No matter how nice you are they will never like you

[@r.s1955]

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[@dontbelasagna5968]

Same.. sometimes i wonder if they were only nice because i give off the vibe that I'm easy to control? Because I'm a people pleaser but at the same time, i have my own boundaries as well.. to the point that even when i don't want to associate with them, i was just slowly disconnecting myself to the group and start doing things alone and didn't even badmouth them when people asked me why I'm not with them anymore..then,i found out they badmouth me, making up stories and even said im just looking for sympathy for being alone lol what? 😅😅 tbh, im glad i dont care enough abt them even I'm so much of a people pleaser, i just know when something or someone smells like poop inside out, why would i care for someone that doesn't contribute anything to my life other than their negativity and being energy vampires lol

[@ThalBlankson]

Salam I relate to this so well. I would always try to be nice and respectful to people and try to befriend sisters but they were cold to me when I would approach them. I struggled with being a people pleaser for years.

[@annoyjoy9190]

hey ! i have this freind who i think doesnt respect me . She asks favours like can you do this can you do that . When i dont do this she complains and says im mean or careless . She treats my other freind wiht more respect . why is this happening and what can i do ? I think you are a very insightful , wise person and you know a lot about social skills so im looking forward to your reply ! also if i ask her a favour she doesnt do it as if she is above me she is better at a few subject acedemically and i sometimes feels like she looks down on me

[@MeryemKaya2300]

This girl is in a internal race with you. Keep going with kindly rejecting her wishes. With such complainings, she actually tries to manipulate you by holding herself superior to you. In fact, when she cannot get what she wants, she despises herself and thats her weakness. Hope it helps Have a nice day🌸

[@NadiraRobleh-r5e]

hey, I relate to this, since a young kid I was always nice to people and even stressed myself until I was unwell because I couldn't understand how some individuals could intentionally act maliciously towards me, I had no tell me to stop being bad peoples friends until I started attributing their same hateful behaviour as my own. I became depressed and resentful.

[@NadiraRobleh-r5e]

from now on, i will NEVER be friendly or sacrificing to people who DONT like me

[@MeryemKaya2300]

This attitude is really, really good. Life teached me that sometimes I had to be "rude" and "careless". But also be an angel towards other people. I'm sorry. I really hope you are going to feel better.

[@minit8926]

5:01 Omg you're so right like literally the same experience iam having. I started college back in September last year and i meet 4 girls who i saw at first glance and i was happy you know to be with them and not be all alone in college because its hard. Fast-forward: when ever i try to speak with them in group chat they would ignore EVERYTHING!! Wich really made me inscure with my self " did i do something to upset them why just why And after the would exclude me when we are doing projects with like " oh can you move away!!!? than when ever we sit together they would give these nasty looks ?! Like why are you trating me like that ? So second semster they act like i doint exist here,

[@MeryemKaya2300]

Like literally why do they become friends with you at all when they will treat you like that? Just ignore them you deserve and will meet better people

[@NadiraRobleh-r5e]

hey! so a 5 years ago when I was 16 years old, I went through something really sad. im really embarrassed and scared to say- but i was home alone taking a bubbly bath in my toilet and my neighbours who i used to think was a good person and i used to treat with kindness, stood outside my toilet window and took images of me. he maliciously spread the images around town, schools, colleges, strangers, and social media and he amassed a large friendship by using ME. For a 16-year-old, it was really traumatising and the future felt black. i had to drop out of college when I was a smart student with a strong future. the boys ( a lot of boys) who caused me problems, they used me as fuel for gossip and drama so intensely that it got the specific boy who started it married and lots of friendship and allies protecting them. i had to take medicine so i was delirious to the harassment,ent I received . i not joking when i say this but i strong visions of "passing away" becuase of these "boys".

[@NadiraRobleh-r5e]

I'm not asking for help, but you seem exactly like the person of girl i used to be when I went through problems- can you give me advice on what to do and think. If anyone in this Muslim comment section is able to give me advice, i will be grateful to take it as advice and a blessing from Allah.

[@TayyabNaqvi-du1ki]

Sister....can you tell me what book of Hadith you learn?

[@MeryemKaya2300]

I use bukhari and muslim and tirmidhi a lot but nesai, ebu davud and ibn mace are as trustworthy as them