Niam Txiv Tshuav Menyuam Nqi. 12/20/22

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[@seexyooj5925]

This is what you get when you favor one son over the other. This should be an eye opener for parents who love one child more than the other. Nyuam qhuav haum cov niam cov txiv uas hlub ib tug tub tseg ib tug.

[@lisvaj7375]

This is why my parents tell us all to go to work and don’t ask for money 🤣

[@Pcvaj]

We have kids because it’s our willing and our want. We cannot expect that they will care for us. They don’t owe us anything. If they love us they love us, if they don’t then it is what it is. Yes, the wish is for them to love us. But reality is they did not choose to be born - it is the parents choice.

[@tubhmoobhmoob2944]

Tus niam tsev nej txoj dab neeg no tu siab kawg, nrog tu siab, nco ntsoov tias ua zoo ces tau ntuj ntoo, ua phem ces ib hnub twg yuav raug lub ntuj lem

[@kimberlyvx]

Apparently, this is what happen when the parents plays favoritism, pick and choose all the time. Sadly, we see it all the time and things always get ugly when the parents pass away... the one they support and love the most never want to take any responsibility. Learn how to love your kids equally so your kids will want to love you and care for you.

[@lospeb100]

To me, as a son. It doesn't matter if I get anything from my parents and my brothers get something or everything from my parents. I rather give then receive because I know I don't owe no one anything. My success will be my owe free will. What heartache family story!!

[@maiyang570]

Honestly I'm a mother of 6 myself and I will never give my kids $ unless I have enough to give all my kids evenly, this is what's going to happen. Only the parents will be able to love their children, children can never love us the same. The children will always be jealous of their siblings if we don't give them $ evenly.

[@HMOOB-nm3su]

I would do anything to have a parents because I never got that chance and no money can buy....so very sorry for those parents whose kids don't love them and very thankful for those whose kids that understands their own parents 🙏🙏🙏 living an orphan life was never easy so love your parents to the fullest while they are still with you...✌

[@sombunman5551]

Thaib muaj ib lo lus hais tias txhob tso siab rau txoj kev uas koj yuav taug , txhob Cia siab rau koj cov me nyuam uas koj yug

[@maryly09]

I have to agree with most of the comments here. The parents picked and choose who they want to help and how much they help. They may say they love each son equally, but their actions speak otherwise.

[@hmongtoyota1]

Txhob tu siab rau koj cov nus. Tim koj niam thiab koj txiv coj tsis ncaj hlub me nyuam tsis sib npaug.

[@bvang8370]

If I work my arse off to get a 1980 Toyota Camry and my parents not only helped pay for my brother's doctorate but also give him $30k towards a lamborghini, I would be upset too.

[@maryly09]

Right?

[@pasaiy.8578]

EXACTLY!

[@minecraftboy2676]

As parents, don't expect to live with any of your children, don't save all of your money to give it to them, don't expect them to take care of you, and don't feel sad or disappointed if they don't do or love you like you expecting. When you are old, use as much money as you can to enjoy life in your retirement years and don't worry about your children, use that money to live in a senior living apartment or home. Only parents can do good to the children without being jealous. In this age we parents have to change our ways of thinking now like have the children pay for their own college, wedding, and house like in this story.

[@xmay71]

I think like you in my younger years because i was very capable. Now that I'm older I think differently, I Want to live with my children when I'm old, my wish. May my heavenly father bless me.

[@msyngseer5560]

If that so, then as a child of your parent do not expect your parents to finance any of your expense once you turn 18. You should leave the nest right when you turn 18 and be financial independent!!! But guess what?? Kids these days can’t because they still need their parents financial support until they are in their 20s. Yet beyond where they want their parents savings to make big purchases. Just such a selfish mindset to think that a parent should not seek for unconditional love and care back from their children and use their money to live in senior home. If that’s the case we don’t need to desire to have kids…. We are Asian American, but don’t forget your root. It’s not an old mindset to SEEK to be cared by your children. As a kid is it your responsibility to give that nurture and care back. Why is the wife able to love her parents but a son can’t? It’s funny to see sons these days actually love their in-laws more then their own parents yet depend on their parents financial savings. Double standards.

[@kimlouis461]

@Ms Yng Seer also such a selfish mindset for parents to have kids so they can be taken care of when old and think their kids owe them. Maybe they shouldn't have kids if that is the only reason.

