New Update: My Stepmom Traumatized My Daughter To Fulfill Her Fantasies of Having a Child...

[@ThePawerStation]

Sasha knew she effed up and didn't know how to cope.

[@inferiorinferno8859]

Sasha clearly demonstrated with the Disney trip she doesn't makes for a good mom. It's terrible that OP was shamed for being controlling. The woman literally manipulated the kids into a ride that would scare the youngest and she was well-aware of that! She doesn't wants children, she wants her fantasy. What if it had been her own daughter that was scared of Ursula or downright hated The Little Mermaid? Sasha clearly wouldn't listen to her and respect her daughter's boundaries if that had been the scenario.

[@satsuki914]

Thank goodness they got rid of her. Sasha definitely sounds like she needs help. She can adopt and have a baby herself but she seems so obsessed Im not sure if the baby will truly be happy with an obsessive mother....

[@ImaNerdANDaGeek]

Some adoption services make you do a psych eval to determine if you are a fit parent. I don't know if she would pass one.

[@battlepants7565]

Yay, background music is back!

[@tothewonder6248]

I feel bad for Sasha. She's clearly unwell and regrets her life choices.

[@rumooooni]

Yep but I can't have sympathy for someone who literally tries to force themselves on people specifically on children that don't even like them that much

[@S474Ndiadop]

I feel some sympathy for Sasha and her wish to have a daughter, but no she’s really unwell. This is why communication is very important, so for her to just expect OP’s father to “change his mind”. Or expect him to catch her “hints” are terrible. Separation (and divorce) was the best for those two since they clearly have different stances on the matter. Another reason why it’s for the best is for the sake of OP’s children. Sasha did not learn or understood what she did wrong in the first posts and later reacted poorly to OP’s pregnancy. As OP said, the children are not props. It feels like even if she did receive help, it was still going to end with a separation.

[@elise441]

fr wanting kids or not wanting them is a dealbreaker. you can't expect anyone to change their mind, no matter how much they love you, and certainly not if you're only hinting at wanting them instead of communicating that. if you can't even communicate important stuff to your partner you shouldn't be a parent anyways.

[@S474Ndiadop]

@ exactly! There’s also people who get pregnant and use it as a way to convince their partner to “try”, hoping that the birth will activate some “paternal instincts” only to be shocked that their partner is irritated, upset, not helping, or leaving right after. It’s very important to discuss and communicate. And if each discussion ends with no agreement, then immediate separation. I personally think a couple who have different stances but still want to stay together should try being childless for the first years (3 max) and have this discussion again. If no one changes their stances, immediately separate and find someone else. It sounds easier said than done, so I don’t blame them for feeling depressed or upset at the outcome. But that choice is better than fighting and having issues in their marriage. Especially if an accidental pregnancy happens and one wants to keep it while the other doesn’t, you’re involving children into the conflict.

[@Emily-hp1ke]

Ya know, Sasha never should’ve expected the dad to change his mind about having kids, but at the same time, he shouldn’t have expected her to change her mind either. She’s 47 now but they’d been together since she was 37, so he toted her around for 10 years and she went along with it, both of them wasting the last years of her ability to have kids. They’re both stupid for wasting so much time expecting the other to change their mind

[@elise441]

but sasha told the dad she was fine with not having kids didn't she? so dad thought they were on the same page. the only one wasting her years was sasha herself.

[@KittyKittyPeowPeow]

How many women does OP know that had children at 47+ years old? Even with modern medicine it's extremely expensive and rare, there's a reason it makes the news when it does happen.

[@Deactivatedsorry]

My mother had me at 48..

[@elise441]

​@@Deactivatedsorry congrats. it's still extremely unlikely though.

[@ImaNerdANDaGeek]

I knew someone whose mother was having kids in her fifties. Although she was abusing fertility medication for the express purpose of having kids despite already having 6. I think she was mentally off kilter. And so is Sasha

[@blue_0.0]

It's not rare at all. Even after menopause, if you're healthy and fit then you can have alot of success with ivf. Even women at 50 have gotten pregnant. Yes it's alot harder and if you have health issues, but alot of women have had babies at that age.

[@ellarose2112]

1:48 got a dress from there. It is wildly expensive.

[@fil4648]

Oh God, someone please get that woman to therapy, this is breaking my heart. Even though I never felt this kind of obsession I kind of empathize with her suffering, but op is not in the wrong here. If anything, her dad has a responsibility to help his wife get over this obsession and he failed to do so 😢 come on man, help your woman, she's mentally ill...

[@inferiorinferno8859]

He doesn't. That's a therapist's job.

[@Rorschachqp]

I feel bad for the kids that OP is uprooting them to Europe.

[@inferiorinferno8859]

Why are you feeling bad? Europe's a way better place to raise a child. For one, we don't have gun violence at our kids schools!

[@jesmey4902]

No gun violence/ school shootings here, between 4 - 6 weeks paid vacation time per year, if you are sick you are sick - no limited sick days, free health care - so no health debts that force you into homelessness or crippling debt for years, food costs are lower while there is a better overall food quality, education is free and the general education is better, if you birth a child you can get up to 3 years of parental leave while your employer has to hold your position during that time, you can't get fired for nonsense reasons within days or weeks, if you get fired you get unemployment money from the government, just to name a few things. The USA is the last country in which I would birth a child and would want to live in 🤷‍♀️

[@ai_d_in]

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[@leenleen1271]

wow op seem obsessed with her step mom