Nie, mwari na muriu wa maitu tutionanaga ruheni| Nyokabi Ngatha

[@ngugiwakaranjamceetv]

Nyokabi Ngatha Her no 0714 809181 Kindy subscribe to her you tube channel. kzbin.info/door/n0GS03_4NUj7VAwIRSUUBQ Thanks for supporting her.

[@hisgracesuffient6046]

Indeed ✔ 👍

[@gladwelltailor]

powerful message I will one day tell my story too. This is my story from childhood until now in my fifties. I am calling you my dear. 🔥🔥💓💓🇰🇪🙏🏽📖🙋🏽😢😢

[@gladwelltailor]

powerful ngatha you something so deep in our society and it's almost 50% of Kenyan families are having narcissistic personality disorders for years 🇰🇪📖🙋🏽🙏🏽🛐

[@Perry_Paris]

This story messed my night. I have cried so much.These family wounds are real n they hurt so bad

[@mumbim6074]

Kwanza jaribu uzalie home kwenu kama hauna kakitu, you become the maid and stress reliever of the family.

[@Magerito]

Umesema, kwanza kama Hauna money 💰💰💰 or husband heeey utaona mambo,

[@franciscataiti5301]

Thro this story I changed my way of thinking completely. Niguthii riu. Forward ever backward never and I will not be held back by the past. Nyokabi future glory can not compared with past. You are teacher / counsellor to many . This is a rank above your won. Am learning from you and am your mother. Am over 50 yrs and am determined to make ends meet. There is no summary in life.

[@Chacha-sf4xs]

After watching this many thanks to both my parents they have never divided us from young age and our youngest is 44 yrs old my parents God continue to bless you more and more 😘 😘😘

[@hisgracesuffient6046]

WOW.... HATA NGUGI IS SO EMOTIONAL . NGAI AMUHE HINYA😭😭

[@janewambui6608]

This is what I have gone through with my siblings and in-laws.This interview has healed me.Realizing that you have to detach yourself, to stop treating people as family if they don't treat you as one.Leave them alone and live your life.Ndugu ni kufaana na sio kufanana.

[@alicegatama1898]

I see we are many. I have detached from haters also and we meet only when I can't avoid.

[@priscillawanjirunjenga4533]

Tuko wengi. But God knows why,now i know how to love my self before l couldn't coz i really hated my self the way people hated me,that when i realised a kikuyu saying NDUKANAMENWO WIMENE

[@alicegatama1898]

@@priscillawanjirunjenga4533 ,na uria umenagwo niwe uteithagia andu. Nii ona Nii nindakinyite gwiciria anga ngiri muuru.

[@wanguiloise6477]

I relate and identify with you Nyokabi and all the others who have gone through the same experiences. I have learnt to cut off toxic people regardless of who they are. Nii nderirwo ndiendaga andu moke gwakwa tondu kwaraga arume line by a young sibling I have helped so much. Another thing I have learnt is that in this world YOU ONLY NEED GOD ON YOUR SIDE PERIOD!!

[@wanguikamau3483]

Sorry our mother died I did everything to them but today I am theirs most Enemy we needs to form a groups we can be meeting to encourage each other's likes sisters and brothers that's what's they do here people's meet and discuss Nii mutumia wa mbere gutuika homeless bururi wa kuraya

[@jomwekserviceslimited]

This is real life…many are suffering silently. As for Nyokabi, she is in in her healing state … i can relate to her story in a way.

[@Ann_shiro]

Learning something from this woman Every time I watch her Umuthi mwauga mwarie githungu))😉😉😘😘

[@marymata8977]

i support nyoks Even good people get tired for ungrateful people fmly No ikuhurukie kahora ni kwaga umenyo.this very dangerous juu kitu ikitokea they blame yu.hugs nyoks

[@shirowkihara6577]

I keep saying there's nothing distressing like siblings rivalry it slaps differently and like Nyokabi has said,the referee is always the mother (in most cases). You can chose your friends but you can't chose your family and neighbours. We are keeping our circle small coz we want to protect our serenity and peace of mind.

[@janenjenga4535]

I totally agree with nyokabi mums r coz of everything

[@jennyrhein3031]

Listening to Nyokabi is a big therapy to many. Yes, cutting TOXIC & Negative families members & friends in our lives is the best feeling ever. It open many doors full of Positive vibes. I do so un Apologetic & I never look back. Peace of mind is everything for me.

