Nonsuicidal Self-Injury

[@sayswice5621]

I've found that my self-harming behavior is used as a grounding tool when I'm panicking. Not necessarily the best, but definitely not suicidal.

[@sayswice5621]

I haven't tried the ice cube thing. I've tried to stray away from physical means of calming myself down and have tried to practice mindfulness. Being aware of my physical body in space but mostly convincing myself that I'm safe in this moment. Focusing on breathing or a word game in my head to ground myself instead of using pain.

[@samhawk6709]

sayswice ok

[@corymodzeleski7191]

I have to agree. I had a panic attack earlier today and I started banging my head into the wall and that helped me calm down a bit.

[@mrsslamenjamen]

Wow thankyou for this ... i can actually really relate to this alot because i would be sooooo overwhelmed in emotional break down mode & the “grounding” actually makes sense when you explain it like that. Wow

[@rotomwash0355]

Harm reduction my friend. Trade whatever you had for an ice cube in hand. The intensity of the ice will stimulate and distract you when placing the ice on your jugular vein for a few seconds. Off and on for ten or fifteen seconds. Swap out the melting ice cube for a new one. A round or three or twelve of ice on the jugular can get us through that urge, satisfy it ( your mileage may vary) and we can then move on from that feeling until it pops up later ( if it does, but we know it might) .

[@sabinaaslam4049]

I hit myself every time I'm angry. Punching myself or punching the wall or banging my head on the wall. I have no other coping mechanism 😭

[@angelmehrsaa]

same omg

[@Sophie-y3v]

I usually just hit myself with anything that is in my hand if nothing is in my hand I grab something usually my phone case

[@jcullitan3241]

exact same, i have done and have to do so much dry wall repair. It sounds stupid but i'm glad i'm not the only one. I'm sorry, i wouldn't wish this on anyone

[@haroldinho9930]

Same. Sometimes I bang my head against the wall just for people to laugh as well.

[@samuraijapan1904]

@@haroldinho9930 damn same man

[@The1stMrJohn]

physical pain is a distraction from mental anguish. in a similar way that drugs/alcohol can be used.

[@AR1GAT0]

Self harm helps me stay away from the other extreme. Though it's very hard when your family find you in this condition. It scares them.

[@mrh8887]

Explain please

[@alicialawson168]

I agree...it's so hard when it scares them. After my friends and brother urged me to tell my parents ("I'm not going to tell them yet, if it gets worse I have to tell them to keep you safe, but I know you're strong enough to tell them") I told my parents. Their horrified expressions will haunt me for so long...i hate it.

[@katiezabel2110]

Also, I'm almost 5 months clean, but when I did cut (I still think about it but I won't act on it) it was when I was especially anxious. When I couldn't control my anxiety, or depression I'd cut. It made me feel like I had control over myself and my feelings, but thanks to you I told my parents about it. I'm going to my first therapy appointment on the 26th, thank you Kati

[@katiezabel2110]

+Kati Morton (Mental Health Vlogger) Thank you. 💕 You're the best.

[@suuprasonic]

6 months clean ☺️

[@rubybradshaw53]

Sonica Henriquez 14 days clean x

[@haveahappymealjunk3483]

How do you cope?

[@leakhoury8879]

One day clean after 2 years.

[@idafryland7692]

@@leakhoury8879 congrats

[@river1403]

Good job! Keep going! 👍

[@rae_shares]

sometimes, physical pain is enough to numb whatever going on in my head that's out of control. it might hurt but, i know it'll heal and i'm the one in control of how i self-injure.

[@mightytaco123]

I don't get angry I go straight to depression and self harm to get rid of the sadness

[@NIOXKOXBOX]

I don't get angry ether. I have almost forgotten how it feels. I don't like anger and yelling so I stopped. Even back when I got angry it was connected with me crying and not being fully offensive. My life is getting good now and I feel happy, even when I am sad now it feels good because it was so much worse before. In my life anger isn't necessary and hopefully you don't need it ether but the self harm can be translated to something else I think. I have gone outside thinking I will leave my life behind with all the stress that is in it. After a long walk I get more calm and relaxed because the Ide was so real, but after a wile I had gather enough strength to go back to my life and gotten some nice insight. Maybe that could work for you too. Is it hard for you too to connect to people when they say they get angry at things?

[@issamissa902]

Me too lol I wish my reactions were more chilled

[@Thomas-do7rh]

All these girls listened to Billie Ellish

[@scorpiiiondude3327]

@@Thomas-do7rh Hey, that's not really funny. Sure maybe some of them did but not every girl who does this listenes to billie eilish, this is a real thing and not a joke and if you're on a video like this, your really need to understand that.