[@msyngseer5560]

@@kimlouis461 so are you offended by the fact that you as a person should move out when you’re 18? Old enough to be an independent adult, then stop relying on your parent financial support. If you cannot and do not have the heart to love your parent back by giving them tender care and love then you need some real help! It’s not selfish to want to be love by your kids, and vice versa. A child to your parents, you expect them to love, nurture, care, and give up all their savings for you, but can’t even share a space with you? Just don’t be a human at all! It’s funny that most people will fake love to the outside world to receive attention and be validated, but unable to give unconditionally love to the two people they owe it most too-- their parents! You will know when your time comes. You must not have kids, if you do you will know when your time comes, how lonely it is to give soo much love and affection to receive none back.

[@maiseelee016]

@Ms Yng Seer agree. Living under parents roof but being bossy and demanding. Your parents can only help you so much. They don't need to watch your kids since they already raised you. Now go listen to kids complaining that their parents aren't helping them babysit the grandchildren. Everyone is responsible for their own kids

[@kiaxiong296]

We choose to have children, is ours responsibility to provide for our children and have unconditional love for them. Children do not own parents anything. I don't expect my kids to love me. Sad but true ib leej niam ib leej txiv thiaj tu tau 10 leej menyuam 10 leej menyuam tsis kam yuav ib leej niam los ib leej txiv

[@suabzoothao5924]

Niam txiv txoj kev hlub ces tsuas muaj muab pab rau txhua tus minyuam uas need kev pab rau lub sibhawm ntawv. Yus yog minyuam yus txoj hauj lwm yog hlub yus niam yus txiv rov qab xwb, txhob muaj txoj kev xam khim los tsim koj niam koj txiv.

[@moniqueyang9411]

Never forget your parents. You are who you are because of them.

[@Kialee31]

Niam txiv hlub me nyuam tsis sib luag ces zoo li no tiag kuv niam pog txiv yawg tsis kam them nqi nyab rau kuv ob tug kwv tab sis them rau kuv tus txiv vim kuv tus txiv yog tus kawm ntawv siab no ces kuv ob tug kwv hais tias tsis them nqi nyab rau nkawv twb them rau wb lawm mas lwm hnub nkawv tuag ces nkawv pab tau li cas yuav li ntawv xwb yog nkawv tsis tu thaum laus los kom txhob tu siab no

[@pengvang5831]

People in the comment talk about fairness but have once or more received social security or welfare from the government. What about the people that doesn't qualify for it? It's never going to be fair 50/50. Learn to accept the things you cannot change and have the wisdom to know the difference. Don't talk about fairness until you yourself are in the parent's shoe.

[@beth3626]

In this world, a lot of people are so narrow-minded. Money makes them blind to the point that they can't see how much parents love their children. I'm so sad for your parents. Please stand up for your mom and don't let her cry again. They love and help their sons during their hard time but the sons aren't able to see it. So ungrateful !

[@2frontHearts]

I’m sorry, but that’s how it is in some households and there’s nothing we can do about it. One is always the “Golden Child” while the others are “Cinderellas”.

[@yenghlub1sim]

kuv yuav tuaj daws cov laus txoj kev tu siab kom lawv lub kua muag tu os...

[@malyvu3333]

It's your parents fault by playing favoritism. Your parents Shouldn't have gave a son 30k and expect all the other sons to pay for the funeral equally.

[@0623superfly]

Forget people saying you are a daughter and u have no right. Ofc you have a right, you were also your parents' child. Screw these stupid men saying u and your thoughts are insignificant bc you are a girl. Grow up, people.

[@mosvaj1385]

Peb lub neej nyob rooj teb no, tiam 21 no ces peb yuav tshuav mi tub mi nyuam nqi lawm xwb tiag2 li os es cov ho yug tsis muaj los txhob tu2 siab os mog.