[@mandisakahahu9022]

Amen 🙏🏻.....l am feeling you very , truely , deeply ,from the painfull , corner of my Heart....( touching...and deeply!).......Be Blessed always!....We Love you much.....and wishing you More Strength !.....Be Blessed always!💞🤲🏼💯💤🙏🏻👈🏿👏

[@catherineshiku4843]

There is something about this woman. She is lovable, happy. When ur star is bright, the darkness will never b happy. It must be attacked. U hv a great star nyoks. Love u from 🇬🇷

[@lucyfleischmann7540]

I thought I was alone in this. Thanks for sharing. You have helped me a lot.

[@sallygreg2185]

Umuthi nyokabi ena roho WA githungu githungu.... anyway you are blessed nyoks ndukamake ninkuria umiite. .

[@nancynancykarimi5593]

Nyokz unaonge ruzungu mingi sana ni vizuri uongee rukuyu iko sawa sana na wewe .

[@maryjakobssonofficiall4895]

This lady is talented na nituguthinja thahu ndukanahutie kairitu gaka in Jesus Name

[@nancymugo644]

You are not alone iam a firstborn and am treated the same by my siblings they all hate me both our parents are long gone i now have my son his wife and my grandkids take heart God is with us.

[@memeem3585]

@Nancy Mugo I would want to know how u overcome that I have the same issue and all I doo is cry but it never fades away

[@florencekariuki6232]

Nyokabi Joseph endio misili no ario a nyina no oh mathire kumwetha kindly am also a victim tafuta marafiki walio na isue Kama yako na uwafanye dada na ndugu zako me am ok with other ppl more than my family

[@Wanjamburu.23]

This girl is a gem. With a very toxic family be careful so they don't recruit your very supportive husband into their shit. But yes don't take panadol for someone's headache.

[@muthoni2008ify]

Nyokabi , you look smart , you star is great that's why watu wanakufight, I pray Jehovah fights all your battles

[@wambui185]

strong mama leo kizungu 👌👌wee mpaka uncle wa mautamu anazubaa

[@beuller8503]

Umuthi Nyokabi uraria oooh kimonimoni

[@rosendunge4217]

Oh so am not alone passing 😕 this... Aki kweli nowadays so called siblings is big no..hata kuko siku niliambia my mom 👩 watu usema damu ni nzito kuliko maji but better maji then blood....GOD IS THE ONLY TRUE 👍 FRIEND AND A FATHER 👨..blood my foot

[@wangariwangechi8117]

Always lit. Ngatha nîtûkwendete mûno

[@mademsykada3866]

Ngugi kip it up na ungeitherie mrembo ucio

[@lillalyans]

Nyokabi i support you 100% mothers can built or break up a family. Good show keep it up Nyokis an Ngugi wa Karanja.

[@harrietkagendo6803]

Mothers come here and listen to this and learn from Nyokabi's life experiences. Your enemies are members of your family

[@mamanjeri3404]

Waaah😭😭😭, wega, wendo na thayu wa Ngai witu cirotuika cia gukuigana Nyokabi 🙏🙏

[@catewahu6860]

Huyu dame anapenda kizungu sana

[@assumptahmuringo8850]

Nyoks, yu are just amazing, I, relate alot with yu, My life is very similar to yours. I, love yur mind. Yu think correct. God bless yu much.

[@shirowkihara6577]

Diabetes is a chronic (long term) health condition that affect how your body turns food into energy, so your body either doesn't make enough insulin or can't use it well as it should. It's a lifestyle disease. I felt like sharing this😊

[@Wanjamburu.23]

Toxic people don't like reasoning they far fetch issues and smear mad.

[@wapastor9724]

That is type 2 There is type 1which is genetic

[@shirowkihara6577]

@@wapastor9724 correct, thanks for the specification

[@ashleymuka7469]

But now her mom claims she gave her diabetes 😅

[@wangechindirangu7779]

Yaku nama ni shadow Nyokabi, you are a strong gal!

[@tamashaism]

Thanks for talking about that very sensitive topic. I can't imagine what you've gone through to get to that point of airing that. God bless you. If mothers lacks wisdom ucio ni ta murimu wa cancer ukaga kunyarira na kuharagania. But the siblings need to wise up and stay together in love.

