No Contact Is Key To Get An Avoidant Ex Back

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@CoachCraigKenneth 2 ай бұрын

My Creative Healing Course or Knowledge Workbooks will help you learn to date an Avoidant! (Yes and anxious people too!)

@chrislim7976 2 ай бұрын

Once the hurt goes away accept, be grateful and avoid the avoidant. Freedom from an avoidant is amazing. :)

@anthonyrodriguezmusic6738 2 ай бұрын

Wish I knew this stuff 4 months ago lol. I did everything wrong, the letters, the constant reaching out, showing up to her house. None of it works. I’m currently doing no contact with my avoidant ex hoping it works. She did reach out to say happy birthday so I guess I can take that as a good sign.

@astronomyabc9552 2 ай бұрын

Best wishes for your happiness

@RJ_HTx 2 ай бұрын

And what was your reply ?

@xbox_beyond 2 ай бұрын

lol mine didn't say happy birthday after 7 months of no contact so good on you.

@anthonyrodriguezmusic6738 2 ай бұрын

@@RJ_HTx i just said thank you hope you and your family are doing well. she didnt answer but she 'liked' the message

@propsaganda 2 ай бұрын

@@anthonyrodriguezmusic6738yeah, the breadcrumbing “like” of your message sounds just like them. Been with my DA for 20 years now and 3 kids later. As much as I miss the old her, I don’t think she’s ever coming back. Had to ask myself if I wanted another 20 years of this mess…hell no. Your feelings are natural and I encourage you to work on yourself as much as possible. I’ve been getting fit and getting so much attention from women seemingly more secure style. I can imagine how well it will be if I keep it up.

@patrickl3238 Ай бұрын

All of my ex's have come back to me after no contact. Sometimes a year later! Never did any name calling, raise my voice, or do much chasing. I'm not perfect but a lot of the times they leave because of something small and built up resentment. It was never because I did anything over the top (like my parents). I go back to these videos to remind myself this. I'm now 1.5 months in with no contact. I don't hold any bitterness. This woman goes way beyond my values but I had an insane connection and she was smokin HOT. Anyways, going no contact in the past made me realize that we were just not meant for each other and makes you reevaluate how much integrity you hold to your own values

@marysdiaries5312 Ай бұрын

It's not easy to be with an avoidant. I've been there. It's an emotional rollercoaster. They need to be aware and go to therapy. Stop hoping for them to come back, you'll just be stuck. Move on, heal and you'll attract a secure partner.

@SNicole82 2 ай бұрын

I’m not sitting and waiting on anyone to come back around when they’re ready like I’m something you put on a shelf and come play with it when you’re ready. My avoidant ex and I broke up 2 months ago and I have been no contact. I’m personally not reaching out and he needs to see a therapist before he talks to me. I don’t think we will ever work out because I personally don’t have the capacity to deal with an avoidant unless they are doing some kind of healing. It’s too unfair to my emotional health.

@verarobinson6759 22 күн бұрын

Now i understand why my ex was behaving like that I miss him alot hope he will come back everything was perfect he broke up with me suddenly I was in shock praying that he comeback

@narayanprasad5244 2 ай бұрын

I am in a lot of pain. I know this is normal within weeks of being broken up but it is almost too much to take. The tears are always so close to the surface. I just miss her so very much. I hope everyone else is doing good. I wish everyone watching these videos all the very best and hope some well-deserved happiness arrives for you soon.

@gret9815 Ай бұрын

It will get better I promise you. I was the same couple of months ago, it still hurts but not like before! Just give yourself time!

@carlfreiermuth5424 2 ай бұрын

she was avoidant, I was a good partner, I was willing and able... she wasn't. she missed out. maybe she's ok.. maybe she's not.. apparently it's none of my business.

@jenrn1147 Ай бұрын

This was extremely helpful and insightful, Thank you so much and keep them coming. I wish I’d know this years before but better late than never

@zorg1100 2 ай бұрын

Any chance to restock the Margaret mug?

@CraigNeverSunday 2 ай бұрын

But what if they are avoidant and have depression? Even more no contact? haha! Well at least it gives me extra time to work on myself! woo! My ex told me that the feelings of love scared her and that I was a perfect partner, so most likely a fearful avoidant, well its been 5 months, I'm now open to meeting other people, but I'd like to at least keep the door open, but that relationship only lasted 4 months, so I just wish her well at this point and hope she finds someone better for her. Also I feel called out by Victoria here! haha! 11:20, but absolutely correct! 👍

@Wishesgranted250 2 ай бұрын

This was great thank you!!

@MagnusNilsson-d6r 2 ай бұрын

How can they process their grief and if they need their space, why do they move on with a rebound?

@sjklfnegsdrno 2 ай бұрын

Because the rebound is a superficial relationship that gives them dopamine and distracts them from processing their feelings about the break-up.

@flower_7890 Ай бұрын

Great content many thanks 😊🤗 I wondered if you could do a video about 2 fearful avoidants? Is it possible for them to find a middle ground and be happy?