[@hp640.]

@@Thomas-do7rh of course it's the roblox pfp

[@xproomis6242]

When i cry so much that I can’t breath anymore is when I cut because after that I stop crying and it relax me 😪 in the moment it feel so good honestly, that ‘s why its so addictive ( for me )

[@playgirl4249]

xproomis yessss I’m with you I deal with the same thing

[@anianater6549]

My girlfriend feels the same way when she is in a depression stage or when she is upset and the only way of stopping the overwhelming upsetting feelings is to cut herself. It’s like she feels trapped in her emotions and the only control she has is to punish herself for her to feel better about the emotions she’s dealing with.... I deal with doing self harm to myself by like punching my face or head when I feel like I’m being a burden to everyone around me that when I cause mistakes and continuously making them that I feel like I’m just a mistake in general and when punch myself especially in my face it’s to punish my existence and show everyone that sees my bruises I’ve caused to myself to know that I deserve the damaged inflicted..... hopefully to change that behavior around someday... and I hope others who injure themselves find love within themselves to know that they and I are not bad people and don’t deserve the pain inflicted we just need help and compassion from others.

[@mrsslamenjamen]

Its like grounding!

[@haagotemm999]

I have been doing that as well for years if you look at my wrists they tell that story😭I’m so sorry for your own struggle

[@jpz7850]

I really appreciate how you use WE as including me as a part of a group and not alone. Thank you for bringing a smile to my face while im down.

[@kaylatill7088]

You've really inspired me to get help thank you. I was really depressed and very suicidal I also self harmed. I still have bad days where I don't want to be alive. Just thank you for helping me Katie ❤️

[@sweetnothings12]

i used to go through a period of time in my early 20's where i would constantly think about suicide thoughts and i would think about what it would be like if i weren't here in the physical world. i knew that something was wrong if i was having these thoughts in my early 20's. i finally got help a few years ago.

[@lavanyag383]

ashley jensen Hey there, hope you’re doing better now . could you tell me more about how you dealt with that ?

[@7stix7]

Hi Kati, I just wanted to thank you for making these kinds of videos and helping people. I just went to the doctor today and got a prescription for Prozac and I'm trying to stay positive and healthy. Again, thank you for what you do.

[@clan_fraser19]

I have self harmed about three or four times in my life, and that was about three years ago. I did it because I was in emotional pain and I wanted to hurt myself but I didn't want to die. Ugh, so glad that dark time is over.

[@ClassPunkOnRumbleAndSubstack]

Years ago, I wasn't trying to commit suicide when I self-injured. But right now I believe that for most people, self-harm is moving towards a suicide attempt, even if they aren't presently doing it to commit suicide; this is a big reason why I had to quit cutting, I had suicidal daydreams and I knew I was escalating and moving towards a suicide attempt. I was close to cutting my face but never did, there was no way to stop escalating if I was going to keep cutting. Instead of going for deeper wounds I just went for more area. The feeling of betraying and dehumanizing yourself from self-injury is worse than any initial depression in the sense that its a potential gateway into totally losing the ability to feel valued or loved, which will make suicide appear like the only solution. I was moving in this direction where I felt like I was chipping off of pieces of my belief in living and slowly forgetting that I was doing this to stay alive longer, which is the irony of it. So understanding that I can't control self-injury if I continue to do it for long enough was what helped me to totally stop since 2009.

[@cora1282]

I'm learning every day new ways to cope with my emotions that DON'T include self injury. Something that has helped me the most is talking to someone I trust when I get those urges. I do this because I want more than anything to recover and when that nasty voice is telling me to hurt myself and not to tell anyone that's when I know I should talk to someone. Thank you for making this video Kati!! Even though it's not a diagnosis in the DSM (yet) ;)

[@Emreb911]

This channel is so helpful. It's baffling how we tend to hide our problems. Kati- you're an angel!!

[@Okada404]

I always learn something new from these videos.

[@sarahh.7038]

I am a year and a little over a month clean from cutting. I still get urges and I will still use other forms of self-harm but definitely not as often as I used to.

[@cellogirl11rw55]

I used to cut myself as well. At first, I would snap rubber bands against my wrists, and I stopped doing that because it actually made the urges stronger rather than weaker. I now just use deep breathing and distract myself from the urge until it goes away. I then go back and identify the trigger.