[@rosendunge4217]

Nyokabi u said it well straight..mother's are dangerous 😳 na wao ndio wanapanda hii chuki hata wanaleta death between kid's..am a victim and its really painful 💔 😢..mimi kwetu my mom 👩 ametuzaa nje ya doa and she got married again na wakazaa watoi with my step father and from there akaanza kutulaani bele ya hao my step siblings kutuita mbwa na kutuambia heri hangetuzaa, na hao my step father and step siblings were always seeing 👀 how our mom matretend us, so wakakua wakijua sisi ni mbwa na hata waleo hawatuongeleshangi na ikafikia mama yetu akaanza kutuambia pamoja na step father and step siblings sisi tumezaliwa nje ya doa tusikawahi ongereshana na wakati atajua tunaongeleshana tusikawahi muita mom..😭😭😭😭💔..sasa tumebarikiwa ndio wameanza kututafuta tuwasaidie.

[@blessedwachera7133]

That’s terrible. I am so sorry that you have gone through that. I hope you are ignoring them now.

[@ruthkimani2605]

Ngugi please help nyokabi reconcile with her family its soo sad this things follow our children generational curse.its not easy remember everything starts from the spiritual world

[@cecilis756]

Behind every smile there's always a painful story to tell,may God continue to heal u baby girl,ur an inspiration to many who are suffering in silence

[@Violet3734]

Nyoks... I personally don't care about anyone's opinion... my dear worry about God ALONE ... He knows you by name. By the way the good hearted people are the ones who get judged wrongly.. hated and belittled. Create your peaceful place and you will be happy. Don't hate or carry grudges... jipende...separate yourself from anything or anyone who steals your peace. You're blessed girl

[@annwanjohi1049]

Weee nyoks i dont talk much today na mimi kesho nisipate messagge zingine nilitumiwa,i need peace but as u always say family are the most toxic things

[@annwanjohi1049]

U got another sister here usijali

[@simplyloise6820]

@@annwanjohi1049 we are in the same boat my sisters hate me so much my mum ananichukia pia they don't care about me

[@ChildofDestiny-2023]

@@simplyloise6820 hugs to you dear, I can’t imagine hating my own child 😢😢 so sad 😞😮

[@ndegwagichinga6005]

Personally siblings rivalry is all brought about by mother's .....what else unless you keep off and live like they never exist

[@sarahwandiba30]

This story opened my wounds which I have been healing for 5years now. As per now nalia tu, I felt your pain Nyokabi coz I know how it feels to have toxic families

[@zulfawaithera5479]

Pole saana

[@stellahnjagiakaemma9057]

Woiii kumbe to gwitù tuu gwakanaga mwaki Ngai! Nìì nìkìo nginya itangiheana rwakwa rùgano gùkù mìtamboìni tondù ingìrwo nigùcambithia family my foot! Thank God despite all I went through God has been faithful....nilisema kila mtu aishi maisha yake. Am in the U.K and doing well otherwise some siblings are just hell.... wìhoke Ngai tuu

[@loisekiiru8261]

Ona gwitu kumaga wa 🔵

[@maryjakobssonofficiall4895]

Am in your shoes am going the same issue but Nyokabi you are a healer an angle sent from heaven waga gwa guthii ugoka gwitu you are 110%wellcome

[@auntiepiarants2238]

Nyokabi keep strong. Mimi am going through this at the moment with my family and I am the last born.

[@blessedjay1461]

Nyokabi & MC, this is where mediation comes in. To find a common ground for all. Mediation is a win-win situation. I am a mediator and no situation is that hard.

[@hisgracesuffient6046]

That would be great. What do you charge. We help Nyoks out if she's interested.

[@ashleymuka7469]

From the comments, people can relate to this. We ni we muhuhi wa coro wa ma because you address the tough issues people don't want to speak for fear of being victimized. Ngai mbere...

[@gladwellgichuki8329]

Very touching story, she's telling the truth hii story niliona na my uncle separating kids saa hii hawaonanangi kwa macho.Leave people alone Nyokabi only God knows the truth.Keep smiling gal.