@MsPatriot420 2 ай бұрын

No, sir! What is key for having anything ever with a Dismissive Avoidant is that they get the serious counseling they need to function properly in a relationship. Everyone needs to be in endless NO CONTACT and sit alone in grief for who knows how long just to be with this person? That's frankly just arrogance, not low self-esteem. I've heard plenty about how Dismissive Avoidants love and are used to people chasing them and when someone they are involved with doesn't they are shocked by it. Yes, I'm sure it's a real blow to their ego! But, what about the effect this has on a normal person?? Is this good for their future? It isn't!! Why should the rest of us live our lives in this miserable way? I and my siblings had a terrible childhood - worse than just having our feelings ignored! Other people I've spoken to have also, but we don't neglect, abuse, and trash people never looking in the rear view mirror. I believe most of these people know they have a problem and refuse to do the work. NO PASS.

@DonaldMeyers-v8c 2 ай бұрын

Yeah. You sound super healed with that whole rambling rant. Solid work!

@MsPatriot420 2 ай бұрын

@@DonaldMeyers-v8c I'm not healed yet and the only thing I am doing towards "work" is walking away and making sure I don't get involved with another BOZO. I was in a wonderful marriage so I know what love and normal living looks like. Making excuses and exceptions for bad behavior in people helps no one. When you get out in dating world it should be about finding someone with similar interests and lifestyles, not mental illness that should and could be dealt with.

@caseyw.6550 2 ай бұрын

God i WISH I was avoidant!

@LeonScottKennedy7 2 ай бұрын

Thank you Craig and Victoria

@Txbunny 2 ай бұрын

Currently going through a breakup. 2 weeks in. There’s been contact because he wants to still be friends, but yet he’s an avoidant and only texts me “Have a nice day. Bless you. Thank you.” It’s getting really annoying. I’ve been watching your content and it’s been helping. Thank you. Also, yes I am anxious attachment style. My question is when they even apply that type of needing total space in the relationship how do I navigate that if I personally need communication? I will add that I am working on becoming secure and I have taken to heart you saying that in able to have a healthy relationship with a secure person, that I have to become more secure than they are.

@cytvonline 2 ай бұрын

Went through this Same shit! Avoidants are just some difficult being to deal with in this situation

@sindymaricic7369 2 ай бұрын

Oh the bread crumbs it's really unfair on you. Have a look at the video....he texts me weekly, Coach gives great advice, it's my story my Ex is an Avoidant.

@CraigNeverSunday 2 ай бұрын

Ask yourself do you truly want to be friends with him? or are you only accepting friendship because you will do anything to keep him? If its the latter, I suggest going into no contact, The fact is he broke it off because he is prioritizing his own needs and not taking yours into account, so he won't be able or willing to meet your need for communication, even as a friend - take the time to heal and work on yourself and let him come to you when he is ready to have a real conversation, by then he will be able to see the queen you have become. 👍

@Txbunny 2 ай бұрын

@@CraigNeverSunday thank you so much for this! 🙏🏼

@CraigNeverSunday 2 ай бұрын

@@Txbunny I honestly hope it helps and wish you the best!

@lmfisher650 2 ай бұрын

Can you become avoidant after being broken hearted as an adult, not so much childhood trauma?

@hardiksaini25786 Ай бұрын

Yes

@lmfisher650 Ай бұрын

@@hardiksaini25786 ok thanks

@hmaroni9572 14 күн бұрын

I guess so too! Might be a very bad relationship for example

@haaze8380 Ай бұрын

Im currently doing no contact with my avoidant ex and i was wondering if i should break that because she is having a major surgery coming up and i dont know if i should wish her the best or say nothing. Any advice?

@baskin283 2 ай бұрын

This is nice video and informative. I’m in strategic no contact with an avoidant and i’m (anxious style)anyhow due to kids, marriage etc, for over 2months now just now recently in the last two weeks i’ve noticed some softness on his end like letting me know when he’s back in town from work trip because he keeps our daughter while i’m at work a couple days a week. He works from home. So he messages me now to let me know when he’s back in town and that be it. I say ok welcome back. He recently bought me a pair of sneakers. I says thank you, when he messages me I respond in a nice way. However I don’t message him first it’s only in reference to our kid. But now it seems he’s gone cold. I wonder why? I get the feeling he expects me to reach out to him and he sees I’m not he’s like backed away, no pics of our daughter while he has her or no communication like he’s been doing he stopped.

@RakeemDixon Ай бұрын

Some of these comments are so negative. I get everyone’s situation is hard and going through a breakup is difficult but some of these comments are very resentful and negative.

@OiVinn-eq1ml 2 ай бұрын

They were clingy when they were drunk & had an addiction & always caused us to argue & fight. It made me very defensive. Now they are avoidant when they are sober

@Muz6969 2 ай бұрын

My avoidant ex blocked me 9 months ago,but every 1-2 weeks I get fake accounts adding me and messaging me on Facebook? Is it likely to be him?also his friends and family have been also adding me but I’m still blocked.so confused

@archangelelmo 2 күн бұрын

Did your ex ever reach out to you???