[@Grimfaxe]

Well done buddy! :)

[@sholacole-wilson6042]

Sam Henders Shola I really want to self harm

[@sholacole-wilson6042]

cellogirl11RW I need help I'm feeling in the black hole and there for panic attacks

[@willowisaperson2807]

Congrats ❤️❤️❤️ I hope you're still clean. Stay strong. I'm only a day clean at the moment

[@aubrianna8881]

your videos have helped me so much ever since I was 12

[@bollyRAINBOW14]

Kati, I've recently come across your channel and I absolutely love it. As someone who has lived with various mental illnesses for the last 11 years, I have a lot of experience with mental health professionals and you are the only person I've come across that uses the third person when explaining things. This is brilliant. It's more personal and I feel more empathy towards the condition because it really shows you understand it. I aspire to become a clinical psychologist and you are a definite inspiration to how I hope to approach and work with my patients. Thank you.

[@septetenterprises3806]

Everyone here will be ok! I promise and I love you, whoever you are. I’m here after banging my phone against my head and giving myself a black eye. My fiancé has panic attacks when I hit myself and I will do anything to stop

[@ADotEnby]

i believe in you! we’ll figure out healthier ways to cope eventually

[@netball_lover3440]

All your videos have helped me so much. They are incredible! My goal in life is to do what you do. To change the way mental health is perceived globally. I would really like to be a therapist or psychologist because it really interests me and knowing I help make a change to people is enough! You probably won't see this but I just want to say thanks for all you do! Have a good week and I hope positive energy comes your way xoxoxox

[@mayahall9192]

It actually surprised me that this is not a real diagnosis yet. So many people self harm without the direct intent of killing themselves. Thanks for making this video!

[@MyNamesIsAnna]

I started slapping myself in the face when I panic- like I'll wake up and freak out and start slapping myself till it stings. Idk its kind of weird. I've been having other urges but so far that's it?

[@Blacuh]

I bite myself and slap myself. I feel you

[@sharondavidson658]

Thank you for this video! I was wondering how they were going to put self-injury in the DSM. I self-harmed for 11 years. I just reached 1 year 6 months free of self- injury (4 days ago). This is the first time I feel I can actually stop. I see an amazing therapist and have a good support system. I plan on getting my Masters degree in Social work when I am able to. I love watching your videos. Anyway, I am proud to say I am doing well with my recovery. I have learned a lot about myself during this time. Thank you for your videos

[@zalliahcole8210]

Sharon Davidson Sharon Davidson Great job! I don't know you, but I am so proud of you! I have good through the same thing so I know the courage it takes and I think you are amazing! Keep up the good work! 💖👍

[@LISUBEE1]

SKILLS SKILLS SKILLS! that's what helped the most. it takes a process of trial and error to find which skills word for you, but it is important to build a chain of very specific skills, at least 4, that you repeat (many times!!) every time the urges get overwhelming. Mine are smelling ammonia, running up and down the stairs for 3 mins full power, get a chili bonbon, walk outside barefooted, take a cold shower. repeat until the urges get smaller. and also some other skills for when my stress lever is still a bit lower. I didn't believe this could work and it does take some time, but it helped me so much. I'm self harm free for 9 months now! xx thanks for your videos Kati! As always ;)

[@SADNOONA]

Katie I'm so happy that I'm able to watch your videos and somewhat know and control my self harm. I cant afford to go see a therapist so I try to educate myself as much as I can so I at least am able to realize my triggers and why I do this sometimes. Its been awhile since youve brushed on this topic and I will be sad when I end up watching all the videos in the self harm playlist. But your explanations are so easy to understand and most importantly, empathetic. There little information out there or misinformation on self harm and I really feel like youre the only shrink that actually gets it.

[@Emsikles]

I'm so glad this is being talked about! Self harm was never about suicidal intentions for me. In fact for me the times I felt most suicidal, I self harmed less! Because for me it was a coping mechanism. Obviously not a healthy one, but one that helped me in certain moments. So when I felt suicidal I had no desire to try and feel better, and wouldn't bother self harming. It used to be so frustrating when I'd go for assessments with my cmht because they'd assume more self harming behaviours meant more suicidal, and less meant I was doing better. But it wasn't like that for me at all! I think the most important thing is to just treat everyone individually. We're all so different. xoxo

[@Rafael.Samperio]

Ever since I was a kid, whenever I would be really mad, sad, get in trouble, or get hit by parents, I would start to punch myself in the head, face and chest as hard as I could, sometimes I’d even hit my head against a wall really hard and I genuinely didn’t think anything of it, I even did that recently, I didn’t think anything of it until a few days ago when I wondered why I did that. I then realized it was a form of self harm which didn’t really make sense to me, and I’m still trying to grasp the idea of me self harming constantly and it just seems surreal that I did it so often and didn’t think anything of it.

