my dear, we Nigerians don’t subscribe to letting a young adult totally fend for themselves just cos they turn 18 years. It’s Foriegn to us. It’s a cultural thing for us and very uncommon. I made my comment as a fellow Nigerian.

[@tanagunda1368]

@@Iphie2019 I know what you are talking about but regardless wether it’s culture or not, once a person becomes an adult there isn’t much you can do to them specially when they have some place else to go, you want them to tie her up? culture or not, and adult is an adult

[@alexanderoke9244]

Of course, many people would have opinions about the family laying blame but as we know, not everyone has sense. Women are loyal and love hard and a debated issue is 'culture forces women to see their man as the end of their decision before laying the rest of their life's course in his hands. The programs 'for my man and fatal attraction' do not exist for nothing.

[@lebskitchen]

God have mercy

[@bevwalshtv2745]

This is a case of two people who were in love but were not good for each other. They stayed together through spiritual manipulation; a covenant could have been in place. This was a case of a husband and wife both abusing each other. It is only God who could have saved her, not her family, they tried. So, what do you do? you intercede on her behalf which means the person interceding must be living a holy life. You CANNOT fight a Spiritual battle in the physical and win. Cases like this most often, end in tragedy; thank God the children did not get hurt. Had she moved out with the house paper and her children it might have been worse or she would end up going back to her husband. Jesus is calling us, He wants to save us. Please surrender your life before it is too late. May the husband surrender his life to Christ and take care of his children.

[@agirielise2232]

Any marriage where man and woman don't agree always finish like this,how can a woman come out in social media to declare that she has gotten another lover that is better than her husband,