@Muz6969 2 күн бұрын

@archangelelmo no but still getting fake accounts adding and messaging me xxx

@rubiales_123 2 ай бұрын

What's about avoidant I have children with and I need to communicate with her about the kids?

@carlfreiermuth5424 2 ай бұрын

it seems that the word "empath" is used as a derogatory term by people with avoidant attachment styles, describing people that actually consider the feelings of others. if you display the capacity to consider the feelings of others, be proud of yourself and forget what the avoidants' say.

@-taylor-9980 Ай бұрын

I have never begged or pleaded but until last year I finally found love and I may have tried to seek reassurance when she was being distant and that's caused problems. Only ever had one ex get back intouch and I was the dumper and it was after 10 years and during my recent no contract journey! Weird! 😂 I really need to set myself a time limit because I'm still hooked on her after a whole year but she's not said anything. Understandable her mother is a controlling narc and wants her to remain single. This behaviour is an offense under UK statutes I hope my ex takes legal action and heals from this! ❤❤❤

@Trust_worthy_24 2 ай бұрын

The way they reached out and flirted and told me they have been talking to sm1 else (who crushed on my ex) even before breaking up and i showed how that i was disappointed hearing that. Told them iv been pursued by many ppl in no contact but i gave no hope to anyone and im not interested in knowing anyone at this time im healing. They said same . They said they are not interested in that person and they will tell that person they are not interested.but after that they flirted again and then they had lost a member of the family a bit far not really close since when they told me they are till now disappeared again...

@Christina_hcm Ай бұрын

Could I expect anything when it’s only a 4 month relationship? We did discuss a lot of things about the future, then 2 weeks later, he broke up with me under the stupidest reasons. He has a lot going on and was very sick the day we broke up. He is currently on a vacation, which will really distract him…

@dmitryisaev5955 2 ай бұрын

I have been trying hard to make her feel safe, be consistent (6,5 years)… and still no trust?! Couldn’t she see that it is what avoidant is longing for ? Really weird. 😮

@kevinholcomb292 2 ай бұрын

Why would you want one back?!

@Gawdmannyy 2 ай бұрын

My gf for 4 years left me a month later she dating a new guy. She says she's really happy and in peace now. She's now getting high, she thinks this man is perfect he's Dominican too I know he giving her drugs and her new friends too. I'm worried about her because she's a good girl. But she changed a lot. I work out im in last year of college plus I work for a business company I go to church. everyone is telling me she will regret it but time will tell I guess.. I messed up before in the past but I changed to be a better man for her. I got karma maybe I deserve it.. but it broke my heart she found someone already.. how do you feel about this?

@robinharrison4902 Ай бұрын

You are ahead of your game. She would only have bring negativity to your life. Sometimes you need those obstacles to reamise what you want and need in your life. And if she decides to chabge her attitide, well who knows what the fitire will be about. Anyway you'll find the peace and the love you deserve. Just accept there is a path for you and that path might not be always flat

@di114n2 2 ай бұрын

What’s the key is she’s secure . I feel like I’ve done everything right and I’ve heard nothing . She reached out about a month ago saying she missed me and she’d like to meet up when we’re fully healed but haven’t heard a peep since

@LuluDZulu 2 ай бұрын

im in a similar boat. i did everything right, everyone tells me so, but shes gotta go through whatever tf shes gotta go through. Its pretty agonizing.

@Daily_VIP 2 ай бұрын

See the problem is that you’re focusing on her rather than your healing process and be able to detach yourself from her. It’s very important to try to move on emotionally before she even try to consider to come back. She have to feel the fear that your moving on and you should emotionally move on. Do your activities and let the time be on your side and surly she will feel your absence if there was any serious relationship and you were a great partner. My ex broke up with me July 2024 and I’m in healing process and not thinking of her anymore, but I’m sure she still got feelings for me and I’m in positive mindset and trying my best to detach myself completely for her to come back. You should do the same thing. I hope this helped you a little bit. Best of luck✨

@astrialias7605 2 ай бұрын

Hello Coaches, I have a question about No Contact: Does no contact also mean deleting the ex's number? Not block but delete. Thank you 🙏

@xx5a1Maxx 2 ай бұрын

No contact simply means no reaching out. You can delete their number if you want, but if they do contact you you’d probably would want to know who it is. And remember to not ignore them when they do contact you, that’s assuming you still want to repair the relationship.

@astrialias7605 2 ай бұрын

@@xx5a1Maxx Thank You!

@uno5976 2 ай бұрын

most of the avoidant are men.Girl are able to see that coming I think. Avoidant woman are a different beast u never expect how they think. Most of my relation were with secure or anxious, but the way avoidant women opperate just destroyed me next level. Be safe out there guys.

@RakeemDixon Ай бұрын

So what the hell do I do about this