[@ztezte8009]

Nyokabi tuko wengi don't worry mungu akiwa upande wetu atatupingania

[@lydiamuthoni3298]

Waa this hard feeling ever this reminds me of my family right now Ido value (mugikuyu)than family they like u when use bt when you are in pain they run nsee u sence less (ndwiciriragia) I don't go in family gathering evei burial no fr peace of mind

[@carolinemukundi880]

Theses manenos are there and not many can understand,am afirst born I know what it means

[@wanja6144]

thayu Nyokabi

[@zippymbugua8996]

Reke nguire nii 1st born witu riamuisho ndamuiguire 2017 and am peace i had that he said i hate him for nothing.

[@ja9293]

Don't carry unnecessary loads, I agree with her.......those who do not want to be in your life can leave.....

[@carolinemukuhi2973]

For me I will say learn how to love yourself don't expect anyone to love you more than yourself our happiness and joy should come from within us but not from others,with or without them you can be happy, you don't need to explain yourself to anyone if a person don't like you it's their business,you don't need to do things for people to love you or accept you,you don't even try to justify yourself to anyone let people love you for who you are and if they don't it's their problem be free live a healthy life we just have one life to live in this earth make sure you utilise it very well and the most important know that God's love for you is sufficient be happy you are liberated.

[@paulkamau5096]

And i would add... You cannot give what you dont have. If you cannot love self, you cannot love others. Simpl; garbage in garbage out.

[@margaretwachoro7532]

Woow true

[@communken5577]

Woi pole sana madam Ngatha it’s very sad that you had to go through so much in life and then your family neglected you to such level but and I say but I will tell you to forgive especially your dear mum forgive them this will give another chance to like them for start and always you to be at peace take care of your soul by forgiving them

[@merinanakhanu8243]

I also wares the same shoe, the only way to get out of this is just distance loving and assume the past because you will never change how they persive you ,let the nature take course.and am also healed. thank you for sharing this.

[@sarahkague4525]

This is an outbreak I think particularly in mt kenya region. How sad this is, but I agree completely just cos you are born together doesnt mean you are tied for life. I think this goes back to as far as the old testament. Be strong

[@kmipos]

You have said it,am going through the same predicament

[@paulkamau5096]

Its all over my dear. Am a teacher and i can tell this is a tragedy. Unfortunately, it already beyond repair. There's absolutely nothing that can be done about it. We just play our parts independently and pray it doesn't go further.

[@janewambui6011]

UI Nyoks you are not allone my two sis did wedding they never invited my husband my three children and i even uthoni imagine nilienda kusalimia my mom bila kujua kuko na uthoni nikapatawatu wamejaa huko nikarudi Nairobi kwangu mazishi ndio watajulisha mume wangu ndio achange

[@hisgracesuffient6046]

This is so painful 💔. God help this young mother. Give her peace, wisdom and the grace to abound much more. Pole Nyoks. You are such a genius. Please advance in life. I am proud of you how far you have come. I hope baby boy is doing well.

[@nyokabingatha]

Thank you. Our boy is okey. I was referred to KISE so that we can find a school where he will be taught at his own pace by professionals who understand ADHD and dyslexia. I will be going there next week.

[@hisgracesuffient6046]

@@nyokabingatha please don't give up. I wish he was here in the US. Sounds like a smart boy. Apply citizenship ya America when it opens please. Tafuta passport yako mapema. God is in control. Both of you with hubby apply. I believe something good will happen.

[@nyokabingatha]

@@hisgracesuffient6046 yeah. He is quite smart n his IQ is quite high. Wow. I will apply... Naambiangwa huko ni kuzuri na such kids coz they help the kids identify their talents and major on them unlike Kenya where we measure intelligence by the ability of one to write and read

[@hisgracesuffient6046]

@@nyokabingatha thats ✅. They teach them well and remain int he regular school system. Usikufe moyo mama. This is your champion. His star will shine. Most celebs here have had ADHD and Dyslexia but it does not define them. It shall be well. God is not mocked He has a great future for him.

[@ruthwairimu1582]

Ici niciarega mitheko. Ngugi umuthi ndaratheka na niguo endete gutheka. Dont worry Nyoks. Mimi nimechukiwa na everybody kwetu and I dont care. I have gone through sibling hatred. Its so painful. But at the end of the day, its my life. I detached myself and I have sèen the hand of God in my lifw

[@hisgracesuffient6046]

Nyoks i can't imagine the pain and heart break 💔. Our God is able to heal your heart but you'll never forget.