[@chuckyang3821]

Yeej yog li hos…vim niam txiv yog 👫 Tsim kom menyuam muaj txoj sia yug los ua neeg ne 🤰👩‍🍼ib txheej ua rau ib txheej, niam txiv tu kom menyuam loj tiav niam tiav txiv 🚶‍♀️🚶‍♂️tub ntxhais yog niam txiv lub luag hauj lwm coj qhia kom txim txiaj ua lub neej muaj noj muaj hnav, ua lub neej muaj kev thaj yeeb nyab xeeb. Parents have the responsibility raise their children to fit into society 🧍🚶‍♀️👭👌so sad 😢😢😢 as I listen to this story my tears 😢 was drifting while I was eating my lunch…is heartbreaking 💔 😢😢😢, and as I was afraid one day Imma going walking on the path your parents are walking 🚶‍♂️🚶‍♀️😢😢😢

[@meilywanglau9356]

Just because we are daughters and married to a different clans does not mean that we lose our rights to stand up and fight for our parents rights when the brothers and sister in laws don't treat them right. It's okay, we all will grow old and we will have our turns. We reaps what we sows!!!

[@pkcyang2910]

Niam txiv hlub menyuam tsis sib luag ces yeej muaj teeb meem. Peb ua niam ua txiv peb txoj haujlwm yog tu lawv kom loj hlob, hlub kom sib luag. Txhob hlub ib tug tshaj ib tug ces yeej tsis muaj teeb meem. Kuv pab menyuam 5 leeg kuv yeej faib kuv cov nyiaj insurance sib npaug tsis pub kom ib tug tu siab rau kuv. Kuv hlub ib yam tsis hais tub los ntxhais.

[@dannylee7049]

Every parents dream is to have their sons and daughters to take care of them when you're old; but from listening to all of these drama story, I learn that there is a reason why we have retirement plans at work, when we are old, don't ever rely on anyone to take care of you, it would be a plus but if no one, you and your spouse just helps each others out; just like how we all see all the old Americans couples. When you rely on someone, problem and issue will always occur in any situations, we don't want this when we are old, we don't want more stress to cause us more health problems, so the best solutions is to not rely on anyone else, not even your own children's.

[@maryandlife1155]

As a daughter, we shouldn’t depend on our brother to carry the whole funeral. It’s so pricey….stop cursing them too…if they’re life is bad than they can’t bury your mother. It is what it is. If you love your brother and parent just help out. Stop shaming them.

[@gnaynnou]

To the sister who is telling this story, IMAGINE if your inlaws gave and supported one brother to another and gave ZERO to you and your husband. Do you think this is fair? Then when it comes to collecting money, your husband is relied on contributing the same amount? Do you think this is actually fair that they supported the other brothers more and yet still ended up broke? That is BS and I would be upset too.

[@leek-te5dx]

Well that happens to me and my husband in his side of the family but we told ourselves we ignore and don't be jealous. What we have is ours and when the OG becomes 120 years old we still going to do our equal part. My husband and I love the OG most and in our hearts.

[@maryly09]

💯

[@px2824]

I totally agree. This daughter telling the story is not being fair or understanding of how her brothers feel. First she should told her parents not to give $30k to the youngest brother. And if they are they need to split it up between all 3 brothers each $10k. Lady/daughter you are from the outside looking in you should have seen the problems it’s going to cause and try to stop it before it got to this point. Each kid wanting to buy their own home need to be able to afford it.

[@chang3568]

This is exactly why it's ok not to have kids. You're gonna end up being disappointed.

[@baothao1728]

Txawm yog li no es kuv thiaj tsis yug coob22 es kuv tej tub Nyab lawv tsis kam yug los tsis yuam lawv kiag los zoo li no ne Yus ob niag laus tseem yog tus txhaum thiab no ces tu siab heev li os Hmong thaum twg peb hmoob thiaj yuav pauv tau li luag lwm haiv neeg os lawv 😢 😢😢😢

[@penelopecabana8834]

If you expect your kids to pay for your funural equally, as a parent you have to give them equally. You give one son 3gram second one nothing and 3rd son get$30gram. How fair is that? The answer should be whenever later in the future sell the house give the other 2 sons the difference.

[@chouathao2122]

sure, but these ppl are narrow minded and greedy. admit it that they just there for the money, don't want to lose a cent.

[@cksflowergarden950]

Cas peb ua neej nyob . Peb pheej xav kom niam thiab txiv hlub yus xwb . Yus yuav tsum khwv yus tus kheej nyiaj thaij li yog li yus tug tiag tiag . Niam thiab txiv twb nyug tau yus muab tes muaj taw lub zog quaj qees es yus pheej yuav kom yus niam yus hlub ua hlub yus.

[@shenglee7110]

No expectations = no disappointments. Periodtt.

[@bosslady8498]

Agreed !