[@kylamulvanity7706]

I’m glad I found this video I thought I was the only person hitting myself I started this behavior maybe 3 years ago but I feel like it’s gotten worse then usual the past few months. I feel better I’m not the only one going through this I thought I was crazy

[@cutiepie6115]

When i was younger ( 7,8,9) when I was mad at myself I would dig my nails into my skin until the pain was too much . I didn't understand what I was doing

[@tulipbhattacharya674]

Is that considered self harm?

[@sheeshneesh]

@@tulipbhattacharya674 yes

[@pennywise6806]

My sister does that to Me

[@rodentia1474]

I do this when I’m anxious 😬

[@sandypersaud95]

Sometimes I get so angry and I hit myself and cry out and I feel like I can’t help myself sometimes 😞

[@billyjohns22]

i liked this but i don’t like this. be strong. i hope you find more peace. love yourself, you have a bigger positive impact than you think!

[@haagotemm999]

Yes stay strong you can find ways to cope. Find your own way stay strong yes love yourself and I agreeYou have a bigger positive impact than you think. Peace and love to all

[@jesscampbell7418]

Another awesome video Kati! As I type this I'm FINALLY past the 2 week sh-free mark (although I did spend the first 7 days of that as an inpatient on a psychiatric ward) if I can get through two more days without having too much build up I'll have made it three weeks for the first time in about two years. Thank you so much for bringing attention to self harm & the reasons why people do it instead of just brushing it under the rug like a lot of mental health professionals in my area seem to do.

[@dorishaffer4055]

You’re amazing. I only just remembered a couple weeks ago while talking to my therapist, that growing up (and into my teens) I used to pinch my hand so hard. I did it a lot! I’m having trouble remembering WHY. Other than there was something or someone in the room that I had to hurt myself physically to tolerate. It put my concentration on the pain instead of them. How could I have completed forgotten I even did that?

[@emma1236789]

Thank you for creating this video, it was really validating.

[@Grimfaxe]

Been clean from that s*it almost a year now, it's a process and it can be done!

[@mmuffins101]

The way I have be trying to overcome my self-harm issues (been clean since January of 2016) is that I have gone to a recovery center which is basically just IOP (intensive out patient program) and what it mainly focuses on is DBT (dialectical behavioral therapy). DBT has been a tremendous help to me and many others who have gone through the program as well. I would definitely recommend checking out the DBT skills if you are someone who is dealing with self harm and wants to overcome it! :)

[@josephramas5085]

I want to thank you so much for your videos all of them. You have helped me out so much more than you know!!!

[@katiezabel2110]

Thanks for making this video. I'll show it to my mom. It's hard to get people to understand stuff like this

[@BadalKumar-vc6gd]

Hay

[@alvingellang8933]

When I got too affected and too disaapointed with myself, I tend to have some cuts on my legs. I can see satisfaction every time I do it.

[@helRAEzzzer]

I didn't know the DSM had a section for "further research needed" type of things. I think that's AMAZING! Getting the ability to research medical care/disorders, illnesses, etc can be near impossible sometimes. The DSM suggesting it for disorders to be researched may help get funding, I imagine. This is probably random, but I am so excited to hear this! I want to (hopefully) study neurology and psychology and look for ways to more easily identify and prevent mental illness in children, so this is awesome to find out. ^_^

[@sarofan]

I really like this!! I like that it could potentially be a different diagnosis from bpd and that you did point out that self harming does not equal bpd and that bpd does not equal self harming! Thank you for this great info :)

[@ronathebear]

Thank you for addressing this important topic Kati! 💖 I really want to hear opinions on this!!! Here are my thoughts (extremely summed up): I 100% agree with you that self harm should be treated more like an own diagnosis. Maybe it could be seen as an added subtype for a diagnosis. Unfortunately, self harm is such a wide-spread behavior pattern these days, so that it can't just fall under BPD!!! In other words: the DSM is way behind, probably because there aren't proper statistics /studies about self harm yet? As I said, in my opinion self harm shouldn't only fall under BPD, but can also fall under many other mental disorders. Self harm serves as an unhealthy (!) coping skill, which means that it can occur in many cases, in which the individual can't handle their life circumstances and it's effects / a traumatizing event that happened or other circumstances similar to that, in another, healthy way. Therefore, it could also be a consequence of another mental disorder. To put it into a nutshell: the criteria of self harm are basically way more known as we think. The problem could be though, that there aren't official studies that prove them right. Hopefully, this will change with the new DSM. The criteria they already defined are completely right in my opinion, but there is still some research necessary, or rather a collection / completion of the pre-existing knowledge. What about this thought: In my experience, a lot of people start self harming solely after they have heard / seen / witnessed other people behaving in that way. On which page of the DSM can I find the information you stated?