[@patriciawairimu1750]

Sooo painful 💔, I have seen it happen in our dad's family ..but what I know is that God is watching from above ..nyokabi ur strong,keep fighting on.... Mothers ...may God help us through,let's take care of our kids and teach them the right ✅ 🙏 🙏 🙏 🙏.

[@alicegatama1898]

Nyokabi ,people hate you when they want what you have and can't have. For one,you are a very strong personality and you will go far.

[@Tricia542]

Nyokabi you are such a vibe dear.Let no one bring you down.keep going girl na nakupenda sana.You must be ahead of them that's why.

[@reginawanjirumwai5178]

The English i speak when am angry strong gal

[@lucywachira3056]

Sending you love and light Nyokabi,you are blessed and special.

[@priscillawanjirunjenga4533]

The problem comes when they start recruiting others and that when the Hell comes in alot of people who are toxic will show you who you are coz this people have formed a group called RUMENA RWA GWATIO

[@patriciawairimu1750]

Nyokabi I love u for free for sure,,full of wisdom May God be with you always 🙏. When I c u in the show can't miss it out coz I have learnt alot..

[@jenniferkabo3088]

Yes. VERY WISE.

[@jenniferkabo3088]

👑

[@esthermoliba2776]

Nyokabi my best you look so lovely and the hair style look sooo nice... keep up and don't think about the past.. that's life for today

[@vgeegodseed1720]

This very true even in Arabs family .I worked with a family for 5years . firstborn can do to others whatever he want and insults as he like and he is the best for the parents.im happy because at school teachers started complaining of his behaviour and even the other relatives ..sorry wamother

[@emmy_1658]

Hi MC thanks for inviting Nyokabi atleast she has encouraged me coz I went thru the same thing with my family....nimeona am not alone but God is with us...it's so sad and pls invite someone who will uplift us coz it's painful we need encouragement message ndio we try to forget all what happened but it's not easy

[@davidmbugua715]

tuko wengi .....am telling you

[@sarahngige1589]

Matinyonaga nomathina niokaga but hii yote ni mathy amefanya kuketi chini kuniongelelea yet no positivity wanaezasema ni uongo ata usaidie mtu they will say you don't.

[@dynamuirury8983]

Am so sorry nyokabi for what you have gone through ....just keep off from them they will drain you to dead.

[@Magerito]

Very true nyokabi they are projecting there insecurities to be safe, what you are speaking it's very true, I have seen that in our family, may Jesus Christ of Nazareth have mercy, you have answered many questions I was having, and Jesus Christ love you njokabi ..…....

[@muhikiwajesu7291]

tumepitia mingi only God know how we feel inside .... family ziko n maneno

[@Riverjordan1330]

💯 %mothers contributes this hates in family. Ndio apewe pesa na kila mtoto bila wengine kujua. This story is 💯 my equal to my family. You’re not alone my sister.75%of kikuyu parents sides with who has money that period. This story should be aired to kameme and inooro, and citizen ntv,ktn. For everyone to know, coz most ppl we visit Kenya and stay in hotels. Because the ppl you call family. They’re like Aliens to you.

[@shezbeenhere993]

Very true which is very wrong as a parent

[@blessedwachera7133]

This is spot on. And it’s always mothers. Fathers are not this divisive. But mothers are experts in the “divide and rule” method of parenting. And they are also very money minded. The child who has the most money is their favorite.

[@leahmutugu1496]

Well said

[@rose-ou1di]

Very true

[@monicagatumbo1751]

You're genius my dear

[@michellenaomi6642]

I can support nyokabi what she is saying mother's engineers hatred within kids like me we don't talk because my mum is like kutupiganisha Hadi we no longer speak to each other. Soo sad...

[@wambui185]

😢😢😢

[@monicagatumbo1751]

I can relate

[@valrest3466]

If anybody want to leave your life let them do so .life is very short to carry unnecessary loads everyday

[@kairitukamwathani3995]

Hapo nikweli mzazi huchangia xana

[@vickeyngare1854]

nyokabi you are a strong woman.......the bible says that the Lord shall never leave you even 8f all the others leave.....stay strong,focused and calm. I thank God for your wonderful husband....May your love together double to compensate the love of your family....penda wewe mama.