[@youaremyfriend1474]

tiam no txob tos2 me nyuam txoj kev hlub lawm o vim me nyuam lo kuj muaj me nyuam ib cov me nyuam ua lawv yuav yug thb o zoo tshaj ce yu mu nyob yu e thj g ua ib txoj hwm 6 lawv xb o

[@kalvinhawj1359]

Kuv xav hnov seb cov tub sab seb lawv niam lawv txiv ho hlub lawv li cas es nkawv ob tug laus yuav tu siab ua luaj rau cov tub.

[@ShortyThankyou]

Tu siab tias peb tsi txawj ua niam ua txiv li lawm os menyuam aw.. ua li cas los txhaum tag nrho li nawb s/d twb yuav tau ua niam ua txiv tas nrho mam paub mas os

[@yenghlub1sim]

Tus muam May vang, hais txog zaj no, tsis hais leej twg los yeej paub, cov teeb meem no yog los ntawm peb cov poj niam nkaus xwb, peb thiaj ua tsis dhau xwb, yog peb yuav los ua li tej laus siab xav tau...Ces lub ntuj yeej yuav tua xwb xwb li,,tsis hais pab ko los sis kuv kiag vim yog peb txhua txhua tus rau 1 sab khau xwb...Kuv 1 zaj yuav muab tuaj txhawb koj...

[@likely89appleJuice]

That's why you don't have a lot of kids because you can't love them equally. And you can't give them equal amount of money. 🤦‍♀️

[@everydaynothing9964]

Emotional damage that’s what your folks done to your brothers. Give equally or don’t give at all.

[@tialor1793]

Pab koj txaj muag dhau lawm os tus txiv neej zaj neej neeg no.

[@mcvaj02]

Its not about the money, its the principle. You treat all your kids equally and fairly. Don't play favoritism and love one kid more than the other and then expect all your kids to love you equally. It doesnt work that way.

[@changw9482]

💯 agree.

[@myself.kuvxwb8406]

This is what comes of smart children who lack cultural understanding. It is so sad that your father has to endure all the hurt til the end. Why would you worry about their outcome. Why? You do know that everyday she lives in the house, all the memories she has are that her sons do not love her. It is not of happy memories. You do not need to worry about your brothers. They are very smart and capable.

[@franher3748]

There is kindness with or without cultural understanding. Those who understands the most steers away the farthest.

[@Markw5]

Hlub thiab pab tsis sib luag nes. Yus yog niam yog txiv es yus twb xav kom yus tej menyuam txhua tus hlub yus thiab nes. Kuv yeej tsis qhua cov laus no kiag lis thiab.

[@maivpaxiongandjulie9721]

Please more videos sister.i love your story

[@stevexiong602]

Reading all these comments, and everyone is obligated to their own opinion, but the real question is.. why are they relying on their parents’ money? You’re married and have double income, you’re telling me you can’t afford a house? If that’s the case, don’t buy a house. That’s your parent’s money they worked for. It’s so sad, that instead of worrying about their parent’s well-being, they shoot for their fortune. These parents may be wrong for giving a certain amount to one kid over the other, but at the end of the day. It’s their money, they spend it how they want. They want their parents money, but don’t want to take care of them. Selfish, selfish, selfish kids.

[@mkvang161]

Agree

[@monkeybanana9269]

For real

[@lubsiabzooyang2806]

Parents....! Stop take your whole savings to pay for your kid's tuition. Let them make students loans.

[@dannylee7049]

I think that the parents, they have the right to choose what to do with their money. The most common problem in the Hmong community and Hmong family's is greed and jealousy. Why do Hmong people's always fight for what it is not theirs. This is why we should not rely on no one, not even your own kids.

[@Cheenoux]

Tus leej txiv no cov lus yog lus nyiaj lus kub. Ua neeg nyob txhob tsuav nuj nqi rau niam thiab txiv.

[@pvp503]

Old people never learn to let go of old things even they are not use and been store for over 10 yrs. But still need to appreciate n love them no matter what if you want to be bless from heaven. God do exist!!!

[@chaovue1895]

Tsis txhob mus nug ntau2 ma kuj nug seb lawv pab tau li cas yuav li ntawv es txhob Sim lawv siab os, yug tau cev tsis tau siab. Tsuas yug Kom txhob ntshaw tebchaws xwb os, tsuas muaj hais tias Kom lawv txawj sib hlub es tsis muaj yus lawm lo Kom lawv sibfwm sib hlub xwb os.