[@ronathebear]

What is the exact official statement why self harm isn't an own diagnosis anyways?

[@ronathebear]

+Jay Morin thank you for your opinion!!

[@ronathebear]

Thank you! And yes, that could be the best solution! xoxo

[@hannahmut9667]

I was about to say something depressing I always remind myself or say to myself which stops me doing small things, but encourage me to do the big things, but I realised that there are other people who have been diagnosed with so many mental disorders (some don't even know they have them) all because they have complex & comobid PTSD like me.

[@bluBlaq33]

I felt cornered by my folks after they kicked me out (late 20’s) and with the pressure of trying to get my life back after the lockdown, my folks put me out and cornered me and I straight up started punching myself in the face multiple times. Until I drew blood. It freaked my folks out. I had to ice my face all day. It felt good in those moments of intense stress and I hope I don’t start punching my own face as a habit.

[@malikathueler2529]

I actually think their proposed criterias are really good !

[@desireeevans663]

When i get in to a state that i cant get out i cry alot and cut.

[@paulapoetry]

I feel this is progress. Self-harm is associated with depression, anxiety, PTSD, OCD and DID, to name the conditions that come to mind, and not only BPD. Also, not everyone with BPD does self-harm.

[@personalkat4000]

Just self harmed for the first time in over a year😞. It’s never suicidal it’s always to calm my breathing.

[@amybauer8217]

I started cutting as a senior in high school in 1991. I had never heard of it, and got the idea from a talk show (way to go, Sally Jesse Raphael!). I had never seen signs of it in others, as I do now. Maybe it has grown in prevalence or maybe people are less inhibited in letting marks show. I hate to see marks and scars on my high school students. I still self harm on occasion, but not nearly as much as I did as a teen. My heart goes out to all who see it as a means to relief.

[@blazenchula]

i did it for the feeling the air hitting an open wound makes me feel grounded

[@helenhill7306]

I don't know if you've done a video about selective mutism. But if you haven't, I'd be really interested in watching a video about it and how it affects people in different ways. Your videos are great

[@xoxo6469]

This really upset me for some reason. I started self harming BECAUSE of my anxiety and depression. I don't think my self harm should be a completely separate disorder. I've even started thinking I have body dysmorphic disorder and orthorexia. I have almost every symptom. But where do I draw the line between "I have an eating disorder" and "it's 2016 and there's a lot of shit going on with our food." There are so many " diagnosis" now it's getting out of hand. It's starting to take away from my passion for Psychology. I don't know maybe I'm pmsing and being a little too butt hurt.

[@xoxo6469]

Which obviously it's not Kati's fault that it was put in the book as a possible diagnosis. She's just making it clear what's going on. Great explanation though!

[@elie2507]

I somewhat disagree. I began self harming.. I’m not sure why. There was a time in my life where I did self harm as a way of coping but as things got better I still continued to self harm. I’ve never thought about taking my life while doing it and the fact that there’s finally something that accurately describes my situation makes me feel less like a masochistic freak. (Sorry if this came out as aggressive. I really don’t want it to, I’m writing this at 1am and don’t have the visual ability to proof read)

[@BloodBlossom789]

Agreed because in the mental illness forms an some doctors state that you can't be bipolar if you self harm or that you can't have both borderline and bipolar and self harm

[@lexiegrey3522]

sweet video. I hope they do research it more. I've been struggling with self harm for 6 years now. one thing I do fiddle with objects. like I have a landyard with keys that I fiddle with when the urges are not that bad but are there. I actually just bought a fidget toy called Tangled online. it's good to keep your hands busy when the urges hit. thank you Kati for the video!

[@staceymartin3657]

I have a couple of tangle toys, they're great! Good luck!

[@januarywynter6632]

Self harm for me is just me punishing myself because I always feel like I was stupid or worthless or a horrible person. I still do and I struggle with it. I don’t want to end my life, but I just try to release all the anger and frustration and stress I have with myself.

[@lina224]

so, i started doing that when i was suicidal, but when i got help, i still continued to do that. my therapist once said it’s an addiction. i have no intentions on suicide anymore, but i still do it. it’s a coping mechanism, and it has been for several years.