[@abbiemumbi]

The stone the builders rejected became the corner stone. God loves those who are rejected by people. I identify with your story. What to do 1) have zero expectations from anyone. Expect nothing. Not siblings, not parents. They will not surprise you negatively. But when they step up to the mark as siblings, parents or family Then you will be pleasantly surprised. We cant choose 👪. Toxic love them at a distance. And if you are blessed Never deny them help but Protect your heart. Protect your space Protect yourself No is as good an answer as a yes I love you Nyoks I add any parent can do it not just mothers.

[@mercy8026]

I love her thanks for sharing your story ❤️ you're such a vibe

[@AMG-MercedesBenz]

The kizungu is showing how she is feeling... very serious matter from her heart!! God is good and He is on your side Nyokabi.

[@veshexercise]

Diabetes is a cause of unhealthy eating, lack of exercise and can also be brought about by stress. Am sorry to hear that your mom and siblings blame you for this. Nyoks you are a gem and always remember you are the creator of your own happiness, many things will be said and I think it's wise for you to keep a distance for healing,give your family time one day they will come to see your worth and silent is never misquoted,you are lucky that your husband understands and respect you,

[@agnesmuthoni4901]

Hii story imefanya nilie nikijua haya dio napitia ..mpaka mama akambukiza kwa watoto wangu..i wish iam in kenya ningeongea haya

[@wanjikumwaura9229]

Don't worry tuko pamoja.

[@brianwalter697]

Hi 👋 tuko pamoja Nyoks wee uko afadhali mii last year nilionwa vita na bro mwenye ni wa pili kutoka Kwangu na kuniita Malaya.ubro uliishia hapo.Am Joy using some1s account

[@emilymaina5856]

Nyokabi don't maid you are not alone in that situation. Even me my sisters told me I'm devil worship. It's painful but God heal the heart and one day God will show him self.

[@mamaesther6777]

Tuko 8 but Mimi Niko pekeyangu,Saba wako pamoja but my God is watching,it is painful to me

[@margaretkaranja1864]

Wivu ni mbaya sana. Some r very jealousy n lazy that's why they cook story after failing in their miserable life

[@hannahkinjo4322]

Hii story nikama yangu my mom alipotea macho akasema ni Mimi,tena alikuwa na hasira towards me ati ni Mimi nilifanya apitie yenye aliwa anapitia,I felt so disappointed,but what I did nilitafuta pesa akatibiwa macho,saii macho yake iko sawa and we are great friends right now ,so nataka kusema Kuna spirit inaingiaga wazazi wakati wanapitia hell,riu uria mekaga nikumena mwana wao , muno muno the first born

[@mamamalaika4413]

Waoh, this is so sad. They may blame u for your Mom's diabetes but don't blame yourself. Do they know how that illness attacks the system? If they knew, they will not. You are a strong woman. Lift up your head and walk on, don't let your family slowly kill you. Women, let's not be part of siblings rivalry 😢

[@ritaroggs]

am waaaay older than yu gal but umepitia mengi sana...n yu are so mature n hardened up... am happy yuv handled it well.sending yu hugs sister!! pole sana but am glad yuv accepted n moved on. hugs gal.

[@paulinekigundu348]

Karanja, thank for giving the lady your flat form to power out her bitter life. Now it's your responsibility to bring that family together.

[@familyhour351]

I just love the advise stick to your lane!

[@marynjoroge5894]

Love you gal....leo ni kizungu...kizungu..... beautiful ❤️

[@daviesnganga640]

Nyokabi don't u worry, these whats going on in many families only that u don't fake yourself hence able to talk trying to iron everything. It's so sad but a new day is coming since the mom is already healed n the pain in u soon will b out cz you are a victor. Since you are comfortable by now things will wake up fine one day.

[@wanguikamau3483]

Sorry for what your going through but mine is worse than yours

[@jamiemo6568]

Pole gal,Stay strong 💪 💖

[@marynjeri7971]

Nyokabi geragia kwaria na gikuyu maita maingi. Ngugi wa Karanja niugeragia gucokera uria Nyokabi aroiga. Ningatho. Nyokabi gikuyu ni kuega....

[@njerisande551]

Do not worry; but this things there every where; and we have to address them when the parents are alive

[@gladwellgithui1242]

I love her laughter May God fight you

[@winniendegwa8135]

Thanks so much for the highlights you're not alone...