[@shengyang872]

Ntuj aw!!! Peb niam peb txiv lawv txom txom nyem dua los lawm lawv tej khoom lawv khuv xim heev li os tab txawm peb cov hnab yas ntim khoom es peb pov tseg es lawv pom lawv tseem khaws mus cia tib si hos tab sis kuj zoo thiab thaum twg peb tsis muaj hnab siv no nws kuj muab rau yus rov qab siv thiab. yog ib qho pab tau yus ceev heev lub sij hawm uas yus maj maj na.

[@user-mj9tn1ld3k]

Qho hais tias hlub ib tug tseg ib tug es yus qhia yus tus kheej xeeb zoo tshaj lwm tus qhia os seb yus yug tau ib pab es kj puas hlub ib tus tseg os yus yeej hlub txhua leej ces niam thiab txiv ces hlub ib yam nkaus li os

[@leeyang26]

Peb tug nyuag tub dev no ces yuav pluag thiab kaub huam mus li. Tsis txaj muag tseem los ntaim niam txiv teej tug. Muab nej cov ntsej muag no mus ntsaws qhov quav zoo dua!

[@amazinggrace8136]

Everyone is acting like a child in this story. There are no adults here..

[@yerlor8328]

Cas zaj neej neeg no yuav quav dev ua luaj tib pab txiv tub xwb los tseem sib tua txog nyiaj thiab os txaj muag dhau lawm os tuag zoo dua.

[@junemoua7667]

Actually your parent is in the wrong. That 30k should have been a loan to your youngest brother not a gift. As parents you shouldn't give to one and leave the others out, it's common sense.

[@pajlisyaj1716]

Tseem yog zoo li no es peb cov nyob meskas txhob ntshaw2 tub cov tub ces yeej feel coob yeej tsis hlub niam txiv li nawb yeej pom kiag yus tej nus lawm ntag ,

[@uhwhhhejdjd8099]

Cov tub nrab yeej txawj xav dua, tus hlob thiab tus ntxawg ma thiaj txawj kus kes.

[@princessangelher8854]

Good story, good lesson to learn.

[@gaoyang7685]

The sooner we accept that our children won’t be our retirement plan, the sooner we will be able to forgive them. If they can take care of us, thank them. If they can not, you’ve already accepted it. This is also the outcome of spoiling your kids to death. When all you do is spoil them and “ywj me nyuam siab” ces txog thaum kawg tau ib pab tub quav dev. Please teach your sons to be gentlemen, to be considerate, and to love unconditionally.

[@xailee1235]

Yog kawg 100% never give more to other yuav tsum muab sib npaug tsis hais tub or ntxhais tsis matter hais tias tus muaj or tus pluag tus ntse or tus ruam. I went through the same situation because kuv yog ib leeg ntxhais niam thiab txiv tsis Cia siab rau thiab pheej siv lo lus tias koj yog ib tug ntxhais Koj tsis muaj Cai los hais ib lo lus li. So kuv nyob ib sab saib xwb es tu siab twj ywm xwb.

[@suabcuayaj877]

all this is your parents fault...they should not give so much money to one child...i will be mad too...as parent we should not pick and choose to just help one child...we either help equally or dont help at all.

[@KueeTonyaa]

Cov niag laus yeej coj tsis ncaj. Don’t expect kids to love you the same when you act like that. You get what you give and vice versa.

[@KS-uq9bc]

Cov ntxhais mus ua neej twb tsis yuav niam pog txiv yawg cov muam lub neej thiaj tsis paub txoj kev lwj siab ua ib tug niam tsev leej twg los yeej ntshaw ib lub tsev kom yog yus lub xav eb vaj eb tsev li cas los tau lub neej nrog cov laus nyob mas nyuaj siab tshaj plaws ib cov laus yeej siab phem cov laus siab phem mas xav kom mus nrog ntxhais vauv nyob seb tus vauv puas yuav tau thiab.

[@hlubkojforever1901]

Stop making excuses for your parents. They are straightup WRONG. Additionally, why arent you stepping up to care for your parents??? Must be because you got none of their assets so you dont want to contribute. You knew they’re wrong and you still reveal their story. I wouldn’t treat my kids that way despite who they are or what their financial stands. Fair is fair.