[@andrewlang9093]

Hi, I've never commented on one of your videos before, but I just wanted to share one of my techniques that helps me to overcome self-harm urges, in case it would be helpful to anyone else out there: Sometimes if I feel the urge to self harm is starting to preoccupy all my thoughts or overwhelming me, I find that drawing pictures of myself self-harming helps me to avoid doing it in real life. It gives my hands something to do and it allows me to sort of, I guess, put the fact that I felt the self-harm urges out in the open, rather than just bottling them up to swirl around in my head for hours and hours and hours. I never show the pictures to anyone except myself, but for me they release some of that tension and help me to avoid actually causing my body any real damage. I hope that made sense, and might be a useful technique to try for anyone who might be feeling like they need to self-harm. I don't know, I just wanted to offer my suggestion, I guess. I hope that's okay. Thank you so much for your videos, Kati. They've helped me a lot in the past and I'm sure they will continue to do so.

[@Whatarandomlife]

Can you do some videos about depersonalisation/derealisation? How do you know you have it, why does it happen, what are treatment techniques? (Beyond just grounding/mindfulness).

[@paulharries9558]

I have to punish myself for being stupid. I have to punch myself to stop myself doing stupid things.I have to bite myself to stop the anger overwhelming me.

[@richardgordon9583]

Hitting myself is a result of a build up of emotional pain. Usually I am catastrophizing and it stops the bulk of how I feel and brings me back to reality. I have only done it in relationships. Bad relationships remind me of my past.

[@quilatooxe9148]

I have a problem, I hurt my self without the intent of suicide to relieve myself from my negative thoughts of my inner health. It sounds really odd that I hurt my self to relieve myself from my thoughts on my health....I use a hair tie and flick it for a few minutes until I feel better......I’ve tried thinking positive thoughts but I don’t want to stop....I don’t know why..so I’m getting a therapist thank you for the video...

[@luciaalegria752]

I have the same problem except it’s when I’m angry. I usually hit myself hard a couple of times or I scratch or pinch my skin. It’s a way of coping with anger for me. I haven’t told anyone yet, but I know I should.

[@luciaalegria752]

I know this comment was from 6 months ago but I hope you’re doing better ❤️

[@anonanon7553]

What do you mean thoughts about inner health? What sort of thoughts are you talking about?

[@CC-rv1gw]

I also hurt my self same . I punch my face and my body to the point of bruises can be seen just to calm my self when I'm angry to someone because I'd rather hurt my self than to do those things running in my mind

[@elizabeth-qy6mm]

yeah

[@staceymartin3657]

The only thing that really stopped me cutting was medication to get my depression and anxiety under control. I'm not ashamed to say I needed it or that I'm still on it! Things have been tough again lately and though I try to wait it out til the urges are gone I still have the occasional slip up... but at least it doesn't consume my mind every day and I don't do as much damage as I used to.

[@meganmarie2173]

Me too

[@jesscampbell7418]

I found that fighting my own self harm urges has been easier since I was started on seroquel the last time I was in the hospital. I've even noticed my urges themselves have reduced a lot

[@mollyposer5830]

I would say depression might be a top reason of self injurious or self mutilation behavior. Thank.you for doing this video.

[@gbrown932]

I really like your channel. Thanks and keep up the good work.

[@kay_ska]

extremely informative video, as always:)! thank you for sharing!xxx

[@theyoungadvocate7797]

Hey! My question is: I've been through a lot in the past 3 years. I'm not going to get into specifics but I have a strong desire to use my story to help people who are going through a tough time. However, I find that I spend so much time online and on apps talking to people and trying to help people that I forget to take time for myself. How do I draw the line when it comes to how much time I can spend trying to help people on message boards and on various websites and learn to take time for myself? I'm still human and I need time for self care too but I don't know how or when. Thanks!

[@themisfitdom2817]

Well, if nobody else answers, i will, so it's better than nothing. Then again it really isn't, because im probably wrong. But that never kept me from blurting things out. When you have a hard decision like this, sometimes things actually work themselves out, all on their own. I know that sounds stupid, but i've seen it. At any rate, a pointer.....get in touch with your own instincts, the way you feel. doesn't require endless hours of concentration. But what you want to do, for this, and other things in life as well, is ask yourself what you feel inside. To put it crudely, your "gut" (instincts.) You will get to the point, that you will know, or feel, that you need to take a break, whether it's 1 minute and 20 seconds staring out the window, walking down the hall, going to get a glass of water, or spendint time, a much longer time, just breaking off from the load, like a backpack. Just lift it right off your shoulders, put it on the couch, and go do something, anything, you want. And for as long as you want. And again, just let your feelings guide you. NOT, "you have this mental illness, so you should do this, or that." but more like, "Im gonna go for a walk (in a safe, not-isolated place, these days!) or take a nap. Even though im not supposed to. Or maybe, talk to somebody and let them listen to YOU for once.

[@cviejou]

Thanks Kati! Lots of great information here.