[@payengmoua9126]

I'm only half way and my thoughts? Well, I don't hear a favoritism story. I hear a story where the son's aren't thoughtful and grateful and instead are jealous of each other. They don't know how to love each other, instead they compare and only love themselves. Yug tau tus tsis zoo, tau niam tau txiv zoo los me nyuam tsis paub si hlub.

[@lilylee7395]

Koj txiv nkawv ua tsis ncaj rau koj ob tug nus hlob lawm hlub me nyuam mas hlub kom sib npaug pab kom sib luag tsis hais tub los yog ntxhais es thaum kawg sawv daws thiaj tsis muaj kev sib tu siab os mog

[@ualbsiab962]

ไม่ให้ก็ไม่ต้องให้ใครสักคนแต่ถ้าให้ก็ควรให้เท่าๆกันสิค่ะจะได้ไม่มีใครคิด แต่ให้คนเหลืออีกแบบนี้ก็ต้องโทษพ่อแม่ด้วยแหละไม่ใช่อยู่ที่ลูกอย่างเดียวนะ

[@nengxiong6991]

Aub!!! Yau !!!! Cas yog kiag li kuv txoj kev xav rau kuv cov me nyuam lawm lau !!! Ntshe yuav yog kiag zaj neej neeg no kiag 😪😪😪 los yog yeej muaj ib co tub zoo thiab na!! Lawv !!! Ntshe tim tus tub 50% tus nyab 50% cov nyab feem coob yeej tsis hlub niam pog txiv yawg . Nov yog kuv pom ntawm qhov muag kiag 😪😪.

[@songnleepage5937]

Yog vim li cas thaum yus faib nyiaj ces yus ho faib tsi sib npaug tabsi thaum yus kom tuaj pab nyiaj rau yus ces yus ho kom tuaj sib paug, pab sib npaug es yog li koj xav seb puas ncaj ncees mas yuam.... cov laus ces txoj kev txom nyem thaum laus tsi muaj tus care ces twb vim yus tsi lees yus txoj kev txhaum tias yus coj tsi ncaj.....

[@pahouaxiong6142]

Cas zoo lis cov neej neeg hais txog tub doctor mas zoo lis tseem ntshaw nyiaj tshaj cov tsis tau doctor degree.

[@sauvwj7394]

Usually, the daughter-in-law plays a big role in the family issues..love your in-law as you want your husband to love your parents! Everything goes 2 ways!

[@Lotus-og6if]

Same goes for the parent in-law. Don’t expect a stranger to want to pay for your funeral when you have only spent your life helping the other daughter in law and treating others like strangers.

[@bosslady8498]

Sorry to say but most time it’s always the wives that are jealous and want to take what is not theirs . Sad!

[@ntujdubntujkaj339]

Ua cas koj hais cuag kos koj ho tsi coj koj niam koj txiv mu nrog koj nyob kiag na lov koj twb yog koj niam koj txiv yug kiag los thiab ne lov hais cuag kos ma yus coj mu nrog yus nyob yus tu lawm ma thiaj li coj tuaj hais li kos ma lov koj los twb tsi hlub thiab ne lov

[@moobsiab]

Listening to this makes me sad that I don't have any daughters.

[@kellielee9829]

Hmong OG kids are so entitled because of they way their parents raised them. The younger son doesn’t always have to get the money from the parents. NO ONE should be trying to mooch off their parents. Geez, so ungrateful 🙄 they don’t even appreciate their parents. Your parents only job is raising you until you’re old enough to fend for yourself and then off you go finding yourself in the world.

[@maithao3656]

Many of these stories are usually told by a daughter. My only question is, as a daughter you did not take care of your parents (by having them live with you or pay for their living expenses), and you did not help pay for your dad’s funeral either. So, do you think you love your parents? I don’t know why you think that just because you’re a girl and you’re married, you are not responsible for your parents anymore. Your parents love and support you as much as your brothers, so you’re responsible to love them, just like how you expect your brothers to love them. Raising a daughter is as hard as raising a son.

[@bounxiong5714]

Don’t give any of the son any of your real estate or monetary. Mother and father’s loves and cares for the their children are unconditionally. There loves are unlimited. It cannot be measured with money or times. There’s no measurement or instrument in this world to measure their unconditional loves or who they love the most or how to love their children! Those brothers, please look at yourself well in the mirror and stop blame your parents for their unfair behavior. Appreciate your parents and blessings will come to you in unmeasurable! Tej laus yeej ib txwm hais “koj tsis paub niam txiv txoj kev txog thaum koj mus yug tau koj cov thiab laus2 los hnav koj niam koj txiv lub tsho lawm ces koj mam paub tias koj niam koj txiv hlub koj npaum cas”. Txhob cia lig2 nawb! Nco ntsoov tias niam txiv yug thiaj hlub yus tshaj thiab thiaj li tuag taj tau koj thaum yuav muab siav ciaj los pauv siav tuag. Niam txiv ib plab nchuav thiaj ua tau. Koj cov menyuam thiaj ua tau. Koj tus txij nkawm xaiv2 neeg thiaj li ua tau. Dua li ntawv ces yog ua los pleev qhov muag thiab rau yus vim luag tseem muaj kev cia siab ntawm yus xwb nawb! Sib hlub sib zam txim sib pab ntawm yus niam yus txiv ib plab nchuav los nawb!

[@nkaujhmoob1164]

Lub ntuj nyob qi qi lawm os ua li cas cia ces yuav tau txais li ntawv rov qab lawv twb yug tau me nyuam thiab lawv yeej yuav tau txais ib yam li qhov lawv tau ua cia thiab

[@LoloLolo-ff9hk]

The only thing i wish your parents or hmong parents can change here...to teach their kids to be self sufficient, self made in living.. it has been almost 50yrs and i am still hearing stories where hmg son still cant even afford to pay for his wife's,dowry...still waiting for the parents and the relatives....how pathetic is that? How long will this go on..hmg people? I thought college was suppose to open a blind eye..why was the dr brother so ignorant? Didnt he for one second realized how he was able to afford college?...what a bunch of loss cause.....

[@boualee5741]

Ob tug lau lub neej txaus tus siab heev li os

[@noulongyang4555]

Your brothers do not love each others after your dad passed IS NOT because your dad did not leave any hmoo, but because he never taught them fairness.

[@miabhlub63]

This is the result of favoritism. They love and value their sons more than the daughters.

[@ItsYou2]

This is why I chose to have 1 son only. Dont want to hear him say I love the other son more or see him fight with his brother.

[@noulongyang4555]

Me too! See no reasons why we should have more children just for more sons. For why?

[@kingofall9262]

I have to disagree with the part where it was mentioned that the parents will always understand if their kids won’t give them money because they’re struggling. My parents to this day thinks I’m balling and just being selfish. I’m living paycheck to paycheck.

[@leek-te5dx]

Sorry to say this but when wives come into the picture sons change to accommodate their wives. Hmong husband need to wear pants I see wives wearing too much pants. Please stop lying behind closed doors. Also please stop abusing the good daughter in law who love inlaws. I see OGS loving their favorites sons and DILs yet in the end none of them want the OGS. Yet, the good daughter in law gets thrown under the bus.

[@hlubtushlubkuv9881]

Koj niam koj txiv los yeej faib tsis ncaj pes tsawg hos koj cov niag nus los cas yuav ntshaw nyiaj ua luaj li thiab. Yus xav muaj nyiaj ces yus rau siab ntso mus khwv thiaj li yog yus li los pob yuav mus ntshw 2 tug laus li. Kuv hnov niam ntsuab teev hais ntau2 txoj neej neeg es cov tub pheem2 rau cov niam txiv, tsis xav yuav cov laus li, cov nyab nas paub2 niam tais tawm txiv BD, mother's dag, father's day, Xmas, thab sis niam pog tsis yawg mas tsis paub li. Xav kom zoo peb cov mloog xwb peb twb paub tias yog tim tus twg lawm.

[@user-bw9ro3jz4v]

I think it's up to the person. My in laws never loved me, never helped me and my husband, and never done anything for me and my husband, but when my father-in-law passed away I helped them equally. I feel like it's the nyabs who is putting their input in. They nyabs telling your brothers what to do. Parents need to love all kids equally. Because as kids, it hurts to know that one parent love one and leave one.

[@cassihoney10]

I know the sons can't love their parents like how they wanted or how the daughter seem to explain the story. She's saying how her brothers are jealous of money related thats why they can't reach the parent expectation of love...but why haven't the daughter take charge?.....i dont like how she said say she doesn't like the unfairness and the mistreatment but she isn't doing anything to change. For all we know she is also guilty by carrying on the tradition also. Why don't she take her parent, she can get a court order guardian for her mother who is still living. Why leave the mom. She is just as guilty.