[@vanessaramsdell8815]

Thank you for this video!! Especially the part about BPD and distinctions within self-injurious behavior!! :)

[@lahdeedah3584]

Why is it that I know self-harm is bad and I shouldn't do it but I don't want to give it up? There are some times when I want to be free from it because I know it won't actually make things better, but whenever I think about working on it in therapy I don't want to work on getting better. It really messes with your mind. Thankfully I haven't done it in 2 months and I have had some pretty bad urges since then. It's truly a process not perfection.

[@estherrichelle9147]

thank you for educating us once again Kati, I hope to be a therapist one day 😊 xoxo

[@estherrichelle9147]

Thank you! My own counselor can't wait for me to be old enough to join that career path. ❤

[@NateWaldron]

I haven't cut in 10yrs. But I'm extremely unhappy in my marriage and I'm craving it so badly. The reason we S.I. is because when we do it 100% of our focus is on it. It's a relief. No no longer think about anything else. It's a breath of fresh air. Non S.I. people will never understand.

[@timothywilliams7499]

Lovely ,spot on, thank you

[@Kozmogirl87]

#KATIFAQ hey Katie, quick question. Is it a rule or something to not follow patients if they walk out of therapy? I got so distressed and walked out and after the fact was wondering why my therapist didn't follow me because I could have done something bad? Anyway, I was just wondering. Love you're videos!

[@michellerupprecht6420]

Thanks for the great video. I have just started feeling this way. This was great info. I have only have barely scratch myself to experiment and see what it feels like.

[@albertosarabia6588]

It was just something I did when i was younger. it started off with me crying for silly reasons when id play witg my older cousin, he would ask"are you going to cry? why? what...what did i do? we're just playing calm down"(we would play with legos/cool stuffed animals, occasionally he would win when i wanted to or something similar so thats when my tantrims started, id tell him i "needed to use the restroom" my sight getting blury from the tears i hold back. when i rach the bathroom i would hit myself and tell myself to man up theres no reason to cry its a god damb game(id hit myself to give me a good reason to cry). As that went it it accumilated to the generic thigh smack wich was what i did publicly i normally hit my face mostly my forhead i would try and hit my whole face but my hands would flinch and at worse id just be more irritated. Up until recently mabey last year I finally was able to hit myself not much hesitation. Just pure anger at small mistakes and just self disgust at how "useless" i see my self at times. My dad has had the same issues its horrifying to think a big man like him beating himself. I sympathize with him more than myself

[@kaceyjanesorilla5541]

I coped with this for more than a year now... Re-watching because I started thinking of hurting myself again.

[@markmccallum475]

I hit myself in the head and temples a lot. Sometimes causing very noticeable bruising which always fills me with anxiety. It just helps me cope with the situation especially when someone is angry at me to begin with. When it all gets too much, I hit myself and my whole mental state gets sucked into that action and I don't care about the other stuff for just a few seconds.

[@ADotEnby]

i do this exact same thing. i leave eggs on my head and sometimes cause headaches. I’m worried about causing long term damage to myself.

[@Aries_Superstar_Army]

My kind of self harm is used as a punishment for my overall flaws as someone on the autism spectrum.

[@katieorourke8861]

This was interesting, it's great to know that things are moving forward!!! I like to carry a red board marker around with me, KZbin is a good way to distract, going for a walk is helpful, try lots of different things out to get to know what helps you!!! x

[@juuzou3729]

Thank you I had been wondering about this kind of thing for a very long time

[@KattLover5412]

I always call it anxiety self harm. I punch myself or scratch myself without intent to harm myself or sometimes not even to cause pain (atleast the main reason). I often even do it just out of boredom (not healthy ik can't help it)

[@crippledsalsa9858]

Honestly I cut my hair as a non-injurious self harm. The only bad this is people seem to think I'm trying to make myself look good, and I've been lying about it for a long time. But please know I cry everytime I do it, and everytime a strands falls they are all my thoughts of how sane I am, or how fine I am. I might have no will power to cut myself but my heart hurts the same. And actually... I am cutting...

[@75sadiegirl]

another great video Kati

[@Crow3ater]

I've never heard someone talk about self-harm in an objective sense. It's kinda interesting and a little relieving-

[@narwhal9249]

I feel this. I've struggled with self-injury for years. A side note that NSSID is in the ICD-10.