[@bettylee1729]

These types of stories that involves parents finances and where, who, and why. I call these types of financial problems about gaining inheritance Hmong blood money. Becuase the elder gen don't believe in a will and trust.

[@hmongremark2686]

Tsis yog koj niam thiab txiv tsis tau kev hlub los ntawm nkawv cov tub nyab xwb. Peb sawv daws yeej paub ntsoov tias yuav luag txhua nkawm niam txiv puav leej tsis tau kev hlub los ntawm nkawv tej tub nyab tib yam. Thaum twg nkawv laus zuj zus lawm, nkawv muaj qhov tsis huv lawv siab zuj zus xwb. Thaum no nkawv txoj kev hlub yuav tu ncua zuj zus mus txog ntua hnub nkawv txoj siav tu nrho. Thaum nkawv nyob lub tsam thawj no, nkawv cia li txaus siab mus nyob tsev laus rau nom tswv tu nkawv thiaj tsis tab kaum nkawv cov mi nyuam kev nrhiav noj.

[@Hotdogwater89]

This doesn't make any sense. There's no reason why all the kids arent getting the fair and equal amount. Son or daughter, I will give to all my kids equally. I know they are your parents but they're wrong for favoritism and trying to find reasonings for doing so. Did he ever think what will happen to his kids when he dies? They will step on the one who didn't get anything and thunk they are better than him. And the one that got the most money will either feel bad or have no remorse. That's just a way you are breaking up your family. You are dying. Treat your kids equally, son or daughter or don't give at all.

[@lovetoplaywithyou3530]

If your mom is feeling sad and hurt. Take her to live with you

[@nkaujhmoobvwj]

Ur father is wrong to love them unequally.

[@leila2256]

Tus txiv no muab nyiaj tsis sib npaug rau peb tus tub 😭nws thiaj tau kev tawm tsam ntawm nws ob tug tub hlob 😭

[@vangyang4118]

I can tell the parents have favoritism.. Why won’t he make that one son pay back the $30K?

[@Kialee31]

Cuz he is the one got PhD so he is more favorite than other

[@leelaiyah789]

@@Kialee31i know right, even more reason to not help him, he's better off.

[@kong7535]

😂😂😂 you’re part of the problem. Go get help before your kids do it to you

[@bvang8370]

Most people would be jealous too if 1 gets $0, one gets $3k and the other gets $30k. Your oldest brother is correct that $3k and $30k is a huge difference. You're dad should have given only $10k max. What your father should had done is lend the $30k, not give, and ask for it back OR tell the kids that once the house is sold, it will be divided equally but minus the $3k for the oldest brother and minus the $30k for the youngest brother so in the end, everyone gets an equal amount. I think your father is not fair to say that the youngest has the most debts so he gets the most. The youngest got himself into debt so is not the other's problem. Plus, he's a doctor so he will eventually pay if off and in the future, have more money than the other 2. Plus, it's the youngest own fault for wanting to get an expensive house. The other 2 brothers probably live in cheap houses while the youngest, with the $30k, owns a nice, huge house. Does this sound fair to you? Not to me.

[@pkcyang2910]

Agreed

[@nickiengiayang]

Huh???!!!! Does it matter what the parents decide to do with their money? The sons are just selfish!

[@MonaLisa-de4cp]

I agree 💯! I was annoyed hearing that the youngest son had the nerve to ask for $ when he'll be making pretty good $. Just because he and his wife have high degrees and good jobs doesn't mean they should immediately show it to the world when they couldn't afford to at first. If he loves his parents, he should've paid it all back.

[@maryly09]

@@nickiengiayang it matters when the sons have to pay for the funeral equally but they didn't get the financial help equally. Selfish? Yes. We are humans after all. How many people wouldn't feel that they were treated unfair and feel some sort of resentments?

[@noulongyang4555]

Right. I don't understand why this sister can not understand that her parents are unfair, at least acknowledge this.

[@jaymua292]

It's all about raising your kids!!

[@cathythao9094]

These grown kids are so selfish, they don’t worry about their parents but worry about what can get from their parents. It is so typical of the children now a days. They should be happy of what they have and live their parents unconditionally.

[@ky3079]

You are right, either use all your money, or give to everyone equally. Your Dad is a hard worker and should have never given more money to 1 kid over another. If your Dad lives with your younger brother then its ok to give him more, but he doesn't.