[@blueberryy4702]

Trigger warning: I describe exactly what self-harm I perform and some of the things going through my head as I do it. I use self-harm when I feel anxious or upset, also as a way to 'punish' myself for not being good enough. If I'm in public I usually squeeze my left hand or my wrist, but occasionally it is bad enough that I scratch my hand or arm, I keep my nails short and clean so I don't cause any real damage. If I'm alone I hit, pinch, and scratch my arms and legs, pull my hair, scratch my head, and bite my bottom lip. This is usually paired with thoughts that I'm a failure, and that people who say they like me are lying, and that I'll never be good at anything, that I'm so selfish, and things worse than that that I don't know how to put into words. My parents don't know everything that's going on and they just think I'm a bit anxious and stressed from school, I'm too scared to tell them it's worse than that. They want me to do a This Way Up course for mixed anxiety and depression but it only makes things worse.

[@neelie4356]

I used to cane myself on my arm. Its been so long since I self harm but now I'm back at it.

[@sisicreative5306]

Kati! Thanks for making great content and congrats on 100000 subscribers! Wanted to use the fact I'm so early and you may see my comment

[@sisicreative5306]

***** haha I'll keep that in mind

[@Shy__wolf]

Thnx for the video Kati. your like our mamma bear for mental health 🐻💜 xoxox

[@linguaphilly]

I have a question for people who frequently (used to) self harm. What should I imagine when it comes to "urges"? Does SH work like addiction? Or are they like compulsions, as in OCD? Or something completely different altogether?

[@raniaa7745]

linguaphile it can be both, for me it’s like an addiction, I start thinking about doing it months before I actually break, I become physically sick if I don’t do it, I start planning on doing it around my schedule so I can find a “perfect” time to do it etc etc but it’s also compulsive for some people

[@Roo-ch3lq]

Yesterday I started self harming, I started just by scratching myself with the knife but then I started cutting myself, it makes me feel in control unlike anything else in my life no one can stop me, but now I’m just scared of what my parents would do if they found out because there the reason why I am doing it.

[@peppermintcookie5531]

I sometimes hurt myself by hitting myself in the head to suppress my anger whenever my grandfather causes annoyance in our family. I easily get triggered by his antics and tried not to be mad at him so there wouldn't be any fight breaking. But the more he does his antics, the more irritated I become with him. He occasionally makes an awful suggestion to my career that I should become a lawyer, which I hated and makes me wonder whether he wants me to become a lawyer just to follow his legacy or he just wants to because the career that I am pursuing might sound boring to him. But when I don't try to hurt myself when I'm angry, I usually suppress it mentally. What's weird is that whenever I suppress my anger, I make weird faces.

[@Melissa0774]

What if you have a potentially fatal medical condition, like diabetes for example, and you stop taking your medications, eat sugar, and allow it to get out of control, because you're depressed, or something? Would that be considered a form of self harm, or what? How would that behavior be classified?

[@Melissa0774]

***** What if you didn't really hurt yourself in this way on purpose, though? What if you just allowed it to happen because of other extenuating circumstances, that you didn't do anything about because you were depressed? Can it be caused by a subconscious desire to commit suicide, that you're not even aware of?

[@ariannaadventures]

I would love to answer your question but I'm not a professional but from knowledge of self-harming and self-garner myself, I think that it is a form but not as "strong" because it's subconsciously. But I have felt the same way and I know it's pretty hard to describe. It's awful because people don't take you seriously sometimes. But I consider it self-harm. Even though it's not in the DSM or not talked about a lot it can be a new form or be considered as one. Hoped I helped!

[@justmai2476]

Diabulimia for diabetes

[@eliza2934]

@@justmai2476 I was going to say this. Diabulimia is usually not taking insulin to lose weight.

[@nyaw1215]

I just like it I'm not depressed or anything

[@StaySomniaaa]

Was four years clean and trusted myself with an x-acto knife for some crafts, then all of a sudden I'm no longer clean. I'm 25, almost 26, and I think the reason why NSSI seems more common in adolescents is because adults are more likely to hide it due to the fact that it's more of a "teenager" thing and that in society it's not exactly acceptable, but it's more acceptable than, say, a 25 year old with kids doing it. The adults that do it tend to be more secretive because the assumption that is something that only teens do. I resisted for SO long and fought the urges, but the urges were always there, to the point where even on a day when I was COMPLETELY fine and relaxed and stress free, doing a neat craft project, I succumbed to the urge after like, five years of being clean off harm to this extent.

[@mogsyt9]

Very interesting and particularly so as self harm needs to become something that's understood and talked about more. What I do find strange about the DSM proposal is that self harm is always linked to some other form of mental illness or problem. Although it may not be necessarily a symptom of BPD, it has to be associated with mental health problems. Anyone agree?!

[@umerzafartarar8063]

Non suicidal self injury behaviour is real..very real.

[@kita476]

Great Video! Thanks!